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I truly truly believe that most people are doing the absolute best that they can with what they have and the knowledge they possess at the time, and I believe in the best in people. I truly believe that when we choose to look for the best, people will find reasons to support that choice!   Today we're gonna be talking about; The belief that we should all try to both lead and to live with generous assumptions and positive intent.  The pygmalion effect; a little explanation about what it is and how it may be having an affect on your connections with others and yourself Making the conscience decision every day to see the absolute best in people And so much more…   Are you ready? Let’s go!   If you’re ready to uncover those deep layers of yourself that you have been avoiding and start healing and growing, let’s chat! You can book either a one-hour private session, or 6 months 1:1 coaching. Send me an email at info@emilygoughcoaching.com or head to my instagram and send me a DM https://www.instagram.com/emilygoughcoaching , spaces available for this month🙏  FIND EMILY ONLINE: @emilygoughcoach info@emilygoughcoaching.com Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast   Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com   BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY

Our deepest human need is to feel seen, heard and understood.  And yet sometimes when we experience all of those things in a relationship, it becomes incredibly terrifying. Today we're talking all about; Why healthy love can end up feeling so incredibly scary What stops us from truly allowing ourselves to be fully seen within that healthy relationship A few signs to watch for that may signal yourself that you are sabotaging a healthy relationship And much more... If you’re dealing with self-sabotage or on the painful receiving end of someone else’s, let’s chat to book either a one-hour private session, or 6 months 1:1 coaching. Send me a DM, spaces available for this month🙏 Are you ready? Let's Go! FIND EMILY ONLINE: @emilygoughcoach info@emilygoughcoaching.com Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast   Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com   BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY

I am incredibly excited for today’s guest. I had the chance to sit down with Dr. Jeremy Goldberg, founder of Long Distance Love Bombs, whose mission is to make kindness cool, empathy popular, and compassion commonplace. Jeremy wants to make the world better than it was yesterday.  As part of that purpose, he writes articles, sends emails, hosts retreats and workshops, coaches clients, has a podcast, writes books, and makes spoken word poetry videos. Jeremy also gave a TEDx talk called "What if kindness was cool?" and is also active on Facebook and Instagram, leading an online tribe of more than 60,000 badass humans.  This episode is jam packed full of really amazing and various topics of discussion. Just a few of the things you can expect when listening today are;   Recognizing a healthy relationship when we don’t know what that feels like Moving through pain and what happens when we get too comfortable in pain and can allow ourselves to stay stuck in despair The radical honesty required to repair disconnection with both ourselves and others How to unpack some of the emotional shit that we bury so deep under the surface And much more…   Are you ready? Let’s go...   Want to connect with Jeremy online?  You can find him at: https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com On Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs/# On facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/LongDistanceLoveBombs Watch his TEDx talk here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5mklMPHGLjo   Subscribe to his podcast here:  https://anchor.fm/longdistancelovebombs   Grab a copy of his book here: https://shopcatalog.com/product/itll-be-okay-and-you-will-be-too/   FIND EMILY ONLINE: @emilygoughcoach info@emilygoughcoaching.com Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast   Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com   BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY

We are most influenced by the people closest to us, whether we like it or not. We adopt their stories, belief systems, mindsets, and so much more.  Building yourself a very strong circle of influence is incredibly important, and feeling supported by them is even more important.  Today we are talking all about; How the people you surround yourself with have a large impact on how you show up every day Why it is so important to build yourself a sturdy, strong & supportive circle of influence  The importance of still being able to regulate your own emotions, because you won’t have people available all the time to help you up And much more…   Are you ready? Let’s go! References from today's episode:  Episode 268 https://emilygoughcoaching.com/trust-is-a-choice-creating-a-confident-relationship-with-the-unknown/ Episode 263 https://emilygoughcoaching.com/the-value-in-being-alone-on-purpose-whether-single-or-in-a-relationship/   Episode 144 - How an awkward introvert makes friends around the globe https://emilygoughcoaching.com/biz-tips-how-an-awkward-introvert-makes-friends-around-the-globe/ Episode 272 https://emilygoughcoaching.com/how-to-take-tough-feedback-and-when-to-say-fck-it-with-sarah-swain-of-gcw-publishing-house/ Episode #138 https://emilygoughcoaching.com/the-weight-of-expectations-attaching-to-outcomes/   FIND EMILY ONLINE: @emilygoughcoach info@emilygoughcoaching.com Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast   Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com   BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY

Today’s episode is a little bit different than anything I have ever done before! This is the VERY first ever LIVE podcast recording I’ve ever done and it was so fun, we will definitely be doing this again. We had so much engagement and interaction with the audience, it really was great!  Joining me today on the live recording is a good friend of mine, Sarah Silverstein.  Sarah is a breathwork facilitator. She is a female sexuality expert and she has all kinds of incredible things to her name.    Today’s episode is all about communication, Sarah and I are talking all about; Why we struggle so much with communication, and the fears that can arise when we are sharing our needs.  The one tool Sarah suggests that can shift the entire conversation when you're engaging in some stressful communication How to open stressful types of conversations in a way that makes you and the other person feel safe And a whole lot more…   Are you ready? Let’s go!   References:   EPISODE 139: The Transformative Power Of Breathwork with Sara Silverstein https://emilygoughcoaching.com/the-transformative-power-of-breathwork-with-sara-silverstein/   FIND SARA ONLINE:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarasilverstein/ Website: https://www.sarasil.com/breathewithme FIND EMILY ONLINE: @emilygoughcoach info@emilygoughcoaching.com Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast   Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com   BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY

If you’ve been listening for a while you know I talk about some pretty “uncomfortable” things around here.  Well today is no exception, in fact it may be the most uncomfortable episode I have ever recorded. Today is a conversation about abusive relationships, and I want to be clear that this episode does not have the answers, it is about opening the door to a highly uncomfortable, stigmatized, and difficult topic, and offering some perspectives you may not have previously considered.   I’ll be sharing;   Some very startling and stark facts, research, and statistics around reported abuse globally in a variety of different demographics The Definition of trauma bonding and what could make it a huge factor in why someone stays in an abusive relationship Falsehoods, stereotypes, misconceptions and a lack of empathy I’ve heard around this topic over the years all while speaking about why we need to shatter these and speak up and out about abuse in relationships. And more…   Are you ready? Let’s go For the full transcription of today's episode head over to https://emilygoughcoaching.com/a-conversation-about-abusive-relationships-shame-victim-blaming-shattering-myths-stereotypes/ References from today's episode:  If you are experiencing abuse of any kind and need assistance please check out the websites below: https://www.thehotline.org/ https://endingviolencecanada.org/getting-help-2/ https://www.ontario.ca/page/get-help-if-you-are-experiencing-violence https://www.respect.gov.au/services/   Episode 130: Cancer, Depression, Strength: A Powerful Story of Hope and Resilience with Tom McClelland https://emilygoughcoaching.com/cancer-depression-strength-a-powerful-story-of-hope-resilience-with-tom-mcclelland/   Episode 229: Mens Mental Health in the Workplace with Scott Baker of Baker Group AU https://emilygoughcoaching.com/mens-mental-health-in-the-workplace-with-scott-baker-of-baker-group-au/   Episode 266: Not All Men But Almost Always with Traver Boehm https://emilygoughcoaching.com/not-all-men-but-almost-always-with-traver-boehm-of-man-uncivilized/   Episode 117: The 9 Year Affair: Lessons in Infidelity https://emilygoughcoaching.com/the-9-year-affair-lessons-in-infidelity/ Domestice Violence Statistics Globally:  https://www.hrc.org/resources/violence-against-the-transgender-community-in-2019 https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/daily-quotidien/200909/dq200909a-eng.htm https://vawnet.org/sc/serving-trans-and-non-binary-survivors-domestic-and-sexual-violence/violence-against-trans-and https://www.nwac.ca/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/Fact_Sheet_Violence_Against_Aboriginal_Women.pdf https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/rp-pr/cj-jp/victim/rd3-rr3/p3.html https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK499891/ https://www.scie.org.uk/safeguarding/adults/introduction/types-and-indicators-of-abuse https://talkingparents.com/blog/july-2019/why-domestic-violence-goes-unreported https://vawnet.org/sc/scope-problem-intimate-partner-homicide-statistics https://ncadv.org/STATISTICS https://www.nytimes.com/2019/04/12/us/domestic-violence-victims.html https://www.femicideincanada.ca/about/trends https://www.thespec.com/news/world/2017/09/15/homicide-now-second-leading-cause-of-death-for-pregnant-women-in-the-us.html https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/violence-against-women https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/canada-domestic-violence-double-covid-pandemic_ca_6033dadac5b67c32961f779f https://time.com/5928539/domestic-violence-covid-19/ https://www.socialsolutions.com/blog/domestic-violence-statistics-2018/ https://www.canada.ca/en/public-health/services/health-promotion/stop-family-violence/publications/intimate-partner-abuse-against-men.html https://ifstudies.org/blog/eight-reasons-women-stay-in-abusive-relationships   FIND EMILY ONLINE: IG: @emilygoughcoach info@emilygoughcoaching.com Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast   Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY

Today's guest is so special and rapidly becoming one of my favourite humans. We're talking to Traver Boehm again today, originally featured for an epic conversation back on episode 266 - a personal favourite and one of the most powerful episodes on the entire Room To Grow™ Podcast. Never have I received an outpouring of so much incredible feedback about a guest episode, and ever since we mentioned back on episode 266 that we would record a second one, I've had DMs and text messages demanding to know when the new one was being released. As you can tell by the title, this is another casual chat about some super light topics, ha! This conversation will leave you better than before you started listening, if you allow it. It will challenge you to think differently, to see the world through a different lens, and to question the way you show up. It may or may not also be the first time a guest and I have BOTH cried on an episode, so you know it must be a good one.    Traver Boehm is an author of two books, 2 time TEDx Speaker, men’s coach and founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement, which is radically redefining the way men around the globe experience their masculinity by uniquely blending both primal elements of manhood with massive doses of consciousness. Drawing upon an eclectic background ranging from professional bodyguarding and Mixed Martial Arts to Traditional Chinese Medicine and meditation, Traver also teaches people to skillfully use the inevitable pain of their lives as fuel for growth and positive change. In 2016 after losing a pregnancy, his marriage, and his business partnership all within weeks of each other, he created a radical social experiment and spent the next 12 months as if it were his last year to live, aptly naming it “The Year to Live Project.” A few topics we cover today: How to have conversations with people that can be highly triggering as you step onto your own path, and embark on your own journey that may likely go against the grain for many others around you  The unique challenges that can come with those conversations, including the likelihood of losing a lot of relationships too Why you have to keep showing up with courage every single day if you're going to get to where you're going, whatever that might look like for you AND to hang on to the little moments that will continue to propel you forward even when everything else might feel dark. And so much more….   If you're a human, this is not an episode to be missed. Traver has a powerful mission around what it means to be a man, and this is a topic that affects all of us, no matter how you identify. I urge you to check out Traver's work. His fantastic podcast, both of his books, men's group and the various exciting projects he's always juggling at any given time are transformative, and more people need to know about him. Buckle up, tune in, and then go connect with Traver.   REFERENCES Episode 266: Not All Men, But Almost Always with Traver Boehm of Man UNcivilized Episode 117 | The 9 Year Affair: Lessons in Infidelity Episode 54 | My Story with Alcohol   CONNECT WITH TRAVER Website Instagram: @traverboehm UNcivilized Nation Book: Man UNcivilized Podcast: The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm TEDx Talk: How to Make Pain Your Guru TEDx Talk: Why We Need More UNcivilized Men   FIND EMILY ONLINE: IG: @emilygoughcoach info@emilygoughcoaching.com Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast     Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY

“Some of the biggest pain around infidelity is how we allow it to make us feel about ourselves. And we usually end up feeling things like our own sense of unworthiness rise to the surface, and we make it about us as though we're inadequate or not enough. We agonize over what the other person had that we don't. And we focus on this deep sense of lack within ourselves that we can experience.”   This episode has been a long time coming. In nearly 300 episodes I’ve never actually touched on recovering from infidelity, even though supporting people through recovering from infidelity is one of the areas I specialize in.  So this is a big one, and a very important one coming at you today.   We’re going to talk all about: What infidelity actually means and how it can vary with each person Going to go through some of the various and specific steps that I both recommend and that I have done myself, and that I work with clients around in order to navigate and move through dealing with infidelity Some of the really crucial components that will determine how you look at the world on the other side of infidelity Re-writing your story to create a deeper sense of meaning and purpose from it Deciding whether to stay or go  And much more   Are you ready? Get listening right away by clicking play, or if you’re more in the mood to read today, head over to EPISODE 279 for the full transcription of today’s episode. Let’s do this!   BOOK A CALL WITH EMILY   Look for references from today’s episodes?  Find them all here: EPISODE 117 | The 9 Year Affair: Lessons in Infidelity   Esther Perel | The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity    EPISODE 273 | Victim Mindset, Radical Responsibility, & Unpacking Our Own Biases In Relationships    EPISODE 197 | Working Through Collective Grief   EPISODE 248 | Grief, Love & Why One Cannot Exist Without The Other   EPISODE 260 | How To Recover and Let Go From Loss   EPISODE 270 | Cultivating a Deep Sense of Self Worth   FIND EMILY ONLINE: IG: @emilygoughcoach info@emilygoughcoaching.com Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast     Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and hear any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY

On the podcast today we're talking to a friend and client of mine, Gilad Hanina. Gilad is a young and inspiring entrepreneur from Israel, founder of AOS Media and the Awareness of Success Podcast, and was able to change his circumstances and build his own business online while serving in the army without any prior knowledge or experience (or even proper English!) Gilad believes that anyone can create change for themselves if they take action and follow specific patterns that are proven to create success. We're diving into a few different areas, including:   How some tough family dynamics influenced Gilad and helped to propel him towards entrepreneurship, even when he didn’t know anything about building up a company and didn’t even speak English when he started (despite now having an almost entirely English-speaking main client base)   The impact of a relationship ending and how it helped him shift direction in unexpected ways, along with exploring coping mechanisms and work/life balance   Why it’s so important to come up with your own unique definition of success, and being super clear on your core values   Managing a ton of rejection and continuing forward despite all the no’s Gilad is incredibly hard-working, down to earth, and always looking to help anyone that he can. Go take a listen!     CONNECT WITH GILAD: Awareness of Success Podcast Website IG: @awareness_of_success IG: @thegiladhanina Facebook Group   FIND EMILY ONLINE: @emilygoughcoach info@emilygoughcoaching.com Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast   Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com   BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY

Are you waiting to be chosen? There's a difference between simply hoping to be chosen and being an active participant in doing the choosing. Many times, a lot of us will just sit around waiting for somebody to choose us, and we then almost remove ourselves as being one of the conscious parties in that decision. We want someone to choose us so that we don’t have to be vulnerable enough to put ourselves out there and risk rejection. So instead, we wait for someone to decide to take an interest in us, because it’s the safer choice. Today we're talking about all of this, including: How to figure out the way you want to FEEL with your partner, rather than choosing based off of a laundry list of "must-haves" The difference between standards, boundaries & expectations - and why it's so important to note for the quality of your relationships Knowing what you’re worth so you can get confident & clear on what you want to choose is what changes everything Some personal stories / experiences   Because let me ask you this: If you saw a job posting you really wanted, or a speaking opportunity come up, would you close your eyes and try to wish it into existence? Or would you actively apply for it, show that you were interested in it, allow your unique skills and talents to shine through so that it would be seen what a good fit you could be? And yet, we treat relationships so differently because they're so much more vulnerable and the idea of getting hurt is terrifying. Which is a completely valid fear - but we're going to talk about how to open instead of shutting ourselves off. Ready? Let's do it.   Find Emily Online: @emilygoughcoach info@emilygoughcoaching.com Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast   REFERENCES Episode #138, The Weight of Expectations & Attaching to Outcomes Episode #120, Listening to Your Intuition & Gut Instinct: Stop Ignoring Your Body Episode #269, The Right People Feel Different to Your Nervous System Episode #268, Trust is a Choice: Creating a Confident Relationship with the Unknown Episode #267, You're Not Needy, You're a Human with Needs   Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com   BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY

Today we're talking to a dear friend of mine and powerhouse entrepreneur, Jessica Flynn of Flynn Collaboration. Jess is a mom of two, a high school teacher for eleven years, and loves helping teens access and believe in their own potential. She's also launched several businesses, and when she mentioned this project she had created, Be Your Own B.O.S.S. Virtual Entrepreneurship Camp, I immediately asked to be involved because the value Jess has built into this project is incredible. Not only that, the statistics that have come out so far around kids mental health and the effect the pandemic has had are staggering and frightening. We won’t know the full effect and numbers until after more time has passed and research has been done, but the initial numbers have been indicative of how hard all of this has been on our youth. I’m not a parent, but I’ve spoken with many parents over the past year about some of the struggles both they and their kids are experiencing, and some of the stats that are already starting to come out around mental health and the impact this pandemic has had….alarming. I'm BEYOND excited to be part of this project as one of the mentors working with the kids. There was nothing like this when I was growing up, and I never even really knew that entrepreneurship was an option because I didn't learn about it or know more than one or two people who had their own business. It was only because of being able to look to people who were doing the things that I didn’t even think were possible that I was able to start imagining what I could do for myself - and this camp is going to do exactly that for teens. Jess and I are also going to be talking about: Kids mental health and the effect the pandemic has had, including sharing some statistics Talking about the current education system and how much parts of it need to be overhauled Jess’ vision of bringing more mentorship to kids outside of school and sports  Bringing the focus more to giving kids solid skills, character, confidence building, resilience etc that can be applied in various areas and careers alongside the content Even if you're not a parent, there's some incredibly valuable information in here for everyone to consider - or, pass this along to a parent you know and a teen who could benefit from joining this amazing camp!   CONNECT WITH JESS IG: @theflynncollaboration IG: @afterthebell_ Be Your Own B.O.S.S. Virtual Entrepreneurship Camp Website   CONNECT WITH EMILY IG: @emilygoughcoach Facebook Website Email info@emilygoughcoaching.com   Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY Find Emily Online: @emilygoughcoach info@emilygoughcoaching.com Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast

“When we’re faking anything, it’s an attempt to exercise control. Over the other person, over the imagined outcome, or over ourselves when we’re ignoring our true feelings or experience in a relationship.” Control blocks connection and sometimes we may not even realize that we’re doing it. This can show up in a variety of different ways, including things like: Trying to mold ourselves into someone or something we’re not in order to maintain the relationship Faking orgasms and/or making things all about the other person’s pleasure and experience Saying it doesn’t matter where you eat for dinner and then being disappointed when the other person picks a place you don’t like, but you still stay silent “Going with the flow” rather than stating your needs And a WIDE variety of other ways. Sometimes we try to control things in an effort to grow closer to someone, but ironically, the control piece actually destroys connection and has the complete opposite effect that we want it to. Even if it’s not explicit, we can FEEL in our bodies when someone is exerting control over us in a way that we have not consented to. There’s an energy to it that’s undeniable once we start paying attention. We’re unpacking all of this on today’s episode.   Let’s stay in touch! Jump on my email list for some extra special goodies 😉 Want to work together in my private coaching mentorship? Apply here and let’s chat!   REFERENCES EPISODE #87: People Pleasing is Dishonest: The Dangers of Being Agreeable EPISODE #138: The Weight of Expectations & Attaching to Outcomes EPISODE #267: You’re Not Needy, You’re a Human with Needs EPISODE #220: What Self-Betrayal Looks Like EPISODE #208: Self-Integrity & Keeping Promises to Yourself EPISODE #270: Cultivating a Deep Sense of Self Worth EPISODE #136: Communication, Betrayal, Infidelity & Self-Esteem with Renelle Nelson EPISODE #239: Communication: The Lubrication for Relationships with Renelle Nelson EPISODE #241: How to Have Hard Conversations & Improve Communication EPISODE #129: Liespotting: How to Detect Deception in Everyday Life EPISODE #264: The 4 Key Components for Connection That Will Change Your Relationships EPISODE #268: Trust is a Choice: Creating a Confident Relationship with the Unknown Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY Find Emily Online: @emilygoughcoach info@emilygoughcoaching.com Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast

"When you can see someone in all of their human-ness, it will allow you to heal and let go, rather than gripping onto old hurts and keep your ego running the show." Ooof. Having compassion for someone who hurt us is harder than it seems, but we're breaking it all down today, including: Figuring out the stories we're creating that can be preventing us from viewing things with a lens of compassion Giving the benefit of the doubt while also acknowledging your own truth and boundaries Realizing you too have made mistakes And the process that comes with letting go of old hurts.   People will come into your life for different reasons. They might be there to love you, to test you, to push you in new ways, and some are going to hurt you along the way, just as we will all end up inevitably doing to others at times too.  They may be in our lives for a long period of time, or perhaps they’ll only stay long enough for a brief encounter.  No matter what, they all provide lessons. An opportunity for growth, resilience and strength to develop.   WORK WITH EMILY Let's chat! Reach out to find out about coaching options.   Looking for references from today’s episodes?  Find them all here: EPISODE 117 - The 9 Year Affair: Lessons in Infidelity EPISODE 270 - Cultivating a Deep Sense of Self Worth EPISODE 145 - The Need for Closure is an Inside Job EPISODE 260 - How to Let Go & Recover From Loss EPISODE 271 - Navigating Depression: When Everything Feels Dark   Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY   Find Emily Online: @emilygoughcoach info@emilygoughcoaching.com Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast

“We won't always see our own bias either, that's the thing about being biased is that it can often be inherent and built in to the point where we don't even realize that it's actually a story that we're telling ourselves and that it might not actually be true.”   Today on the podcast we are talking all about taking responsibility for our own behaviours, and patterns. I will be challenging you to look beyond your own dogma and own your life choices.   We’re covering:   -Victim mindset.  Are you currently playing out a victim mentality when it comes to the relationships you have allowed instead of looking inward to heal your wounds and write a different narrative. -Radical responsibility. Taking on the ownership of our lives, instead of blaming other people for our current circumstances, and emotions. -Unpacking our own biases in relationships. We all have them based on past experiences, but today I challenge you to become more self aware of these biases and actively work to grow out of them and flip the script to a more positive outlook. -And so much more   Are you ready? Let’s dive in!   For the full transcription of today’s episode please head over to EPISODE 273: Victim Mindset, Radical Responsibility & Unpacking Our Own Biases in Relationships   Look for references from today’s episodes?  Find them all here: INSTAGRAM POST EPISODE 24 - Victim Mindset with Christina Montalvo EPISODE 117 - The 9 Year Affair: Lessons in Infidelity EPISODE 126 - Forgiveness isn’t Found, It’s Earned: Doing the Inner Work EPISODE 93 - Choosing your Family and Establishing Healthy Boundaries EPISODE 124 - How to Have Hard Conversations and Improve Communication   Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY   Find Emily Online: Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast

Today I’m talking to one of my absolute favourite humans, and now 4 time guest on the Room To Grow podcast, Sarah Swain! Sarah left her 6-figure corporate gig in January of 2018 with no back-up plan other than "I trust myself enough to make this happen." 3 years later she is now the proud owner of a Canadian Media Company & Publishing House , a mentor to emerging leaders in entrepreneurship & strategist to online, service-based business owners. Sarah believes deeply in creating financial independence so more people can have more choices and lead happier, more fulfilling lives. featured in Forbes, Sarah doesn't shy away from talking about money, and why you need to create more than one stream of income in order to protect your livelihood from unexpected changes in our world, as we all experienced in 2020. Sarah lives in Alberta Canada with her husband Rob and when she isn't busy taking the world of online entrepreneurship by storm you're likely to find her soaking up the magic of the Rocky Mountains. Today we dive into a conversation all about negative feedback.  We’re talking; -How to navigate your online presence and the feelings that come when you get negative feedback from your followers  -The process you need to go through when you receive any kind of feedback from someone. -Sitting inside the inevitable “ick” feeling that you get when you receive feedback that is negative from someone you trust -And so much more…   I really love the conversations that Sarah and I have everytime we get together and this one is no exception.  We will always inevitable receive negative feedback in our lives, learning how to sit with it, process it, take it into account moving forward, or say f*ck it, is what is most important! Find Sarah’s past episodes here:  EPISODE 82: How to Use Collaboration to Jumpstart Growth with Sarah Swain of The Great Canadian Woman EPISODE 154: How 2 Nobodies From Canada Created Chart-Topping Podcasts with Sarah Swain of The Great Canadian Woman EPISODE 192: [BIZ TIPS] COVID-19, Leadership & Your Online Business with Sarah Swain of The Great Canadian Woman   Connect with Sarah:  www.businesswithsarah.com www.gcwpublishing.com   And over on Instagram at: @iamsarahswain @thegreatcanadianwoman   WORK WITH EMILY Let's chat! Reach out to find out about coaching options.   Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com   BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY Find Emily Online: Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast

"Overall, this is what I want you to take away the most from this. You get to turn your pain into your purpose. That is your choice and yours alone. And even in the depths of despair, I held on to the same thought I've always managed to grasp onto, like some sort of life raft in the darkness, which is: this is an opportunity for growth." Today's episode is a little bit heavier than what everyone is used to, and we're talking about moving through depression. This episode is very raw and I am sharing: What has been going on with me How I moved through what has definitely been the darkest period of my life, to date. The importance of why I'm talking about this today And so much more   Are you ready? Let's go. For the full transcription of today's episode head over to EPISODE 271: Navigating Depression: When Everything Feels Dark   WORK WITH ME Let's chat! Reach out to find out about coaching options.   REFERENCES: Mental Health Hotlines: Canada USA UK Australia   EPISODE REFERENCES EPISODE 217: Healing Isn't Linear: When home is no longer home EPISODE 230: Slow Down to Speed Up: Burnout & the Inherent Vulnerability of Entrepreneurship EPISODE 145: The Need for Closure is an Inside Job EPISODE 260: How to Let Go & Recover From Loss EPISODE 153: The Life-Altering Year of 32: Burning Bridges, Building Relationships & Facing Your Darkest Fears EPISODE 130: Cancer, Depression & Strength: A Powerful Story of Hope & Resilience with Tom McClelland EPISODE 117: The 9 Year Affair: Lessons in Infidelity EPISODE 124: Affair Aftermath & Holding Space for a Friend in Crisis with Christina Montalvo EPISODE 127: We Are Not Our Social Media Handles with Hafsa Rana of Happily Hafsa EPISODE 112: Navigating Entrepreneurship: What Doesn’t Get Shared Publicly with Christina Montalvo Episode 133: Stepping Out of the Chaos of Your Life & Allowing Ease with Emma Rose Tait EPISODE 154: How 2 Nobodies From Canada Created Chart-Topping Podcasts with Sarah Swain of The Great Canadian Woman EPISODE 192: [BIZ TIPS] COVID-19, Leadership & Your Online Business with Sarah Swain of The Great Canadian Woman EPISODE 25: Dealing With Anxiety; Growing Through Taking Action   Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY Find Emily Online: Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast

“The universe will remove anything you put your self worth in, to remind you it doesn’t live there.” -Mark Groves Your value and your worth is INNATE. You don’t have to earn it, fix something about yourself that you may have believed in the past was broken, you don’t need someone else to love you before your worth shows up. You are worthy. Period. Full stop. Todays we're talking all about; The deep work of cultivating your sense of self worth How to detach our self worth from our jobs, our income, or our partners Why showing up for yourself consistently is so important when doing this growth work And so much more! Have a listen now! For a copy of today's transcription, head over to EPISODE 270 Cultivating a Deep Sense of Self Worth   WORK WITH ME Let's chat! Reach out to find out about coaching options.   REFERENCES: EPISODE 268: You’re Not Needy, you’re a Human with Needs Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY Find Emily Online: Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast    

Our bodies are so POWERFUL and learning to tap into the innate consciousness your body possess is a skill that will guide you through life. We can feel it when something doesn’t feel quite right to us - but whether we choose to listen or not is another whole situation   Today we’re talking all about; Tuning into our bodies and recognizing when it is telling us that something or someone doesn’t feel right. Answering the question: how do you know it’s the right person? Why that butterfly feeling might not be as romantic as you think it is And so much more!   Take a listen now! To get a copy of today's transcription, head over to EPISODE 269: The Right People Feel Different To Your Nervous System WORK WITH ME Let's chat! Reach out to find out about coaching options.  REFERENCES Lalah Delia on Instagram EPISODE 88 - Save The Drama For Your Mama EPISODE 267: You’re Not Needy, You’re A Human With Needs   Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY Find Emily Online: Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast

Dr. Rachel Botsman defines trust as "a confident relationship with the unknown" and I thought that was such a beautiful way of phrasing it. Trust will provide growth, which requires patience, uncertainty, vulnerability, and looking inward with the understanding that you don’t know what’s next in the abyss. Today we're talking: Giving people close to us the benefit of the doubt While also learning how to become more discerning with our trust The ways trust can be both built and torn down in the smallest ways that we may not even notice unless we pay close attention What happens when we're out of integrity in any area of our lives an dhow it shows up elsewhere Figuring out how to trust yourself first and foremost, regardless of circumstances How you can feel trust in the body   Take a listen!   WORK WITH ME Let's chat! Reach out to find out about coaching options.   REFERENCES Episode #266, Not All Men - But Almost Always with Traver Boehm of Man UNcivilized Episode #129, Liespotting: How to Detect Deception in Everyday Life My article in Thrive Global: My Former Partner Had an Affair for 9 Years Dr. Rachel Botsman on trust and her TED Talk   Questions?  Comments? Want to connect and chat about this episode? You can email me at info@emilygoughcoaching.com, or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach or Facebook at Emily Gough Coaching.  I would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life and here any takeaways you had from this or other episodes!.  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram! If Instagram and Facebook aren’t your jam, send me a good old fashioned email!  info@emilygoughcoaching.com BRAND NEW EPISODES EVERY TUESDAY & THURSDAY Find Emily Online: Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast