Dispelling Anger Fallacies with Dr. Steven Laurent
What are your beliefs about anger?Is it a 'negative' emotion? The cause of distrust and destruction? Does it equate in your mind to aggression? Indignation? Rage?Can anger be helpful? Does it fuel action? Motivate? Even inspire?Our guest today, Dr. Steven Laurent is an expert on anger and the co-author of ‘The Anger Fallacy: Uncovering the Irrationality of the Angry Mindset.’ He argues that there is always an alternative to anger. That's not just touchy-feely psychologist-speak either. He contends that anger doesn't make sense strategically. No matter your goal or the relationship context, it turns out that getting angry does you in the eye. There are wiser ways, he says, of making your point.In this intriguing episode, Steven and I discuss:Why anger is the most commonly experienced negative emotionThe paradox of anger or why people actually like holding on to angerAnger fallacies, beliefs and misconceptionsHow people find themselves in a rage spiral and how to get out of itMore progressive and useful approaches to resolving conflictWhat is "shoulding"The empathy factor in angerSteven completed a PhD in Psychology at Sydney University, and Masters in Clinical Psychology at the University of New South Wales. He writes Psychology Today’s anger blog, entitled Chill Pill and operates a generalist psychology practice in Sydney. He's currently working on a new book about love and relationships.