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On this episode Ariel and Roger talk about their conclusion of a chapter, and taking a hiatus from the podcast, after a year of learning, unlocking and sharing the lessons and the wisdom with other people. Ariel and Roger reflect on previous episodes - on what has been said, what has been learned, what has been unlocked – what has been done and how it has been done. They also share about their current chapters in their lives and professional journeys. Quote of the week is by Mel Gibson: “I think any kind of hiatus one takes in an artistic journey is going to make a huge difference. The pause will inform the choices that you make.” The chapter informs so much of your future decisions, and the hiatus, after that chapter concludes, can as well. Key Takeaways:  1) One of the lessons learned is: Do not put people in the box based on their personality type. 2) This year has been a journey of learning and of unlocking – it has been like opening a treasure chest of wisdom, and access that treasure to give it to others too. 3) What has been done, will not be undone. 4) There is the value in listening, but there is also a value in speaking. There is a time for both. There is a gift to be given through each one. Key Resources: Harness your Hindrance Website  Roger Wolkoff Official Website Text message MP3 to 8885232494

On this episode Ariel and Roger talk about closure. There is a natural desire for closure, but sometimes we become so fixated on wanting the closure that we miss out the opportunity that is around us. If we focus on one thing, we might miss some other things. But the opposite might also be true. The question is: what am I craving more? Am I craving more openness and spontaneity, or am I craving more closure and structure? And how do I provide that to myself in the giving situation? Quote of the week is by Alexander Graham Bell: “Sometimes we stare so long at the door that is closing that we see too late the one that is open”. Key Takeaways: We all have natural preference for openness or for closure. Make others aware of your preference at the front.  Having a balance between openness and closure is really important in decision making. It starts with being aware of your needs for closure, as well as your needs for openness. Be aware of yourself. Also be aware of other people’s need for closure. Key Resources: Harness your Hindrance Website Roger Wolkoff Official Website Text message MP3 to 8885232494

On this episode Ariel and Roger talk about sensitivity and how personality types deal with sensitivity. Being sensitive can be defined as easily hurt or damaged (emotionally), or, being delicately aware of the attitudes and feelings of others. They discuss on how being too sensitive can result in a negative feedback or criticism and they share their life experience when it comes to their sensitivity. Quote of the week is by Doreen Virtue: “When we realize that sensitivity is a gift and not a liability, that’s when we start to get our strength.” Key Takeaways: Having awareness of sensitivity can help us to manage it There are two personality preferences when it comes to decision making: Thinkers and feelers Thinkers are usually more objective, while feelers tend to be more subjective Utilize those who think differently from you in your decision-making process Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

On this episode Ariel and Roger are talking about digging the foundation and building a strong house. Of course, foundation and house are metaphors for acquiring experience, putting people in place, and learning things required for building a strong business. Quote of the week is by Gordon B. Hinckley: “You can't build a great building on a weak foundation. You must have a solid foundation if you're going to have a strong superstructure.” Key Takeaways: The bigger business you want to build, the stronger, larger and deeper the foundation must be Only you know what you’re trying to build. And if you don’t know, start there Trust your gut. Ask yourself: Is this the right place to build? Embrace the difficult part of the journey of building the foundation and don’t compare to someone who already has the house You have to have hope and belief. Give yourself the permission and acceptance that you’re not at the surface yet. Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

On this episode Ariel and Roger talk about “think time” and its impact on productivity, mindset and mental health. In these stressful times, we need think time to process what’s happening in our lives and vicinity in order to protect our mental health, and be more productive. There are 4 kinds of think time: Creative, Strategic, Visionary, and Narrow/Project-based Quote for this week is by Peter F. Drucker: There is nothing so useless as doing efficiently that which should not be done at all. Key Takeaways: Use think time to clear your mind, generate ideas and vision. Take time to process through emotions, interactions and information in order to think more clearly and to avoid being overwhelmed. Sometimes your most productive time is when you’re planning, designing a vision and strategy. Devote your time to think time and be more productive. Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

On this week’s show, Ariel and Roger talk about personality type assessment tools and increasing your self-awareness. Finding out your personality type should provide you an insight why you think differently from others, and it will help you to understand yourself better. Ariel and Roger talk about some of those tools and which they prefer. Quote of the week is by Don Richard Riso: ““If we observe ourselves truthfully and non-judgmentally, seeing the mechanisms of our personality in action, we can wake up, and our lives can be a miraculous unfolding of beauty and joy.” Key Takeaways:            1) Personality is multifaceted            2) People can change. They choose what they become            3) Personality type assessment tools provide awareness and language to communicate with one another Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

This episode puts vulnerability into perspective. Ariel and Roger talk about vulnerability, what it means to them, and when to show it to someone or share it with the world. It’s good to show our vulnerability, but we need to make sure we’re showing our scars, and not our open wounds. We need to make sure we heal first. Quote of the week is by Brené Brown: “Vulnerability is not winning or losing: It's having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness: It's our greatest measure of courage.” Key Takeaways: Vulnerability is being open, sharing and connecting with someone By being vulnerable we’re opening ourselves to someone, to harm and to healing We tend to hide our scars, but emotional scars are beautiful. They are a part of us. You’re stronger and more powerful because of the scars Share your scars, not your open wounds with the world. Heal before you show vulnerability Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

On this episode Ariel and Roger talk about breaking the cycle/pattern of learned helplessness. Learned helplessness is a condition when a person suffers from a sense of powerlessness. It comes from a traumatic event or a persistent failure to succeed. When people feel out of control over the situation, they start feeling helpless and they might overlook an opportunity for a relief or a change. Quote of the week is by Lech Walesa: “It is hardly possible to build anything if frustration, bitterness and a mood of helplessness prevail.” Key Takeaways: Learned helplessness is a continual cycle of believing you’re going to fail, you’ll never succeed, and that there’s nothing you can do about it Be aware of your self-talk language If you let go of thoughts that you’re helpless, the only thing that remains is the acceptance that you can do something about your current situation Instead of saying “I’ll never learn this”, try saying “how can I learn this in a different way”. Replace blanket statements with powerful reframes to focus on opportunities in moving forward Don’t accept the belief that you’re helpless of powerless. Embrace that you have power and opportunities to make the change Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

On this episode Ariel and Roger discuss the difference between true and right. Does the right answer exist? What does right even mean? Ariel and Roger define those terms for us and share their experiences in different situations when they had to make the right choice according to their truth. Quote of the week is by Amanda Kahlow: “Stay true to yourself and your vision. Don’t let any one person’s opinion move you; listen, but be confident.” Key Takeaways: True - In accordance with fact or reality. True is a fact. It’s objective Right - True or correct as a fact. Right is from a certain perspective. It’s subjective. Be aware of the language you use with yourself Make quick decisions to avoid analysis paralysis Accept that there might not be the right answer and be okay with that. Make the decision that’s true right now based upon your intuition. Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

Ariel and Roger share their story of how they met and engaged in deep conversations which led to Roger co-hosting the show. When two people connect and create an energizing spark, it creates an energy which motivates and leads to action. It is exactly why this episode is tied to productivity. Quote of the week by Charles Eames: “Eventually everything connects - people, ideas, objects. The quality of the connections is the key to quality per se.” Key Takeaways:            1) Connection creates a spark of energy, ideas or inspiration            2) Energy motivates and leads to action            3) Productivity is sparked by connection Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

This episode is all about perspective and how shifting it affects our decisions and life circumstances. Ariel and Roger go deep on playing to win and playing not to lose. They share their stories and look back on situations in their life where they had to decide how to approach certain events. Quote of the week is by Tom Brady: “I think that at the start of a game, you’re always playing to win, and then maybe if you’re ahead late in the game, you start playing not to lose. The true competitors, though, are the ones who always play to win.” Key Takeaways:            1) If you play to win there’s a greater risk, but if you play not to lose, the rewards aren’t so abundant            2) Growth is always outside of your comfort zone            3) You can be content in life with playing not to lose, but true happiness comes with playing to win            4) Test your limits by playing to win Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

On this episode Ariel and Roger talk about their “why” and how it connects to their purpose. Also, they discuss personality types. Sometimes we ask ourselves: “What is my purpose? Why do I do what I do?” Find your “why” and become a satisfied and fulfilled person. Quote of the week is by T.D. Jakes: “If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.” Key Takeaways:            1) Your “why” is your “compass” guiding you through life            2) Find your passion and you will find your purpose            3) One’s purpose is connected to their personality Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

On this episode Ariel and Roger talk about the fear of success. It’s very similar to the fear of failure and it correlates with the fear of not being worthy, fear of embarrassment, fear of dependence/attachment, fear of separation, fear of not being enough, fear of leadership and fear of resentment. Fear of success is preventing us to achieve our goals, to be our best selves and prosper in business; therefore, Ariel and Roger will show us how to address and face the fear of success. Quote of the week is by Denis Waitley: “Procrastination is the fear of success. People procrastinate because they are afraid of the success that they know will result if they move ahead now. Because success is heavy, carries a responsibility with it, it is much easier to procrastinate and live on the ‘someday I’ll' philosophy.” Key Takeaways:            1) Success is heavy            2) Procrastination is the fear of success            3) By doing more what you’re afraid of, the less powerful the fear becomes            4) Face your fears Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

On this episode Ariel and Roger talk about all or nothing (black or white) thinking and how decision fatigue is affecting it. A black or white thinking refers to thinking in extremes. It is not serving us as it limits our options and changes our relationships with other people. Your hosts will show you how you can get over “all or nothing thinking”. Quote of the week is by Robin Conley Downs: “The truth is, it’s not about willpower, it’s about reducing decisions”. Key Takeaways: All or nothing thinking results in limiting our options. Two steps to reducing “all or nothing thinking”: self-awareness and self-management. Reduce the number of decisions you have to make in a day to prevent decision fatigue. One of the ways to get over “all or nothing thinking” is by executing, trying and experimenting on things you think you’re not good at. Be aware of your behavior as well as of the things you say (indicator words) that might indicate you are a black or white thinker.  Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

On this episode Ariel and Roger talk about visualization and their experiences with it. Visualization is a technique of creating a mental image of desired outcomes and it’s used for NLP coaching (Neuro-linguistic Programming). Roger and Ariel explain that by visualizing, your desires will not manifest/materialize on their own, but it can help you to pursue and reach your goals. Quote of the week is by Denis Waitley: “When you visualize, then you materialize” Key Takeaways: If you can’t create a reality in your mind, how could you create it in your world? Visualization can help clarify how to achieve what you want. The more we visualize, the more we become comfortable with it and better results we get. By visualizing what you want to manifest, you’re creating an awareness in your mind so you can see the opportunities and reach your goals. Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

On this episode Ariel and Roger talk about the image of self. It’s very important how you view yourself because it determines actions you take in each moment. This one is similar to the episode on Detrimental Perspective where they talked about how you view the world around you. This is about how you view yourself. Quote of the day by Maxwell Maltz: “You will act like the sort of person you conceive yourself to be”. Key Takeaways: How you view and define yourself matters because you define yourself as either limitless or limited. The “I am” statement is powerful. It defines who you are and determines how you’re going to act in certain situations. Wake up with the statement each morning “I am a driven person” instead of “I’m lazy” and you’ll see the results very soon. Get the word “just”, “try” or other similar modifiers out of your vocabulary. Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

On this episode Ariel and Roger talk about personality type assessments and how it relates to awareness. The episode starts with a quote from Ariel: “Awareness is first step and should never be the last”. Ariel shared a story where her personality types came in conflict and she explained how it affected her and others around her. Key Takeaways: Awareness is important, but there should be an action after it. Personality type assessment tools and how do we use them. Conflict of achieving success when impacting negatively someone else. When you’re aware, you can then share. Use personality assessment tools for conversation and not for “weeding someone out”. Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

In this episode, Ariel and Roger are having a conversation around the quote, “The path to success is to take massive, determined action,” by Tony Robbins. They point out the importance of taking action and putting our work out there instead of being hindered by our thoughts of striving for perfection. Key Takeaways: Action is the only thing that truly gets results. Negative self-talk serves no one and we have to make sure to catch ourselves when it starts to happen and take conscious action to stop, relax, and manage our thoughts and emotions. Focus on progress, not perfection. Putting our work out there initiates sharing and collaboration with other people and allowing your work to grow and evolve. Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

In this episode Ariel and Roger talk about productivity with purpose. They share a vulnerable and honest story about their experience with losing motivation for productivity. The discussion can be summarized with a quote: “Focus on being productive instead of busy.” ― Tim Ferriss, The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich Key Takeaways: Clarifying and defining your purpose Focus on what satisfies you Doing productivity with purpose Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com Text message MP3 to 8885232494

On this episode Ariel and Roger talk about personality and connection. They discuss whether having the same personality type automatically connects one person to another. The discussion can be summarized with a quote: "Friendship…is born at the moment when one man says to another “What! You too? I thought that no one but myself…” - C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves Key Takeaways: The mistake people usually make is thinking that people with the same personality type are alike. The truth is everyone’s unique. We tend to see the world the same way as someone with our personality type and that connect us to them. It creates that “me too” moment. Don’t make assumptions about people’s personality types. Open yourself up to the opportunity that there’s more to discover in people.  Key Resources: harnessyourhindrance.com/mp3 https://www.rogerwolkoff.com/ Text message MP3 to 8885232494