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Welcome to episode 241 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Is He Right for Me and How to Know What You Need With Marti In today’s show, my caller is unsure of how to ask for what she wants and needs in her relationship without being bitchy or naggy. She’s also got these other questions swirling through her head, “Is he right for me?” “How can I ask for what I want without trying to change him?” and “What’s happening long term in this relationship?” All of these questions can feel overwhelming and cloud the issue at hand which, getting what she needs. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 3:14 - A list of episodes (linked below) to start with if you are new to the podcast 7:51 - Marti asks for direction with dating  10:59 - Finding a balance between settling or being too picky 15:05 - How to ask for what you want 36:45 - A walk-through of the Emptying the Vessel technique to help you make big decisions   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Recommended podcasts if you are new and don’t know where to start:   6 Part series on how I found love and met my husband Episodes 81, 82, 83, 84, 85, 86 4 Part series on Why You’re attracting Unavailable Men Episodes 68, 69, 70, 71 Top 3 Podcast Downloads -  Episode 94 - Get Out of the People Pleaser/Narcissistic Relationship Trap Episode 111 - Three Kinds of Relationships You’re Confusing with Love Episode 122 - Dealing with Rejection, the “Pullback” and Texting with Hillary Episode with Link to cheat sheet -  How to Know What You Need in a Relationship Pt. 1  If you want to hear the breakdown on why I coached Marti the way I did and the steps I had her take, make sure you listen to the original airing of this episode here. Join me for the new on demand workshop, Attract Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul. This is how to do the deep work and create a thriving relationship in your life without changing who you are.  Sign up here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy, to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy, sign up here Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 240 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Set a Boundary (and Really Mean It!) I really love this episode with my client, Laura, because she’s in a very specific situationship with her best friend, but we tie it back to some deeper, core issues. Setting a boundary or asking for what you want or need is never the problem. I know it can feel scary to do it especially if you’ve done it before and it’s blown up in your face. But remember, if someone can’t handle your boundary, emotion, or opinion, the problem is who you attracted into your life, not you. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!   5:27 - Laura wants to know what to do about her best friend who is not respecting her boundaries 14:25 - Laura’s version of success is different from her family’s, causing friction 18:48 - My advice to Laura on how to set a boundary with her brother 24:22 - Why setting a boundary with her best friend may be hard 27:20 - How connecting to her inner child every day has increased Laura’s confidence 31:30 - Is setting the boundary the problem? Or is it the person who was unable to accept the boundary the problem? 35:45 - Why setting boundaries is hard   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: If you are interested in 1×1 coaching immersion with a group element designed to help you up level ALL the relationships in your life, sign up for the Love Incubator waitlist here. To learn more about my mini course, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy, to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy, sign up here Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 239 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Get Started With Inner Child Work (and Why You Must Do This to Find Love) Inner Child work is the core of the work I do with my clients.  If you want to find love, doing this work is non-negotiable. In fact, I’m very clear with all my potential clients that they need to be on board with doing this. Because talking about profiles, texting, what you’re wearing, or how you’re meeting people isn’t going to help you find love. Find a date? Sure. But if you have patterns and blocks that are holding you back emotionally, it doesn’t matter how awesome your profile is or how many dates you go on. Nothing will change. Since I get so many questions about this, I created an episode where I break all this inner child work down. So if you’re not sure what I mean by inner child work, or you’re not sure how it applies to you, or how to get started, you’ll love this episode. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!   3:03 - What inner child work is and why it’s the core of the work I do with my clients 9:25 - An example of childhood trauma that could be affecting your adult life 17:40 - How I approach inner child work with my clients   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Join me for the new on demand workshop, Attract Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul. This is how to do the deep work and create a thriving relationship in your life without changing who you are.  Sign up here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy, to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy, sign up here Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 238 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Feel Worthy of the Relationship You Want with Maya The worthiness wound is the core wound of all core wounds.  I think all of our core wounds, one way or another, go back to worthiness. My caller this week, Maya, is definitely not alone in asking how to feel worthy.  I could tell her over and over again that she’s worthy, but in order to fundamentally change how she feels about herself, she has to do the deep healing work, which is exactly what I coach her to do in today’s episode on the Love Life Connection. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 4:07 - Maya wants to know how to feel worthy in a relationship 11:24 - We dig in to Maya’s childhood 16:07 - It doesn’t matter if you remember everything from your childhood to do inner child work 23:04 - When we don’t want to deal with messy emotions, we typically don’t want to deal with messy things physically 27:37 - How to integrate curiosity and play to your life every day to help relieve the pressure of perfectionism 33:28 - Recap of why the worthiness wound is the core wound of all wounds 36:53 - Tips and actions steps to take if you feel blocked in doing the inner work After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: To learn more about my mini course, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy, to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy, sign up here Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 237 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to know the difference between your intuition and fear with Katy. You know by now that dating by your intuition is the name of the game here… but what if your intuition and fear kinda feel like… the same thing? The good news is they’re not. But it CAN be tricky to know if your gut is telling you to stay away. Or if fear is running the show, and ultimately holding you back. In my coaching conversation with Katy today, we dive into some important questions and techniques to use that’ll help her know the difference in no time. Once you apply these to your own life, you’ll have the clarity you need too. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 2:35 - Fear is not BAD! 3:56 - Katie asks how she should know the difference between intuition and fear  11:01 - I walk Katie through emptying the vessel to help figure out the answer to her question 16:00 - The difference between a real fear and an imagined fear 23:27 - Key takeaways from my call with Katy   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: To learn more about my mini course, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy, to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy, sign up here Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 236 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Get Over Your Anxiety of Dating Again Whether you’ve been in previous long term relationships, if you’ve haven’t been dating for a bit, and you’re ready to date again but have a paralyzing fear about it, you’ll love this episode. And I want you to take note of the coaching techniques I used with Natalie, because you’ll be able to do them yourself and hopefully get around your anxiety of dating again. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 8:24 - Natalie introduces herself and presents her question about having anxiety of dating again 14:30 - How to foster your relationship with your anxiety 16:10 - Natalie talks about the specific fears she has around dating 22:22 - I give Natalie a tool to use as her compass when she enters the dating world 30:17 - Natalie’s action steps 33:00 - The recap from my conversation with Natalie 45:11 - What to do if you’re feeling stuck in your dating life After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Check out Ash Cash Exantus on Instagram  Join me for the new on demand workshop, Attract Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul. This is how to do the deep work and create a thriving relationship in your life without changing who you are.  Sign up here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy, to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy, sign up here Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here!

Welcome to episode 235 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Know What a Healthy Relationship Looks Like If you’ve never been in a healthy relationship, it can be really easy to buy into the story that you don’t know what a healthy relationship looks like. You don’t know what to do, how to be, or what to say. For instance, for my caller, this created so much fear that a part of her just wanted to stay single. As a result, she didn’t have to deal with the constant fear and self-doubt that she’s screwing everything up. As I coach Joanne, you’ll see that her question isn’t just about how to be in a healthy relationship.  More importantly, the question goes much deeper than that. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 6:40 - Joanne explains her dilemma of not knowing what a healthy relationship looks like 9:02 - Joanne describes what her core issues were 15:30 - The big secret everyone knows, but no one is talking about 22:00 - How Joanne can learn to trust in her new relationship 26:14 - My advice to Joanne to learn to forgive herself 32:36 - The big takeaways from my coaching session with Joanne   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: To learn more about my mini course, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy, to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy, sign up here Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 233 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Do You Have To Wait On A Man To Have Children? The society we live in tells us that our ability to have a family and kids is based on being able to find a man to procreate. And the truth is, that’s not the only way.  My guest, Dana, found herself at the age of 39 in a dead end relationship, with a strong desire to be a mom. So, she decided not to wait on a man to have children and went the donor route. We talk about the logistics of going the donor baby route, plus the emotions that come with it. And at the end, Dana shares how she met her now partner on the day she conceived her second baby… at a fertility clinic! I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 3:03 - A little background on Dana 6:58 - Dana introduces herself 8:57 - The story of how Dana came to the decision that she could have a baby on her own 14:32 - The first step Dana took in the journey to get pregnant 20:29 - What the process of looking for a donor looks like 26:56 - How much it costs to go through the insemination process 31:50 - What Dana’s conception and pregnancy looked like  35:50 - Dana describes what single motherhood was like 44:11 - How Dana met her current partner 50:49 - Dana’s advice for women considering becoming a single mother Dana’s Bio:  Dana Freedman is a critical care nurse who spends several nights a week in a helicopter flying over the greater San Francisco Bay Area saving lives. By day, she keeps busy as a choice-mama to a 5-year-old boy, an infant girl, and a back talking Siberian Husky. In 2017, in the aftermath of the presidential election, multiple pregnancy losses and a generalized feeling of despair, she discovered the work of Dr. Peter and Briana Borten, and their Dragontree Illuminator Program. There she embarked on training as a holistic guide and life coach with a foundation in ancient Chinese and Ayurvedic practices. She now caters her own coaching practice toward empowering women, mothers, and women interested in pursuing choice motherhood. In all of her spare time she is writing a memoir. The Kind of Woman who Would is a story of love and relationship, death and dying, and what to do if you should find yourself single at 39 with a desperate longing for motherhood. With any luck, and a few stolen moments, it should be finished in 2021. After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: If you would like to connect with Dana, visit her website at https://danafreedman.com/ Join me for the new on demand workshop, Attract Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul. This is how to do the deep work and create a thriving relationship in your life without changing who you are.  Sign up here. Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 232 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Feel Confident in Your Body as You Date AND Get Older In today’s episode, I’m talking with Beth who is worried about being rejected for her body.  She’s feeling self-conscious since she’s divorced, aged, fought breast cancer, including multiple surgeries leaving her body with scars.  No matter how old you are, if you struggle with your own body image or are worried about being rejected for the way you look, you’ll love this episode.  We’ll talk about exercises you can do to feel confident in your body. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 2:45 - The societal pressure on women to look a certain way 7:27 - Background on my caller, Beth, who is having a had time feeling confident in her body as she’s aged, divorced and fought  breast cancer 11:20 - How Beth’s relationship with her body transformed after her fight with breast cancer 13:44 - The first piece in putting yourself in the right mindset of NOT rejecting your body 15:13 - The second piece to learning how to feel confident in your body 23:21 - I walk Beth through exercises to appreciate the parts of her body that bring her stress 37:29 - How I have personally worked through my own body image issues  42:03 - The one thing I want you to take away from this episode After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Follow Danae Mercer on Instagram Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website. Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 231 of the Love Live Connection podcast, The Relationships You’re Confusing with Love I’ve worked with enough women to know that sometimes when someone is describing a current or past relationship, I know when they are describing it through rose colored glasses. Obviously things happen, but I’m very skeptical when I hear stories around being blindsided. Yes, that might have been your experience, but to the outside eye, there were probably a lot more signs. Knowing what love is and what it isn’t will help you to protect yourself from being in a relationship you're confusing with love and from being blindsided in the future. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 3:12 - Why I describe love and happiness as  states of being 4:52 - Why I’m skeptical about hearing stories about being blindsided by a breakup 6:38 - Why the scenario of filling a void can be confused with love 12:08 - The second type of relationship that can be confused with love is when two people’s issues dovetail each other. 19:39 - The third way you can get confused with love, idealizing your partner or the relationship After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Episodes mentioned in this show: Episode 94 - Get Out of the People Pleaser/Narcissistic Relationship Trap  Episode 104 - The Four Dating Energies Keeping you Out of Love - The Pleaser! Join me for the new on demand workshop, Attract Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul. This is how to do the deep work and create a thriving relationship in your life without changing who you are.  Sign up here. Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 230 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Get Past a Big Breakup With Amber. Amber joins me today with a question about why dating was so hard after her 13-year marriage came to an end.  Getting over a big breakup is not as straight forward as you may think.  As is common in my coaching sessions, I help Amber to see that moving on from the relationship isn’t just about getting over the person.  It’s also about looking at the reasons the relationship came into your life, understanding the dynamics of it, the break-up, and what that relationship gave her that she wasn’t able to give herself. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 1:00 - A personal update 12:00 - Amber presents her struggle getting over her big break up 15:15 - Amber describes her relationship with her recent relationship 17:56 - Where Amber’s self-confidence is rooted 20:44 - My recommendation to Amber to take a break from dating 25:10 - I address Amber’s fear of being too old and time is running out  26:55 - I encourage Amber to move from edutaining to doing the work and healing 35:18 - A recap of my conversation with Amber 39:40 - What Amber and I talked about after we stopped recording about finding a therapist 42:20 - Why telling yourself time is running out is not helpful 43:44 - Action steps to help you get over a big breakup    After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website. Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 229 of the Love Live Connection podcast, The Rest of 2020 Astrology:  Your Love Life, Coronavirus, and the US Election with Veronica Perretti. I’m super excited to welcome back to the show, my friend, Veronica Perretti.  Veronica is here to talk about the remainder of 2020 Astrology.  Specifically, how it might affect your love life, Coronavirus, and the US Election and the direction the world is going in general.  I think you’re really going to enjoy this one.   I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!   5:27 - Venus is now out of retrograde, changing the game in our dating life 12:28 - Mars is in Aries for the rest of the year helping us find our motivation 18:30 - Saturn was in Capricorn and moved into Aquarius sparking humanitarian conversations 23:34 - The back and forth of Mars squaring Pluto three times before the end of the year is a war energy 30:55 - Jupiter comes into Aquarius and meets up with Saturn at the end of the year helping us focus on the future 41:58 - How the current astrology parallels the US Election 44:30 - Pluto is approaching its return to the very spot it was when our nation was founded - over 200 years later, making this election so important 50:41 - Joe Biden is a  Scorpio and what that tells us about him 1:00:26 - Veronica talks about why she loves Real Housewives After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Links to previous episodes with Veronica Perretti: EP198: 2020 Astrology:  Politics, Doing the Work, and Transformation EP213: Venus Retrograde and the Astrology of the Pandemic Check out Veronica Perretti’s  website to book a reading and connect with her  on Instagram Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 228 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Set Boundaries, manage anxiety, and not sabotage a finally healthy relationship This episode starts off with a common fear I hear from many women in the community: I finally met someone great, how do I not mess it up?  I discuss this very issue today with my caller, Abby. But like usual on the show, there’s a hindrance to her feeling more secure in the relationship. In this case with Abby, it’s rooted in her relationship with her mom.  It’s not that she needs to heal her relationship with her mom, but she needs to set boundaries because it’s bringing out her core wounds.  This is the equivalent of picking off scabs when you’re trying to heal a physical wound. Setting boundaries will give Abby the space she needs to have an even better relationship with her mom.  It will also help Abby do the inner child work she needs to do to feel less anxious in her romantic relationship. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 1:19 - An example of something I have been experiencing lately where I need to set a boundary 5:09 - An introduction to my caller today who’s in a healthy relationship, and is scared she’s sabotaging it 6:16 - Abby presents her fear 9:35 - Abby describes her childhood with her mother 16:30 - My advice to Abby on how to heal her core wound by setting some boundaries 21:05 - The one place Abby wants to set a boundary with her mother 26:18 - A tool Abby uses to help ease her anxiety  27:23 - My suggestion to help Abby curb her anxiety 33:10 - A recap of my call with Abby   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 227 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Know If Your Expectations Are Too High I’m really excited about today’s topic.  This question comes up a lot with my new clients who ask me, “Veronica, are my expectations too high?  If they are, just tell me.”  They think by lowering their expectations, that will get them into a relationship.  I think a lot of this comes from the patriarchy in place in our society. It’s a really good example of how the political landscape is personal and shows up in our relationships and in the bedroom. So, I’m going to go through five ways that your expectations may be too high and five ways your expectations are definitely NOT too high. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 6:56 - The first way your expectations might be too high - You believe they should know what you want 9:30 - Reason #2 your expectations may be too high - You aren’t okay with any degree of arguments or fights 12:07 - The third reason your expectations may be too high - Your partner feels like nothing they do can make you happy or they feel they’re on eggshells 14:30 - The fourth reason your expectations might be too high - You possibly have too many dealbreakers 19:42 - The fifth way your expectations may be too high - You believe in fairytale love/unconditional love 24:12 - The first example of when your expectations are not too high - Consistent communication/spending time together 26:13 - The next way your expectations are not too high - Your partner doesn’t take any responsibility for growing the relationship or working through issues, gaslights you and puts it all on you 28:29 - The third way your expectations are not too high - The idea that “Love is supposed to be hard”  31:04 - The fourth example of when your expectations are not too high - You don’t feel excited by the relationship 34:04 - The last way your expectations are not too high - It’s wrong or mean or not nice to have boundaries or say no   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Previous Episodes mentioned in this podcast: Dating as a Feminist and Healing From Sexual Trauma Understand the Difference Between Being Triggered and Treated Poorly with Aila Standing Up for Yourself Without Being a D*** with Amy Smith Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 226 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Why You Can’t Emotionally Connect With Anyone With Pam I’m talking with Pam on the podcast today who has a question about why she can’t connect with anyone in the dating world and was wondering if she needs to put herself out there more.  As we began to dig into why she felt she couldn’t connect with anyone, it became clear that she has some core wounds around being a people pleaser as well as a generational pattern in her family around gender roles that she needs to break.  Once we identified these core wounds, I walk her through the best way to approach the healing process. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 6:31 - Pam asks why she doesn’t need to date more to meet the right person 9:16 - Why dating is not a numbers game 11:06 - Pam talks about why she has problems opening up during a date 16:58 - Pam describes the dynamic of her home growing up 18:55 - Pam expresses sadness around needing to reparent herself in spite of a beautiful childhood 23:19 - I explain what Pam’s parents missed that caused her core wound 27:50 - I explain how Pam can start to heal her core wound 30:42 - We talk about practicing discernment when being emotionally vulnerable 34:04 - A recap of  my call with Pam After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Check out the previous episode I did, “How to Let go of Fear That the Pickings are Slim and a New Look at the “Numbers Game” Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to the July Bonus Episode of the Love Live Connection podcast, Meditation for Less Anxiety and Better Sleep For the bonus episode this month, I am offering a Yoga Nidra meditation. Yoga Nidra translates to yogic sleep.  It is a very relaxed state of consciousness.  It has been used across the United States, as well as in the US Military as a way of supporting soldiers and veterans suffering from anxiety and PTSD.  I thought given all of the anxiety and fear revolving around the pandemic right now, this meditation could be really helpful. Enjoy and be well. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 2:20 - What Yoga Nidra is and how it’s used. 5:15 - Start of Meditation After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: If you would like a downloadable version of this meditation, you can find it here. To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 225 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Dating as a Feminist and Healing from Sexual Trauma In today’s episode, I’m joined by my new friend Kimberly Rose Pendleton.   In my conversation with Kim, we talk about how viewing your experience in dating and relationships as a feminist reveals patriarchal norms still around us.  We also discuss how to heal, especially sexual trauma, though pleasure. Kim has a Ph.D. in women’s studies AND, she coaches women around sexual trauma and empowerment. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 7:40 - Kim introduces herself 9:05 - How Kim’s Ph.D. intersects with the coaching she does 12:30 - Examples of patriarchal structures that exist and how one might experience them based on who they are 16:40 - How patriarchal norms show up in active and online dating  27:09 - What encompasses sexual trauma in Kim’s work 32:54 - How pleasure is the key part of the medicine to heal sexual trauma 37:05 - How the brain will cut off the memory or the feeling when there is trauma to the body 40:25 - Steps Kim walks her clients through who are ready to be more comfortable with sex After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Check out Kim’s website here.  To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 224 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Rediscover Who You Really Are With Rachel You know when you’re on a date, and you really want the other person to like you, but you can’t help but feel like that awkward teenage girl whose boobs were growing faster than the other girls and you just got a big zit on your nose?  On the Love Life Connection this week, my caller Rachel is wondering why on earth she’s pushing away potential partners, even the seemingly nice ones.  This actually is quite common among my clients and while there are quite a few reasons this can happen, in Rachel’s case, she still feels like that awkward teen with acne.  Over the years, Rachel has completely forgotten who she is, and has found herself pleasing, conforming, and going through the motions.  Per usual, I coach Rachel through some inner child work to heal this, but it’s with a bit of a twist.  You’ll see what I mean when you listen.  I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!   6:36 - Rachel presents her question 8:40 - What Rachel’s real question is 10:52 - Rachel describes her childhood 14:22 - I do some inner child work with Rachel 19:29 - I help Rachel re-discover who she really is 25:14 - Rachel’s take-aways from our conversation 30:36 - A re-cap of my discussion with Rachel 34:08 - Your actions steps from today’s call After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 223 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Four Reasons Why the Law of Attraction Doesn’t Work In the personal development world,  the Law of Attraction has become quite popularized, and I see an alarming amount of coaches teach as if it were as real as the Law of Gravity.  But in my opinion, the Law of Attraction is crap.  At best, it’ll hold you back from what you want to achieve.  At worst, it can cause further damage to your healing, and therefore to your goals of shifting your patterns and attracting a healthy partnership. So today, I’m going over four reasons why the Law of Attraction doesn’t work and why I want you to consider letting go of it or at least shifting your relationship with it. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!   6:23 - The definition of The Law of Attraction 7:55 - What I believe about the Law of Attraction 8:44 - The first reason I want you to let go of the Law of Attraction 14:50 - The second reason I want you to reconsider this idea of the Law of Attraction 17:36 -  Reason #3 why I think you should let go of the idea of the Law of Attraction 21:41 - Finally, the last reason I want you to let go of this idea   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   Check out my brand new free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 222 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Dating an Addict I am addressing a topic that is often not talked about enough: addiction.  My caller today is in a relationship with someone who has an addiction and is unsure about how to move forward.  We dig into her inner child wounds and the parallels between her relationship with her mom and her boyfriend.  We also talk about the re-mothering she needs to do so she can heal the heartbreak and avoid falling into the pattern of attracting someone else she can try to heal her mom void with.  I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 2:05 - Confronting the stigma around addiction   5:40 - Tiffani presents her question about her boyfriend’s addiction 7:50 - We dig into Tiffani’s family history of her mother’s addiction problem 13:07 - How Tiffani’s current relationship is like being in a relationship with her mom all over again 18:20 - Why Tiffani is holding on to the relationship 24:58 - My guidance and advice for Tiffani  26:57 - Tiffani talks about what she’s learned from our conversation 29:47 - I wrap up my conversation with Tiffani 35:14 - Two key takeaways from my call with Tiffani After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Check out my brand new free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy, to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here To learn more about quitting something and the sunken cost related to it, check out my episode Quit Happens To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!