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This week, I'm celebrating my 4 Years Sober milestone with a behind-the-scenes look at some of the things I've learned about myself, recovery, and who I really am. In this episode, I'm sharing the things that I thought I knew about sobriety before I quit drinking but was super wrong about as well as the great surprises that I didn't even know to expect!  And, even if you aren't sober or sober-curious, this episode has a ton of lessons for anything that you might be holding on to in your life. Enjoy, enjoy! 

Happy New Year! To kick of 2021, I'm sharing my guiding phrase for the year (it might be different from what you're expecting!) as well as sharing realizations, discoveries, and insights from my podcasting break. AND: I have a new training happening on 1/12/21: How to Be -- Get all the details and register here!  What I Said:  "If we start with the being, and then navigate the doing from that place, that is when things come together." "Once you allow the unfolding of what you're looking for, things become even more expanded." Those Timestamps: 01:36 - New training coming up next week!!! 03:37 - Guiding phrase for 2021... and realizations during my break 19:08 - What becoming BOLD and SLOW looks like Show Notes:  1/12/21: How to Be training Connect with me on Instagram My website & the Agency Archetypes quiz! 

In a world full of people telling us how they can revolutionize our businesses and that we need to leap and hope with all we have that our nets will appear, how can we be so sure that the move we're going to make is The Right One? This week, I'm taking you through my journey (starting Freshman year in college) of so many Raise Your Hand Say Yes career moves that eventually got me to the place of starting my coaching practice, going full time, and starting this podcast. There are twists. And turns. And backtracks. And pivots. As is to be expected by life. But, there was also so much learning - which I'll share as well.  Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy, and remember: you're doing great. You're not alone. Keep going.  What I Said:  "We are meant to evolve, and sometimes we evolve beyond the confines of our current situation." "How to start from scratch? You just start." "You are capable of more than you realize." "If you're on the precipice of something and you feel that nervous excitement, it is okay to take a small step." "Don't let that questioning convince you not to take the step because it's the step that makes all the difference." Those Timestamps:  03:16 - Episode intro... 06:45 - A look back to my college life 17:39 - My first 'official' job 26:50 - The move to San Francisco... and creative discovery 35:31 - Teahouse studio, coaching, and blogging 46:13 - Going full-time with coaching & podcasting

Whether you're ready to dive headfirst into the new year or you're still trying to wrap up the last one, I've got you covered with this episode. We're going to talk about endings, beginnings, and the questions I want you to consider as you think about the start of the year. (And also: wherever you are is beautiful and wonderful. YOU ARE DOING GREAT.) Aaaand in case you need them for reference, here are the questions for you to consider:  *How do you want to feel?  *Where are you finding meaning?  *What's going to bring you peace? *What are you ready to release? *What are you ready to find your way back to? What I Said:  "Beating yourself up in order to live your best life doesn't work." "The thing that brings you peace might also bring with it some temporary disruption." "Transformation hangs in you doing the work to get to the bottom of where you want to be." Those Timestamps:  03:25 - Cycle of consumption - "The Skittles aren't good enough anymore." 08:56 - When (and how often) should you do evaluations 17:01 - Relation of beginnings and endings 21:26 - The idea of embracing grace 26:31 - #1: How do you want to feel? 32:33 - #2: Where are you finding meaning? 37:12 - #3: What's going to bring you peace? 39:37 - #4: What are you ready to release? 40:53 - #5: What are you ready to find your way back to? Show Notes:  New Training! 1/12/2021: How to Be (So You Can Do!) Connect with Tiffany on Insta (https://www.instagram.com/thetiffanyhan/) Get Tiffany's newsletter and stay in the know (http://tiffanyhan.com)

What do you think about when you hear the word "enough?" In this episode, I’m going to tackle what I see as two different (and often competing!) realms of being and doing enough and then offer ways to help you redefine the word according to your own standards. (Amen and hallelujah to that, right?!) First: Am I enough? This is all about YOU and how it feels to be you in your life and showing up to yourself.  Second: Am I doing enough? AKA why having a strong value of service does not mean you have to sacrifice your humanity in order to show up for the world.  I also cover the power of your values, self-alignment, the importance of not measuring your worth based on somebody else's standards, and why those tiny little steps are the way to start. Oh! And then I wrap it all up with talk of seeds, harvest, and how to make an orchard with your life.  Things I Said:  "If an idea won't leave you alone, it's a sign that you are the person being gifted with that dream." "Being of service does not mean that you have to sacrifice your humanity." "The only starts that we can make are small starts...one step at time." "Don't let that voice that tells you 'You are not doing enough' keep you from doing anything at all." Those Timestamps:  04:30 - The realm of 'being enough' 14:16 - Reckoning with discomfort 18:14 - The realm of 'doing enough' 21:58 - Values and self-alignment as a compass 25:31 - Who's deciding what you're capable of? 31:17 - The power of small steps 34:46 - The apple seed metaphor Show Notes: Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode

This week, I'm talking about some signs you can look for to show you that you're on the right track and why they might be different than the ones you're currently watching for!  Being on the right track might be creating something new, but it might also be just listening to your longings. And so it’s critical to know whether - “Should I keep going?” or “Should I quit?” – especially if the road feels so rocky. So today, I’m giving you 6 Signs You're On the Right Track – and right track means the things that you want to say YES to... or it might also be the things that you are ready to say NO to. Things I said:  "Having doubts means you are changing your perception and the way you show up." "Pay attention who you are telling your ideas to." "If it is meant for you ,it will keep showing up." "Rocky roads aren't roadblocks. They don't mean that you have to stop. They're just a sign that you are moving forward." Those Timestamps 00:35 – What 'being on the right track' truly means 05:03 - #1: You have doubts 09:50 - #2: It makes you nervous 14:09 - #3: Your inner critic shows up 16:47 - #4: People around you don't get it 22:30 - #5: You're nervous to talk about it 27:33 - #6: You feel an overwhelming pull to move forward Show Notes:  Connect with me on IG!  Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz Tiffany's Website

When was the last time you woke up feeling like you were excited to dive into your day? If you're not sure, you might be suffering from burnout.  In this week's episode, I'm sharing the 12 phases of burnout (as developed by psychologists!) and talking about why I think—as hand raisers and yes sayers—we're especially prone to burning ourselves out.  I'm also sharing one of my favorite super-easy-to-start-using tools for beginning to move yourself beyond burnout. What I Said: "The answer to moving beyond burnout is never that you need to work harder." "If we say ‘yes’ without saying ‘no,’ then we are just saying ‘yes’ to everything, and that’s not going to work" "We often hang out in the early stages of burnout and don’t think there is anything wrong with that." "Moving forward does not mean we have to sacrifice ourselves.” Those Timestamps 04:30 - The 12 phases of burnout 06:35 - Excess of ambition 08:30 - displacement of conflict 09:46 - Denial of problems 10:57 - Getting out of the early stages of burnout 12:25 - Moving forward and chill out at the same time 16:01 - Start practicing a pause 19:11 - Those (entertainment) systems are working against us. Show Notes: Get the Core Values Masterclass (half off through 12/4!) Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach The 12 Phases of Burnout Hurry Slowly podcast episode on burnout

Tell me this: would you avoid anything in the world to feel needy? Do you want to go deeper into your desires but feel selfish in doing so? Are you so accustomed to taking care of everyone else around you that you never have any time left for yourself? Sweets, pull up a chair because this vintage episode with life coach and host of the Needy podcast, Mara Glatzel is going to be balm for your soul. I wanted to have Mara back on early in the Money, Sex, Freedom series so we could talk about how wanting more for yourself in those areas is totally okay and also SUPER ENCOURAGED. And, newsflash: having needs doesn't mean you're faulty or a failure. It means you're human! (WHOA.) Dive in. It's so good. (Mara, thank you. You are a gift.) What She Said:  "It is both essential and normal to have needs." "Having your needs met makes you so much better at everything you do." "If we can't make space for taking care of ourselves then we can't bring a full version of ourselves to anything that we do." "When you lack trust in something, you create a lot of rules around it." Those Timestamps:  02:35 - Core Values Masterclass - Special Sale!!! 06:35 - The Needy podcast... and what it means being 'needy' 15:11 - Honoring and taking care of our needs 22:46 - How to reconcile your needs and your service to people 30:56 - Most loving way to cultivate trust for yourself 37:26 - The beauty of prioritizing your needs - "You're the vessel for the service" 49:32 - Knowing yourself... Knowing your needs 01:01:22 - Note to remember: Nobody is an exception. Everyone has needs. Show Notes: Black Friday sale on the Core Values Masterclass! Connect with Mara:  Website | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Mara's Needy Podcast Mara's previous RYHSY appearance RYHSY on the Self-Fulfilling Prophecy of Fear

I loved talking with Natalie Lue for this week's vintage episode and we covered so much ground, including: habits (and relationships!) that aren't serving you, how to step beyond those well-worn patterns, drama and our addiction to it, and how people-pleasing is actually a manipulation (SAY WHAT?!). We also covered identities that don't serve us, letting other people dim our light, and why having emotional baggage doesn't mean anything other than that we're human. Natalie blew my mind in this episode and I think you'll love it! What She Said:  "Patterns happen when we're living unconsciously, and that means we’re not living who we are." "We're so used to giving ourselves a hard time that we often chase things that deep down we don't want." "Sometimes we want something so badly it feels like a need but it isn't." "People pleasing masks a hidden agenda... Being honest about what our reasons are could be a real game-changer." "Adulthood is about unlearning all of the harmful and unproductive stuff that we pick up along the way." "We have to take the journey and go through whatever we need to experience to learn what we need to learn." Those Timestamps:  04:04 - Recognizing and letting go of old identities, habits, emotional baggage 13:44 - Taming your inner critic and silencing the negativity 19:19 - How to stop people-pleasing and start being/doing you 24:50 - Living with intention, Getting out of that autopilot life 31:06 - The manipulative power of people-pleasing 42:43 - Ways to halt the habit of being hard on yourself 57:45 - Who's deciding what you're capable of? (Updated You vs. Outdated You) 1:00:05 - Why the journey and the experience matters Show Notes:  Connect with Tiffany on Insta Get Tiffany's newsletter and stay in the know  Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz!  Connect with Natalie Site | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Baggage Reclaim Podcast

The big question we're tackling this week in this vintage episode is this: how do you proceed towards the life you want to live when your pesky brain keeps getting in the way with the fear and the doubt and those sneaky impulses? (Related: how do you get yourself to do the things that matter most to you when, in the moment, you just don't want to!?) (Also related: if you experience this, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.) Dig into this week's episode to hear about why I want you to ignore your brain and what to focus on instead!! What I Said:  "We build resilience, confidence, and progress through action." "The answer is not to have it all figured out. It's knowing enough and having the faith to willingly take the next step." "The impulse is not the authority of your life. You are!" Those Timestamps:  04:05 - How to learn not to listen to your "brain" 15:27 - Shrinking the recovery time between the impulse to the fact 24:23 - A commitment to sobriety and recovery 29:31 - How to show up differently...and with integrity 32:35 - Listening to the voices that are of authority in our life

"I'm not good enough. I'm not ready. I don't belong here." These are just a few of the things the Imposter Complex would have us believe (yes! there's a name for that!) and this week I'm thrilled to have life coach and Imposter Complex expert Tanya Geisler back on the podcast to talk all about the Imposter Complex. In this vintage episode, you'll hear what it is, how it shows up, what it means if you experience these things (it's good, I promise!) and how you can move beyond it to get all those things you want for your life (looking at you money, sex, and freedom!). What She Said: "Every great thing that we've ever done has been by feeling that fear and doing it anyway."  "The ego wants to want more than it wants to get." "We have to have areas in our life where there has to be relief—where you can just rest and not have to be the best at things." Those Timestamps 03:27 - What is imposter complex? Who experiences it? 14:34 - Ways and behavioral traits that imposter complex shows up 24:00 - How to positively handle criticisms   29:09 - Other behavioral traits that manifest 37:16 - The value of celebrating/resting in success  42:58 - How to not let the imposter complex hold you back 48:23 - Strategies to overcome procrastination   52:32 - How to know if it's imposter complex or intuition Show Notes: Connect with Tiffany on Insta Get Tiffany's newsletter and stay in the know Connect with Tanya: Website | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram Tanya's earlier RYHSY interview Tanya's Imposter Complex quiz Tanya's TEDx talk The 12 Lies of the Imposter Complex

Money, money, money! It's uncomfortable and necessary to talk about. This week, I'm bringing back a conversation with my former business coach Lena West to dive straight into the most-uncomfortable parts of the money conversation, including: why we show up the way we do around money, what's beyond the "charge what you're worth" mantra, how to deal with money discomfort (and why it probably won't go away!), why striving to just be nice is bullshit, what happens when the people in your life aren't supportive of your endeavors, how to know what to charge, and SO MUCH MORE!  Lena is all heart and no bullshit and will shake up your beliefs around money in the best way! Enjoy, enjoy!  What She Said: "The amount of money is not the point. It's about what is non-negotiable for you and standing in that."  "Getting to 5, 6, 7-figures in your business isn't a walk in the park." "The money has to have a meaning; otherwise it's just some arbitrary nonsense." "Don't share dreams with people who don't have any... share your dreams with dreamers and doers."   Those Timestamps: 03:49 - Women & Money: Valuing ourselves and money discomfort 13:28 - Why you need to charge and not give it for FREE  20:34 - How to price your worth 26:12 - Practical tips to deal with money discomfort 31:25 - About that 7-figure 'promise land' Show Notes: Connect with Lena: Site | Instagram Becoming by Michelle Obama

Y'all! I'm taking a break! Whuuuuuut? Yes! After over 6 years of producing (at least) weekly episodes for this show, I'm talking a wee break, and in this week's episode, I'm sharing why I'm pausing now, what that's going to look like for the podcast, and how you can take a break as well. Listen this week to find out the practical things I'll be doing during my break (because I have to make it as useful as possible, don't I? lol.) as well as the ways I'm holding space for myself. Aaaaaand you'll get to hear a little bit about what might be coming down the track for RYHSY. A new podcast name?! Maybe, just maybe. WHO EVEN KNOWS ANYTHING ANYMORE??? Oh! If you're already wondering when new episodes will be coming, don't fret! I've got a bunch of my faves queued up for your ears while I'm away!! What I said: "Just because you can keep going doesn't mean you should." "Your break doesn't have to be all or nothing."  "Let 'I don’t know' be normal. Accept it for where you are right now instead of working harder and pushing more." Those Timestamps: 01:55 - Importance of breaks... and why I'm taking one  11:07 - Step #1: Know what you want 20:54 - Step #2: Give yourself permission to do so 23:03 - Step #3: Identify what stays 24:37 - Step #4: Create some structure/tracking  25:29 - Step #5: Stay so curious and be willing to be surprised  29:50 - Step #6: Let yourself be guided Show Notes: Sign up for Tiffany's Newsletter Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz

Hey everyone! I’m so excited to have Ann Shen on the show again! She is an illustrator, hand letterer, and bestselling author of three books and today, we're talking about Ann's new book ‘Nevertheless, She Wore It’ which is all about how fashion is a tool for resistance and empowerment. In this episode, we talk about finding your own power and voice, looking for ways to relax, recover, express your best self in this firehose of a time that we’re in right now. And baking! We talk all about baking! Enjoy, enjoy! What She Said: "I can conquer anything when I put on the costume of my best self."  "We are in control of how we portray ourselves." "Your worth does not come from external validations or numbers that can be quantified." Those Timestamps: 00:44 - Where we are now... Firehose of a time  06:55 - Overview of 'Nevertheless, She Wore It' - fashion, resistance, self-love 18:50 - 'The Red Lipstick' - historical issues on lipstick/makeup 21:26 - Using fashion to feel good about yourself  34:32 - Ann's love for baking... and raising chickens 48:42 - Expressing your best self, Paying attention to self-worth 58:59 - Finding ways to relax, recover, and show up amidst the pandemic Show Notes: Connect with Ann: Site | Instagram | Twitter | Pinterest Ann's Books: Bad Girls Throughout History Legendary Ladies Nevertheless, She Wore It Ann's Previous RYHSY Episodes: Ep. 114: Ann Shen on Reinvention Ep. 115: Ann Shen on Security Ep. 188: Ann Shen on Finding (and Managing) (and Seeking) Success Ep. 234: Ann Shen on Rest, Routines, and Resetting For The Love of Men by Liz Plank Molly J. Wilkerson (virtual pastry classes!) The Michelle Obama Podcast Congresswoman Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez's Getting Ready Routine via Vogue

Have you found yourself down the rabbit hole of social media lately? This week, I'm tackling doomscrolling and looking at how you can take strides towards less social media consumption and why it's important to do so. I’ll be giving things to keep in mind about what social media is giving us these days, practical things that you can do to stop ‘doomscrolling’, why it doesn’t mean that you are bad person spending time in these apps, and the power of setting hard limits and letting go of the ‘all or nothing’ mindset as you regain power over your time.   What I said: "Things start to change when we are willing to tell ourselves the truth." "Setting the boundary is the easy part. Maintaining the boundary is the hard part."  "Be willing to set hard limits for yourself to break the habits." Those Timestamps: 00:48 - Doomscrolling... and social media consumption dilemma 09:05 - Acknowledge what it gives you and pay attention to what it costs you 16:51 - Set a boundary for yourself 19:58 - Commit your time to the things aligned with your values  22:31 - Change your muscle memories (moving/deleting apps) 31:43 - Turn off email or push notifications 33:53 - Buy an alarm clock, set hard limits for yourself 37:32 - Give yourself grace... think beyond 'all or nothing' 40:12 - Remember that being on social media all the time means you're behaving as expected Show Notes: My Sunrise Alarm Clock Hidden Brain podcast: Passion Isn't Enough: The Rise Of 'Political Hobbyism' in the United States Apps + Online Tools for Finding Focus: Forest iOs app News Feed Eradicator Plugin for Google Chrome BlockSite Plugin for Google Chrome

This week, I'm talking about what to do when you find yourself either wanting something to change, recognizing that something's not working, or recognizing that you don't know where to go next. Picking up a thread from my conversation last week with Rob Bell (and his new book Everything is Spiritual), I want to examine the question/prayer/mantra "Now what?" and show how we can work with it to get the clarity we're after. If you're not sure what’s next or still figuring out the next steps in the life that you want, this episode is for you! I share what it means to keep going, how to find clarity, why anger is okay, and what embracing curiosity and grace can bring to your life. What I said: "The reason that I have 336 episodes is I kept going." "Prayer is a powerful tool." "What we need to be aware of is what’s on the other side of anger." "The knowing will lead you to curiosity, and curiosity will lead you to clarity." Those Timestamps 00:35 - What it means to actually "keep going" 04:41 - Why I'm reopening applications for the Inner Circle (but only for 3 days!) 07:52 - The question/prayer of "Now, what?" 14:55 - Recognizing the anger, rage, fire...  19:48 - Living from a place of curiosity and grace 24:46 - How to work with the mantra of "Now, what?" Show Notes: Applications are open for the Inner Circle until 11:59 PST on Thursday, October 1! Everything is Spiritual by Rob Bell RYHSY Ep. 335: Rob Bell on Everything is Spiritual and Apocalyptic Hope

In his new book, Everything is Spiritual: Who We Are and What We're Doing Here, New York Times bestselling author Rob Bell explores the endless dynamic questions and connections that have shaped his life, providing powerful insight into understanding one's purpose and place in the world. And I am thrilled to be in conversation with him this week. Listen in to hear me and Rob talk about his 11th book (!!), the nature of life, why "looking for" spirit is playing the wrong game, why hope needs to be apocalyptic, the problem with all those ladders we've gotten really good at climbing, and what's important to know about boredom and death. Rob Bell has been one of my greatest teachers and I'm so excited to introduce him to you! PS. Applications for the RYHSY Inner Circle close on Friday 9/25! Get all the details here! What He Said: "The elimination of obstacles, barriers, and discomfort is a recipe for boredom."  "Spirit is often lurking in whatever you most dislike." "I want people to experience the wonder and awe of their own existence." "Having your palms up to let go is the only way you can receive anything." Those Timestamps: 00:35 - Unfolding why 'Everything is Spiritual' 14:01 - Spiritual awakening in a modern world 18:30 - On apocalyptic hope 21:52 - Moving slowly and presently 27:36 - Embracing rest and rhythm and welcoming sabbath 31:19 - A different perspective of life & death  38:56 - The wonder of your own existence 43:33 - Palms up and let go Show Notes:  Applications are open for the Inner Circle! Connect with Rob: Site | Podcast | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Rob's new book: Everything is Spiritual

This week, I'm in conversation with creative coach, explorer, educator, designer, and Inner Circler Anne Ditmeyer. Listen in to hear us talk about being uncool, giving yourself permission to be ridiculous, why getting lost is a good thing, what happens when you keep saying yes to opportunity, why you're allowed to seek out joy even during a pandemic, and the power of using creativity to solve problems. We also talk about her experience in the Inner Circle (applications are now open!), so if you're curious about what's available there, have a listen! What She Said: "I want to be as uncool as possible." “Nobody acknowledges how much time content takes to create”. "What are those stories that aren't told?" "Make it human." “The value comes from people who are not like us.” “Get lost on purpose; there are multiple ways to reach a destination.” "Drawing on a banana is the new standard." "Be ridiculous." Those Timestamps: 09:00 - The creative process is messy 16:40 - Managing your goals 19:50 - Finding your own way to do things 24:00 - Connecting with people 27:30 - Using COVID lockdown to make new rules 31:30 - How creativity is problem solving Show Notes:  Applications are open for the Inner Circle! Connect with Anne: Site | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Anne's Prêt à Voyager blog Anne's Navigate Paris class Anne's Happy Exploring in 2020 New Year's Card Christine Herrin's Everyday Explorers Book: Wired to Create: Unraveling the Mysteries of the Creative Mind by Scott Barry Kaufman Book: The Journey is the Destination: The Journals of Dan Eldon

I've got a bonus episode for you today because applications are officially open for the upcoming starting-on-October-1 round of my year-long Raise Your Hand Say Yes Inner Circle experience!   Ready to go? Get all the details and application here: https://raiseyourhandsayyes.com   In this episode, I walk you through my vision for this experience, why it's structured the way it is, what it will bring to your life, and what's really going on if your first question is, "how much time will it take?"   Applications are open through 9/25, but if you know you're in, don't dilly dally as I will close applications early if the program fills.   GET THE DETAILS: https://raiseyourhandsayyes.com   Have a q about the course? Email me at bonjour@tiffanyhan.com or DM me on Instagram (https://instagram.com/thetiffanyhan)

I am so excited to be talking with one of my current Inner Circlers Gillian Freeman, of Pen & Thimble, this week! Gillian creates handmade, eco-friendly products for her business and is a busy mom of 2. In this episode, we talk about her experience in the Inner Circle, what brought her to the work, what she learned about pausing and taking breaks, and why she didn't really believe that what's happened for her was possible (but it was!). We also talk about how things changed for her along the way, why she's taken up a new hobby, and where she's looking next. Applications open Monday 9/14 for the next round of the Raise Your Hand Say Yes Inner Circle (we start October 1!) and if you're wondering if it's a good fit for you, Gillian's story will be helpful so you can see what's available! What She Said: "Success that's built on a foundation of burnout is not success." "It's not just about the business but who you are as a person - what you believe and what you want." "You don't have to put all of your ambition on hold in order to feel good in your life." "Whatever you need to do, start now... It's a journey." Those Timestamps: 07:18 - Not being a robot 20:46 - It's okay to hit pause 26:52 - Doing the work with bigger/deeper alignment 31:38 - How Gillian got into crocheting   35:42 - Relaxation and reconnecting with oneself 44:09 - What's next for Gillian? 50:38 - Reopening with grace and faith 59:55 - How to do the work without the burnout Show Notes:  RSVP for the free September 8-10 Choose Yourself Challenge The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Inner Circle Connect with Gillian: Site | Instagram | Pinterest | Etsy | Amazon The Nap Ministry RYHSY Episode on Burnout