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When was the last time you woke up feeling like you were excited to dive into your day? If you're not sure, you might be suffering from burnout.  In this week's episode, I'm sharing the 12 phases of burnout (as developed by psychologists!) and talking about why I think—as hand raisers and yes sayers—we're especially prone to burning ourselves out.  I'm also sharing one of my favorite super-easy-to-start-using tools for beginning to move yourself beyond burnout. What I Said: "The answer to moving beyond burnout is never that you need to work harder." "If we say ‘yes’ without saying ‘no,’ then we are just saying ‘yes’ to everything, and that’s not going to work" "We often hang out in the early stages of burnout and don’t think there is anything wrong with that." "Moving forward does not mean we have to sacrifice ourselves.” Those Timestamps 04:30 - The 12 phases of burnout 06:35 - Excess of ambition 08:30 - displacement of conflict 09:46 - Denial of problems 10:57 - Getting out of the early stages of burnout 12:25 - Moving forward and chill out at the same time 16:01 - Start practicing a pause 19:11 - Those (entertainment) systems are working against us. Show Notes: Get the Core Values Masterclass (half off through 12/4!) Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach The 12 Phases of Burnout Hurry Slowly podcast episode on burnout

I loved talking with Natalie Lue for this week's vintage episode and we covered so much ground, including: habits (and relationships!) that aren't serving you, how to step beyond those well-worn patterns, drama and our addiction to it, and how people-pleasing is actually a manipulation (SAY WHAT?!). We also covered identities that don't serve us, letting other people dim our light, and why having emotional baggage doesn't mean anything other than that we're human. Natalie blew my mind in this episode and I think you'll love it! What She Said:  "Patterns happen when we're living unconsciously, and that means we’re not living who we are." "We're so used to giving ourselves a hard time that we often chase things that deep down we don't want." "Sometimes we want something so badly it feels like a need but it isn't." "People pleasing masks a hidden agenda... Being honest about what our reasons are could be a real game-changer." "Adulthood is about unlearning all of the harmful and unproductive stuff that we pick up along the way." "We have to take the journey and go through whatever we need to experience to learn what we need to learn." Those Timestamps:  04:04 - Recognizing and letting go of old identities, habits, emotional baggage 13:44 - Taming your inner critic and silencing the negativity 19:19 - How to stop people-pleasing and start being/doing you 24:50 - Living with intention, Getting out of that autopilot life 31:06 - The manipulative power of people-pleasing 42:43 - Ways to halt the habit of being hard on yourself 57:45 - Who's deciding what you're capable of? (Updated You vs. Outdated You) 1:00:05 - Why the journey and the experience matters Show Notes:  Connect with Tiffany on Insta Get Tiffany's newsletter and stay in the know  Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz!  Connect with Natalie Site | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Baggage Reclaim Podcast

The big question we're tackling this week in this vintage episode is this: how do you proceed towards the life you want to live when your pesky brain keeps getting in the way with the fear and the doubt and those sneaky impulses? (Related: how do you get yourself to do the things that matter most to you when, in the moment, you just don't want to!?) (Also related: if you experience this, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.) Dig into this week's episode to hear about why I want you to ignore your brain and what to focus on instead!! What I Said:  "We build resilience, confidence, and progress through action." "The answer is not to have it all figured out. It's knowing enough and having the faith to willingly take the next step." "The impulse is not the authority of your life. You are!" Those Timestamps:  04:05 - How to learn not to listen to your "brain" 15:27 - Shrinking the recovery time between the impulse to the fact 24:23 - A commitment to sobriety and recovery 29:31 - How to show up differently...and with integrity 32:35 - Listening to the voices that are of authority in our life

"I'm not good enough. I'm not ready. I don't belong here." These are just a few of the things the Imposter Complex would have us believe (yes! there's a name for that!) and this week I'm thrilled to have life coach and Imposter Complex expert Tanya Geisler back on the podcast to talk all about the Imposter Complex. In this vintage episode, you'll hear what it is, how it shows up, what it means if you experience these things (it's good, I promise!) and how you can move beyond it to get all those things you want for your life (looking at you money, sex, and freedom!). What She Said: "Every great thing that we've ever done has been by feeling that fear and doing it anyway."  "The ego wants to want more than it wants to get." "We have to have areas in our life where there has to be relief—where you can just rest and not have to be the best at things." Those Timestamps 03:27 - What is imposter complex? Who experiences it? 14:34 - Ways and behavioral traits that imposter complex shows up 24:00 - How to positively handle criticisms   29:09 - Other behavioral traits that manifest 37:16 - The value of celebrating/resting in success  42:58 - How to not let the imposter complex hold you back 48:23 - Strategies to overcome procrastination   52:32 - How to know if it's imposter complex or intuition Show Notes: Connect with Tiffany on Insta Get Tiffany's newsletter and stay in the know Connect with Tanya: Website | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram Tanya's earlier RYHSY interview Tanya's Imposter Complex quiz Tanya's TEDx talk The 12 Lies of the Imposter Complex

Money, money, money! It's uncomfortable and necessary to talk about. This week, I'm bringing back a conversation with my former business coach Lena West to dive straight into the most-uncomfortable parts of the money conversation, including: why we show up the way we do around money, what's beyond the "charge what you're worth" mantra, how to deal with money discomfort (and why it probably won't go away!), why striving to just be nice is bullshit, what happens when the people in your life aren't supportive of your endeavors, how to know what to charge, and SO MUCH MORE!  Lena is all heart and no bullshit and will shake up your beliefs around money in the best way! Enjoy, enjoy!  What She Said: "The amount of money is not the point. It's about what is non-negotiable for you and standing in that."  "Getting to 5, 6, 7-figures in your business isn't a walk in the park." "The money has to have a meaning; otherwise it's just some arbitrary nonsense." "Don't share dreams with people who don't have any... share your dreams with dreamers and doers."   Those Timestamps: 03:49 - Women & Money: Valuing ourselves and money discomfort 13:28 - Why you need to charge and not give it for FREE  20:34 - How to price your worth 26:12 - Practical tips to deal with money discomfort 31:25 - About that 7-figure 'promise land' Show Notes: Connect with Lena: Site | Instagram Becoming by Michelle Obama

Y'all! I'm taking a break! Whuuuuuut? Yes! After over 6 years of producing (at least) weekly episodes for this show, I'm talking a wee break, and in this week's episode, I'm sharing why I'm pausing now, what that's going to look like for the podcast, and how you can take a break as well. Listen this week to find out the practical things I'll be doing during my break (because I have to make it as useful as possible, don't I? lol.) as well as the ways I'm holding space for myself. Aaaaaand you'll get to hear a little bit about what might be coming down the track for RYHSY. A new podcast name?! Maybe, just maybe. WHO EVEN KNOWS ANYTHING ANYMORE??? Oh! If you're already wondering when new episodes will be coming, don't fret! I've got a bunch of my faves queued up for your ears while I'm away!! What I said: "Just because you can keep going doesn't mean you should." "Your break doesn't have to be all or nothing."  "Let 'I don’t know' be normal. Accept it for where you are right now instead of working harder and pushing more." Those Timestamps: 01:55 - Importance of breaks... and why I'm taking one  11:07 - Step #1: Know what you want 20:54 - Step #2: Give yourself permission to do so 23:03 - Step #3: Identify what stays 24:37 - Step #4: Create some structure/tracking  25:29 - Step #5: Stay so curious and be willing to be surprised  29:50 - Step #6: Let yourself be guided Show Notes: Sign up for Tiffany's Newsletter Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz

Hey everyone! I’m so excited to have Ann Shen on the show again! She is an illustrator, hand letterer, and bestselling author of three books and today, we're talking about Ann's new book ‘Nevertheless, She Wore It’ which is all about how fashion is a tool for resistance and empowerment. In this episode, we talk about finding your own power and voice, looking for ways to relax, recover, express your best self in this firehose of a time that we’re in right now. And baking! We talk all about baking! Enjoy, enjoy! What She Said: "I can conquer anything when I put on the costume of my best self."  "We are in control of how we portray ourselves." "Your worth does not come from external validations or numbers that can be quantified." Those Timestamps: 00:44 - Where we are now... Firehose of a time  06:55 - Overview of 'Nevertheless, She Wore It' - fashion, resistance, self-love 18:50 - 'The Red Lipstick' - historical issues on lipstick/makeup 21:26 - Using fashion to feel good about yourself  34:32 - Ann's love for baking... and raising chickens 48:42 - Expressing your best self, Paying attention to self-worth 58:59 - Finding ways to relax, recover, and show up amidst the pandemic Show Notes: Connect with Ann: Site | Instagram | Twitter | Pinterest Ann's Books: Bad Girls Throughout History Legendary Ladies Nevertheless, She Wore It Ann's Previous RYHSY Episodes: Ep. 114: Ann Shen on Reinvention Ep. 115: Ann Shen on Security Ep. 188: Ann Shen on Finding (and Managing) (and Seeking) Success Ep. 234: Ann Shen on Rest, Routines, and Resetting For The Love of Men by Liz Plank Molly J. Wilkerson (virtual pastry classes!) The Michelle Obama Podcast Congresswoman Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez's Getting Ready Routine via Vogue

Have you found yourself down the rabbit hole of social media lately? This week, I'm tackling doomscrolling and looking at how you can take strides towards less social media consumption and why it's important to do so. I’ll be giving things to keep in mind about what social media is giving us these days, practical things that you can do to stop ‘doomscrolling’, why it doesn’t mean that you are bad person spending time in these apps, and the power of setting hard limits and letting go of the ‘all or nothing’ mindset as you regain power over your time.   What I said: "Things start to change when we are willing to tell ourselves the truth." "Setting the boundary is the easy part. Maintaining the boundary is the hard part."  "Be willing to set hard limits for yourself to break the habits." Those Timestamps: 00:48 - Doomscrolling... and social media consumption dilemma 09:05 - Acknowledge what it gives you and pay attention to what it costs you 16:51 - Set a boundary for yourself 19:58 - Commit your time to the things aligned with your values  22:31 - Change your muscle memories (moving/deleting apps) 31:43 - Turn off email or push notifications 33:53 - Buy an alarm clock, set hard limits for yourself 37:32 - Give yourself grace... think beyond 'all or nothing' 40:12 - Remember that being on social media all the time means you're behaving as expected Show Notes: My Sunrise Alarm Clock Hidden Brain podcast: Passion Isn't Enough: The Rise Of 'Political Hobbyism' in the United States Apps + Online Tools for Finding Focus: Forest iOs app News Feed Eradicator Plugin for Google Chrome BlockSite Plugin for Google Chrome

This week, I'm talking about what to do when you find yourself either wanting something to change, recognizing that something's not working, or recognizing that you don't know where to go next. Picking up a thread from my conversation last week with Rob Bell (and his new book Everything is Spiritual), I want to examine the question/prayer/mantra "Now what?" and show how we can work with it to get the clarity we're after. If you're not sure what’s next or still figuring out the next steps in the life that you want, this episode is for you! I share what it means to keep going, how to find clarity, why anger is okay, and what embracing curiosity and grace can bring to your life. What I said: "The reason that I have 336 episodes is I kept going." "Prayer is a powerful tool." "What we need to be aware of is what’s on the other side of anger." "The knowing will lead you to curiosity, and curiosity will lead you to clarity." Those Timestamps 00:35 - What it means to actually "keep going" 04:41 - Why I'm reopening applications for the Inner Circle (but only for 3 days!) 07:52 - The question/prayer of "Now, what?" 14:55 - Recognizing the anger, rage, fire...  19:48 - Living from a place of curiosity and grace 24:46 - How to work with the mantra of "Now, what?" Show Notes: Applications are open for the Inner Circle until 11:59 PST on Thursday, October 1! Everything is Spiritual by Rob Bell RYHSY Ep. 335: Rob Bell on Everything is Spiritual and Apocalyptic Hope

In his new book, Everything is Spiritual: Who We Are and What We're Doing Here, New York Times bestselling author Rob Bell explores the endless dynamic questions and connections that have shaped his life, providing powerful insight into understanding one's purpose and place in the world. And I am thrilled to be in conversation with him this week. Listen in to hear me and Rob talk about his 11th book (!!), the nature of life, why "looking for" spirit is playing the wrong game, why hope needs to be apocalyptic, the problem with all those ladders we've gotten really good at climbing, and what's important to know about boredom and death. Rob Bell has been one of my greatest teachers and I'm so excited to introduce him to you! PS. Applications for the RYHSY Inner Circle close on Friday 9/25! Get all the details here! What He Said: "The elimination of obstacles, barriers, and discomfort is a recipe for boredom."  "Spirit is often lurking in whatever you most dislike." "I want people to experience the wonder and awe of their own existence." "Having your palms up to let go is the only way you can receive anything." Those Timestamps: 00:35 - Unfolding why 'Everything is Spiritual' 14:01 - Spiritual awakening in a modern world 18:30 - On apocalyptic hope 21:52 - Moving slowly and presently 27:36 - Embracing rest and rhythm and welcoming sabbath 31:19 - A different perspective of life & death  38:56 - The wonder of your own existence 43:33 - Palms up and let go Show Notes:  Applications are open for the Inner Circle! Connect with Rob: Site | Podcast | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Rob's new book: Everything is Spiritual

This week, I'm in conversation with creative coach, explorer, educator, designer, and Inner Circler Anne Ditmeyer. Listen in to hear us talk about being uncool, giving yourself permission to be ridiculous, why getting lost is a good thing, what happens when you keep saying yes to opportunity, why you're allowed to seek out joy even during a pandemic, and the power of using creativity to solve problems. We also talk about her experience in the Inner Circle (applications are now open!), so if you're curious about what's available there, have a listen! What She Said: "I want to be as uncool as possible." “Nobody acknowledges how much time content takes to create”. "What are those stories that aren't told?" "Make it human." “The value comes from people who are not like us.” “Get lost on purpose; there are multiple ways to reach a destination.” "Drawing on a banana is the new standard." "Be ridiculous." Those Timestamps: 09:00 - The creative process is messy 16:40 - Managing your goals 19:50 - Finding your own way to do things 24:00 - Connecting with people 27:30 - Using COVID lockdown to make new rules 31:30 - How creativity is problem solving Show Notes:  Applications are open for the Inner Circle! Connect with Anne: Site | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Anne's Prêt à Voyager blog Anne's Navigate Paris class Anne's Happy Exploring in 2020 New Year's Card Christine Herrin's Everyday Explorers Book: Wired to Create: Unraveling the Mysteries of the Creative Mind by Scott Barry Kaufman Book: The Journey is the Destination: The Journals of Dan Eldon

I've got a bonus episode for you today because applications are officially open for the upcoming starting-on-October-1 round of my year-long Raise Your Hand Say Yes Inner Circle experience!   Ready to go? Get all the details and application here: https://raiseyourhandsayyes.com   In this episode, I walk you through my vision for this experience, why it's structured the way it is, what it will bring to your life, and what's really going on if your first question is, "how much time will it take?"   Applications are open through 9/25, but if you know you're in, don't dilly dally as I will close applications early if the program fills.   GET THE DETAILS: https://raiseyourhandsayyes.com   Have a q about the course? Email me at bonjour@tiffanyhan.com or DM me on Instagram (https://instagram.com/thetiffanyhan)

I am so excited to be talking with one of my current Inner Circlers Gillian Freeman, of Pen & Thimble, this week! Gillian creates handmade, eco-friendly products for her business and is a busy mom of 2. In this episode, we talk about her experience in the Inner Circle, what brought her to the work, what she learned about pausing and taking breaks, and why she didn't really believe that what's happened for her was possible (but it was!). We also talk about how things changed for her along the way, why she's taken up a new hobby, and where she's looking next. Applications open Monday 9/14 for the next round of the Raise Your Hand Say Yes Inner Circle (we start October 1!) and if you're wondering if it's a good fit for you, Gillian's story will be helpful so you can see what's available! What She Said: "Success that's built on a foundation of burnout is not success." "It's not just about the business but who you are as a person - what you believe and what you want." "You don't have to put all of your ambition on hold in order to feel good in your life." "Whatever you need to do, start now... It's a journey." Those Timestamps: 07:18 - Not being a robot 20:46 - It's okay to hit pause 26:52 - Doing the work with bigger/deeper alignment 31:38 - How Gillian got into crocheting   35:42 - Relaxation and reconnecting with oneself 44:09 - What's next for Gillian? 50:38 - Reopening with grace and faith 59:55 - How to do the work without the burnout Show Notes:  RSVP for the free September 8-10 Choose Yourself Challenge The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Inner Circle Connect with Gillian: Site | Instagram | Pinterest | Etsy | Amazon The Nap Ministry RYHSY Episode on Burnout

Yes. Raising your hand and saying yes to what you want for your life is going to require time and energy. And you might have precious little of it (hey! There's a free challenge for that!). But this week, I'm talking through all the things that not following through on what we want for our lives is costing us.   And what I know is that it's time for us to shift our standards of what's acceptable. To stop letting doubt make our decisions. To take a stand for what we want even when circumstances are less than ideal.   Overcoming inertia will always be a challenge. It will only get harder the longer you wait. And those things keeping you up at night? They aren't going anywhere. So what would happen if you started investing in yourself. (Yes. Even right now.)   In this episode, you'll hear me talk about helping you set a foundation of being yourself in your life. Showing up to everything as the single version of you. Living on the outside as who you know you're ready to be on the inside. It's bold and brave and beautiful. Let's go.   What I Said:   "Your pre-COVID life was too much. No wonder you don't know where to put yourself right now."   "Continuous improvement is not your life's purpose."   "Staying where you know you don't want to be is never going to help get you what you want."   "I'm asking you to step into simultaneously easing up on yourself and holding the entire world to a higher standard of what's okay and acceptable."   "Long-term stress is killing us."   "Extreme dissatisfaction can be an impetus for change."   "The resistance keeping you still is only going to get louder the longer you wait."   Those Timestamps:   04:57 - The unseen cost of not saying yes to yourself   13:36 - Knowing when to start looking for something else 20:04 - Extreme dissatisfaction and overcoming resistance  29:17 - The power of rest and slowing down 35:36 - Taking a step closer every day 38:35 - Are you playing the game you want to win?  43:31 - How to start making your shift   Show Notes:   RSVP for the free September 8-10 Choose Yourself Challenge   Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode   Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz

This week, I'm kicking off Season 8 with Glennon Doyle! Glennon is a New York Times Bestselling author, an activist and thought leader, and is the founder and president of Together Rising, an all-women led nonprofit organization that has revolutionized grassroots philanthropy – raising over $25 Million for women, families, and children in crisis. In this conversation, we talk about Glennon's new book Untamed (it's ESSENTIAL READING y'all!), and cover the following: doubt, faith, what's required before you can really take care of yourself, how to consider what the most true and beautiful version of your life is, why permission to change your own mind is critical, and how you can find your own "there she is" moment. What Glennon Said: "May our dreams become our plans." "Faith is a belief in the unseen order of things." "It's impossible to take care of yourself and your family if you don't first untame." "There is no construction of the new without destruction of the old." "The goal of family is to create a community where everybody gets to bring their full self to the table." "Truth is kindness even if it makes people uncomfortable." Listen to Learn: 08:09 - Living the truest most beautiful life (and how this is available to everyone) 14:38 - Believing in the unseen order of things and how to hold onto that faith when things feel rocky 18:29 - How Glennon deals with doubt (yes! She has it too!) 22:46 - Permission to change your mind and why it's a hard thing to think about 27:50 - Living an 'untamed' life (The cheetah story) and how we're thinking of our goals all wrong 36:47 - Overcoming the fear of rocking the boat 46:39 - How Truth-Telling the truth is kindness 54:14 - Finding that 'there she is' moment (and how it might be different from what you think!) Show Notes:  Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz Connect with Glennon: Site | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Glennon's books: Untamed | Love Warrior | Carry on, Warrior Together Rising We are the Luckiest by Laura McKowen Laura McKowen on RYHSY: Finding your Bigger Yes Laura McKowen on RYHSY: Telling the Truth. Out loud. Nat Lue on RYHSY: Boundaries, Emotions, and the Dark Side (!) of People Pleasing Nat Lue on RYHSY: Relationships, Bandwidth, Anxiety, and Respect

Do you need rest or to work harder? Should you focus on your end goal or stay present to what you need right now? Is what you're doing too much or not enough? This week, I'm diving into how learning to live within contradictions instead of either/or thinking can help us both more forward towards our goals and feel better within our days. What I said: "Step into the breadth of everything that is in the IN-BETWEEN instead of thinking about things as EITHER-OR." "The point of having goals is to help you decide your very first step of action, not put you on a forever-path." "Building relationships with people does not mean that you have to sacrifice who you are." "Maybe it's the all-or-nothing thinking and not your failing as a human that's keeping you stuck." Those Timestamps: 00:28 - Living in the contradictions 08:06 - Hurry up or slow down? 13:31 - Have goals or detach from outcomes? 21:15 - Live your values or build relationships? 24:16 - Know where you want to go or live in the now? 30:21 - Take care of yourself or stay flexible 37:10 - Too fast...Too much or Too slow...Not enough aka How to proceed if you feel like there's SO MUCH you can't control. Show Notes:  Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz

This week, I'm releasing the audio of my recent How to Have the Life You Want training (click here to get the video replay and catch the slides!).   You're just 10 quick and easy steps away from the life you want!! That's how this works, right? Instead of promising formulas and rules, in this training, I cover 10 different guidelines, perspectives, and tips to help you figure out your own next steps towards the life you want, not the one the rest of the world thinks you should have.   Freedom. Connection. Ease. Faith. Grace. I want all of those for you every single day. Let's get going.   Things I Said:   "The small things count just as much as the big things."   "You've got to be willing and able to let yourself be human. You're not a ROBOT."   "It is not your life's purpose to deny your humanity in honor of your ambition."   "We don't have to overperform our way through our days to have the lives that we want."   "Grace is that ability to get it wrong, learn, and keep going."   Those Timestamps:   05:14 - Overview of How to Have The Life You Want 08:45 - A little bit about me... (life & mission)  12:42 - The BIG/SMALL things I've done to live the life I want 23:50 - Why it's critical to live under an umbrella of grace 25:55 - #1: Forgive yourself for being human 28:56 - #2: The What and Why of H.A.L.T. 30:40 - #3: Be a farmer...and how to trust the seeds you plant 34:41 - #4: You are not lazy 36:55 - #5: Commit to the relentless pursuit of figuring out what you want 41:30 - #6: Practice questioning everything 44:12 - #7: Let it be YOUR life 47:48 - #8: Accept the annoying and inconvenient parts 50:23 - #9: Expect backsliding  54:00 - #10: Faith. And patience. Again and again and again. 56:14 - Significance of grace and self-agency   01:00:48 - What's next???   Show Notes:   Inner Circle Early-Application Notice List   Submit a Q to be answered on a future podcast   Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz   Get the How to Have the Life You Want Replay video

This week, I'm answering a listener question (hi Susan!) about how to embody and live into one's values, but I'm also taking this question deeper to talk about how to get started in bridging the divide between where you are now and where you want to be, even if (and especially when!) that divide feels overwhelming and insurmountable!   I also share how you might be treating those seeds you're planting so unfairly and what to do instead as well as give some personal-for-your-agency-archetype advice for each type. (I feel like I took myself to church on this one; thank you for your question, Susan! It inspired so much!)   What I said:   "When it comes to embodying values, our job is to stay really fluid, nimble, and open."   "If we keep taking steps, those steps might take us somewhere surprising."   "If you are not embodying your own values, you're embodying somebody else's."   "Commit to using your values as your compass even if everyone else seems to be loving some totally-jacked-but-socially-acceptable-enough compass to guide their lives."   "The answer to getting to where you want to be is not to stay where you don't want to be."   Those Timestamps:   06:11 - How to get started with a values list 08:16 - Commit to imperfect and uncomfortable action 12:47 - How small steps can be a game-changer for you 18:17 - Values as a compass 24:20 - Crossing the divide between where you are and where you want to be AND how to approach this considering your Agency Archetype 30:08 - Destruction as an unbuilding   Show Notes: Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz

It's easy to think of destruction as something negative (and thus to be feared). And our fear around it often limits us and keeps us stuck.     Today, I’m showing a different perspective of destruction, one that can be used to embrace it as a way of unbuilding and a chipping away of things as we rebuild our lives.   Tune in as I talk about the power of destruction, when it is a positive thing, how to welcome unbuilding in your life, where to start in the rebuilding and how to have faith in your personal agency. Enjoy!   What I said:   "You can simultaneously be grateful for what you have and want things to be different and better."   "If you live on a tightrope but are always clinging to the edge, you have nowhere to go."    "If we let fear run our lives and make our decisions, the thing that we're most afraid of usually becomes true."   Those Timestamps:   04:19 - The fear of destruction 12:27 - Self-fulfilling prophecy of fear, The limiting power of fear 17:46 - Unbuilding: Why destruction isn't always a bad thing 22:10 - Chipping away and welcoming destruction 27:14 - Faith in your personal agency   Show Notes:   How to Have the Life You Want Webinar replay   Agency Archetypes Training replay   Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz   Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle   Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode   Self-Fulfilling Prophecy of Fear RYHSY Episode   12 Stages of Burnout RYHSY Episode

What do you think about when you hear the word "enough?" In this episode, I’m going to tackle what I see as two different (and often competing!) realms of being and doing enough and then offer ways to help you redefine the word according to your own standards. (Amen and hallelujah to that, right?!) First: Am I enough? This is all about YOU and how it feels to be you in your life and showing up to yourself. Second: Am I doing enough? AKA why having a strong value of service does not mean you have to sacrifice your humanity in order to show up for the world. I also cover the power of your values, self-alignment, the importance of not measuring your worth based on somebody else's standards, and why those tiny little steps are the way to start. Oh! And then I wrap it all up with talk of seeds, harvest, and how to make an orchard with your life. Things I said: "Live your life and prove to yourself what you are capable of." "If an idea won't leave you alone, that is the sign that you are the person being gifted with that dream and vision." "Service does not mean that you have to sacrifice your humanity." "If you're measuring your worth based on somebody else's standards it will be impossible to live up to that."  "The only starts that we can make are small starts...one step at time." "Don't let that voice that tells you 'You are not enough' keep you from doing anything at all." Those Timestamps 00:43 - Am I enough? - YOU, purpose, and service 10:35 - Reckoning with discomfort 14:36 - Are you doing enough?  18:20 - Values and self-alignment 23:02 - Stop letting others decide for you 28:53 - The power of small steps 32:17 - The apple seed metaphor Show Notes: Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode