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Many significant others are playing games. They're doing what they do to keep you where you are. They aren't in it like you. Instead they have an agenda and will do anything to hold on to it. They will continue to slide you those niblets and nuggest. However, people will treat you exactly how you've taught them to treat you.

Most times the women most men are hurt by is their moms. The hate starts at home. Men either hate what she did or didn't do and that hate grows over time. Most are upset at the fact she didn't nourish, protect, love them, or give them what they needed as young children. To blame other women for a bad or obsolete relationship you had with your mom or some other woman in your life is immature and wrong. Men need to fix their unresolved inner pain so they can move on to become better men and not continue being men who are bitter, full of strife, hate, who are out to blame other women for their past hurts and pains. A lot of Black men run to women of other races, failing to understand that the skin color has absolutely nothing to do with who a woman is. There are other men who just hate women, period, because of the hurt they still hold on to every day. They live every day angry at women, because of their own unresolved pain. All women didn't do it!!!! Look at yourself!

Trying to love a broken person will break you! Many people can attest to how they've lost a sense of who they are, trying to love, fix, or change the person they want to be with. You can't love away; the pain and hurt of no one. People won't and don't change until they are ready! Trying to love their hell away, you will find yourself in hell.

If anyone doesn't believe communication is key. If your relationship is lacking it, how is that working for you? No relationship will last without it. People may stay together, but the relationship will lack those things necessary for it to flourish and grow, guaranteed. The lack of communication leads to an unhealthy and unhappy relationship that is full of drama and confusion.

Most people are blind by their wants, feelings, and desires. Therefore, they'll choose to ignore the signs and red flags presented to them. People are chasing tangible things, and because of it, they want what they want, only to end up in unhealthy relationships. People overlook the red flags and signs to get what they think they want.

Some people think they really are doing something by messing around with someone's signficant other until they end up with him or her. You think they're telling you everything going on with their significant other, but truth is they're telling you what they want you to know. Some people are really fooled by thinking they know what's going on in the person's home they're cheating with, but it's furtherest from the truth.

You as an employee or you as a boss/supervisor know when a relationship is inappropriate. Any boss or supervisor who's crosing the line and using their position or title as a form of abuse of power needs to lose their job. Any employee who's going along to gain something, although the boss or supervisor is wrong, so is this type of employee, because adults know better. No one should allow his or herself to be taken advantage of by thier boss or supervisor for any reason. Never allow anyone to hold something over your head in order to take advantage of you. People only treat you how you allow. Never give anyone power over you and never feel someone is so high up you're afraid to say something. People have the power you give to them. Sometimes, because individuals have done underhanded things for so long and have goten by, they think they can act the same with anyone they choose , but you have the power to say no.

Be careful who you label as your friend, because not everyone you call your friend is your friend! Some of them don't even like you, but they smile in your face, the whole while secretly wanting to take your place or at least what/who you have.

People are controlled, because it's what they allow. I know some people don't want to believe it or receive it, but it's still true! You have to be very careful as to what and who you allow in your life. It's never debatable.

If you can't see past your eyes, feelings, wants, or desires you'll aways find yourself in unhappy relationships, thinking it's love. When people keep looking outward, they'll continue to have the same mindsets and wreaking havoc in their own lives. It's takes the inside working well in order for the outside to work well.

When a person is caught up in fleshy gratification, they are normally individuals who will do almost anything to get what they want. Many immature people, who make everything about physical gratification, go through life experiencing a lot of unnecessary drama. They cause problems in their own lives and the lives of their significant others. If you can't control yourself because of how someone looks, it's because you lack control. It's normal to have attractions toward's people, but when you base relationships and other things on how someone looks, you have some inner issues you need to deal with, and becuse of it, will undoubtedly always face unnecessary drama.

Many people are total lovers of themselves. It's all about self and self gratification. People are full of themselves, puffed up, pompus, vain, boastful, and selfish. They do whatever they choose, without taking others into consideration. Many people are single, because the pickings are non-existent or very slim, due to people being lovers of themselves. These types of individuals don't really know or understand real love.

It's a terribe feeling and state of mind for anyone to have. What you accept in your life is exactly what you'll get. If you believe it takes a significant other to be happy and fulfilled, you'll never experience it.

Some people think fighting over their cheating significant is worth it. It definitely is not! Stop fighting over people who aren't fighting over you. You and the relationship should be worth him or her doing the right thing and not causing problems in the relationship. Stop putting yourself in jeopardy and fighting over someone who isn't worth it. If they're cheating, they're showing you what you mean to them and how they actually feel about his or herself. The other woman or man isn't the problem, your issue is your significant other. Violence is never the answer!!! Think before you react!

Just because a person refuses to see the truth doesn't mean it is non-existent. The truth never lies! Many people are in unhappy relationships, because they see the signs and at the same time refuse the signs and the truth. When you're desperate for love, later you'll be just as desperate for peace.

Too many people lose themselves in their relationships, without recognizing or accepting that their relationships are very toxic. We all have signs and redflags. A person can deny them, but fact is they're present, on some level. Many people choose to ignore them due to self wants, desires, and feelings, and because of it, end up in their graves. If you won't walk away from a toxic relationship, it's clear you don't love yourself or even understand what love is. Your mindset has you thinking what you're allowing in your life is alright, when it's not! Individuals who won't let go don't love themselves either, and their mindsets are their biggest problems. If a person wants out, go on with life. If you can't go on, go and talk it out with someone. To hurt someone or yourself over what you THINK is love is immature and ridiculous. You don't cause hurt, harm, or danger to someone you love. That's not at ALL, the way real love works! If your mind has you thinking otherwise, that's your indication there's something inside of you, that you need to address. People are so concerned about loving someone and being loved, but they don't think that way when it comes to loving self! Some people will kill you and anyone else in their way or tied to you.

Some of you may think, who am I to give a relationship a thumbs down. I am someone who knows an unhealthy person and relationship when I see one.If you don't want the truth click off now, because I'm always giving you the truth. Many people are in relationships they think are healthy, because it's what they're accustomed to, and to them it is good. It's a sad truth, but people get so familiar and comfortable with drama and chaos, they accept it as normal and healthy.

It's a big lie! Love has nothing to do with it! Many of you think love makes you do crazy things. Truth is people do crazy things according to what's inside of them that has caused the mindset they have. It's NOT love, it's YOU/ the individual doing what you choose, based on a distorted perception of love! Many people are blind and can't understand this reality.

Many people will never experience the love or significant others they deserve, because their too busy seeking to fill the voids within self. What they need is right in their faces, but they can't see it due to being blind by what they want. It goes back to not knowing or loving self and it also is indicative of people who haven't dealt with their past painful issues. A person who doesn't deal with their unresolved issues, will always experience the affect of their old pains, that they continue to give power to.

Most people will never experience true love either because of self or because of who they're with, which in truth who you choose points back to self (you). Why you choose who you choose says a lot about who you are and where you are mentally.