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The Sex, Money, and Food Podcast Welcome to this edition of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! Episode 115 is an unusual show in that we have two guests, Jenny and Mike Ciampa. They are personal friends of mine who also live in San Diego. Today we talk mostly about food, second chances and how they approach health differently today. We also discuss Mike’s recent health scare that led to an amazing transformation. Join us to hear all the details on this episode of the Sex, Money and Food podcast!   More About This Show   Mike is a real estate broker, I personally worked with him when I was in the mortgage industry. I met his wife Jenny, a former elementary teacher who has become a nutritional coach. In the last year Mike had to change his health habits, from his mindset to what he was eating. Although you would never have known it by looking at him, his body was very unhealthy. It wasn't something that happened over a couple months' time, it happened over a period of years. In 2015 he was having a great year in real estate, he made a lot of money and had a successful professional year. But he didn't realize how little attention he was giving to his health. For him every day was about waking up, and getting going with caffeine and sugar! The rest of the day was about maintaining that energy through more caffeine and more sugar. His morning coffee was a venti latte with vanilla, with loads of sugar. That would last til lunch, and lunch would be chips and juice from 7-11. By mid-afternoon his energy would drop again and he’d eat a bagel or something similar. It was constant peaks and crashes. So at the end of 2015 he had a lot of money in his bank account but he was a "walking heart attack" in his words. He had some pretty severe symptoms of Type 2 Diabetes. Jenny noticed he was drinking a lot of milk and orange juice, two things she thought were symptoms of pre-diabetes. She Googled it and found she right. She told Mike what she had found and asked him to go to the doctor and get it checked out, which didn't go over well with him! But his family saw signs over the holidays and they chimed in with their concerns as well. He did get to the doctor to have himself checked out. Everyone had been right; his blood sugar was terrible. Normally blood sugar levels should be between 90-100, his were nearly over 400! The meter stops at 400 so they may have actually been higher. His doctor said he was surprised Mike wasn't in a diabetic coma   Mike points out he's an example of many people out there: people are busy and grab food they can eat quickly. When you couple that with our lack of nutritional education it leads to a lot of serious health problems for so many people in our culture.   When adults are not getting the proper nutrition they are raising children to do the same. So kids eat this way too and it becomes a vicious cycle.   Jenny saw it firsthand when she was teaching in the schools. She would see her low -income students come in with "Cheeto hands" meaning they were fed Cheetos for breakfast. She says on one hand it's heartbreaking because that isn't a healthy breakfast. On the other hand it was better than not getting any food at all, which was also the case for some of her kids.   Mike was able to break the cycle for himself through a desire to change both his diet and his mindset, along with actually changing what he eats and how he cares for his body.   He and Jenny were also fortunate to find a nutritional system that allowed him to get excellent nutrition while still maintaining his lifestyle. And by doing so in less than a year later his diabetes was gone, something his doctor was amazed by.   Jenny explains the body has an amazing way of healing itself when it's given the proper nutrition. Nutrition supports the healing process of the body, your body knows what to do and how to heal itself. It's a whole functioning system that just needs our help in feeding it healthy food.   The system they use is a nutritionally dense system that is free of GMOs, gluten, and soy. It's based on two nutrient dense, filling shakes that provides two of your daily meals. In fact, the shakes are so dense they are the nutritional equivalent of three plates of organic vegetables! Those shakes plus a cleanse day combine to provide an exceptional nutritional foundation for the body’s healing and healthy functioning. Join us to hear why cleanse days and fasting have been done by cultures around the globe, why the cleanses are important and why sustainable farming practices are also critical. Mike and Jenny share all of that and more on this episode of the Sex, Money and Food podcast! Tweetable:  “You deserve to have success in your life!” - Mike and Jenny Ciampa Mike and Jenny Answers The Questions   Rank the following in order: Sex, Money, Food:   Jenny says she ranks food first because without proper nutrition and without feeling good, sex and money make no difference. Second she ranks sex because there is an intimacy that is important in relationships and to have functioning relationships that should be present. Third is money because money is awesome, but the other two really make it all work.   Mike puts money first, not for stuff but because he’s a provider. He makes money so his kids have choice, and his family has opportunity. Next is food, the same reasons Jenny says: if you don’t feel good about yourself then sex isn’t going to be good! You have to have good energy, and feel good about your body then you can enjoy sex.   What does health smell like to you?   Jenny said the first thing that comes to mind is summer fruit - there’s nothing better than summer fruit! It’s refreshing, uplifting and it satisfies. Mike said health smells like peppermint: it feels refreshing, uplifting. It clears your eyes and your lungs. Episode Resources Mike and Jenny’s website DoTerra’s Emotional Aromatherapy Kit Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Follow me on Twitter   Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes     lovemyselfcoach@gmail.com

Happy Fourth of July, it is our Nations Birthday. On today’s episode, we celebrate Freedom. We celebrate the freedom to become who you want to become and what you want to do.   In my opinion, the Fourth of July is not about corn on the cob, a hot dog and getting the right spot at the beach. It is about our country birthday. Don’t get me wrong…I am pretty excited about the corn on the cob and the firework display. But it is ultimately about freedom.    I want to thank you to the men and women who have served and will serve to keep us free. Thank you to the men and women who have given the ultimate sacrifice so that we can live in a Free country. THANK YOU.   As we talk about Freedom the questing might dawn on you, what does it mean to be free? How do I become Free? Am I free?   The answer. It starts with self-love. It requires trust, just doing it and knowing that you can do it. There is no task too big or too small, everything starts with the first step. Acknowledging what you want to be free from. Acknowledging what you want to accomplish. But most importantly acknowledging  you.   Ask yourself, what is something you want to become free from? Maybe it is guilt. Maybe it is smoking, maybe it is alcohol, maybe it is a toxic relationship, maybe it is your job, Maybe it is your girlfriend, boyfriend, lover. Maybe it has something to do with Sex, Money or Food. It could be a paycheck or it could be to be free from yo-yo dieting. You funnel that down and it all begins with self-love and knowing your self-worth.    Are you wondering what I am free from? Well, It is liberating to release my secret. My secret of having genital herpes is out. It has been liberating to release the Life With Herpes Podcast and know that I am helping men and women all over the world. It is liberating to know that I can be transparent. Was it hard? Yep! Was it scary? Absolutely. Was I worried about judgment, of course. But was it worth it, YES.    This week, what is one thing you can make a choice to be free from. Become independent? In celebrating our Nations Birthday be the Pursuit of Life Liberty and the pursuit of happiness.    See you next week.    xoxo Alexandra  

We have all had the trip where we enjoy the food way too much and then our jeans don't fit on the plane ride back. Right?  Well, that is ok. In today's podcast, Alexandra talks about some tips to help you get back on track from your vacay binge and get you back to your pre-vacation body. 

    Welcome to this edition of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! Today’s guest is yet another amazing woman: Amber Lilyestrom. She’s a branding and business strategist, writer, speaker, wife and mother. She also hosts The Soul Fueled CEO podcast and loves supporting visionaries, leaders and disruptivators changing their lives and the world around them.Today we talk about how becoming a mom led to becoming an entrepreneur and business owner, what her eating disorder showed her about self-love and so much more. Join us on this enlightening adventure we call episode 112 of the Sex, Money and Food podcast!   More About This Show   When Amber became pregnant with her daughter she instinctively knew she was being led to leave her corporate career. It was a hard realization, but she knew that was where she needed to go next. That instinct was only made more real when during her daughter's birth she had a near-death experience, what she calls an awakening. She knew the truth of what she was here to do, and it wasn’t to stay in her old job any longer than what was absolutely necessary. Now emboldened about what she was meant to do, she went back to her job knowing she was a different person with a different awareness for her life. She had to make some hard choices and create change, but with the courage to do so comes a sense of ease and peace.   Amber says it's been the greatest gift she’s given to herself and her life; she's a different wife, mother, daughter, friend, and coach in the world. And she’s a different person for herself. On this episode of Sex, Money and Food, we also talk about her eating disorder. At one point she realized marrying the man of her dreams wasn't going to be sustainable unless she healed herself and worked on herself first. She says she was a mess, she was ready to admit it. The roots of the issue began in childhood, she was sexually molested by an extended family member when she was very young. With her parents support and belief, she went to court to prove she was telling the truth. She remembers standing in a room by herself in front of adults telling them what happened, and then watching them evaluate whether or not she was telling the truth. That would be an intense experience for anyone, but especially a 5-year old child. Going forward in life she carried that experience with her. When her body hit puberty and she chose soccer over gymnastics. And she had something to prove: she played on three teams a year, went to tons of tournaments and was recruited. She barely had any time off, and neither did her body. In fact, she worked her body so hard she hardly ever had her period as a teen. Doctors told her she didn’t have enough body fat to menstruate, but she was not convinced. She believed she was overweight. In college, it got even worse. Now there was no one else around watching over her. She was on her own. Adding to that was the pressure of being a D1 scholarship athlete competing for playing time. She would do whatever needed to be done to compete; her value of herself was based on how she performed on the soccer field, nothing else mattered.   Amber talks about how that came to a head after a 15 year battle, how she got honest with herself about the situation and how she began the healing process.   We also discuss why most of us feel like things should be "hard" but they don’t have to be, and how to find what's next for you when you know it's time to move on. Share in the conversation on those topics and more on today’s edition of the Sex, Money and Food podcast!     Tweetable:  “We don't have to work to be worthy of our own love!” - Amber Lilyestrom     Amber Answers The Questions   Rank the following in order: Sex, Money, Food:   Intimacy has got to be #1! I think connection has to be #1, nourishment/food is #2 and money is abundance and fun so it’s #3.   There is nothing better in life than…   being with the people I love.     Your ultimate pleasure in life is?   It’s really trusting and honoring myself and my needs, and crafting a life that supports that mission.   What does “soul-fueled” smell like to you?   It’s my home, it’s dinner cooking. The fire is on - that smokey smell with food and being home together!     Episode Resources The Soul Fueled CEO website Amber Lilyestrom’s Top 5 Branding Secrets The Soul Fueled CEO podcast Amber Lilyestrom on Twitter DoTerra’s Emotional Aromatherapy Kit Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Follow me on Twitter   Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes   Check out my new podcast, Life With Herpes      

Welcome to this edition of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! Today’s show is about how to let go and release yourself from all the judgment you create. It keeps you held back and prevents you from moving forward. Feeling your feeling can be wild and scary but it is your gift and only you can feel them. Find the area in your life where you need to open up, let go and find healing. As soon as that part of your life is healed, another more beautiful part can begin.   I know a ton about releasing self-judgment. I personally have been on my own emotional roller coaster the last couple of weeks. I have decided to launch a new podcast that is near and dear to my heart. My new podcast is called, Life With Herpes. Yep...herpes. Yes, I have herpes. Yes, I have genital herpes. And Yes, I have oral herpes too. Anyway, I am excited to bring it to fruition and create a community for people to come, have support and not be judged. I will keep you posted on when the podcast gets approved in iTunes but in the meantime, you can head over to www.lifewithherpes.com for more details.   Remember judging yourself only creates pain, turmoil and prevents you from living the most beautiful and fulfilling life. Let those tears come, open up and let go.   Tweetable:  “Let go to move on” - Alexandra Harbushka Episode Resources DoTerra’s Emotional Aromatherapy Kit Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Follow me on Twitter Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes Life with Herpes

The Sex, Money, and Food Podcast110: 8 Strategies to an Ecstatic Workday   Welcome to this edition of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! Today’s show is about how to be ecstatic at work, even if you don’t like your job. Frankly, we all have parts of our jobs we don’t like - there are even parts of doing this podcast that I don’t like!But there are ways we can make our work and our time spent working more enjoyable. I’ll give you my 8 recommendations for making the most of your job, no matter what. Listen in for all 8 on episode 110 of the Sex, Money and Food podcast!   More About This Show Even though we all have days we don't like our job or the work we do, there are ways to make it more pleasurable. We can even be ecstatic in our work life by making little changes to our routine and to our mindset.Whether we enjoy working or not comes down to mindset: do we perceive our work day as boring or stimulating and challenging? Below are my top 8 tips to help you stay stimulated and positively engaged during your day and avoid burnout.   Dress how you want to feel. Do you have that dress that makes you that "it girl" at the bar? We all do! I'm not saying to wear it to work, but if you are wearing sweats you act like you are wearing sweats. When you're dressed up you stand up straighter, and more confident. Dress how you want to feel: comfortable? smart? powerful? confident? Define how you want to feel it and create the outfit that reflects that, then wear it.   Pack snacks and a delicious lunch. Pack something that nourishes your body and makes you feel good, and is good for you. Make your snacks and your lunch something you look forward to having! Eat something that gives you pleasure, it will recharge your internal battery.   Set a timer. I set a timer for 50 minutes when I start a task, and chances are I get it done in those 50 minutes! If I'm close I might keep going but usually, I finish within that time period. Or at the end of the 50 minutes, I decide I need a break; I give myself a dance party break, or I take a walk around the block or hop on Facebook.   Dress up your desk. Dress it up - add flowers, add pictures of your favorites like your family, your lover, your pet, etc. Don't clutter it up but make it yours and make it a space you like to be in. Give praise to a coworker. Nothing feels better than giving a compliment to someone. Do you love someone's outfit or what they said in the meeting? Let them know. Giving praise goes far and is good for both of you.   Do a victory lap. When you accomplish something give yourself a "high five" or take a victory lap around the office. Or give yourself a gold star like you did when you got an "A" in grade school! Whatever it is be sure it is something that makes you feel good. Keep track of your accomplishments.   When all else fails, play hooky. Maybe you need to cut back and you are in the burned out phase, so you need to leave early and take care of yourself. It's not an excuse to ditch early for happy hour with your girlfriends! This is about doing some other form of self-care to replenish yourself when you're nearing the burn out stage. Wondering what #8 is? You’ll have to listen or watch the episode to find out. Be sure you do, it’s a good one. Then let me know how the 8 tips from episode 110 of the Sex, Money and Food podcast have worked for you! Tweetable:  “Keep track of your accomplishments!” - Alexandra Harbushka Episode Resources The Happiness Advantage, by Shawn Achor DoTerra’s Emotional Aromatherapy Kit Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Follow me on Twitter Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes

The Sex, Money, and Food Podcast Welcome to this edition of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! Today our guest is the one and only Adam Urbanski. Adam is known far and wide for his Millionaire Marketing Mentor business, but he’s also a father, husband and Spartan Race enthusiast!On this edition of the show we’re talking about Adam’s immigration from Poland to America, how he proposed to his wife the first night he met her and the three steps to becoming successful. Get ready to learn and laugh about those topics and more on today’s show! More About This Show   About the time the Berlin Wall was coming down, Adam was about to become a legal adult. In Poland, at that time, if you were turning 18 you had to take exams to get into college. If you didn’t pass you were automatically drafted into the Polish military. Adam knew he’d never make it as a soldier so when he didn’t pass his exam, he came up with a plan to get to the US.   In Poland also at this time it often took up to a year just to get an interview at the US embassy with the consult and apply for a Visa. He knew he didn't have a year, he'd be drafted into the military by then so he decided to go to Austria because it was easier to get a visa to go there. From Austria he would go to the Canadian embassy, thinking the Canadians would welcome him! From Canada he thought it'd be easy to get into the US. Well he got to Austria but missed his appointment at the embassy and went back to Poland. Once back in Poland he thought he'd try his luck at the American embassy, so he got on a train to Warsaw. When he arrived in Warsaw he made his way to the embassy and saw there were no people in line - when normally there is an incredibly long line every day. It was an American holiday - Thanksgiving - and everyone thought the embassy would not be open. But they did open from 10 til 2 so he showed up and was inside 30 minutes later. He was interviewed, and convinced them to give him his visa! He got a two-way ticket, with a six month open window to return. Once he made it to America, he tore up that second half of his ticket so there was no going back. It was his first night in America and he was determined he was going to succeed - even though he had  little money, no job prospects and didn’t speak English!As you might imagine, Adam has done just that. He’s taught himself English, and learned everything he could about business and marketing. He also met the love of his life along the way. In fact, he met his wife not long after he arrived in the US. He spotted her on a subway train and she eyed him as well. He got off at her stop, cobbled together enough English to ask her a cigarette (they both smoked at the time) and walked her back to her apartment. He proposed that night - telling her they’d have two beautiful daughters and live happily ever after!   She laughed at him, but she gave him her phone number. And 25 years later they are still together, with those two beautiful daughters he promised her. Today they have one of the greatest, most fulfilling relationships: they totally "get" each other in business, in partnership, in romance, in friendship and in the bedroom.   Join us as Adam explains why it hasn’t been all “rainbows and kittens” throughout their 25 years together. He talks openly about their separation a few years ago, and why it’s all been worth it no matter what challenges they have faced.We also talk about his business, the Millionaire Marketing Mentor, and the three steps he followed to success. The first step is to anoint yourself as the best at what you do, next you work your butt off to deserve the title and finally you keep working at it for 20 years til everyone else calls you the best too! Listen in for that and more with Adam Urbanski on today’s 109th edition of the Sex, Money and Food podcast!   Adam Answers The Questions   Rank the following in order, Sex, Money, Food!   I’d have to say sex, money then food. I don’t quite get the food thing! It’s not high on the priority list. (Adam asks me this question too!)   Tweetable:  “Your business will only grow as fast as you grow !” - Adam Urbanski Episode Resources Adam Urbanski’s website Adam Urbanski on Twitter Adam Urbanski on Facebook DoTerra’s Emotional Aromatherapy Kit Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Follow me on Twitter Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes    

The Sex, Money, and Food Podcast   Welcome to this edition of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! Do you have a mental list of foods you should and should not eat? Most of us do. In today’s episode, we’re focusing on what happens when you restrict the food you eat, and why it’s not a healthy approach.   We take a deeper look at why you have that list of should and shouldn’t eat foods, how binge eating starts and how to let go of restrictions to create a healthier relationship with food. Find out about all of that and more on the 108th edition of Sex, Money and Food!   More About This Show   Most of crave different foods. For some of us we want salty before our periods, some of us want chocolate and sugar. And many of us deny ourselves those cravings because we believe it’s wrong to eat them, or we eat them and then feel ashamed after we do.   When it comes to our relationship with food, especially our cravings, there’s usually something deeper than just how they taste. It’s often tied to a binge-eating/restriction dynamic we’ve created for ourselves. We tell ourselves not to eat something and withhold it, only to later binge on it when we can no longer deny our cravings.   Personally I can relate. In high school I was a cheerleader and we would go to Islands before cheering. We went there to get their cheese fries - and we would get them with extra cheese!   Around this time I had gone on birth control and it completely changed my body. I had put on 20 pounds, which is a lot for anyone but even more so for me since I'm only 5'4"!   So instead of eating cheese fries with the other cheerleaders I decided to have a latte for breakfast, skip the cheese fries and go to Ralph's (a grocery store) to buy carrots and fat-free ranch dressing to eat. And that’s what I did: I brought my ranch and my carrots to Islands!   But then I would realize I wasn’t being filled up by my carrots and I wouldn’t have the energy to cheer if I didn’t eat more. So then I would binge-eat the fries, usually consuming 1.5 orders’ worth.   Whether it was cheese fries or something else, most of us have a similar story of starving ourselves only to binge eat later. As a result we create a love/hate relationship with food. We teach ourselves to obsess over it and start a rollercoaster ride of starving, binge-eating and/or emotional eating.  I did it, and I did it for 10-15 years. Do you still have this kind of mental/emotional relationship with food? Do you still have some kind of restriction on certain foods? Most of us still have some type of “should” and “should not” list of foods in our minds. Having that list gets in the way of enjoying food today and it stops us from allowing food to do what it is supposed to do: nourish our bodies.   In fact, we become overfed and undernourished. Ideally we get our nourishment from foods that are grown: plants and from the ground, fruits from bushes and trees, and humanely-raised animals.   When you see today’s episode can you allow it to help you look at your own food stories? What is it you tell yourself you cannot have: fries, cake, chocolate, alcohol? Then look at how those stories play games with your mind and how they make you a prisoner. Those stories take away from what should be a pleasurable experience.   Also on this edition of Sex, Money and Food I share why I don't weigh myself very often any longer, and how any weight fluctuation would've destroyed me in the past but not today. Tune in and let me know if you can relate to episode 108 of Sex, Money and Food! Tweetable:  “Food is meant to nourish our bodies!” - Alexandra Harbushka Episode Resources DoTerra’s Emotional Aromatherapy Kit Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Follow me on Twitter Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes

www.alexandraharbushka.com Leave a review: http://bit.ly/ReviewSexMoneyandFood PSST.  I will be reading your reviews in an upcoming episode so if you have any questions ask away :-)   The Sex, Money, and Food Podcast Welcome to this of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! When you hear the words postpartum what first comes to mind? Depression, right? In our culture we only think of postpartum as post-partum depression, but it actually means the period of time after a mom has given birth.   On episode 107 of Sex, Money and Food we are joined by Kimberly Johnson to talk about this very topic. Kimberly is a certified sexological bodyworker, doula, Somatic Experiencing trauma resolution practitioner and postpartum care advocate.   Today she explains what needs to happen for a woman during post-partum so she maintains lifelong health, how we can support other women and what it means to be a certified sexological worker. This is a fascinating conversation so be sure to join us on the 107th edition of Sex, Money and Food!   More About This Show   The first thing Kimberly and I talk about it is what it means to be a certified sexological worker. She explains that it is someone who can legally work with someone’s genitals during body work. Normally those areas aren't included, they are covered up and tucked away from sight. Doing so sends messages to us that those parts of ourselves are shameful or separate in some way.   However sexological bodywork says those areas are parts of our bodies that need attention too. In fact, those areas may need more attention because of the labels, experiences and misunderstandings our genitals experience, yet never process and integrate.   She goes on to explain that this type of work looks different depending on the person's needs. Some workers specialize in more daoist/erotic massage, some specialize in scar tissue remediation, and some in arousal.   We also discuss what trauma is exactly and why humans carry it but wild animals don’t. But the heart of today’s interview is postpartum and how this time in a woman’s life can be fully experienced to support her long-term health throughout the rest of her life and what we can do in a culture that doesn’t acknowledge the slowing down necessitated by postpartum.   In essence, if you've ever had a baby you've been through post-partum. Post-partum is just the period after you have a baby. Cultures around the world acknowledge a period between 20-60 days after a baby’s birth that is considered a sacred window.   During this time if women are properly nurtured and supported they will return to optimal health. But if they are not well taken care of, if they don't eat the right foods and aren't allowed to properly rest and that rest period isn't honored, then disease will set in and it will be difficult to get rid of. Kimberly explains that this is a time when as much as a mother gives to an infant she needs to receive that equally. She is giving loving touch, nourishing food, contact, spiritual companionship to her baby and she needs that in return. If she doesn't receive this treatment it becomes dysfunction like depression, anxiety, and other illnesses.   And it’s difficult for women to get this type of support in our culture. We celebrate and glorify women being super woman. We don't acknowledge that postpartum is a completely different time in a woman's life and should be lived as such. However if a woman doesn’t or can’t experience a healthy post-partum time in her life then her long-term health isn't going to be good.   And just because someone looks like they are healthy - doing headstands two weeks after their baby is born for example - doesn't mean it isn't damaging them internally. A lot of people exercise at such a high level because their anxiety levels are so high they must have physical activity to bring their system down. Our lives have become so sedentary that our exercise is becoming more high impact. Instead we should aim for finding a balance of being on our feet and sitting down, walking a few miles leisurely or walking to and from places rather than just our cars.   Our entire culture needs to know this, not just women. We can help facilitate a healthy postpartum for the women in our lives by dropping by to check on the new moms, doing the dishes for her, and bringing her nourishing and healthy foods. We can ooh and ahh over the new baby of course but it’s important we remember to make sure the new mom is getting what she needs nutritionally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.   We wrap up today’s show by talking about why people get depressed during postpartum, why there's so much trauma in birth today and how to recover from it so we all have health for the long-term. Find out about all of that and much more on this episode of Sex, Money and Food with Kimberly Johnson! Kimberly Answers the Questions   Q: Rank the following in order: sex, money, food. A: Oh wow! It kind of depends but I guess I’d go sex, food then money. Tweetable:  “Trauma is just an incomplete cycle in your nervous system.” - Kimberly Johnson Episode Resources Kimberly Johnson’s website Kimberly Johnson on YouTube DoTerra’s Emotional Aromatherapy Kit Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Follow me on Twitter Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes

The Sex, Money, and Food Podcast106: The Heroine’s Journey with Alexandra Harbushka Slaying dragons, important goals and femininity   Welcome to this of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! Are you familiar with the hero’s journey? Do you know why going on this journey as a feminine woman will leave you exhausted and disappointed at its end?   Today we’re going to find out as we talk about how to go on your own heroine’s journey and what makes the two different. Check it out on episode 106 of Sex, Money and Food!   More About This Show   Let's start by talking about being a hero: when I say hero what do you think of? Do you think of the white knight slaying dragons, capturing things on a treacherous solo journey?   Something like that is what most of us think of, but that’s a masculine approach. We as feminine women are not meant to follow that path. We're not meant to stay up for two weeks straight with no food, no sleep while we save the world by ourselves!   In real life that looks like attaching our happiness to an outside outcome like getting a certain job or career status, finding the perfect guy, getting married, buying a house and having a family. We tell ourselves we will be happy when we have one, some or all of the above. And we set ourselves up for disappointment with that approach.   Because we've made our happiness contingent on something "out there" even when we do achieve that external thing we are not happy and fulfilled. Why is that? Because we have missed the journey along the way, which is where our true joy lies.   When we go on the heroine’s journey instead we experience the entire process: the excitement, the happiness, the laughter, and the tears along the way. We are wired to create an emotional relationship with the people around us, those people who are a part of our journey.   When we stop trying to be a hero and are allowed to be a heroine we become powerful and dynamic. We can move mountains being the heroines we truly are! That is our ancestry and our lineage: we are gatherers who gather together on the journey.   However society has told us that the hero's journey is the way to success. The truth is even if we follow that hero’s path and we reach our goals, we are too tired to enjoy them at the end of our journey. We are left feeling empty and disappointed because we’ve missed the process and the experience.   I bring this topic up on today’s show because I wanted to share it with you as food for thought. So what do you think? Have you ever gone after a goal and reached it, only to feel empty or even resentful when you got there? On this episode, I also explain why there’s nothing wrong with having goals and ambitions, and I share a personal, wonderful surprise at the very end! Watch and listen to this episode of Sex, Money and Food to hear all of that and so much more. Thanks for being on this journey with me! Tweetable: "Enjoy the journey you have, enjoy your story." - Alexandra Harbushka Episode Resources DoTerra’s Emotional Aromatherapy Kit Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Follow me on Twitter Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes  

Welcome to this of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! Do you see a connection between emotional IQ and playing poker professionally? There is a link and our guest has found it. Kristy Arnett is an emotional intelligence (EQ) coach and a professional poker player.   Today she joins us to talk about that link, how she utilizes her ability to read others and their ability to read her and how she coaches people on taking calculated risks in their lives to achieve the dreams they desire most. Listen in for that and more on episode 105 of Sex, Money and Food.   More About This Show Kristy Arnett got into poker back in 2003, about the same time so many others did either playing at home or playing online. She’s always been competitive so when the guys on her college soccer team started playing she joined them, which is also how she met her husband.   In her senior year of college they moved to Vegas and she began reporting on soccer and then playing professionally. Today she plays professionally while also being an EQ coach, a writer and a podcaster.     On this episode she discloses her ninja trick: she knows while she's reading other poker players they are reading her! Her talent is a combination of reading people, being aware of how people perceive her along playing for more than a decade and working hard at the game. She also remains a student and is always learning and staying ahead of the curve.   One of the biggest lessons she learned wasn’t at the poker table however, it was in her marriage. When they met he was 22, and she was 19. They’ve now been together for 12 years, and have grown up together. They’ve also changed a lot in that time.   But there came a moment when it wasn’t working, for either of them. She says we all have moments in our lives when we get feedback and she got feedback that her husband wasn't happy in their marriage. She admits she was blind to a lot of things and ignored a lot of things. When she found out he had had an affair she knew it was a chance for her to look around at what she had created, and assess what she really wanted out of her life and her marriage. She had to figure out how to be the person she wanted and needed to be to crawl out of that devastating situation.   The first thing that moved her healing along was when she asked herself how can I take responsibility here? While that may seem counterintuitive and perhaps even controversial, it was the question that opened up an opportunity for both of them to heal.   She knew she could blame him for all of it and take all the victimhood and the attention that goes along with it, but she knew the way to freedom in any situation is to ask how can I take responsibility for what has happened, even if it’s just a little bit of responsibility?   When she did that it started her road to healing and freedom; she could see clearly how she had contributed.   For a long time he suffered from depression and she was so removed from vulnerability or softness that she didn't know how to be there for him. She grew up with a “tiger mom” who didn't give hugs and didn't talk about feelings.   So when her husband repeatedly told her he felt like she never listened to him she would be defensive and push him away and make him feel wrong.   As soon as she understood her part and took responsibility, they were able to have an open dialogue and talk about their future together. Doing so allowed them both to forgive themselves and each other, to start the healing process.   Today she's grateful for taking responsibility in that experience because it's helped them to change the course of their marriage and their lives together. It brought everything up in a way so that they had nothing to lose. They were able to get everything out in the open. Their relationship is in an even better place now and she's a better person for having been through that. On this episode she explains why there is so much possibility and opportunity in any devastating moment, why we must always remember our partner is choosing us and we are choosing them, even in a marriage.   We lighten up the discussion by also talking about playing professional poker and how it's like the stock market; Kristy explains how she knows what she's earning and the work she does to prepare for playing. And she describes the audio guide meant to be a tool to use when you're stuck, and how you can get it for free. Watch, listen and learn on today’s Sex, Money and Food episode with Kristy Arnett!   Tweetable: “In any devastating moment there is possibility.” - Kristy Arnett Kristy Answers The Questions   Q: Rank the following in order: Sex, Money, Food? A: I knew you’d ask that and I knew it’d be an in-the-moment answer. It’s sex, food then money. The reason sex is on the table right now is my husband and I are trying to make a baby, and it’s that time if you know what I mean!   Q: There is nothing better in life than… A: Love! Everything that is worth having, everything that is worth working for is an extension of ourselves looking to be loved and looking to love people.   Q: What does  “reading people” smell like to you? A: Oh! That’s a really great question because there’s something so succulent about being able to read someone and to know what they are saying without them saying it. I guess if you’re asking for an actual smell one of the most succulent smells is a sizzling steak. Episode Resources Kristy Arnett’s website Kristy Arnett on Twitter My episode on WTF Am I Doing With My Life? WTF Am I Doing With My Life? podcast Kristy’s audio guide gift for you DoTerra’s Emotional Aromatherapy Kit Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Follow me on Twitter Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes

The Sex, Money, and Food Podcast Detoxing, Juices, and Yoga with Alexandra Harbushka   Welcome to this of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! If I say detox what comes to mind? Do you think of feeling lighter, healthier and more energized? Or do you immediately think of depriving yourself?   On episode 104 of the Sex, Money and Food podcast I’m talking about how we can detox without feeling deprived or restricted. I’ll share some simple things you can add to your life and things you can temporarily give up to make yourself healthier. Listen in for that and more on today’s show!   More About This Show   Recently I started thinking about the subject of detoxing because it’s spring. Spring means spring cleaning, removing clutter and cleaning house from top to bottom. I wondered if we could apply this to our health too: can we spring clean our food and our bodies?   But before you start thinking about pills, juices, diets or anything else that equals permanent restriction stop yourself! What I'm talking about today is detoxing without restrictions.   What are things you can remove temporarily or add that will enhance your body and allow it to detox? How can you spring clean your body?   Some of the ways you can do this are by removing sugar, soy, dairy, alcohol, gluten, caffeine, and any other food sensitivities you have.   But I'm not talking about giving these up permanently, just taking some time for your body to rest. For example I found that I process alcohol at 50% so every now and then I will give up drinking for a few days. That allows my body to release the alcohol and detox.   So think of what you can take out for 3 days, 5 days, two weeks - and then do it.   What about sugar? Today we know sugar is incredibly addictive and unhealthy, so can you take out white sugar for a week? Focus on only having fruit or honey, and giving up cookies, cakes, and other sugary-based foods.   I know this is so beneficial because a few years ago I gave up dairy. It was one of the hardest, but also one of the best things I have ever done for myself. Now I eat it occasionally. If I go to someone's house and they offer me something with dairy I will eat it, but otherwise I eat it every few months at the most. You don't have to go to that extent, just try omitting something from your diet for a few days or a week and see how you feel. Chances are if you feel better without it you won't want to put it back into your diet!   There are other things you can add to your lifestyle that will help you detox. Drink more water. As obvious as that sounds very few of us drink enough water. Add some lemon to it, lemon adds acidity which will help your body maintain a proper pH balance.   Also on today’s episode I explain how going to bed earlier is something you can add to your diet, along with epsom salt baths and choosing more natural makeup and cleaning products. And I wrap up with why I gave up anti-perspirants 10 years ago, and it’s a healthy thing to do for your body. You’ll hear that and more on episode 104 of the Sex, Money and Food show! Tweetable: “Add to your body so it can detox naturally.” - Alexandra Harbushka Episode Resources Amy Krasner’s Podcast Marisa Molina’s Podcast Beauty Counter DoTerra’s Emotional Aromatherapy Kit Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Follow me on Twitter Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes

www.alexandraharbushka.com Leave a review: http://bit.ly/ReviewSexMoneyandFood PSST.  I will be reading your reviews in an upcoming episode so if you have any questions ask away :-)   Welcome to this of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! When it comes to money sometimes we bury our heads in the sand; it just seems like too much to deal with so we avoid it.   On this edition of the Sex, Money, and Food Podcast, we’re getting out of that sand and into a fun, lively and engaging discussion about money with Justin Krane. Justin is money savvy, and he believes in living a life you enjoy - not skipping that latte so you can be a gazillionaire at 80!   Tune in to hear how you can actually enjoy talking about and dealing with your money, no matter where you are financially.   More About This Show   Justin Krane is a certified financial planner who has been featured on CBS, MSNBC and Fox Business News. He’s also written a book called Money. You Got This; if you combined Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm and money you’d have a taste of what Justin’s book is like!   In his work, Justin primarily focuses on helping entrepreneurial women and female business owners be strategic about their finances. He believes in saving for the future but still living a great life today - having your latte, buying those great shoes, etc.   On today’s Sex, Money and Food we talk about goosebump goals (what they are and why you want them), how and why to start tracking numbers even if you think you can’t or haven’t done it before, and the exact steps you can take to start handling your money right now no matter what your financial situation looks like.   Justin’s avatar is the female entrepreneur or small business owner. Her name is Rachel and she’s flying by the seat of her pants. In fact, she’s building that plane that is flying her as she goes along!   She doesn't have a plan of what to do with the money when it comes in and she's guessing on her numbers. She is aware and feels bad about not doing more in this area, but she keeps her head in the sand until suddenly her friend gets breast cancer. In that instant, everything changes for her. She realizes she has got to take care of her money because if she don't deal with it then her money is going to deal with her. That’s where Justin comes in. He helps her avoid shutting down about her finances, like she has in the past. He makes the process much simpler and more approachable for her. He also makes sure she doesn’t feel terrible for where she is, he shows her things are always possible no matter what.   Tweetable: “You have to put your oxygen mask on first.” - Justin Krane Here is how he recommends getting started: First, have a glass of wine! Chill out and take the edge off of the experience. Don’t let yourself get wigged out, have a glass of wine or a cup of coffee/tea/green juice.   Second, get your head out of the sand! It’s okay you put it there in the first place but now is the time to get out and get on with things. You can’t move ahead if you don’t know where you are right now; when you get your head out of the sand you can see where you are right now and create a path to moving forward.   Third, pay yourself first.Are you doing this? When money comes in take a certain percentage and put it into a different account. This should be between 10-30%. 10% would be for an emergency fund so we don't have to do things because we need the money. The other 20% is for you have to pay taxes. Most accountants will say to set aside 15-20% of your sales for taxes because this helps you avoid getting a big financial surprise! It also keeps you out of the poverty/lack mindset where we are afraid to take the right risks and grow. On this episode, he explains what the right risks are and how you know whether to take them or not. We also talk about goosebump goals and why they are better than SMART goals! Goosebump goals are the things that get you excited, it could be buying a home or taking that trip you’ve always wanted to take, etc. If you have a spouse be sure you talk about your goosebump goals and your money with him or her.   To wrap up the show, Justin shares why he hates it when personal finance gurus tell people not to buy their daily coffee and I candidly share how I have learned to ask for help in my business and in my life. Get your notebooks out because you’ll hear all of that and more on this edition of Sex, Money and Food with Justin Krane! Justin Answers The Questions   Q: Rank the following in order: Sex, Money, Food? A: I’m going to go with sex and love as my own co-mingled #1, then food and money is third.   Q: There is nothing better in life than… A: I think a great day that’s like exercise, a great meal, meditating or a nap and then a cool movie.   Q: What does  “money” smell like to you? A: Initially it’s that dollar bill smell, it’s not a great smell. It’s a little like moldy! I think it’s not a great smell, but we hardly use cash anymore. Episode Resources Justin Krane’s website Justin’s gift to you Money. You Got This., by Justin Krane Justin Krane on Twitter DoTerra’s Emotional Aromatherapy Kit Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Follow me on Twitter Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes    

  www.alexandraharbushka.com Leave a review: http://bit.ly/ReviewSexMoneyandFood PSST.  I will be reading your reviews in an upcoming episode so if you have any questions ask away :-)     Welcome to this episode of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! Does money, sex and/or food run your life? How do you know?   On this edition of the Sex, Money, and Food Podcast, we’ll talk about how to know if one of these areas is running the show, and how to switch it up so you are playing with these areas instead. You’ll hear specific examples on how to do this and you’ll hear why self-love is the best foundation on which to build your life.   More About This Show   Since few of us are given an education on any or all of these areas let’s jump right in and talk about each subject. We’ll start with sex.   Sex is your life force energy, it's your creative energy. If you've been listening to this podcast you know what I'm saying! If not, think of it like your pilot light - it keeps you on. Sex allows women to be feminine, to create and it helps us use that energy in all areas of our life. It is that fire that keeps you lit and energized and vibrant.   Now food also keeps you lit up and energized. Food is fuel for your body, just as your car needs fuel to run so does your body. Without fuel your car won't go and neither will you! Fortunately today there is a growing movement towards more whole foods like salads, fruits, nuts, chicken, etc.   Another thing we need to survive today is money. In our society we pay for things with money and we earn an income based on what we do for our clients and/or the value we provide for our employer. Even if we went back to trade and barter that's still a form money because things have a certain value and we exchange them for other things - just like we do with money.   Often we get out of alignment with an area because we don’t have much (if any) education about it. Think about sex for example. Even if we had sex education growing up through school and/or at home, odds are it was not extensive. We were probably taught to not get pregnant, but not much else.   No one talked to us about the different types of sex, if we should only sleep with our spouse or significant other, how to integrate into our lives, etc.   Similarly, food also doesn't get talked about much. We aren’t taught how to eat, what to eat, what is healthy and what is not. There are stigmas about being overweight, especially for women.   And finally comes money. We aren’t given much education on this topic, not directly. But indirectly most of us have a money story from our parents, or primary caregiver who raised us.   Often something happened to us when we were growing up that created the money story we have today. We may think we'll always be poor because we grew up poor, money may be scarce in our lives now because it was scarce when we were little. Unless we do something to change that story it will be the story that continues in our lives.   These are all explanations that make my point: don't let sex, money and food run your life, instead learn to play with them in your life. Learning to play with each area starts by having a foundation of self-love and having a loving relationship with yourself first and foremost.   You can start your self-love journey by carving out time for yourself. Whether it’s going out of your way to get your favorite coffee, or taking a bubble bath or reading that book you’re so excited about, make a date to take care of yourself.   On today’s show I talk about my personal journey with self-love and how I began it by giving love to everyone I met throughout my day. Listen in to for that story as well as why you must make yourself a priority before anyone else will. Hear that and more on episode 102 of the Sex, Money and Food podcast! Tweetable: “When you are radically in love with yourself it overflows.” - Alexandra Harbushka Episode Resources Me on Kristy Arnett’s WTF AM I Doing With My Life? podcast The Self-Love Checklist Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Follow me on Twitter Emotional Therapy Diffused Enrollment Kit   Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes    

www.alexandraharbushka.com Leave a review: http://bit.ly/ReviewSexMoneyandFood PSST.  I will be reading your reviews in an upcoming episode so if you have any questions ask away :-)     The Sex, Money, and Food Podcast 101: Embracing ALL of Our Emotions, with Michele PW Talking about Fear, Love and Positive Emotions with Michele PW Welcome to this episode of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! If you want to truly experience joy then you must be willing to experience sadness. Do you think this is true?   On this edition of the Sex, Money, and Food Podcast, our guest is Michele PW joins us to talk about feeling ALL of the feelings and why doing so is what ultimately allows us to experience the highest forms of love and joy and peace. You’ll hear Michele share why we don’t need to suppress our fear, anger, sadness or grief and how to actually feel those feelings without acting on them. Listen in for that and more on episode 101 of The Sex, Money and Food podcast!   More About This Show   Michele PW is someone who knows about emotions. She is the best-selling author of the Love-based copywriting books and she produces the podcast, Love-based Money. Her books and her podcast focus on using positive emotions in copywriting and in personal finance, but at the core of her teachings she shows people how to embrace all of their emotions.   Today we began by talking about why people are afraid of feeling fear-based emotions like anger, grief, shame, guilt, anxiety, and worry. In fact Michele says people are so afraid of those emotions that they tamp down ALL their emotions. It’s a cultural thing: we’ve been conditioned to hide our vulnerability and our fears.   Along the way we have forgotten that all of our emotions have an important purpose. They are warning signs for us to pay attention to, like anger which means our boundaries are being pushed. When we feel sadness and grief it means something we loved is over.   Even fear, shame and guilt all have their own purpose; fear shows us that sometimes there is really something to be afraid of in that dark corner we can’t see, shame and guilt are there to help us live in a community and among our tribe. At our core we are tribal beings and want to be with our people.   Our society has become so focused on our intellectual side that we’ve lost touch with the importance of our emotions. And that's why people are so uncomfortable when someone is expressing a fear-based emotion like sadness or grief. If someone is crying people will grab a tissue and tell them it's going to be okay, even if they don't know it's going to be okay.   People do so because the crying is making them uncomfortable. What most of us don’t realize is that the person’s discomfort with grief or sadness then puts pressure on the person experssing their grief or sadness to stop expressing those emotions, to stop feeling and stop crying. So even if someone want to show their sadness, they cannot because other people aren’t okay with it.   Which led me to ask her how we can sit with our own emotions, feel them and be okay with them. Michele had several pieces of advice, the first being to stop and breathe. Rather than posting a rant on social media when you feel triggered, instead just stop and breathe while allowing the emotions to swirl inside of you. Eventually you’ll find they will pass and you will come out the other side.   Michele also recommends following a book called The Presence Process by Michael Brown. It's a ten week program with specific breathing techniques and tools he guides you to use through each of the ten weeks. On today’s show Michele explains the breathing technique in the book, why it helps us become present and the emotions-related reason why we actively avoid being present in our lives.   We also discuss looking at your shadow, and how to have a relationship with your shadow. She gives specific examples including what our relationship with money says about our shadow and what to do if you are really worried about your finances. You can hear that and so much more on this edition of The Sex, Money and Food podcast with Michele PW! Michele Answers The Questions   Q: Rank the following in order: Sex, Money, Food? A: I knew you were going to ask me this so I thought about it! I think I’m going to rank food first because if you don’t eat then the other two things can only sustain you for so long!   Q: There is nothing better in life than… A: being able to feel everything, even the good and the bad.       Tweetable: “All fear-based emotions have a purpose.” - Michele PW   Episode Resources Michele PW’s Gift Michele PW’s website Love-based Money podcast Love-based Money book Michele PW on Twitter Fear-based emotions list The Presence Process, by Michael Brown Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Follow me on Twitter Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes    

www.alexandraharbushka.com Leave a review: http://bit.ly/ReviewSexMoneyandFood PSST.  I will be reading your reviews in an upcoming episode so if you have any questions ask away :-) The Sex, Money, and Food Podcast   Support, Acceptance, and Vulnerability   Welcome to the 100th episode of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! I am extra excited for today’s show because it’s our 100th episode together and also because we are talking about a favorite topic of mine: asking for help.   On this edition of the Sex, Money, and Food Podcast, I’ll be sharing why I used to be the person who didn’t allow others to help me, why we all need to evaluate our lives and the role self-love plays in asking for help and receiving it from others. This is a fun, insightful and important subject so hear all about it on today’s show.   More About This Show As I was thinking about what to talk about with you I reviewed my list of topics. Not a single thing jumped out at me so I allowed my intuition to guide me.   It led me to my friend Justin Crane’s book called Money: You Got This and, in particular, to chapter three of the book which talks about asking for help. And that subject really spoke to me, I knew that was what we should talk about today.   Throughout our lives, especially as women, we think we are superwomen who don't need to ask for help. One of the quotes in the book, from Justin's grandmother, is "You can't even see the hump on your own back!". It's a good reminder we need to ask for help from experts and other people in our lives.   This particular chapter discussed having experts come in and help you with your finances, and why it's important to ask for help if you want your finances to work!   The same is true of other areas of our lives. Aside from money, think about times when you don't accept help that is offered to you or you don't ask for help when you need it. Do you not allow someone to put your luggage in the overhead bin on the airplane?   Look at instances like that in your life, look for the little ways you do or don’t ask for help. Do you allow someone to open the door for you if your hands are full?   Personally I didn’t always. I was the girl who said I can do it, I don't need your help! It could be because I am an only child and am very independent, or it may have been because I didn’t want to seem weak or needy. So many of us don't ask for help or allow others to help us because it shows vulnerability, and we aren’t comfortable with that. And sometimes we don’t ask for help because we don’t even know we need it! That’s why it's important to look at your life and evaluate where you can allow people to help you more.   That’s where self-love comes in. Yes self-love is about enjoyment, but it’s also about evaluating your life. Where are you with your love life, your education, your finances, etc.? Find out where you are so you can put a game plan together and ask for help.   And when you know where you need help figure out how to get it. If you can't afford a professional to help you, think of another way to ask for help. Is there a teenager in your neighborhood who needs extra cash and will do your laundry for less? Look outside of the box to solve your problems and find solutions that aren't traditional.   But the first step is evaluating the areas of your life and I talk more about doing so on today’s show. I’ve even included a link in the Resources section, tune in to episode 100 and then use that link to evaluate where and how you’re going to ask for help!       Tweetable: “Put a game plan together and ask for help.” - Alexandra Harbushka Episode Resources Guide to evaluate your life Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge   Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes  

www.alexandraharbushka.com Leave a review: http://bit.ly/ReviewSexMoneyandFood PSST.  I will be reading your reviews in an upcoming episode so if you have any questions ask away :-) The Sex, Money, and Food Podcast   Sexuality, Music, and Entrepreneurship   Welcome to this of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! Have you considered what would shift if your life if you could tap into your sexual energy in every moment of your day? If you haven’t you will be after this episode! Today we’re talking with Calvin Correli about living from our sexual energy in every area of our lives.   Calvin is an artist, entrepreneur, and the CEO of Simplero. He is passionate about helping online business owners do exactly what brings them most alive. He is also a healer and is currently working on bringing all of his talents -- including music, spirituality and personal growth - into an exciting new service for entrepreneurs.   On this edition of the Sex, Money, and Food Podcast, we talk about how Calvin fought against his innate nature for so long, how every act of loving, and supportive sexual intimacy between men and women heals the global collective, and why living from our sexual energy is a natural state for everyone.   More About This Show   Calvin grew up in Denmark and recalls a painful childhood of not being understood nor seen by his dad, and being an emotional caretaker for his mom. His parents also did not have a sexul or intimate relationship, and as a result he grew up with a self-described “messed up” relationship with women.   On this episode of the show we talk about how he worked to heal his intimate relationships, and how he now sees the beauty in a woman with only appreciation for her beauty and not the resentment he had felt in the past or the need to act on his desire for her beauty.   We dig into those topics a little later on but the first thing I asked him to share was how (and why) we can use our sexual energy throughout our day and in every area of our lives.   Calvin has found it is fun and playful to bring sexual energy into every relationship - not in a way that is violating to someone's boundaries but in a way that reflects the reality of our ever-present sexual energy. He explains that by suppressing our natural sexual energy we make it worse; suppression and avoidance doesn't make it better.   In fact, he says violations only happen because we have trauma around our sexuality. If every guy was cool with just feeling sexual desire and energy knowing that it doesn't mean it has to be acted on and that he can just feel the desire then he wouldn’t violate any woman.   He goes on to describe how men and women are different, whether in the workplace or elsewhere. Aside from the obvious physical differences, the masculine energy is more about doing, fixing, and the like, while the feminine energy is about creation, collaboration, sharing, etc.   And he also describes how the purpose of a woman’s orgasm is different from the purpose of a man’s. Women can orgasm in different ways and can access different areas than men can. In fact, sometimes when a woman has a particularly deep and/or intense orgasm she cries. Those tears are allowing her to open up deeper and deeper layers of her own femininity and the collective feminine.   Calvin says the relationship between the global masculine and feminine has been horrible for so many years, but every time a man and woman get together in an open, loving space it is a tremendous opportunity for collective healing between the masculine and the feminine.   And if we lived from our sexual energy rape, sexual assault and other violations would diminish (if not disappear). He explains why that’s true and how he shifted his own perception of women from caretaking and resentment to one of appreciation.   You’ll also hear why sexual energy is spiritual energy, why we don’t need to abstain from pleasurable experiences like sex and food in order to be spiritual and why he’d outlaw guilt if he could! We dig into those scintillating topics and more on this episode of Sex, Money and Food with Calvin Correli.   Tweetable: “Sex is deeply spiritual, and spirituality is deeply sexual.” -  Calvin Correli Calvin Answers The Questions   Q: Rank the following in order: Sex, Money, Food? A: That’s a tough one! Life without food is only so long. You can get along without money. Sex, food, money.   Q: There is nothing better in life than… A: The first word that pops into my head was love. It feels a little cliche but I guess it’s true!   Q: Your ultimate pleasure in life is? A:  Sex is definitely up there! But there’s also a deeper feeling like feeling whole and complete and in union with everything, which sex can be a part of that.   Q: What does self worth of minus 1 billion/true anarchy smell like to you? A:  Rank! Like in a dark, humid, moist basement room that has old stuff in it and hasn’t been aired out for a long time.   Q: What is a mistake or a circumstance did you go through regarding sex, money and food that is has allowed you grow and learn from. Or is there something that you would say...I will never do that again! A: I feel like I’m still doing all of this. Money was really tough for a long until I realized I was using lack of money to avoid looking inside at what wasn’t working with my work life and what I really wanted to do. I was actually scared of looking at what I really wanted to do because I was afraid I might not like it and it might not be what I wanted it to be. I really wanted to be a different person than it turns out I am - but now I kind of like it!   Episode Resources Calvin Correli’s website Calvin Correli on Twitter Vagina: A New Biography, by Naomi Wolf There’s Nothing Wrong With You, by Cheri Huber The Red Paper Clip story Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes

The Sex, Money, and Food PodcastEpisode 098: A Whiff to Your Success, with Danielle Daniel   Smelling, Brain Science and Empowering Women with Danielle Daniel Welcome to this of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! Today we’re talking about a fascinating topic: how we can use essential oils to smell our way to success and well-being.   On this episode of the Sex, Money, and Food Podcast, we’re joined by Danielle Daniel who is a licensed psychotherapist, a Clinical Psychology PhD student specializing in the field of Psychopharmacology (the study of aromatic compounds impact on the brain). In her business, she combines her knowledge with her passion for empowering women to achieve success through emotional wellness.   More About This Show   If you’ve ever been stressed out and then taken a walk in nature to relieve your tension you know how impactful nature’s scent can be on your mood. Quality essential oils come from nature and mimic what their source does naturally.   Take peppermint for example: the cold pressed oil of peppermint (or any other essential oil) is very powerful. In fact essential oils are 50-75x more powerful than the herb itself. In the case of peppermint one drop of it is equal to 28 cups of peppermint tea!   One of Danielle’s favorite things to do is to have people put one drop of peppermint on their hand, rub their hands together and then rub the oil on to the backs of their necks so it gets into their bloodstream quickly. Also she has them inhale it so it can get into their neural factory pathways and respiratory system to invigorate them and help them breathe deeply.   When I asked her to explain more about the emotional part of aromatherapy she talked about the different effects different oils have on the brain. For example, frankincense is an oil that is good for nearly everything from relieving anxiety to increasing memory to alleviating stress. If you find yourself triggered by the same experience or emotion you can change that by using certain essential oils. Danielle says she used an essential oil the day we recorded this episode: she was frustrated by something but caught herself in that frustrated mode. Instead of going into a downward spiral about it, she grabbed an essential oil blend and it changed her emotional state within just a few minutes!   I was curious about that and asked her to dig deeper into the emotional aspects of aromatherapy. According to Danielle’s extensive psychopharmacology research, nature can tell you what something is going to do by what it looks like and smells like.   Take citrus as an example: citrus fruits, like lemons, limes, tangerines, are bright and vibrant. That is exactly what citruses and citrus oils do: they bring out feelings of brightness, happiness and vibrancy in the brain. Next we talked about being in a forest and the trees in a forest: what feelings do trees evoke? I said trees bring out feelings of being grounded, wisdom and deep roots. Essential oils from trees do just that: they help the brain get present in the moment, get connected and be here and now.   Essential oils that come from trees are oils like cedarwood, frankincense, sandalwood, spruce, white fir. They are grounding and rooted, so they are especially helpful for people whose emotions fluctuate a lot or anyone with special needs.   On today’s episode, we also talk about the emotions that flower essential oils and spice essential oils bring out in us, and what happens when you put essential oils on the various pulse points in our bodies. Danielle goes into detail about the internal intuition our bodies possess about what works for them, and what we need. You’ll even hear a fascinating story about two horses and their different responses to peppermint and oregano! Listen in for that and more on this episode of Sex, Money and Food with Danielle Daniel. Danielle Answers The Questions   Q: Rank the following in order, Sex, Money, Food: A: Right now my sole focus is empowering women and I’m building my million dollar business so I’d say money. Wealth is really something I’m focused on.   Q: There is nothing better in life than… A: connecting with others - that is the first thing that came to mind.   Q: Your ultimate pleasure in life is? A: I’m a beach girl! I just love being at the beach - wakeboarding in Mission Bay or surfing out in the ocean.   Q: What do essential oils smell like to you? A: Nature. I like nature. I read a blog post the other day about how when we’re in nature and how it helps with calming, anxious emotions. She’s a psychotherapist as well and she has a blog about helping people with their anxiety. There are aromas that are in nature and those aromas are essential oils.   Q: What is a mistake or a circumstance did you go through regarding sex, money and food that is has allowed you grow and learn from. Or is there something that you would say...I will never do that again! A: I would say it was a big turning point for me in my career: I went to San Diego State for my Master’s and got my degree in social work. What happened was I was in my dream job of working with teens with suicidal ideation but I went to school and got my degree in social work because my heart was in helping people.   But I had a big turning point when I was in my mid-30s when I wasn’t married and had been in that dream job for about 8 years, but was living paycheck to paycheck and could barely save to buy the current home I’m in. I loved my job but didn’t know if I could do it til I was 65, I also wanted to travel and do humanitarian work.   I knew I needed to make a change and I knew it was up to me and not waiting on a husband coming into my life; I wanted to show the world that I could be single and successful.   Tweetable: “Different essential oils do different things for the brain!” - Danielle Daniel   Episode Resources Danielle Daniel’s website Danielle’s giveaway Danielle Daniel on Instagram Danielle Daniel on Facebook Zoom’s website Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Follow me on Twitter Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes

www.alexandraharbushka.com Leave a review: http://bit.ly/ReviewSexMoneyandFood PSST.  I will be reading your reviews in an upcoming episode so if you have any questions ask away :-)     The Sex, Money, and Food Podcast Welcome to this of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! Today is a very important topic, something we all want and strive for in our lives: happiness. We all want to be happy. But what does that look like? How do we find our happiness? And how do we even know if we are happy?   On this episode of the Sex, Money, and Food Podcast, we are talking about why it’s important we experience other emotions to feel true happiness, how not to get “stuck” in other emotions and one very important step we can all take to create happiness in our lives.   More About This Show   Happiness: what is it and how do you know if you have it? These are two important questions to ask yourself if you are trying to find your happiness.   In your pursuit of happiness it’s critical to remember that it is okay to feel sad, tired, angry, any of those non-happy emotions. It's okay to feel the ups and downs of life. In fact, you don't always have to be happy! Unless you feel something other than happy you won't know what it means to feel happiness. If you're always happy it's like you take it for granted.   For example I live near the ocean in San Diego and some days when I drive by it I don't even notice it! The same thing applies to happiness: if we never feel anything but happiness we won't have the awareness to know when we're truly happy.   Even though it’s natural to experience other feelings like sadness, it’s not okay to get caught up in those feelings. You don’t need or want to get stuck in victimhood, self-sabotage or the “woah is me” emotional space. Being in that kind of emotional space makes life a pretty miserable experience!   With all of that being said, how do you find your happiness? One of the steps to getting to happiness is forgiveness. It's the big F word! This is a difficult one for most of us; it's hard to say we are sorry and apologize. But as you do apologize to others remember that you didn’t intend to hurt the other person. Rarely do we do something because we want to hurt another, it’s usually because we are upset about our own “stuff”.   And try saying you're sorry to yourself too. Apologize to yourself for whatever story you've been hanging on to that has kept you from being happy, and then try letting go of that narrative. Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful, you are awesome and you can do it!   Remember you have everything within you to be happy. Hard times come to all of us, life happens to all of us, but you can make the choice to be angry, to be a victim or to be happy.   On today's show I share a personal example from my life about when I struggled with my weight and the negative stories I made up about the women I would see who had the ideal body I wanted to have. You’ll hear about that and much more on this edition of the Sex, Money and Food podcast. Tweetable: “You have everything within you to be happy!” - Alexandra Harbushka       Episode Resources Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Follow me on Twitter Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes

Leave a review: http://bit.ly/ReviewSexMoneyandFood PSST.  I will be reading your reviews in an upcoming episode so if you have any questions ask away :-) The Sex, Money, and Food Podcast   The Stages to Creating  Success with Kamila Gorina Welcome to this of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! Today we have a very special guest, business maven Kamila Gornia. Kamila is strategist who helps entrepreneurs become leaders online with her marketing methods - and have fun in the process!   On this episode of the Sex, Money, and Food Podcast, Kamila shares her background of emigrating from Poland as a teenager, what she learned from a toxic relationship and her five steps to making you and your business known in the world. Even if you aren’t an entrepreneur you can still learn how to apply those five steps in other areas of your life.   More About This Show   When Kamila first moved to America, she was 13. She had been raised in a small town in Poland when her family moved to Chicago. It was culture shock in more ways than one! She didn’t know the language, she had no friends and she was in a much, much more urban setting than her hometown.   So she learned English, she made friends and she adapted. She learned to take charge and go after what she wanted, she knew that was the only way she would get it. And all of those lessons and experiences served her well when she became an entrepreneur.   However her career didn’t begin with entrepreneurship. After getting out of a toxic relationship, she put her full focus on work and career. Her day job was working at a marketing agency and she ran her own wellness blog on the side. With no relationship to distract her, she began looking for what else would truly fulfill her. She decided to go off on her own and have her own business working with her own clients.   She says it was a rollercoaster ride for the first few years, it felt like being in labor! It had tremendous ups and downs, and lots of growing pains. Today however she has found a better balance now between all the areas of her life.   In the process of working with her clients, she has discovered a five step process they all go through to get from the initial stages of a business to being successful leaders in their marketplace. Those five steps are below, and as you read them remember they can apply to other areas of your life too.   Think up. In this first stage think of who you serve, what you are going to provide them with and what need you will fulfill in the marketplace. Set up. This is where you get your foundation set up. This stage usually involves coming up with your marketing and marketing plans, growing your list and expanding your audience, and landing your first clients.   Blow up. Stage three is getting on the scene and becoming known. Here is where you are becoming booked out with clients and momentum has started. Just how big this becomes is relative to each client but blowing up is stage three.   Scale up. In this stage you begin to leverage your time to bring in more income. Here you create more leveraged offers, more products, more programs, new and different courses, as well as more sales funnels and paid marketing ads.   Free up. The final stage is to free you up from your business. This is when you are looking at ways to become more profitable, manage a team and full-time people who work for you. You are also looking at other ways you can grow and move into the big name status.   You’ll notice the big themes for these five stages are momentum, energy and flow. Each stage builds upon the previous one but once you have momentum it becomes easier and easier.   On this episode of the podcast, Kamila explains this is the model she teaches to all of her clients, depending on where they are at when they come to her. She also shares how these stages apply to other areas of life as well as some of her recent wins! Listen in for all of that and more on this edition of the Sex, Money and Food podcast. Kamila Answers The Questions   Q: Rank the following in order, Sex, Money, Food: A: I would say sex first then money then food...which is funny because I never thought I would say sex first! It’s a way for us to connect with ourselves and that affects money, that affects food and that affects everything else which is why I am saying it is first.   Q: There is nothing better in life than… A: experiences I would say - just any kind of experiences. Whenever we don’t challenge ourselves or get out of our box we become stagnant and when we are stuck we deteriorate. Trying new things allows us to grow.   Q: Your ultimate pleasure in life is? A: My ultimate pleasure would have to be my business. I have created my business in a way to have fun with it and be excited about it. It’s closely tied to my passion: helping people step into leadership and spreading their message.   Q: What does a “sales funnel” smell like to you? A: It smells like dedication, like sweat - like sweet sweat, the sexy kind.   Q: What is a mistake or a circumstance did you go through regarding sex, money and food that is has allowed you grow and learn from. Or is there something that you would say...I will never do that again! A: The one that stands out to me right now is there is a guy I used to date, it was a very toxic relationship. We were together for about a year, and it definitely scarred me in a lot of ways. I put up walls, which I’m still working through and shattering today. But the good thing is that it allowed to stand in what I believe I really deserve and standing up for myself. Because I had these experiences it allowed me to mature and trust myself and be smarter in the future.   Q: The book beside your bed is? A: I’m reading a lot of books! There is one that I am kind of reading (it’s not a very traditional read) and it is Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss.   Tweetable: “A sales funnel is basically like sex!” - Kamila Gornia   Episode Resources Kamila Gornia’s website Kamila Gornia on Facebook Kamila Gornia on Twitter Kamila Gornia on Instagram Kamila Gornia on YouTube Tools of Titans, by Tim Ferriss Connect with me on Instagram Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes