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This podcast has 4 topics: No Contact when you share children; Revealing yourself when dating and/or a new relationship; Making Healthy Choices; and Get Back Where You Belong Messages.  Enjoy!

When we want to analyze our relationship "health," we need not look further than our partner.  Water seeks its own level and we are attracted to those we can dance with.

Status report and those who lie about DV etc.

This episode covers the Laundrie/Petito relationship timeline and the letter he wrote before his death. 

Status of the podcast and talking about kids continuing relationships with step parents and integration in grief. 

In this episode we discuss the situations created by commitmentphobic people, the frustration of those involved with them and how to deal with the distressing aftermath of recovering from a relationship with a commitmentphobe.

The last episode of Season 3 - thoughts about "Toxic Positivity" and healing through BALANCE.

This episode is answering a few emails that are too long for Lightening Road questions and too short for Mail We Get Mail. YouTube version is here: https://youtu.be/WOLgl8cTtH0  and the ending contains the long version of the theme song - listener requested. ENJOY!

Adult children of dysfunctional parents continued.  YouTube version here: https://youtu.be/aXnVlbArsz8

This episode is a Meanie-requested topic: if you have nothing but bad memories of an adult caregiver, why do we find ourselves attracted to the same type that hurt us? It's a bit of a complex answer but one that is worth figuring out and resolving, once and for all. The YouTube link is: https://youtu.be/eEyYEr6AQZE (please go there, like and subscribe, but listen to the episode on the most convenient app to you). 

This is the response to some of the comments from the Boundaries series.  Good people are not doormats and thinking you're "good and loving" when you're merely foolish is not a winnin strategy and you will never get healthy like that. 

This episode explains the "narcissism continuum" from the DSM definition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Pathological Narcissism, through healthy self-esteem. There is a discussion about subtypes, mostly covert and overt but I mention others, misconceptions about female narcissists, a bit of a deep dive into the differences between male and female narcissists and reasons why studies on female narcissists are scant, and on part C I discuss the narcissistic relationships of Chris Watts and Chris Coleman which led each to murder his wife and children.

This episode explains the "narcissism continuum" from the DSM definition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Pathological Narcissism, through healthy self-esteem. There is a discussion about subtypes, mostly covert and overt but I mention others, misconceptions about female narcissists, a bit of a deep dive into the differences between male and female narcissists and reasons why studies on female narcissists are scant, and on part C I discuss the narcissistic relationships of Chris Watts and Chris Coleman which led each to murder his wife and children.

This episode explains the "narcissism continuum" from the DSM definition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Pathological Narcissism, through healthy self-esteem. A discussion about subtypes, mostly covert and overt, misconceptions about female narcissists, a bit of the differences between male and female narcissists and reasons why studies on female narcissists are scant, part C I discuss the narcissistic Watts and Coleman affairs and murders.

A round robin update/answering your questions episode with a short commentary on the #GabbyPetito case and #DomesticViolence at the end. 

In this episode we are talking about intimacy and what it entails and how you should be measuring your relationships as to whether or not they are "intimate." 

When is it okay to withhold information from a potential mate?  How much do you need to share? What is the difference between secrets that are okay, secrets that are not okay and lies of omission? 

Here is the Almost Labor Day podcast!  Speaking of Labor and taking a break from the work: Sometimes we need complex, multi-level answers to complicated issues.  But other times, the simplest answer is the best.  We all know the slogan Keep It Simple, S....  but we don't need to call ourselves names...Just keep it simple! The YouTube version is at https://youtu.be/3i7_C1wI51o  

One of the reasons why some of us hold on is because we fear that when we let go for good, our ex will become the person we wanted him or her to be. It doesn't matter and we need to let that go. Holding on for something that may not happen and may not work even if it does, isn't a solid plan. 

Following up with some points left out of the recent Boundaries and Jealousy podcasts.