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The time will come in your relationship where your sex life hits a dry spell. Sometimes this is caused by the normal hustle and demands of daily life, however, sometimes that dry spell is self-inflicted. The self-inflicted dry spell happened recently with my Wife as a result of getting addicted to a show on Netflix. When this happens, you need to talk about it with your partner and agree on how you're going to overcome this and prevent this self-inflicted dry spell from happening again.

In the first half of this episode, I ramble on a bit about in-laws. These dynamics are complicated especially for men. The relationship with a father-in-law can be difficult and that's before you consider how men communicate and bond. If there is no common ground or interest, men will spend their time with in-laws in complete silence. In the second half of the episode, I answer more relationship questions.

In this episode, I read and respond to women seeking answers to their relationship questions. Question 1: Plan to get married next summer, boyfriend stops in the middle of sex to answer a daily phone call with his parents. Is it wrong for me to be upset? Question 2: Found out my boyfriend posted on social media about a year ago that I was terrible at BJs, I only recently found out, since so much time has passed should I confront him or just let it go? Question 3: My Husband has cheated on me for the third time, is it worth continuing to fight to stay together or leave the marriage?

If given the choice, most men will choose making a lot of money doing something they have than making just enough doing something they like. Usually, this mentality has to deal with financial insecurity much like workaholism. There are ways to deal with this. Men have the need to dominate in their life. Feeling helpless or as if they are not in control is just not an option for most. Domination can be good or bad. Domination in one's career can lead to success, domination in the bedroom can be a healthy fetish if your partner loves to be dominated (submissive). Domination in the overall relationship can be toxic.

A man's birthday is a special day. For one, it's the one day of the year in which a man can take a day off of work and not have a to-do list of work needing to be done around the house. It's also a day in which he can just relax and do the things he enjoys or simply watch TV without having to pause the show dozens of times because of interruptions. Another reason why a man's birthday is a special day is the special birthday request. A day in which he can request trying something new in the bedroom from his wife. The old sitcom joke was that a man's two favorite days of the year were his birthday and Christmas because those were the only two days he would get a blowjob. Maybe that's an over-exaggeration, but that may not be too far off. His birthday is a day he can request trying something new in the bedroom that his wife would not be willing to try any other day of the year. Some she will find out she likes, some not so much. With the focus being only on his pleasure, it leaves his birthday as the only day of the year in which he has guilt-free permission to be selfish in bed holding nothing back, not having to be concerned about his wife's sexual pleasure that day. The lessons I have learned reflection back on my birthdays over the years has provided some revelations that I share in this episode.

Communicate what you're thinking. It's unreasonable for you to expect that your man should be able to telepathically read your mind.

Women, you have the natural advantage in a relationship, this is especially true when it comes to flirting. Confidence and motivation are more important than technique.

Having sex outside can be exciting. The thrill of possibly getting caught might be just what you need to feel the excitement you use to get about having sex when you first started getting laid.

You may not intend to do so, you may not realize you're doing it but if you're not careful you may be self-inflicting wounds into your relatioship.

Women, you can't be lazy in bed yourself and expect him to stay motivated enough to care about your orgasm.

If your partner loves to receive oral sex then oral sex is not optional. Oral sex is great both as a stand-alone act or as foreplay. As foreplay, it's a way to tease him up a little bit and desensitize him so he lasts longer during penetration so that you have enough time or have an orgasm. As a stand-alone act, oral sex is a way to relieve sexual tension if you don't have a lot of time in your busy schedule that day. If you like to receive oral sex then you should be willing to perform oral sex on your spouse otherwise you're just being selfish in bed. I don't mean half-assing it either, when you go down on your partner you're to give it your best efforts. The more motivated you are, the better you perform oral sex on your partner the quicker they will get off and the less time you will be on your knees.

One trend that is toxic is that of women going on social media to bash and trash men. Complaining about their dating problems and then asserting that all the problems are because of men and couldn't possibly be them. This type of attitude in dating will bleed into your marriage if you manage to keep a man long enough to get to the alter. Being full of yourself is toxic. Some of you women have your sex life backward. You're supposed to be hard to get when you're single and easy to get for your spouse.

I understand there hasn't been an episode in the past couple of weeks. NO the podcast is not ending. I have been comparing software and plugins attempting to improve the audio quality of the show. Also, I have been completely distracted by what's going on in the election and what both sides are claiming. I don't know if there is or is not any truth to the election fraud claim, but it's more entertaining than anything Hollywood has put out in the past few years. The show will be coming back with a new episode next week.

We spend a lot of time on the lead up to sex and what to do during sex but what about after sex? Intimacy after sex is just as important and it's what men have the hardest time with. What makes after sex intimacy difficult is time constraints when you consider the need for after sex cleanup.

Actors are great at being able to mimic the emotions of a character they are playing. We can unintentionally do the same in our personal life. Over-identifying with victims or victim groups can cause us to filter our news feeds for only information about victimized people causing us to believe a problem that is statistically rare is running rampant.  What's worse is that when the victims are those we identify as having something in common with we start to feel angry as if we were the victims and start blaming those we identify with having something in common with the perps. If you're not careful you can end up destroying your relationship feeling victimized by something that never actually happened to you and taking it out on your spouse who didn't do anything wrong themself.

Does your zodiac sign have anything to do with your personality or sex life? Aphrodisiacs have been around for a long time but do natural aphrodisiac work or are they a myth?

It's sad to see how many in the US are unhappy with their sex life. Not having sex as often as they want and not engaging is the sexual acts they fantasize about. One of the biggest problems is that far too few talk about their sexual desire with their spouse. Article Talking About Sex With Your Partner View article...

Sometimes your partner has a passion, a dream they want to accomplish. However, no matter how hard they work or how much effort they put into their passion it's not going anywhere. It's hard for them to see sometimes but you can't put yourself as an obstacle to their passion, instead, you have to help them realize for themself that what they are doing isn't working. Love how some "experts" write about the secrets to successful relationships and then give common sense advice everyone already knows.

With the culture the way it has become, too many men have become neutered by society too afraid to speak up about anything. Women, be honest here, there is a gap between the men you find sexually attractive and want to spend your life with and the type of man many of you advocate for in society. In this episode, I use clips from the show Cobra kai to highlight some of my points. The last segment of the show is for men and advice some of the best techniques for performing oral sex

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