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It's 2023 and SuperBowl Sunday. So just like in previous years the fellas and I got together to on SuperBowl Weekend to fellowship and hang out. In addition, we recorded another podcast. This one is about being "man enough". The interesting thing here is we as men ask ourselves this question all the time. Are we really man enough to handle life around us, most importantly are we man enough to handle ourselves.Listen in as my guest (JD, Eric, Cory and BJ) and myself (Bazz) just share thoughts on this subject and try to connect as friends.  Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Every ask yourself "Why did I get married?" well I am sure we all have asked ourselves that question in our "marriage journey". It is a valid question and sometimes we need a reminder to understand the importance of a union. Its not about a piece of paper, its about love, respect, committment, friendship, compromise and especially understanding. Nevertheless, listen in on this topic of "What's The Value of Marriage" with my special guest and fellow podcaster "Angel" from Too Real, Too Funny. Check out her Link. I really enjoyed having a woman's perspective on this one. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Bazz (the host) takes some time out to speak to his audience on the past direction of MSO and apologizes for some of the subject matter shared. He also mentions that was NEVER the intent of the podcast and to look forward to more heartfelt topics in 2023.  Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

What does childhood trauma look like in adults? Childhood trauma in adults can impact experiences and relationships with others due to experienced feelings of shame, and guilt. Childhood trauma also results in feeling disconnected, and being unable to relate to others.In this episode we continue the discussion on Childhood Trauma and Today's Impact. I am joined by my guests (E-Dub, JD, Tracy, and Parris). Each one of my guests share a traumatic experience while at the same time we recorded this on Thanksgiving 2022, as we all shared some of the blessings we are thankful for. This podcast is also viewable online at YouTube. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Childhood trauma has been strongly linked to depression, substance use disorder, anxiety, eating disorders, and other mental health disorders that are present in adulthood. We carry these traumas all our lives and they get never addressed.Tune in as we (Ashraf Obaji and myself - Bazz) discuss at a high-level how many of adults today are stil dealing childhood trauma and don't even know it. This has impacted our relationships with our families, our friends and even our loved ones.Also we want to make sure we give a shout out to Ashraf's Personal Health Coach business -  https://www.techcercise.net/Tune In...   Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

I am joined with one of my daughters (Brittany Payne) to discuss some of the challenges and experiences that she has had over the years. She talks about her life, our family and even sleeping in her car and being homeless at somepoint. She also shares how she overcame these adverse items and now she is on the road to success. This is a excellent podcast and its only the beginning. I have many more daughters to  interviews in the future. If you noticed this is only Part one! Threre is no video on this one but it was a great podcast! Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Ask yourself these three questions?1. What is the inherent value that women have that men don’t?2. What makes a man valuable to a woman?3. What makes a woman valuable to a man?Well Join Bazz and Ash on this podcast as they discuss their different views and give some enlightment on what some men think and how it impacts today's relationships. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Believe it or not, there is a cost associated with being in a relationship. Not a financial cost, but a submission cost. What sort of price does it take to be submissive to your mate? We all have one, what's yours?Listen in... Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Sometimes we find ourselves giving so much to everyone else (i.e our family, friends, and loved ones), but we have to ask ourselves the question..."Who's there for me?" Do we really have the kind of relationships with people that we can count on when the going gets rough? Or do we have individuals in our lives that speak a good game, but their back is turned when you need them to assist you?Who is the one making sure I am ok? Think about it!Join MSO as we (Tory, BJ, Melissa and myself - Bazz) discuss it. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Listen in on Part 2 of the Afforable Housing Crisis podcast. On this show we talk about the challenges we face when selling our homes with: Depersonalizing your home - removing photos, cultural items, etc. to make the sale. Why do we have to do that and does that leave an impact to the seller having to change up? Low appraisal for people of color compared to the majority. Owning your home vs Renting? Which one makes sense? And an assortment of additional topics. So listen in as we (Bazz, and my mortgage and real estate professional - Petrita, Robert, Steven, David and Tasha) talk on the above subjects. This is also very educational and can be see on YouTube as well. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Is there a housing crisis? Is the major part of this issue is the supply is rapidly shrinking?  Are real estate agents experiencing the market to be “unhealthy and very challenging”? Home Prices Increases - Since the price of homes have increased – are most homebuyers struggling to obtain financing? Interest Rate increases - What’s considered a good rate? Financing / applications - How challenging can financing be in this market today? Gentrification - Gentrification has the power to displace low-income families or, more often, prevent low-income families from moving into previously affordable neighborhoods. This impacts Minority communities at all levels which lead to negative impacts (poorer moving to poorer neighborhood). Well listen in as I host a group of real estate professionals (Eric, Lisa, Stacey, David and Doug) along with myself - Bazz to go through the above mentioned and then some! This podcast is also on YouTube. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Just recently (May 7th 2022)  we lost YouTube personality "Kevin Samuels".  He was 57 years old. He was unique in his own right, because he was an advocate for the black family and was very blunt on giving lifestyle advice to women.  Now of course some of his subject matter appeared to be controversial to some of his viewers but nevertheless he spoke the truth.  In this podcast we (DBazz, Matt and myself - Bazz) share some of his thoughts around relationships and the impact it made to the social media community.   Basically put - Kevin Samels gave us the hard truth instead of settling for the easy lie. Listen In!This episode is also on YouTube. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

In March 2022 at the 94th annual academy awards, Will Smith got upset with Chris Rock by when he (Chris) made a "GI Jane 2" joke about his (Will) wife Jada. Will Smith was laughing at first until he saw the facial expression of his wife who was not pleased with all about the joke. At that time Will went on stage and assaulted/smacked Chris Rock in front of the entire world. Questions to ask are: Was Will Smith Wrong? Did this leave a blemish on Will Smiths' Career on one of the most important nights of his career? Did he embarrass himself (Will) and his family? What negative backlash does it leave on Chris and Will (i.e. Jokes, Videos, MEMEs, ticktock, etc.)? Did this take away from all the other award winners, especially Will Parker who is the first black man to produce the Academy Awards? Well, at least we know one thing that came out of this...Will Smith could not take a joke but Chris Rock could take a punch.Listen in as we (DBazz, JD, Meach, Bazz, and Iman Saahir) speak on this crazy event.You can also see it on youtube - here. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Superbowl 2022 weekend the fellas and I just doing our normal annual Orlando trip as we have done in the past. It's a great opportunity for us to fellowship, hang out, laugh, smoke cigars, drink and little and just practice "Men Self Care".  Think about the term "Men Self Care" for a second...as a man are you getting that? WE ALL NEED IT! Life is stressful enough with the day-to-day challenges we face. It's always nice to be able to get away from time to time and reconnect with your dear friends in an environment that is conducive to your mental well-being. Well, I won't spoil the podcast anymore notes here - just listen to Eric, JD, Cory, and myself (Bazz) as we tap into the importance of Men Self Care.Another great podcast! Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

What is an Audible?  An audible is when a change is made from the original plan. In life, we should have the ability to adapt or change a plan on the fly if needed. For you football fans out there – when a QB comes to the line of scrimmage to run a play, he looks at the defensive and may or may not call an audible if he needs to change the play. This gives the QB a chance to be successful and either set his team up for another series of downs or a touchdown.Audibles can be called with family, friends, careers, and even relationships. Nevertheless, we do this all the time  with life…but the questions are: When and how often?So listen in with BJ, Big E, John, JD and myself (Bazz) as we talk through some of the audibles we've made in our lifetime and their impacts.  Watch it on YouTube here. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

In this podcast, I am joined with my dear friend Tanisha Harris as we discuss the subject "Iceberg Success".Well simply put...the “Iceberg Theory of Success” helps us to realize that every famous or extraordinary successful person had to invest a lot of effort and work until this person achieved his/her goals.We only see the top layer or the final result. But it takes much more than just showing up or using your words in order to be successful. In order to be successful, it takes hard work, sacrifice, good habits, failure, persistence, being goal-oriented, focus, and risk. And even if this formula doesn’t pan out as perfectly planned, it is your job to get up and keep trying. The original quote that sums it up by Jeffrey Fry is “Success is like an iceberg. Nobody sees the work that comprises it.”   Another great discussion -  I even learned a few things. Also, you can watch it on YouTube.Bazz Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Let’s Talk about Relationships. This has a significant impact on American culture. Relationships drive a billion-dollar retail industry (holidays, birthdays – and the big one Valentine’s Day). But are relationships a necessity or a Luxury? Well, listen as JD, VirgoBlu, Big E, and myself (Bazz) discuss the differences between each two.We talk about the necessities in a relationship such as: Intimacy Romance Friendship – The MOST important Transparency Being Fully Present  We also discuss luxuries which include: Time Money Resources Rest / Peace of Mind Lastly, we cover "the fine print" of relationships...something we never look for when we get involved with someone.Check it out! This podcast is also on YouTube. Click here to view! Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Listen in as Joe Dilla (JD) and myself (Bazz) - speak on the subject of "Marry Before You Carry"The data doesn't lie...Over the last few decades, marriage has been a declining institution among all Americans and this decline is even more evident in the Black community. In 2019 only 30% of African Americans were married compared to 48% of all Americans. Half or 50% of African Americans have never been married compared to 34% of all Americans.https://blackdemographics.com/households/marriage-in-black-america/ Currently, 74% of black women are having babies out of wedlock. https://singlemotherguide.com/single-mother-statistics/ In 2020, there were about 4.25 million Black families in the United States with a single mother. This is an increase from 1990 levels when there were about 3.4 million Black families with a single mother.https://www.statista.com/statistics/252847/number-of-children-living-with-a-single-mother-or-single-father/WE REALLY NEED TO FIGURE THIS OUT!Bazz Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

Shortly after my mom passed on Oct 30, 2019, I lost my dad almost exactly 8 months later on July 29, 2020.  He is missed and loved by many! My father was an honorable man of principle and he created a legacy for our family by changing our last name from Wallace to Shabazz. He was a husband, father, brother, son, cousin, uncle, and friend. He also was a minister with the Nation of Islam and a proud army veteran.  I invite you to listen in on this podcast as we capture some of the memorable times growing up with him and some of the life lessons we still carry today. Lastly, we recorded this podcast on this birthday (September 23, 2021). He would have been 85 years old at this time. So in closing We love and miss you dad - please listen from heaven as your sons (Dawud, Nasir, and myself) give you honor with this podcast.Al Salamu Alaykum Brother John 59X. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com

The Real Truth Behind Your SMV (Sexual Market Place Value). When you go to an auto dealer to purchase a car – what are some of the features you look for when researching?  Most people look for the Year, make, model, mileage, performance, comfort, features, maintenance frequency, etc. You have the sales price, then you have the bluebook value.Well...we do the same thing when it comes to people. We all have an SMV, but most of us don't understand what that really is. So I employ you to listen in on this podcast with Mika and Bazz and learn something. Maybe your value isn't what you think it is.SMV Questions for the listeners: How do women view attraction to a man? Youth/Status/Resources/Stability  How do men view attraction on a woman? Looks/Youth/Womb Now that's real! Lastly, we reference an SMV chart on this podcast which is located here. Men Speaking Out...Talking to reveal, not conceal! menspeakingout.com