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In this episode we discuss the why how and what of mummification and then we wrap it up by wrapping me up.

Well it has been two years since we sat down at the table and compared notes on poly. We figured it was high time to look back at where we've come from and take stock. Oh and I got into trouble for not having written my poly manual ... again.

Well ... It's been ten months since last we donned our podcasting pants. In this episode we talk about time and how managing it effectively is not dissimilar to stuffing one dozen lubricated marmots into a novelty-sized cowboy hat. We also talk about the struggles of settling into a new town and the unanticipated challenges of being kinky and poly in a busy and complicated world. But mostly the marmot thing.

Does balance of power have a place in a kinky relationship? In our opinion, yes. We talk about that a bit and decide that my new name is Maverick. 

Compliments! What makes for a good compliment? What should you desperately avoid? Pro podcasting tip: it's a good idea to hit record. 

Other World Kingdom. Yes it does (or at least did) exist and in this episode we chat with Super Toy about his experiences there. We also explore the idea that sometimes it's important to be adventurous and throw caution to the wind. 

In this episode we talk about how you can set up a feminization scene: activities you can do and headspaces you might find yourself in. 

In this episode we speak about "emotional labor" - the expectation that, generally speaking, women are frequently expected to be responsible for the emotional health of the relationship. If you are interested in reading the background article mentioned in the podcast, here it is: http://goo.gl/Fdg1Dw

If you are new to kink, how do you figure things out? How do you learn about what you want? How do you go about meeting people? We get this kind of question all the time, so in this podcast we have a quick chat about what to do and what not to do.

We chat about a typical day in our household: how we live out our power exchange, make poly work and generally get practical yet incredibly important stuff done - like breakfast. 

This episode is about male appearance and what dommes look for. We discuss physique, manner, etiquette, body language and even mansmetics.

Expectations, great or otherwise, form part of any relationship. In this episode we talk about the kinds of expectations you might encounter in a D/s relationships and offer some ideas on how to approach them.

Just a quick update on our big upcoming European vacation! To our British, French, Swiss and Dutch listeners - we'd love to meet you!

In this episode we raid our kink cabinet and tell you all about the weird and wonderful goodies that lurk inside.  

Continuing our trend of long, deep and meaningful conversations, this conversation between AlphaDomme, MissRose, Mistress Hilda and beta_boy is an in-depth look into the guiding principles we have established in making a kinky, polyamorous relationship work.

In episode 4 (three years ago now!) we published an episode called "The Big Talk". We were actually pretty uncomfortable about releasing it at the time, because we felt it revealed a lot of the kink and relationship issues we were struggling with. Then we realized that this is the whole point of hosting a podcast so we went ahead. It remains one of our most popular episodes. In episode 42 we decided it was high time to do a follow up episode which predictably enough we decided to title "The Bigger Talk". In it we take some time to pat ourselves on the back at how far we've come and we compare notes on the ways in which our relationship has shifted between episode 4 and now. I also decided to leave in the bit where we go and check on soup, because if we have learned anything, big moments are often made up of little ones. Also it was REALLY good soup.

Sometimes you just want to cozy up with your kinky friends and loved ones and spend a wholesome hour or two playing a board game. This is especially true when it's cold and wintry outside. In this episode (after I get zapped a few times) we talk about some of our favorite board games and why we love them.

What does it mean to take a risk? As kinksters, many of us engage in activities that carry some element of hazard, both physical and emotional. What is a sensible way to manage these risks? In this episode we have the pleasure of chatting with Regina-, one of our most active supporters and contributors. Thanks Regina for a great conversation!

In this episode we have a chat about polyamory. We start off with a conversation about the highlights so far, along with some of the more tricky challenges we've faced. We then turn to next steps and have an (at times weirdly heated) discussion about a poly personals ad we plan to put out on Fetlife, much of the debate centering on whether it's ok to be greedy. Spoilers alert: It is OK. Greed is good. Glad we settled that.

And we're back with our first episode of 2015! Thanks so much everyone for bearing with us. In this episode, AlphaDomme, Miss Rose and Beta Boy have a relaxed living room chat about entry level kink: what kinds of play you can do if you're starting out and a bit unsure of where to begin.