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Eric and I talk about Self-Empathy and how that shows up and what we can do to support ourselves during times that are hard. If any of you Living Connected listeners have any self-empathy strategies that have worked for you and or examples in your real life that it was hard to pull from your resources in self-empathy or empathy, we would love to know so we can share it with everyone in our Living Connected community. We would love to hear your voice in a voice memo or we can read your email. Of course this is a request if you feel safe for us to share those special parts of you. Being able to be present and show up for others is hard sometimes. Learning the tools, or skills or strategies to find a balance in being able to rejuvenate our cup, or our hearts, or our capacity can support self-care and or self-empathy. There are so many mindfulness practices that can cultivate our awareness around self-empathy.  When you listen, there are moments where I have an internal dialog with my self in moments that are stressful, hard, triggering, and or anxiety driven. I explain some of the things that I say to myself so that my body isn’t so activated. It is about these small moments of struggle that we can shift our thinking and rewire our brain to have more compassion, kindness, warmth and empathy towards our body, mind and souls. It is a build up of those small moments of awareness that make that shift. Listen to your body  if this is hard to do, definitely find some mindfulness practices like guided mediations, somatic dialogue, or label the sensations that your body feels when certain things happen, get up and move. Our body has a beautiful way of telling us what is going on. Listen and hone in on those feelings and needs. Our body is communicating with us every day. You could say, “Thank you body for showing up and protecting me when I needed safety. I know that must have been hard”    Reach out to other humans who you know you feel safe with, trust feel warmth and accompaniment with. It is so important to keep these relationships close and know that you can find support when needed.  Recognize Capacity  The moment we can attune to our capacity the moment we can shift the heavy thoughts of shame, regret, inner critic talking to us with “I am doing the best that I can in this moment” “what do I need right now?” “What is my body trying to tell me?” Pause and breath even if you don’t know how to do this. Try and find just a molecule of grace and warmth for yourself in your breath. When we can recognize our capacity we will be better equipped to have energy to explore our life-serving boundaries, and be able to use strategies that fill our cup.     Self-care and Self-Empathy Strategies  Do what you need to do to process, move, exercise, feel peace, journal, sing, dance, listen to music, podcast, live band, read, go for a walk or hike in nature, something that allows you to let feelings move through you. These strategies for self-empathy are ways to meet our needs and support us in order to regulate our nervous system.      Resources: CNVC website NVCAcademy Aya Caspi - 8-day NVC RetreatYvette ErasmusCONTACT INFORMATION:Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcLiving Connected Facebook PageWebsite: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

Thank you listeners for your patience as I am not putting out as many episodes as I would like. I am still doing my best to record, edit and work full time. I am doing my best. I am also having carpal tunnel surgery May 24th, so that might put me behind too eeeek. Feel free to email me any topics you might wanna hear or explore. Maybe there is a person you would like to have on and I can try and organize a way to get them on. Let me know. This episode takes us through a somatic dialog and what that might look like when you are having really big emotions. This could be a way for you to work through some hard experiences you have gone through. I invite you to find a modality that works for you. There are so many practices out there that could support you in this journey. Please feel free to breath with us and see what comes up for you in this exercise.  Adinah Barlow is a life coach, author, and AcroYogi who knows a culture of self-care will replace violence. She was a massage therapist for 14 years and did a lot of business, leadership, self-development, and trauma-informed training.  As a trauma survivor, Adinah spent 15 years healing with many tools that she now uses with her clients including Nonviolent Communication, emotional embodiment, The Work of Byron Katie, and many more. She came to know fully understand that the way we think about and treat ourselves is reflected in all of our relationships.  Adinah has been a Life Coach for 3 years and loves helping people develop an amazing relationship with themselves so that they can have wonderful relationships with everybody else. She believes that as people befriend themselves and free themselves from their own violence and mental prison, our whole culture will shift to be cooperative and sustainable. Resources: Adinah Barlow WebsitePodcast – Project Relationship YouAdinah Barlow FacebookDr. Kathryne Kloos; a fabulous doctor who uses Somatic Dialogue CONTACT INFORMATION:Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcLiving Connected Facebook PageWebsite: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

We have a special guest this week Adinah Barlow and we are going to talk about Trauma and NVC. How NVC might be helpful and how it might not be helpful for a traumatic experience. This is very interesting because I am just now editing this after my major traumatic experience, and I bet this episode would have been way different if I had come in with this example of trauma. I do hope to have Adinah on again to maybe work through my car accident.  My thought is that when we have major traumatic experience NVC isn’t going to be the heal all. I think there are many other modalities that might be more healing. When we have PTSD, I don’t think nonviolent communication is going to help. We can only guess, validate, give empathy and have compassion for someone’s feelings and needs so many times and yet the vivid experience I still have remains. As a reminder that sometimes we need professional help to get us through some really tough trauma. I have a referral for neuro biofeedback, I am starting EMDR and other ways of working through this car accident.  Lets dive in and see how Adinah using NVC when she is working through trauma with her clients.  Resources: Adinah Barlow WebsitePodcast – Project Relationship YouAdinah Barlow FacebookAdinah Barlow is a life coach, author, and AcroYogi who knows a culture of self-care will replace violence. She was a massage therapist for 14 years and did a lot of business, leadership, self-development, and trauma-informed training.  As a trauma survivor, Adinah spent 15 years healing with many tools that she now uses with her clients including Nonviolent Communication, emotional embodiment, The Work of Byron Katie, and many more. She came to know fully understand that the way we think about and treat ourselves is reflected in all of our relationships.  Adinah has been a Life Coach for 3 years and loves helping people develop an amazing relationship with themselves so that they can have wonderful relationships with everybody else. She believes that as people befriend themselves and free themselves from their own violence and mental prison, our whole culture will shift to be cooperative and sustainable.  Other Resources:Shelby LeighDr. Kathryne Kloos Request for support from my listeners:I need to buy a Dynamic XLR Microphone so I can have better sound quality. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each.  I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comCONTACT INFORMATION:Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcLiving Connected Facebook PageWebsite: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

I wrote out this long thing of what strategies that I remembered as I was listening to the episode for the 3rd time and now...2 weeks later or more I just don't know anymore. On Feb 25th, I got into a massive car accident. I hit ice out of nowhere. My car started to fish tail, swerved and before I knew it, my car jack-knifed into on coming traffic and I crash into a truck what seemed like face on. I am safe and banged up with a concussion. I meant to send this episode out on the 1st and that didn't happen. I could have died. Seriously though, angels bubble wrapped me and saved my life because I have no idea how I survived. It was only the middle of my car left. I have a different perspective on life and how grateful I am for the angels that showed up on the scene to help me through this traumatic event. Gifts of fucking life, if you ask me... And I will be forever grateful to my dad and everyone who was there for me. The words THANK YOU are not nearly enough.  I am still thinking about all the things we didn’t even touch on. Such as those who got COVID and have had long lasting affects of the virus and how it has changed the way you do things on a day-to-day basis. There are so many unmet needs to your health now and what you can and can’t do. I have so much love and compassion for all of you. And I wish there was something I could do.   We all have been through so so much during this global pandemic. It is a significant time of our lives to be living. The effects of COVID have truly changed so many people’s lives, physically, emotionally and environmentally. For some it has been traumatizing, feeling miserable, filled with loss and sadness so many unmet needs. For others it may have had the opposite effect where there were some new opportunities and openings for a different career path or deepening relationships and or inner growth with self-care. Eric and I talk about the improvement of the relationship with my dad and how far I have come in my own inner growth since I have started this podcast for people who want to integrate NVC into their life. This was a time to reflect on how COVID has shaped us and what we are today. Are there gifts of COVID? I would love to know your experience and to be able to share it with our listeners.  If any of you would like to share your story or thoughts or maybe answer the questions that Eric ask me. Please don’t hesitate to write me an email we would love to hear from you.   Request for support from my listeners:I need to buy a Dynamic XLR Microphone so I can have better sound quality. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each.  I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comCONTACT INFORMATION:Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcLiving Connected Facebook PageWebsite: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

Eric and I had continued to talk after our recording and got some good stuff to add. Eric really challenged me during the previous episode and it's good to have friends who can challenge your thinking gently. He felt safe to do that and also given the response I had he can and will continue to do so. I truly believe that we grow the most when we are challenged in our thinking. Pushing the uncomfortable parts of us is learning, growth and a deeper knowing about ourselves. I really want to know where I can improve and be held accountable for and it can be a scary place to be. I hope y'all can find a little golden nugget in this short bonus episode. Request for support from my listeners:I need to buy a Dynamic XLR Microphone so I can have better sound quality. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each.  I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comCONTACT INFORMATION:Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcLiving Connected Facebook PageWebsite: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

Thank you Listeners for your patience and understanding when I have some technical difficulties. I acknowledge that the audio isn’t great and the next episode will be better. I appreciate you all for continuing to listen and passing along this Podcast to others. We are going to be talking about passive aggressive behavior and I have some examples from my own life I will be using. Often times people use passive aggressive behavior because they don’t have the skills to express their feelings or needs effectively. Passive aggressive behavior is a pattern of indirectly expressing feelings and or needs instead of openly addressing them. This can look like non-verbal, actions, blaming, and or silent treatment, etc. When I think of the feelings of passive aggressive behavior I think about anger, frustration, hostility, irritated there could be other feelings as well. What comes up for you? Depending on the passive aggressive behavior there could be a variety of unmet needs for a person. When I was on the other end of the behavior, I felt frustrated, shocked, and confused. I had unmet needs for trust, safety, respect, and consideration.   We learn tragic ways to meet needs and passive aggressive behavior is one of these strategies that we use sometimes to avoid conflict or confrontation or we are afraid to speak directly for what we want and need. Lets explore this topic together.  Resources: My Grandmothers Hands Book of JoyRequest for support from my listeners:I need to buy a Dynamic XLR Microphone so I can have better sound quality. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each.  I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comCONTACT INFORMATION:Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcLiving Connected Facebook PageWebsite: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

We get to talk about the Enneagram and I had no idea that there are so many deep levels of understanding of this modality, that I am just barely cutting the surface. Today, specifically we dive deep into the three subtypes of the Enneagram, which are Self-Preservation, Social and Sexual. In each individual Enneatype there are there three subtypes or instinctual variants/stacking. Understanding the Enneagram brings awareness to the lens that we might wear.  We have the special honor and gift to introduce, Dr. Kara Nance. She said, “The Enneagram gives us a map that shows us nine different ways that humans take in their experience of the world.” She is a double board certified in both Internal Medicine and Obesity Medicine. She concentrated in the neurosciences at Princeton University and did her thesis on the genetic basis of alcoholism. Kara loves to hike, bike, interact with her 4 children and is a true student of wellbeing.Resources: Dr. Kara Nance: https://www.wellessencemd.com/provider/kara-j-nance-md-facp Enneagram classes and Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction offered on Thursday evenings on zoom throughout the year. NVC practice group 7-8pm CT on Wednesday. Email for specifics at  Karajnance@gmail.com Websites:  Enneagram Institute: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/ Cathrine Bell Awaken Company – https://awakenedcompany.com/ Enneagrammer - https://www.enneagrammer.com/ DSM criteria - https://www.psychiatry.org/psychiatrists/practice/dsm Enneagram Podcasts:1.    David Grey – Big Hormone - https://www.johnluckovich.com/podcast2.    Beatrice Chestnut – Enneagram 2.0 Books: 1.    Wisdom of the enneagram – By Russ Hudson and Don Riso 2. John Luckovich - The Instinctual Drives and the Enneagram Apps  –      Eat Right Now  –      Craving to Quit!  –      Unwinding Anxiety  CONTACT INFORMATION:Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcLiving Connected Facebook PageWebsite: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

The New Year is like a death and a birth in the sense that we are ending a year and starting a new one. We will never see 2021 again that we know of and that can be something to mourn especially if things have happened in that year or find the things that were a gift in the ending year and honor those too. We can shift or reframe how we see the birth of this New Year and what gifts this year may bring. What intentions can we set for 2022.  Eric and I wanted to shift the idea of New Year’s Resolution to a do-able request of ourselves. We thought about how maybe a resolution had more demand energy than a doable request. We talk about our intentions for the New Year and how we can have doable requests with those intentions. What does our next year in 2022 look like and feel like? Where does this sit in our body when we think about 2022. Let us invite ourselves to not have expectations or demands on the gift or intentions we set. A doable request can be something very small and can change if needed. If it helps ask a trusted friend to be a celebration buddy or a buddy who can hold you accountable in a kind and warm way I would suggest reaching out to someone and seeing if they would be willing. Even if it’s for just a little while like a week or a month. Please write in and email us what your intentions are for the year and we can read them on the podcast. It would be great fun to hear what your intentions are and what needs/feelings you have with those intentions for 2022.  Resources: Podcast: Dr. Alexandra Solomon – Reimagining LOVE Episode #7 (Re) Gathering for the Holidays Books David Richo – Triggers Terry Reel -  https://terryreal.com/ Request for support from my listeners:I need to buy a Dynamic XLR Microphone so I can have better sound quality. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each.  I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude. Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com CONTACT INFORMATION: Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175 Music is brought to you by: https://www

This episode had more static and I have looked it up and it could be a cord issue which is crazy to me that a year and half cord would be causing so much trouble. I sincerely apologize for the poor audio quality. In this episode we talk about the holidays and how it can be hard to figure out family stuff around the holidays. We go into a little about change and growth and what that might look like in our families.Dr. Yvette Erasmus is a psychologist, teacher, and consultant who specializes in the transformation of domination systems, human healing and growth, and supporting people to be the most loving and connected versions of themselves. Her approach synthesizes mind-body medicine, self- development tools for self-healing and authentic relating, somatic experiencing, diversity and inclusiveness, nonviolent communication, and, bringing what has been divided and fragmented into wholeness and harmony to create more life affirming healthy and interdependent living. Dr. Yvette Erasmus Resources: Website: https://www.yvetteerasmus.com/ YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/YvetteErasmusPsyDFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/yvette.erasmus/Instagram: @dryvetteerasmusWednesday Practice Group:1 hour 30 minutes • Free A Q&A Learning Call with YvetteEvery Wednesday 10:00-11:30am CT via ZoomRegister here:https://programs.yvetteerasmus.com/conversations-from-the-heart-online/ Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/yvetteerasmusCore Offerings and Free Programs:https://programs.yvetteerasmus.com/offerings/#core-offerings1. Relationship as a spiritual practice 2. Boundaries course 3. Parenting course 4. Foundational program human 101 Other Resources: Spiral dynamics – Don Beck and Clare Graves https://spiraldynamicsintegral.nl/en/origin/ Request for support from my listeners:I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.  Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com CONTACT INFORMATION: Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175 Music is brought to you by: https://www

Michael Shawe started out in research psychology studying the origins of childhood depression which is a risk factor for depressive episodes in adults. When he was deciding on what path to choose, his advisor at the time who strongly encouraged him to be a researcher, died suddenly. Michael took time to reflect and decided on going on a more clinical path. From there he was invested in understanding people, but also aware of the impact of culture on our psychological development. He thought that might be in journalism, but the  field seemed bleak and he always enjoyed talking to people and getting to know them in the  interview process. Michael decided to take his awareness of the micro world and dedicate himself to guiding people into a deeper awareness of themselves. However, that was a long ways away from what actually occurred. He spent 7 years working with people with serious and persistent mental illness and chemical addiction from varying ages in non profits. At some point, Michael realized his interventions, while unconventional, were highly effective with his clients, but often he ran into obstacles with his superiors who found his methods untraditional.Michael's Resources: mikeshawetherapy.com Instragram: thedaoofmikeMichaels Zocdoc websiteResources: Wire Sculpturehttps://www.thisiscolossal.com/2015/09/milov-wireframe-sculpture/Different Approaches: Gestalt: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-gestalt-psychology-2795808 Internal Family Systems: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/internal-family-systems-therapy  Sensorimotor: https://sensorimotorpsychotherapy.org/ Request for support from my listeners:I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.   Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com CONTACT INFORMATION: Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175 Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

There was some popping in this episode. This mic created some weird static and I am so sorry, I have no idea why it did that. There are parts where its really bad. I think the coming episodes it isn’t so bad or at all there. I am having a hard time finding time to edit when working full time so here we go, bare with me. I am putting episodes out the best I can. Thank you so much for your patience and care. Lelia Schott is the founder of Synergy Parenting, helping parents and children to reclaim inner peace and power. She has researched and practiced parenting for 24 years. She began writing and sharing her work around 9 years ago. Lelia specializes in therapeutic parent coaching and inner child healing. Her home is Cape Town, South Africa. Mother to four sons and two daughters. (Three of her sons are grown.) Lelia loves virtual coaching with people from all over the world. Lelia's Resources:Facebook.com/synergygentleparentingWebsite:www.leliaschott.comEmail: info@leliaschott.comResources: 1. L.R. Knost: http://www.littleheartsbooks.com/about-the-authorillustrator/ 2. Ram Dass: https://www.ramdass.org/walking-each-other-home/ Quote: “We're all just walking each other home.” ~Ram Dass 3. Gabor Maté – Authenticity and Attachment https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l3bynimi8HQ 4. Pink song: Fuckin’ Perfect https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hl0qf1pgjEs 5. Dr. Daniel Siegel “Name it to tame it” & “Mindsight” https://drdansiegel.com/ 6. Maya Angelou — 'I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.' 7. David Richo “When the Past is Present” https://www.amazon.com/When-Past-Present-Emotional-Relationships/dp/159030571X Request for support from my listeners:I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.   Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com CONTACT INFORMATION: Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175 Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

I have finally moved to Bend and I apologized for not keeping up on the podcast. It is so hard to move and edit all at the same time. I am doing my best to keep up on it. I think about how behind I am lol. Hang in there with me. This episode is so powerful and if you are okay with a lot of tears then be prepared for the mess I bring hehe. Rachelle gives me an opportunity to heal by giving me words that my dad and mom could have said to me. We talk about how devastating our culture can be with understanding death and the dying while other societies embrace and have rituals and traditions around the dying and grief.   Rachelle Lamb is a recognized presenter, writer, poet and Nonviolent Communication℠ trainer and coach. She brings an earthy, practical yet innovative wisdom to her work curated over decades of study drawing from cultural anthropology, history, psychology, mythology, poetry, storytelling and deep ecology. Her synthesis of these disciplines provides a rich and fertile scaffolding for transformational dialogue and consistently produces powerful learning experiences for individuals and audiences who cite the learning as profound and life-changing.PROMOTIONS: To schedule private sessions with Rachelle or register for a class, please visit her website at www.RachelleLamb.com.Resources: Henry Wadsworth Longfellow once said: “If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we should find in each man's life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility.” Stephen Jenkinson: Book called: “Die Wise”Website: https://orphanwisdom.com/ Matt Fraser: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mf0w9uPL7WI  Book: Being Mortal Medicine and What Matters in the End  By:   Atul Gawande Request for support from my listeners I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.   Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comCONTACT INFORMATION: Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

I have been traveling in California seeing family and friends. I haven't put out an episode because its been so hard to edit while spending time with those I love. I am doing my best to keep up. Thank you for baring with me. Much love to you all. Our special guest is LaShelle Lowe-Chardé. She founded Wise Heart with a mission to help make a shift in consciousness about how we relate to life and each other. She dreams of a world in which becoming a relationship master is a central value in our global culture - a world in which we value and trust the quality of connection with ourselves and others as the foundation for collaborating to create and maintain a thriving life for all. Wise Heart seeks to join with others who support this shift in consciousness. Over 20 years of training and experience have led to the articulation and creation of a system that integrates Mindfulness, Hakomi, and NVC that I call Mindful Compassionate Dialogue. This system provides a roadmap to becoming a relationship master by defining and operationalizing the essential aspects of creating a confident sense of self as well engaging in the consciousness and skills that facilitate living from compassion, wisdom, mindfulness, and agency. See interactive graphic for MCD here. LaShelle is enormously grateful to the very many teachers and mentors she has had along the way and the enormous work others have done over many decades that have served our understanding of what it means to heal and live a fulfilling life. She currently lives and works in Portland, Oregon, U.S. She is happily supported there by the beauty of nature, her husband, and loving community of friends and colleagues. Request for support from my listeners I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.   Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comCONTACT INFORMATION: Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

OMG, if anyone has a podcast or work with audio, you would know that different mics can sound different depending on how it is set up. The mic can be up right or the top facing you. And silly Kady decided to turn the mic to face her and the sound got all jacked up lol. (face in hands) So if the audio of my voice sounds off and or different, yup that's me messin' with things before recording and not testing it. LOL We get the honor to have Mary Mackenzie on our podcast. We asked Mary several questions about her experience with NVC, how it’s impacted her life moving forward, what can facilitators do when things are in high energy, and what exactly is NVC consciousness.Mary Mackenzie, M.A., is an author, trained mediator, and CNVC Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication. She holds a master’s degree in human relations from Northern Arizona University and is the co-founder of the NVC Academy, ­the only online school for learning Nonviolent Communication.Mary teaches Nonviolent Communication and other spiritually-based programs to individuals, couples, families, organizations, and spiritual communities through a wide variety of workshops and retreats. Her book Peaceful Living: Daily Meditations for Living with Love, Healing and Compassion offers inspiring practical methods for creating peace in our everyday lives.As a pioneer of online NVC training, Mary runs her company in harmony with what she teaches. She and NVC Academy co-founder, Mark Schultz, paved the way to NVC online training in 2006 and have been instrumental in alleviating the financial and geographical barriers to learning NVC skills. One of her passions is facilitating critical dialogues between people, and she has spent more than 20 years learning a wide variety of effective processes she can draw on in a moment’s notice. Known for her clear communication style, she is especially skilled in helping individuals within groups put aside their preferences and find ways to collaborate with each other that are in alignment with their values. Her ability to cut through the confusion in a group has helped many teams quickly move forward in their desired progress. Resources:To reach Mary: mary@nvcacademy.com Or visit: www.marymackenzie.net or www.nvcacademy.com Request for support from my listeners I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.   Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com CONTACT INFORMATION:  Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com Instagram: livingconnectednvc Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

In several episodes I was obsessed (still am) with the book Permission to Feel by Marc Bracket. I still highly recommend reading. I tried to reach out to see if he could join me on my podcast and I was given the gift to talk to Nikki who has worked along side Marc and we enjoyed an amazing connection talking together. I am grateful to introduce Nikki Elbertson, M.Ed., is the director of content and communications at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. In various research and training roles at the Center since 2002, she has contributed to the development, implementation, and evaluation of RULER from early childhood through high school. Nikki has co-authored many of the Center’s research studies and curricula, including scholarly articles, papers, and book chapters. Her favorite emotion management strategy is teaching group fitness classes, which she’s been doing since 2008. Resources: https://www.rulerapproach.org/  Book:  Permission to Feel by Marc Bracket Request for support from my listeners I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too.   Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comCONTACT INFORMATION: Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175 Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

We recorded this 7 days before my mom passed and I was so tired and exhausted. I had forgotten to put in my headphones in. It truly messed up my recording and you will hear my audio with both Kyle and David in the background. Because of this screw up it took me over 12 hrs to edit that is sooo long. I did give myself compassion for this. I wanted to give you heads up incase you heard some things that don’t line up. I know I am behind in keeping up on releasing of episodes. It’s been hard to edit when I am reliving listening to what it was like for me during my moms passing. It’s hard to hear. Thank you for your patience and understanding.  This is a continuation of our time with David Weinstock. We are talking about how important relationship is, when it comes to NVC. We also have a listener who wrote in some questions for David and we were able to get answers to a couple of them. David talks about his practices with NVC. We do bring in some of the mourning and celebration that both have a sense of gratitude. David said, “When we listen with empathy we are listening to life. It’s the space around those moments of connection.”  Parts of relationship is to know how to self-regulate. When we are in relationship with another person there might be part of our history that comes up when we have conflict. Being in relationship with another is to be in relationship with yourself. And that is having awareness for when we may need to self-regulate in high-energy moments. We can learn and grow being in the presence of others. When we feel contracted that is a sign to pay attention to, because we will then need to move into self-empathy if we can and connect to Self. David has been phenomenal to speak to and get to know during this process. I hope it is the same for you. Please don’t hesitate to write us an email or send a voice memo we can share with all of our listeners.  Resources:NVC Global Rising:https://www.community.nvcrising.org/CONTACT INFORMATION: Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175 Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

We had the honor to have Dan on our podcast. Please feel free to send us any questions that you might have for him and we can try and have him on again to answer your questions. I wanted everyone to have a deeper understanding of the autism world that some of us may not know about. Cheers to you Dan!  Daniel M. Jones (The Aspie World) is an international best selling author / video influencer with an award winning YouTube channel called The Aspie World. The Aspie World is the biggest YouTube channel dedicated to autism from an autistic person in the world. The channel is dedicated to Autism awareness and understanding from an autistic person's point of view.  Creating engagement with real people to create real change in a positive and uplifting way. And also helps raise money for charities like The National Autistic Society.  Daniel has a diagnosis of Autism, OCD, ADHD and Dyslexia and uses his influence to help educate people about Autism using his skills of video and social media influence. Daniel has also created the first ever neurodiverse panel talking about ADHD and Autism at VidCon US, which is the largest video convention in the world. Resources: Daniel JonesEmail: theaspieworld@gmail.comWeb: www.TheAspieWorld.com  Dan’s Online Course: https://learnautism.net/ Dan’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/AspieWorld1 Dan’s Instagram: theaspieworld Dan’s Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/aspergers-autism-1-podcast-the-aspie-world/id1441602028 Autism alert cards: https://www.theaspieworld.com/shop/autism-alert-card/ Myhim Bialik’s Breakdown podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mayim-bialiks-breakdown/id1546456269?i=1000507406637 Disney+ Shortfilm called “Loop” Facebook families with kiddos on the spectrum to follow:  Finding Coopers Voice, Cody Speaks, Fathering Autism. CONTACT INFORMATION: Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175 Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

Holly Mandel has inspired so many people in the improv work that she does. She has created programs such as the school of improv called ImprovOlution, she has a podcast and wrote a book called “Good Girls Aren’t Funny”. Her work is based on women and girls on perfectionism, limits of obeying cultural ‘shoulds’ and liberating one’s self for the sake of all women. Holly has her degree in sociology and psychology from UCLA. She was a joy to talk to and I am super excited to share our time we had together with you listeners. There are so many avenues that NVC can be integrated in and we want to explore strategies that can also incorporate NVC. The more strategies that we have in our tool belt the better. Maybe this way of looking at the world works for you.Holly and I talk a lot about the energy that our thoughts produce and what we can manifest just by the energy we put towards certain things. What this energy is like and how energy can effect our every day mood and thoughts. Our mindset and energy can be so powerful and the changes we can see with just a bit of practice. Having this awareness of our energy can really bring in awareness to our feelings and needs in tough moments and calm moments.   Holly’s Resources:  1) https://groundlings.com/people/holly-mandel 2) https://www.hollymandel.com/about 3) https://www.improvolution.org/about-us  Book: Good Girls Aren’t Funny https://www.goodgirlsarentfunny.com/CONTACT INFORMATION: Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175 Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

How has closure helped you? What strategies did you use to find closure in your heart? We would love to know what worked for you, send us a voice memo or an email so we can engage with our listeners.  The healing that comes from the clarity of closure is so healthy and important in order for us to move forward into the next chapter of our life. When we can heal and move through acceptance it allows space in our hearts to be open to the next person in a relationship.  When I have closure I feel a sense of confidence and empowerment because I can safely move on without having heavy feelings about a person, I can be happy for the other person and go on my way. Closure meets needs for freedom, solid clarity and my perspective what once was, has changed. I mourned fully and I am ready to take on the world again.  Resources: Kati Morton is a licensed marriage and family therapist: Kati Morton and Sean:  Podcast – Opinions That Don’t Matter https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zWx8OnRKi0w (I recorded a Speak Pipe and Kati played it on Episode #75 of her podcast @ 36:30mins. On the youtube version it is at 36mins. ) CONTACT INFORMATION: Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175 Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

My Mom passed away, and for those who follow my IG and FaceBook I made a post about it so you are caught up in real time.  I realize that I am several episodes behind so the information that I talk about is definitely several weeks prior. Bare with me as, I have fallen behind from being so overwhelmed with everything. When we think about the Stimulus in NVC, it’s an event or situation or what a person said or did (the observation) that created a body reaction and or a feeling inside of us. The person is not the CAUSE of why our body is reacting the person would be the stimulus. The cause could be the compiled of feelings we had from another situation that happened, the cause could be our ego that is talking to us, or our jackal thoughts or judgments we had in that moment. The cause leads us to unmet needs, which then helps us understand to why we were triggered to begin with. CONTACT INFORMATION: Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.comInstagram: livingconnectednvcFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175 Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/