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With everything that has happened it is like a death to me. There are so many things that have changed.  I could feel the anxiety rising and the panic setting in. The TP  was a hot topic and  then it was sanitizer and hand wipes. Then it was no more than crowds of 250, 50 and 10. Then it was churches, restaurant and liquor stores. This like a death of a loved one feels to me like I need to mourn and with death comes all sorts of emotions like shock, anger, blame, sadness, frustration, questions like why me. What tools or knowledge do you currently possess that can help you in the current situation. The same thought process that created the situation is not the same thinking that can create the solution. It is time to be still and quiet the brain that is running rampant with stories that I presume are not making the current situation better.

Have you noticed the people in your profession are struggling now? Not that they weren’t struggling before it is just more apparent now because all the excuses have gone away. The things in the past that kept you and me from focusing directly on the problem at hand. I remember the days of being busy and not being able to find time for myself. To be honest it wasn’t all that long ago. Yes, I would do it for a while and then I would get sidetracked and then I would say ok ok let’s do it again. Kind of like the diet I will start it on Monday. I would forget about me and continue to worry about others. Going to work early and not taking time for lunch, working late and going home at the end of the day being spent. Does any of this sound familiar? Can you relate to any of this?

I know it may feel like you are alone with all the “social distancing”, feeling of isolation, being kept home from work, not eating at restaurants however most people in the world are feeling the exact same way. I have been sick for the past week and we have had some snow and a bit of yucky weather. So for me, it hasn’t really bothered me to stay at home and be inside. I know, however, there are others who don’t live where I do and being inside and away from others had really bothered them. Especially us extroverts who get reenergized by being with other people. I am also learning lessons about what it really means to be a global family. How people can still support one another even if they are not right next door. Think about what it would have been like 20 years ago had something like this happened. You can now choose empathy over separation, heart-centered action over greediness, and trust over fear. Be inspired instead of pessimistic. Focus on the positive and don’t get sucked into the negative. You have a choice so choose wisely.

I can equate this to life right now. I have been holding steady yet I am getting tired of the things I see happening.  I would love for this to be over and for things to go back to normal. I have been using the eraser way too much these days. I am noticing people struggling with • Difficulty concentrating or remembering important information • Feeling overwhelmed with the normal, everyday tasks • Stories • Being irritable, moody, or short-tempered

MY FEMININE IS ON THE RISE! Women are strong and we have the ability to make a difference. You have all the tools you need it is time to get creative! I have so many ideas flooding my brain! #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper #mentalandemotionalhealth #equinegestaltcoaching

LIFE IS LIKE GOING TO THE GYM! I’M NOT NECESSARILY INTERESTED IN GOING YET I LIKE THE RESULTS!!! When I make that statement what do you think? Who loves going to the gym? Wait I know a few people my brother in law who is a body builder and a personal trainer! I think he truly loves going to the gym. Yet the results are what is the deciding factor I think. For me some days can be a royal pain in the ass! And I do mean a pain in the ass! It doesn’t have to be the gym it can be anything right? ~Eating healthy ~Staying on track with goals and hopes and dreams What examples in your life can you think of? Life get’s in the way. What keeps me going when all the bullshit gets in the way! #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper #equinegestaltcoaching

It seems that our profession has a very high rate of depression, drug/alcohol abuse and depression. Lawyers are 3.6 times more likely to suffer from depression than nonlawyers, according to the American Psychological Association. Substance abuse rates within the legal profession are also much higher than for the general population. I know that my horses and I can help because it helped me deal with so many of the factors I mentioned above. This profession is so hard on us mentally, emotionally, & physically. I can provide a solution that is both instantaneous & lasting. I offer free MOMENT OF TRUTH SESSION! The whisper of the horse echoes the spirit of the soul. Don’t be afraid to choose you! There is no time like the present to work on you! For the full article that I referenced in the video. http://www.abajournal.com/magazine/article/attorney_suicide_what_every_lawyer_needs_to_know?fbclid=IwAR3K_TcVoVzmr4ZVm-6t74GdOBzb6tNJctfcJtpyrtKRVwDvXvRMPbTTDkw #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper

MAYBE RIGHT NOW MY JOURNEY IS NOT ABOUT WORK! It actually feels yummy to not think about work or push myself to work. Things like am I posting to Facebook, who am I connecting with, did I get a blog post in, did I get a newsletter out. Oh, and the big one did you work on your taxes! That is still on my desk calling my name every day. To tell the truth I have been a little better at quieting the peanut gallery when they start chirping. My whole life has been about work and “grinding it out”. That line was pointed out to me by a dear friend. This is something I say often. Words are very powerful think about it “grinding it out. That is not something that comes easily or naturally. In fact, those words sound harsh, painful and not enjoyable. Frankly, that is where I was at nothing was enjoyable. LIFE felt hard and painful. I was DONE! I learned that at a young age from my parents. To be busy and work hard. If you didn’t you were LAZY! I deemed being LAZY a bad thing. I never wanted to be known for that and most importantly I didn’t want to label myself as that word. I know that work will always be there that is not the question. However right now the journey is not about work. What is your journey and what is calling you right now?  #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper #mentalandemotionalwellbeing #equinecoaching

I’M A LAWYER NOT A MAGICIAN... I CAN ONLY PULL SO MANY RABBITS OUT OF MY ASS! Good lord clients think I am a miracle worker! Now don’t get me wrong there are times when I can walk on water and other times you can forget it. It also doesn’t help when you have clients that don’t help themselves. I see it happen all to often you work out a sweet deal and before you can get it signed a client some how screws it up by getting new charges, dropping a hot UA, blowing off an appointment and then it is all over! I’m like really WTF! Does this sound familiar? Guess what my horses don’t cause me that type of heart burn! When I go out to work them they don’t screw up and if something happens more than likely it was my fault NOT theirs. The joy and peace I have with them is amazing! The clients that work with them are grateful and appreciative and honored to be in their presence. #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper #mentalandemotionalwellbeing #personalgrowth #equinegestaltcoaching

I WAS OBSESSED WITH BEING PRODUCTIVE! This was the story of my life for years I would even go out on limb and say most of my life. I always had to be doing something. There was no down time. That saying no rest for the wicked I think was my theme! Productivity is measured most simply by the government as output per hour. This was a definition that came out of the great recession and yet we have normalized it or at least I had. Maybe I am crazy and this isn’t the norm. Yet when I look around at the legal profession and other professional organizations that seems to be what we are using as a definition what is the output. What does your productivity look like and what could it look like if you changed something? Even just one thing. https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/wellness/being-obsessed-with-being-productive-is-unproductive/2020/02/11/82358570-437d-11ea-b5fc-eefa848cde99_story.html?fbclid=IwAR3TEXz5WeoUWcgRP4Gh9BfduvoTk0ZV5t-OU42Yz5_patR975fjnpGOLIo  #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper #mentalandemotionalwellbeing #personalgrowth

I AM PROUD! What have you done to make you feel proud? Do you know the song by Heather Small? I can feel my soul ascending, I’m on my way, Can’t stop me now, and you can do the same! What have you done today to make you feel proud. In the past I was on the go and didn’t take the time to just BE. I was a HUMAN DOING AND NOT A HUMAN BEING! I finally feel like I have come to a place where I have found some passion and inspiration again. So many answers I don’t know Realize that to question is how I grow So I step out of the ordinary! My question to you is you could be so many people if you make that break for freedom! What have you done today or yesterday to make yourself feel proud? STOP PUT THE HAMMER DOWN! It doesn’t have to be HUGE it could be.... That you left work when you said you were! You ate healthy instead of grabbing fast food! You paid attention to your children and didn’t take a call from a client! You didn’t react to opposing counsel!!! Double HELL YA! You actually stopped and smelled the roses!  #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper #mentalandemotionalwellness 

MY PAST SELVES NO LONGER SERVE THE NEW ME! When I look back over my 47 years of life I think of who I once was! I remember who I was before my dad died. ~I remember who I was after I graduated from college. ~I remember who I was after law school. ~I remember who I was before I started my personal growth journey. ~I remember who I was before my brain tumor! Who were you before? Check out the latest episode of OUT~LAW!  #OUT~LAW #Witherswhisper #mentalandemotionalhealth #women #equinegestaltcoaching

ASHES TO ASHES! Did that make you think of the nursery rhyme? Or if you are catholic like me you probably are reminded of ash Wednesday. In my world that is the start of Lent and the Easter season. As a kid, it is about the Easter bunny, candy & finding eggs! As an adult, I used to say I am giving up giving up. However, this year was different for me maybe it is because I am in a different headspace. In a world of such hatred to oneself and others, bullying, lying, cheating, criminal acts, debates, and politics. What could I do that could bring a smile to someone’s face who really needs it. #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper #equinegestaltcoaching #mentalandemotionalwellbeing #women 

MY MESS IS MY MESSAGE! We all have a mess! Mine just looks different than yours or maybe NOT. I find that it is easy to compare my backstage to other people’s front stage. Not one of us really knows what is going on in someone else’s life yet I find myself wanting to compare. It is not always easy for me to be in the mess of things yet I know this is my message. I know that because for a long time I struggled with my message and what do I say. Why isn’t it landing! I struggle with patience in this mess because I want to be in a different place than I am right now. Oh, good lord, this is not easy for sure yet I am holding the faith that in the end, it will all be worth the MESS! What mess do you have going on in your life right now? What is the message that can support you and others? #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper #equinegestaltcoaching #mentalandemotionalwellbeng #coaching #women

IN CONNECTING I CREATE BALANCE! Over the weekend I had the opportunity to participate in mock judging for potential and future contestants for Miss Rodeo Colorado. Wow, did I learn so much! That ability to just be in the present moment and listen without having to respond with an answer or the desire to be right. One of the questions I asked was what is the number one problem that your generation is facing Find out their response and how connection creates balance. #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper #connection #MissRodeoColorado #balance

This has been a conversation I have had with myself for years and a more recent conversation with my husband. How can I be so good at something and yet not want to do it? Well, it started several years ago this question... How many can relate to that feeling or nagging question you might be good at something yet it doesn’t turn your crank. Or vice versa you are good at something and want to do it all the time and yet you don’t know how to make it work. Just because I am good at something doesn’t mean I want to do it forever or that it brings me joy currently! If I died tomorrow would it matter…maybe to that one it does yet to me it doesn’t in the big picture? #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper #mentalandemotionalwellbeing #personalgrowth #equinegestaltcoaching

AND SO IT IS! So this week I had my monthly call with my coach. I really love having a coach. For me it is supportive, it helps me see things that I wouldn’t otherwise see, and most importantly I have aw ha’s like I did on this call. I have been in deep self-reflection for the past 30 plus days and will continue that for the next 70 or more days. I talked about this on one of my first podcasts this year how I was committed to the first 100 days. WOW has it been moving so much has come up for me during this time! #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper #equinegestaltcoaching #personalgrowth #mentalandemotionalwellbeing

EVERYBODY NEEDS SELF CARE EVEN... The horses need self-care! #witherswhisper #OUT~LAW #self-care #horses #equinegestaltcoaching

I’M DRINKING FROM A FIRE HOSE! Even though it has been only minutes or hours it feels like days and weeks have gone by. Right now things are changing so rapidly that it is hard to get a grasp on things. Change is never easy nor is it convenient. Yet here we are. I have noticed so many things in the legal profession and how we were so ill-prepared for this type of situation. I am discovering new things about myself and have a huge opportunity to learn new things.  #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper #women #coaching #mentalandemotionalwellbeing #equinegestaltcoaching

EXERCISE BRINGS BALANCE, IDEAS, AND A HA MOMENTS! When I move my body it helps me feel peaceful and connected. When I am riding with the horses or running on the treadmill it shifts my awareness. I can really tell especially when I get out of the habit of exercising how both my body and my mind are no longer in balance. It is so easy to get out of the habit of working out and much harder to stay in that place of commitment. Can any of you relate? #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper #women #coaching #equinegestaltcoaching #mentalandemotionalhealing