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Listen as we break girl code and chat about what ladies really want in the bedroom - Re-released for your listening pleasure. Of course, no one size fits all! Aamber has a checklist to complete before sex comes to mind, while Cheram will risk being late for work to get it in. That’s just the beginning! Learn what we expect from men during sex, and why it's important it is for us ladies to get that check-up after a reckless summer...not speaking from experience 👀😅

Awww, we missed you too! During this live show, Cheram and Aamber recap Kiss & Tell, a previously released Ladies Doing Stuff episode about black female sexuality. Learn how the Ladies view their relationship with sex then and now! Be on the look out for a re-lease of Kiss & Tell 👀

Recorded live! In keeping with the Ladies Doing Stuff Podcast tradition, Aamber and Cheram dive deep into their wins and losses for the year. No one is holding back this episode. 2021 sure didn’t! Hold on, you may need a mimosa for this one! 🥂

Did the Ladies just have a fight? The only thing harder than building relationships is keeping them. This episode Charlie & Aamber learn even their connection is not immune to the work required to maintain friendships. We've come a long way since 2016 but who knew there is still work to be done! 🤦🏾‍♀️

Dating in Los Angeles is like having a picnic on the beach. It sounded like a good idea at the time! Next thing you know the wind picks up, your towel folds in, and you have a heavy helping of sand in your guacamole. We're back from summer break to ask you all a serious question: “Should I give up on dating?” Both of us have had our fair share of dating disasters and relationship regrets, but Aamber is about 2.3 seconds away from throwing in the towel altogether. Listen to this episode to find out how we landed here in the first place and see if Charlie’s solution restores Aamber’s hope in the dating department.

"I'm not where I want to be." Is there a millennial that can't relate? If you are that millennial, can I hold a dollar? Jk. No but really - This episode we explore how to cope when great expectations of life in Los Angeles meets harsh reality. Believe it or not, it's not all bad! We've grown. We've changed. Like a lot. 2020-2021 has shown us who we are and where we want to be. Aamber learns what it means to "enjoy the journey" while Charlie learns how to "work through" personal and professional challenges instead of simply "getting past it." Turns out there's a big difference! Listen in.

Watch this episode on YouTube! If you know the Ladies, you know we are constantly in transition. The pandemic, new jobs, new relationships, new homes, it's exciting, and stressful, and...ah I just need a moment. It's a lot. We hit up Derek Lane, fellow podcaster (and big bro) to help us sort through it all. Change can be great! It could also be a train wreck. This episode we're catching up with Derek, talking about the latest changes in our lives and how to navigate them. Watch on Youtube: https://bit.ly/2OO0zA0 Listen to Last Word by Derek Lane: http://apple.co/2NsGAGG

Examples of creepy Craigslist room rental inquiry responses: These are real ⬇️ "U looking sexy want to be my live in girlfriend" "Are you open to a live in girlfriend situation? Free rent as long as you stay. Doesn't have to be only sexual but actually build something nice together or keep it simple. " "I don’t have a room for you, but I do have cash. Maybe we can still help each other out?"  

Hindsight is 20/20 and 2020 is not what we pictured. The politics, the protests - it literally feels like the world is on fire. Come to think of it, California is. But hey, would you believe it if I told you we've come a long way? True, the world is crumbling a bit, but we've found a way to grow through it all. This episode the Ladies flashback and listen to their 2016 episode "Drunk Politics." All while giving 2020 insight to what used to feel like dark times (little did we know! 😂).

Hear us out. 2020 is a good year! You just have to squint past the pandemic and the entire uprooting of life as we know it! *smiles nervously*  In all seriousness, we’re learning to find the lessons in all the hardships that 2020 has thrown our way. Sudden transitions, new jobs, new anxiety, and new kitchen appliances are just the tip of the iceberg for The Ladies. --Shout out to my waffle maker! 🧇  Listen to find out why 2020 has been so good to Aamber, what triggered Charlie’s biggest breakdown to date, and what to expect from The Ladies moving forward.

*ALEXA! What are feelings?* To be fair, this previously unreleased episode was made in early 2019.  Back in the day even when things weren't all COVID-Y, we were feeling so overwhelmed with a lack of emotion that we had to ask ourselves the question, "Can you feel anything?" In retrospect, we were probably depressed. So naturally, this episode consists of 30% nervous laughter. 😅However, we digress. Today, we are a in a completely different headspace but this unlocked episode offers timeless tips when it comes to dealing with (or without) emotion. In "Can't Feel A Thing" Charlie and Aamber question their capacity for connection, explain their love + communication language, and pull from the past for profound revelations.

“Death is only the end if you believe life is about you.” We brought in Death Care expert and author of “Dear Grief, You’re a B*tch,” Shannan Guillory to educate us about death from an emotional and professional point of view. We saved this episode in the vault and now is the perfect time to share it with you. Before social distancing and self-quarantine, LA was rocked by the loss of a legend. Regardless of the challenges 2020 has brought us, we're learning to celebrate life and how to honor the lives of those that are no longer with us. This is one episode you'll have to play to the end. Check out Shannan's book, “Dear Grief, You’re a B*tch” https://www.idodeath.com/book

Don't forget to watch this episode on youtube! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LrJWYw_Z8Ww

Watch this episode on Youtube! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KCeOObBOpLs

Situationships and friends with benefits are kind of the norm here in LA. Everyone is afraid of commitment and no one wants to miss out on the “perfect” partner. Swiping right for nightly thrills seems to be the new normal, but what if we took sex out of the equation? Before you roll your eyes and leave like Viola Davis, just hear us out. Charlie and Aamber dish with good friend and actress Leah Williams (as seen on Awkward Black Girl) about what it’s like being celibate in the lustful city of Los Angeles. Could celibacy really be the answer to finding a fulfilling partnership? Is it possible to just ‘hook up with no strings attached? The Ladies explore how celibacy is gaining popularity in Los Angeles and how to guard your heart when giving (or not giving) up the goods.

We've been told that we're particular, opinionated, and maybe a tad bit controlling. Of course none of this is true but if it were, this is the episode we would make to address it. It doesn't matter if you're at home, in the workplace, or in a relationship. We're all battling for more control over our lives. Some of us (Aamber) more than others (Charlie). The Ladies invite returning guest Juju from The Thousand Errors Podcast to discuss the differences between control issues in men and women, and how we can make our need for control an asset, rather than an obstacle.

You know that thing you've waited your whole life to do but never actually did? Oh, we're doing that thing today. This episode Charlie and Aamber talk one-on-one about those deep desires and wild, wild thoughts that have been buried by the weight of responsibility, full-time employment, and you guessed it...traffic. Sometimes growing up means setting aside your wildest, deepest desires, other times it means working smarter, harder, and intentionally to get them. The Ladies share their plans to live life to the fullest. ---Contrary to popular opinion, no drugs were consumed during the making of this episode 😂

"We cater way too much to other people and we need to learn how to put ourselves first." We're getting a little bit selfish this episode and you know what, that's okay! Black women have it ingrained in their character that we should serve others before taking care of ourselves. Anxiety, depression, and suppressed emotions are just a few of the many side effects of "service over self." With so much awareness of mental health and self-love these days, it's only right that we talk about how we're not here to please the world. We flew from sunny SoCal to Uptown Shots in Harlem, New York to meet up with Dina, host of Not For Everybody Podcast. Dina unapologetically shares her enlightened perspective on being the right amount of selfish, and how recognizing her anxiety and depression led her to start putting herself first. "Ladies Not For Everybody" is here to remind you that the world is going to keep spinning if you decide to do something crazy like take a few days off of work, or ignore all 7 calls from your mother. (She'll understand) Listen now to hear how Aamber, Charlie, and Dina overcame the desire to be everyone's "perfect" person, and what you need to do in order to take the first steps towards being comfortable with selfishness. Trust us, this is everything you need to hear this week. If you like what you hear, don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review. Be sure to listen and subscribe to Not For Everybody Podcast, and follow Dina on Instagram @notforeverybodypodcast. A very special thank you to Uptown Shots for the most beautiful space a podcaster could ask for! Uptown Shots is a minority-owned, full-service urban chic production studio located in the heart of Harlem, NY. Whenever you're in New York, make sure you book Uptown Shots for all of your photography and videography needs. Visit uptownshots.com and follow them on instagram @uptownshots

We’ve been working hard these last few months trying to keep it all together. Sometimes it feels like we’re going at it alone, but that’s just not reality. More Charlie and Aamber life-updates to come later this season, but for now, we’re just searching for answers! Our special guest and wellness expert Miana, reminds us that we can be our own best friend or our own worst enemy during tough times. Charlie is overjoyed when “the universe” becomes a legitimate topic of discussion for more than 60-seconds. Aamber attempts to rewire her programing to believe in the power of positive thinking. Keep your head up and your headphones on. Jokes aside, we all need this one. Learn More About Miana ⬇️ Website: https://squareup.com/store/Mianamelendez Instagram: @mianamelendez Business Instagram: @browngirlswhobruja Wellness Exclusive: “Eat Your Chakras” http://bit.ly/LadiesDoingChakras