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Good morning and welcome again to Kingship Code, Kanat Wano with you here today. But Sharon Finnan-White - Commonwealth Games gold medalist, two-time world champion netballer, Order of Australia recipient. The national coach of Schools Corporation, it's a busy morning talking to Sharon Finnan-White. Join me.[00:00:38] Hey, good morning. How are you, my friend?[00:00:41] Oh, I'm really, really well, Sharon, look. Thank you so much for joining in today. And I understand your well, but I understand I know you're in Townsville, my hometown. So how you finding Townsville?[00:00:55] Yeah, pretty good. Look, I. I grew up in Sydney, so not in my wildest dreams I ever think that I'd end up sort of this far north. But I actually ended up moving to the Gold Coast.[00:01:07] And from there to Cairns and then now here to Townsville. And my husband and my current my husband actually bought me here. So this is where he was working. So when we met, we spent a bit of time apart for the first year and a bit sort of just moving back and forth and seeing each other on weekends. But yeah, eventually moved to Townsville. And now this is where I call home.[00:01:29] Good idea. Yeah. As I said, Townsville is home for me, going to school and everything else in the early days. Sharon. So your sporting raise my profile, if you like. Very impressive. You've won a Commonwealth Games gold medal. Now tell me, where did you win that?[00:01:49] So that was in Auckland in nineteen ninety.[00:01:55] And that was the year that netball was a demonstration sport at the Commonwealth Games. So it's a very first year that we got the opportunity to participate on that stage. We didn't get a chance to stay in the village with all the other athletes being a demonstration team at the time. But we did get a chance to walk in and have a look around and experience the atmosphere, which was pretty awesome. And we only got to play the one game against New Zealand, which we ended up winning. But Tom. Yeah, it feels pretty special to be a part of that first ever couple of games team.[00:02:27] Absolutely. Absolutely. And also, you're a. Excuse me. You're a two time will let you describe your pilot, the two time world championship team.[00:02:39] Yes. Say my first.[00:02:42] So nineteen ninety one was the first year that I played at the World Championships and that was in Sydney. And it was probably the game or the championship that put netball on the map. I think it really created some profile for the sport, for women's sport in particular. But I remember it was at the Sydney Entertainment Center and Bob Hawke was there as well. The prime minister of the time. We had a packed stadium of about 10000 people. And it was Australia versus New Zealand in the final. And, you know, which is always a tight contest between countries. And yes, I ninety one, that was my first world championship. And then I was pretty much missed out on the Australian team between the next world championship, which was in 1999 in Christchurch. And again, we beat New Zealand by a very close margin. So it was nice to be victorious in both those games. But, you know, the period in between for me was was quite challenging because I had to fight my way back in. You know, so being out for seven years was was hard. You know, I had lots of doubts in my ability and where I was heading with the sport. Yeah. So it was but I'm still playing National League at the time, you know, I say Sandpipers and Sydney electricity. And then I moved to Queensland play with Queensland Firebirds. So I still had that motivation and drive to keep playing. And I was selected into the Australian squad of 20. Pretty much every year. But when it came to. Yeah. Being selected for the final ten or twelve, I was missing out. And I think I had to really sit back and evaluate what it was and what was I doing that needed to be corrected for me to get a spot in that team. And I'll probably, you know, look, I won't lie. I think sometimes I lacked motivation and I was very angry about the fact that I wasn't selected.[00:04:49] So I had to turn that around into a positive and I had to really look at the things that I could do for myself to make sure that I was back in that team. And I think one of the other driving factors for me was the fact that I was the only indigenous girl in that squad pretty much for that whole time. And that was my joining forces. I still wanted to be a face. I still wanted to be a face so I could have that profile within our community so I could continue to encourage and motivate and inspire our young people to achieve their dreams. And I knew that if I gave up, then I would be letting them down. So it was a strong motivating factor that I had behind me to keep going and eventually getting back in after seven years, all that hard work paid off. I just never gave up. I just really believe that I still had had something to get back into that team.[00:05:43] That's that's inspiring. And that is a cliche. That's inspiring.[00:05:47] But honestly, Sharon, to to sort of be absent from the the the level of the top level of real your sport. And still my tithing that drives the dream and the passion to then get back to it after seven seventy eight bright years is testament to your your resilience and also to your spirit of character. And you did mention like there's the physical attributes of that orbitals. So the drive to get to be a shining light for for your people. Aboriginal young people, all the people, in fact, to strive your resilience. Talk about how you sort of got through your darkest moments. What did you do?[00:06:36] Well, I'm pretty lucky that I have pretty inspiring parents to draw on.[00:06:41] My mom, you know, she was a member of the Stolen Generation and she's been through a lot in her life. And, you know, she's come out the other end to be a very successful indigenous woman, you know, later in her life. She achieved day a bachelor in indigenous health and studies, and she started a pay hike today as well.[00:07:08] So, you know, Mum, considering what she's been through in her life, you know, being taken away from her family at the age of nine and putting to Kinmont of girls home and then adopted into a non-indigenous family.[00:07:23] And then she was told she had to go to Sydney at the age of 16 and they sort of sorted a job out for her down there. And, you know, so she did a lot of that on her own.[00:07:33] And she's still a very strong, independent grandmother now. So, you know, so I've got that on my side.[00:07:41] And then my dad, who's non-indigenous, you know, he's been my rock my whole life and he has always taught me about work ethic and responsibility. And, you know, just all the things that you get told when you're a teenager that going one way or the other. But then as you grow up, you remember the things that you your parents tell you. And every in the words of wisdom that he's given me and he has always stuck with me. So I think in the back of my mind, I've always had mum and Dad's sort of messages coming through.[00:08:13] You have to say that the seeds were planted at a young age and can help you through. Obviously now when you look when you are like lining up to run on to, say, a selection game to get back to the top. Well, the Australian the national it. What did you say to yourself? What was some of the things that you said yourself leading up to? Getting to the change room and the through the team to. And also just just running onto to the court. What? Some of yourself, too. Can you remember what you've said to yourself? What were your thoughts?[00:08:50] Yeah. I mean, look, as elite athletes, we are always you know, we have sports psychologist that talk to us about those sort of things.[00:08:57] And, you know, you have to find something that works for you. A lot of athletes are superstitious as well.[00:09:03] You know, you have the same routine as you're getting ready. I remember I always had to make sure I really well the night before. Make sure the diet that the the game or the competition that I had a really good meal for breakfast and something that was going to sit well in my in my in my belly. And I guess, you know, if it was a late game, I'd make sure that I'd have a little bit of a nap, you know, just to sort of reenergize. We used to do a lot of mental visualization so we'd actually see yourself doing things really well, you know, rather than approaching a game in a negative way, saying I'm really nervous. I know I'm gonna be playing against this particular player and she's really good. I don't know whether I can, you know, outdo her. But you turn that around and you start thinking about these are the things that I'll practice to training. This is how much hard work that I have put in to this very moment. I know that I can jump high for her and get those rebounds. I know that if she goes out to the right side of the court for every single person to pass. I know I need to get around and push it the other way to make her feel uncomfortable. So all the things that you praksis that China and you actually been mentally rehearsed in your mind before you actually get to the court. And then because you've done that, you actually feel really confident walking onto the court. And I know that one of my greatest strengths was pushing myself in the physical training aspect. So I loved getting in the gym and doing weights. I didn't like long distance runs too much, but sprints were fine. You know, and then getting to a point where you can push yourself beyond your limits. Training. Once you get to the game, everything is really easy. So the hard work really is in the in the lead up, not when you actually get onto the court.[00:10:52] Brilliant. Brilliant. Let us share. Also, you were probably impressive resume. You've also coached the Trinidad Tobago and South Africa at the national team. Tell me about that.[00:11:04] Yeah. Well, I'm not gonna take full credit for being the actual coach, but I did get the opportunity to go to South Africa with my former Australian coach, Joyce Brown.[00:11:14] She invited me over to work with her. I was so honored that, you know, because Joyce is such a big name in Australian s

Hi. Hello. Hey, man here I'm joined with this very special guest star Renita Gerard nee Farrells, a former Hockeyroo, two time gold winning champion. Stick around. I'm going to come to hear more about who's to.[00:00:38] Good morning. Welcome back to Kinship. Card on came in your house, then the narrator facilitator, probably game show host is really nice. Why did you just mess up? I'm very fortunate today. I've to a guest every guest that comes on vacation is a special guest. And regardless if you're a personal trainer that lives in Paddington, I just got into personal training with a young lady who's just come out of a major injury, who's now picked herself up and achieve things in a life. Or if you're a former Olympian, gold medallist, twice gold medallist and a whole range of resume eyes, highlights of my sporting career. But now translating that into a corporate world, which is quite inspiring. I'd like to introduce to you reminder now relate. Say hello to everybody. How are you going today?[00:01:35] I'm very well, thank you. It's lovely to join you. Thank you for your time. Now, Renata, I've got you. You read me the giraffe.[00:01:43] Grab yourself. Yes. I Gérard Gorod and your former and your friend really love your formally withina Farrell. I understand. Yes, sir. Yes, because related. There's a couple of things. We met on a flight on a point where we're not superheroes. We're not capes. We met on a flight. And now what is I just going to ask for that? Because I've just mentioned Renita is a former Olympian twice I would 1996 in Atlanta, gold medallist, also co-captain of the Hockeyroos and also a member of the the 2000 Sydney Olympics, which were the best Olympics apparently sold out, very keen to define Grenada's. Thoughts on that marinade up on that flight. Could you. What was your. How do we make? Because I was, you know, a bit my my producer Zine who through. Hello. That's Kenen. Podcasting is a great sponsor of what I do. We met on a plane. So what what were your first thoughts when you. We started chatting?[00:02:52] Well, it's interesting because I remember it quite vividly.[00:02:55] So you were sitting in the middle seat and I was in the aisle seat and there was a gentleman across. They offer me by the name of Mike Renault's sits on a board with me. And as we got on the plane, he said, oh, that guy's an amazing guy. And he's got a on him. And, you know, I think the main thing I remember is just the energy and the positiveness in our conversation. So actually, you know, normally you get off a flight, you're feeling, oh, gosh, get me home, get me out of here. I was actually feeling quite inspired from our discussion. So it just kind of stuck with me and then we caught up a couple of weeks later. So I think, you know, I really crave positive energy. So that's probably why I've connected with you, in all honesty.[00:03:33] Wow. I work to be honest, I expect I didn't expect that so of were energized sarcasm. You can't say. But I'm blushing. But certainly, I've got to say, it's like.[00:03:45] It's likewise. And part of the work we do in kinship with the full black academy is wise to make you a better version of yourself. And like you assign, you just feed off the energy. Because I'm really keen to talk about a couple of things or three things, really. And one of them is it was like, OK, we're both from Townsville. I wasn't born in Townsville. You were. Tell me about your your your life in Townsville, your memories, your highlights. Townsville. What's what's Townsville to you?[00:04:18] I think Townsville's always home. So I don't live there at the moment. But it is my home whenever anyone asks me where I'm from. I always say Townsville.[00:04:24] And but I live in Brisbane at the moment and I just have amazing memories. I think, you know, growing up, we lived in a rural area on the north side of Townsville. I went to the bowling, our primary school for all my schooling and some of my brothers and sister and my cousins. We all went there and then we all went to Townsville State High School and did all of our schooling there. So I just remember life being busy. It was busy like it is now. But we were actually outside doing lots of active things, lots of space, know not getting stuck in traffic, you know, and being able to just decide we're gonna go home, Jason, and we've got to play one and go for a swim and you just jump in the car and go without too much planning. I just remember simplicity, I guess, of living in Townsville and and everything being accessible and easy.[00:05:13] Yeah, that's yeah. That's bringing back memories. Yeah. Because the Bali you little Bali area. Yes. In Bali, you know, those you went to and you went to the Bali. Vail is a Bali Bible school. Yeah I know Palmer's got a little side but it's all about front. And you went to town. Hi. Yes. Yeah. Loved it. Yeah. Well see I was on the other side of the tracks because I was outside the other side of the tracks like. We were short of kids when the body, while we thought my kids were in the gentle way, were tough, like, you have to be tough.[00:05:42] My brother went to the town hall. I would. I hate you. Because I wasn't tough enough. What do you think? How did they make the grade in debut? So tell me about your guy, your hockey career.[00:05:55] Don't look up to say I didn't even realise in our conversation. We just connected as people like you said, there was an energy here and then you established that sort of rapport, if you like. And then you told me some amazing things. And I've got to say, this isn't my first rodeo. I've also said next to another another Olympian, Cathy Freeman. I sit next to her in the middle of and I'll sit next to you. And I tell you what. Both times it just inspirational. I want to talk a little bit about your. You're getting into hockey now. It was hockey. Always your sport.[00:06:39] Yeah, it was. You know, we played everything at home because we had huge acreage. So, you know, we played cricket, rugby league. Everything goes in play.[00:06:46] Rugby league at that point in time, my brothers did, but my cousins played hockey. And because we had so much space, we almost had like a whole hockey field in the backyard. And every afternoon, you know, we'd all be playing together or because our cousins logical. So, you know, we'd always have 10 or so people out in the yard playing hockey. And I just loved it because it was quiet. It takes a level of skill because you're you've actually got, I guess, your hockey stick. So you've got an apparatus you've got to control. You've got to move people around on the field and you're trying to control the ball. So I really liked the complexity of the sport. So we played a lot. And interestingly, my cousins played in proper hockey in club clubs, but my dad was always thought it was a bit dangerous for girls.[00:07:28] And it wasn't until my sister was about 13 or 14 that she got to play and I was about seven. So I got to play with it much earlier than she didn't. So yeah. And then I just loved it from. From then, you know, training a few days a week, spend all weekend now that and then a pocket hockey fields.[00:07:46] I love to get old and build a park. So I did well all of these Inever park where all sides. Well I played rugby league at Millennium Park. I have my brother here to build them parks. All the boys we say, oh, we should get into the park. Look at the park.[00:08:06] But he was about 10 years I think is about 10 years difference in our age. So what do you should we played it. You played with your your cousins, your brothers and sisters. Yeah, yeah, yeah.[00:08:18] And I remember my brother's because he was older, my older brother. His friends had come to stay and I'd get them all out there playing. So we had so many walking sticks. So, you know, if they ever came to camp over or something like that, I'd go fishing or something we'd always end up with with enough to know hockey in the backyard. And it's quite funny because I now run into them. Now they remember it and I think they remember me enjoying them to play and to get out there and practise.[00:08:44] I love that was something you said earlier and you said the complexities of the game. But they're running, you know, just the tick make the strategy and plus controlling a stick on a ball. Have all that that that that excited you. It resonated with you. You felt good doing that school.[00:09:04] It was really a challenge like it. You know, I could see the challenges in the game. And I always remember talking to a coach who thought I was insane.[00:09:10] But and I guess when you're on a field, you kind of look through the players on the field. But I always felt when I was playing that I was actually above the field looking down, because you know, how you how you can move people and make spaces and, you know, things like that by using different techniques and moving your players around. It was almost like a big game of chess today, but then you also had to perform the skill.[00:09:33] So, yeah, it's kind of just the way I am, the way I related to the game, like other people relate differently. So I played in the midfield, which is kind of where the creative people sort of sit, you know, the strikers at the front who scored the goals. Well, you know, they just want one thing and they just put the ball on where they want it. And they weren't about to whack it at the goal as hard as they can. So, you know, a team, a hockey team is made of a whole heap of different people with different attributes and different profiles. And, you know, mine just sort of sat me right in the middle of the field trying to organise things again. So, yeah, I love the challenge of that. That's that's probably the only thing I really miss is that I hadn't played for 20 years. It's just that challenging going on there and managing so many pieces to get the end result.[00:10:17] Well, I'll go to Cash Converters, get my hockey stick, and we'll go one on one.[00:10:22] Thank you, baby. Baby. Let me win. Let me win.[00:10:26] Look, I'm really fascinated, to be honest, that you've you've ignited something in in the way that you play the guy and use. You you were you sort

Hello. Welcome back. The kinship code. Hey, man, here and today we're going to be talking to a couple of friends of why. Well, with this episode in talking about everyday stuff that impacts on them. Stick around. Could you?[00:00:38] Good morning. Good morning from my Brisbane, I guess, Brisbane, Australia, man. Back with you, a guy and my last episode, we got to speak with Jasmine Cruz on her journey and her life. And she was my very first, very first premier of having a guest online. And I'm very proud to say I've got my second guest for this episode. And we met some years ago. But I'm going to introduce you to Julie Smedley. Julianna, cool J. I said really cool. But you know what?[00:01:11] I welcome you for having me. I'm great. Thank you. I mean, I was with Mountain. You've been hiking in the mountain. Wow. What time did you start?[00:01:21] Seven. Seven. And how long? How long? Couple of how long? Couple of hours. Fantastic. Fantastic. That Jillian already boarded you into the kinship code because all fine. Ever since I met you from actually from the very first minutes of meeting you, I picked up an energy that resonated to my kinship code way of thinking it back in the day when we first met. I didn't actually know what this kinship code was or where it was taking me to the point to today. I've done a bit of reflection and you know, when we've reconnected just recently and I've gone now, this lady is pretty much in line with with, you know, the kinship code is about Todd. That's why it bothered you in tonight to have a chat. And just before you go on, I want to ask you a question, Julian. He's a question for you. So are you happy with that description of just say it? I hope it might sense and dogs, you know?[00:02:24] Yeah, I agree. I think we do connect on a lot of different things.[00:02:28] OK. Well, before I got to the question, what way you what you where what connection, what where do you see a connection between what I do, which is I try to live a kinship kind of. And what what's the connect for you in your life, in your view?[00:02:43] I think using your God given talents to actually empower others is something that means a lot to me. And I feel you do that. I love your enthusiasm. I'm pretty high energy, too. So I appreciate that and others. And. And I just like the way that you've taken what your parents taught you. And you're using that to help other people do what they need. It's empowering people and stopping the negative talk. You know, being positive is a big thing for me.[00:03:16] Say judgement, stop. Give me goosebumps. Julia, you're starting to give me goosebumps because I believe when people actually speak the same language or on the same frequency. I think energy is a lot more. We're doing this through Wi-Fi. This podcast, this zoo, it was palpable. I think the human spiritual energy is new, comes up with 17 times. It was 72. And that's the power. And I think what you've said earlier, thank you for that in terms of how you've picked up. I want to help other people. And it's something I didn't even think of doing. I just the way my parents see it's inherent now, because when we talk about this light up, there's two questions I'm going to ask you. The first one is in terms of a tree, what is your favourite tree and why is that tree your favourite tree?[00:04:20] OK. So trees my nature to me. I love nature because there's something that comes off trees that just changes who you are inside. That's definitely osmosis with the trees. I love the willow.[00:04:40] I just love it. It it looks beautiful. It swishes in the wind. And whenever I look at one, it feels like pastand normally near water.[00:04:51] And so to me, that's just the essence of nature, is if you've got this beautiful tree and it gives you shelter as well. And I've recently learned that even the bark is medicinal. It's it takes away pain. But I think trees take like pine.[00:05:07] But that's stunning. There's a couple of things. They my last guest, Jasmine Curs, she picked the willow tree as well. And she was by a creek river. And yet it's about not giving given to others, yet giving to others the tree, the humble tree. And it gives so much and it seems so much of it here, so much. It's been the trees that this beautiful, like you're saying. I found it in terms of where on from Julian. When we talk about kinship, talking others with us, it's about looking after ourselves to look off the others and also to look after Mother Earth. And I think the tree metaphore is a great way to start conversations around the kinship card and the kinship card. And look, you've said. My parents didn't set out to give me this, but they just said, look, this is how you live and they just live that life. And I'll bet your parents and I can see you with this love to us. Where is this internal us come from? Meuler and Kinship. Cardinal said this early. The judgement of the mother aside is that my kinship code is regardless of what on feeling during the day, regardless if I'm feeling good or excellent, bad, terrible. I'm feeling ugly and I'm just in a bad mood. My code, my personal kinship code is to make sure everybody, whether that man, woman, children, even animals that I do not project that whatever I'm feeling the negativity, I'm sure that there's only positive Tiffanie being passed, that empowerment to others, even though I could have depression as you as well.[00:06:53] The minute you let off your positivity, it actually comes back to you as well. Automatically you feel better as well.[00:07:01] Beautiful. So when you say that, Julianne, what what do you what where are you speaking from, Zipp, from your own experience or is it from research or what what what's got you there?[00:07:15] Well, you've met my dad. My dad is the guy of the castle.[00:07:19] And he sits there and he goes, are the serenity. And he says, I'm the richest bloke alive. You know, it's not about money. It's about it's about gratitude.[00:07:31] And there's always, always, always something to be grateful for. Doesn't matter what's happening in your life.[00:07:38] And I find I'm on personal China. I get up at 5:00 in the morning and some mornings I don't feel like being positive, but the minute and I can be really down when I get there.[00:07:51] And then the minute I stop moving music and encouraging people, my whole world changes everything to stunning.[00:07:59] That's only one word that is coming. I love that. I love that because it's so true. Like a human being and the people that you would get this, Julia. Because when you get with other people, your energy, their energy. If there's lack of energy, you'll just you'll code to help others just comes back and then you find yourself in this real positive spice. People say to me, kind of, how can you be happy all the time? I'm happy all the time. There are times I'm feeling like show, but it's not the decision side that I expand on that plays well.[00:08:37] Sometimes you have to actually just go, okay, I'm going to I'm gonna put my best foot forward. And once you put your best foot forward, it be the natural way that you are comes out.[00:08:51] But you have to sometimes you have to put that foot forward deliberately and make a decision that I'm going to take that step. And with that action, the rest just flies. It just comes with it.[00:09:05] Yeah. How long? So. So in terms of that voice with job-seekers, who was just talking to my previous guest, the previous episode job, who I used to work with, people who were pretty vulnerable, that feeling pretty down but haven't got a job. They got my money. Some of them are close to homelessness, if not homeless. And I sell them because simply find it. You can start straight away to change your life. How soon? What's your take on? How soon can someone start changing their lives? I mean, was it in terms of making the decision?[00:09:41] Well, it starts with thinking and it starts with belief, I think. I don't know about a timeframe on how I'd say a time frame. Everyone's different, but I do believe that if they're given the tools and often that's love. If they're given the tools and someone who believes in them and someone who can maybe tell them which foot to put in front of the other, it can actually.[00:10:10] It just depends when they get when they actually get into what their natural gift is. And it's about finding that. And it's that's empowering. I think is is finding that natural thing that that you put on this earth to do and to share. And I think when people are feeling better about themselves, that more open to what they get.[00:10:32] Fantastic. Absolutely. I was gonna say you have a fantastic voice on this.[00:10:37] Well, thank you.[00:10:41] You have thought that that I know you have you have you had the other yet? Now look nice to work with the Bundarra with with job-seekers. And I see a little tease from people because I used to look like a tree, like the will.[00:10:58] I'd like to nurture it and like your signs about giving people the tools and the tools I used to use in those settings with people that come in and you know. And not only that, in the in the job active and I'll say this publicly in the job, Dave, where people gotta to get the youth allowance or their job allowance from the government. It's a pretty tough and sometimes scary environment where people are stood on the side of inspect. And when I get people, I sit there, they're broken and they even feel worse sitting there on my side of them. Look, where you are at the moment does not define who you are yet. You see that things will get better. And you know what I know? And while I'm in that mode, I turned to them and I said, you know how long it takes you to start changing your life to think like that. I said less than a second. It takes a brain y to go through it. I'm out. I'm gonna do something with my life. I'm going to get up. And sure, one might wake up with the best. Don't want to get up and have a shower and go for a walk. I'm going to start doing stuff, getting out. And then and little girls you're talking about is that I think I'd call it the tools. It's the human spirit, too. It's about how do we nurture? How do you nurtur

Hello, welcome back. The kinship guide. Hey, man, here and today we're going to be talking to a couple of friends of why. Well, with this episode in talking about everyday stuff that impacts on them. Stick around. Could you guys?[00:00:38] Well, a very happy, warm welcome to my very special lady. Actually, my first ever guest in the whole wide world or kinship, quite a very good friend of mine. Jasmine, how are you?[00:00:52] Good. How are you?[00:00:54] Ah, you know, I'm amazed. I'm amazing. And I think my regular listeners will not why I'm advising. And it's because, you know, some of the things that we got through life, but we need to pick ourselves up in terms of our resilience. And saying amazing becomes a tool and that I use to help me get through life. And that's why I've invited you here today. Jansa I'm really keen to talk to you. You inspire me. You're a young lady. You're twenty three. Tell me a bit about yourself, Jess.[00:01:30] Well, I I've been through a few things. My family my my dad's Puerto Rican. My mum is an Italian refugee. We didn't have a lot growing up, so we went through a few different rough patches throughout life. I have been through a couple of domestic violence relationships, both physical and mental experience, a lot of mental health. Myself and I didn't go through a lot of high schools due to bullying and so forth, but family myself on the other side of the tracks. Now I'm looking at really high end job, which pays a lot of money as well, which is great because I've had to pay a lot of debts and sort myself out. And, you know, now I'm looking at things, you know, learning the lessons that I should learn early out, but looking back and realising that I needed to learn them now opposed to, you know, earlier in life.[00:02:21] And there's certain things that happen for a reason later in life. And I think, you know, that's why I am who I am today, is because of all the tough lessons I had to learn earlier.[00:02:31] Wow. That's amazing. Because if you don't mind me saying just Jason's twenty three healton. When I was twenty three, I was still trying to work out with the boys locker room was. Do you even worry about myself looking in questioning things? And I was just in the state of I was just moving along and just trying to fit in and everything else and struggling. And then I you know, jasin I had a conversation earlier in the week. And then she said she's been through a hell of a lot with her life and domestic violence at a young age. A very young age. I've got to say just what I can say at 17. Yeah. Well you you you've sort of come to a point where you've just gone like her. Yep. This is it. And it's interesting because as being so young, I'm just can't wait till you are like another ten years tall, hoping you'll be awesome. Just tell me in terms of your clothing, what has really helped you sort of move from where you are? Because when you're at that spice, you're not feeling vulnerable. You're open to a lot of lot of other negativities and self-hate as well. Self-loathing, self-doubt. How did you navigate through that tunnel and to watch that little, little spark of light to go right that spot?[00:03:59] Be the bigger I found for me personally, it was trying to focus on a particular task at a particular thing. And for me personally, I I find it says, well, well, for me, it was the one thing that I could control in my life. And so I grasped on to that and just took control of that. And I found that once I was able to do, you know, get a hold of those kind of things, I was I was able to convince myself that I could be better and I could do things. And once I started doing that self-love or that self talking and sort of convincing myself that I could do other things. You know, like dieting and losing the weight that I need to do. And once I started doing now, I was able to improve my health drastically. And then once I saw that my health was improving, my financial situation improved, everything else sort of just fell into place because of that self-love and that self growth that I had been able to approve. And it was just that one small thing that I knew that I could control the wall my entire life was chaos. And that was just such a small thing like budgeting.[00:05:05] It was just that one thing that said, look, you're killing me. Here's Thompson, Zion, Zion, Zion, my producer from. That's not kind of podcasting. You do a fantastic job, too, by the way. Find Zion for sponsoring kinship. Koepp Zion. He will listen to all. My gosh, he's got my choice. He's recording boy. Talk about the very thing. I talk about the very thing you talk about. It's about the internalizing of your. Friends and not not looking outside for approval, not looking outside for their hand up because it all starts with them. It definitely does. Jazz wit, can you remember? Just go back to the very beginning in your lowest point with you, your health suffering like, oh, can I all listeners, not jasmines lost 50 kilos, 50 kilos. She was unemployed financial, as you said, she was financially struggling. And now she's getting paid. She's actually she's getting paid more money than I get paid now. But she's good to getting good money. And that's only a short period of time is an adjustment. What was a timeline and when did you when did you hit the point of bouncing off that trampling and saying, enough's enough?[00:06:29] So I actually was about a six month period between when I had hit rock bottom and to now essentially I had to resign from my last job because of significant health reasons. And it was around about the same time that everything else had pretty much just gone down the drain. And then it was during that six month period that I had being on benefits that I had really had a reality check as such and realised, no, this is my time that I can use to grow. I don't have technically any responsibilities other than myself. So I use that to grow myself. And and it worked beautifully. And that's how I am, where I am beautiful.[00:07:12] I love that jazz look within the script and you feel like I just I just love this conversation or where I come from. You know, this yarn we're having because. Yeah, it becomes a point in your life way. You just have to grab you a lot of your control of your life. You're plainly articulating that in this conversation. And go back to what you said earlier. You've mentioned, you know, it was your responsibility and you something you can control. I say this in my podcast. Is that the only thing you control in this world? You'll come in butt naked and then you'll go out in a pine box. But the only thing in between. But like in an entry in the pine box exit is that you only have control over yourself. What are your thoughts? This can be a little bit of your logic. And in terms of having control over something you can control as opposed to not having control over others in other situations.[00:08:20] I think that's something that comes back to. I learnt a lot in clinical services, for example. There's a lot that you can't control. And I think if it came down to it towards the end of my career and employment services, I learned that the one thing I could control, control essentially is assisting job seekers to reach a social outcome over financial outcomes and those kind of things. And I found a greater success rate with those who I work to get to a social, social outcome opposed to, you know, employment or a education outcome, because I had succeeded in their personal life.[00:08:56] And and that was something that got them further in something that was something that also helped me as well. I said, well, if I can do it, I can do it, too. It's broken. And some of those job seekers, as you have seen yourself in employment services, they have hit ball even sometimes below rock bottom. And they need that support from someone just to get a social, you know, whether that be leaving the house one day a week or in a country, the shock upon themselves or even just buying a new set of clothes just to help them feel better. It's just that small thing that they need to have to feel better and improve, improve their life.[00:09:32] You look absolutely just desperate. I met this impressive young lady about three years ago. Jazz was a she was a receptionist at a job employment place and a job active and tough industry. But like jazz is saying, we get to work with vulnerable people. And jazz is you just. Yeah. She's just nailed it. You see people at the lowest but come into your life and. Yeah. And it's interesting. And it's a little bit like my kinship mantra. I've got my own personal mantra of people and listeners know more. You know, kinship code is your code. There's not referees, no umpires, no committee looking in on you. You have a certain code, a kinship code to keep the world ticking, but more importantly, to keep yourself going. My code is it everybody I make, regardless of what how I feel, whether I feel good or excellent.[00:10:35] But. Ugly, really ugly. I don't care. I'm not going to share that energy with you. I want to make sure my conversation with the other person is an uplifting conversation. And even though I'm feeling bad or ugly or whatever, I'm going to be this impressed on myself to be good, a good person to listen to, to talk to, whatever. So, jazz, can I just ask you, what do you think you can see Cody's off your journey and the kinship Cody balls, by the way. It's not. You learn and you grow. So just the pitch in terms of with ways you pinch. What is your kinship code in this time that we are at today?[00:11:17] That's a really tough question, to be honest. And there's a lot of so many different things that I would have in mind.[00:11:26] It's just I don't think there's one particular thing that I could pinpoint, to be honest.[00:11:31] That's like. Yes. Well, one would ask you another question. What's your what's your favourite tree? What what is a tree that only because I want to use a tree as a metaphor with how we as humans can grow. What's your favourite tree and why?[00:11:48] The weeping willow tree. The reason I choose that particular train I've always loved it is because even though the name gives

Hello. Hey, man. Here again, kinship code. Coming to you from downtown Brisbane, Queensland, Australia today, I'm talking about mindsets. The biggest thing to keep you strong, healthy and well, look forward to catching up very soon.[00:00:30] Hello. Hope you're all keeping well and safe in these times of uncertainty, in these times of fear. In these times of. Yeah. It's just it just got real, hasn't it? Life has just got real.[00:00:46] And we're finding ourselves in a well being forced into a different and certainly a changing world. Certainly how luff as we knew it, as we know it, not just for ourselves, but even for al our ancestors, all our people that went before us, except for the people who were probably around in pandemics a hundred years ago. And and certainly from my research, I've found out that we've actually had pandemics every hundred years to the last pandemic was in nineteen eight 1920. The previous pandemic to that was in 1820. And even previous to that was 17 20. So pandemics seem to have this cycle of every hundred years. It's interesting, but I've had a very good reference point. My reference point is Google and I think we all venture on Google. And I found that this comes, like I said, every hundred years. But certainly it sort of changes the way we think. We're growing up in a world and even our kids now. And it's interesting to see our young people now held, they will respond.[00:02:09] In the next 20, 30 years, living with this pandemic.[00:02:17] And it's interesting and you know, and the catch phrase they use, we're all in it together. Well, we all are. You cannot. You can't hide. You can't hide. You can try and hide.[00:02:33] But certainly, I think in terms of the way how the world ticks, especially in 2020, the year 2020. Yeah, unfortunately any pandemics has a global reach and it can set up a whole range of indicators for people. When I say indicators.[00:02:57] It's about how people respond. How do you respond to this threat? Keeping in mind the very basics. Of safety, of health promotion, safety promotion. Of acceptance. Even your own prejudices.[00:03:20] On our notice in the media recently, you know, and I like to call it, they're talking about a witch hunt. And you know where this thing come from. Did it come out of, you know, what part of the world? I'm not even going to mention that because it's not my place. What I'm saying is that what we've been given now, it's interesting, it's a great scenario in terms of what I need to speak to people today about. On this episode, the mindset.[00:03:50] It's about how do you create a mindset? Given the hurdles, given the barriers, given what's been served in front of you. Do you look at why it's here? Do we move through it or B?[00:04:09] Do I look back and say, all right, who caused this mess? I got I've gotta find someone to blame. Someone has to take responsibility. Someone has to take responsibility for me.[00:04:22] Someone has to take responsibility for putting this in the first place. All you can do. Another alternate way of thinking is how do I respond in the best way I can to survive? How can I respond to the best way to survive and see this thing through?[00:04:47] I think I've spoken before about my background, all I have my parents to the deceased now that it's been passed, I've been passed away now for nearly 20 odd years now. My mother and father. They live in this country when they weren't even allowed to to leave from one end of the village. On Thursday Island to the other side of the island, with that written permission, they were subject to so much.[00:05:19] What's the word? Oppression. But they did not hang around to blame. Get angry. Whatever it was. They just applied themselves to face what was in front of them and get through it.[00:05:38] And I am just so blessed. I'm not pie knowledge to my mum and dad forgiving me.[00:05:45] They did. I've been not giving me. I've inherited it. They haven't given it to me. There's a difference between giving an inherit. When you give someone something like. The person doesn't earn it, you give it, you give it away. There it is. You can have it. I've done all the work. You get it. But when you inherit something, you inherit. And I'm speaking about the human capacity. The human capacity of inheriting the virtues, the virtues, the beautiful virtues that can actually contribute to your life and those virtues I've gained from my parents is a mindset of taking the forward step and not stepping back and blaming.[00:06:34] Now, my parents taught me that I whatever's in front of you move forward. And they didn't sit in front of me with a whiteboard or a blackboard and say, Well, Cayman. When you come up with obstacles, you've got to look back and you've got to I got what? How do I get out of it? Don't look back and say. And blind people don't look back and say, okay, well, who caused it? Where do I go now? I said, look forward. Look forward and create your own solutions. Now, that didn't sit down and do that in front of a lecture taught situation in front of a teaching type situation. They did that through their own walk and talk and practise. As a young child, we learn these behaviours. We learn these behaviours to then become who we are in our trajectory of our life. And sure, my mother grew up institutionalized. She feared governments, she feared authority. She feed. Just feel it being walking down the street. I remember my brother and I walking with her down the street and because we were indigenous peoples, we weren't allowed to certain parts of the town. And like sheep, she didn't know where we could walk, we couldn't walk, and she'd say to my brother, Anoma, all the brother George, she say, I look down, look down, done, look up, look down. She said to us, try to be invisible. Try to be invisible.[00:08:16] So we did that. But even that we did that, I saw the fear in my mother's eyes. But what I learned out of that was that it didn't stop her contributing and going forward. Interesting concept. Interesting concept. She could have easily stopped and gone and law in the room and cried herself to sleep.[00:08:41] And we would watch their mother crying and saying, oh, you know, what can we do?[00:08:45] Pull back on me. She didn't. She was at bay. She had courage and will not talk about courage. Courage. You can't have courage without fear. She had fear, but she was still my ball.[00:09:00] She was still my ball. She was moving. You take Phil with you, and that's and looking back now in my life, I have inherited. That beautiful, beautiful human virtue that I grew up with from my parents. I am so grateful for that way of thinking of that creation of a mindset. And interesting now in this pandemic situation where we are.[00:09:36] The parents and their children now who being homeschooled in my and my sincere thoughts, I'll tell you what, my kids are grown up adults and I don't have to homeschool. And I've heard homeschooling. It's a drag. And I'm using a plot where I've been. It's been called something else. But I won't use those words here. But. Your it's actually had the parents, the adults, the significant role models of our young people now.[00:10:03] How do you respond? What is your mindset? What is your mindset now? And whether you've got kids or your kids have grown up or you haven't got kids? The bottom line is, what is your mindset at?[00:10:18] Do you wake up because when you wake up, the defining moment for yourself is, is probably that first two or three minutes. You're either gonna have a joyful day. You're either going to have a sad day. You are going to have a magic day. Or you can have an amazing day. You get the kinship car. That's if you're getting my drift. That's what this whole thing's about. You create your mindset.[00:10:54] The whatever so you can all look at. Three people look out the window and they see one tree and there's three birds in it.[00:11:05] One person, one of the three person looks at, sees a tree, the three birds and says, oh, okay, okay, I've gotta to pay my rent. Oh, God, I got it. You know, good to see with my piease gone in.[00:11:18] So even though they're visibly saying that trade hit the mindset he's already caught up in, I call it the what about people call it the white noise. I love what life is like. And that's normal. That is normal.[00:11:32] The second person looks out the window, sees the tree and the three birds and guys are not help my Cosmo pop them, but their dogs, birds, my poo on it.[00:11:44] The third person looks out and says, what a wonderful world, what a beautiful world.[12:00] The mindset, how you view the world. I don't know about you, but, you know, we come in with nothing. We go out with nuffink, what we do in between. It's up to you. Now in a kinship kind of thinking. You can create.[00:12:21] A whole lifestyle. That suits where you want to be. And one of the other subjects I'll talk in the next in the next couple upcoming podcast, is that the freedom? Freedom. I like to think while I'm sorry, I'll rephrase that I apply in my life. Freedom is a state of mind. Is a state of mind. Freedom is a state of mind. So you can be picked up, dropped off.[00:13:05] And it's a bet. What your state of mind is. I my, my. I want to talk about my late wife, Judy.[00:13:14] She she had a she had a mental health condition. And interesting.[00:13:20] It was interesting living with her because that she was the person who looked at with those three birds and with those three birds on that train saying, woops, they're going to poo on my car.[00:13:34] I'm the person who would look at and say, oh, what a wonderful world. I'm conflicted.[00:13:42] Just on that. Oh, my, oh, my light wife, I love her daily. I miss her every day, and that's that's God's truth. I've known her, we've been I've known her for 36 years. I'm 55, so I've known her for 36 years, married to her for 25 years. I buried her. I miss her every day. And with my parents, my mother and father, I acknowledge her as my other great teacher. My other great teacher and he was interesting because I at that time and looking reflection, looking back, I could see how mindsets.[00:14:22] How that creates happiness, sadne

Hello, Kman here again for Kinship Code. Today we are going to be talking about the Mona Lisa, the Mona Lisa, that is you. The work of art. That is priceless. You stay tuned. Time--and coming you from Kinship Card Australia, downtown Brisbane, I'm actually in Fortitude Valley with my main dude. He's riding shotgun with me, Zane C Weber. Check him out on LinkedIn. He's the man you need for podcasting. He's the dude. Today's episode of Kinship Code is based on priceless works of art. Priceless works of art. We spend fortunes travelling around the world or even your own country travelling to museums to line up. And nowadays when we got back to lining up at museums, we'll have to do it. The social distancing why 1.5 metres away from each other to line up, to pay out good money, to go in and look at these marvellous works of art masterpieces that takes your breath away. You go in and you just go, wow, look at that. [00:01:36] That creativity, the genius, the beauty. The essence of creativity, the miracle. Of creativity. The miracle of art, of perfection. Of beauty. [00:01:55] All these wonderful positive words that we just rise up our own spirits when we speak and think and apply these words to these work of art, which is outside of our zine. [00:02:11] Kinship code. Kai Man is here to tell you. There is a greater prise. [00:02:20] Then the artwork that you are paying and spending the energy on to go and view, you guessed that. You guessed it. If you've been listening to my previous podcasts. [00:02:33] You will know that I'm talking about the work of art. That you get up in the morning, you. Yes, you, the listener. You get up and you go. And the first thing you look into a mirror. [00:02:52] That should take your breath away and say, my goodness. What a work of art. Rejoice. [00:03:04] In the Seumas spirit, that is you. [00:03:09] You are priceless. And developing that sense of self pride. Comes from your inner self. Now, the kinship card people of Oxley. Kai, man, have you written this kinship code? [00:03:30] Have you climbed some scary bilong hilltop mountain to find this kinship code scriptures hidden in a cave under a boulder? Were these kinship cards? Did you go diving off the deep Indian Ocean looking for these kinship cards written in ancient cylinders and stored away? [00:03:57] The kinship code that I'm talking about is a card that everybody has. They can't ship code. Is you. It is about the best version of you. [00:04:17] How you conduct yourself as a human being while you walk this planet Earth and you've got a pulse, you've got a heartbeat. [00:04:29] You've got humour, you've got sadness, you've got joy, you've got disappointment. All these human factors comes back to how you treat yourself in the kinship way of thinking. [00:04:49] There are now referees. There are now linesmen. There is no time KBR. It's just you. You keep my entine. Your own kinship. Code of the best version you can be. [00:05:12] Because it's when you're in that translucent state of that zone, if you like, of the kinship kind, it becomes part of your everyday life. And I spoke about this before. [00:05:28] It's about developing discipline. Discipline to really appreciate and love who you are. [00:05:38] A discipline to wake up in the morning and look in the mirror and say, I am worthy. [00:05:46] And when you do that, when you get up in front of that mirror, you don't just stand there and say, I am worthy and look in the mirror and say whatever you look in that mirror, you stare down deep, deep into the eyes, looking back. [00:06:01] And that's you. And guess what? You can't hide. You can't lie. You can't blame anyone else. It's just you. So when you look into your eyes. [00:06:15] And you say I am. Were the. [00:06:21] That takes a sense of discipline. [00:06:25] Now I'm sharing these stories and someone said to me, you know, did you find these cuds? [00:06:30] I've just. I'm actually talking about my life, how I've developed into the person I'm at. People now I'm 55. Osborne on the 14th of December, 1964. [00:06:47] Just make a note of that. It's my birthday, the 14th of December. We all appreciate presents, chocolates. Be good. But that's at 55 years of age. I've not hit a point and I haven't I haven't got to the point. I haven't got to my end of my journey. I haven't got to my destination. I'm really excited about the mountain that I'm climbing. Every day is a different struggle. Every day is a different journey. But it takes discipline to keep your leg and your feet one foot in front of the other. Climb the mountain until it becomes a habit. So the discipline will translate into a habit. And then it becomes routine. And then it becomes a lifestyle. And then when you walk past the mirror like me, I will pass the mirror. And I stopped to admire it. Wow, look at me, huh? Amazing. I was going to say the F word then. I know that children could be listening. Ionising on my chest. Good. [00:08:04] And people on my Facebook page right now, I took a lot of selfies because I like what I see. And I've not. And let me just tell you, I haven't always been like that. It isn't something that comes easily. If it was easy, everybody be doing it. It took a sense of discipline, but as one, I put myself up-tick himself previously like two years ago even I've taken selfies. But they were like, OK. This is the process. Selfie put on the Facebook. Yep. Yep. Like like like I put art. Now I take a selfie because I really appreciate what I see. It's like I'm I'm looking at the Mona Lisa. The most photographed, the most viewed artwork in the world is the Mona Lisa. I treat every day when I look in the mirror, when I walk past the reflection on the glass pine, there's my Mona Lisa. It's a priceless piece of art and I give gratitude. That's another thing we got to do. We got to give gratitude. [00:09:16] Where we're at. The gratitude, because I am so grateful and I was just talking to a colleague this morning. [00:09:27] I had a bad year last year. In November, I hit the wall. I had to have well, the whole month of November, 2019, I was gone. I had nothing. Nothing. Empty tank had my business running all around the countryside, running out of money. My money. Spending more money. [00:09:49] Afraid of being homeless. [00:09:53] But the discipline of self-belief that comes from self worth self-love, self-respect. [00:10:04] That all combines to the most powerful being in the world. [00:10:11] So all the magnificent the magnificent beauty that is priceless works of art. You're right. It takes discipline to develop that kinship card, your kinship code. [00:10:28] Kit, my message is we internally give away our power by externally giving it to other people, to brand us, to define us. We say world, define who I am and I'll jump to the tune of what you're telling me. Whereas if you say, Hey, world, this is me, this is why. This is how I am and this is how I walk and this is how I talk. The world would accept you on your terms. Don Look for the world to accept you on their terms because it ain't gonna happen. [00:11:09] Your sense of joy and fulfilment will be out the window. So developing this discipline. To become habit. [00:11:20] To become routine, to become lifestyle, I can honestly say I now live a lifestyle which in short, don't get me wrong, I'm not 100 percent always up. And Adam. As a human being all go through emotions, the emotions of feeling, you know, just not up with it, feeling down, feeling sad. But dies. But my parts of my mindset now is at a point where the light at shines the darkness. Darkness was always bay. They always tell people there are two angels sitting on your shoulders. Ones like Darth Vader from Star Wars sitting on one shoulder. The other one is like Florence NIGHTINGALE sitting on the other. But they you. And one one of them will tell you something bad about yourself and the other one will tell you something positive about yourself. [00:12:26] And they share about equal Gramsci, you're sort of caught in this limbo. Whereas if you take it upon yourself to develop this discipline. That becomes habit, that becomes routine, that becomes lifestyle, that 50 50 percent ratio. Which they share. The dark side of you and the light side of you. Your dark side will actually shrink and your light side will improve to a higher percentage of your being, of your mindset, of the lens that you view the world. [00:13:01] There'll be more light and darkness. Doctors will come in, but it won't take long before the light comes in and boom. [00:13:10] You back up in. So in closing this podcast. I just want to say, you really need to appreciate the beauty of art. Which is you. [00:13:26] STYE Sife K-P Strong warg Strong and we'll catch up next time. Kai Man out peace. 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Hello. Greetings, time--and. Here again, kinship code, kinship wise. This time I'll be talking about resilience. How do we build something called resilience? How do you bounce back and you become tough? You can do it. Yes, you can.[00:00:27] Resilience, I love the word resilience. And to be honest with you, growing up as a as a Torres Strait Islander man, we there was we hadn't got a word for resilience in our language. And I'm pretty sure if I talk to all people in my culture, resilience in the word resilience is something that you just did. Resilience is that, you know, you just keep going. And I think I'm being very fortunate that my parents, especially my mother, who I grew up with, who had a lot of influence on me. She taught me three things. One of them was forgiveness. The second thing was love. The third thing was faith. And sprinkled amongst all three of those key elements and virtues is resilience, resilience to bounce back. Now, in terms of love, for instance, you know, I've had my heart broken and now, you know, I don't think I speak for the majority of us. We've all have our hearts broken. Whether it's a romantic link, whether, you know, whether your pet canary's fallen off his perch, whether a cake is baked for your grandmother's ideas, birthday didn't work out. You feel a sense of loss and you deflate it and you're down. You're out, but you need that resilience to pick yourself up. And I suppose the word resilience used in this context of the modern world is picking yourself up when you've been in a position of powerlessness, of darkness, of hopelessness. Resilience is the opposite of all those things. Resilience. And my parents and especially my mum, my dad as well, they had a lot to go through in terms of their growing up, because as indigenous people, the authorities had a lot of power and influence along with other indigenous peoples of not just Australia, but the world.[00:02:49] But there was a sense of resilience of getting up every day with a sense of purpose, with the sense of doing. And even though you, Martin, feel like getting up and doing in your heart of hearts, you draw the line, you just keep lying away, ever. You're lying wherever you hit. You know, you like your head to rest that night. But having resilience to say, all right, this has to be done to move forward, because having resilience says that you've had to have had a feeling or an emotion that has cornered you and everybody in the whole world. If you've got a pulse and you're listening to this podcast, there's been a situation where we've had a sense of loss, disappointment, sadness, and that's a fact of life when you signed up for this gig. We know as life in the human race on this place called Mother Earth, sadness, loss, disappointment is part of the journey description. You will suffer those things. But also resilience is also part of the duty statement. The only thing about the duty statement and the resilience connection is it's in the small print. We can read all the negative stuff that's that's in the big print. That's in the bold print. Oh, yes. I'm not good enough. Yes. And I'm going to be this soon. I'm not not that I'm not worthy, but it doesn't that all the positive stuff's, all the positive words, all the positive feelings are in the small print because we live in a world where we lose the true sense of ourselves. We we keep on talking about this. We give away our power to other people, too, determined to define us. They tell us whether we're beautiful. They tell us where we're worthy.[00:04:45] They tell us that we're valuable. We rely on them. We done work in enough to rely on ourselves, because once you develop that internal fortitude of love, of kindness and I spoke about this in my last podcast, all those virtues of I call it kinship code, the codes that matter to you because we have an external world, albeit now in COVID-19 has slowed down. Well, it hasn't actually slowed. They have someone slammed on the foot brake and it's made us realise what's really important. Because we were all on this treadmill going as fast as we can. We were losing ourselves. I don't know about you, but being in lockdown, being shut down, whatever term you want to use. There's been a sense of an awakening. Awakening of what is real, what is real to me? Who is who? Who am I? And that awakening can assist you in becoming a better person. A better person. I'm not talking a better person to the externalise. I'm saying to your eyes. It's about building a better love and respect for yourself. And resilience comes is a by-product of these things. Now, resilience is also about setting a mindset of flipping, of flipping a situation. And as I spike before my previous podcasts working in you workout. And I subscribe to that. You work at. You eat well. You sleep well. But let's not forget to work in the discipline, habit, routine lifestyle. You create a discipline for your mindset. You give your mindset some rules. You give you a mindset, mindset, some parameters. You give your mindset, terms and conditions to say, hi, guess what? I'm going to hit the wall. I'm going to hit the barrier. I'm going to hit into some obstacle. But you know what? I'm gonna have the faith, the bravery and the courage to get it done.[00:07:07] What I need to do is have one of my favourite sayings, and this is actually stuck on my bedroom window, my bedroom wall. It says to the brave and faithful, nothing is impossible. To the brave and faithful, nothing is impossible now. Resilience is the springboard is the springboard to tapping into your strengths, your strengths and your mindset. I hope I'm not going too fast for people because I get excited about these concepts, because the only reason I'm sharing these things, because all I'm doing is talking about my journey in my life and how I have gone from a non-English speaking dude who was fearful of the of of of non-indigenous white people. I was told as a for as long as I remember, my mother used to say, do not look at the white man in the eye. They are more superior than you. I love my mum. She told me, feel them when you see them. Fear and anxiety. And now in my current life, at the age of 55, I now talk to the premier of Queensland and I talk to the deputy premier. I now talk to business. I now talk to Silicon Valley. I talk up to Start-Up and tech general managers. I talk to all other tech companies in the world. I'm creating a business for myself. And that's coming from a mindset which said to me that you're not good enough. You are second-rate, you're subservient. And now all these things that I started believing, but also there were people around me, my families in my community who basically supported that concept because they were walking the same walk I was doing. But then I met some significant people in my life who I thought, okay, I can do this.[00:09:06] I can be I can jump out of the cookie cutter shape that I'm in now. My trajectory of life that took discipline, that took discipline, discipline to a point where my mice, my footsteps became stronger, my voice became firmer and assertive. And that discipline became habit. And that habit of the time continually practicing, continually practicing, continually practicing that habit became routine. And now it's lifestyle. I have people say to me, how did you do? How did you talk to someone in Silicon Valley? Well, in this day and age, we got things like, you know, the Internet. You can communicate. And they said to me, well, what? But what gave you the authority? And I just said to people, well, I was talking to my my good buddy yesterday. I was talking about this very thing about Silicon Valley. And I just said hi. Because, you know, why shouldn't I? I just created my own. If there's such a word I just had. While there is a word, I'm just trying to find the right context for it. But I actually developed an audacity and audacious. That could be the word. An audacious attitude, an audacious discipline, an audacious habit, an audacious routine. And now my lifestyle, I practise or die audacious tacitly, if that's such a word. But I just I'm just have the audacity to do things in business, in my business world. I'm known as a disruptor because I have the audacity to change the rules. There are rules there. But if I want to talk about kindness and I did in my last podcast, I've got to change the rules in what I do and what other people do. So it all goes back to kinship wise and kinship codes. There's a code which the secret is you hold a card, you hold the keys.[00:11:12] It's the selflessness parts of your inner soul. You're in a spirit that you how you contribute to the world. And that's the power that you have. And part of that is resilience. You know, don't get me wrong, I hope this is all coming together for people, because don't get me wrong, because, you know, when when someone says something to me, I feel the pain of being judged. Oh, don't worry. It hurts. The arised launched Bangert. It's you saw. I hope someone someone's of is critical of you. You know, like I've done a presentation and that's it all. You know, that was good. But you know this. You should have said that. And like and usually what I would do, I would let that arise stick in my sides of my gizzards and that era would be there for years. Now, I've learned through discipline, through habit, through routine, that's now my lifestyle. I'll let the era go in the Maza. I acknowledge that Woon is at my car. Yeah, but you said that, right? What does it really mean? I unpack it. And then you know what? I pulled that little sucker out of my sides. Yep. You've served your purpose. I guess what? I'm going to keep going forward. I'm going to be resilient. We. That is part of how we give our power away when we left that era. The pains of the era is that a shot of us. We walk around with all these sharp things stuck in a back and a front in our side. It doesn't matter because we allowing other people to do them. But when you and I said no, I'm not, that I'll just pull this thing up. It hurt when it pays my skin. Yep.[00:12:52] Yep. Hurt my feelings. Yep. It hurt. But guess what? I'm not that. I'm not dumb. I'm not unworthy. Come at

Hello. Greetings. Welcome to another kinship code, kinship wise. It's high man here. I'm going to be talking about kindness. It's an act of kindness. It's an act of random act. Well, it's not. It should be act every day. Stay tuned.[00:00:27] Hello, welcome, my guy and Chi man coming to you from downtown Brisbane in the midst of lockdown, the whole world is under lockdown. COVID-19 has sort of breath, breathes and breaths all over ourselves. And I hope your keeping safe with this message that's going out to you.[00:00:48] And today I'm actually going to talk about that word kindness, because I've noticed in in a whole range of mediums, whether it be social media, whether it's the media and on the TV, they're all highlighting all how lovely and kind people are. How lovely. What a kind spirit. The things people are doing for someone else less fortunate or just sharing. It's a sad state of affairs that it's taking a pandemic to tell humanity, to tell the human rights, high kindness. It's a good thing. It's something we can actually cherish. Kindness is an act of giving and giving without expecting anything in return. That's true kindness, as my intro mentioned. They talk about kindness being a random act. Yeah, a random act. Because we have lost the sense of giving, of sharing, of looking out for someone who may be in trouble or someone who just might need a hand or someone who might look lonely in the street lost. We just walk past them. Kindness determines that we will stop and say, Are you okay? Just checking up on them. And that's where we get off. That's a random act. Isn't it sad? It's a random act. Kindness is something that should be in the very core of our psyche. Kindness is something that I work really hard on every single day of my life. And like anything, it takes a sense of discipline to work on kindness. My podcast today is talking about the principle of kinship codes or the kinship y and the kinship code of conducting yourself in the best possible way you can. One to look after yourself and for two, to look after those around you. Kinship code. It's a code, kinship wise. It becomes a way of life. But to get to this kinship code, it takes a bit of development. It takes a bit of an awakening. It's about a waking wakening up to who you really are. And I've said this in my previous podcasts that we have lost the true sense of who we are because we give away our power to somebody else, because they determine they define you. They give you all your definition of who you are, what you do, and how the world sees you. Hope that makes sense. We give away our power because we are led to believe the world looking in determines and defines us. Then we lose our true self, our true self of who we really are. And unfortunately, that is where we get lost in the mindset of I am not good enough or part of this kindness podcast. I'm going to introduce it by talking about the most important vital priority person in the whole world who should receive this kindness. And for those of you who are switched on, and that's probably all my listeners because you all listening to me. So you must be switched on. That person is you. Kindness starts with one self. You cannot be kind to others if you are not kind to yourself. One of the most difficult things as a human being is being kind to yourself. I'm speaking from my experience because you might find this hard to believe, but I'm a human. So I'm walking the same walk you're walking. I'm not the perfect or the best rider at this rodeo. At my RIDEA, I am just trying my best to be the best rider at my rodeo, at my own gig, at my own life and trying to be the best person I can be. I want to be a kind of person, cause I don't want kindness to be a random act where it just pops up in randomly. I don't. I find that quite disturbing. The term random act of kindness, how sad and tragic that is. Kindness should be routine. Kindness should be a lifestyle. You don't need to mention all. There's a random act of kindness. Someone help me. Wow, that blows me away. Sorry to get to a point in the kinship code to develop kinship wise. For me, it's about four things. The first one is discipline I need in my own time. I need to sit there and work in. I work out. I do my stretching exercise of the yoga. I do a bit of other plotters work, but I also invest the same time of working in and these four points. I actually determines how I develop my kinship wise and kindness being one of them. And I need to talk about this a bit further just very quickly. There is not a set code where there's a journal some way hidden up in the mountains. There's a bit of cloud cover, something out of the Lord of the Rings. Kinship wise kinship code is something that you have yourself. It is your own obligation. It's about knowing your rights and your wrongs. There's no umpire. There's no referee. It is about self judgement. You're judging yourself. So the kinship wise, the kinship codes is about your own journey. I go back to kindness that develop a kindness y would I want to develop. That's what I want to do. What you want to do, it might be something else that's doing the right thing by people and yourself. But kindness for me. I had to be kind to myself. I had to remove the negative talk and the unkind talk. I would tell myself, because the last two sessions of my podcast, I talked about how the two of the most important words in the whole world is I am and always to punish myself. When I used to get stressed, when I used to do something that wasn't up to scratch, I still say, Oh, I am a negative. I am not good. I am a negative. I am in the negative. Am deficit. I am deficit. I am deficit. And I became that side of the discipline for me was to be kind to myself. Kindness. So when I didn't come up to speed off, I fell out into the right thing. If I got anxious and I got in front of a group of people and I lost the plot and I started blubbering. I used to go off stage and go, Oh geez, I am useless. I'm no good now. I go off the stage and sing like that's like something's up that doesn't define you. You're good, you're good. Tomorrow is another day. But I took discipline to get that mindset into my psyche. So that discipline you have decided self will make. The minute you walk away, the day the second you wake up for the day, you set your discipline. Kindness as one of them. And that discipline. And then after a wall, I found that discipline of what I was doing with my mindset. It became a habit. Always doing it as a habitual way of living. So I used to wake up again like, hey, I've got to go look for kindness and I'll do all this. But in my journey, I'll just look at if someone's struggling offer a hand, which I do. And that was a habit. And then it became a habit. But then I realised it become a routine. I just did it. And now I am really glad to say it is now part of my lifestyle. Kindness. But I've had to work on it. And it's like anything. You have to work on it. You have to invest time into it and you have to have discipline to get there. And I've developed this lifestyle of kindness. And then we can give other people. I'm going to share you a little story in Sydney. I was living down there with my wife, my law. My wife passed away in 2006. But at the time, this was about two thousand and six. We were in Sydney and I had a little bit of pocket money, lunch money left over for the week and had a good week and I thought, I'm on again. Bond My wife Judy was her name and I dedicate a lot of this work I do to her because of every zillions, which, by the way, is my next podcast. So Judy, with Judy in my mind, I ventured from my office in downtown Sydney down to buy some flowers. I walked down and I see it. Sydney. It's Friday afternoon and this is before Covid, obviously. So Sydney, as you know, it's all if you don't know, Sydney is one big city. Traffic people, noise pollution, smog bumping people. And it's just an energy.[00:10:17] And I love it. I really love that sort of vibe. I was walking down to the mall to get this flowers and I saw this homeless guy sitting on the sidewalk and had a sign up. And he was sitting there and I thought, oh, oh. And I thought, right. I went and got like, I think I've got 12 dollars in my pocket to buy Judy these flowers. And I thought, if I have any change on the way back, I'm gonna give my change to this guy because he looks hungry. He was homeless. He looked hungry. So as I walked past, I saw a sign. Sign. Could you please give him the last meal ahead was on last weekend and then I can.[00:10:55] So I go and buy these flowers, which was about another 300 meters away from where he was sitting. And then I proceeded to come back to go past him, to go and catch my train. But as I was walking back, I saw there was some movement. I saw him try to get up from where he was sitting. He was sitting on the on the pavement, on the cold pavement. He must've been sitting on a cardboard box. I'm not too sure. And as he was getting up, his leg must have gone to sleep on him. Pins and needles. And he hopped up and then he couldn't move any further. He was like in pain from this from his leg being asleep. And then at the same time, I noticed there was this girl in a car because of the traffic was no one was moving in the traffic of Sydney.[00:11:45] The car was waiting for a while. The girl had the window down and she had a handful of coins. And she must have reached into her console, put these all her change, and she was gonna give it to this guy. But the guy was struggling to get up. And then as I'm walking and I saw this play out in front of me, I thought all now what's up? A pair paste up my walk to go and help. And then I see her and she's now looking at the light. Lots of now gone green. So she panicked and she just see all might. And as she walked through hell at night, we both looked at her and she threw all these coins at this guy, these coins or dollar coins, $2 coins, 50 cent coins. They went every way. And you know what? They might have been at least 50 people going past that man. Not one of them stopped to help him. Not one person. So I jumped Kai on the job. I walk up to the glass. I might get out. I'll help you. So we'

I am, I am. Powerful words determines and defines your being, your human character and behaviour. I'll be talking about. I am in this next podcast listening. Hello and welcome back. Man here again, kinship code. Someone asks me once, what is kinship code? Kinship code is about how you can get the best out of you, how you can be functioning at a really high level and capacity.Now I want to talk about how the words we use can determine who we are. You might find that a little interesting and a bit difficult to digest at this point in time because in my first podcast I talked about how we give away our power instead of saying I am. We use the term all. That's what you think of me. And if you can recall, I've just said, oh, oh, that's what you think of me. And when we start believing that term, it starts shaping our behaviour. But it also influences our brain. Our brain is then programmed to pick up and to behave in that manner. And if those terms or if someone gives you a label that gives you hurt, that makes you feel not worthy, you will actually harbour that in your soul, in your spirit. And unfortunately, the world is shaped that we are now giving away our power to others to determine who we are. I'm going to share with you in this podcast how I used to have that mindset. But the healing mindset for me was helping me overcome what other people thought of me. It took me from a place of shame to a place of shameless. And I'm not talking about doing something that embarrasses you in front of people. I'm talking about you doing what you feel is right. Doing the right thing by you. It's it's also about standing up to a thing called peer pressure. Peer pressure is a nasty word. I believe peer pressure is the word that gets you to follow others and peer pressure can get you in a lot of trouble. He can get very expensive. It can actually make you very unhappy. So in this podcast, I'm going to talk about how to unleash who you are in the most powerful way you can, because everybody's got the ability to do that. I will teach you. Oh, not teach you. I will show you old demonstrate to you how the use of two words can be the most powerful thing that you can do with your life. I can also explain how two words can also be the most damaging things to your life. And those two words. I am whatever you put beside the word I am. You become, for instance, when people ask me now, how are you going? K man. I say I am amazing. And people look at me and go, wow, that's fantastic. Wow. And with that little exchange, two things happen. The listener gets excited for me. Someone is actually telling me they're amazing because your emotions, what you feel in your gut. And they call the gut. Our second bryne of just given this person who's asked me how I'm feeling, a really good feeling by saying I am amazing. And then they get something out of that, because every time you get a goose bump, my mental, you feel good research, then this is fully researched. The researchers research says that you will actually rebuild your red blood cells, your red blood cells real, then reinvigorate, but also reproduce. Because that feeling that you get in terms of the what they call the goosebump moments, the human triumph moments, those moments where you go, aha, I get it. Now when I share that with that person to get to that moment, when I say that to myself and I might be feeling the best, I might not be feeling I could be tyred I could be feeling a little bit depressed because I just bought an ice cream and I went to lick the ice cream and the ice cream fell off the car and fell on the gutter. And I couldn't have my ice cream something bad. But I'm not going to say to that person all I am feeling bad because he will share that. Oh, you're feeling bad. But when you use the term I I am amazing or I am great. That sends a message to the other person. I non-tangible an energy, a vibe, a vibe. That vibe will resonate and cling to that person's cells and help them grow in this sense of the human spirit. But like I've said, this is actually researched, a guy called Dr. Andrew Newberg, a neuroscientist at the Thomas Jefferson University. And Mark, Robert Waldman, a communications expert, collaborated on a book in 2016. And that book is called Speak with Love How Your Words Can Restructure your Brain. Words can change your brain. It's been research. I've seen the growth of the brain cells, but more importantly of the red blood cells that function in every parts of our body. In it, they write, quote, A single word has the power to influence the expression and growth of genes. The human genes G and E s the genes. So I am is not just a mental spiritual strength anchor. It has been proven by academics that it is also physically enhancing to yourself. For instance, I I've got I've got two girls. My youngest girl lives with me. She's just she'd move that. She's moved back in with me and which is about 17 eyes to walk around the kitchen and say things. And she looked at me one day and she says, Dad, you love yourself. And I did think about that for about three minutes. And I thought, yeah, I do, I do. And she looked at me. She went, oh, yeah, I do. I did know what I was talking about back then. But I know because I knew that I was saying positive things about myself now, because in this society we're we are taught we are programmed to get that positive exchange from someone else. They validate who we are. They validate our value. They value that validate our self-worth. But my powerful, powerful energy, the most powerful source of love comes from your own gut, comes from you. You actually put that out there. So when people say to me, how are you? I just say, I'm amazing. And like I said, when I remember that I did months ago, I walked into a cafe in West End in Brisbane and there was two people serving me. I'd got to know them over the period of time. And they both said to me, hey, man, how are you get today? And I said, I'm great. I'm amazing. They both looked at me when I heard what? How did you do that? I just said, I just said it. And then I said, how are you both going? And one one of the girls you can go to, though I'm not too good. Too good today. I'm not good. I said, well, it's interesting. I said, because your day will be a not too good day because you don't have a good day. You have to create a good day. I didn't tell her that like that. I just said you start using the term. I am amazing when people ask you how you are today. She said, I'll give it a try and know what of the law. This is God's truth. I went outside to the courtyard to set my work to wife about an hour and a half on my laptop during my other work. She came in to bring me, ordered a second round of coffee. She brought the coffee and she said to me, K man, it it worked. I'm feeling really, really good by just sign. I am amazing. Well, actually, she said I'm great. And when she's saying right, she was not feeling great. But just the very thing of saying it, because when you talk to yourself, somebody is always listening. And you know who that person is. It's you. And when you talk to others, you talk to yourself when you're on mine. If you're just before your head hits the pillow at night to go to sleep, your brain's talking to your self, your listening, you're listening and you're registering. Just imagine creating a kinship kind of self love of telling yourself it doesn't matter what you look like. It doesn't matter what you look like. If you look in the mirror and you see love, there is nothing more powerful. You can have the most powerful atomic weaponry. But to actually develop a mindset of self love, self love. And there's another virtue, which I will talk about in other another episode of this podcast. Another session of this. Now, another episode is forgiveness. But for the moment, I want to talk about being kind and loving to yourself. I am. Sportspeople do this very well. Boxers. Anthony Mundine used to do it. Muhammad Ali used to do it. Other people, they talk themselves up, sports people. When you see a sports person, an elite sports. Or someone who just plays soccer on a social weekend on a Tuesday night, not physically. You get yourself in shape. But like the great Wayne Bennett from the Brisbane Broncos. Sorry now. He's now gone to the Rabbitohs. Better get it right for you, Brisbane Broncos supporters and Rabbitohs supporters. He actually said that when he looks for a young kid with potential, he says the skill level is only 10 percent. He wants 90 percent of mental toughness. He wants to know when you're physically exhausted, when you're physically have nothing left in, your lungs are burning, your legs are led. He wants to know that you have the mind set, the mind, the mentality to keep those legs going on from Townsville in Queensland. So. Ah, but I live in Brisbane and I'm a big fan of North Queensland Cowboys, but I'm also a big fan of the of the Queensland State of Origin. And I'veseen Origin gone to a Queensland have been written off. And they just come back and you can tell the plies. What separates good players and great players is that physically you can still do the same training you got you'd put in 20 hours a week training. But then when no one's watching, those great players start doing things other training on themselves. But they also start working their mindset to the point where physically that might have nothing left, but they run on pure, pure human spirit. A good case is when the when the Marines, the mighty Marines are Queenslanders started there. I think it was the eight to 10 straight series win in origin. It started in 2006 in that third game and it was one game of pace. And whoever won the third game would win the series. While Queensland hadn't won series for four while three years, I think in that third game they were just belting each other. Got to the point there were three or four minutes left and both sides were exhausted and the New South Wales were on their 20 yard line up from their try line. And and the halfback at the time was Brett Hodgson, who used to play for Hutchinson, who used to play for the West Tigers. He looked around and he picked up the ball, looked around to see some

Welcome to Kinship Code. Well, I'll be talking about developing and conditioning the human spirit towards a mindset to live routine habits of practise to reignite, recharge and refocus human capacity for stronger self-belief, self-respect, love, esteem and self-worth. Hi, I'm Kman, man. I'm here for the next few minutes, just chat to you about kinship code that came in. You might be scientia. Who's who's this came in? Well, I'm a bit like Spider-Man and Superman. You know, there's a theme happening there. Can you can you get it? Yeah, I think he can.[00:00:41] And I'm gonna be talking about the human capacity for self-belief, self-respect, self-love, self-esteem and self-worth. And how appropriate at this time of COVID-19, where we are finding ourselves in a different world. It's as if the world someone just walked up to the world, the globe and gone. I don't like what I'm seeing, what's happening in this world. Let's just pull the plug. Let's just recall a cloud calibrate what's happening in the world. So someone's just pulled the plug. Boom, it's gone. Mike, drop, finish. We're finding ourselves in a new jungle, people. A new jungle. And one of the biggest things that I've seen happening. And not only seen happening I've experienced myself is fear. Now, in terms of your self-belief, yourself with fear. He's gonna be a major disruptor. But I'm here to tell you, in the kinship code, we develop a code that you can actually embrace fear. Fear can be a good thing. Fear can be a positive thing. The opposite of fear is positivity. Being positive about your life. And while we're locked down in this situation of COVA 19, we're all in this together. You hear the media talk about it all the time. We are sharing this space. And then for myself and I think for yourself as well. You're spending a lot of time at home, your home and your little sanctuary. And we've somehow we've now developed an idea, a concept of jumping off the treadmill, the treadmill that has been telling us how to live our lives, how beautiful we are, how perfect we are. And we spend our time on that treadmill trying to chase the impossible dream. For me, the current situation of sitting down at home and working in, we spend a fortune on working out, working at a physical sense of who we are physically. So the world can see us as beautiful. Well, guess what, guys and girls, we're in a different ballgame now. We can now sit at home. And I'm telling you right now, we can work in working to start finding your self-respect, work into start finding yourself worth. We rely and we give away the power of self to the mighty, mighty media. The media, whether it be social media, print media and the big media, the television media with shows such as Math's Survivor, all these shows, all these beautiful people go, we get addicted to we forget about everything else. And we live an artificial life that has come to a grinding halt. We are now faced of getting up in the morning, going to brush our teeth and looking in the mirror and really self reflecting on who we are, where we come from. I see Kiva's 19 as a disruptor. It's actually walked up to that conveyor belt or that treadmill and someone's pulled the plug. And guess what? You've just stopped and gone. Eyecye. What do I do now? Well, I'm telling you guys and girls get to know yourself because we've been giving away our power for too long. The Western world, the commercial world has been telling us what we need to do to survive in this world. We've been living artificially. The mighty dollar has governed how we live our life. We have given our power away, our own self, beauty and the word I'd like to introduce. It's a beautiful thing. Every one of us has got it. It's called love. And when you put that in context of yourself, it's called self love. For too long, we've been governed by external love. What other people think of us. We build up walls that says there's them and there's us. And then there's me. Me. Look at me. Because when you get up in the morning and you gotta brush your teeth like I was chatting to you before you look in the mirror and it's just you and you go, okay. What are other people doing? One of the other beautiful people doing. But because he got up and because God has given you the energy, the breath, the lungs, the life to live another day, you've just qualified to be beautiful. But that beautiful is taken away by the external, and then external is governed by what society governs. Is the power, the status quo? They tell us what's beautiful. They sell us what's right. They tell us what to buy, what to listen to. By giving us, we give our power away. We jump on that treadmill and we're just pedalling for the impossible dream. We're forever looking for that impossible dream. But now with Kiva 19, guess what? As I said before, someone's pulled the plug on us and we're finding is going. What do I do now? Well, there's also fear. The positive part of fear is you get the courage to still do what you do. Now, the opposite of fear is not courage. Courage is the vehicle between fear and where you need to get to courage is just the vehicle. It's just the wheels. The mobility, it's not the opposite of fear. Fear is you still have the fear. Courage is still being mobile, still moving with fear in your gut. With that fear in your gut, you keep moving. You take that with you. So with that in mind. In this time of the world slowing down. I don't know about you. I'm now 55. I'm 56. In December, the sheer 20:20 and height aren't. Now with time has gone. Time is flying by. But we're now in the 70s when I grew up in the 60s. Even 24 hours was still 24 hours. Our concept of time hadn't changed now. Sorry, the concept has changed. But the actual minutes, the seconds themselves haven't changed. We've just been taught. We've just been programmed. We've just been running on that treadmill to make the time appear quicker. Now, with this current covered situation, 19 year old high marks like we've all slowed down and even mother, I've heard Mother Earth is now healing for the first time in a long time. They can see the tops of the mountains in Nepal. We are now seeing Mother Earth healing herself. And all due respect to the families who've lost loved ones.[00:07:34] It's a very sad situation. We must learn from this individually. It starts with us to quote Mahatma Gandhi. We be the change we want to see in the world. When you're sitting at home listening this podcast, you're thinking, what can I do? What can I do to change the world? You can do a lot. You have more power than you give yourself credit for your own self-belief yourself. Love, self-respect, self-worth can contribute to a bigger, better world. And bigger doesn't mean richer. Bigger means more love. For instance, at my house, I've got to know my neighbours, my neighbours a lot better. Their kids now some sort of a scary looking chap. If you haven't seen me, I'm scary looking. The kids, they're toddlers, but they get frightened of me. But because I've seen them every day, because they have now transferred their playground to the front of their carport, I see them every day. And I've developed a relationship, a deeper relationship with with my neighbours. And that's a positive to come out of this. Just the same as fear, because fear is a good thing.[00:08:46] Fear can get you on the track to reinvent yourself. I was just chatting to a friend, are now doing a podcast and I was thinking about it. But now with my business, it has to be part of the way I do think so. The fear of doing it. The fear of succeeding or failure. Whatever you want to put it down to that phase been removed because I have to do it.[00:09:10] The fear is still there. And I said to my colleague, who's helped me put this together. I'm nervous. But guess what? I'm nervous. I've got fear. But I'm still going to have a go. That's what you have to tell yourself. That's having self-belief, self-respect, self-love, self-esteem and self-worth. Because we have been giving our own personal power away. And that's not on purpose. Every one of us. We are being programmed. We've lost our self. We've moved away from the village to a more broader commercial setting. When you get back to self, you get back to relationships with others. And that is a positive and fear in itself is a positive.[00:09:53] I've come to my stage in my life and I'm fifty. I'm fifty five years of age. Fear has driven me to achieve things which my parents who were there. Torres Strait Island people. And they're the first nations people of Australia. And when that when I was born, they were under the Aborigines Protection Act. They didn't have rights. We were actually not classified as as citizens. We were classified under an act to have to return. Protected to govern our very lives. So I grew up in a life in my early life. Early childhood of fear and anxiety. And from that fear and anxiety show fear.[00:10:33] We've all experienced fear. We all experience anxiousness. But I've decided that I must still keep moving ahead. And it's about having self-belief, self-respect, self-love, self-esteem and self-worth. And the biggest big daddy of them all or the big mama, don't be gender specific. The biggest source of that is love. Now, love, everybody's got love. And closely beside that, love is a thing called empathy and kindness. Kindness comes with that. People say, well, you know, kindness should be you know, they say, oh, it's a random act. That's how far we've come away from the village, caring relationships where kindness is now just a random act. How sad is that? Kindness is random, I think. I think to be honest, kindness should be routine. Kindness should be part of the lifestyle we live. Kindness isn't something that just occurs out of the blue. Kindness is about waking up soon as your eyes open. You have empathy for kindness, and that's developing a routine habit of practise to reignite, recharge and refocus the human capacity. Because for far too long, that capacity has not been functioning. We've all been dancing to a tune that says You're not good enough. You are not worthy. All these things that rob you of yourself capacity for worth and we'll follow it. We

Kinship is the Code to reignite and further stimulate our human spirit, advancing from surviving to thrive in our shared human toil.This Code (philosophies) was taught to ensure the sustainability of the human race based and embedded from a mantra of ‘Self-care to care for others’ to sustain life and World. Emerging from Kanat Wano’s, First Nations, Indigenous Australian Worldview.