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This week we sat down without a guest to talk about Gwen’s first professional fetish shoot, in which she tried out heavy bondage, Michael Myers horror takedown play, and extreme tickling! We also talk about a day trip we took recently in which Gwen bestowed Dick with the honor of becoming the Mayor of Hell for a day. Watch the vlog of our trip to Hell! Available to all tiers on our Patreon. Check out the videos from Gwen’s extreme tickle bondage shoot. Dick’s linksGwen’s linksBuy our porn on ManyVidsRead our blog Check out our sponsors for this week, Securing Sexuality and Terrible Toyshop. You can find The Snapper 2.0 here!  Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX: Queers Next Door | Being There Will Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian Podcast Drinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, professional, model, porn, tickling, extreme, heavy, bondage, hell, michigan

This week we sat down with kinky blogger and journalist Podopheleus. He is a submissive who writes about normalization of kink & BDSM, how to visit/approach professional dominatrices, and submissive men’s mental health. He’s also a kinky author focusing on erotic fiction, and he even gives us some impressive BDSM-related rap verses from his newest novel!  Dick’s linksGwen’s linksBuy our porn on ManyVidsRead our blog Check out our sponsors for this week, Securing Sexuality and Terrible Toyshop. You can find the Breast Traps here! Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, submission, male, submissive, professional, dominatrix, blogger, author, rapper, erotic, fiction

It’s part two of our call/write-in Radioactive Spider Bites from listeners! We hope you enjoy this beautiful medley of kinky memories.  Dick’s linksGwen’s linksBuy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsors for this week, Securing Sexuality and Terrible Toyshop. You can find the Pussy Trap here! Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, radioactive, spider, bite, introduction, discord, call, phone, listeners

It’s been awhile since we’ve taken call-in Radioactive Spider Bites from listeners, so we thought it would be fun to hear from you kinky folks this week! As we know some of you want to remain extra anonymous, we took write-ins from our Discord server as well. Dick’s linksGwen’s linksBuy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsors for this week, Securing Sexuality and Terrible Toyshop. You can find the Nipple Traps here! You can also check out the Nipple Clamp Showdown, a guide comparing all of the nipple clamps they offer. Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, radioactive, spider, bite, introduction, discord, call, phone, listeners

This week we sat down with Emerson Karsh, also known on social media as The Kink Educator. We talked about her background studying kink in academia, how the pandemic led her to teach through social media, and the personal play she enjoys, such as humiliation, degradation, and masochism.  Find Emerson on Instagram or Twitter Dick’s linksGwen’s linksBuy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsors for this week, Securing Sexuality and Terrible Toyshop. You can find the Devil’s Lotus Clit Clamp here!  Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, academia, humiliation, degradation, masochism

This week Gwen and Dick sat down for the annual New Year’s day wrap up episode. We discuss the end of 2022, Dick’s first play party since the pandemic started, and answer some end-of-year listener questions! Dick’s linksGwen’s linksBuy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsors for this week, Just E and Terrible Toyshop. You can find the Rigger’s Delight Nipple Stretcher here! You can also check out the Nipple Clamp Showdown, a guide comparing all of the nipple clamps they offer. Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, new, year, change, growth, podcasting, travel, play, party, dungeon

This week Dick, Gwen, and max sat down for their final episode before holiday vacation to answer all of your burning questions!  Dick’s links Gwen’s links max’s Twitter Buy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsors for this week, Securing Sexuality and Terrible Toyshop. You can find the Para-hell-ograms Nipple Clamps here! You can also check out the Nipple Clamp Showdown, a guide comparing all of the nipple clamps they offer. Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, question, answer, kinky, holidays, moving, new, year, christmas, update

This week we sat down with Russian professional dominatrix, Mistress Smash, who tells us all about how she came into being a Pro Domme, as well as unpacking the influences of capitalism, patriarchy, homophobia, and ableism. Finally, we cover sadism, personal versus professional play, and how the patriarchy colors people’s kink experiences.  Mistress Smash’s websiteFind her on all socials as @schmooshed (Twitter, TikTok, Instagram, FetLife, OnlyFans, Fansly) Dick’s links Gwen’s links Buy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsors for this week, Securing Sexuality and Terrible Toyshop. You can find The Stinger here! Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, professional, dominatrix, domme, pro, pandemic, patriarchy, ableism, sadism

This week we sat down once again with fetish performer Princess Kira! We asked her about her recent ventures into diaper fetish and boy/girl videos, as well as the scoop on why she left OnlyFans awhile back due to their heavy (and often confusing) content restrictions. Additionally, we discussed how to stay creative while making porn, as well as her time at FetishCon2022! Princess Kira’s links: https://linktr.ee/thefapfolder  Dick’s links Gwen’s links Buy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsors for this week, Securing Sexuality and Terrible Toyshop. You can find The Original Snapper here! Did you know that Princess Kira has donated a couple of sexy nude photosets to our Patreon? Access them at the $2 or higher tier! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, model, work, sw, performer, OnlyFans, FetishCon, convention, diaper, ABDL, creativity

This week we sat down with Innana Justice, Paris professional dominatrix and editor of the book “The Heart of the Dominatrix: Portraits and Interviews with Exceptional Mistresses,” which features 21 dommes from throughout the world. In her book, she features a wide range of dommes, not just the latex-wearing, whip-wielding domme you might imagine. We also talked about the dinner she hosts for local dommes, starting her career at the start of the pandemic, and the kinky board game she invented! Find more of Innana at her website or Buy The Heart of the Dominatrix: Portraits and Interviews with Exceptional Mistresses and follow her socials (Twitter, Fet, IG, FB): @InannaJustice   Dick’s links Gwen’s links Buy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsors for this week, Fettish and Terrible Toyshop. You can find The Original Snapper here! Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, professional, dominatrix, domme, munch, community, pandemic, board, game, author

This week we sat down once again with Divina - Goddess of Secrets to talk more about her findom escapades, such as trying to find balance between self-care and sex work, navigating relationships with finsubs, and all the different ways you can approach findom. We also talked about accepting when your sex life changes over time, and the struggles of dealing with societal pressures of how often we “should” be having sex—as well as how you can shape your sex life around things like mental illnesses and disabilities.  Find Divina on Twitter Dick’s links Gwen’s links Buy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsors for this week, Fettish and Terrible Toyshop. You can find the Rigger’s Delight Humbler here! Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, findom, goddess, self, care, sex, work, mental, health, balance

This week we’re sitting down with Mr. Gatsby, a dominant who enjoys playing with high protocol and kinky rituals. We talked about his love for M/s dynamics, predicaments, stress positions, punishment, and how fun it can be to set someone up for failure.  Find Mr. Gatsby on Fetlife! Dick’s links Gwen’s links Buy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsors for this week, Fettish and Terrible Toyshop. You can find The Snapper 2.0 here!  Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, dominant, predicament, punishment, master, slave, stress, position, perfection, failure

This week we were excited to welcome back Ms. Chloe Mars on the show! We talked about wrestling porn and her wrestling dynamic with friend of the show Erin Pim. We also talked about topping with medical and dental fet, and utilizing kink to heal from various forms of trauma throughout her life.  Find Chloe  Dick’s links Gwen’s links Buy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsors for this week, Fettish, Just E, and Terrible Toyshop. You can find the Breast Traps here! Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, dominatrix, pro, domme, wrestling, clips, medical, dental, trauma, religion, stoner

This week we’re sitting down with professional dominatrix Mistress Shayla Lange. She’s really into topping for CBT, hardsports, and her scenes, while often being silly in nature, almost always take a hard left-turn into perversion at some point. She tells us some of the stories of the various modes of sex work she’s done, such as stories from the champagne room, and how stripping compares to pro-domming. We also talked about dungeon building, and discussed the differences between building a personal versus commercial dungeon. (And yes, we finally gave some of our thoughts on How to Build a Sex Room). Mistress Shayla’s links Dick’s links Gwen’s links Buy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsors for this week, Fettish and Terrible Toyshop. You can find the Pussy Trap here!  Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, dominatrix, pro, domme, stripper, dungeon, building, diy, hardsports, cbt

This week we sat down with Dana Valentine to talk about being a genderfluid sadomasochist, which encompasses their “bubbly sadist” side as well as their “pain slut” side. They have a unique relationship with primal play where they’re forced into primal mode by pairing sound and scent with pain. We also talked about what it was like curating a kink/sex-positive lending library. Find Dana on Fetlife Dick’s links Gwen’s links Buy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsors for this week, Just E and Terrible Toyshop. You can find the Nipple Traps here! You can also check out the Nipple Clamp Showdown, a guide comparing all of the nipple clamps they offer. Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, primal, sadism, masochism, pain, slut, library, books, scream, erotic, sound

This week Dick, Gwen, and max all sat down to respond to some long overdue email questions from listeners asking for kinky advice. We also respond to a voicemail from a listener.  Dick’s links Gwen’s links max’s Twitter Buy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsor for this week, Terrible Toyshop. You can find the Devil’s Lotus Clit Clamp here!  Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, advice, questions

This week we sat down with Master Joshua to talk about Kink Collective, an organization he runs that offers bi-weekly kink education classes. We also talked about his career as a pro dom.  Master Joshua’s links:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/masterjoshuanyc/  Websites:  https://masterjoshua.com/  https://kinkcollective.net/  https://ssdce.org/ Dick’s links Gwen’s links Buy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsors for this week, Just E and Terrible Toyshop. You can find the Rigger’s Delight Nipple Stretchers here! You can also check out the Nipple Clamp Showdown, a guide comparing all of the nipple clamps they offer. Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, professional, dominant, growth, collective, career, rapport, negotiation

This week we sat down with trinkerbelchen to discuss their experience in the German kink community over the past three years, disability (autism, specifically), age play, pet play, doll play, and fetishizing their own death in a variety of ways.  Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed this one, you’d probably like episodes 275, 281, and 282. Find Trinkerbelchen:  Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/users/11152269?sp=1  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/trinkerbelchen/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/trinkerbelchen Dick’s links Gwen’s links Buy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsor for this week, Terrible Toyshop. You can find the Para-Hell-Ogram Nipple Clamps here! You can also check out the Nipple Clamp Showdown, a guide comparing all of the nipple clamps they offer. Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, autism, disability, germany, ageplay, petplay, death

This week we sat down with professional dominatrix Chloe Mars, who specializes in topping for intoxication play (specifically with cannabis, which she refers to as CannaDomming). We also talked about her approach to kink and sex work, her identity as a soft dom with a sadistic streak, and being a mommy dom, and more. Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed this one, you’d probably like episodes 146, 257, and 309. Find more of Chloe! Dick’s links Gwen’s links Buy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsors for this week, Just E and Terrible Toyshop. You can find The Stinger here! Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, intoxication, weed, 420, marijuana, cannabis, dominatrix, soft, sadism, mommy

This week we sat down with KittenFlo and her partner Moogie to discuss their interests in rope and pet play, as well as their living power exchange relationship. We also talked about KittenFlo’s experiences as a kinky maker and DJ.  Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed this one, you’d probably like episodes 268, 285, and 304. Find more of KittenFlo, including her shop, the Lucky Kitten DJ Twitch stream, and more. Dick’s links Gwen’s links Buy our porn on ManyVids Check out our sponsors for this week, SilcArts and Terrible Toyshop. You can find The Original Snapper here! Keep us on the air by donating a buck or two to our Patreon! You can listen to an ad-free version of the show a week early, and you’ll have access to our Discord server. We post a lot of fun bonus content, including monthly photosets, silly and/or kinky videos, and movie reviews. If you'd rather make a one time donation, you can do so at PayPal.me/OCPLLC. Find us on Twitter and Instagram: @ocpkink More by PODCAST JUKEBOX:Queers Next Door | Being ThereWill Sean Podcast? | The Goth Librarian PodcastDrinks with God | ProudToBeKinky | NO LOVE LOST Tags: Kink, BDSM, Fetish, Fantasy, Sex, Education, Positive, DIY, Punk, Nerds, petplay, DJ, rope, suspension, maker, power, exchange, kitten, dominance, submission