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On this episode I'm joined by The Mitchels!! Making your dream comes true with orgasms... what? YES! That's what we are chatting about today!!! James & Angela can be found on Instagram at @loveintentionally.co or online at https://www.loveintentionally.co. They host couples retreats throughout the year and also offer 2 on 2 sex coaching. This is a couple who hit a fork in their sexual life and sought out help from a sex coach, Alexa Martinez, @thatsexchick. This allowed them to work on their communication and also uncover their true desires. They were already engaging in some relationship rituals and then they discovered sex magick! What is sex magick? It's sexual activity that is typically done in a spiritual, ritualistic way between self or within couples. It's a way to connect our bodies with the universal source and create true magic within our lives. Think of it as visualizing your dreams when orgasming. Sex is the magic of birthing things- what do you want to create? Erotic Blueprint is something that James & Angela mention in the episode. It can be done here for free. Dub Sutra is a GREAT playlist to listen to during your rituals! Your sex magick checklist: Stoke the fire- be affectionate and loving all daySet the room- tidy up, comfortable temp, music, sexy smells and lightingCreate the space- Dress sexy, express intentions & visualize, engage in eye gazing, breath work and massage. Co-Create your dream- Focus on visualizing the intention you set, be fully present and engage in solid aftercare. Let's Connect!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseFacebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Email: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Look, we live in a pornified world. Whether you're looking for it or not, it's all around us. Sometimes mild, sometimes wild. So, when our kids begin asking questions or getting curious, what are parents to do? In this episode, sex educator, Scotney Young, and I talk all the deets on how to have conversations with your kids about porn. If parents aren't the ones to start this, what's the alternative? Find Scotney Young on Instagram at @scotbot321 Resources for parents looking to open up discussion about porn with their kids- https://drive.google.com/file/d/1PjlbfucUDcsNb1Jh2pvJhIhFe_4X8j0H/view?usp=sharing Let's Connect!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseFacebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Email: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Divorce can be tough and also liberating among many other things. In today’s episode, I chat with my dear friend, Lisa, about her journey through divorce. She shares a few experiences as well as tips for women going through similar situations. We talk everything from therapy to boudoir! Sometimes the bad things allow us to grow and become who we were meant to be. 🖤 Lisa can be found on Facebook as Lisa Moss and Instagram as @lisamosstheboss for anyone going through something similar and needs an outside support person. 💞 Let's Connect!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseFacebook: Rachel MaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Email: therachelmaine@gmail.com

We are kicking off Love Month with an episode about SELF-LOVE!!! In this episode, Brandy and I talk about the journey of self-love and what the self-love challenge is. We talk about the importance of silencing our inner critic and choosing our inner cheerleader. When on social media, remember to tell yourself that people show what they want to be seen. Don't compare your life to somebody else's because we are all on different journeys transforming our minds as well as our bodies.-N.A.G-Choosing our cheerleader over our critic.-Choose to be kind to yourself!-Self-love is a lifestyle-Practice gratitude-Prioritize yourself!For Brandy's guided journaling ->  www.selfloveshift.comLet's Connect!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseFacebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Email: therachelmaine@gmail.com

In this episode, I get real with sexual desire struggles while providing you with the tools and education needed to own your desire! For example, do you know the difference between desire and arousal? You can be physically aroused but not want to act on that arousal.  Understanding your body is powerful & confidence-boosting! You're NOT alone in your desire or lack of! Don't miss out on my tips on sustaining long term sexually satisfying relationships.* You can feel physically aroused without wanting to engage in sex.* Recognizing two types of desire: Spontaneous desire and responsive/reactive desire.* Differences between spontaneous and responsive desire* Simplicity of planning sex* The importance of self-discovery Nagoski, Emily. Come as You Are: the Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life. Simon & Schuster Paperbacks, 2021. Let's Connect!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseFacebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Email: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Pap smears are something many women dread, similar to a mammogram. However they are an important part of our vaginal health and bottom line, they save lives. Over 500,000 new cases and 274,000 deaths a year are linked to cervical cancer according to the World Health Organization. Getting your regular pap exam can help detect these signs early as well as get clarity that everything is looking good in there. In this episode, I cover everything you want to know about getting a Pap smear and also share some tips and advice for making this dreaded visit more comfortable for you. Hint- it includes some of my favorite things, lube and masturbation! ;)This episode is your reminder to schedule your annual gynecologist visit! Article used for this episode: https://buzz.pureromance.com/2020/12/pap-smear/?bizname=RachelMaineLubricants I recommend to take with you to the gynecologist visit: https://pureromance.com/PWS/RachelMaine/store/OCUS/catalog/personal-lubricantsLet's Connect!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseFacebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Email: therachelmaine@gmail.com

The Relationship Board Meeting is something I stumbled across when I met Alexa Martinez last summer. This is a document she created to help individuals and couples map out what their week looks like in a way that leaves them feeling fulfilled by the end of it. As a sex coach herself, Alexa and her partner put their time and effort in to this in a way that is easy to digest and understand. If you don't already follow Alexa, she can be found on IG @thatsexchick. This episode we dive deep in to how to utilize a tool like this in your relationship- either with yourself of with a partner. From experience, I can say that at first this may feel awkward but I promise if you stick with it, it can be life changing. This covers everything from the weather, your cycle and next level pleasure rituals! You're in for a real treat here! A few resources mentioned in this- Grab your FREE Relationship Board Meeting Handout here- https://www.thatsexchick.com/resourcesWild Power (Book)- https://www.amazon.com/Wild-Power-Discover-Menstrual-Feminine/dp/1781807582/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3DW5I0WSP8J8Z&dchild=1&keywords=wild+power+alexandra+pope&qid=1610059645&s=books&sprefix=wild+power+%2Caps%2C158&sr=1-1Sex Magik Simplified- https://www.thatsexchick.com/podcast-episodes/that-sex-chick-x-ep-5Let's Connect!Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertiseFacebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Email: therachelmaine@gmail.com

Self pleasure advocate... what the hell does that mean? How does one become one? This episode I dig deep in to my self pleasure journey and how it's helped get me to where I am today. 2020 was a huge year and a year for me to get really clear on the work I want to do and am meant to do. I share my reasons for transitioning from therapist to coach and how that benefits others. New year, new me, is in full force with today's episode! Enjoy! If you're ready to set up your call to discuss more about the possibilities of working together click here to do so- https://calendly.com/rachelmaine/consultationFollow Me: Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineFacebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Email: therachelmaine@gmail.comWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise

I recently referred to myself as the Blow Job Queen and have had an outpour of messages asking me to spill all the tips and tricks! I figured, what better way to end 2020 then by sharing these valuable things with all my listeners. Warning- this episode may spark arousal! Enjoy- my top tips for giving blow jobs! <3 If you're looking to be entered in to my Very Happy Holiday Giveaway here is the link! https://www.instagram.com/p/CIyEscoBzg_/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link Follow Me: Facebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.comWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise

Have you ever thought about freezing your eggs? I definitely have, especially being 32 and feeling very strongly that I don't want to have children. Still, in the back of your mind there is the thought, "What if I regret it later on in life". A few months ago, my friend Jordan mentioned going through fertility preservation and I knew right then I wanted to have her as a guest to speak about this. Well, you're all in for a real treat. What you may think is an "in and out" procedure is very much NOT. In this episode, Jordan shares the need to know information about fertility preservation as well as shares her personal journey and the things she never imagined that could have gone wrong. If you feel connected to this episode- please share and tag us then leave a review! Jordan can be found on Instagram at @JordanDnelle. She is amazing and so incredibly brave to share this story with the world. Love you Jordan! Follow Me: Facebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.comWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise

When I first heard about Only Fans I wasn't quite sure what it was all about... then quarantine hit. With increased levels or stress and decrease levels of finances, where else was the world to turn to rather than intimacy, connection and sex? And with not being able to leave the house the only source was really the internet! Millions of people turned to Only Fans as a source of income and millions more as a source of entertainment. In this episode I interview Valerie Rocio, a professional women who also runs a successful only fans account on the side. Because well... why not? She will be the first to tell you, "Sex Work is REAL WORK!" Valerie states that this is an act of empowerment for her and women all over the world and should not be seen as shameful. Follow her on Instagram @ValerierRocio or on her website at linker.ee/valerierocio. Great article on Only Fans: https://buzz.pureromance.com/2020/10/only-fans/Follow Me: Facebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.comWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise

While talking with my friend, Angela, last week, she mentioned that a huge part of her self care is putting her kids to bed and having an actual consistent bedtime. I was mind-blown at this and knew I needed to have her on the podcast. Not only is Angela a mom of three but she is also a school counselor so she sheds light from both ends of the spectrum. I hear so often from women that they don't have any time to themselves or time with their partner and then on the other hand they mention that their kids don't go to bed until 10/11pm. No wonder you feel exhausted and stressed out! In this episode we cover the following topics: - The importance of sleep and having a healthy sleep routine for the development of children as well as the importance for adults. - Tips for establishing a bedtime routine with your children. - Normalizing planning intimacy with your partner and working together to ensure this happens. The two books Angela recommends in the podcast are Untamed by Glennon Doyle and Baby Sleep Boss by Dana Obleman. And if you haven't yet got my freebie on Five Ways to Get the Foreplay You Crave you can grab it here! Follow Me: Facebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineEmail: therachelmaine@gmail.comWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise

I hear day and day again, "Rachel, we just don't have the time for foreplay, it's basically non-existent." Well, I've created a freebie for you!!! Five Ways to Get the Foreplay You Crave!!! Download it at wellnesssexpertise.com.. IT'S FREE!!!! Tell all your friends! Sharing is caring! In this episode I break down the details of the three minute game for foreplay! If time is not on your side, this very well could be the tool for you! Enjoy! Follow Me: Facebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineEmail: WellnessSexpertise@gmail.comWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise

Just call me the blow job queen ;) But for real though, I am here in this epsisode to tell you that sex does not have to mean penetration! I share stories from my marriage this past week and how my husband and I keep the fire going inside the bedroom with his penis entering my vagina. ;) You're welcome! Follow Me: Facebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineEmail: WellnessSexpertise@gmail.comWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise

I will admit, I am still a tampon user. However, lately I've grown curious to know more about menstrual cups. So, I had to have my friend, Molly Eames, on the episode to share her transformational experience since ditching tampons! Immediately after the episode recording, I ordered my cup! This episode talks about the ins and outs of using a menstrual cup and why you may want to also make the switch and ditch the tampons! Tons of resources in this episode!! You can find Molly on Instagram @Molly.Eames. She is a total BADASS! Put a Cup In It- https://www.instagram.com/putacupinit/ Take the quiz to find the right cup for you- https://putacupinit.com/quiz/Book- In the Flo by Alisa Vitti (also recommend getting the phone app)Book- Wildpower by Alexandra Pope & Shane Hugo Wurlitzer Lunette Cup mentioned by Molly- https://store.lunette.comDiva Cup mentioned by Molly- https://divacup.com Short history lesson on menstrual cups- https://store.lunette.com/blogs/news/short-history-of-menstrual-cups Follow Me: Facebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineEmail: WellnessSexpertise@gmail.comWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise

Join me this week with our guest, Megan Krueger, as we talk about the importance of voting in this upcoming election and why it's sexy!!! Women have only had the right to vote for about 100 years, we need to continue to exercise this right our relatives worked so damn hard to get for us. This episode gives lots of resources and guidance around voting and does not share any political views with you. We want you to follow your OWN values and ethics- not those of parents, society or media. <3 You can follow Megan on Instagram at @MeganLovesYourFace. Resources mentioned: Ballotpedia- Shows voters all candidates that will be on their ballot based on their voting location.Voterly- Gives profiles for each candidate along with donor history of incumbent candidates. Know Your Vote- Helps you compare candidates by their platforms and recent speeches and tweets. Politifact- Checks the accuracy of tweets and speech comments from political candidates2020 Presidential Quiz- allows you to answer questions and pairs you with the candidates that best fit you. Follow Me: Facebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineEmail: WellnessSexpertise@gmail.comWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise

I have some stories to share about shaving... and about waxing... and about laser hair removal. Aside from the laughs this episode gives you some solid tips for your future shaving adventures! Grab your HeLi Conditioning Shaving Cream and Aftershave here- www.pureromance.com/rachelmaine Follow Me: Facebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineEmail: WellnessSexpertise@gmail.comWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise

Michael Gibson is a Sex and Happiness coach and creator of The Extraordinary Lovers Academy for Couples. Michael has studied and practiced Sexual Healing through Tantra for over ten years. Through the online workshops and private coaching, couples learn what is truly needed in relating to one another, and how to provide love and pleasure consistently. This work opens a path to Modern Relationships, which is the ability to walk in the world as conscious, sensual lovers who understand the needs of their partner/sFollow him on Instagram at @michaelgibson.elc Follow Me: Facebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineEmail: WellnessSexpertise@gmail.comWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise

Emerson is a college student at the University of Kansas studying psychology and human sexuality! She runs her Instagram account @thekinkeducator to wide spread kink knowledge, safe practices, and overall sex education! In this episode we do exactly that! She shares tips for those looking to enter in the world of kink- but chances are... you're already there! ;) Follow Me: Facebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineEmail: WellnessSexpertise@gmail.comWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise

Insert selfie of you with text attached saying, "Hey babe, I can't wait to see you later so you can take these clothes off of me. I am wet just thinking about it!" Hot or Not? Well, if you're a listener of this podcast then my guess is you say... HOTTTT! Today's guest is sec and intimacy coach, Jen Oliver! She shares some amazing tips about body confidence and how this relates to sexting. She also shares sexting as a tool to communicate and spark some intimacy while we are away from our partners. Trust me- you'll love this episode and may feel some inspiration to send your first or next sexy text! Would you like to hear more about my new program, Sex for One: How to Pleasure Your Own Damn Self? If yes, click here to set up your free call with me! Can't wait to talk more! https://calendly.com/rachelmaine/consultation  Follow Me! Facebook: @RachelMaineFacebook Group: Owning Your Sexual Self Instagram: @The_Rachel_MaineEmail: WellnessSexpertise@gmail.comWebsite: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise