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I hate goal trackers. They are sticker charts for grownups. (I also despise sticker charts.) I’m not a New Year’s resolution person. I never stick with them.  I’m annoyed by the New Year, New You messaging in January. Barf. I am, however, big into Growth. Goals. Being the best version of you.  Goal setting is difficult for ADHD so I’m offering 3 questions to ask yourself as you wrap up the year and look ahead to the new year. Let’s change it up and think about the new year in an ADHD-friendly way. You are more than your failed goals. In the process, I’m sharing behind the scenes of what I’m no longer here for and what I have planned for ADHD Moms in 2023. Let’s do things differently, Successful Mama. Links mentioned in this episode:  The Post-Holiday Hangover Cure for Disorganized Mamas Successful Mama Gift Certificates 2023 Group Coaching Survey To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.

We’re in the thick of the holidays and perhaps your sanity is already wavering.  School performances, shopping, baking, less sleep, unusual schedules, no routines, more asks… yikes! We still have 2 more weeks to go! In today’s episode, I’m sharing 4 ways to lower your stress and make the holidays enjoyable for both you and your family. Free resources mentioned in today’s episode: 3 Steps for Preparing for the Holidays The Post-Holiday Hangover Cure for Disorganized Mamas Not sure what to put on your holiday wish list? Ask for a Successful Mama Gift Certificate and choose your course, community, coaching, or retreat next year to lower your stress, take care of yourself, and get your life in order. To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD blog. 

What’s the difference between an IEP and a 504 plan? While many kids with ADHD do well in school, a much greater percentage struggle to excel.  The system is complicated and confusing. The first step is understanding what your options are. In public schools in the US, there are both 504 plans and IEPs (Individualized Education Programs) to help students with disabilities struggle less. Today I’m inviting you into an ADHD coaching call with a mom who asked for help in understanding how to help her son who seems to be doing okay so far… but what about when he doesn’t?  While we usually focus on you, the mom, in your coaching call, we often we will discuss your kids because they are who made you a mom!  Because I have worked in both public and private middle schools before I became a mom, I want to share with you a simple explanation on the difference between an IEP and a 504 plan. Plus I’m including my two cents on when is a good time to seek out these accommodations for your child.  Grab your free ADHD Strategy Guide: My Secret to Overcoming Time Blindness To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.

Thank you, sweet mama! In the US, it’s Thanksgiving today and I’m so thankful for you and this community. And to say thank you, I’m sharing my Black Friday specials today. You can grab them through Cyber Monday with the coupon codes on my website. If you’ve been thinking of joining me for a course, community, or coaching in 2023, this weekend is the best time to do it! You can join Successful Mama Meetups for a sweet deal, grab a gift certificate for 10%-15% off, or get a PatriciaPay bonus of 10% on your purchase this weekend. If you’re not sure what to put on your holiday wish list, might I suggest a gift certificate for next year’s annual ADHD Moms retreat, coaching, or learning more about your ADHD. Have a great holiday weekend and I’ll talk to you next week, Successful Mama! To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.

When you have ADHD, you often know what you should do and why you should do it. And yet, you still don’t do it. Ugh. This week on the podcast, I’m sharing a mini-series on Goal Setting with ADHD. But I’m not talking about the usual advice about consistency and breaking it down into steps. You’ve heard all that before. We’re talking about how to make Goal Setting an ADHD-friendly process. Episodes 167, 168, and 169 discuss the key ingredients to ADHD-friendly goals.  In the final segment of the series, I’m inviting you to join Successful Mama Meetups, beginning December 7th, 2022! Until now, these meetings were only available to my current clients.  As of today, you can join us, too! These meetups are a twist on productivity, planning, accountability, and community. You’re invited to meet other moms who get you and understand the struggle, make friends, and build your support system. We meet weekly so you’ll actually make a plan for your week that makes sense for you. And we make it fun cuz how can it not be fun when you get a bunch of ADHD’ers together??? This weekend you’re invited to join us for a VIP (Very Impulsive Person) special - check your inbox or listen to this week’s episode for details!  With a community of ADHD moms to lift you up when you’re struggling, you’re ready to take a baby step forward. It is possible to plan your week and achieve it, even with ADHD. Sign up at patriciasung.com/meetup To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.

When you have ADHD, you often know what you should do and why you should do it. And yet, you still don’t do it. Ugh. This week on the podcast, I’m sharing a mini-series on Goal Setting with ADHD. But I’m not talking about the usual advice about consistency and breaking it down into steps. You’ve heard all that before. We’re talking about how to make Goal Setting an ADHD-friendly process. Today is Part 3, following through on your goals. When you tend to forget about the goal you set, how on earth can you stick to it? Here's the answer. If you haven’t already listened, go back two episodes and listen to Parts 1 and 2 about planning when you’re not good at planning, and finding your motivation. Part 1 - Episode 167: How to Make a Plan When You Stink at Planning: Goal Setting with ADHD Part 1 Part 2 - Episode 168: How to Find Your Motivation When You Just Don’t Want to Do The Thing: Goal Setting with ADHD Part 2 Stay tuned for putting it all together tomorrow. It is possible to learn how to set a goal, like planning your week, and achieve it, even with ADHD. For the accompanying questions for this mini-series, download the worksheet at patriciasung.com/adhd-goal-setting

When you have ADHD, you often know what you should do and why you should do it. And yet, you still don’t do it. Ugh. This week on the podcast, I’m sharing a mini-series on Goal Setting with ADHD. But I’m not talking about the usual advice about consistency and breaking it down into steps. You’ve heard all that before. We’re talking about how to make Goal Setting an ADHD-friendly process. Today is Part 2, finding your motivation. When you just don’t want to do the thing, how can you tap into that elusive motivation? If you haven’t already listened, go back one episode and listen to Part 1 about planning when you’re not good at planning: Episode 167: How to Make a Plan When You Stink at Planning: Goal Setting with ADHD Part 1 Stay tuned for Part 3 when we’ll discuss follow-through. It is possible to learn how to set a goal, like planning your week, and achieve it, even with ADHD. For the accompanying questions for this mini-series, download the worksheet here: patriciasung.com/adhd-goal-setting To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.

When you have ADHD, you often know what you should do and why you should do it. And yet, you still don’t do it. Ugh. This week on the podcast, I’m sharing a mini-series on Goal Setting with ADHD. But I’m not talking about the usual advice about consistency and breaking it down into steps. You’ve heard all that before. We’re talking about how to make Goal Setting an ADHD-friendly process. Today is Part 1, planning when you stink at planning. I’m sharing 3 critical ingredients to making an ADHD-friendly plan, so you’re not beating your head against the wall using the advice that doesn’t make sense. Stay tuned for Part 2 tomorrow when we’ll discuss finding your motivation. It is possible to learn how to set a goal, like planning your week, and achieve it, even with ADHD. For the accompanying questions for this mini-series, download the worksheet at patriciasung.com/adhd-goal-setting To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.

We’ve officially entered the marathon of the holiday season!  How can we prepare for the holidays so that our sanity is still intact come January?   Maybe you want to start some holiday traditions instead of zipping through in a blur by the skin of your teeth? Maybe you want to enjoy the season instead of drowning in overwhelm after 17 special events, 16 extra desserts, 15 late bedtimes and a neurodivergent kid in a pear tree?  Two ADHD moms in our community asked and I’m answering:  Here are my 3 steps to preparing for the holidays so that it’s a magical time for not just your kids, but you, too. For an actionable plan to design a holiday season you're excited to enjoy, watch this masterclass at no-charge on how to plan your less stress holidays: patriciasung.com/less-holiday-stress To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.

When a thought pops in your head, do you feel like you need to do something with it right away or else you’ll forget? That whack-a-mole thinking is a stressful way to live. Not everything we think of is both urgent and important. Actually, most things are not important and very few are urgent. But how do we determine what really matters? Prioritizing is really difficult when you have ADHD! Meet Tracy Stanger, an anti-hustle business coach for moms. Even if you don’t have a business, you’ll want to hit play for these gems on prioritizing and learning to say no. Motherhood is a whole lot like running a business, as you are the one juggling all the things, filling in all the paperwork, managing the people, spending the money, and executing the tasks.  Tracy believes we deserve work that lights us up and makes an impact on the world, and that we do have plenty of time for that work, even with motherhood trying to take it all up. The solution is to do Less But Better (instead of trying to #doitall). She helps her clients and students find YOUR most impactful tasks and make it easier to get those things done. Grab Tracy’s free guide to How to Find 1-2 Hours in Your Day, which starts the process of Sort, Purge, + Organizing by helping you start to figure out what you WANT to do and get rid of the stuff you don't HAVE to do, off your to-do list. https://www.tracystanger.com/find-hours Find Tracy here: Website: tracystanger.com Instagram: @tracy.stanger Join us in doing Less But Better! Grab your free ADHD Strategy Guide: My Secret to Overcoming Time Blindness, to help you bring the not-now into the now and live your life the way you want to - with less stress and more joy. To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog. 

Maybe you’re not as terrible as you think. Do you often explain away your achievements? You got that new job by sheer luck… Not sure how you won that award…Must have been a fluke! See how everyone else is brilliant and accomplishes their dreams… and you’re just sucking at regular life? STOP. Give yourself some credit, mama! What if Imposter Syndrome is the thing that steals your joy over and over again? Imposter Syndrome is way too common in the ADHD community, especially in women with ADHD. I’m here to put an abrupt end to it. Now. Today we discuss what Imposter Syndrome looks like, how it relates to ADHD, and what you can do when you feel like a fake or fraud (cuz you aren’t.) You’re working really hard and it’s time to celebrate. Grab your Free ADHD Support Guide: ADHD in Women: A Checklist of Common Symptoms To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.

How many times a day do you get stuck spinning in circles because you have no idea what to do next? You know you have a lot to do, but you’re not sure what to do next. So your anxiety goes up, making it harder to figure out. Maybe you panic about how much you need to do (and nothing gets done during a panic attack.) Maybe you disassociate to escape the overwhelm (and nothing gets done when you freeze.) Then you beat yourself up for not getting anything done (and nothing gets done while you shame yourself.) It just gets worse and worse. Getting stuck in ADHD paralysis is a very real part of everyday life for people with ADHD. It sucks. But we don't have to stay there. Here are seven practical steps to get you out of the panic zone and move forward again. This episode is a snippet from what Patricia shared at The Power of The Pause ADHD Moms Retreat in October 2022. Join the waitlist for the 2023 Retreat here and be the first to know the details.  To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.

You wake up in the morning and think, "Dang it! I wasn't gonna drink last night." Now you feel like crap and don't want to get out of bed. A lot of us live in the middle ground: you wouldn't consider yourself an alcoholic, but you also aren't exactly happy with your relationship with alcohol. It’s an awkward place to be. …Maybe you're making up rules for yourself like you'll only drink on weekends, on special occasions, or with friends. …Maybe you say you'll have just one glass of wine, but it turns into two or the whole bottle. …Maybe you're a Groundhog Day drinker… Every morning you make a pact with yourself and you inevitably break it. Again and again. Let's pause the spiral of shame and have an open conversation about how alcohol is a popular and culturally acceptable method to tone down the chaos in your mind so you can chill out in the evenings - particularly useful when you have ADHD and loud children. Let me be clear: I'm not here to tell you never to drink again. I want you to have the relationship YOU want with alcohol, no matter what it looks like. Today's guest is Carolyn Robistow, LPC, and host of Brain Unblocked: The Brainspotting Podcast. Carolyn helps high-achieving, health-minded perfectionists squelch brain blocks and unhelpful habits. She is dedicated to helping entrepreneurs get out of their heads, stop drinking, and start living optimized AF. Carolyn side hustles at her private practice, The Joy Effect, an in-person and virtual counseling practice in The Woodlands, TX, where she specializes in Anxiety and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). You don't have to painfully shame yourself into a new way of doing things. Let's dig into the tough conversations, Successful Mama! Learn more and connect with Carolyn: Website: www.carolynrobistow.net Practice Website: https://joyeffectcounseling.com Instagram: @carolynrobistow Facebook: Carolyn Robistow To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog.

As we enter ADHD Awareness Month, our theme is “Do Less to Lower Your Stress.”  You have an overflowing plate as a mom with ADHD. How do you take things off your plate? *panic ensues* Good question! I’m giving you permission to scrap some stuff and make your life easier today.  Tell me what you did to lighten your load, Successful Mama! Free resources & sign up for courses: motherhoodinadhd.com

What do you do when your ADHD child is always making you late? How do you deal with an ADHD kid who takes a hundred years to get ready in the morning or at bedtime (or all the time!)?  Jaymi asks this question about what to do when her ADHD daughter is not moving in our free Facebook community.  Not only is it stressful and frustrating, it creates a domino effect of problems for the rest of the family.  And full disclosure, I was that kid! My mom called me the poky little puppy. Today I’m sharing 4 ways to lower your stress and teach your ADHD child the skills they need to get moving. For more support in creating ADHD-friendly morning routines that lower your stress and get you moving out the door faster, grab The Simple Morning Routine for ADHD Moms with Smart Speaker Support. To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD blog. 

I recently got rejected from something that mattered to me. And it stunk. RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria) and trauma response all rolled into one giant ball of suck. One of the hardest parts of parenting is talking to our kids about hard things, like rejection, sadness, and disappointment especially when we don’t feel like we are good at those skills ourselves. When disappointment strikes, how do we work through those feelings? And how do we teach our kids to do the same?  Here’s how I worked through the sadness recently and explained the tough stuff to my kids.   It’s time to take care of a very important person in the family: Mom.  We’ll relax, rest, have fun, and build friendships with mamas who think like us. Plus learn how to take care of our impressive yet ever-moving brains.  Join us in Houston, October 7-9, 2022 for the very first ADHD Moms retreat! Reserve your ticket here: patriciasung.com/adhd-mom-retreat Links to resources mentioned in this episode: Episode 122: Tantrum or ADHD Meltdown? How to deal with our Children's BIG Emotions with Dr. Laura Froyen  To read the transcript and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD blog. 

We went to the Johnson Space Center during the last week of summer and got to sit in Mission Control for the Apollo 13 mission. At Mission Control, they monitor everything from the fuel level, oxygen level, the trajectory, and even the poo.  Guess who is Mission Control for your entire family? Yup, you. No wonder you’re exhausted before you even get out of bed! Two things that exhaust me a lot are timekeeping and emotional regulation.  Let’s talk about how you can take care of yourself as a mom with ADHD during these impossible missions. For more resources and to read the transcript and view the show notes visit Motherhood in ADHD blog. Links to resources mentioned in this episode: Episode 76: Planning for the New Year with ADHD: One Month at a Time and Overcome Time Blindness Episode 122: Tantrum or ADHD Meltdown? How to Deal with our Children's BIG Emotions with Dr. Laura Froyen To read the transcript and view the show notes visit Motherhood in ADHD blog.

“Is this an ADHD thing?” This question comes up a lot! It’s hard to say because there is a wide spectrum on how ADHD symptoms present in your day to day activities. At the same time, there is so much value in knowing you aren’t the only one struggling with something.  In today’s episode, I’m sharing the themes that I see in the symptoms of ADHD in women that I work with so that you can feel comfortable in knowing how ADHD shows up in women in real life. Included in this episode is a checklist of ADHD symptoms that you can fill out and take with you to your doctor appointment, so you can feel confident and prepared to ask about an ADHD diagnosis. For more resources and to read the transcript and view the show notes visit Motherhood in ADHD blog.

When impulsive behavior bites you in the butt again, it’s discouraging! I’m sharing how I slow down impulsive leaps that kick my butt.  In a brand new format, a listener (one of you, mama!) shares her question and I answer! Today Irina asks how to stop impulsive spending. It’s not as easy as “well, just don’t buy that.”🙄 These impulsivity tips aren’t just for money! Even if you are a savings queen, these strategies will help you anytime you feel like your ADHD is sabotaging your well-laid plans.  When you want a chance to slow down and take care of yourself, join us at the ADHD Moms Retreat in Houston, October 7-9. Reserve your ticket here. We're diving deep into The Power of the Pause during our Saturday discussion, along with having a great weekend full of rest, relaxation, food, friendship & fun. Read the transcript and view the show notes on the Motherhood in ADHD blog.   

It was our worst morning last school year. I screwed up big time, and left school drop off feeling demoralized and ashamed. This is not how I want mornings to go with my kids.  Do you feel that way in the mornings, too? When our ADHD causes consequences for our kids, the guilt and shame kick into high gear. Thankfully, most mornings are not like this for our family. Our mornings are usually smooth and happy, and I have time for a good conversation with my oldest before he leaves for school. How can you feel refreshed, relaxed, calm, motivated during stressful mornings, too? Today I’m sharing how our ADHD friendly morning routine keeps us on time and motivated to tackle the day. Here’s my secret to a simple ADHD morning routine and how I use our smart home speaker to keep us on time for school. You can have this level of peace in the mornings, too, mama!