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We’re still early in 2023 and if you’re like me, you’re still jazzed about goals, intentions, resolutions, etc.  Julie DeLucca-Collins joins host Carmelita Tiu to talk about the power of tiny habits, and how small habits can build into big results. Listen to hear: How motivation doesn’t work when creating habits, and what does The recipe for creating tiny habits that stick The importance of celebrating even the small wins About Our Guest Julie DeLucca-Collins is the Founder and CEO of Go Confidently Services, the host of the popular Casa DeConfidence Podcast®, and her weekly Radio Show Confident You featured on a global talk radio network.   As a Business and Life Strategist Coach, Julie helps women business owners launch or grow their businesses, get clients, be productive, and achieve their dreams. Julie helps her clients create simple habits to achieve goals and change their lives.  Julie is a sought-after public speaker, author, trainer, and course creator. She is certified as a coach in Cognitive Behavioral Techniques, Holistic Coach, and Tiny Habits. She is also certified as a Social Emotional Learning Facilitator and has completed her 200-hour Yoga Teacher Certification. Julie enjoys helping her clients build mental fitness and improve their mindset to be at peace and improve peak performance. Julie is also the #1 best-selling author of the book Confident You (simple habits to live the life you've imagined).  Julie has been honored with the "25 Most Powerful Minority Women in Business Award." by the Minority Enterprise Executive Council in Washington, DC. Julie and her Podcast co-host/producer husband Dan reside in Vernon, CT, with their fur babies, Yogi Bear, Junior, and Simba. To learn more about Julie and her work, connect with her here: Instagram LinkedIn Facebook Pinterest TikTok References in this Episode: Tiny Habits Academy Tiny Habits - The Small Changes That Change Everything, by B.J. Fogg About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.  Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter. Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Love staying informed and inspired? Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google.  Leave a 5-star review by...

Do you find yourself beating yourself up when you don't reach a goal...even if you have very good reasons for not attaining it? Are you saddled with "shoulds" and little perfectionist gremlin voices that make you feel like a failure whenever a goal isn't met? In this episode, host Carmelita Tiu talks about how to cut through the negative self-talk and guilt by asking a key question -- "Am I living in alignment with my values?" She also covers 4 alternatives to traditional "goals" -- perfect for times in your life when you need flexibility and a SMART goal feels too rigid: setting intentions "holding space" anti-goals no goals at all ***Check out the new website! Visit www.knowberaisethem.com*** Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every week (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google.  Leave a 5-star review by clicking here, tap the white rectangle that says “Listen on Apple Podcasts”, scroll down till you see Ratings & Reviews, then tap 5 stars or  “Write a Review”.  You’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram @knowberaisethem sign up for our email list visit www.knowberaisethem.com Want to support?  Buy me a coffee - help keep me caffeinated through the interviews, promotion, admin and late-night editing (coffee a must)!

(Encore of Episode 05) “I’m Speaking.”  We all remember that magical, kick-ass Kamala Harris moment, right?   We encourage our daughters to be assertive, share their stories, and speak up. But when we teach them that interrupting is impolite and rude, are we inadvertently undermining their ability to rightfully claim airtime -- even if they’re interrupted by someone else?  Will they choose politeness over being heard?  Will they be afraid to assert themselves in a lively discussion, afraid that they’ll offend?  Listen to hear: The different social norms for boys and girls Disparities in how much men talk versus women in executive settings The 10 words every girl needs to learn, according to Soraya Chemaly Sample phrases illustrating how to interrupt What to tell your daughters to make them feel more comfortable with interrupting   Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every week (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google.  Leave a 5-star review by clicking here, tap the white rectangle that says “Listen on Apple Podcasts”, scroll down till you see Ratings & Reviews, then tap 5 stars or  “Write a Review”.  You’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram @knowberaisethem sign up for our monthly newsletter visit www.knowberaisethem.com Want to support?  Buy me a coffee - help keep me caffeinated through the interviews, promotion, admin and editing (til the wee hours of the morning)!

Ever wish you had a magic spell that would guarantee your daughter turns into a brave and confident woman?  An “abracadabra” to ensure she grows up to be bold and powerful, in the best way?   While sadly there’s no such thing, Wendy Snyder, Positive Parenting Teacher, Family Coach and founder of A Fresh Start Family, offers us some guidance in her article, "10 Important Phrases Parents Can Use to Empower Their Daughters.”  The episode dives into how we can rephrase our words - how we can say things better, to better support our daughters. I love you no matter what. You are absolutely beautiful, inside and out. You are strong, and you’ve got this! I’m here to support you. How do you feel? Gosh, I love my  ______ (body part)!  What is your favorite part of your body? Oh yeah? Tell me more. How can you be a light in this situation? You have a strong desire to feel powerful and that is GOOD! How will you be the change you want to see? I am not ok with _____, or I’d like you to ______. To learn more about Wendy and A Fresh Start Family, visit: Website:  www.freshstartfamilyonline.com Instagram: @freshstartwendy   Podcast: The Fresh Start Family Show  Got a strong-willed child? Check out the free guide, "How to Raise Strong Willed Kids With Integrity" and "10 Firm and Kind Phrases to Use When Your Child Isn't Listening." You can also enroll in a free class on power struggles - save your seat by visiting  www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/powerstrugglesclass .  Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Subscribe here - Apple, Spotify, Google. Episodes drop every week. Leave a 5-star review by clicking here; tap the white rectangle that says “Listen on Apple Podcasts” (if you're not in Podcasts already), scroll down till you see Ratings & Reviews, then tap 5 stars or  “Write a Review”.  You’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram @knowberaisethem sign up for our monthly newsletter visit...

Episode 42 is all about fundamental LGBTQ concepts, and ways we can support our kids and others who may be on their own journey, discovering who they are. Elaine Farris joins host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu and shares: What the definitions are for assigned sex, gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation How these terms relate to one another Why acceptance is not the goal The importance of using pronouns How to support your child while being careful not to push them Guest Bio: Elaine is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist based in Ann Arbor, Michigan, whose passion is working with individuals within the LGBTQ+ community, and the neurodivergent community, which often overlap. She works under an intersectional, feminist, and anti-oppressive framework. Email:  elainefarristherapist@gmail.com In this episode – references and additional resources: The Trevor Project Previous Episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them: Emotional Suppression and How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up // with Ezza Mustaffa (Ep. 35) Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Episodes drop every week. Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google.  Leave a 5-star review by clicking here; tap the white rectangle that says “Listen on Apple Podcasts” (if you're not in Podcasts already), scroll down till you see Ratings & Reviews, then tap 5 stars or  “Write a Review”.  You’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram @knowberaisethem sign up for our monthly newsletter visit www.knowberaisethem.com Want to support?  Buy me a coffee - help keep me caffeinated through the interviews, promotion, admin and editing (til the wee hours of the morning)!

In Episode 41 of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Cai Graham chats with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu about connecting with our tweens and teens, and coping.   Some highlights: The importance of being vulnerable in front of their kids Why we shouldn’t beat ourselves up for the challenges we feel when raising tweens & teens 3 questions to ask your tweens & teens every day Healthy ways to cope Guest Bio: Cai Graham is a Parenting & Teen Mentor, Podcaster, International Speaker and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Teen Toolbox™️. She is a mum of two fantastic young adults in their late 20’s - so she has been deep in the parenting trenches. Cai has blended nearly three decades of motherhood with her background as a Master Practitioner in: NLP, Hypnotherapy and Coaching, together with her experience as a ChildLine counsellor to create her TEEN Toolbox™️ Series  which provides parents and teenagers with the tools to successfully navigate this vital (and sometimes rocky) stages of adolescence. To learn more about Cai Graham: Visit www.caigraham.com Follow her on Instagram @caigraham Find her on Facebook - Facebook Page: @thecaigraham / Facebook Group: Parent & Teen Toolbox Her Amazon bestselling book: The Teen Toolbox Check out Cai’s videos: Breathing Techniques: www.caigraham.com/breathing 3 Questions to Ask Your Teen: www.caigraham.com/threequestions Tapping (EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique): www.caigraham.com/tapping  In this episode – references and additional resources: Previous episodes of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them related to this topic that you may find helpful: Self Harm:  What It Is, Why It Happens, and How to Respond // with Cai Graham (Ep. 40) Emotional Suppression and How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up // with Ezza Mustaffa (Ep. 35) Are Your Thoughts Fooling You? Reframing Negative Thoughts and Cognitive Distortions // with Julia Hogan (Ep. 20) Brad Yates  YouTube channel for Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), aka tapping Brad Yates’ book for kids, “The Wizard’s Wish” Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify,...

Self-Harm and kids. What parent isn’t struck with anxiety when they think of their child contemplating self harm?  What leads to self-harm becoming an option? (Warning: this episode discusses self-harm from an educational perspective. There are no personal stories or graphic experiences, but we do discuss what self-harm can look like.  For some, this might be difficult or you may choose not to listen to this around young children.  I encourage everyone to assess their situations, take care of themselves, and if you need additional resources, see the links to NAMI and the Crisis Textline below.) In Ep. 40, Cai Graham unpacks all of this with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu in a frank discussion about the origins of self-harm and how we can respond. Some highlights: What self-harm is & isn’t The roots of tween & teen self-harm The 3 reasons kids say they self-harm The first thing to do when you discover your child is self harming What NOT to do when you find out about self-harm Guest Bio: Cai Graham is a Parenting & Teen Mentor, Podcaster, International Speaker and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Teen Toolbox™️. Cai has blended nearly three decades of motherhood with her background as a Master Practitioner in: NLP, Hypnotherapy and Coaching, together with her experience as a ChildLine counsellor to create her TEEN Toolbox™️ Series  which provides parents and teenagers with the tools to successfully navigate this vital (and sometimes rocky) stages of adolescence. To learn more about Cai Graham: Visit www.caigraham.com Follow her on Instagram @caigraham Find her on Facebook - Facebook Page: @thecaigraham / Facebook Group: Parent & Teen Toolbox Check out her Amazon bestselling book: The Teen Toolbox In this episode – references and additional resources: Nami.org - National Alliance for Mental Illness Learn more: https://www.nami.org/About-Mental-Illness/Common-with-Mental-Illness/Self-harm Crisis Textline:  Text CONNECT to 741741 Learn more:  https://www.crisistextline.org/topics/self-harm/#types-of-self-harm-2 Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (with the occasional break). Subscribe/follow here: Apple, Spotify, Google.  Leave a 5-star review – it's good karma!  Head here, scroll til you see “Ratings & Reviews”, click 5 stars or tap “Write a Review”, and feel the gratitude vibes! Thank you thank you thank you! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on

Ok, who of us hasn’t cringed a little bit, thinking about "having the talk" with your kids?  Why does this awkwardness exist, and can we make it less awkward for our kids, so there’s a healthier dialogue about sex and bodies and relationships?   In Episode 39, Sarah Sproule unpacks all of this with host Carmelita Tiu, sharing what parents can do to create an open atmosphere, build healthy attitudes towards sex and their bodies, and empower their daughters with tools to craft healthy relationships. Some highlights: Where the awkwardness around sex-related topics comes from When and how to start talking about sex Why it’s not just what you say, it’s how you say it A script for have an open conversation with older kids about sex, when you haven’t had one before The importance of living the way healthy feels Guest Bio: When Sarah was 11 she was afraid she was only growing one breast and didn’t know who to turn to for help.  Now as mother of three teens, with two decades experience as a therapist and a masters in sexuality studies, Sarah uses her skills as an occupational therapist and sex educator to ensure every parent and caring adult knows how to nurture deeper connection with their growing kid(s).  Because no child should ever feel alone and unable to reach out for help with their body, their boundaries or their knowledge about sexuality.  … and yes Sarah eventually grew two breasts roughly the same size. To learn more about Sarah Sproule: Visit www.sarahsproule.com Follow her on Instagram @iamsarahsproule Find her here on Facebook Check out Sitting in a Car, her podcast about sexuality relationships and consent for parents of teens & little kids  For a guide on how to talk to little kids about sex and making babies, visit www.sarahsproule.com/bio   Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google.  And leave a 5-star review – this helps other moms find and listen to the show. You’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram @knowberaisethem sign up for our monthly newsletter visit

What woman hasn’t disliked part of her body, or all of her body, at some point in her life? That is a problem. Diet culture, thin ideals, and ever-changing and unattainable beauty standards – these are self-esteem sabotaging issues that women and girls deal with every day. In a continuation of a conversation from Episode 37, Defying Diet Culture & Making Peace With Our Bodies, Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim chats with host Carmelita Tiu about what parents can do to help empower their daughters with healthy body relationships, and immunize them to diet culture and fat phobia. We cover: The ways we might inadvertently reinforce fat phobia Understanding diets as disordered eating, and the scary stats connecting diets to eating disorders What we can say to give them a healthy sense of self, when we ourselves may still be working through our own body issues How to address your daughters feelings of frustration around her body The importance of normalizing all body shapes and ages, and that your body will change throughout your life To learn more about Debbie Saroufim, visit www.bodyrelationship.com , and follow her on Instagram @bodyrelationship_coach.  And check out her Parents Guide, for what NOT to say to your kids if you want them to have a health relationship with their bodies. In this episode – references and additional resources: Understanding Body Positivity and Fat Phobia // with Emily Lauren Dick (Ep. 24) Defying Diet Culture & Making Peace wIth Your Body // with Debbie Saroufim (Ep. 27) Unpacking Gender Equity // with Annie Warshaw (Ep. 11)  Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google.  And leave a 5-star review – you’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram @knowberaisethem sign up for our monthly newsletter visit www.knowberaisethem.com

What woman hasn’t disliked part of her body, or all of her body, at some point in her life? That is a problem. Diet culture, thin ideals, and ever-changing and unattainable beauty standards – these are self-esteem sabotaging issues that women and girls deal with every day. Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim chats with host Carmelita Tiu about how we can navigate diet culture and embrace our bodies, and escape from shame and guilt cycles. We cover: Her journey to becoming a body relationship coach How to redefine our relationships with our bodies What food rules are, and how we can identify and challenge them The need for a broader definition of health  Why fat is not a bad word Guest Info To learn more about Debbie Saroufim, visit www.bodyrelationship.com , and follow her on INstagram @bodyrelationship_coach.  And check out her Parents Guide, for what NOT to say to your kids if you want them to have a health relationship with their bodies. In this episode – references and additional resources: Understanding Body Positivity and Fat Phobia // with Emily Lauren Dick (Ep. 24) Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google.  And leave a 5-star review – you’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram @knowberaisethem sign up for our monthly newsletter visit www.knowberaisethem.com

Alicia Haywood, Executive Director of iSpeakMedia, chats with host Carmelita Tiu and unpacks what media literacy is and explains how we can build media literate kids (it’s easier, in some ways, than you think)!   She shares: Questions to ask A playful way to invite dialogue about media literacy How simply modeling can help ensure your child becomes media literate To learn more about Alicia Haywood and the ISpeakMedia Foundation, visit www.ispeakmedia.org, follow @ispeakmediafoundation on Instagram, and follow @ispeakmedia on Twitter.  You can also find Alicia on LinkedIn here. In this episode – references and additional resources: Previous episodes of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them:  Understanding Body Positivity and Fat Phobia // with Emily Lauren Dick (Ep. 24) Confident and Grounded Daughters in a Social Media World // with Charlsey Childers (Ep. 10) Self-love and Second Guessing Society’s Definitions of Success // with Lacey C. Clark! (Ep. 22) Books and links: Can’t Buy My Love: How Advertising Changes the Way We Think and Feel, by Jean Kilbourne, Ed.D So Sexy So Soon: The New Sexualized Childhood and What Parents Can Do to Protect Their Kids, by Diane E. Levin, Ph.D and Jean Kilbourn, Ed.D Digital Wellness Lab Common Sense Media’s 5 Questions Students Should Ask About Media Note:  Podcast guests make independent suggestions. Some of these are affiliate links; if you use them to make a purchase, Amazon pays me a small commission for the sale - at no extra cost to you. If you use these links I really appreciate the support! Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google.  And leave a 5-star review – you’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram @knowberaisethem sign up for our monthly...

If you’re like me, you believe on some gut level that burying and ignoring your emotions isn’t healthy - and the research continues to back that. A study from the University of Texas found that when we avoid our emotions, we’re actually making them stronger — which can create serious implications for your body and mind, including depression, aggression, low self-esteem, and physical problems like headaches, insomnia, heart disease, intestinal problems.  Another thing to consider, is that opening up can go both ways.  We want to hold space for our sons and daughters, but when we’re feeling off, we make a mistake, or have big feelings, it’s also OK to share these with them in an age-appropriate way.  It’s only by knowing our hardships and obstacles that our kids will understand how resilient, persistent, and courageous we are. _____ Getting your tween or teen to talk to you can be notoriously difficult. We’re all used to one-word answers and hearing “fine” when we ask how they’re doing.   Today's article, "How to Get Kids to Open Up," comes from Ezza Mustaffa, a licensed professional counselor who works with individuals of all ages. Learn about: The importance of a safe emotional environment Reptilian brain?! 5 tips on how to create a safe space Ezza Mustaffa received her Masters of Education in Community Counseling from Loyola University Chicago. She works with individuals of all ages and couples, presenting with a wide range of concerns. Ezza approaches therapy from a relational, integrative, and multicultural framework with skills grounded in mindfulness-based and evidenced-based approaches. Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google.  And leave a 5-star review, I'd greatly appreciate it! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram  sign up for our monthly newsletter visit www.knowberaisethem.com email: knowthembethemraisethem@gmail.com

April is sexual assault awareness month -- a reminder to acknowledge and support survivors, advocate for further awareness, and educate ourselves and our kids. While we know what sexual assault is on some visceral level, I wanted to do a quick episode that spells out what body boundaries, sexual assault, and consent are. It's so hard to know when to talk about these topics - and how to talk about them without instilling fear or anxiety. So I tried to find ways to raise the topics organically, what to say as a baseline of understanding, and other helpful phrases that our daughters need to hear. Listen to hear: The definition of sexual assault and consent How to bring up this topic with your daughters, including using current events and pop culture to help facilitate conversations 7 things to say to your daughters, to foster open communication, and help them feel more empowered and aware about sexual assault going forward Other episodes to check out: RAINN.org 24/7 Free Support Hotline - 800-656-HOPE (4673) Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google. And if you got something out of the podcast, I'd love it if you could leave a 5* review! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram  sign up for our monthly newsletter visit www.knowberaisethem.com

Every failure presents opportunities for learning, and a failed marriage is no different. In Ep. 33, Part 2 of a conversation that began in Ep. 32, Heather McGinley and Laura Koo chat with host Carmelita Tiu about the ups and downs of life post-divorce, and what they’ve learned. To learn more about Heather, Laura, and Thirsty: the Podcast, check out: www.thirstythepodcast.com Instagram:  @thirstythepodcast Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google. New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between).  For more doses of information and inspiration:  follow @knowberaisethem on Instagram   Like the podcast page on Facebook sign up for our monthly newsletter  visit www.knowberaisethem.com

Every failure presents opportunities for learning, and a failed marriage is no different. In Ep. 32, Heather McGinley and Laura Koo chat with host Carmelita Tiu about the ups and downs of life post-divorce, and what they’ve learned. Some key takeaways: It’s helpful for kids to have a sense for the work that parents put into giving them the life that they have.  Tough moments can create opportunities for them to step up and be helpful. Sometimes divorce allows someone to be a better parent.  It may seem counterintuitive, but a toxic relationship can suck up an outsized amount of energy.  When you as a mom are able to come from a happy and healthy place, that positively impacts all of your relationships. Let your kids see your emotions.  It can open the door to talk about big feelings. Normalize that idea that romantic relationships have seasons and phases, just like friendships, and may not last forever.  Help them understand when and how to let go in a healthy way. Teach your daughters what a healthy relationship looks like. Remember that we are not merely the roles we play.  The role of “mom” is just one part of our selves. To learn more about Heather, Laura, and Thirsty: the Podcast, check out: www.thirstythepodcast.com Instagram:  @thirstythepodcast Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google. New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between).  For more doses of information and inspiration:  follow @knowberaisethem on Instagram   Like the podcast page on Facebook sign up for our monthly newsletter  visit www.knowberaisethem.com

How do we define "mindset"?  Why does it matter, and how do we model a positive, growth mindset for our kids? Personal growth & life coach, Mary Beth Henry, breaks it down for us with host Carmelita Tiu.   Mary Beth Henry touches on:  The basics - what growth mindset and fixed mindset are Why modeling a growth mindset is so important The downsides of a negative, fixed mindset How to provide perspective to help offset your kids' negativity Plus, you can hear one of Cat's funny podcast missteps. So many trials and hiccups behind the scenes...she shares one that involved her daughters. For more info and to follow Mary Beth Henry www.mary-beth-henry.com Instagram:  @if.she.can.you.can LinkedIn:  www.linkedin.com/in/mary-beth-henry Find Mary Beth’s podcast, If She Can, You Can on your favorite podcast platform Her newest program is called Figure It Out- 60 Day Bootcamp.  It’s designed to help busy women figure out what lights them up, how to plan their next steps, and how to fully enjoy and live life to the fullest.  Next session starts May 9th 2022. Other references in this episode: What did we get from our parents that we are passing on to our kids? Check out Ep. 30, Generational Patterns, "Turning Red" and Turning it Around // with Dr. Stephanie J. Wong. Ep. 27, Positive Psychology and Rewiring Your Brain For The Better // with Mary Beth Henry Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google. New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between).  And I’d appreciate it so much if you leave a 5-star review! This helps other listeners find our show. For more doses of information and inspiration:  follow @knowberaisethem on Instagram   Like the podcast page on Facebook sign up for our monthly newsletter  visit www.knowberaisethem.com

How did your parents treat you, and how does this impact how you treat your kids?  If you saw the Pixar movie “Turning Red”, you couldn’t help but consider these questions. In this week’s episode, licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Stephanie J. Wong chats with host Carmelita Tiu, and breaks down the concept of generational patterns.   Stephanie shares:  What generational patterns are How we can better identify them What a cultural genogram is – I found this website to be helpful:  https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-guide/genograms How to get deeper self awareness, especially in relation to our kids A perspective-shifting approach that can help us deal with opposition and pushback from our kids The one reminder she wants to share with us all  Stephanie Wong is an Asian American, licensed clinical psychologist, entrepreneur, and founder and host of the award-winning, Color of Success Podcast. She works in private practice with Tech professionals, most of which are ethnic minorities, and at a hospital, serving military veterans. Her training in clinical interviewing has led to fireside chats with diverse podcast guests about advancing their careers and addressing mental health and cultural identity.  Dr. Wong is also a keynote speaker in academic, entertainment, and corporate settings, sharing her expertise in Asian American mental health, diversity training, and the treatment of anxiety, depression, substance use, work-related stress, and relationship and cultural concerns. To learn more about Dr. Stephanie Wong and the award-winning The Color of Success Podcast: www.colorofsuccesspodcast.com  Instagram:  @color_of_success Twitter:  @DrStephJWong  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/colorofsuccess LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/company/color-of-success-podcast Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google. New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between).  Like what you hear? Would LOVE if you left a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. My endless thanks and good karma to you! For more doses of information and inspiration:  follow @knowberaisethem on Instagram   Like the podcast page on Facebook sign up for our monthly newsletter  visit www.knowberaisethem.com

How often do you stop to question the expectations you have for yourself? How do we figure out what's a healthy expectation, and what's not? Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with author and therapist, Julia Marie Hogan-Werner, as she discusses challenging expectations and talks about her new book, “A Work in Progress: Embracing the Life God Gave You.”   Julia shares:  What inspired her to write the book Why we need to challenge expectations How to spot faulty expectations How she’s redefining “work in progress” Follow Julia Hogan, LPC here: www.juliamariehogan.com – you can find her new book here, as well as on Our Sunday Visitor and Amazon. Instagram:  @juliahoganlcpc Sign up for her monthly newsletter here! Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google. New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between).  For more doses of information and inspiration:  follow @knowberaisethem on Instagram   Like the podcast page on Facebook sign up for our monthly newsletter  visit www.knowberaisethem.com

What is positive psychology?  Personal growth & life coach, Mary Beth Henry, breaks it down for us with host Carmelita Tiu.   Mary Beth Henry shares:  What positive psychology is How it differs from toxic positivity Tools to incorporate into our and our kids’ lives The one thought she wants listeners to know! For more info and to follow Mary Beth Henry www.mary-beth-henry.com Instagram:  @if.she.can.you.can LinkedIn:  www.linkedin.com/in/mary-beth-henry Find Mary Beth’s podcast, If She Can, You Can on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcast platform Her newest program is called Figure It Out- 60 Day Bootcamp.  It’s designed to help busy women figure out what lights them up, how to plan their next steps, and how to fully enjoy and live life to the fullest.  Next session starts May 9, 2022. Other references in this episode: Finding your daughter’s strengths:  listen to Ep. 7 with Wendy Synder - 10 Phrases to Empower Your Daughter, and Ep. 22 with Lacey C. Clark! - Self-love and Second-guessing Society’s Definition of Success VIA Character Strengths Assessment - free online test to help identify your strengths Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google. New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between).  And I’d appreciate it so much if you leave a 5-star review! This helps other listeners find our show. For more doses of information and inspiration:  follow @knowberaisethem on Instagram   Like the podcast page on Facebook sign up for our monthly newsletter  visit www.knowberaisethem.com

Every year, International Women's Day chooses a theme -- a specific call to action in an effort to further gender parity. This year's theme is #breakthebias -- calling attention to the ways that explicit and implicit biases negatively impact women. And while we celebrate International Women's Day on March 8, we're challenged to use the rest of the year to make progress on ending gender bias. While we know what bias is on some visceral level, I wanted to do a quick episode that spells it all out -- what gender bias is, how it shows up in women's lives, and what we can do about it. In this episode on bias against women and girls, we cover: The definition of gender bias The most common biases that women face The bias that ties into imposter syndrome 4 ways women can move the needle on gender bias in the workplace 7 tips for helping reduce the negative impact of gender bias on our daughters One bonus tip for how to break your biases Other references in this episode: Ep. 26 - Cynthia Changyit Levin - "From Changing Diapers to Changing the World" Ep. 11 - Annie Warshaw of Mission Propelle - Unpacking Gender Equity Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google. And if you got something out of the podcast, I'd love it if you could leave a 5* review! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram  sign up for our monthly newsletter visit www.knowberaisethem.com