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Kicking off a new year by casting a wider net is common for a lot of folks… but that’s not what we do here. Here, we take our cues from nature. And in the natural world, winter is a time for going deeper. It’s a time for making sure our bodies are nourished, our bellies are full, and our baskets are filled with everything we’ll need for the journey of the year to come. When we start this new cycle by gathering the resources that’ll see us through, then we’re far less likely to feel depleted down the road.  Getting resourced helps us to know the difference between enough work and over-working. Getting resourced equips us with the self-awareness required to lead without harm to ourselves or to others. In this episode, Karlee shares why getting resourced now is the key to your physical, mental, and emotional longevity all year long. She reveals the four C-19 L’s that high-achieving women have been struggling with since the early days of the pandemic, and what these four indicators are telling you about the resources you should be building up now. You’ll learn about a specific type of leader that really shouldn’t be trusted, and why our cultural glorification of these types of leaders only directs us more towards toxic productivity. Karlee also shares five free or low-cost, high-ROI ways you can obtain more resources right now that’ll help you fill your basket to the brim. If you’re ready to be deeply supported and stop doing all the heavy lifting in order to make what you want to experience next happen, then this is the episode for you.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:What bodily neglect is telling you about your work (2:19)The 4 L’s that Covid has introduced to our lives and how to shake them (11:20)One myth that needs debunking right now (18:11)Pinpointing the resources you might be lacking (21:26)Creative ways to add more free time to your days (27:38)People Mentioned in this Episode:Kate NorthrupAdam GrantResources Mentioned in this Episode:Episode 113: Building a Stronger BasketEpisode 114: Putting the Self in SuccessEpisode 41: Is Your Work Mojo Down?Grant, A. (2021, April 19). There's a Name for the Blah You're Feeling: It's Called Languishing. Retrieved from https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/19/well/mind/covid-mental-health-languishing.htmlFREE Character Strengths Assessment Connect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedIn See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How do you define success? Is it about pleasing your boss, your staff, or your clients?  Is it about the numbers reflected in your bank account? Does success mean being available, even though it often wears you out?Now, how many of those reference points for success are really about you, and how many are about other people’s perceptions of you?Real, meaningful success depends on your reference point. Our goals have to be shaped around what we value in and for ourselves, rather than what others value in and about us. If you’re calibrating your goals based on the preferences, priorities, and needs of others over what you know to be true for you, then YOU aren’t the reference point. And that’s gotta change. In this episode, Karlee talks about the difference between self-referencing a goal versus other-referencing a goal. She shares real-life examples of meaningful self-reference success points and walks you through a straightforward process that will help you identify a personal formula for success that’s based on what you value. If you’re ready to lead with clarity, confidence, and a better understanding of exactly what your next steps are, then this episode is for you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:What gets obscured in the fog of success (9:39)The difference between goals that are self-referenced and other referenced (12:57)An example of to-the-point self referencing (15:10)The 3 W’s that’ll help you identify what gives you life (18:37)How to incorporate more of what you value into your life (25:29)People Mentioned in this Episode:Jen Delos Reyes Nancy LevinResources Mentioned in this Episode:Episode 113: Building a Stronger Basket: How to plug up the leaks of what’s draining you and preserve more energy for the things you value.Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

A friend calls desperate for a coffee date. It’s your day off and it’s been a long week. And, these coffee dates with this particular friend always leave you feeling drained. But, you don't want to hurt their feelings. So you grab your coat and keys and reluctantly head out the door. You’ve had this business idea floating around in your head for a while now. But every time you get a burst of energy and feel ready to put more time into developing this concept, something always gets in the way. Your current job. A social media side-track. You feel like maybe you should clean the house or do laundry instead. So that idea stays floating in the ether. There’s a foundation that we’re built upon…it’s something we all want and need to preserve. But life and people and work and other distractions always seem to compromise the sturdiness we seek. That, my friends, is leaky basket syndrome. And if you’re a woman in this world, you’ve been conditioned to carry around a basket that’s prone to leaking. If you've ever struggled with follow through, or you feel like you’re stuck in relationships that aren’t feeding you very well anymore but you’re afraid to let them go, then know this: You are not a screw up.Your basket is the foundation that every plan and decision you’re going to make this year needs to depend upon if it’s going to survive. So, we've got to plug those leaks. We've got to plan and get resourced if we want our plans to stand a fighting chance.In this episode, Karlee describes some of the most common culprits of leaky basket syndrome, and why historically, those of us who identify as women have been uniquely susceptible to condoning punctures within our foundations. She’ll pinpoint the emotional cues that are letting you know when something is draining your resources and keeping you from living into the plans you make. You’ll learn a simple 4-step system for tending to your basket and learn a practical, pragmatic way to mend those leaks for good. Boundaries take practice, but remember… YOU are the curator of the gallery of your life. If you’re ready to accept this invitation to build a sturdier basket, then this episode is for you.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why January is a terrible time to get new goals (1:10)What tending to your basket looks like: a 4-step system (3:63)Identifying leaky basket syndrom (12:45)The one permission you can grant yourself that’ll mend up a few leaks (17:00)Some of the most common leaks that might need mending (18:22)How to shake off the need to people-please in our DNA (22:43)A quick, doable exercise for mending those leaks (25:17)Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Congratulations! You’ve made it to the end of another year…How do you feel about it? In the grande scheme of what’s passed, the things you’ve learned, and how you’ve grown, where might you point the arrow on your joy-o-meter? Ok, ok…let’s scale it back a little. Let’s be in the now. What’s bringing you joy right now? You see, the holidays carry with them a veneer of happiness and celebratory tendencies, but that’s not always how it feels for everyone. Maybe you don’t feel like celebrating. Maybe the thought of family-time brings you anxiety. Maybe you just can’t wait until it’s over and done with. Maybe there’s a whirlwind of other stuff going on in your heart right now and it’s got you feeling weighed down. These lows, especially during the holidays, can feel exaggerated in comparison to the jingle-bells world taking place outside our windows.So, how do we tend to that heaviness in order to find respite and tap into what brings us joy?  In this episode, Karlee and co-host Anitza Martins talk about what it’s like to experience heart-heaviness during times that are supposed to be filled with joy. They discuss how guilt manifests when you’re just not feeling festive, and why it’s so important to get to the root of our emotions rather that stuff them away. Karlee shares a simple trick she uses to mood-shift and quickly access the nourishment she needs when the storm clouds need shaking. Remember: We thrive on nourishment, not punishment. If you’re ready to get to the root of what’s bringing you down and flip the switch from self-judgement to joy, then this episode is for you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How to show up when you’re heart is feeling heavy (4:13)Different expressions of joy and what it can look like (8:15)Gaining claritly on what’s bringing you down by asking a simple question (9:47)What to expect from the show in 2022 (12:29)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Listen In: The Boundary BrunchSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The seasonal energy of this month is palpable. It’s in the crisp wintery air, the sparkling trees, and the holiday tunes that seem to start a little earlier every year. For many of us, it’s a season full of family, friends, parties, and the death of any self-control when it comes to sweets. So, because we’re big believers in the natural rhythm of the seasons, we’re taking this final month of the year to culminate. We’re turning inward and reflecting on what we’ve learned this year. In this episode, Karlee and co-host Anitza Martins dive deep into the reflection pool of not only this past year, but all the way back to the beginning of Karlee’s first season as an podcaster. In this heartfelt Q&A sesh, Aniza asks Karlee the real questions about what it’s like to lead an organization centered around boundary setting and thriving… and to truly lead by example. You’ll hear what Karlee has learned about balancing work while maintaining meaningful relationships, and where she chose to draw the line early on when it came to sacrifice. She shares why the values she holds dear are seasonal and don’t need to tending 100% of the time in order to endure. Karlee and Aniza also talk about letting go of the pressure to “do it all”, and why it can be so satisfying to pass the keys to the drivers seat to the experts while you settle into the passenger side. If you’re ready to pause, reflect and settle a little deeper into culmination season, then this episode is for you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why we’re talking about pleasure and meaning this month (1:33)Karlee’s culmination: lessons learned and from whom (3:02)Why all values have their season (7:54)The relief in letting someone else be the expert (9:50)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Ep. 109: Are You Self-Stingy? How to stop skimping on your needs and receive the resources to THRIVE.Listen In: The Boundary BrunchSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This time of the year is all about going inward and allowing yourself some pre-holiday social rest. Chilly hints from Northern Hemisphere skies in the form of snow days and icicles are a literal permission slip to stay home, get cozy, and reflect.So, what have we been reflecting on? A whole year of boundary practice: Are we setting enough of them? Are we letting fear get in the way? How can we set more of them? What if my boundaries make people mad?  Know this: A boundary is a contract between you and you; between yourself and what you value. If the boundary you’ve created isn’t respected, even if someone gets upset, their reaction is their decision...and their reaction is usually not your responsibility to manage. Over time, we know that relationships change.  The ones that don’t hold water anymore will shift currents. And that’s how the river keeps moving forward, past all of the fallen trees and boulders that might try to impede its progress.In this episode, Karlee and this month’s co-host Anitza Martins are offering up another bite-sized portion of audio dark chocolate for your listening pleasure. And this week, it’s Boundary-flavored...our favorite! Today, you’ll hear why boundary-setting can sometimes create conflict, and how you can handle that disharmony in a healthy, meaningful way. They’ll talk about processing the real information that’s wrapped up in other people’s emotional responses, and why it’s perfectly ok to give yourself permission to walk away. Thriving is all about setting the boundaries you need, maintaining them, and making sure that the current you’re rolling with is made up of people who are supporting you in being and finding your best self. If you’re ready to stop fearing the boundary reactions of others and create the environment you need in order to thrive, then this episode is for you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How to overcome your boundary-based fears (2:42)The messaging wrapped within other people’s responses to our boundaries (4:01)Separating the reasonable from the unreasonable (7:40)The joy of not doing things you don’t wanna do anymore (10:05)People Mentioned in this Episode:Dr. Valerie ReinSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We go through life doing a whole lotta things that we don’t really want to do. Laundry. Homework. “Work”-work. Taxes. Ok, so those things you actually do have to do. But, what about those other things you sort of just fall into doing or being responsible for? For example, was your career path something you thought deeply about, or did you just kind of fall into a job? And do you find meaning in the work you do, or does it leave you feeling like you need to hibernate for a few days as soon as you walk out the door? Or maybe the role you play among friends or family (“the mediator”, “the responsible one”, “the fixer” etc.)  is starting to wear you out. But, you’d feel really guilty if you just stopped being that person because people need that from you, right? So, you just continue to do it anyway.The thing is...if you really carved out the time to reflect on what actually brings you joy, you might just find a way to align that with how you want to spend your days. Your career. Your family gatherings. In this episode, Karlee kicks off a short and sweet series with special co-host extraordinaire Anitza Martins. They’ll unpack the “equation for thriving” as defined by the field of Positive Psychology that explains what’s working for people who’ve managed to cultivate zest, joy and passion, even in tough times.Today, you’ll hear how letting go of unwanted expectations that aren’t serving you leaves more room to discover what might serve you better. You’ll learn a doable way to find space for pleasure in your days, and how that leads to deeper meaning. Meaning gives us purpose. And it has the power to transform the work you do, create positive changes within your relationships, and bring more joy to your human experience.Those seeds just need space to grow. If you’re ready to stop skimping on what brings your life meaning and gift yourself more joy, then this is the episode for you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:What the field of positive psychology calls the “equation for thriving” (2:53)What it means when “tradition lays a trap” (6:48)What if you struck when the iron was cold? (9:22)Leaning into joy, even when times are hard (13:00)Anticipating change and appreciating the small things (16:11)Resources Mentioned in this Episode: The Boundary AcademyPeople Mentioned in this Episode:Suzy Banks BaumSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

If you find yourself in the middle of a story, having to make some decisions because one area of your career or health or relationships is shifting, then this is the episode for you.As a busy, high-achieving woman in this world, you’re well-accustomed to a tight calendar. As much as you pack into those little boxes, it’s still hard to say “no” when your boss, family, social circle, or anyone else asks you to fit just one more thing in there.Like an overstuffed suitcase, you just keep trying to squeeze in an extra pair of pants here, another cozy cardigan there…until you have to sit on top of it just to get the zipper closed.And at the end of every overstuffed month, you ask yourself: “Is this how it’s always gonna feel?”Well, here’s a thought… What if you just said “no”?What if you took control of your calendar and carved out regular, intentional breathing room…what might that space feel like?Daring to pause, to be intentional, and to refill your cup isn’t selfish. It’s actually generous.When you’re able to show up more nourished and rested, you come through in a better headspace and with a fuller heart.  And harnessing that presence and authenticity is one of the most generous things you can do for others, whether it’s your boss, your co-workers, your partner, your friends, or your kids.In this episode, Karlee welcomes the founder of Corporate Escape Artist, Caroline Castrillon. After 25 years of corporate success in leadership roles with Fortune 500 companies like Dell and Sony, Caroline made the leap towards entrepreneurship. Today, her company helps successful, driven women who are stuck in the daily grind of too much work and helps them carve out more time to pause and find nourishment. She is a contributor to Forbes and Thrive Global and has been featured in publications including the New York Times, Entrepreneur, Inc., and Success Magazine.Today, you’ll hear what drove Caroline to defect from the always busy corporate career ladder in order to harness more control over her life, and how she’s helping others do the same. She points out the importance of getting comfortable with fear being present when you’re flirting with the idea of change, but you’re afraid to take the leap. She also talks about the importance of cultivating a “no” practice, and how to use that untapped power to redirect your days, months, and ultimately, change the direction of your life.Or, in Caroline’s own words, how to go from “soul-sucking jobs to career fulfillment”.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:The “taboo” things women should be talking more about (7:12)Why we have to get comfortable with fear and keep moving ahead (9:56)Recognizing the power you have to direct your life (16:57)Cultivating a “no” practice (25:09)The one thing you have to know before making a meaningful transition (34:18)How gaining clarity over your life shifts your mental state and ripples outward (47:18)Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Article: Castrillon, C. (2021, July 18). This is how to transition from manager to leader. Forbes. Retrieved November 23, 2021Connect with Caroline Castrillon:Corporate Escape ArtistInstagram See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Ever wonder how your relationship with money is connected to your relationship with your power? And why many women have mixed, often negative, feelings around money (no matter how much is in their bank account)?Sometimes there’s shame, guilt, struggle, or a lack of financial clarity and that messes with our  mojo.Here’s the deal: If you’re feeling unclear or lacking power around money, that lack of unclarity or lack of power can seep into other areas of your life, too. In this episode, Karlee rewinds back to some very important money talk. In the realm of overwhelm,  money tension can feel like a grey cloud that just hovers above us, and we don’t always give it the attention it needs. But that attention is the only way to brighten it up and get out from under its shadow. She talks about the cyclical nature of money and how you can maximize your relationship with it in each season. If you’re ready to take the simple, doable, tailored-for-you steps that’ll have you feeling more empowered, clear, and confident about your financial game, then this episode is for you.  What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How to start removing fear around making money. (17:53)One doable practice to start improving your relationship with money. (23:59)About the four cyclical seasons of money. (24:58)How tracking your expenses and income can be super simple and impactful for your money game. (26:40)What a bold money goal looks like for you. (33:00)Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Money Is My Friend by Phil Laut Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

With a busy schedule running your life, finding both the time and space to breathe, create, and take care of yourself might seem…frivolous.Like something you can just think about tomorrow. Or, the next day. Or, the next day. The next time you find yourself in that go-go-go pattern, what would it feel like if you dared to pause, instead of putting it off until tomorrow? What if you stopped to ask your body what it was trying to  communicate in that moment? Here’s the truth you may have been ignoring: your body is trying to communicate with you, and it is possible to use that as a professional strategy. Learning how to listen to your body can actually guide you toward some of your biggest wins. It can also urge you not to do something in the form of a headache coming on, tightness in your shoulders and neck, or just a general feeling of overwhelm. This week, Karlee reconnects us with some powerful body talk with guest Suzi Banks Baum: a woman masterful at interpreting the language of the body. Suzi is a writer and book artist with an admirable devotion to her daily creative practice. Throughout the conversation, Suzi shares how her creative practices help her stay solid even when everything feels chaotic around her, how she learned to cultivate these practices, and how listening to her body’s information has guided her over the years. If you find yourself wanting more space for yourself throughout your day, or the room to be creative, or if you’re feeling worried about what the next right step for you is, then this episode is for you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How Suzi stays solid amidst the chaos of life’s changes (15:42)How to know when it’s time to modify your business (18:36)What body-knowing feels like (21:54)How creative practices help you gain a greater understanding of your interior orientation (36:18)How ritual can help you begin cultivating a creative practice (45:33)How making time for herself helped Suzi take back her freedom and agency (1:04:36)People  Mentioned in this Episode: Nancy LevinJudy ChicagoResources Mentioned in this Episode: Episode 32: Curing the Knee-Jerk “Yes” with Nancy LevinThe Dinner Party by Judy ChicagoCamp in a Care PackageConnect with Suzi Banks Baum: WebsiteInstagramConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagram See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The holidays are about to envelop us in a way that feels extra sweet. This year marks 2 years since the word “pandemic” became a part of our daily lexicon. The holiday season hasn’t felt normal for a while, which might mean that the pressure around it feels more emotionally intense than usual. Maybe there’s pressure to make up for lost time, coupled with a desire to make sure things are just absolutely perfect for everyone.  From gifts to making and sharing great food, to how you choose to spend your time, there’s so much pressure to make sure that everything you do makes everyone else happy. But what about you? Before we get into the thick of holiday dinners and gatherings and gift-giving, it’s important to figure out how to include yourself on the list of people you during this (or any) busy time.You deserve a moment to create a doable framework around the holidays that is life-giving for you. Continuing our month-long revisit on the topic of overwhelm, Karlee taps back into the wisdom of Dr. Maria Sirois. In a timely message before we enter the holiday season, she dives deep into how we can continue to care for ourselves through these busy months, and any other “full” phases we might encounter in our lives. This notion of “self-care” is no longer just about getting enough sleep and going to the gym a few times a week. It’s all about knowing how to deal with challenging people in challenging circumstances…and in challenging times. Maria outlines beautifully how to make a really small—but hugely transformative—shift in our fullest times so that we still get to experience what we want more of in our life. If you’re ready to remember the importance of self and create pathways for your own nourishment this holiday season, then this episode is for you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How to take a pause and ask a life-giving question to create openness within yourself (16:17)The three-step framework to guide you through the holidays (24:41)What Maria has learned about navigating the holidays (26:32)How to take the pressure off of giving the perfect gifts (30:12)How to consciously craft the holidays in a way that gives you life (32:44)Giving yourself permission to reframe stress-inducing holiday rituals (43:10)Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Maria Sirois’ WebsiteContact Maria SiroisJob Crafting – Amy Wrzesniewski on creating meaning in your own workSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

When change happens, it can be an unsettling time. The world around us has changed as a result of COVID-19. By now, we’re all used to taking precautions every time we leave the house. We pack masks and hand-sanitizer and what we need to stay safe. But there’s also this reckoning that’s seeping in.  We’ve gone from “How long is this gonna last?” to “Ok, guess this is life now.” And the realization that these changes are now an all-the-time thing, well, that can leave us feeling a little (or a lot) overwhelmed. Now that we know there’s no going back, we’ve got to learn to adapt. We have to find our balance again. So, how do we learn to support and steady ourselves in this new version of the world? We go deeper. We find focus. And, we look for ways to simplify. Today, Karlee kicks off a month of episodes revisiting the topic of overwhelm, offering valuable moments of reflection as you look back to when the world changed for us all. First, she shares the antidote to the feelings of overwhelm that you might be experiencing right now. She explains how establishing rituals and routines can keep you feeling grounded, even when everything else seems uncertain. Then, she shares a self-sourced guided visualization to reconnect you with your voice, your truth, and your life. If you’re ready to incorporate the rituals and routines that will keep you grounded - even when life gets shaken up - so that you can regain your balance amidst uncertainty, then this episode is for you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How focus functions as the antidote to fear (13:49) Why we feel off-balance amidst rapid change (18:31)How to find rituals that ground you and create stability in your life (19:15)How you can be in charge of many parts of the way your day unfolds (23:59)A self-sourced truth visualization tool (26:50)Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Episode 6: Feeling The Holiday Stress? Here's a framework for more ease during full timesEpisode 35: Trust Your Knowing: How Women Rise From Doubt to Leading Themselves Forward with Suzi Banks BaumEpisode 13: Making Money Moves: Upgrading Your Finances & Personal PowerPJ Podcast GatheringEpisode 19: Sh*t just hit the fanConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagram See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

If you’re a human on this planet, you’ve likely found yourself in a situation or two where you’ve felt like an outsider. That feeling can inspire us to conform so that we fit the mold and gain acceptance. Or, it can push us further inward towards isolation. Either way, if we’re not experiencing deep bonds of acceptance that are based on who we really are, then whether we’re surrounded by “friends” or quietly tucked away in the shadows, we still feel alone.As adults in the world, just like when we were kids on the playground, we’re always trying to fit in and find our tribes. The search for connection and community never stops. That’s because we, like the rest of nature, are in a constant state of evolution.So, we should expect that our friendships, relationships, and the type of work we do will evolve, too. Whether it’s feeling alone in a sea of people or standing apart like a wallflower, the path to real connection is laid by leaning deeper into who we are. In this episode, Karlee explains why the concept of “fitting in” is more of an attempt to mold ourselves into being someone we just aren’t, and why instead, we should be expanding in order to find “our people”. She lays out the levels of friendship that we experience in various aspects of our lives, and invites you to consider which ones are continuing to nourish you and which ones it might be ok to loosen your grip on in order to create space for evolution.  She’ll also share 4 important questions you can ask yourself if you need a little push to help you move into what’s next.If you’re ready to invite more authentic, nourishing connections into your life, then this episode is for you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:2 essential reasons why quitting is sometimes necessary (3:22)Learning to expand rather than trying to fit in (8:42)An example of the 3rd level communication that goes into making this podcast (15:37)Evaluating how you experience the 4 levels of friendship (20:28)4 questions that will help you move ahead into what’s next (25:32)People Mentioned in this Episode:Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D.Dana LemayResources Mentioned in this Episode:**Episode: 3 Styles of professional communication?Article: Psychology Today. 2021. How Many Friends Do You Really Need in Adulthood?. [online] Available at: <https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifetime-connections/201908/how-many-friends-do-you-really-need-in-adulthood> [Accessed 19 October 2021].Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagram See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Do you feel like you’re around people all the time but you never really feel connected?Maybe those “only-one” thoughts start to creep in…“People just don’t get me.”“Everyone is more qualified than I am.” “If I want this done, right, I've got to do it myself.”And coming up behind all of that solitary contemplation, you think “ Gosh, this would be so much easier if I just had a little support.”If this rings true for you, whether it’s among friends or family, in your neighborhood or your workplace, know that you’re not the only one who feels like the only one.Community is vital. It’s what makes our experience in this world so enjoyable because it gives us the ability to be open and to share. We want to belong. Without it, we feel isolated.So, how do we learn how to “belong”? The key to belonging lies within our own willingness to present ourselves as we are. The path to self-acceptance is through vulnerability. “We often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world. Our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”-Brene BrownIn this episode, Karlee shares the most common thoughts that high-achieving women experience around solitary, “only-one” thinking. She explains how these thoughts actually exacerbate our feelings of isolation, and why we’re never really the only one in the room feeling the way we feel. You’ll learn why belonging requires vulnerability within yourself first, and how you can find and embrace community in a rather unconventional way through a surprisingly simple activity.If you find yourself in the room, know this: You deserve to be there, you need to be there, and they need you. You are bringing something, and you belong. The only thing missing is you believing it.  If you’re ready to embrace self-acceptance and vulnerability to finally open your gateway to connection, then this episode is for you. People Mentioned:Brene BrownDouglas Carlton AbramsChitra AiyarResources Mentioned:The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing WorldTED Talk: How to Build Community When You Feel IsolatedBrené Brown on True Belonging | UPLIFT. (2021). Retrieved 13 October 2021Connect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagram See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

When you hear about a brave woman who has set a boundary, do you sometimes think “Well, she can do that, but that would never fly with my family,” or “Gosh, I’d love to be able to say that but in my culture, it would come off as offensive.”So, rather than rock the boat, you pack that boundary-thought away in the hopes that someday, you’ll unpack it again after discovering a different way to deliver it. Well, that day is today.Culture plays a huge role in our experience of boundaries - so today we dig a little deeper to understand the origins of your psychology around boundaries.Because boundaries aren’t about offending anyone, particularly people you care about.They’re simply a means of communicating your needs to others in a way that draws them in.In this episode, Karlee welcomes an expert in the realm of positive psychology and wellbeing, Dr. Senem Eren. Dr. Eren has been a researcher and psychologist for the past 17 years, focusing specifically on supporting and empowering women to exceed in their entrepreneurial goals without sacrificing their health, well-being, or happiness.  She’s a co-founder and board member of the Center for Muslim Wellbeing in Australia, and an adjunct professor at Ibn Haldun University in Turkey.Today, you’ll gain an understanding of when, where, and how the boundaries we create (or don’t create) intersect with our respective cultures. You’ll learn why it’s so important to recognize boundaries within the context of the cultures we’re born into, and the micro-cultures we’re raised within, in order to comprehend how we view boundary-setting, and our comfort levels when it comes to asking for help. If you’re ready to recognize that doin’ it all on your own isn’t worth the energy and you’re ready for a better way, then this episode is for you.  What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How the boundaries we’re born into shape who we become (10:55)Why it’s never too late to repair past mistakes (21:01)How individualist versus collectivist cultures shape our boundary styles (24:45)A new way to look at boundaries (32:47)What to expect when you’re setting a challenging boundary (39:41)Connect with Dr. Senem Eren:InstagramIbn Haldun UniversityBoundaries for wellbeing | Dr. Senem Eren | TEDxDocklandsPeople Mentioned:Meredith BrissonGeert HofstedeNancy LevinResources Mentioned:Website: Native LandConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagram See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How many great ideas have you had throughout your lifetime? The kind that come about so suddenly that you feel their energy pulse through your body with so much intensity that it wakes you up and makes you want to move ASAP?And...how many of those have you actually followed through on? If there’s some disparity between idea generation and follow-through, you’re not alone. And this isn’t a guilt trip. There’s a reason why so many of those ideas didn’t make it to fruition. What if I told you it wasn’t your lack of energy or ambition… It was about your lack of community. You see, follow-through takes two important things: nourishment and community.If you want to start something new, you have to start by asking yourself one question:“What do I need in order to make showing up for this possible?”In this special 100th episode of Messy & Magnificent, Karlee launches a month-long series delivering the potent power of community to your door. She uncovers what community really is and why it's so important in our lives, not only for emotional support but also as the force behind getting things done. She shares four incredible benefits of belonging to a community, and the five types of community that every woman should belong to, in some capacity.That whole “If I want it done right I've got to do it myself” mentality will only get us so far before we start to feel stuck. Moving to the next stage requires support. We thrive in community, and it’s time we recognize the role it plays in our success. If you’re ready to find your ideal community and reap the benefits of connection, then this episode is for you.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:The phenomenon of popular isolation (5:32)How the power of community helps us get things done (7:59)What the word community really means (21:27)The long-term benefits of friendships and community (23:29)The five types of community and why they’re beneficial (25:52)People Mentioned in this Episode:Dr. Tom StedingMaria SoriosKate NorthrupResources Mentioned in this Episode:Episode 57: Trying To Do It All Yourself? How smart leaders stop being the hero and start building emotional integrity with Tom StedingStudy: Brigham Young University. "Relationships improve your odds of survival by 50 percent, research finds." ScienceDaily. ScienceDaily, 28 July 2010. <www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/07/100727174909.htm>.Episode 76: Just Thrown A Curveball?! The specifics of how my company builds something new and revamps after our plans are foiled.VIDEO: The Boundary BrunchEpisode 49: Masterful Storytelling: How to Share Your Stories to Transform and Engage with Others with Dr. Maria SiroisBook: You Have the Power: Choosing Courage in a Culture of Fear by Frances Moore Lappe Jeffrey Perkins Article: What Is Community, and Why Is It Important? Featuring Riché C. ZamorEpisode 2: Nobody really gets you? How to upgrade your adult relationshipsArticle: 3 Ways To Benefit From Involvement In Your Community by Anne-Marie Faiola Study: University of Notre Dame. "Your circle of friends is more predictive of your health, study finds." ScienceDaily. ScienceDaily, 17 June 2019. <www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/06/190617110533.htm>List: The 5 Types of Community from FeverbeeSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Raise your hand if you’ve ever thought the following: I really don’t have time, but I don’t want to upset anyone. I’ll just do it. My culture doesn’t “get” boundaries, so I have to be available when family comes knocking. I’m a born workaholic. There’s never time for self-care. How would I even fit that in to my day?While our needs to work people please can tie our emotions up in knots, the truth is that each one of those thoughts is actually an invitation. A nudge from your internal compass that’s trying to point you in the direction of setting a boundary. Boundaries aren’t walls you’re setting up to keep other people from crossing over. They’re bridges you’re building within to create more ease for yourself. Boundaries may be the source of all conflict, but they’re also the foundation of all well-being. Today, Karlee welcomes bonafide “Boundary Queen” Sarri Gilman to the show. Sarri has spent 30 years working as a Psychotherapist who specializes in helping folks set the boundaries they need to implement at the family level. Her decades-long research in this specific area has shown her the full boundary-making process that people experience as they start to become their own boundary experts. In this episode, you’ll hear about the process of boundary-making, and how long on average it takes to actually implement a boundary for most people. She shares a personal boundary story of her own about letting go and moving forward when solace was calling her somewhere new. Finally, she’ll explain the fundamental link between self-trust and good decision-making that’ll help you make confidence-backed choices with greater ease. If you’re ready to honor your inner compass and gift yourself the boundaries being called for in your life, then this episode is for you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why boundaries need encouragement (13:10)Restoring the trust in your own compass (17:32)A powerful boundary breakthrough moment (21:35)How to think about resilience in times of trauma (36:06)Cultivating a pattern of self-care (40:58)Creating boundary clarity with family members (43:55)Emotionally prepping for a boundary fallout (50:38)How long it takes to become a boundary expert (57:57)People Mentioned in this Episode:Dr. Tom StedingCatherine Panter-BrickNancy LevinConnect with Sarri Gilman:Sarrigillman.comGet 20% off Now: Transform Your Boundaries Six Course Bundle Code: FRIENDSOFSARRIResources Mentioned in this Episode:RSVP FOR THE FREE BOUNDARY PANEL: September 20th, 7pm ESTBook:  Transform Your Boundaries by Sarri Gilman Book:  The Mystery of Knowing Journal: A writing odyssey to be true to who you are by Sarri Gilman  and Tasha RockowitzBook:  Naming and Taming Overwhelm: For Healthcare and Human Service Providers by Sarri Gilman TEDx Talk: Good boundaries free you | Sarri GilmanSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What if I get push back when I tell my boss I’m not available to work weekends anymore? What if they're disappointed? Will they think I’m not committed enough?If this cycle sounds familiar, then no doubt you’ve been dancing the “boundary back & forth”. That’s the emotional and psychological dance craze that we inflict upon ourselves when we’re trying to game-plan someone else’s behavior before we set a boundary.But spending your sweet time overthinking, doubting, and perfecting how your boundary lands...well, it’s just not doing you any good. Our emotional barometer gets really high around the idea of setting boundaries. We tend to add fear and anxiety to the already significant burden we’re trying to unload.But, hey…there’s an easier way.   Today, Karlee welcomes back boundary pro Dana Lemay. As the Head of School for the Boundary Academy, Dana is a verifiable expert on knowing when a boundary is necessary, and actually putting it into action. Her One-Minute Minimalist program helps other women declutter their lives to lead a more values-driven life experience. In this episode, you’ll get a behind-the-scenes listen to the collective wisdom of the women behind the Boundary Academy. This school wasn’t built in your typical hierarchical manner. Instead, it’s become a sharing community that constantly flips the script on who’s the teacher and who’s the student. And that’s led to a lot of rich and unexpected surprises. You’ll hear from Karlee and Dana about what it's been like to launch The Boundary Academy, and the real-life questions women upgrading their boundaries are asking. You’ll learn how to get off the emotional roller coaster when you need to set boundaries and feel more grounded, centered, and clear about what you need and how to achieve it. If you’re ready to finally unburden yourself from carrying the weight of the world and do a lot less heavy lifting in your day, on your job, and in your social circles, then this episode is for you.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why OPP’s, or Other People’s Opinions, aren’t going to be your catalyst for change (0:57)What it means when you feel discomfort about setting boundaries (9:20)Why setting boundaries isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach (13:37)Shifting our expectations of being everything all the time to being enough (25:56)How you can be a part of the boundary conversation and stay connected (32:13)People Mentioned in this Episode:Nancy LevinConnect with Dana Lemay:dana-lemay.comResources Mentioned in this Episode:RSVP FOR THE FREE BOUNDARY PANEL: September 20th, 7pm ESTEpisode 27: The Formula For Making Great Choices: Especially when everyone has an opinion about it what you should be doing.Book: Real Teams Win: What Smart Leaders Need to Know Now about Achieving Peak Performance by Thomas L. SteadingEpisode 57: Trying To Do It All Yourself? How smart leaders stop being the hero and start building emotional integrity with Tom StedingSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Your partner has had a tough week at work, so you stayed up late (even though you have an early conference call) baking their favorite cookies before sneaking them into a little heart-shaped box. Your best girlfriend is having relationship woes...again.  So you put down the novel you’ve been waiting to read all day so that you can be there for her, on the other end of the phone. Your boss needs you to be available Saturday to onboard a new client, so you reluctantly bow out of the picnic your new neighbors invited you to join that afternoon.  You know there’s nothing you love better than a good night’s sleep, a great book, and getting outside. But this week, you’re not getting any of it. It’s true that we can’t control what happens outside of ourselves. But we can control what happens within ourselves. And conversations about boundaries start within ourselves. Today, Karlee welcomes Dana Lemay, the Head of School for the Boundary Academy. Dana is a real-life boundary pro who courageously left her “looks good on paper” career to find a life that represented more of what really mattered to her. In 2019, she founded the One-Minute Minimalist to help other women declutter the unnecessary and embark upon a more values-driven life experience. In this episode, you’ll learn how to discern whether a decision you’re making is being guided by your head or your heart. You’ll understand why that knowledge holds an important clue in pointing to where boundaries need to be drawn. And most importantly, you’ll learn how to set the emotional boundaries that need setting within your work, your family circles, and your friends.Boundaries matter because it’s within that space where we’re able to nourish ourselves. If you’re ready to learn how how to engage more of your internal resources so that you don't get stuck in a cycle of self-doubt,  worry, or always saying “yes”, then this episode is for you.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:What it feels like to lead with your heart (14:02)The physical sensation of a boundary being crossed (15:36)Our human discomfort of not being in control (19:42)Why rest takes courage (25:10)How to be a one-minute minimalist (30:46)One simple way to declutter your schedule right now (39:19)People Mentioned in this Episode:Nancy LevinConnect with Dana Lemay:dana-lemay.comResources Mentioned in this Episode:RSVP FOR THE FREE BOUNDARY PANEL: September 20th, 7pm ESTEpisode 15: Building the Habit of Courage: How to stop enduring what drains you with Dana LemayEpisode 32: Curing the Knee Jerk “Yes”: Doable Boundaries That Will Set You Free with Nancy LevinSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

You’ve been working with seamless efficiency all day to make sure you’re out the office door no later than 5:15 today. You’re rockin’ it ‘cause you’ve got plans. A hot date. Your kid’s first piano recital. A full-body massage you’ve been looking forward to for weeks. But, just as you’re packing up to leave, your boss walks through the door with an urgent request. It’ll mean canceling your plans. It’s not like you’re surprised...she does it all the time. So, what do you do? You love your job but you’re really tired of making plans only to have your excitement pummeled at the last minute. “Help!!!!!” you think to yourself in desperation. Then, out of nowhere, your hero Boundary Babe swoops in to save the day! Time stops as your boss stands waiting at the door for an answer. “You called?” she says, outfitted in her shimmery lycra with a “B” emblazoned on the lapel of her cape. “I didn’t realize it, but yea...I need to set a boundary here!” you say, exasperated and relieved. Ahhhh, if only it were as simple as calling on a superhero...But, you wanna know a secret? Setting boundaries doesn’t require superpowers. And they’re easier than you might think.In this week’s episode, Karlee introduces a month of boundary breakthroughs that’ll help you rescue yourself from the need to be all things to all people- especially in the workplace. She’ll help you identify where boundaries might be missing in your work relationships, and give you a simple set of questions to ask yourself so that you can aptly identify the kind of boundary that’s being called for. Boundaries are the bridge between you and what it is that you value. If there’s something keeping those things apart, then it’s time to talk about bridging the gap. If you’re ready to shed the resentment, conquer the fatigue, do away with underappreciation, and stop over-committing yourself, then this boundary-setting episode is for you.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Are you an emotional octopus? (1:18)Two questions to ask yourself to frame your boundary before you create it (12:41)Signs of a psychologically safe workplace (15:38) What boundaries don’t do (20:39)A real-world example of setting a workplace boundary (21:02)People Mentioned in this Episode:Dana LeMaySarri GilmanResources Mentioned in this Episode:RSVP FOR THE BOUNDARY PANEL: September 20th, 7pm ESTEpisode 67: Boundaries Go Both Ways: How to Unearth Your Boundary Questions and Be an Ally to the WorldEpisode 66: Boundary Bravery: How Women are Giving Themselves Permission to Set Boundaries with Amy ZiegertEpisode 65: Feel Like Your Life Isn’t Your Own? How Women Are Building Bridges and Setting Boundaries Like a BossEpisode 32: Curing the Knee Jerk “Yes”: Doable Boundaries That Will Set You Free with Nancy LevinEpisode 30: Reclaiming Your Time: The 3 “B-words” That Give Women Back Their Time and EnergySend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.