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How have we gone so long without a dedicated episode on positive reinforcement in D/s? We don’t know either, but here we are! This week, we talk about it within our own relationship, how... The post Positive Reinforcement appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week we’re perverting yet another vanilla concept — this time, business leadership styles and how they relate back to power exchange relationships. Some have direct correlations to obvious D/s dynamics, others are more... The post Leadership Styles and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Instead of throwing in a Q&A episode when we run out of topics, we’re actually planning them this year — one every few months! The best way to ask questions is to follow us... The post BDSM Q&A | March 2021 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s episode is a bit of a rant based on things we’ve seen in the online kink community. Every time the issues come up, we (I) think, “Please have a sense of self-preservation!”... The post Self-Preservation appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A random phrase led to a Google search which led to this week’s topic — what are the different relationship attachment styles and what do they have to do with power exchange? Let’s talk... The post Relationship Attachment Styles and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We said it in a past episode and it stuck with us, so let’s talk about it: consider thinking of your kink life as a practice, similar to the way people think of yoga... The post Thinking of Kink as a “Practice” appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Pardon the rambly episode this week. The idea of “know thyself” and what that can look like, how people express their identities, and why it’s important to power exchange is a massive topic. We... The post Why Knowing Yourself Matters in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

The word “advocacy” in terms of power exchange and BDSM has been on our minds a lot lately, so it’s time to do an episode about it. We used a non-kink list of how... The post Advocating for Yourself in BDSM appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Boring implies “bad” but we don’t think that’s always the case. The reality, though, is that long-term relationships, kinky or otherwise, can find themselves in a rut or routine after a while. So let’s... The post Boring Ruts and Routines in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve talked about love languages before, and we’ve talked about making mistakes and needing to apologize. So imagine our delight when we discovered there’s a thing called an apology language (based on the 5... The post Figuring Out Our Apology Language appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve said it many times but never really focused on it — the fantasy of D/s, kink, and BDSM can’t match the reality. That’s not a bad thing, unless you convince yourself you’re failing... The post Fantasy vs Reality in D/s appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Most of us have heard the cliched advice, “Never go to bed angry!” Everyone has their own opinion and experience with arguments in relationships, including those late-night disagreements. We try not to go to... The post Going to Bed Angry appeared first on Loving BDSM.

You’ve heard us call BDSM, power exchange, and the kink life a “journey.” And yes, it’s become cliche, but that doesn’t mean there’s not some truth to it. This week, we’re talking about why... The post Why It’s a Journey appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A conversation with a kinky friend of ours prompted this week’s topic. That person stayed in a crumbling relationship because they thought they were being “too picky.” We disagreed with that person completely. But... The post Being “Picky” About Your Partners appeared first on Loving BDSM.

It started as an offhand idea John Brownstone threw out right before Christmas, and then we ran with it. It’s been years since we did any BDSM checklists, so we recorded ourselves doing one... The post Re-Doing a BDSM Checklist appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Okay, so Q&A episodes might be our way of getting out of thinking about a topic, but it’s the last episode of 2020, and we thought it would be fun, and we needed something... The post Another BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

It’s no secret around here that we work from home and we work together. We talk about it a LOT and use it as examples in a lot of conversations about our power exchange.... The post Navigating Our Power Exchange as Business Partners appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Have you ever looked back on a break-up or a big argument with your partner, and thought, “I knew something was wrong.”? Yeah, that’s hindsight for you. But what can do to avoid only... The post What We Can Learn from Hindsight appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We do this every year, and every year it’s a whirlwind. This week, we’re sharing our favorites from all the toys we used in 2020. Why? Because we love masturbation, sex, orgasms, and sexual... The post Our Favorite Sex Toys of 2020 | Kinking Up the Holidays appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Back in episode 13, we shared how we handle money within our power exchange relationship. Over the years it’s changed a LOT. So we thought we’d revisit the topic to share those changes. In... The post How We Handle Money in Our D/s Relationship: An Update appeared first on Loving BDSM.