20 minutes | Jul 20th 2020

3: Regaining Control During Chaotic Times

Thomas and Eric discuss the chaos that is living, breathing and training during COVID-19. The metaphors of small situations can be extracted and applied to the larger picture of life, business, and success. How much control do you have in your day-to-day situations? More than you think! Top view of modern workspace with laptop computer, notebook and coffee cup on white table Transcript: It’s like what’s this? It’s not so much what happens. Like it’s people to dilute the facts by telling themselves a story, that’s not even true. So, it’s like, Like you it’s like it’s almost like how I it was like even like it was example like with the room it would be like all my roommate like ate my food.  They hate me or they didn’t despite me. They did that because I know it was pissing me off or it’s like well it’s like do you know that like you don’t know that like you’re not situations? Yeah something we’re talking about but like I still don’t even know. I mean, I really don’t know where we’re going this podcast even so.  Take it all. Trying to come out develop. I mean, basically we we started kind of on the. Optimal performance as the foundation, but all for that it could be talking about getting your mind, right? Mm-hmm, you know diet taking care of your body. Yeah. Treat people well, mm-hmm. I mean, that’s a.  It’s a common theme but I mean yeah, that’s I mean really like the what I’ve been really diving into right now on my personal side is like. Youth development like youth athletic development as well as like nutrition like those are the two things like over the coronavirus that I’ve been like really kind of diving into hmm.  Tell me more who goes I mean like, There’s a whole I mean, there’s all systems. I mean, it’s like how um, Like athletic development you really only get one shot and it’s like people will gauge either they’re training off of outliers like LeBron James like they’ll see what he does on Instagram or they’re basing it off of like what they see Elite level teams doing now rather than like what it did to get them there so it’s like it’s like you’re starting your like you have the end goal in mind that’s what you’re starting with rather than seeking to kind of slow cook and develop over long-form problems like take the stairs like your core value or it’s like, It’s long-term consistency over short-term gain, it’s consistency over intensity even so.  Something like that could be a good place to start. Yeah, I love it speaking let me hit on that yeah reacting to emotions okay, we’re live by the way, oh really okay yours do this to me, there’s a very sneaky person hole so much more natural. I just start talking and then all of a sudden I’m talking for five minutes.  I wouldn’t put anything personal on you don’t got to worry about I sure hope not reacting to emotions or having emotional reactions yeah funny because I’m working on this house and growing up I would any project I’m doing where it’s like a little bit frustrating like you’re trying to get a nail out of a board yeah and it’s just not going the way you want it to and then you you know, you start getting heated and start calling the nail names yeah.  Having this big of a project and at the same time doing the training that we’ve been doing the kettlebells week. It’s like anything I’m doing and cold showers it’s like you’re developing that resilience like anything I’m doing in the moment. I’m like, why am I getting so frustrated over right a nail and a board like this is not worth the energy not worth the time and then you know, if I’m able to call myself down out of that guess what happens the nail pops right out yeah, you know always does I mean, it’s like yeah, we talk I think we talk about this last episode where it was.  Treated either controlling the control world or even like right now with the the covet nineteen pandemic it’s like why like you can’t get mad at it what’s like gonna do mm-hmm like that’s not gonna positively or even like negatively effective you will negatively affect you but it’s like you have zero control of what the state of Michigan is gonna say you have zero control with the president’s gonna say you see people gone on like social media.  I have a lot of like older people on Facebook or just like griping and complaining and it’s like that makes you feel better great but at the same time like you are like inadvertently like, Triggering other people to respond then you’re getting all these kind of like this domino effect of like negative conversation when it’s then you have all day just to sit around and stew about it because you have another note to think about so it’s I think it’s tough.  For people to whether it’s you want to call it like detachment or just like kind of framing the way it looks like people get so caught up in the moment and they have such a hard time taking a step back and being like all right, like what actually happened and one of my telling myself right because I think so many times like, We’ll tell ourselves these stories where it’s like it’s so much worse than actually is when realistically if you were just to kind of look at it like it’s always like when you look at somebody else’s problems doesn’t seem like that big of a deal but when it’s you you can’t like you’re too close to the problem you can’t even really decipher what’s going on it’s about that detachment.  Forget who said this but there’s a there’s a story of like. People that were escaping an island. I don’t know if it’s Japan or something and World War two but they’re on a boat and then if there was a storm they they would say all the boats where people lost control everyone died, mm-hmm, but if one person on the boat could remain calm and people could look at them as a leader and say hey, maybe we’re gonna make it through this then everyone would live yeah because the chaos on the boat causes it to capsize and go over yeah, so it’s like, Maybe you feel better contributing to the conversation going out and striking at this the right yeah but it’s like are we moving forward like?  From a character perspective or from helping each other or from doing something positive or we just contributing to the chaos and the noise and it’s gonna cause us all to yeah suffer in the long run yeah. I think that’s exactly what is it’s it’s a reaction instead of a response it’s like what’s that knee jerk thing you do when you hear bad news or?  Any news really in general. It’s like what the outcome is so much dependent on what you want it to be. Whether you think so or not? I mean, it’s like, You are in so much more control than you realize because I mean, you can control how you react. You can control what you say.  And as soon as you start like shifting the blame or shifting the perspective to somebody else like you’re putting them in the in the driver’s seat when I mean, it’s your life your thought your emotion your process of how you handle things. It’s like you need to get a grip on that.  If you ever want to be successful, I mean this end this comes back to like training and sport like, You can’t like blame the other team like it’s in a team sports setting like you can only do your absolute best and hope hope that your teammates are able to kind of keep that standard high as well, but the end of the day like in a soccer game like there’s 11 people on that field like you’re not gonna You’re not gonna know one person is gonna win the game, right?  Absolutely.  Transitioning over to the youth training. I thought it was interesting you mentioned people pull a celebrity or a. Very successful athlete and say what are they doing now. Yes. Instead of realizing hey they might be at level three. Yeah, not sure what can I do level 10 training? Yeah, what might be level four.  Yeah, it’s tough, right? I mean you see Instagram so good and so bad like you see I mean all these professional athletes will post what they did or what they’re doing now or what what they’ve been doing and it’s like yeah like but you’re not Mike Trout like you’re not the best in the MLB like you are a JV baseball player, so it’s like what did this guy do?  When he wasn’t playing JV baseball and then they’re like I think even parents see that too to where it’s like I want my kid to be the absolute best. I need him to be doing what the best is doing. I was like let’s do it the best did not what the best are doing, um, and that seems to be more the pattern especially also get parents coming all the time wanting like a specific like hey my kid plays soccer.  I need a soccer program looks like no they just we need to see like how they move we need to evaluate their patterns, like do they have strength that they have like capacity conditioning endurance to even. Make it through a session and then we can even start to have a conversation about like specific training it’s like if you can’t you can’t gobble squat with correct form, it’s like I’m not gonna let you even let you look at a barbell.  I guess it’s like yeah, there’s always gonna there always needs to be a progression and regression for ev
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