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Often, when someone doesn’t know how to handle your loss of your child, they do what they think will help everyone and that is to disappear.  Except, what they don’t understand is that by avoiding you they can be adding to the problem of isolation and loneliness. So, we will discuss what you can do about this to help you bring your family and friends in closer to you in a way that is more comfortable for all involved.    Special Links:  Free guide:  ResponsesToStupidComments.com  Free guide:  IdeasToHonorMyChild.com Get your own copy of the “Letters to my Angel” journal at: LettersToMyAngelJournal.com You can learn more about this episode, be a guest or suggest a topic at https://podcast.taratruax.com.  Be sure to check out our Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/livinglifeafterthelossofachildcommunity You can subscribe and leave a rating/review at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/living-life-after-the-loss-of-a-child/id1483997017

It’s like putting salt on the wound.  You’ve just lost your child and then you have to silently listen to all of the hurtful comments people make to you about it.  Of course, they aren’t trying to be hurtful. They are ignorant of your situation and are trying to be helpful. But they aren’t.  We discuss this dilemma and what you can do about it in this week’s episode. Join me!    Special Links:  Free guide:  ResponsesToStupidComments.com  Free guide:  IdeasToHonorMyChild.com Get your own copy of the “Letters to my Angel” journal at: LettersToMyAngelJournal.com You can learn more about this episode, be a guest or suggest a topic at https://podcast.taratruax.com.  Be sure to check out our Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/livinglifeafterthelossofachildcommunity You can subscribe and leave a rating/review at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/living-life-after-the-loss-of-a-child/id1483997017

Lost Dreams   Most people think that when you lose your child, that’s it.  They are gone, you grieve, and life moves on.     For them it does, but for us we lose more than that person.  The dreams we had for them are gone too and reminders of that can keep popping up time and time again.  Yes, even 20, 30 years later.     In this episode, I want to acknowledge you for this part of the experience and, even in these times of “shelter in home orders” and full lock downs, I have some ideas for you to make this easier. Join me!       Special Links:    Get your free guide at:  IdeasToHonorMyChild.com   Get your own copy of the “Letters to my Angel” journal at: LettersToMyAngelJournal.com   You can learn more about this episode, be a guest or suggest a topic at https://podcast.taratruax.com.    Be sure to check out our Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/livinglifeafterthelossofachildcommunity   You can subscribe and leave a rating/review at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/living-life-after-the-loss-of-a-child/id1483997017

This week I share some ideas for you to help with any depression that might be setting in from being quarantined at home.   I want to be sure you are alone in this coronavirus situation and share some resources with you.   You’ve been through worse, so I know you (we) can get through this too.   Join me!       Special Links:    Get your free guide at:  IdeasToHonorMyChild.com   Get your own copy of the “Letters to my Angel” journal at: LettersToMyAngelJournal.com   You can learn more about this episode, be a guest or suggest a topic at https://podcast.taratruax.com.    Be sure to check out our Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/livinglifeafterthelossofachildcommunity   You can subscribe and leave a rating/review at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/living-life-after-the-loss-of-a-child/id1483997017

With everything that is happening around the world with the Coronavirus it’s crazy how it can hit you with flashbacks from your loss.  It’s called PTSD and can add some extra anxiety to an already crazy situation.   We’ll discuss this and what you can do to make things better for yourself.   Take a listen!       Special Links:    Get your own copy of the “Letters to my Angel” journal at:  https://www.taratruax.com/letters_journal    You can learn more about this episode, be a guest or suggest a topic at https://podcast.taratruax.com.    Be sure to check out our Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/livinglifeafterthelossofachildcommunity   You can subscribe and leave a rating/review at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/living-life-after-the-loss-of-a-child/id1483997017  

I have  treat for you this week.  I had the opportunity to interview one of our listeners:  Cortney Grajeda. In this episode we discuss her miscarriage, what she learned, what surprised her, and thoughts she wanted to share with you. It’s a very heartfelt discussion and I was so honored to talk with her.     WARNING:  GRAPHIC DISCUSSION OF MISCARRIAGE.   Special Links:    If you'd like to reach Cortney, she can be emailed at:  angelmommy03@yahoo.com   Get your own copy of the “Letters to my Angel” journal at:  https://www.taratruax.com/letters_journal    You can learn more about this episode, be a guest or suggest a topic at https://podcast.taratruax.com.    Be sure to check out our Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/livinglifeafterthelossofachildcommunity   You can subscribe and leave a rating/review at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/living-life-after-the-loss-of-a-child/id1483997017

The fallout of losing a child is catastrophic.  I know in my own case I had no idea the fallout that would come as a direct result of losing Joshua.  In this episode I’ll go into more about this, and want to give words to and acknowledge what you might be going through now as well. Special Links:   If you or anyone you know is contemplating suicide, please contact the Suicide Hotline:  +1 800-273-8255   If you, or someone you know, is struggling with addiction you can get help at https://StopAddiction.us     Get your own copy of the “Letters to my Angel” journal at:  https://www.taratruax.com/letters_journal    You can learn more about this episode, be a guest or suggest a topic at https://podcast.taratruax.com.    Be sure to check out our Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/livinglifeafterthelossofachildcommunity    

When a child dies both parents often grieve in very different ways.  It can bring the two closer together or tear them apart.   In this episode, I discuss what happened to my own marriage and lessons learned with the hope that you can avoid the mistakes we made and continue to build a life together.  Special Links:   You can learn more about this episode, be a guest or suggest a topic at https://podcast.taratruax.com.    Get your own copy of the “Letters to my Angel” journal at:  https://www.taratruax.com/letters_journal    Be sure to check out our Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/livinglifeafterthelossofachildcommunity  

If you’ve ever wondered about how you can memorialize or honor your child then this is the episode for you.  I’m going to discuss many ways you can do just based on 22 years of discussions with others and my own experience. Get your free copy of “Strategies to Get Through Special Occasions After the Loss of Your Child” at https://taratruax.com/getting-through    You can learn more about this episode, apply to be a guest or suggest topics at https://podcast.taratruax.com.    Be sure to check out our Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/livinglifeafterthelossofachildcommunity  

Pain and Guilt - often the 2nd state of grief.  It’s hard to get away from and there are different things you can do to cope with these both.   Check out this episode and learn different ways you can go through this stage.   You can learn more about this episode at https://podcast.taratruax.com.    Be sure to check out our Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/livinglifeafterthelossofachildcommunity   You can subscribe and leave a rating/review at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/living-life-after-the-loss-of-a-child/id1483997017   If you would like to be a guest on the podcast or have topic suggestions please go to https://podcast.taratruax.com

If you’ve lost a child you know this… there are triggers everywhere.  Sometimes it’s easy to start feeling like you are losing it because it seems so never ending.   In this episode, we discuss different triggers and also what you can do when triggered to help you through this.   If you have ways you cope with your triggers I’d love to hear from you and then I’ll share it with others (anonymously if you want) in our facebook group.   You can learn more about this episode at https://podcast.taratruax.com.    Be sure to check out our Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/livinglifeafterthelossofachildcommunity   You can subscribe and leave a rating/review at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/living-life-after-the-loss-of-a-child/id1483997017   If you would like to be a guest on the podcast or have topic suggestions please go to https://podcast.taratruax.com   To get coaching to help with your grief and rebuilding your life, go to https://taratruax.com/services    To get the free guide mentioned:  Strategies to Cope with Special Occasions After the Loss of a Child go to https://taratruax.com/getting-through 

The helicopter crash with Kobe Bryant, his daughter, and 7 other passengers has been a trigger for many people.  Three children were lost in this crash.   No matter how your child died, this event can bring back memories and the associated emotions, from when you learned your child died, and the events immediately after.   In this episode I discuss this in more detail, share my experience and invite you to share with me in our Facebook group.   Please join us! You can learn more about this episode at https://podcast.taratruax.com.    Be sure to check out our Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/livinglifeafterthelossofachildcommunity   You can subscribe and leave a rating/review at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/living-life-after-the-loss-of-a-child/id1483997017   If you would like to be a guest on the podcast or have topic suggestions please go to https://podcast.taratruax.com

It’s the worse question… I just hate it.  I never knew what to say when I was asked this, because when people learned that I had lost a child things got weird.   Do you know what I mean? Early in my loss, I would not include Joshua in my count.  Then of course, I felt like I was betraying him; denying him.   Now, I decide based on the situation.  Usually, I count Joshua and continue with the conversation as I would normally.  I don’t make a big deal of the loss and create a safe space for the other person to feel however they feel. It is my belief that this will help the conversation to become more normal.  Just as talking about the passing of your mother or father would be. This will help the people who have experienced this loss to not feel so alone and isolated.  Ignoring that it happens only serves to create shame and it doesn’t teach others HOW to have this discussion.  What do you think?  Let me know at tara@taratruax.com or comment on iTunes here:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/living-life-after-the-loss-of-a-child/id1483997017 You can learn more about this episode at https://podcast.taratruax.com.  You are invited to join our Facebook Community at https://www.facebook.com/groups/livinglifeafterthelossofachildcommunity  If you would like to be a guest on the podcast or have topic suggestions please go to https://podcast.taratruax.com

‘They’ say that Shock and Denial is the first stage of grief.  ‘They’ say that there are 5 stages of grief. ‘They’ say… a lot of things and I don’t believe it to be that cut and dry.  I’d love to know what you think. In this episode we explore the Shock and Denial of discovering the loss of your child and how this is helpful to you.  Additionally we discuss making the choice to move out of this identity of your loss and not getting stuck in the grieving process so that you can move forward to living a happy life. You can learn more about this, and other episodes at https://podcast.taratruax.com.  You can get the free guide mentioned, Strategies to Get Through Special Occasions After the Loss of Your Child, at https://www.taratruax.com/getting-through  If you would like to be a guest on the podcast or have topic suggestions please go to https://podcast.taratruax.com Please leave a rating and/or review at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/living-life-after-the-loss-of-a-child/id1483997017 

It’s the moment that stops time, tears your heart apart and changes everything going forward.  In this episode I’ll share with you when I learned of the death of my son Joshua, why it’s important to recount these details and how doing so will help you in moving forward.   You can learn more about this episode at https://podcast.taratruax.com/3 .    You can get the free guide mentioned, Strategies to Get Through Special Occasions After the Loss of Your Child, at https://www.taratruax.com/getting-through   If you would like to be a guest on the podcast or have topic suggestions please go to https://podcast.taratruax.com

Loss of a child is so much more than a miscarriage or your child dying at 7 years or 27 years.  In this episode, we discuss acknowledge the different types of child loss that can be experienced and things we can do to help this horrible situation. You can learn more about this episode at https://podcast.taratruax.com.  You can get the free guide mentioned, Strategies to Get Through Special Occasions After the Loss of Your Child, at https://www.taratruax.com/getting-through  If you would like to be a guest on the podcast or have topic suggestions please go to https://podcast.taratruax.com

In this first episode of Living Life After the Loss of A Child, I'll explain a little about who I am and why I'm doing a podcast on this particular topic. More importantly, you'll hear about how this podcast will help you in the months/years going forward. Losing a child affects everything in your life, for the rest of your life.  Relationships with everyone from your partner to you friends and family changes dramatically.  Trying to have, or raising, other children becomes much more complicated. This is a lonely place to be because so many have no idea what you are going through - and this is a good thing.   This podcast is here to help you no longer feel alone.