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Are we born with a heterosexual desire, or do we simply end up with it? Is addiction to porn real? How may fear turn into sexual arousal? Why do men like to send d*ck pics? These are some of the topics Frederick Toates and I discussed in this podcast episode.  Frederick Toates is an Emeritus Professor of Biological Psychology at The Open University in England and Vice-President of the Open University Psychology Society. He is well known for his work on sexual desire, which he published in a book: How Sexual Desire Works: The Enigmatic Urge - a great read, dense in information and research findings from fields like psychology and neuroscience. Recently he explored why some people engage in serial killings for sexual pleasure, and in 2022 he published a book on this topic: Understanding Sexual Serial Killing.  Tune in for this in-depth, highly educative conversation and let us know your thoughts.  Support the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Is having sex empowering? Where is the limit when it comes to filming more hard-core scenes? Is showing consent in adult films sexy or a turn-off? These and many more topics we tackled in the conversation with Bea Bleu - a wonderful human being and a great filmmaker.  Bea is a Viennese filmmaker based in Berlin. Her adult movies aim to show authentic forms of sexual pleasure, exploration and play. She is dedicated to creating adult media where everyone feels safe and respected. Follow her work @__beablue in Instagram or Twitter. Time codes:00:00:10 - amateur performers 00:04:25 - aftercare00:07:00 - director’s vision and being flexible 00:14:45 - having the right sex 00:17: 38 - dating, and personal relationships00:22:00 - showing kinks, BDSM and different forms of hard-core sex in porn - where is the limit00:25:40 - how porn can show consent 00:36:40 - Ethical adult media 00:40:20 - Language00:47:44 - are the films you produce part of your personality or do you separate it00:50:40 - fantasies 00:57:00 - Cancel Culture 01:01:00 - sexual scripts 01:03:40 - growing up and intimacy01:05:45 - power01:07:18 - why porn Support the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Are we privileged with our accessibility to sex and pleasure? What is sexcare? Can pornography help disabled people with exploring sexual pleasure? These and many other topics I discussed with Sofie van den Haak. Sofie van den Haak is an applied psychologist who works with different organisations that help disabled people explore intimacy and sex. She started working at the age of 15 in health care. First, she worked helping people with dementia, and for the last three years, she focused on people with disabilities and their need for intimacy and sexual expression. Her mission is to help vulnerable people in society to feel more heard, seen and loved.   Episode navigation:00:00- How it all started00:08 - defining terms like disability and sex-care00:18 - exploring intimacy, communication, and aspect of coaching in sex-care00:27- consent and boundaries00:31 - ethics00:42 - the process - intake, matching, preparation00:48 - activities provided by sexcarer during the appointment00:53 - pornography and disability00:58 - sexcarer's boundaries01:02 - becoming a sexcarer01:06 - sexcare globallySupport the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Intro I met Doortje when she was giving a lecture at the University of Amsterdam. She spoke about sexual pleasure not being a luxury but rather a fundamental human right that everyone deserves to experience. After the lecture finished, I left craving more. I wanted to hear what else she had to say, and I knew I needed to record a podcast with her so others could enjoy her wisdom and positive attitude. Despite way too many “precisely” from my side, I hope you will enjoy this episode as much as I did.About Doortje Doortje Braeken van Schaik has more than 35 years of experience in adolescent sexual reproductive health and rights. She is the co-author of the International Sexuality Education Guidelines by UNESCO and a board member of the Global Advisory Board on Sexual Health and Wellbeing. In 2014 she received the golden medal from the World Association for Sexual Health for her contributions to Comprehensive Sexual Education.Doortje worked on guidelines for the sexual reproductive health of young people for WHO. She is the author of seven pleasure principles for The Pleasure Projects.   Time codes00:03:51 - Including pleasure in sexual health education00:10:32 - What is sex, how do we define it and what falls into this category00:13:55 - Language and sexual expression 00:20:50 - Pleasure meter, human rights aspect in sexual pleasure00:36:18 - Educating sexual offenders 00:41:24 - Intimacy and sexual satisfaction after menopause 00:46:35 - Depiction of sex in media Support the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

In this two-part episode, I spoke with a couple about cuckolding. My goal with this episode is to present a different lifestyle and a relationship type that we often don’t speak about. Crystal Welch and her husband are a married cuckold couple and they have been together for 8 years. Cuckolding is a type of consensual non-monogamy, where only the woman has multiple sexual partners (called “bulls”), and the husband remains faithful. It’s a form of domination that can be expressed differently in the relationship, and most of the time, the wife is the dominant one.  The first part is with R, the husband. And in the second conversation, I speak with the wife - Crystal. Both of them agreed to the interview under the condition that their real identities are kept secret. (The first interview ends around 44 minutes in.) Support the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Avril Louise Clarke is a clinical sexologist and educational manager at The Porn Conversations, the platform that focuses on comprehensive and science-based sex-ed and porn literacy. In addition, she recently took on the role of Intimacy Coordinator for ErikaLust Productions and in this podcast episode, she shared her experience with this role.  On her social media, she talks about sexual education that focuses not only on prevention but primarily on pleasure. At The Porn Conversations, she co-created the porn literacy materials tailored to kids of different age groups that help parents have conversations with their kids about porn and its message. Podcast navigation:00:02:14 - Background info, family, sexuality00:14:05 - First experience with pornography00:22:22 - Influence of porn on people00:30:30 - How to think critically about the media that we consume00:37:08 - Porn literacy - definition00:40:53 - Good vs bad porn00:43:52 - IC role00:54:09 - Intimate conversations in private life - how to do it right? Support the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Zina Berlin is a sex worker with over four years of experience who enjoys different kinks and fetishes. She appeared in diffrent porn films, created her content, did webcamming and worked directly with clients. Zina also has a background in psychology and practices sexological bodywork - a form of therapy that Zina is using with her clients. It's a complex subject, and Zina does a great job at explaining it and introducing some of the practices she is using.  In this episode, we spoke about many different topics. Some of them were how growing up influenced who she is right now or establishing boundaries in life and sex work. The second part of this episode is more practical because Zina introduced exercises or ways that help to develop boundaries and navigate through sexual pleasure and desire.   Bookmarks00:00:10 - intro, workday, latex outfits00:07:00 - growing up00:08:40 - sex work in covid times00:13:00 - hobbies while growing up (achievement vs fun)00:16:55 - talking about intimacy while growing up (open/closed door)00:20:10 - first sexual experience / fantasy / self pleasure, sex ed. 00:26:30 - first encounter with porn00:29:20 - getting caught in public kink / being dominated00:35:00 - beginning of sex fork/academia00:41:30 - first experience with doing porn00:44:00 - setting up boundaries before a porn shoot/communication00:47:40 - exercises that help to establish connection and boundaries / giving vs taking00:55:30 - 3-minute game01:01:35 - dealing with no01:08:10 - the importance of touch01:15:40 - sexological bodywork01:20:50 - typical bodywork session01:27:00 - Zina's dream for future/healing sex workSupport the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Sara Brown (she/they) is a queer human, performer, actor, dancer, and director working in live performance, theatre, and cinema, based in Barcelona, Spain. She's the art director of the multidisciplinary platform IL MONSTRO (former PLEASUREisPOWER), exploring pleasure, desire, sexuality, and gender through different art forms and live events. As a part of it, she's currently producing and directing IL MONSTRO - A Freak Show!, a long-form performance combining contemporary dance and cabaret, theatre and acrobatics, on the conflictual relationship between “normals” and “queers” – is reconciliation even possible?  Sara is also a writer interested in sexual politics, gender, and how these are told by the media. She advocates for a more positive and honest approach to sex, encouraging more porn literacy in schools and less stigma on sex workers’ work. 00:00:15 - Childhood, growing up. Good and bad experiences. 00:22:00 - IG post discussion, LGBTQ label, abusive behaviour, what queer means for Sara, 01:04:30 - Public talks in school and being outed in an Italian newspaper about her work in porn.  Support the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Sally F.B, a screenwriter and film director, diversity consultant for film and TV. Sally has written and directed a few films for Erika Lust Production (“Tinder taxi”, “Blind(ed) date”, “Another Sex Dimension”, “Touch Crimes”, and “A road to conquer"). Her films convey important messages that the current world must see and hear. For example, “SkinHearts” talks about the importance of touch and the change in the society that lack of it creates. This short film is so up-to-date, especially during the Covid pandemic, though Sally produced this film years before the pandemic hit us. Another of her creations, “Unburied”, portrays the effects of hostile migration policies and is a visual poem dedicated to thousands of Africans that have drowned in the sea while trying to migrate to Europe. She has a unique way of perceiving the world and I am glad that she can express it through her work; the work that is in a way weird and very authentic.  Time codes:00:02:15 - Citizen of the future 00:07:50 - "SkinHearts" and predicting future ;), Importance of touch, unsuccessful Tinder dates as inspiration00:19:00 - Childhood and career path, getting the first job on a film set, overcoming perfectionism 00:50:10 - The start of an adventure with EL productions, working with intimacy on screen 00:59:25 - Challenges for real sex scenes01:18:25 - Meditation, observation of thoughts and reactions  Support the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Court Vox is a Somatic Sex Educator, Intimacy Consultant and the founder of The Body Vox, where he provides a fresh and unique form of therapy that helps individuals embrace their bodies and be more comfortable with intimacy. Unlike traditional therapy which is mainly through talk Vox uses hands-on body-based exercises.  We had a conversation about vocalising and understanding pleasure, the importance of having honest and deep conversations with the partner and discovering intimate self.  Dive into this fascinating conversation with "Introverted extrovert" Court Vox.  00:03:20 - Intimacy when growing up, Somatic exercises that Vox's mum introduced into his life00:08:50 - Coming out, being queer, intimate relationships00:11:27 - Sex education, understanding our intimate side, vocalizing pleasure 00:26:34 - First kiss, first experience with a man and a few other firsts 00:36:43 - How to make "dirty talk" in the bedroom more authentic 00:40:47 - Post-sex talks (aka "Processing")00:47:23 - Too much intimacy 00:49:23 - Ways to create novelty in monogamous long term relationships00:55:38 - Getting into Somatic Education, Back to the body workshop01:13:57 - Mental health and self-care Support the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

The woman that needs no introduction ... but here it is, just in case :). Maria Riot - a sex worker and sex workers’ activist with many years of experience. Maria was born in Argentina and currently, she is living in Spain. She does web-caming, online and in-person sex work, she is a porn performer and director. She is also a member of AMMAR - sex workers union in Argentina. 00:03:15 - Childhood and teenage years, approach toward religion, shame and guilt about sexuality, sex education, 00:19:35 - The most significant sexual experience 00:25:30 - Coming out with her sexuality and affection toward women00:31:30 - Pivoting toward sex work and a guest appearance of Maria's cat :)00:40:50 - Women who inspired Maria to try porn work00:49:00 - Facing stigma and discrimination 00:51:50 - Coming out to parents about the sex work00:58:30 - Good and bad about sex work01:07:38 - How people who don't do sex work can support sex workers01:09:55 - Setting boundaries with clients or when performing on a porn set01:16:20 - Values - Fair pay and diversity in Porn 01:18:46 - Binary way of porn01:25:30 - Finding the right company to work with01:32:45 - Working with female clients 01:37:35 - Influence of sex work and flexible hours on mental health01:43:45 - Favourite book (Question from a fan) Support the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Cintia Taylor is a writer, director for film and theatre and storytelling specialist. In her work, she is driven by stories of women and womanhood and talks about important topics like depression or life after sexual assault (her latest film: Clinch). She also believes that the mainstream film industry can learn from the good practices of the porn industry. In the first part of the podcast, I explored Cintia's personal stories and stories that she tells through her work. In the second part, we focused on the production of intimate scenes - directing and ensuring the actors' safety. In this episode, Cintia shares a lot of wisdom on the topics of stereotypes of seduction, male gaze, feminism, crafting intimacy in a safe way, statistic about sexual assault and her thoughts on critical thinking. Cintia is a fantastic and creative woman with a very interesting background, if you want to know her a little bit more, have a listen to this podcast. 00:02:08 - Start00:05:30 - Cintia's story, starting with directing films00:10:00 - Poetry as a way of making a meaningful change and creativity00:23:25 - Critical thinking and ability to deal with feedback as a part of a self-learning process00:39:39 - The citizens of the world - move between different countries and the feeling of belonging00:48:40 - The importance of telling the stories of womanhood - the narrative Cintia has chosen to tell in her work (celebrating diversity and womanhood and talking about topics of taboo)00:51:04 - Feminism, the importance of the study of female perspective and the male gaze01:01:01 - Clinch - the story of a woman overcoming sexual violence, statistics for sexual assault01:11:50 - "Wet" - Theatrical play about women sex and porn01:16:06 - intimacy - Cintia's definition and ensuring actors' comfort in the play, tactics/exercises. Approach to consent.01:26:00 - What mainstream film can learn from porn - Cintia's take on itSupport the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Yasmeena Ali is a porn performer, BDSM lover and feminist. She was born in Afganistan and raised in an Islamic family who emigrated to the UK when she was nine years old. Right now, she is a strong and independent woman, exploring her sexuality and doing what she loves the most - being in front of the camera and sharing the beauty of her body and mind. We talked about how growing up in Islamic tradition impacted her sexual exploration. Yasmeena walked me through her life and the difficulties she faced when living with her family. We spoke about her mentors, sexual education, and the escape from home to a better and self-depended future, where she decides who to love, what to wear, or do. We discoursed what the adult media industry is missing and what we should be focusing on to make it a better place.  00:03:12 - Start00:08:50 - Introduction to Yasmeena's background and sex work00:14:22 - Memories and key moments from life in Afganistan from the perspective of 9 years old girl00:22:50 - Education in the UK00:31:50 - The journey from Afganistan to the UK00:38:50 - Living in the UK - adapting to different culture and lifestyle00:47:27 - Mentors, people who helped to navigate in the new world00:50:20 - Sex education in school and exploring intimacy00:57:34 - First sexual experience01:05:20 - Non-muslim relationship, first time falling in love, and running away from home 01:26:10 - Discovering own sexuality and pleasure, BDSM01:33:45 - Introduction to nude modelling and webcamming01:44:15 - Rules in the relationship between her and her husband to ensure the relationship is growing, open relationship01:48:15 - First porn shoot and boundaries01:56:45 - Porn that is designed to please men' needs - Yasmeena's thoughts on this, and things that are missing in porn02:10:25 - Being respected and in control in a porn shoot, Onlyfans experience and negative payment experience02:21: 12 - Regrets02:23:45 - Last question about family and their knowledge about Yasmeena's workSupport the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Today's guest is Eva Oh, an international, professional dominatrix. She runs her slave training with carefully crafted courses that reveal who she is and how she wants her slaves to serve her. She also organizes something called #teakink, where she talks with BDSM community members to demystify BDSM and sexuality through the intimacy of tea ceremony.  I don't know much about domination or the BDSM community, so I was really looking forward to our meeting, and I was very grateful to be able to talk with Eva. She is a cheerful and lovely person, and she did a great job of leading me through the mysteries of the BDSM world. I intended to focus on consent and pushing boundaries within BDSM practice, but naturally, we covered some other topics like work during the pandemic and her overcoming self-doubt. 00:03:30 - start and intro00:05:40 - Growing up in a Christian and a female-dominated environment 00:13:50 - First sexual experience 00:15:30 - First contact with pornographic images/film00:20:45  - Work in pandemic time00:25:55 - Lifestyle vs Professional Dominatrix 00:27:40 - Consent and boundaries in domination (lifestyle part)00:34:50 - The typical day of work 00:37:30 - Difference between sub and slave 00:40:10 - Slave position - what is it?00:41:50 - What slaves learn during the training on youwillpleaseme.com / BDSM identities discovery 00:45:04 - Physical vs psychological punishment00:48:25 - Crossing boundaries in corporal punishment, where to draw the line. 00:55:50 - Recruitment of slaves 01:00:55 - Financial domination 01:07:45 - Eva explains how she cares for her mental health in this emotionally demanding work01:09:45 - Things that a professional dominatrix never does01:11:40 - Kinks and fetishes that Eva enjoys the most01:19:15 - Overcoming self-doubt 01:22:45 - Tips for couples who would like to start practising dom and sub relationship01:22:50 - Recommendations for any woman who would like to start working as a dominatrix  Support the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Today's podcast is the first one where a sex worker speaks in-depth on a selected topic. The person with whom I had a pleasure to talk with is Jason Domino. Jason is the sexual health and wellbeing lead for the UK Adult Professionals (UKAP) and a practising sex worker. Jason speaks from his own experience and he is very vested in and passionate about sexual health, specifically topics like HIV and PrEP. I have learned a lot from talking to him and he provided me with more information than I have gotten from anyone in the past few years on this topic. I hope you will find it useful and it will help you to ask further questions. The interview was focused around HIV prevention, function and use of PrEP and PeP, the importance of understanding different HIV tests and what is the window period, and how it works.  This podcast contains a lot of detailed information, and at the end of it, you may have more questions. For this (and many other) reasons we have opened a comment section on http://redcheeks.org/jason. If you want to know more, need further clarification or have general feedback feel free to leave a comment. Please remember to be generous and constructive in your comments. Nasty and sarcastic behaviour will not be tolerated.   A disclaimer: Neither of us is a licenced medical professional, so if you are considering to start on PrEP or have any concerns or questions about your health I recommend you consult with your GP (general practitioner) or any other licenced medical professional. Neither of us takes responsibility for your actions or health.00:00:09 - start and intro00:04:00 - sexual health - meaning 0016:15 - PrEP and PeP - what's that, what's the abbreviation stands for 00:24:46 - Jason's story on his first time having sex with a person who was HIV positive, and him not knowing it,00:29:03 - ART (medication is taken by people who are positive on HIV) and U=U (Undetectable equals untransmittable) 00:30:27 - Research about HIV 00:36:20 - Window Period and HIV tests types - what is the window period and how it differed depending on different HIV test00:58:13 - Where and how to get PeP in case of potential HIV exposure 00:04:05 - Common misconceptions in sex industry about PrEP and HIV01:05:43 - What are other health checks that people should be aware of/ do when on PrEP01:11:33 - Pledge - Porn Professionals For Safety Against Discrimination 01:28:31 - How to access PrEPSupport the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Today I am talking with Richard Lawrence, the owner and funder of Feck.com the company that runs a few different platforms with erotic media.  Richard started with an intention of humanising the idea of porn. He did not want to show it through the male gaze perspective and he thought that it would be more interesting to give a woman a camera and to let her express herself. This is how  I Shot Myself,  Beautiful Agony and I Feel Myself were created.  In today's podcast, Richard told us different stories from his personal life, and one of them stood out for me the most, and it was the story of his first kiss with the babysitter. We also talked about more serious topics like socially responsible erotica and the importance of values that the porn portraits.  I really enjoyed my conversation with Richard, and I hope you will enjoy this interview too. He is a very interesting person with a tone of experience to share. 00:00:40 Start 00:02:10 Teenage years 00:18:20 First kiss (babysitter story)00:20:50 Favorite sexy scene from a film (Fear and Donnie Darko)00:23:10 Feck.com, ISM, BA and IFM - description of the company 00:32:20 Why porn is taboo - Richards take on this00:38:15 Confessions from Beautiful Agony 00:46:20 Concept of socially responsible porn 00:47:47 Ethical porn - Richards understanding of this concept and how Feck introduces ethics into their production 00:50:20 Porn as a source of sex education for people 01:01:40 Porn and "charmless rendering of human sexuality"01:13:47 Situations where something did not go to the plan on the shoot day  Support the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Abigail Wiliams, a very intelligent, good-hearted activist and sex performer, who completed her degree in anthropology and sociology. Now she works toward her PhD that talks about regulation of online pornography in the UK and how this affects the people who produce it. She gives lectures on a university and she works together with National Ugly Mugs UK - a charity that works toward ending violence against sex workers.  We talked about her personal experience as a porn performer, her attraction toward women and why it was hard at first for her to understand being attracted to anyone else than men. Abigaile talked about how she gained her first sexual experience in a threesome and how her abusive (past) relationship directed her toward porn. We dived deeper into talking about her favourite fetishes and how porn can help young people to explore their sexuality.  I also would like to note small friction that went unnoticed during the recording of this podcast. We had some sound issues and sometimes the audio may go very low, sorry for this! Likely the audio problem is only on my side, and you can hear perfectly fine everything that Abigail says, and her message is the one that is powerful and must be heard!  So If you are eager to hear from Abigail jump on this podcast and hopefully you will enjoy it as much as I did.00:04:20 - The way Abigail came up with her stage name00:06:18 - Abigaile's childhood and family 00:08:48 - Discovering her sexuality 00:10:31 - Sex education 00:15:25 - Describes her attraction toward women 00:19:40 - First sexual experience 00:23:50 - The single moment that turned Abigail toward the porn industry 00:29:10 - The first shoot experience 00:33:52 - "The conversation" 00:36:15 -  Disclosing to partners the nature of her work 00:39:00 -  The PhD thesis on an idea called legal consciousness - how people interpret and interact with the law and how this presents itself in UK BDSM porn00:42:50 - Fetishes 00:46:39 - How else we can use porn00:54:04 - Porn and sex work being stigmatised - Abigail's take on this. 01:05:36 - Advice to someone who is getting into the industry 01:07:31 - The biggest failure and the learnings 01:11:55 - Things that Abigail wished to know before working in porn 01:15:00 - "Before the shoot" rituals   Support the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Paulita Pappel is a Spanish filmmaker and feminist pornographer. After studying comparative literature in Berlin, she worked both in front and behind the camera. She is the founder of Lustery.com, a platform dedicated to the sex lives of real-life couples from around the world. She also co-organizes and curates the Pornfilmfestival in Berlin. Paulita works as a producer, performer, director, screenwriter and podcaster, and is an advocate for a sex-positive, consent-based culture. Recently she started working on her new creation HardWerk.com where she directs and participates in ethically created gang-bank stories.  Paulita believes that there is much more to intimacy and relationships than what happens in the bedroom and therefore she created POV - an inclusive platform that takes a deeper look into the world of sex, sexuality and relationships, one point of view at a time. 00:05:05 - Childhood and family.00:06:45 - Sexuality in her teenage years.00:08:34 - Sexual education in school. 00:13:00 - Discussions with parents about her sexuality.00:13:38 - The first mention of Paulita's fascination with pornography.00:14:05 - The first contact with the porn industry.0015:34 - Marit Östberg (www.maritostberg.com) Swedish journalist and filmmaker that created the porn film in which Paulita participated in (her first porn movie participation). 00:19:30 - The first sexual experience and the very first kiss.00:22:30 - Paulita's take on "loosing" virginity. 00:32:00 - The first experience of watching herself on the big screen.00:34:30 - How porn experience translates to Paulita's relationships.00:38:45 - "The conversation" (How Paulita informed her parents about her sex work).00:52:00 - Lustery.com - the idea behind it. 00:54:30 - How Paulita ensures that her performers are making the right decision before participating in a porn film. 01:03:00 - Why it's taboo to enjoy porn. 01:06:45 - A rough day at work and how Paulita deals with it.01:13:12 - Workday rituals.01:16:40 - Advice to other performers and porn producers  Support the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

In this podcast, I am talking with Garion Hall, the Owner and founder of abbywinters.com - the porn site that produces content of amateur models. The company goes against mainstream standards by encouraging performers to keep their natural look. Garion's story takes us on a 20 year-long journey of producing adult content.  During our conversation, we talked about the company's clearly defined standards and ethics, how the production of porn with real-life couples looks like and where are the challenges. Garion told us about 5 am police raid on his house and a stressful time when he faced the false allegations of producing underaged porn. This interview is special for me because abbywinters.com is a place where I started working 10 years ago and it was my first experience in the adult media industry. Jump on this podcast to listen to Garion's story, and I hope you are going to enjoy it as much as I did.  00:01:45 - Introduction00:16:00 – How the idea of producing porn with amateur models was born.00:22:20 – First shoot production.00:41:15 – Church and brothel.00:52:00 – Legal issue and the false accusations of producing underaged porn.00:53:20 – Moving the company overseas.00:56:15 – Visit of police on set in Amsterdam.01:14:25 – Description of work ethics within the company and Garion’s point of view on ethical porn.01:17:25 – Performers making an informed decision and how abbywinters.com ensures to provide models with factual information.01:21:00 – “Cooling-off” period as part of abbywinters.com policy for working with performers.01:32:40 – How consumers can choose ethical porn.01:41:30 – Advice to people who would like to appear in porn and/or produce it.Support the show Join RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.