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Anger is an interesting emotion. In its best moments, this powerful emotion can serve as protection for yourself and others. But at its worst, anger can cause long-lasting physical changes that impact your health and well-being. Russell Kolts, author of Compassionate-Mind Guide to Managing Your Anger, is an expert on Compassion Focused Therapy and has spent his career working with individuals who suffer from problematic anger, trauma, mood, and attachment-related difficulties. On this episode of POTC, Russell and Debbie discuss anger – when it’s useful, when it’s not, and what you can do about it! Join us in this episode for practical advice for fostering compassion in moments of anger today! Listen and Learn:  How Debbie and Diana address anger in their clinical work Russell Kolts’s thoughts on power and anger How avoidance might be a major factor in your experiences with anger Russell’s expert insights on righteous anger  Important differences between compassionate and uncompassionate ways of responding to anger Practical advice for fostering compassion and connecting to common humanity in moments of anger Russell’s evidence-based strategies and resources for overcoming automatic, reflexive responses to anger Resources: Watch Russel’s TEDx talk on Anger, Compassion, and What it Means to be Strong Buy Russell’s book, Compassionate-Mind Guide to Managing Your Anger: Using Compassion-Focused Therapy to Calm Your Rage and Heal Your Relationships Check out a few other anger books we recommend: The Practitioner’s Guide to Anger Management, Anger Management for Everyone, ACT on Life Not on Anger: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Problem Anger, and Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames by Thich Nhat Hanh A blog post on assertive communication by Debbie Learn more about Dialectical Behavioral Therapy and Habit Loops  Check out Rhonda Magee’s The Inner Work of Racial Justice: Healing Ourselves and Transforming Our Communities Through Mindfulness  Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych! Be sure to attend Diana’s From Striving To Thriving summit, and Jill’s PESI workshop Breakthrough ACT Techniques & Experiential Exercises: A Clinical Roadmap to Help Clients Overcome Psychological Distress in October! Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!  About Russell Kolts: Russell Kolts, PhD is a clinical psychologist and founder of the Inland Northwest Compassionate Mind Center. He regularly conducts trainings and workshops on Compassion-Focused Therapy, as well as on mindfulness and compassion practices. His professional interests lie primarily in the application of CFT and mindfulness approaches to individuals suffering from problematic anger, trauma, mood, and attachment-related difficulties. He’s written several terrific books including CFT Made Simple, Experiencing Compassion-Focused Therapy from the Inside Out, and An Open-Hearted Life. In his personal life, Dr. Kolts enjoys family time, reading, meditation, outdoor activities, and listening to and playing music. Explore all of his resources at his website, compassionatemind.net, and buy his latest book, Compassionate-Mind Guide to Managing Your Anger: Using Compassion-Focused Therapy to Calm Your Rage and Heal Your Relationships.    Related Episodes: Episode 50. Compassion Focused Therapy with Russell Kolts Episode 147. Extending Compassion with Janina Scarlet and Sara Schairer Episode 201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Neff Episode 120. Use DBT Skills To Regulate Emotions And Be More Effective In Relationships With Matthew McKay

With the chaos of the past few years, it’s no wonder that self-help has become so popular. In 2019 alone, there were over 85,253 unique international standard book numbers (ISBNs). This is nearly three-times the number in 2013! However, this wide availability of self-help resources includes many that are not rooted in scientific evidence. Over the course of her career, Katy Milkman, author of How to Change, has worked with or advised dozens of organizations on how to spur positive change, including Google, the U.S. Department of Defense, the American Red Cross, 24 Hour Fitness, Walmart and Morningstar. On this episode of POTC, Katy and Jill discuss strategies you can implement to see positive, lasting change in your behavior. Join us in this episode for the inside-scoop on a self-help resource that actually works, today! Listen and Learn: Jill and Yael’s experiences with self-help books in their personal lives Katy’s expert opinion on the most important behaviors to target first in your journey of change Practical advice you can use to start intervening on your own impulsive behavior right now! The impact of Katy’s book on Jill’s behavior (Hint: Jill’s gums are thanking her!) Some of the helpful tools from Katy’s book and Katy’s expert advice on how to best use them Exactly why one-size-fits-all behavior change solutions don’t work for everyone and how to figure out which ones work for you The science behind your readiness to change and its impacts on your ability to change Katy’s answer to the age-old question of “Why make New Year’s Resolutions if you’re not going to stick to them?” Practical, evidence-based advice on maintaining change  Resources: Grab a copy of Katy’s book, How to Change: The Science of Getting From Where You are to Where You Want to Be! Sign up for Katy’s newsletter, here!  Check out this article, Marital Therapy, Retreats, and Books: The Who, What, When, and Why of Relationship Help-Seeking  Read Kelly McGonigal’s book, The Joy of Movement: How Exercise Helps Us Find Happiness, Hope, Connection, and Courage  Check out Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success  Learn more about Prochaska and DiClemente’s Stages of Change Model  Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat!  Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!  About Katy Milkman: Katy Milkman is the James G. Dinan Professor at The Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, host of Charles Schwab’s popular behavioral economics podcast Choiceology, and the former president of the international Society for Judgment and Decision Making. She is the co-founder and co-director of the Behavior Change for Good Initiative, a research center with the mission of advancing the science of lasting behavior change whose work is being chronicled by Freakonomics Radio. Over the course of her career, she has worked with or advised dozens of organizations on how to spur positive change, including Google, the U.S. Department of Defense, the American Red Cross, 24 Hour Fitness, Walmart and Morningstar. An award-winning scholar and teacher, Katy writes frequently about behavioral science for major media outlets such as The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, and Scientific American. Her bestselling book How to Change: The Science of Getting From Where You are to Where You Want to Be is now available. She earned her undergraduate degree from Princeton University (summa cum laude), where she studied Operations Research and American Studies and her PhD from Harvard University where, she studied Computer Science and Business. Related Episodes: Episode 200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth  Episode 43. Willpower With Kelly McGonigal Episode 132. The Joy Of Movement With Kelly McGonigal Episode 34. Strengths, Goal Setting, and Grit with Alexis Karris Bachik 

Worried your kid is an asshole? Or that he or she is well on the road to becoming an asshole? You’re not alone. Bad behavior (read: assholery) is no fun to be around, let alone to parent around. In this episode of POTC, Yael and Melinda Wenner Moyer, author of How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes, discuss what kinds of behavior to be concerned about, the risk factors for assholery, and evidence-based practices for intervening with asshole behavior. Listen in to this episode for practical advice on identifying the function of asshole behavior, instilling theory of mind, setting the stage for empathy, responding to sibling rivalry, and much more! Listen and Learn: Yael and Jill’s personal experiences and struggles raising kids in a world of too much parenting advice The conflicting responses to Melinda’s book’s title A science-based explanation of why kids act like assholes  Melinda’s personal experience managing parenting and work (and practical advice on how you can too) Expert-approved recommendations for teaching kids to take responsibility for their behavior Practical advice for teaching kids to consider others’ perspectives and how their own behavior impacts others Melinda explains growth mindset, fixed mindset, how the two differ, and why they’re important for your child’s development Practical advice for utilizing rewards without fostering assholery What the science says is an effective approach to curbing sibling fights How to approach kid screen time with younger kids and teens How to know when assholery is code for needing additional support from a parent or an expert (like a psychologist) And much, much more! Resources: Melinda’s book, How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes: Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting–From Tots to Teens! Check out Anders Ericcson’s and Robert Pool’s Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise  Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!  About Melinda Wenner Moyer: Melinda Wenner Moyer has a master’s in Science, Health & Environmental Reporting from NYU and a background in cell and molecular biology. She is a contributing editor at Scientific Americanmagazine and a regular contributor to The New York Times, Washington Post, and other national magazines and newspapers. She is a faculty member in the Science, Health & Environmental Reporting program at NYU’s Arthur L. Carter Journalism Institute. Melinda was the recipient of the 2019 Bricker Award for Science Writing in Medicine, and her work was featured in the 2020 Best American Science and Nature Writing anthology. Buy Melinda’s most recent book, How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes: Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting–From Tots to Teens! Keep up-to-date with Melinda’s work by subscribing to her newsletter, here! Related Episodes: Episode 58. Balancing the Big Stuff with Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin    Episode 83. The Tao of Work and Family Balance with Tod Perry and Carl Totton Episode 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan Pollak Episode 123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Rebecca Schrag Hershberg Episode 149. How Not to Lose it With Your Kids with Carla Naumberg Episode 166. How to Manage Multiple Life Roles Skillfully with Sarah Argenal Episode 187. Raising a Child with ADHD, with Russell Barkley  Episode 200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth

Parental relationships are the cornerstone of mental health and well-being for children. However, parents often find it challenging to connect and engage in meaningful conversations with their children. Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, co-authors of What Do You Say?, are experts in child development and education. In this episode of POTC, Diana talks with them about evidence-based techniques for increasing communication, connection, and well-being for parents and their kids. Listen in for help finding peace and meaning in your relationship with your kiddos today! Listen and Learn: Diana and Yael’s experiences with parenting struggles in their practices and personal lives Four expert-approved coping strategies for parents yearning for peace William explains his compelling bookcover  The importance of empathy and closeness in child-rearing  Motivational Interviewing techniques parents can use with their kids! Three components of being a parent consultant (and how it can benefit your child’s brain development) When and why achievement lends itself to the health and wellbeing of children (and when and why it doesn’t!) Practical advice for helping kids develop intrinsic motivation of their own Easy, expert approved steps you can take to connect with your kids today! The importance of modeling non-anxious behavior and how to do so in the hardest of times William and Ned’s go-to dialogues for kids William and Ned’s hopes for the future of their book Resources: Buy William and Ned’s most recent book, What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home! Buy William and Ned’s bestseller, The Self Driven Child Listen to William’s band, Larry and the Flames  Check out Edward Deci’s book Why We Do What We Do: Understanding Self-Motivation  Email us at offtheclockpsych@gmail.com for the coping skills worksheet! (And send it back when you’re done! We’d love to hear from you!) Check out Alison Gopnik’s book, The Gardener and the Carpenter: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us about the Relationship Between Parents and Children  Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat!  Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!  About Ned Johnson and William Stixrud: Ned Johnson Ned Johnson is an author, speaker, and the founder of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring, educational planning, and standardized test prep. A professional “tutor-geek” since 1993 and battle-tested veteran of test prep, stress regulation and student performance, Ned has spent more than 40,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests, learn to manage their anxiety, and find the motivation to reach their full potential. In 2006, Ned co-authored the book Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Students Overcome the Pressure and Succeed, which tackles the outsized role anxiety plays in standardized testing. With Dr. William Stixrud, Ned co-authored The Self-Driven Child, which explores how fostering children’s autonomy can help solve two challenges seemingly endemic to kids today: handling anxiety and developing intrinsic motivation. Ned is the host of the PrepTalks podcast: conversations with parenting and education experts. A sought-after speaker and teen coach on study skills, sleep deprivation, parent-teen dynamics, and test anxiety, and his work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. Check out his latest book, What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. Follow him on Twitter, @NedJohnson! Dr. William Stixrud Dr. William Stixrud, PhD, is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group, as well as a faculty member at Children’s National Medical Center and an Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. He is also the co-author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self Driven Child and of their new book, What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. Dr. Stixrud’s work has been featured in media outlets such as NPR, The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron’s, and, New York Magazine. He is a long-time practitioner of Transcendental Meditation, and he plays in the rock band Close Enough. Related Episodes: Episode 78. The Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud Episode 135. Power of Empathy and Motivational Interviewing with Stephen Rollnick Episode 205. Thrivers with Michele Borba Episode 161. The Gift of Failure with Jessica Lahey Episode 146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is frequently used as an adjective to describe fastidious or punctilious behavior. Far from this usage, OCD can have long-lasting detrimental effects on quality of life and is currently one of the most misunderstood and misrepresented mental illnesses affecting us today. Vulnerable populations such as children can be particularly impacted by OCD, with symptoms beginning as early as 3-years-old and causing life-long issues for both the child and their family. Drs. Lisa Coyne and Ben Sedley, authors of Stuff That’s Loud, have spent years studying OCD, ACT, and mental health in young people. In this episode of POTC, Debbie talks with Lisa and Ben about anxiety, spiraling behavior, and much, much more. Listen in to learn practical strategies for facing your fears and stopping the spiral today! Listen and Learn: Debbie and Yael’s experiences with anxiety spirals in both their professional and personal lives The story behind Lisa’s and Ben’s passion for working with young people Experts’ descriptions of OCD, spiraling, and how they impact young people Useful, behavioral examples of how spiraling might show up for teens Unhelpful ways you might be responding to spiraling and practical advice for changing those response patterns for the better! An expert breakdown of exposure and its usefulness in combating symptoms of OCD Steps you can take today toward facing your fears  The surprising benefits of playfulness and creativity for clinicians working with anxiety Common challenges clinicians and clients face when engaging in exposure work Families’ roles in both maintaining OCD practices and supporting combative therapeutic strategies Resources: Buy Lisa and Ben’s book, Stuff That’s Loud: A Teen’s Guide to Unspiraling When OCD Gets Noisy! Take Lisa and Ben’s training, Stuff That’s Loud: Integrating ERP and ACT for Youth with Anxiety and OCD  Attend Lisa and Dr. Evelyn Gould’s workshop, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) with Parents  Lisa’s book with Dr. Amy Murrell, The Joy of Parenting: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Effective Parenting in the Early Years  Atlantic Article on Childhood in an Anxious Age Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat!  Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!  About Lisa Coyne and Ben Sedley: Lisa Coyne, PhD, has been a Clinical Psychologist since 2005 and has been an ACT trainer for a few years longer than that. Her specialty is working with young people and families, as well as work with anxiety disorders and OCD. As an ACT trainer, she has been lucky to have had the opportunity to train nationally and internationally, and has worked with individuals and entire organizations using a “train the trainers” model originally developed by the fabulous Fredrik Livheim in Sweden. In addition, Dr. Coyne has developed a parenting protocol that she and others are currently evaluating via clinical research. At present, she is the Senior Clinical Consultant and Founder of the McLean OCD Institute for Children and Adolescents and an Assistant Professor at Harvard Medical School. She also has a private practice in the Boston area (The New England Center for OCD and Anxiety, offices in Cambridge, Melrose, West Boyleston, and Los Angeles). Purchase her latest book, Stuff That’s Loud: A Teen’s Guide to Unspiraling When OCD Gets Noisy today! Ben Sedley, PhD, is a Clinical Psychologist based in Wellington with over fifteen years’ experience working with adults and adolescents. He has used ACT in his practice for most of his career and frequently draws on its methods and techniques when faced with bad days or difficulties in life. Dr. Sedley enjoys taking the theory of ACT and working with people to develop explanations and metaphors that make sense to them. He is currently New Zealand’s only peer-reviewed ACT Trainer and has trained hundreds of clinicians in ACT. Grab a copy of his two books, Stuff That Sucks: A Teen’s Guide to Accepting What You Can’t Change and Committing to What You Can and Stuff That’s Loud: A Teen’s Guide to Unspiraling When OCD Gets Noisy today! Related Episodes: Episode 146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne Episode 54. Anxiety in Children and Adolescents with Veronica Raggi Episode 159. Challenging Times During Adolescence with Louise Hayes Episode 136. Effective OCD Treatment for Teens with Patricia Zurita Ona Episode 188. Unwinding Anxiety with Judson Brewer

At the beginning of Dr. Seuss’s The Lorax, the Once-ler says, “I meant no harm. I most truly did not. But I had to grow bigger. So bigger I got.” Biggering, it turns out, is the default setting for most of us. For years, Leidy Klotz, author of Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less, has studied how we transform things from how they are to how we want them to be. Both his research and the Once-ler’s tale relay similar sentiments: we gravitate towards adding and systematically neglect subtracting. This remains true even when subtracting might add considerable value to our lives! On this episode of POTC, Yael and Leidy discuss the science supporting addition by subtraction. Listen to this episode today to learn how to be deliberate in your choices, subtract what’s no longer serving you, and add value to your life in the process! Listen and Learn: Yael and Diana discuss the role of values and subtraction in their personal lives  The values reinforcing Leidy’s life journey to “less” The important distinction between “less” and “subtraction” What happens to subtraction options when we’re under pressure Why we tend to add when subtracting is the better option Practical advice for being more deliberate in your choices Important differences between saying “no” and subtracting The story behind Leidy’s interdisciplinary approach to behavioral science Evidence based advice for subtracting in your personal life How to be more deliberate about making subtractive changes at a global level Resources: Buy Leidy’s book, Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less Check out Leidy’s experimental findings in his Nature paper, “People systematically overlook subtractive changes.” Learn more about the KonMari Method  Check out Dr. Seuss’s book, The Lorax  Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat!  Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Find out more from the co-hosts, Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s by heading to their websites where you’ll get access to their offerings, can sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!  About Leidy Klotz Leidy Klotz, PhD, studies how we transform things from how they are to how we want them to be. His research on the science of design has appeared in both Nature and Science, and he has written for The Washington Post, Fast Company, LitHub, The Globe and Mail, and The Behavioral Scientist. Leidy’s work applies whenever we are designing and problem-solving, whether for climate change, art, parenting, or personal finance. The range of implications of Leidy’s research have been highlighted in outlets including The Wall Street Journal, Grist, The Boston Globe, and national newspapers on five continents. A professor at the University of Virginia, Leidy has authored more than 80 original research articles and secured more than $10 million dollars in competitive funding to support his and others’ work in this area. Recognized nationally as a professor who inspires, Leidy has taught thousands of students, including 21 Ph.D. advisees, whose designing and teaching shapes the world. Before becoming a professor, Leidy designed schools in New Jersey and before that he played professional soccer. Buy his latest book, Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less, and follow him on Twitter @Leidyklotz!   Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 45. Rest with Alex Pang Episode 73. Essentialism with Greg McKeown Episode 99. Make the Most of Your Time with Laura Vanderkam Episode 130. Working Less with Alex Pang Episode 182. Do More With Less: How to Stretch in Work and Life with Scott Sonenshein  

In recent years, mindfulness has become a buzzword in Western culture. A recent study by the CDC found that mindfulness was the fastest growing trend in complementary healthcare, and more than merely a buzzword, mindfulness is currently a multibillion dollar industry. Deirdre Fay, author of Becoming Safely Embodied, has dedicated her career to exploring the intersection of trauma, attachment, and yoga and meditation. In this episode of POTC, Diana and Deirdre discuss her radically positive approach to healing trauma and provide practical strategies for becoming safely embodied. Join us in this episode for real-time yoga practices, evidence-based mindfulness skills, and more! Listen and Learn: Diana and Debbie discuss different approaches to connecting to our bodies and emotions Deirdre’s personal experience becoming safely embodied and expert definition of what that means The evidence-based skills involved in Deirdre’s skills-based approach to embodiment  How Deirdre cultivates a sense of belonging (and why this is so important!) Seven fundamental attachment needs and practical advice on fulfilling them Real-time yoga practices to become more safely embodied The evidence behind physicalization Diana and Deirdre’s experiences integrating practice into their personal lives Mindfulness, the risks involved, and how to mediate them Resources: Grab a copy of Deirdre’s books, Becoming Safely Embodied, Attachment-Based Yoga, & Meditation for Trauma Recovery Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat!  Attend Diana’s Weekly, FREE, Live Online Talk and Meditation   Read Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James Nester Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!  About Deirdre Fay: Deirdre Fay Deirdre Fay, MSW, has decades of experience exploring the intersection of trauma, attachment, yoga and meditation, and teaches “a radically positive approach to healing trauma”. Deirdre’s most recent book, Becoming Safely Embodied became a best-seller before it was published. It’s based on the BSE groups she started in 1996 and continues to lead online. She is also the author of Attachment-Based Yoga & Meditation for Trauma Recovery, co-author of Attachment Disturbances for Adults, as well as the co-author of chapters in Neurobiological Treatments of Traumatic Dissociation. A former supervisor at The Trauma Center, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute trainer from 2000–2008, certified in Internal Family Therapy, qualified trainer in Mindful Self-Compassion, former board member of the New England Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation, and trained in Self-Awakening Yoga and LifeForce Yoga, Deirdre is a respected international teacher and mentor for working safely with the body. She currently resides in France. Related Episodes: Episode 53. Yoga For Trauma With Deirdre Fay Episode 129. Yoga for All and Body Kindness with Jennifer Webb Episode 15 (Part 1) and Episode 16 (Part 2) of Embodiment  Episode 37. Post-Traumatic Growth with Diana and Debbie 

The Olympic Games provide excellent examples of people under pressure. This pressure has led to some inspiring wins, and one can only imagine the pride parents of Olympic medalists must have when watching their child succeed. However, pressure can also negatively impact one’s performance – leading to disappointment, anxiety, and hopelessness. In this episode of POTC, Yael and Dr. Hank Weisinger, author of The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure, discuss how “stress” and “pressure” are often used synonymously but lead to very different outcomes. In fact, the APA defines stress as the physiological or psychological response to internal or external stressors and pressure as excessive or stressful demands, imagined or real. Join Hank and Yael for a conversation about how to think about stress and pressure, how to manage them, and much more! Give your Olympic-hopeful a squeeze, and join us to learn value-based approaches for pushing yourself and your loved ones to be their best! Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie discuss workable aspects of stress  Dr. Weisinger’s expert break-down of pressure, what it is, how it interferes with our performance, and how to manage it The evolutionary function to our pressure response Important differences between pressure and stress “Pressure traps” and how they can trip you up Dr. Weisinger’s thoughts on the Yerkes Dodson Curve How to befriend a stressful moment Practical advice on connecting to your values to improve your performance Dr. Weisinger’s pressure solutions, from thinking about multiple opportunities to shrinking the importance of a moment Reframing how you think about your performance using Ranking Mindset vs. Excellence Mindset Practical advice for parents who fear their kids aren’t doing their best (even when they say they are!) Dr. Weisinger’s thoughts on applying pressure to our kids Expert-approved tips and tricks for upping your parental performance Resources: Buy Dr. Weisinger’s The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure Lib/E: A Positive Approach to Pushing Your Child to Be Their Best Self Check out Dr. Kelly McGonigal’s The Upside of Stress: Why Stress Is Good for You, and How to Get Good at It  Learn more about the Gottman Institute  Understand the Yerkes-Dodson Curve  Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat!  Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!  About Hank Weisinger Dr. Hank Weisinger is a creator, innovator, practitioner, influential psychologist, and two -time New York Times bestselling author. Performing under pressure, giving and taking criticism, managing emotions, responding effectively to the feelings and emotions of others, motivating oneself and others, and resolving conflict are all “emotional intelligence skills” that are part of Dr. Weisinger’s expertise that has been recognized and sought out by leading business schools, influential government agencies, Fortune 500 Companies and dozens of professional organizations such as The Young Presidents’ Organization.  With the publication of his recent New York Times Bestseller Performing Under Pressure, Dr. Weisinger introduces the concepts of “pressure management” and “pressure coaching” to the corporate world and executive education programs with the major revelation that contrary to conventional wisdom, nobody performs better under pressure – not even Jordan, Jeter and Brady! To bring this knowledge to more people, Dr. Weisinger has transformed Performing Under Pressure into a state of the art empowering E-Course Workshop Experience for businesses and students! For more information on Dr. Weisinger, visit his website at hankweisingerphd.com. Buy his most recent book, The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure Lib/E: A Positive Approach to Pushing Your Child to Be Their Best Self here! Related Episodes: Episode 172. Performing Under Pressure with Sian Beilock Episode 183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett Episode 200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth Episode 203. The Unbreakable Student with Nic Hooper

When it comes to serious illness, we might assume that medical treatment is where it’s at. And of course, when it comes to medical illness, medical treatment is central. But research also shows that talk therapy can help improve health, extend life, and make it easier to tolerate many of the challenges of illness. On today’s episode of POTC, Yael and Elizabeth Cohn Stuntz, co-author with Marsha Linehan of Coping with Cancer, discuss the usefulness of one such talk therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). DBT offers concrete, simple skills to deal with serious medical illness. From managing pain to communicating with providers and loved ones, Liz offers on-the-ground strategies that you can put into action today to help manage health, prolong life, and make meaning. Listen in for an expert-breakdown of evidence-backed skills and practical advice you can put into practice to help yourself or loved ones struggling with serious illness. Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie discuss the usefulness of skills like emotion regulation for extreme, stressful, or scary health-related situations  The role of evidence-based psychological interventions in the world of medical treatment Why DBT is particularly useful for managing severe medical illnesses Expert definitions and explanations of DBT basics  The DBT practices Liz has used in her personal life Practical advice for dialing down emotions when they become too intense  How to use your Wise Mind to make values-rich choices How you can wisely and flexibly select from a menu of useful skills Expert-advice for those who struggle with self-critical narratives that interfere with interpersonal functioning Liz’s favorite DBT skills for practicing self-kindness and helping others  How to be effective in relationships with medical providers and loved ones Connecting with meaning while struggling with illness  DBT training resources for clinicians, patients, and loved ones  Resources: Read Liz’s book, Coping with Cancer: DBT Skills to Manage Your Emotions–and Balance Uncertainty with Hope Sign up for more information on Liz’s DBT training for clinicians, patients, and loved ones Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat!  Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!  About Elizabeth Cohn Stuntz: Elizabeth Cohn Stuntz, LCSW-R, trained in social work at Smith College prior to earning her psychoanalytic certification. After this, she studied Zen, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and the application of neuroscience to psychotherapy, integrating these perspectives into her clinical practice and the ways she teaches coping with adversity. She frequently presents on topics related to coping skills, psychoanalysis, and DBT. Liz currently works as a psychotherapist and teacher in Mamaroneck, New York. Make sure to grab a copy of the book she co-authored with Marsha Linehan, Coping with Cancer: DBT Skills to Manage Your Emotions–and Balance Uncertainty with Hope.  Related Episodes: Episode 108. Is Your Self-Control Out of Control? Radically Open DBT with Hope Arnold (part 1) Episode 109. How to Loosen Up and Be Less Overcontrolled: Radically Open DBT with Hope Arnold (part 2)    Episode 117. Bearing Unbearable Loss: A conversation About Grief with Joanne Cacciatore Episode 120. Use DBT Skills To Regulate Emotions And Be More Effective In Relationships With Matthew McKay Episode 157. The Art of Dying Well with Katy Butler

The World Health Organization includes burnout in its International Classification of Diseases and defines it as work-induced stress leading to exhaustion and cynicism. If you find yourself experiencing symptoms of burnout, you might try many things to get rid of them. For example, you might try engaging in large amounts of rest, meditation, or relaxation exercises. In contrast, you might try to rid yourself of burnout symptoms by engaging in even more work. Each of these strategies would likely provide you with some short-term relief, but eventually the symptoms of burnout would reemerge, leaving you just as exhausted and cynical as before (if not more!). In this episode of POTC, co-hosts Debbie and Jill discuss the causes of burnout and provide practical approaches to preventing and finding relief from its symptoms. You’ve fought the good fight. Now, put your feet up and listen in to learn more about finding peace and joy in your work today! Listen and Learn: An expert-approved definition of burnout Three hallmark signs and symptoms of burnout  The pandemic’s impacts on burnout Practical, pragmatic approaches to self-care Overlaps and distinctions between compassion fatigue and burnout Debbie and Jill’s personal experiences with burnout Actionable steps for professionals, caregivers, and parents who are experiencing burnout but still have bills to pay  Skills for preventing burnout Short- and long-term consequences of burnout-related behaviors How and why certain exercises fail to “fix” burnout in the long run Debbie defines institutional betrayal and talks about the impact of minority stress on burnout How you can push against, and work toward changing, the systemic issues that cause burnout Resources: Check out Debbie’s website and buy her book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy   Attend Debbie’s webinar on ACT for Burnout! Look here for more information on the work of David Whyte  Try some of these exercises to identify and move toward your values Find out more about Christina Maslach, the original investigator of burnout Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat!  Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!  About Debbie Sorensen and Jill Stoddard: Debbie Sorensen, co-founder and co-host of Psychologists Off the Clock, is a clinical  psychologist with a Ph.D. in psychology from Harvard University and a private therapy practice in Denver, Colorado. She specializes in providing individual Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for adults. In addition to private practice, she holds a part-time appointment as a Clinical Research Psychologist at the Rocky Mountain MIRECC for Suicide Prevention. She currently lives in Colorado, her home state, and where she enjoys reading fiction, cooking, travel, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Colorado Rockies with her family and dog. Check out her and co-host Diana Hill’s book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.  Jill Stoddard earned her Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Boston University where she trained at the highly regarded Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders under the mentorship of Dr. David Barlow and Dr. Stefan Hofmann. She is founder and director of The Center for Stress & Anxiety Management, co-founder and vice president of the non-profit San Diego Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Consortium, and member-at-large for The Association of Contextual and Behavioral Sciences (ACBS). Dr. Stoddard specializes in the treatment of anxiety and related disorders and has expertise in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She is an award winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, author of two books, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off The Clock podcast.  Related Episodes: Episode 199. Belonging from the Inside Out with Meg Mckelvie Episode 105. The Self-Care Prescription with Robyn Gobin Episode 65. Self-care, Kindness, and Living Well with Kelly Wilson Healthcare Professional Well-being part one and  part two Special Bonus Episode: Healing Racial Trauma with Carynne Williams and and Jennifer Shephard Payne  

Eve answers listener questions about creating partner equality at home in this follow up Fair Play episode.

Children and their parents have struggled mightily with mental health during the pandemic. Now, in this new phase of the pandemic, we are beginning to rebuild and re-envision our lives with bravery and resilience. Michele Borba, Ed.D. is an internationally renowned educator, award-winning author, and parenting child expert recognized for her solution-based strategies to strengthen children’s character, resilience, and reduce peer cruelty. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael and Michele discuss Thriving and the character strengths it takes to be one. Join us to learn practical strategies proven to help children build those character strengths and thrive in their lives. Listen and Learn: Yael and Jill’s personal experiences with thriving and how they approach this topic with their kiddosMichele’s expert-based definition of what it means to be a ThriverThe character strengths of Thrivers How to thrive in real life (warts and weaknesses in tow!)Practical advice to foster bravery and resilience in childrenOn-the-ground, proven strategies parents can apply to help ALL kids develop the characteristics of thriving (read: even those with hormonal imbalances or de-stabilizing life experiences)Michele and Yael’s thoughts on creating environments where your children might most easily thriveFollowing your kids’ passions and allowing them to develop hobbies and how to set up useful boundaries in the meantime (we see you, Fortnite and Minecraft parents!)The usefulness of cutting one thing out of your activity list for the weekEverything you need to know about the important differences between self-confidence and self-esteemMichele’s expert tips on praising your kids in ways that support the development of self-confidence rather than inflating their egoPractical strategies for what to do in real-life, tricky situations where you must balance fostering perseverance or “bubble-wrapping” How to best support thriving and the development of resilience in children who have experienced varying forms of traumaMichele’s (surprising!) favorite movie and book recommendations for inspiring your kids Resources: Michele’s book, Thrivers: Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine Alison Gopnik’s book, The Gardener and the Carpenter: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us about the Relationship Between Parents and Children and its accompanying workbookMichele’s book recommendation, Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad DayAttend Debbie’s webinar on ACT for Burnout!Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!  About Dr. Michele Borba: Michele Borba, Ed.D. is an internationally renowned educator, award-winning author, and parenting child expert recognized for her solution-based strategies to strengthen children’s character, resilience, and reduce peer cruelty. A sought-after motivational speaker, she has spoken in 19 countries and five continents, and served as a consultant to hundreds of schools and corporations. She offers realistic, research-based advice culled from a career working with over one million parents and educators worldwide. Dr. Borba is an NBC contributor who has appeared over 150 times on the TODAY show and countless others. Michele is recognized globally for her work in bullying and youth violence prevention and is currently a media spokesperson for several major corporations. She is the award-winning author of 24 books translated into 19 languages including her latest book (spring 2021) Thrivers: Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine and its accompanying workbook. Michele is a former classroom and special education teacher with a wide range of teaching experience, including work in a private practice with children with learning and emotional disabilities.

In 2020, the global market for anti-aging products was estimated at US$52.5 Billion and is projected to reach US$83.2 Billion by 2027. Some of this market is certainly due to ageism, pseudoscience, and harmful marketing practices. However, ideas around aging (and the way it’s portrayed in media and marketing) seem to be changing for the better, and some anti-aging techniques are showing great promise. Dr. Andrew Steele, author of Ageless, has dedicated his professional career to identifying factors that age us. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, he and Diana discuss the science behind why we grow old and the evidence-based approaches individuals of all ages can use to target those aging factors. Join us in this episode to learn basic strategies you can implement to inhibit the aging process and enhance your quality of life today! Listen and Learn: Diana and Debbie’s thoughts on the pseudoscience and fear that typically fosters ageism and the evidence-based approaches to healthy agingAndrew’s expert description of the humanitarian science of aging (and why it’s so important we study this right now!)Ten key factors that contribute to aging and evidence-based ways to target themWhat evolutionary neglect is and why we have evolved to grow oldAndrew’s expert explanation of senescent cells and practical advice for targeting them Basic strategies you can implement today to inhibit the aging process and enhance your quality of lifeNew and incoming interventions designed to increase telomere lengthThe psychological impacts of living longer The values underlying Andrew’s mission of building respectful, supportive communities for the elderlyEasy anti-aging practices young people can implement into their daily routine Resources: Andrew’s book, Ageless: The New Science of Getting Older Without Getting Old Elizabeth Blackburn and Elissa Epel’s book, The Telomere Effect: A Revolutionary Approach to Living Younger, Healthier, Longer Attend Debbie’s webinar on ACT for Burnout!Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!  Dr. Andrew Steele About Andrew Steele: After obtaining a PhD in physics from the University of Oxford, Dr. Andrew Steele decided that ageing was the most important scientific challenge of our time, and switched fields to computational biology. He worked at the Francis Crick Institute, using machine learning to decode our DNA and predict heart attacks using patients' medical records. He is now a full-time science writer and presenter based in London. He has appeared on Discovery and the BBC. Follow him on instagram @andrewjsteele, twitter @statto, and facebook @DrAndrewSteele.  Read his Psychology Today interview, and check out his Today Show appearance Related Episodes: Episode 125. Why We Age and the Science of Longevity with David SinclairEpisode 13. Healthy Aging and the Brain Episode 194. How to Be (and raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-HaimsEpisode 174. How to Work and Parent Mindfully with Lori Mihalich-Levin 

For many years now, college students have been experiencing a mental health crisis. The events of the past year have only worsened this crisis, and according to experts, it’s not getting better. Transitioning from adolescence into adulthood while simultaneously transitioning from high-school to university living is never going to be easy, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be meaningful and worthwhile. Dr. Nic Hooper, an expert in clinical psychology, wrote The Unbreakable Student as a guide to help students navigate these transitions in meaningful, value-informed ways. On this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Nic and Debbie discuss the unique challenges university students face and how values can help students overcome those challenges. Join us for practical advice on embracing your university adventure today! Listen and Learn: Debbie and Diana's thoughts about the unique challenges of the college student phase of lifeThe sweet story behind Nic’s book, The Unbreakable StudentNic’s evidence-informed list of the unique challenges that arise during the transition from adolescence to adulthoodSix areas of wellbeing and how they impact university studentsPractical, evidence-based, advice for overcoming common university hurdles like procrastination, test anxiety, and more!Self-care strategies for the high-achieving student and how to talk about self-care to the beloved high-achievers in your lifePractical, expert-approved, advice on how to fully embrace your university adventureThe one piece of insightful advice Nic would give to his younger self  Resources: Buy Nic’s books, The Unbreakable Student: 6 Rules for Staying Sane at University, The Acceptance and Commitment Diary (published annually), and The Research Journey of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.Check out Nic’s website nichooper.co.uk, and follow him on twitter @nichooper7!Attend Debbie’s webinar on ACT for Burnout!Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!  About Nic Hooper: Dr. Nic Hooper is an expert in clinical psychology and a senior lecturer at the University of the West of England in Bristol. He has authored many scientific articles, book chapters and books, including The Acceptance and Commitment Diary (published annually) and The Research Journey of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Nic is also a co-director of Connect, which is an organization that offers a psychological wellbeing curriculum for primary school children. In 2017, inspired by his students, Nic began to write a book of life advice to his son, Max, which was to be given to him on his eighteenth birthday. Over time, that book slowly transformed into The Unbreakable Student. Visit his website, nichooper.co.uk, and follow him on twitter @nichooper7 for updates, resources, and more!  Related Episodes: Episode 189. Imposter Syndrome with Jill and DebbieEpisode 193. Heal Unhealthy Striving with Diana and YaelEpisode 182. Do More With Less: How to Stretch in Work and Life with Scott SonensheinEpisode 172. Performing Under Pressure with Sian BeilockEpisode 65. Self-care, Kindness, and Living Well with Kelly Wilson 

A psychology podcast episode about reducing the risk of addiction in kids and teens.

Kristin Neff is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, teaching us that compassion involves kindness, mindfulness and common humanity. In her new book,  Fierce Self-Compassion,  Kristin explores the balance between tender self-compassion and action oriented self-compassion.   “Sometimes compassion means standing up, saying, ‘no, you are treating me unfairly’ and setting boundaries.”Kristin Neff In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Diana and Kristin discuss the duality of self-compassion, women and anger, and the inner power needed to stand up and protect what you care about. Listen in and harness your kindness, claim your power, and thrive today! Listen and Learn: A breakdown for beginners - Diana defines “Yin”, “Yang”, “Kali”, and “Durga” and discuss their metaphors for self-compassionKristin Neff’s expert description of the yin and yang of self-compassionThe role the feminist movement has played in racism and oppression and what this has to do with fierce self-compassionNuances of feminine energy and how those nuances are embodied in different goddesses How to access and embrace your feminine energy (read: how to balance your yin and yang and why it’s important to do so!)Kristin’s personal experience finding wholeness and developing self-compassion amidst divorce, single parenthood, and tumultuous work experiencesWhen and why emotions traditionally dissociated from femininity (e.g., anger) are usefulThe functionality of fierce self-compassion and practical advice for embracing it in your own lifeKristin and her friend, Angela Duckworth’s (check out our episode with her where we discuss Grit) thoughts on the bind women find themselves in when it comes to likeability and competenceKristin’s expert, research-based definition of self-compassionWhy self-compassion is so difficult to achieve How Kristin’s personal experiences have informed her perspective on women, relationships, compassion, and wholenessPractical advice on how to use your values to inform your balancing behaviorWhat it means to be a compassionate mess and why it should be your goal Resources: Kristin’s book, Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and ThriveLearn more about goddesses who embrace feminine energy: Kali, Durga, Sekhmet, and Diana The Origins and Nature of Compassion Focused Therapy by Paul GilbertDiana and Debbie’s book, ACT Daily Journal Diana will be hosting a workshop on Compassion and ACT: Acceptance, Allowing, & Making Space where you will learn to use journaling, meditation & embodied yoga practice to explore Acceptance through compassion Dr. Kristin Neff About Kristin Neff: Kristin Neff is currently an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. She is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, conducting the first empirical studies on self-compassion almost twenty years ago. In addition to writing numerous academic articles and book chapters on the topic, she is author of the book Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. In conjunction with her colleague Dr. Chris Germer, she has developed an empirically supported training program called Mindful Self-Compassion, which is taught by thousands of teachers worldwide. They co-authored the Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals. Her newest work focuses on how to balance self-acceptance with the courage to make needed change. In June 2021, she will publish Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive. For more information on Kristin Neff please visit her website, self-compassion.org. Related Episodes: Episode 145. Caring, Compassion, and Cooperation with Paul GilbertEpisode 147. Extending Compassion with Janina Scarlet and Sara Schairer  Episode 198. Break the Good Girl Myth with Majo Molfino  Episode ...

As co-hosts, this podcast has provided many opportunities to interview incredibly high-achieving people. Our line-up has included authors, designers, artists, academics, scientists, doctors, lawyers, CEO’s, and more! We’ve had these individuals on the show to discuss topics such as humans' yearning to belong, steps we can take to begin mending racial trauma, and femininity in the modern world, and throughout these interviews, a common question arises: What does it take to become the kind of high-achieving individual we frequently interview? In this special 200th episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Angela Duckworth, founder and CEO of Character Lab and author of Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, and Yael discuss grit and how it’s associated with high achievement. By combining passion and perseverance in the pursuit of a singular goal, many have found success. Join us in this episode to learn more about what it takes to succeed and how you can grow grit in your own life today! Listen and Learn: The joy we feel in reaching our 200th episode and the passion and perseverance (read: Grit) it took to get hereDiana’s personal experience using her values to guide her grit (and when and how you can do the same!)The values that continue to guide our podcast’s growthA peek inside Angela and Stephen’s podcast, No Stupid QuestionsAngela’s expert definition of grit and how it is associated with achievementHow grit and parenthood can build upon and strengthen one anotherThe importance of values in your relationship with perseverance Some differences between how interpersonal skills, likeability, and grit each lend themselves to successPractical advice for knowing “when to grit” and “when to quit”Yael’s expert break-down of how grit works with principles of ACTAngela’s simple, evidence-based recommendations for growing grit Resources: Angela’s book, Grit: The Power of Passion and PerseveranceAngela’s TED talk (one of the most-viewed TED talks of all time!)Angela and Stephen Dubner’s podcast, No Stupid QuestionsKaty Milkman’s book, How to Change: The Science of Getting from Where You Are to Where You Want to BeRobert Cialdini’s book, Influence, New and Expanded: The Psychology of PersuasionAdam Grant’s book, Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't KnowDaniel Kahneman’s book, Noise: A Flaw in Human Judgment Elizabeth Nyamayaro’s book, I Am a Girl from Africa    Esther Wojcicki’s book, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results  About Dr. Angela Duckworth: Angela Duckworth, PhD, is the founder and CEO of Character Lab, a nonprofit whose mission is to advance scientific insights that help children thrive. She is also the Rosa Lee and Egbert Chang Professor at the University of Pennsylvania, faculty co-director of the Penn-Wharton Behavior Change for Good Initiative, and faculty co-director of Wharton People Analytics. Angela completed her undergraduate degree in Advanced Studies Neurobiology at Harvard, graduating magna cum laude. With the support of a Marshall Scholarship, she completed an MSc with Distinction in Neuroscience from Oxford University. She completed her PhD in Psychology as a National Science Foundation Graduate Fellow at the University of Pennsylvania. A 2013 MacArthur Fellow, Angela has advised the World Bank, NBA and NFL teams, and Fortune 500 CEOs. Prior to her career in research, Angela founded a summer school for underserved children that was profiled as a Harvard Kennedy School case study and, in 2018, celebrated its 25th anniversary. She has also been a McKinsey management consultant and a math and science teacher at public schools in New York City, San Francisco, and Philadelphia. Angela’s TED talk is among the most-viewed of all time. Her book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance is a #1 New York Times best seller. Angela is also co-host, with Stephen Dubner, of the podcast No Stupid Questions. Related Episodes: Episode 34.

When our innate yearning for belongingness is unmet or mismanaged, we might question or worthiness or act inconsistently with our values. Dr. Meg McKelvie talks to us about how to cultivate a sense of belonging from the inside out, and outside in.

On the one-year anniversary of the murder of George Floyd, we share a powerful poem by Dr. Jennifer Shepard Payne, and Carynne Williams tells the story of her mission to help clinicians of color access trauma trainings.

For generations, girls have been taught a certain set of rules. These rules are rooted in harmful, patriarchal ideas about what it means to be feminine. Followers of these rules may be referred to as “Good Girls,” and though following these rules makes us more palatable for society, it makes us quieter, less powerful members of society as well. In fact, inflexibly following these rules can prevent women from engaging with the full extent of their feminine power. Join Jill and Majo Molfino, women’s leadership expert and author of Breaking the Good Girl Myth, as they talk about five “Good Girl” myths, why we continue engaging in them, and how to break them today! Listen and Learn: What Jill and Debbie were like as little girls before society’s rules and myths impacted their behaviorWhy and how Jill and Debbie have re-embraced some of the behaviors they engaged in as little girlsWhat Majo was like as a little girl and why she asks each of her podcast guests what they were like as little girlsThe “Good Girl” Myths, how they’re rooted in the patriarchy, and how they impact girls and womenWhich “Good Girl” Myth might be impacting your behavior right nowMajo’s expert explanation of the spectrum of “Good Girl” MythsHow to recognize and break behavioral cycles rooted in myths about being a “Good Girl”Why the edge of vulnerability is the sweet spot for growthPractical advice for breaking preconceived, gender-related rules that are no longer serving you (read: stepping into your feminine power)The complex web of relations between imposter syndrome, capitalism, and the patriarchyHow Majo uses design principles to influence change in people’s livesSome big rules Jill and Majo have broken that have changed their lives for the betterThe positive aspects and strengths related to the “Good Girl” Myths and how to use them for your benefit Resources: Check out Majo’s podcast, Heroine where she interviews top female leaders, creatives, and visionariesTake Jill’s imposter quiz to find out exactly what kind of imposter YOU areBuy Majo’s book, Break the Good Girl Myth: How to Dismantle Outdated Rules, Unleash Your Power, and Design a More Purposeful Life Buy Jill’s book, Be Mighty Participate in Majo's meditations here. About Majo Molfino: Majo Molfino is an Argentine American author, designer, and women's leadership expert. She's the host of the Heroine Podcast, featuring top female leaders, creatives, and visionaries. Her leadership program, Ignite, guides women to design and share a creative dream with the world. With a master’s in Design from Stanford University and a bachelor's degree in psychology with a minor in cultural studies from McGill University, she supports women in designing their creative purpose without quitting their day jobs. She lives in California with her husband. Buy her book, Breaking the Good Girl Myth, take her free feminine power quiz, and take advantage of her free meditations through her website, majomolfino.com.    Related Episodes: Episode 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Jill StoddardEpisode 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez Episode 185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David SmithEpisode 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky