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Take the Survey As mentioned in the episode, Chris Taylor of Honeycomb & Spice is doing a survey on chronic illness and sex. We'd appreciate you taking the survey, so that she can address this subject well. Click the link: https://tinyurl.com/chronic-survey Or scan the QR code: About the Episode How often should a married couple have sex? You might think this would be an easy question to answer, but we think it’s going to take a whole episode. How do seasons of life affect the frequency of lovemaking, and what range of frequency do you think is appropriate for each season? What other factors can affect frequency? What does research say about consistent sexual intimacy? How should you and your husband negotiate frequency? Sponsor Share the Soap has put together a special treat box especially for listeners of Sex Chat for Christian Wives. Click on the image above to learn more—and use coupon code chat21 for an extra bath soap jewel! Click here to get the free recipe for a personal lubricant/sensual massage oil. From the Bible What does God have to say about the frequency of sex? Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. - 1 Corinthians 7:5 If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married. - Deuteronomy 24:5 Resources Gaslighting - Partner Hope Deconstructing Gaslighting with Sarah Morales DARVO (a type of gaslighting) The 10,000-hour rule - original research, concept popularized in Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell (though J recommends The Talent Code by Daniel Coyle for a more thorough treatment), and research-based challenges to the 10,000-hour rule Episode 95: How Does Depression Affect Sex? Stop Hooking Up In Your Marriage  | Shaunti Feldhahn - guest post by Juli Slattery Episode 101: Enjoying Sex, with Joyce Penner More Sex Makes Us Happy, But Once A Week May Be Enough : Shots - Health News : NPR 10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex (webmd.com) Here's How Much Sex Couples Are Having Per Week (theknot.com) How Often Should You Have Sex? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Vitamin E suppositories Your Husband’s Libido May Not Be What You Think - The Forgiven Wife Unlock Your Libido by Bonny Logsdon Burns Virgin Bride Guidebook by Bonny Logsdon Burns Q&A with J: Should A Higher Drive Spouse Lower Their Expectations? | Hot, Holy & Humorous 8 Ways to Stay Intimate Even When Life Gets in the Way of Sex - The Forgiven Wife affiliate links included Click Here to Check Out the Bundle! GREAT VALUE. Visit Our Website: forchristianwives.com

titivate (v). – to make a person or thing neater or more attractive (Merriam-Webster). To titivate is to make small enhancing changes or to make oneself look attractive. For some women, titivation is a daily habit. For others of us, it takes intention to remember to do it now and then. Let’s start by talking about why wives might titivate in the first place. What are some reasons we might let titivation go? How does titivation spill over into our sex lives? What are some things women can do to enhance their appearance? Sponsor Share the Soap has put together a special treat box especially for listeners of Sex Chat for Christian Wives. Click on the image above to learn more—and use coupon code chat21 for an extra bath soap jewel! From the Bible What does God have to say about titivating? ...she had to complete twelve months of beauty treatments prescribed for the women, six months with oil of myrrh and six with perfumes and cosmetics." - Esther 2:12 (and see Esther 2:1-18) ...as a bridegroom adorns his head like a priest, and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels. - Isaiah 61.10 Don’t let your beauty consist of outward things like elaborate hairstyles and wearing gold jewelry or fine clothes, but rather what is inside the heart—the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. - 1 Peter 3:3-4 (CSB) Resources 6 Simple Ways to Feel More Confident - CalmHealthySexy How to Feel More Sensual - CalmHealthySexy The Holderness Family - Lazy Pants Feel Beautiful: "Fight The Frump"! | Hot, Holy & Humorous Why I Still Wear Lingerie (though My Hubby Doesn't Care) | Hot, Holy & Humorous Amazon.com: Breast Petals (aka nipple covers) Southern Grooming - The Forgiven Wife Amazon.com: Teeth Whitening Kit with Strips Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

There are a lot of resources about sex now, some great and some terrible. But often, resources have some important truths, some debatable points, and some myths. Today we want to talk about what really matters—the foundational points we want wives to know about sex. Sponsor Click here to visit our sponsor (affiliate link). From the Bible But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. – Galatians 5:22-23 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a Resources Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 3 Words that Can Transform Your Sex Life - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband's? - The Forgiven Wife The #1 Myth Christian Women Learned about Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Read a Marriage Book | Hot, Holy & Humorous Must a Better Friendship Come Before Better Sex? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Healthy Life Toolbox series - Calm.Healthy. Sexy. 3 Ways a Vibrator Can Help Marital Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife Q&A with J: "Is It Okay to Use Sex Toys?" | Hot, Holy & Humorous Is Anal Sex Okay? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Has the Mainstream Embraced BDSM? Should You? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Solo Masturbation? - The Forgiven Wife Setting Boundaries in the Bedroom | Hot, Holy & Humorous Finding Friends to Support Your Marital Intimacy | Hot, Holy & Humorous Visit our website: forchristianwives.com.

Sex therapist and educator Joyce Penner joins us to talk about learning to enjoy sex more. Why do some women have a hard time seeing sexual intimacy as a gift? And what can these women do to pursue the enjoyment of sex with their husbands? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More From the Bible What does God have to say that can help us better enjoy sex? Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. – 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, NIV I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. – Song of Songs 7:10 The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. – 1 Corinthians 7:3-4, The Message Resources The resources below include affiliate links that earn us a small commission when you use the link to make a purchase. Nurture Your Non-Sexual Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife You're Not Kissing Enough | Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Kissing Is So Intimate for Her - Knowing Her Sexually The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex Restoring the Pleasure Formula for Intimacy - free download from Joyce Penner Resources for Adult Children of Alcoholics: Focus on the Family Only You Forever Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs Love and Life Toolbox Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families: Friel Ph.D., John C., Friel M.A., Linda D. (older book, but still a good resource) You can find more resources at Joyce's website, Passionate Commitment. Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode Today is our 100th Episode! On this special episode, we share what we do when we're not talking about sex, what ministry projects we're working on, and nearly half of a 100 sex tips list we ask our listeners help us complete. Sponsor Infinitemoon.com From the Bible What does God have to say about our ministry (and yours)? Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ. - 2 Corinthians 1:3-5 Resources Unraveling | The Forgiven Wife (in which Chris shares about prayer shawls) Sisters in Crime (SinC) writers' group Healthy Life Toolbox - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Knowing Her Sexually - for husbands The Woman I Am: A Lesson in Self-Grace | Hot, Holy & Humorous Honeycomb & Spice Strong Wives Episode 38: A Conversation About Porn (Part 1) - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 39: A Conversation About Porn (Part 2) - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 40: Healing after Porn Discovery - Sex Chat for Christian Wives APSATS (The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists) ICF (International Coaching Federation) Click here for our BINGO card!

About this episode Today we’re talking about Valentine’s Day. It’s coming up soon, and women feel all kinds of different things about it. Some women love it, some hate it, and some feel kind of ambivalent about it. And it plays out differently in different marriages. So, we talk about it and come up with some ideas for making it fun and romantic for all kinds of couples and marriages. Sponsor Infinitemoon.com   From the Bible What does God have to say about Valentine’s Day? (Not much, but a whole lot about love.) Do everything in love. – 1 Corinthians 16:14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. – Colossians 3:14 We love because he first loved us. – 1 John 4:19 Resources Do One Thing for Your Husband on Valentine’s Day – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Best Couple’s Gifts for Valentine’s Day – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Sensual Massage with Essential Oils – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. How Love Looks – The Forgiven Wife Get Ready for Valentine’s Day – The Forgiven Wife Romance His Socks Off! – The Forgiven Wife Take Charge of Date Night – The Forgiven Wife Make Valentine’s Day Great for Both of You – Honeycomb & Spice Valentine’s Day for the Rest of Us | Hot, Holy & Humorous 6 Worst Things You Can Give for Valentine’s Day | Hot, Holy & Humorous 9 Best Places to Get Heart Shaped Pizza 2021 – Country Living Yipick from Homie Depot Could You Use Some Marriage Humor? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Show Her Off dance program (at-home lessons) – affiliate link A Marital Intimacy Playlist | Hot, Holy & Humorous Bonny’s OysterBed7 Bedroom Soundtracks Geocaching The Generous Wife Married Is Great T-shirts & Hoodies – affiliate link The 5 Love Languages

With people staying home more than ever these days, monotony is overwhelming our lives. However, there is one area of your life than can certainly move from monotonous to mind-blowing with just a few simple changes. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, we are talking about boredom in the bedroom and what can be done to generate more passion in your experience. What can lead to boredom in the bedroom? What can a wife do to move toward more energy, excitement, interest, and pleasure in the bedroom? What is boredom possibly masking? What are some possible solutions if there are deeper issues? Sponsor CLICK HERE TO SHOP OR LEARN MORE! Specific products mentioned in the show: Sugar Sak Vibrator Storage (pink satin bag) Liberator Decor Fascinator Throw Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow Positioning Aid FAITHFUL COUNSELING Save 10% on your first month! Sponsor links are affiliate links, with purchases providing a small commission to our podcast. From the Bible What does God have to say about boredom in the bedroom? There the mandrakes give off their fragrance,     and the finest fruits are at our door, new delights as well as old,     which I have saved for you, my lover. Song of Songs 7:13 Resources The Macaroni and Cheese Lesson: Stepping Your Toes Outside Your Comfort Zone | The Forgiven Wife How Sex is Like Peanut Butter (for the low-libido spouse) | Bonny's Oysterbed7 The Coconut Cake of Marriage and Sexual Intimacy | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. He Doesn't Wanna, But I Do! Be the Brownie | Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Feel More Sensual | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Sensual Massage with Essential Oils | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Episode 95: How Does Depression Affect Sex? | Sex Chat for Christian Wives Create the Exciting Sex Life That Wives Want | Hot, Holy & Humorous - with guest Ruth Buezis 3 Benefits of Sexual Adventure | Honeycomb & Spice 2019 Webinar Series | Sex Chat for Christian Wives 2020 Webinar Series | Sex Chat for Christian Wives Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode Sometimes we need to hit the reset button with sexual intimacy. Maybe it’s not been going well lately. Maybe it’s never been good in your marriage. Maybe you only recently realized how important sexual intimacy is to your relationship. How can you start over or at least get a fresh start in some part of sex that hasn’t been ideal? Why do many wives feel they need a fresh start with the sex in their marriage? How can we begin to set a new tone or build new habits for sexual intimacy? What are some obstacles wives might face when they try to do something different? What are the long-term benefits of getting that fresh start? Are there any promises from God we can rely on as we try to reset our sex life? Sponsor Married Dance Shop at Married Dance From the Bible What does God have to say about fresh starts? For I am the Lord your God     who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear;     I will help you. - Isaiah 41:13 See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. - Isaiah 43:19 “I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten—     the great locust and the young locust,     the other locusts and the locust swarm[a]— my great army that I sent among you. You will have plenty to eat, until you are full,     and you will praise the name of the Lord your God,     who has worked wonders for you; never again will my people be shamed. - Joel 2:25-26 Jesus replied, “What is impossible with man is possible with God.” - Luke 18:27 They remembered that God was their Rock, that God Most High was their Redeemer. - Psalm 78:35 Resources Resolution Week: "And Now for Something Completely Different..." | Hot, Holy & Humorous New Year, New Hope for Marriage and Beyond | Hot, Holy & Humorous Resolutions, Fresh Starts, Whatever | OysterBed7 A New Sex Drive for a New Decade | OysterBed7 Goals to Grow Your Sexual Interest | OysterBed7 Can "Fake It to Make It" Really Work with Sex? | The Forgiven Wife I Worked on Sex, and Then He Got Angry | The Forgiven Wife

Bonny, Chris, Gaye, and J have a list of gifts that can help you learn, love, and laugh in your marriage! Sponsor Click to visit the website and shop! Also sponsored by Share the Soap. Learn more about their romance set! From the Bible What does God have to say about gift-giving? A gift opens the way and ushers the giver into the presence of the great. - Proverbs 18:16 On coming to the house, they saw the child with his mother Mary, and they bowed down and worshiped him. Then they opened their treasures and presented him with gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh. - Matthew 2:1 Gift List All links below are affiliate links that earn us a commission when you use them to do your shopping. LEARN Pillow Talk (J. Parker) Intimacy Ignited (Pintus & Dillow) Tabletopics Couples: Questions to Start Great Conversations Sex Chat for Christian Wives webinar bundle Knowing Her Sexually Webinar bundle (for husbands) The Gift of Sex (Penner) Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women (Penner) Rethinking Sexuality; God's Design and Why It Matters (Slattery) Online Marriage Retreat (Coupon Code for 10% off; enter PARKER10, apply, then check out) Online Affair Recovery Course: Journey to Restoration (Use Coupon Code SW5 for $5 off and to track sales for Bonny :) ). Sex Position Cards LOVE Sliquid Naturals – Soul Coconut Oil Intimate Moisturizer Liberator Wedge Pillow Nadine Black Lace Babydoll from Honoring Intimates Married Dance vibrator pilot program Married Dance penis ring pilot program Doc Johnson Good Head Deep Throat Spray HandiPop Edible Hand Job Massage Gel Liberator Throw Partner Multifun Vibrator Stocking Stuffers: Tingly Lip Balm & "Gum Job" Oral Candy Teeth Covers Whisper Sensual Essential Oil Blend Cozy Cotton Weighted Blanket LAUGH Aqua Love Notes Waterproof Notepad (last year) Play Pens Dark & Milk Chocolate Body Pens 2 Pack Cookie Sutra with “stallion style” cookie cutter Sock Monkey Kama Sutra Dick Van Dyke series Picnic Backpack for 2 Ancestry DNA test How I Survived game Black Light Glow-in-the-dark Body Paint Cinnamon & Ylang Ylang Foam Bath Check out our 2019 list in Episode 72: The Ultimate Sexy Gift Guide. Just for Our Listeners It's Christmas Eve, and Grace still hasn't seen a present under the Christmas tree from her husband. When Todd announces there is no present coming, she feels snubbed, not realizing that he's got a different surprise planned. But is his gift what she really wants? Or even what she needs? Inspirational Short Story, 4000 words. FREE through January 1, 2021, with coupon code WIVES And Don't Forget Our Resources Christmas Coupons for Him - Hot, Holy & Humorous Christmas Gift Coupons for Her - Hot, Holy & Humorous Behind Closed Doors: Five Marriage Stories by J. Parker Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage by J. Parker Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker Beatitudes in the Bedroom: Embracing the Blessings for Your Marriage Bed by J. Parker Breathe. Relax. Enjoy. How to Use Essential Oils to Increase Your Sensual Energy by Gaye Christmus Calm. Healthy. Happy. - 17 Simple Ways to Slow Down, Feel Great, and Create Your Best Life as a Woman, Wife, and Mom by Gaye Christmus Fit. Strong. Healthy. The Busy Woman's 30-Minute Guide to Making Time for Exercise by Gaye Christmus Quick. Healthy. Delicious. Simple Meal Solutions for Busy Moms and Hungry Families by Gaye Christmus Unlock Your Libido: 52-Week Sex Drive Transformation by Bonny Logsdon Burns Virgin Bride Guidebook: Wedding Night Answers by Bonny Logsdon Burns Honeycomb & Spice Community, hosted by Chris Taylor Intimacy Mentoring, from Chris Taylor KHS (Knowing Her Sexually) Community for husbands, hosted by Chris Taylor and J. Parker Higher Desire Wives Community, hosted by J. Parker Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode Thanks for joining us at Sex Chat for Christian Wives. Today we’re going to talk about something that affects more than 264 million people around the world–depression. People sometimes hear the word “depression” and think it just means that someone is sad a lot or that they are weak. So let’s start by talking about what depression is—and maybe what it is not. What kind of impact does depression have on our sex lives? How can our faith help us when depression affects our marriage? What can we do to address depression or soften the impact it has on our marriage and sex life? Sponsors From the Bible Anxiety weighs down the heart,     but a kind word cheers it up. Proverbs 12:25 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. – Matthew 11:28 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. – 1 Peter 5:7 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18 Resources Depression (major depressive disorder) – Mayo ClinicIs Depression Impacting Your Sexual Intimacy? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Sex and Antidepressants – Hot, Holy & HumorousIs Seasonal Depression Impacting Your Marriage? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Is the Oral Contraceptive Pill Associated with Depression?- A Synopsis of The Impact of OC Pills on Mood – Psych Scene Hub Sexual Intimacy and Depression – The Forgiven Wife And don’t forget… The Resource You Need to Reach or Amplify Your Orgasm—for only $10! Buy or Learn More

We answer listener questions, specifically: Could you talk about the tilted uterus? I was told I have one and would like to know more about it. My husband is currently taking classes and working long days. He practically comes home to sleep and then leaves for school and work the next day. This has made it a lot harder to make time for us and especially sex. I try to do things for him in hopes that it will alleviate some of his stress What can I do to make sex happen? We used to be Jackrabbits and now I'm lucky if we have sex once a week. It makes me feel like there is something wrong with me. I want to ask you about sex during my period. For me, sex helps with my cramps. However, my husband does not like intercourse at that time due to the flow. The other part of this is that my husband struggles with the desire to view pornography. So, during my period, he doesn’t want to have regular intercourse, but he wants me to give him oral sex to help him with his temptation. I’m seeking wisdom in how to please my husband and support him in his battle with pornography but not lose myself in my frustrations and sometimes selfish desires I have as a young bride. Sponsors Use coupon code FCW for 20% off your first purchase. Existing customers can use coupon code FCWspecial for 15% off. Carefree Organics was established in 2013 by a boy mama of 3 to provide clean products for all concerned mothers and entire families. In starting small, the company has gone from just 5 basic products to high-end skincare, a baby/spa line, hair care, new cosmetics, supplements, and even mood-enhancing aromatherapy. There is truly something for everyone. Check out carefreeorganics.com and use coupon code FCW20 for 20% off one purchase. From the Bible Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. - Philippians 2:3-4 Resources Sex Positions for Women with a Tilted Uterus - Christian Friendly Sex Positions A Key to Understanding Orgasm: Deep Spots - OysterBed7Can Sex Help Your Spouse’s Work Stress? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Stress Affects Sex And What To Do About It - OysterBed75 Times of Day to Make Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous How Do You Manage Sex When Your Schedules Are Different? - The Forgiven Wife Is Porn Use an Addiction (and Does It Even Matter)? - The Forgiven Wife Episode 38: A Conversation About Porn (Part 1)Episode 39: A Conversation About Porn (Part 2)| Episode 40: Healing after Porn Discovery Samson SocietyCovenant Eyes Internet Filtering Software (affiliate link) Celebrate RecoveryStrong Wives Rise - Facebook Group (run by Bonny Burns)"First Steps To Healing From Porn Discovery by Bonny Burns" - part of the Awesome Marriage Online Affair Recovery Course And don't forget... The Resource You Need to Reach or Amplify Your Orgasm—for only $10! Click Here to Sign Up or Learn More! Visit our website: forchristianwives.com  

About this episode Today, we have special guest Ngina Otiende of Intentional Today, and we're talking about... Our most vivid memories of our weddings or first few months of marriage. When did reality set in that marriage might take more work than you initially thought? Now, bringing the conversation back to our mission of speaking candidly about God’s design of sexual intimacy, what is one newlywed obstacle you can speak to and give advice in overcoming? What is one piece of sexually intimate advice you’d give to a bride today? Sponsors Buy or Learn More Share the Soap sharethesoap.com Newlywed Set Prepared Especially for Our Listeners Use coupon code FCW for 20% off your first purchase. Existing customers can use coupon code FCWspecial for 15% off. Carefree Organics Skincare Carefree Organics was established in 2013 by a boy mama of 3 to provide clean products for all concerned mothers and entire families. In starting small, the company has gone from just 5 basic products to high-end skincare, a baby/spa line, hair care, new cosmetics, supplements, and even mood-enhancing aromatherapy. There is truly something for everyone. Check out carefreeorganics.com and use coupon code FCW20 for 20% off one purchase. Use FCW20 for 20% off your purchase. https://www.carefreeorganics.com From the Bible "...Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were.  But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God." ~ 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 Resources Episode 32: Advice For Our Newlywed Selves Free Access To "Subscriber Only" Resources - Ngina Otiende How To Navigate Conflict In Marriage - Ngina Otiende What Newlyweds Should Know About Married Sex - Bonny's OysterBed7 A Letter To My Newlywed Self (Age 20) - Bonny's OysterBed7 A Letter to My Newlywed Self: Age 25 - Hot, Holy & HumorousWhat I Wish I’d Known Before the Wedding Night - Hot, Holy & Humorous Wedding Tips for Bride - Hot, Holy & Humorous store item Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

We are so privileged today to have Shaunti Feldhahn—social researcher, bestselling author, and popular speaker—pulling up a chair at our virtual kitchen table. Sponsor Click Here to Purchase or Learn More   Click Here to Visit Our Sponsor Use coupon code FCW for 20% off your first purchase   Click Here to Visit Carefree Organics Skincare Use coupon code FCW20 for 20% off one purchase And not mentioned in the show, but check out this Online Marriage Retreat, with J. Parker's 5 Steps to Better Sex. Click to Buy or Learn More   Use code PARKER10 (click Apply) for an additional 10% off   From the Bible So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman. Job 31:1   Resources [includes affiliate links] For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men by Shaunti Feldhahn Through a Man's Eyes: Helping Women Understand the Visual Nature of Men by Shaunti Feldhahn Do Our Yoga Pants Make Men Sin? - Hot, Holy & Humorous On “Pigs,” Good Men, and the Difference - Hot, Holy & Humorous The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a Big Difference by Shaunti Feldhahn The Good News About Marriage: Debunking Discouraging Myths about Marriage and Divorce by Shaunti Feldhahn 10 Takeaways from the Spark Marriage Conference - Hot Holy & Humorous 4 Things Your Husband Wants from You in Bed - Hot, Holy & Humorous 7 Ways Screen Sex Is Not Like Real Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Thriving in Love and Money: 5 Game-Changing Insights about Your Relationship, Your Money, and Yourself by Shaunti Feldhahn What Is Sexual Interest and Why Should I Care? - OysterBed7 25 Ways to Improve Sexual Interest - OysterBed7 Budget Minded Gifts For Her (Pursuit) - OysterBed7 A Moment of Hard Truth - The Forgiven Wife To Duty Sex—and Beyond! - The Forgiven Wife Can “Fake It to Make It” Really Work with Sex? - The Forgiven Wife Why “10 Minutes and Lube” Is Horrible Advice - The Forgiven Wife Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

Today we’re talking about sensuality and how wives can feel more sensual. What does it mean to feel sensual? Why can it be difficult, and why does it matter? And what can you do to feel more sensual yourself? Sponsors Share the Soap sharethesoap.com Sensual Set Prepared Especially for Our Listeners Use coupon code FCW for 20% off your first purchase.   Carefree Organics Use coupon code FCW20 for 20% off one purchase. From the Bible What does God have to say about sensuality? So I commend the enjoyment of life, because there is nothing better for a person under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany them in their toil all the days of the life God has given them under the sun. (Ecclesiastes 8:15) How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much more pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume more than any spice! (Song of Songs 4:10) And the rest of Song of Songs! Resources 5 Ways to Feel More Sensual – CalmHealthySexy Essential Oils for Sex and Intimacy – CalmHealthySexy Sensual Essential Oil Blends – CalmHealthySexy How to Give Your Spouse a Sensual Massage – CalmHealthySexy What Makes You Feel Sexy? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Use Scent to Enhance Your Sex Life – The Forgiven Wife Eat, Drink, and Be Merry – The Forgiven Wife Orgasm Webinar on October 15 All 3 Webinars Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

It’s a common scenario we hear: She wants him to touch her body in various places, and he wants to focus on the “good bits.” So today, we’re going to talk about where you’d like to be touched, besides your special lady-parts, and how you can get your husband to spend more time and attention there. Sponsor Click to Learn More. From the Bible What does God have to say about touching and kissing her body? She Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine. Song of Songs 1:2 His left arm is under my head and his right arm embraces me. Song of Songs 2:6, 8:3 A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. Proverbs 5:19 Resources How Do You Like to Be Touched? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why woman are different from men and vice versa - Amanda Gore The Most Sensitive Spots on Men (and on You) - Women's Health (study of college men and women) You’re Not Kissing Enough - Hot, Holy & Humorous Open Your Mind and Take Off Your Shoes - The Forgiven Wife Episode 78: Breasts and How They Impact Female Sexuality 7 Ways to Communicate with Your Husband About Sex How to Talk with Him About Sex Feet and Sex (Pedicures link to arousal?) - OysterBed7 "Dirty Dice" - Married Dance (despite the name, it's simply a game to encourage touching/kissing various body parts - affiliate link) Learn What You Like in Bed - The Forgiven Wife Click to Learn More. Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

We want to encourage you to just think of one thing you could do to improve your sex life. To give you some ideas, we're each going to share one thing we did to improve our sex life. Sponsor Click to Learn More! From the Bible What does God have to say about our tips? For his unfailing love toward those who fear him     is as great as the height of the heavens above the earth. He has removed our sins as far from us     as the east is from the west. Psalm 103:11-12 (NLT) I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. Song of Songs 7:10 Resources Entering Marriage with Sexual Baggage - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: How Can I Forgive Myself for My Past? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Has Your Previous Promiscuity Impacted Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why You Feel Worse Than He Does about the Premarital Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Dealing with Sexual Baggage - The Forgiven Wife A Husband's Emotional Need - The Forgiven Wife I Thought Sex Was Just for My Husband. Here’s What Changed My Mind. - The Forgiven Wife Lessons Learned from Premarital Sex - The Forgiven Wife How Not to Think About Sex - The Forgiven Wife If You Make Just One Change . . . - The Forgiven Wife Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 5 Questions to Ask about Your Sexual Intimacy - Hot, Holy & Humorous Click to Learn More! Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode There is some really bad sex advice out there, most of it because the people giving the advice don’t know any better themselves. Today we’re sharing with you the worst sex advice we’ve personally received, but also the best sex advice we’ve received. Okay, ladies, what is the worst sex tip you have gotten either from a resource or an individual? Taking a positive perspective, how can we correct the record? That is, how should each of us and women out there respond when we encounter bad advice? What is the best sex tip you’ve ever gotten from some resource or someone? Sponsor Click to Learn More   From the Bible What does God have to say about receiving advice? The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice. – Proverbs 12:19 But Jehoshaphat also said to the king of Israel, “First seek the counsel of the Lord.” – 1 Kings 22:5 Resources Episode 87: How to Talk to Friends About Sex The Experts Who Are Damaging Your Sexual Intimacy – Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Read a Marriage Book – Hot, Holy & Humorous Finding a Good Gynecologist – Hot, Holy & Humorous The #1 Myth Christian Women Learned about Sex – Hot, Holy & Humorous Forget What You Look Like While Making Love – Hot, Holy & Humorous Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Helpful Marriage Books and Resources – CalmHealthySexy Why “10 Minutes and Lube” Is Horrible Advice” – The Forgiven Wife Click Here to Learn More

Our podcast is hosted by four friends talking biblically and authentically about sexual intimacy. How can you find your own friend group to talk with about sex? We've got some tips! Sponsors From the Bible Friends We rejoice and delight in you; we will praise your love more than wine. Song of Songs 1:4 The godly give good advice to their friends; the wicked lead them astray. Proverbs 12:26 (NLT) Resources Finding Friends to Support Your Marital Intimacy – Hot, Holy & Humorous What Should You Share about Your Sex Life with Friends? – Hot, Holy & Humorous HD Wives Community (subscription) Honeycomb & Spice (with subscription community) Episode 38: A Conversation About Porn (Part 1) - Bonny's Story Episode 39: A Conversation About Porn (Part 2) - Bonny's Story Strong Wives Facebook Community (website coming soon) Passion Pursuit Study (with Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. website Sign up for our next webinar! Visit our website: forchristianwives.com.

About this episode Today we’re talking about making space in your life for sex. And whether you’re listening to this in the time of COVID, when we’re recording it, or at a time when things are more back to normal, you probably have some sense of what it means to make space (or lack space) in your life for sex, intimacy, and just in general enjoying your marriage. Sponsor I want to know more!   I want the whole series! Click to check it out! From the Bible What does God have to say about making space for sex in your marriage? Song of Songs 7:11 - Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages. Resources How to Manage Your Family's Schedule - Calm.Healthy.Sexy 5 Words You Need to Learn to Say - Calm.Healthy.Sexy How to Regroup and Start Over in July - Calm.Healthy.Sexy How Do You Manage Sex When Your Schedules Are Different? The Forgiven Wife How Does Stress Affect Your Marriage? The Forgiven Wife Where Do You Need to Say “No” to Say “Yes” to Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous How Do You Measure Up to the Virtuous Woman? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Friendship Builds Sexual Interest - OysterBed7 Friendship - The Art of Conversation - OysterBed7 Friendship 101 - OysterBed7 I Love Friendship Closes Its Eyes - OysterBed7  

About This Episode Is it time to expand your sexual position repertoire? We discuss going beyond "missionary" to include other positions, with a dose of reality on what's do-able and how to introduce new positions into your marriage. Sponsor Click HERE to Learn More! From the Bible "His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me." Song of Songs 2:6, 8:3 The mandrakes give off a fragrance, and at our doors is every delicacy, both new and old. I have treasured them up for you, my love. Song of Songs 7:13 (CSB) Resources Spice Up Your Marriage! 18 Fun Ideas - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. I Love New Positions! - OysterBed7 Learn What You Like in Bed - The Forgiven Wife Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 1 - The Forgiven Wife Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 2 - The Forgiven Wife Sexual Positions for Pregnancy, or “My Belly’s In the Way!” - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Adding Variety to Your Marriage Bed - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why You Should Try This Sex Position - Hot, Holy & Humorous "Considering Sexual Positions," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker (Amazon affiliate link) Christian Friendly Sex Positions Visit our website: forchristianwives.com