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Chassity Nichole Crittenden is a Southern University graduate. Chassity is a 31-year-old fitness & sports enthusiast, current stress & anxiety fitness trainer, mentor, Life Coach & former NBA Houston Rockets Cheerleader. Chassity has approximately 15+ years of cheerleading experience. Having started cheer in her preteen years, she truly grew to love the sport. Chassity started her cheer journey as a "park league" cheerleader in Warner Robins, GA with the Robins Air Force Base Falcons, continued into Middle School as the captain both years for the Warner Robins Middle School Warriors.  Chassity moved to Baker, Louisiana the summer before High School and started cheering at Baker High her sophomore year.  Chassity went on to become a collegiate cheerleader at Southern University where she cheered 4 years and then went on to audition for the Professional NBA Houston Rockets cheerleaders, where she cheered for 5 years. Chassity has been featured in a published book called "Cheer" by Kate Torgovnick, was selected as a 2012 NBA All-Star cheerleader, as well as the 2016 Olympic Cheerleader.  Chassity was named Cheer Coach of the year for the 2012 & 2013 Fort Bend Football League.  Chassity now host cheer camps, clinics, and events for young ladies global to promote positive goal setting, work ethic, confidence & positive self-image! Nancy Lynch serves as a Theatre Director in Fort Bend ISD, and has instructed both Theatre and Dance for over 7 years. She has had the great responsibility of building three Performing Arts programs in Louisiana. She previously worked with the Women and Theatre Program as the nationwide Jane Chambers Playwriting Contest coordinator for graduate students. Ms. Lynch has been nominated for various acting awards including the Kennedy Center’s Irene Ryan Award, danced as a Southern University Dancing Doll, and has taught multiple genres of dance ranging from contemporary ballet, stylized jazz, modern, and liturgical. Upon obtaining her Master’s Degree in Dramaturgy (Theatre History) with a Cognate in Directing from Texas State University she began her Theatre and Dance teaching career Listen on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, and Google Play. Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):My Lotus Moments   Connect on with us: Follow us on IG: HopeInHer Let’s keep the conversation going by joining the Facebook group discussion! Join here Announcements: WE ARE LOOKING FOR CONTRIBUTORS! SHARE YOUR STORY AS A GUEST WRITER Have something to say and now want to share your story with us by becoming a guest writer on the blog? We’d be honored to share your story with readers from around the world! Click HERE to learn more! SHARE YOUR TRUTH ON THE MY LOTUS MOMENTS PODCAST We’re always searching for the right guest to join the MLM podcast to share her story of tragedy and triumph surrounding trauma. When we speak our truth, we inspire others to do the same. Click HERE to learn more! Thank you for your support! SHARE THIS:

Download Episode Chassity Nichole Crittenden is a Southern University graduate who majored in Therapeutic Recreation & minored in Psychology.  Chassity grew up a military kid, yet Baton Rouge Louisiana is the place she calls home. She is a 31-year-old anxiety & stress fitness trainer, Certified Recreational Therapist & Life Coach as well as a true advocate for mental health; especially in minority communities. Chassity has worked in behavioral health for 9 years as a Recreational Therapist and Crisis Prevention Instructor.  Encouraging healthy leisure & recreational activities as a means of therapy as well as educating communities, families, medical institutions and police departments on the importance of de-escalation and crisis prevention tactics when dealing with mentally ill populations. Chassity has found healing and peace by living transparently and shares that very energy and concept with many around the world! She recently founded an outreach organization called B.R.E.A.T.H.3 which stands for "Begin Rebuilding Even After The Hurt" to provide resources to families, friends, and individuals dealing with the impact of mental health issues. Chassity has a true passion and purpose for people and she hopes her story and journey not only touches others but impacts, educates, and enlightens others of the seriousness of mental health in not only minority communities but all communities, households, and individuals around the globe! Her motto: "Inhale, Exhale, Heal" Listen on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, and Google Play. Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):My Lotus Moments   Connect on with us: Click HERE to follow Chassity on IG To connect with Chassity on Facebook click HERE Follow us on IG: HopeInHer   Let's keep the conversation going by joining the Facebook group discussion! Join here Announcements: Like the shirts, Chassity and her brother are rocking? The shirts sold out last month but they are BACK IN STOCK but only for a limited time! GRAB YOURS BEFORE ITS TOO LATE! We will not be restocking! /**/ SHARE YOUR TRUTH ON THE MY LOTUS MOMENTS PODCAST We're always searching for the right guest to join the MLM podcast to share her story of tragedy and triumph surrounding trauma. When we speak our truth, we inspire others to do the same. Click HERE to contact us for more information!   SHARE YOUR STORY AS A GUEST WRITER Have something to say and now want to share your story with us by becoming a guest writer on the blog? We'd be honored to share your story with readers from around the world! Click HERE to us for more information!   Thank you for your support!

Today’s guest is Courtney Jacobs Courtney Jacobs has had 27 years of performance experience studying all over the United States. Receiving instruction from the likes of Debbie Allen, Renee Chatelain, Avery Wilson,  Maud Arnold, Jonas Vanderbilt, and many more, she is fluent in nearly 10 different forms of dance. As a former Southern University Dancing Doll and Gold 'N' Bluez member, background dancer and opening performer to chart topping artists such as Cupid, Keisha Cole, Young Jeezy, ‪Trey Songz‬, B5, Plies, Souljah Boy, and many more, she is no stranger to performing and loves to teach and execute her craft. She is the recipient of the 2013 Best Female Featured Dancer New V Award for her work in “The Wiz” as the Emerald City Fashionista and later choreographed New Venture Theatre’s “Women of Brewster Place” and “Shout”.   She coached the XLR8 Jasper dance team to a Red Line national championship in 2015. She is currently coaching the Fleur De Lis dance team at West Feliciana High School in St. Francisville, La and teaching Technique and Jazz at Winter Dance Company in Baton Rouge, La. She is the owner and operator of Courtney Arnel.   Listen on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, and Google Play. Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed): My Lotus Moments   Mentioned in this episode Winter Dance Co.  Connect on with us: Courtney on IG: cjthedansa Website: www.courtneyarnel.com Our IG: HopeInHer     Announcements: Coming next week…   Next week's podcast is all about the men! Join me as I chat with Tobias Robertson about millennial men and depression Thank you for your support!

Today’s guest is T-Kea Blackman. T-Kea Blackman is a mental health advocate, speaker and writer who lives by the Toni Payne quote, "I rather be living my truth happily than living a lie miserably.” She is the creator and host of the Fireflies Unite Podcast, a weekly podcast dedicated to bringing light into darkness (just like the fireflies) by sharing the stories of individuals thriving with mental illness within communities of color despite the disadvantages and racism that negatively impact their mental health. T-Kea’s articles have been published on The Mighty, Urban Faith, Blavity, and 21 Ninety. Making a digital footprint, her articles have garnered over 50,000 views and encouraged individuals to seek treatment.   Described as an inspiration, her heartfelt and powerful story is a testament that you can thrive despite having a mental illness. T-Kea was diagnosed with major depression and generalized anxiety disorders and is a suicide survivor. She previously worked in the television industry as a publicist and production/talent coordinator. Within her career, she provided support to TV One’s signature award-winning shows Unsung and Unsung Hollywood, BET’s Black Girls Rock!, The Soul Train Awards and BET X Youth Experience. Her diagnosis led her to use her communications and media skills to raise awareness for mental illness within communities of color. T-Kea is a member of the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), the nation’s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness, and currently serves as a In Our Own Voice speaker. She is also a member of ColorComm, a professional community for women of color in the communications industry and a brand ambassador for the Blessed & Bossed Up Podcast.   Listen on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, and Google Play. Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed): My Lotus Moments   Mentioned in this episode This is My Brave Connect on with us: T-Kea on IG: Firefliespod T-Kea on Facebook at Fireflies Unite: Healthy Minds Website: www.firefliesunite.com Our IG: HopeInHer     Announcements: Coming next month...   June's podcast is all about the rekindling of relationships between adult daughters and their dad's. We will also discuss trauma related to absent fathers during next month's online Circle of Hope discussion. Be sure you join the FB group, H.E.R. by Hope to be apart of that live discussion and to continue the discussions r/t all the podcasts!   New Merchandise This Month! Limited Edition Tees for Mental Health Awareness Month! Click HERE to purchase the Black Mental Health Matters Tee   This tee is for those who are managing their mental health and those who are advocating, providing services, and using their platforms even when it's unpopular, to combat the stigma of mental health and spread awareness. Click HERE to purchase the Mental Health Warrior Tee.   Still Available... For the curly girls… Protect those edges, honey! Click HERE to purchase Pray.Trust.Work Tee’s! Click HERE to purchase! Only a few remain! Thank you for your support!

Today’s guests are Daronda Parker-Lathan, LCSW. Daronda Parker-Lathan is the owner and Clinical Director of Generations Individual and Family Treatment Services, LLC (GIFTS, LLC).  She is also employed with the Office of Juvenile Justice as an LCSW.  She has over twenty years of clinical experience working with emotionally and mentally high risk boys and girls, and their families throughout the state of Louisiana.  Daronda earned her Bachelor of Arts degree in pre-Professional Social Work in 1989 at Louisiana Tech University and her Master of Social Work degree from Louisiana State University in 1991. Throughout her career, she has been active in writing grants, monitoring contracts, assessing youth and developing clinical programs. Her agency's motto is “Building healthy families…bridging kinship gaps”.   And Shontell Buffington, LCSW Shontell is a native of Baton Rouge, LA. She obtained her bachelor's degree in Social Work from Southeastern Louisiana. She later attended LSU where she received a Master's in Social Work. Shontell is the oldest of nine and is a mother to two daughters. She was drawn to social work after overcoming many obstacles that life presented such as sexual abuse, physical abuse, and emotional abuse. Shontell was affected by substance abuse, overcame teen pregnancy, domestic violence and living in poverty. Shontell is dedicated to working with children and their families by empowering them to rise above their circumstances as well. Shontell is currently employed with Southeast Community Health Systems were she serves the rural community of St. Helena Parish as a school based social worker. Listen on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, and Google Play. Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed): My Lotus Moments   Mentioned in this episode Therapy for Black Girls Podcast- Surviving Mama Psychology Today- Find a Therapist Connect on with me: website: www.hopecoleman.com Hope’s IG:  Justmorehope     Announcements: Coming later this month... We discuss overcoming depression and suicide with T-Kea Blackman of Fireflies Unite, LLC    New Merchandise This Month! Limited Edition Tees for Mental Health Awareness Month! Click HERE to purchase     For the curly girls… Protect those edges, honey! Click HERE to purchase Still Available... Pray.Trust.Work Tee's! Click HERE to purchase! Only a few remain! Thank you for your support!

Download Episode In this episode, we bring to the forefront women such as Tamar, Deborah, Yael, & Abigail. These women and more fought back in revolutionary ways. Meet the guests Kina Reed is an educator and self-proclaimed social justice warrior. She currently works as an Instructor in Communication Studies. She lives her life in service to those in her community with a deep desire to see social reconciliation for all. Walks with her dog, vacations with family, and road trips with friends are her definition of “awesome sauce.” Kina is the facilitator of R.I.B. If you are interested in joining the group. Email her at kinareed@gmail.com   Noelle Allison is a mother, children's minister, musician, and sewist living in Baton Rouge. Tanya is the unofficial mayor of BR! She is a charming sweet Southern Socialite. She is a product of Louisiana, she breathes, eats, and drinks it and will definitely recommend it. She enjoys serving others in any capacity she can. Her community matters! Aisha is a Scientist who dedicates her free time with the youth of Baton Rouge. Carmen didn’t want to submit a bio. Lol. Learn more about her in the podcast! Listen on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, and Google Play. Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed): My Lotus Moments   Mentioned in this episode The BIBLE! If you don't have one, get it here! R.I.B. Small Group meets every Wednesday at 6:30pm at Brew Ha Ha!     Connect on with me: Hope’s IG:  Justmorehope    Announcements: The launch of G.R.A.C.E., the girls' mentor program is happening SOON! If you haven't signed your child up for the March 31st event, do so BEFORE it's too late! Space is limited! Click here If you’d like to be apart of the program either by being a mentor or guest facilitator, please let us know emailing us at letstalk@hopeinher.com! We need your help! You can still support the launch of GRACE by purchasing this t-shirt! They are BACK IN STOCK for the last time. They have been restocked! 100% of the proceeds will go towards the program! click this link! Use code: FREESHIP for free shipping! New Merchandise This Month! Limited Edition Tee for Women’s History (We prefer Women’s Appreciation and Recognition) Month! Click HERE to purchase     For the curly girls… Protect those edges, honey! Click HERE to purchase Thank you for your support!

Download Episode Today’s guest is Lisa Savage, LCSW. Lisa Savage, LCSW is a licensed therapist in the state of Delaware. She has been in private practice since 1998. She owns one of the largest practices serving children and families in the state. She has developed a model of practice in schools that has been very successful in increasing access to quality mental health services. Recently, she has expanded her services to consult with other mental health professionals who are looking for ways to expand their practices and increase revenue.   Lisa is a graduate of the University of Pennsylvania. Her focus of study was on health and mental health. Most of her career has been focused on the provision of quality health care to underserved and poor communities. She began her career in Philadelphia working in the community to provide direct service and education to people affected by HIV. Lisa is a strong proponent of ‘taking services’ to people in their communities. To that end, she began working in schools and other community settings. She has expanded her services to schools and opened the Center for the Child Development, which focuses solely on the provision of mental health services to children and families in the school setting. She owns and manages The Center for Adult Wellness and Counseling where the focus is on helping adults in areas such as anger control, stress management, emotional eating and marriage counseling. Listen on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, and Google Play. Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed): My Lotus Moments   Mentioned in this episode When Food Is Love: Exploring the Relationship Between Eating and Intimacy- Geneen Roth Breaking Free from Emotional Eating- Geneen Roth End Emotional Eating: Using Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Cope with Difficult Emotions and Develop a Healthy Relationship to Food- Jennifer Taitz, PsyD.  The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma- Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. Connect on with us: Lisa Savage Delaware Center for Counseling and Wellness Email Lisa at lisasavagelcsw@gmail.com Lisa on Facebook at CCDNewark Hope's IG:  Justmorehope     Announcements: Today is the last day to sign up for the 14 Day Stop Eating Your Heart Out Emotional Eating Journal Challenge. Click here to learn more and sign up!We have partnered up with NEDA to promote and encourage awareness about eating disorders in the black and brown community! We are excited to work with them and have them offer you all so many awesome resources especially during the journal challenge!   Are you a naturalista or have a daughter with natural hair and you sometimes don't know how to manage it? Then maybe, we can help! Join us on Facebook in the 21 Days of  Curls Hair Challenge Group. The next challenge is about Curls and Girls featuring Erin Myers from Favored Freauxs. March's challenge begin on March 11 and the deadline to join is coming fast. Take a look at the goodies the winner would receive this month! Click here to join.   We still have a few spots available for the launch of G.R.A.C.E. on March 31st! If you know a girl ages 9-17 who could benefit from this mentor program, then click here to sign up to attend the event! If you’d like to be apart of the program either by being a mentor or guest facilitator, please let us know emailing us at letstalk@hopeinher.com! We need your help! You can still support the launch of GRACE by purchasing this t-shirt! They have been restocked! 100% of the proceeds will go towards the program! click this link!   New Merchandise This Month! Limited Edition Tee for Women's History (We prefer Women's Appreciation and Recognition) Month! Click HERE to purchase   For the curly girls... Protect those edges, honey! Click HERE to purchase Thank you for your support!  

Today's guest is Dr. Natalie Jones, LPCC, PsyD.  Dr. Jones is a California based LPCC and PSYD with a private practice, Lifetime Counseling and Consulting. She is an expert at what she does with experience and training as a therapist with the Federal Bureau of Prisons, Department of Probation and Pretrial, California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation, where she conducted her own research. She earned her bachelor's degree in psychology and a minor in criminal justice from the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. She later attended East Carolina University, where she complete double majors in biology and chemistry. After that, she went on to obtained her masters in Clinical Counseling Psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology. She then completed her doctorate of Psychology at the California School of Professional Psychology at Alliant University in San Francisco, California.    Dr. Jones' areas of expertise included Post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), forensic mental health, and relationship issues, particularly those with narcissists. Dr. Jones is also the host of A Date with Darkness podcast. A podcast dedicated to those who have been hurt by love and abuse through their relationships with narcissistic people. Today, Dr. Jones will help us better understand narcissistic people, what commonalities we all have, and what to look for in relationships.  Listen on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, and Google Play.  Mentioned in this episode: A Date With Darkness Podcast   Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed): My Lotus Moments   Announcements: We are launching our Girls Youth Program, GRACE (Girls Rising Above Circumstances & Exceling). It will consist of support groups, mentorship, and community engagement activities. If you know a girl who should be apart of the program, stay tuned for the chance to sign them up. We are only taking 20 girls.  Also, if you'd like to be apart of the program either by being a mentor or guest facilitator, please let us know emailing us at letstalk@hopeinher.com! We need your help! Support GRACE by purchasing a t-shirt! 100% of the proceeds will go towards the program! click this link! Thank you for your support! Connect on Instagram: Dr. Jones dr.nataliejones Hope  Justmorehope

Download Episode These are the lessons I've learned over the past 2 years and according to the Thought Catalog, I am right on track. Check out the article and let me know if your zodiac is as accurate as mine. Also, I share with you 3 things I'm changing in the new year! 

  Download Episode For some, the holidays bring about the joyous opportunity to spend w loved ones but, for so many of us, the holidays can bring moments of sadness, grief, and isolation. This podcast is about how we manage the holidays when there are broken family ties.   "Sexual traumatic events are so common in women’s lives, that they can hardly be described as outside the range of ordinary experiences. Only the fortunate find it unusual" - Judith Lewis Herman, M.D. Key Take aways:  It is morally impossible for a bystander to remain neutral in sexual trauma In order to reconcile relationships between survivors and bystanders, bystanders have to respect the boundaries set forth by survivors of sexual trauma It’s ok to protect your peace and mental health. For those violated by a family member, you are not obligated to share your space with that person or any other people who make you feel uncomfortable or who deny your truth just because they are family Timeline of the show: :56 Introduction of Erin and Favored Freauxs, LLC 2:00 Erin explains her motivation to write about her story for the first time 6:50 Hope shares her story 11:00 When parents choose perpetrators over their children 17:20 Bystanders, Perpetrators, and Victims 21:00 Generational patterns of sexual abuse 22:30 Disclosing to other family members/ sacrificing healthy family relationships 26:05 Neutral family members 31:09 You have the right to protect yourself from further distress   35:05 Reconciliation   Connect with Erin website: www.favoredfreauxs.com email: info@favoredfreauxs.com Instagram:www.instagram.com/favoredfreauxs     Resources mentioned this episode: Trauma and Recovery Judith Lewis Herman   Music: Someday at Christmas, Stevie Wonder & Andra Day Have questions, stories, or want to make a comment? Email us at letstalk@hopeinher.com

Download Episode Download Episode Imagine that you’ve been seeing this really great guy. He’s smart, sweet, funny, and just what you’ve imagined your ideal mate to be. You almost can’t believe how perfect he is… until you make it to the bedroom. No butterflies, no goosebumps, nothing… Whether it's his seeming lack of experience, his size, or underwhelming technique Things fall completely flat for you. This guy who’s so good on paper (and in person) just can’t seem to fire you up in the bedroom. WHAT DO YOU DO?!   Well, here to help us grow past situations such as these, let me introduce to you today’s guest. Kimi Levadge is a Florida based Natural and Medicinal sex health coach. She is a married mother with a degree from Florida Atlantic University and the University of Phoenix. Kimi has over 10 years of experience in blogging and educating the masses on sex health, sex- related topics and product reviews in the sex health realm. Kimi’s goal is to show the world that being sexually responsible doesn’t have to mean being boring. Check her out at www.vforvadge.com     Timeline of the show: Intro of Kimi Why is sex still taboo to talk about? How to find your ground in the sex education field Is sexual compatibility worth working on? How long should you work at sexual compatibility before moving on? Why is sexual chemistry important in a relationship? How can you create chemistry that wasn’t there initially?   Toys mentioned in this episode: Natural Glide CannaLube by Playthings Click HERE to purchase     Kegal Balls Click HERE to purchase     To Shop More from VforVadge: CLICK HERE Music: Lets Talk About Sex by Salt-N-Pepa Have questions, stories, or want to make a comment? Email us at letstalk@hopeinher.com  

Download Episode Hello from Bali, Indonesia! As you may or may not know, the last month has been a whirlwind and I haven’t been able to put out this series in a timely manner! MY APOLOGIES. However, it’s here now and I hope you enjoy. Being in Bali reminded me that I needed to keep you guys aware of the importance of maintaining proper health in every aspect: medical, mental, social, etc. In this second episode with Edward Williams of Health BAMN, we continue our discussion about holistic health, being yourself, getting your mind right for real change, psychological trauma, and more. A lot of the information we discussed were brought up in the new  Netflix documentary, What the Health. Look out for the blog post regarding my thoughts on that! Until then, enjoy! Key Take Aways: When you attempt to appeal to everyone, you have to dilute your message and in return, you lose the core group you intend to reach Don’t be afraid to talk about our differences   Timeline of the show: :20 Recap of last episode 1:47 Being true to yourself 8:53 How your mindset is the foundation of change in every aspect of life 10:16 Excuse SZA in the background, there was a storm in my city that triggered my electronics to go haywire… even distracted Edward!  Great album by the way. Get it using the link in the resource guide 18:34 Principles of Nutrition (taken from Edward's, Nutrition Manifesto) 19:00 Edward discuss “natural weight” for people of color 22:50 Fitness VS Fatness 25:40 Edward drops a major gem! 27:38 Plant based nutrition 32:55 Stress eating Resources mentioned this episode:   SZA, CTRL   Salt, Sugar, Fat   Resources from last episode: Medical Apartheid: The Dark History of Medical Experimentation on Black Americans from Colonial Times to the Present by Harriet Washington   The Spook Who Sat by the Door (Movie) Music: Blackman by Stevie Wonder To learn more about Edward or to contact him, click this link Have questions, stories, or want to make a comment? Email us at letstalk@hopeinher.com  

In this episode with Edward Williams of Health BAMN, we discuss normalizing unhealthy habits, transgenerational trauma, and so much more that affect the physical and mental health of people of color. I really enjoyed Edward and he shared so much useful information and resources, I am sure you will enjoy the episode. They will only get better from here! Key Take aways: “Preventable diseases don’t run in our family. They are not inherited. The habits, the conditions, and our environment play a part impressing upon you how to eat and live” –Edward Dealing with the trauma of your experience is a part of the healing process. Culture evolves The hustle doesn’t stop on the street level. The hustle takes place way more on the academic level, the higher medical field, and pharmaceutical levels. Timeline of the show: 1:25 Edward introduces himself and explains the mission behind HBAMN 3:43 How we normalize unhealthy habits 7:00 Edward educates us about Gullah Geechee culture. Learn more here 8:42 Unhealthy cultural habits 13:25 Hope & Future casting, hear more here 16:00 How transgenerational trauma affect men’s health (Sorry for the mad chirping birds!!) 23:35 The treatment that creates problems 25:40 Edward drops a major gem! 26:36 Learning the system to destroy the system 34:10 The attention complex 37:26 Edward leaves us with ANOTHER major gem! Resources mentioned: Medical Apartheid: The Dark History of Medical Experimentation on Black Americans from Colonial Times to the Present by Harriet Washington   The Spook Who Sat by the Door (Movie)   Music: Blackman by Stevie Wonder Have questions, stories, or want to make a comment? Email us at letstalk@hopeinher.com

Download Episode “Throw that ish on a chart on the wall… and connect the dots!” Find out what Travis is talking about in the second half of When Guys Go Ghost… Key Takeaways: How can you tell when someone is dominant or passive? Men can tell how Men “want it” but men want to be in the position to “earn” it. Never allow someone who makes you feel insecure or humiliated back into your life, no matter how positive you try to make the relationship out to be. Those who are willing to go ghost on someone, something inside of them is destroyed to where they lack the capacity to feel empathy for others, have any decency or feel the guilt of hurting someone else. It takes nothing to communicate your needs with others “You walk around effectively heartbroken but, you are afraid to admit at. It is a special open-ended kind of pain like a disease with no name.” There’s never a good explanation for a person to go ghost Play to win! Closure doesn’t require another person Timeline of the show: :22 Recap of the last episode 1:15 Men’s instincts 3:37 Can you ever forgive and restore a relationship with someone who’s gone ghost on you? 5:45 Hope drops some gems 8:02 Effective communication 12:00 Quote from Tim Kreider’s essay “The Anti-Kreider Club” in the book, We Learn Nothing. 16:15 Travis get Biblical but, drops a gem. 17:11 Do you believe the guy was into the writer? 17:50 Kissing 22:50 How to reach Travis 23:15 Was there anything the writer could have done differently to have the outcome be different? 26:00 Lesson Learned 27:34 Travis ministers to us. LOL 28:07 Travis’ final thoughts 29:03 Where there any red flags that she may have missed? 30:00 We get distracted… OF COURSE! 33:25 Hope’s final thoughts 35:49 Travis’ SECOND final thought! 36:30 Hope wanted the last word. Lol 36:54 Travis tries to start a whole NEW topic: The Ladder Theory (look out for it on another show!) Have questions, stories, or want to make a comment? Email us at letstalk@hopeinher.com Resources Music: Bad Religion by Frank Ocean We Learn Nothing, by Tim Kreider  

Download Episode We’ve all experienced having someone go ghost on us or we’ve been the who’s done the ghosting. Take a listen to how Travis shares a male’s perspective on the idea and reason most guys go ghost. Key Take aways: When someone shows you who they are, believe them. According to Travis, men can be labeled as an intellectual whore or a cuddle b*tch There is no woman that a man will be friends with and won’t potentially have sex with Sometimes he’s just not that into you, romantically. Understand that and move on. Regardless of age, people will continue to play the game of self interest You cannot force chemistry If a man is not where he wants to be financially or career-wise, he will not fully invest himself into a relationship. There’s never a good explanation for a person to go ghost If a guy is into you, he will show it and you will have no doubts Don’t assume a guy will possess the qualities you have or desire Timeline of the show: :20 Introduction of Travis 1:40 Hope shares listener’s submission 5:30 Travis shares his thoughts on the listener’s story 7:35 Travis shares an interesting theory of intellectual whore and cuddle b*tches 10:31 Hope gets Travis back on track 13:10 Travis discusses his story regarding “going ghost” 16:50 Hope shares her story about ghosting 20:03 Technology creates entitlement and anxiety 20:45 Travis and Hope discuss possible reasons guys will go ghost 30:22 Hope attempts to get Travis back on track AGAIN. LOL 32:15 Should the writer have gone on that second date 32:55 Travis drops some gems 33:45 Travis and Hope discuss soul mates 35:30 AGAIN Hope tries to get Travis back on topic. FAIL… Until next time!   Have questions, stories, or want to make a comment? Email us at letstalk@hopeinher.com   Music: Bad Religion by Frank Ocean

Download Episode Hey guys, I know its been a while but, the ladies of #GirlTalk are here to wrap up this conversation about side chicks! This episode is fairly short but, its entertaining and full of gems! If you need a refresher take a listen to the first #GirlTalk episode here. If you'd like to read the writers email to the show, check it out here. Key Take aways: Guys are not as naïve as we believe What are some ways you fight monotonous routines in your relationship? When you’re in a relationship that isn’t as good as it used to be, understand that you have to look at There is a level a maturity real long term relationships require  Why is “doing homework” such a major responsibility for women rather than trusting men to be honest. Are you and your mate private or open on social media? Is there a difference between being private on social media, or just hiding a mate to an extent? Women have to learn to define relationships, or set boundaries, to keep from being hurt… or at least having the conversation to be on the same page What are some of the signs that something is off in a relationship? Timeline of the show: 1:56 Astin nerves go the best of her… sorry for the tapping 2:08 Dannielle poses a question 4:07 Ashtin drops some gems 5:06 Did once a side chick do her homework? 10:48 If you’re not dating exclusively, then there is no such thing as a side chick. 13:21 Niki drops some gems and gives the guys a great tip 16:32 The women talk about if it’s a good idea to go through your man’s personal information: texts, email, etc. 20:00 The ladies provide last minute advice to anyone who’s been in a situation like once a side chick… Music: Brandy: Best Friend Instrumental Have questions, stories, or want to make a comment? Email us at letstalk@hopeinher.com   This episode of #GirlTalk is sponsored by Cheers Sports Bar & Grill.

Download Episode In this first episode of #GirlTalk, the ladies discuss their feelings about the Male's Perspective. Listen as we bury this "side chick" conversation [bctt tweet="What you accept is what you should expect" username="hope_in_her"] Key Take aways: • Always collect data, and come with FACTS as TLynn explained • Do you think it's ok to lash out at the other woman even though she owes you no loyalty? • Sometimes we give our men the benefit of the doubt because we choose to especially if he treated us better than previous guys • We choose to no force our guys to take responsibility • We often lash out that the women because we feel intimidated or feel as though we’ve dedicated time to our mates before they were “on” • FYI: Scorpio = automatic PI Skills! -TLynn • Pay attention to signs!! • Sometimes we are so blinded by love, we tend to apologize for the guy’s wrongdoing! • When men cheat, it's not always about looks…   [bctt tweet="We teach people how to treat us" username="hope_in_her"] Timeline of the show: • :48 Introductions of the ladies • 1:08 The girls discuss their feelings about #AMalesPerspective • 2:40 Dannielle shares her story • 4:55 TLynn discusses her experience • 6:02 Hope shares her story • 13:56 Niki shares her experience • 15:35 why do we continue to lash out at the other women and not the guy who put us in the situation • 17:00 Niki gets real • 21:30 We teach people how to treat us… • 22:40 Why do we have to compare ourselves to the other women • 23:35 Niki keeps dropping these gems… • 24:45 How do you get to the point of even learning about what another woman is willing to do? • 26:25 Some men don’t realize that women are flirting with them [bctt tweet="We give men the benefit of the doubt because of our own high expectations." username="hope_in_her"]   Have questions, stories, or want to make a comment? Email us at letstalk@hopeinher.com Music Provided by: Brandy, Best Friend Instrumental https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5MShBcTIJRs   The Girl Talk Podcast is sponsored by Cheers Sports Bar & Grill

[bctt tweet="Just be done with the situation completely. " username="hope_in_her"]   Key Take aways: Shouldn’t the woman be made aware of what her significant other has done and have the choice of deciding how to take the relationship with all the information available? Jay believes that once the “other woman” learns of the main partner, she should only confront the man then walk away from the situation. Do you agree? Cornell- 2 things will happen when the main girl find out: She will leave, they will work it out. What’s wrong with keeping the girl code?  Men, being accountable for your actions is the best route. If you continue to lie, you will make it worst. The consensus of the group was that based on the information provided, this guy was a jerk. Even though women like the letter writer deserves answers, understand that it doesn’t mean women will get the answers. They have to learn to move forward without the explanation, apology, acknowledgment, etc. Do YOUR RESEARCH   [bctt tweet="Dating is unpredictable" username="hope_in_her"] Timeline of the show: :25 Last episode recap :52 Is it ever ok for the “side chick” to reach out to the main girl? 1:38 Hope shares her personal story 8:37 Cornell’s idea of a side chick 9:43 The guys have a revelation about “once a side chick.” 10:22 Cornell just let us have it… my poor ears! 12:39 Do you believe the guy really wanted to be with the girl back home 13:52 Break 14:40 How should men hold themselves accountable in side chick situations? 16:54 Do the other woman, who was unknowingly the side chick, deserve an answer 19:18 The guys provide ways for women in this situation to move forward 22:57 Jay’s bottom line 26:00 Hope’s closing message 27:15 Jay always has to have the final word… lol [bctt tweet="If you are not married, stop with the labels and go into new relationships that there could be a possibility that there is someone else." username="hope_in_her"]   Have questions, stories, or want to make a comment? Email us at letstalk@hopeinher.com   Music:

Download Episode If you haven’t read the listener’s story, click here   In the first episode of A Males Perspective: Once a Side Chick, the guys provide us with a little bit of insight on the topic. [bctt tweet="Managing multiple women gets old" username="hope_in_her"] Key Takeaways: For Jay’s sake, keep your story short and concise In the case of once a side chick, do you think that sometimes men just get caught up in the euphoria of meeting a new woman, that they can never seem to find the best time to share that they are already in a relationship? Do you believe in a situation like this, the writer simply didn’t do her homework? Do women sometimes put themselves in a “side chick” situation when her idea of dating is different from the guy’s?  Communication is important, however, when a man is an upfront with you, accept that and resist the urge to turn it into something more Stop “going with the flow” Ask QUESTIONS!   [bctt tweet="There is still a great deal of grown men with teenage-like mentalities." username="hope_in_her"] Timeline of the show: :45 Hope reads a letter submitted by a MLM listener about side chicks 5:50 Meet the guys 6:14 The guys share their thoughts about side chicks 9:11 Do men glorify the idea of side chicks? 16:22 Denzel with the bottom line- Jay, rebuts with his bottom line 17:20 Why do some men choose to put women in “side chick” arrangements unknowingly? 24:00 Do men ever choose the other woman over their initial partners? 31:07 The guys share their “side chick” experiences and what kept them from choosing her to be in a long-term relationship   [bctt tweet="There is no side chick if there isn’t a main chick. " username="hope_in_her"]   Music: Method Man ft Mary J. Blige I’ll Be There for You/You Are All I Need to Get By Instrumental http://www.hipstrumentals.com/2011/11/throwback-thursdays-method-man-all-i-need-instrumental/method-man-ft-mary-j-blige-ill-be-there-for-you-you-are-all-i-need-to-get-by-razor-sharp-instrumental/  

In this first installment of the Celebration of Love Series, Briana and Jamarious talk about their journey as a newlywed couple. Both Jay and Bri drop a lot of valuable gems in this episode so, enjoy the episode! Also, listen for Charlie to make his guest appearance. Look out for Jay as he and his boys will host a monthly show answering questions that you all send into the show. Head to www.hopeinher.com to get the full show notes.