Listen Now

Your Personal Panty Kickers are back with a Karate chop and a high kick to your BOOTY! Season Three of Kick in the Panties is all about GOALS: setting them, achieving them and moving you to improve your daily life and ignite your self love. In episode 7 The Panty Kickers talked about what to do when you fall off and how to get back on the old horsey. Today we wrap up this season with a recap of what we did, how we did, and where we are going. Ultimately, was this worth doing?When did I feel the best during this process?What did I learn about myself? Carolyn says: Yes! Establishing a focus helped me get on track.When I had a couple of weeks of great progress I felt like I could achieve anything.I’m not not a morning person. Becca says: Absolutely, this was a bucket list item!I felt best when I was actively playing piano on a daily basis. I learned that playing music is important to me, and that playing music is like meditating to me. CAROL’S GOAL: Complete (THE RESEARCH) for a course for C the Girl’s Girl called “Dating to Exclusive”. Obstacles: Procrastination, Limiting beliefs, and Distractions. Support: Meetup groups, family to commit to watching Chase a couple times a week, Books about how to research effectively. Good habit to instill, getting up at 5:30am and putting clothes on in an effort to start the day. BECCA’S GOAL: Learn to play the piano. Obstacles: Time and Money. Support: Piano teacher & Emile to watch kids for 30 minutes. Good habit to instill: Taking a break from working when getting overwhelmed and take that time to do the meditative practice of piano playing. Welp, that’s it suckers! Another one bites the dust. We hope that you enjoyed this season and that if you did you would share it with a friend or two. Please, send us your questions for future episodes kickinthepanties@gmail.com or DM us on instagram at kickinthepanties! We are available on ITUNES, STITCHER, OVERCAST AND SPOTIFY!  Please rate, review, and share a favorite episode with a friend! See you next season for something totally new and different, or more likely, more of the same good panty kicking!

Your Personal Panty Kickers are back with a Karate chop and a high kick to your BOOTY! Season Three of Kick in the Panties is all about GOALS: setting them, achieving them and moving you to improve your daily life and ignite your self love. In episode 6 The Panty Kickers talked about how to talk that talk til you’re walking that walk. Sometimes a little belief in what you can do or who you can become is really all you need to level UP! This week is all about what to do when you fall off and how to get back to getting to it. Carolyn says: When you have real regrets about what you haven’t done, it might be a sign that those things are still worthy of being on the docket.Don’t let time and arbitrary cut off dates define your ability to move forward. The only true cut off date is the day you die!If the thing you want to do is who you are, then don’t ever be afraid to pick it back up. Becca says: The amount of sticktoitivness that you have directly relates to the amount of time it takes to finish something.  When have-tos get in the way of want-tos don’t beat yourself up, it happens to us all. Just start again.Know & believe that you WILL move forward, someday. RESOURCES: Grit by Angela DuckworthKick in the Panties Season 1 – How Do I Get Out of a Rut? CAROL’S GOAL: Complete (THE RESEARCH) for a course for C the Girl’s Girl called “Dating to Exclusive”. Obstacles: Procrastination, Limiting beliefs, and Distractions. Support: Meetup groups, family to commit to watching Chase a couple times a week, Books about how to research effectively. Good habit to instill, getting up at 5:30am and putting clothes on in an effort to start the day. BECCA’S GOAL: Learn to play the piano. Obstacles: Time and Money. Support: Piano teacher & Emile to watch kids for 30 minutes. Good habit to instill: Taking a break from working when getting overwhelmed and take that time to do the meditative practice of piano playing. HOMEWORK:  Take a walk, at least 20 minutes with no devices where you think about this goal you set, how it went, where the hiccups were and see how it feels when you think about the times you fell off and the times you did well. Commit yourself to finishing strong and ask yourself: Ultimately, was this worth doing?When did I feel the best during this process?What did I learn about myself? We are available on ITUNES, STITCHER, OVERCAST AND SPOTIFY!  Please rate, review, and share a favorite episode with a friend! See you next week for episode 8 (the final one!) of Season Three, Wrapping Up

Your Personal Panty Kickers are back with a Karate chop and a high kick to your BOOTY! Season Three of Kick in the Panties is all about GOALS: setting them, achieving them and moving you to improve your daily life and ignite your self love. In episode 5 we looked closely at our good, bad, best and worst habits and how they relate to our ability to achieve our established goals and this week we talk about how to talk that talk til you’re walking that walk. Sometimes a little belief in what you can do or who you can become is really all you need to level UP! Carolyn says: Think about who you want to be and ask yourself would that person keep the habits you keep? Eat the food you eat? Do the drugs you do? Make time for the “friends” you hang with? If the answer is no then… you know what you gotta do.It should be feeling good to grow into the person you want to be, if it feels bad then maybe you’re on the wrong path.Don’t be afraid to believe in what you can achieve, it may sounds corny, but becoming your biggest fan is powerful! Becca says: Focus on who you are (or who you want to be) not what you do. Share your plans with others, it will motivate you to get positive feedback!Refer to yourself as what you want to be, don’t say, “I’m a person who plays music,” try, “I’m a musician”. Fake it til you make it. RESOURCES: “See It When You Believe It”, by Wayne Dyer“The Success Principles”, by Jack Canfield CAROL’S GOAL: Complete (THE RESEARCH) for a course for C the Girl’s Girl called “Dating to Exclusive”. Obstacles: Procrastination, Limiting beliefs, and Distractions. Support: Meetup groups, family to commit to watching Chase a couple times a week, Books about how to research effectively. Good habit to instill, getting up at 5:30am and putting clothes on in an effort to start the day. BECCA’S GOAL: Learn to play the piano. Obstacles: Time and Money. Support: Piano teacher & Emile to watch kids for 30 minutes. Good habit to instill: Taking a break from working when getting overwhelmed and take that time to do the meditative practice of piano playing. HOMEWORK: Imagine a day in the life of the person you want to be. Is there something that this person does, eats, reads, practices, enjoys, that you can add to your life this week? Do it! We are available on ITUNES, STITCHER, OVERCAST AND SPOTIFY!  Please rate, review, and share a favorite episode with a friend! See you next week for episode 7 of Season Three, Maintenance and Getting Back on the Ole’ Goal Horse

Your Personal Panty Kickers are back with a Karate chop and a high kick to your BOOTY! Season Three of Kick in the Panties is all about GOALS: setting them, achieving them and moving you to improve your daily life and ignite your self love. In episode 4 we talked about figuring out who we need to bring in to help us achieve our big goals. Friends, Mentors, Groups, or books can be powerful tools to propel us toward success. Nothin’ happens in a vacuum, so let’s link up to others to energize and optimize our goals! This week in episode 5, we look closely at our good, bad, best and worst habits and how they relate to our ability to achieve our established goals. Carolyn says: Habits are your life. They determine whether you’re going to be successful more than anything else. I’m sue you could look at a person’s habits and tell whether they are leading happy healthy lives or not. We have these neuropathways in our brains whose connections get stronger every time we do an activity which is really how a habit is made, the pathway gets so strong that a behavior becomes automatic and when you’re trying to change the behavior you are literally trying to carve out or create a new pathway.Read this book Atomic habits by James Clear. It’s my favorite book on habits and I’ve read a lot of them, but this is the only book that has changed me. His book teaches that the tiniest improvements over time actually amount to huge results.Focus on Keystone Habits, these are habits that tend to domino effect into other positive habits. Becca says: Developing clear goals for life that align with strong habits will actually make you happier and change your brain chemistry. Establishing great habits, that you don’t have to think about seems too strict or regimented (and it is for a time) but once you have it down you’re giving yourself more freedom.Take advantage of present bias, and use temptation bundling – doing something you don’t want to do and something you love to do at the dame exact moment. RESOURCES: Atomic Habits by James ClearChange your Brain, Change your Life by Daniel Amen CAROL’S GOAL: Complete (THE RESEARCH) for a course for C the Girl’s Girl called “Dating to Exclusive”. Obstacles: Procrastination, Limiting beliefs, and Distractions. Support: Meetup groups, family to commit to watching Chase a couple times a week, Books about how to research effectively. Good habit to instill, getting up at 5:30am and putting clothes on in an effort to start the day! BECCA’S GOAL: Learn to play the piano. Obstacles: Time and Money. Support: Piano teacher & Emile to watch kids for 30 minutes. Good habit to instill: Taking a break from working when getting overwhelmed and take that time to do the meditative practice of piano playing. HOMEWORK:  Identify the QRR (Cue, Routine, Reward) and use one of these methods to practice that new habit this week. Example: Anxiety, yoga, smoothie Overwhelmed by work, Piano, chocolate covered almonds Use streak building if that motivates you! Go for 5 this week and don’t take no for an answer. We are available on ITUNES, STITCHER, OVERCAST AND SPOTIFY!  Please rate, review, and share a favorite episode with a friend! See you next week for episode 6 of Season Three, Act as if It’s Already Done. Believe It!

Hi Panty Havers! Thanks for tuning in. Today is my birthday and it also happens to be Easter week and Spring Break all rolled in to one. Carol and I tried a couple of times to meet up and record but there was just A LOT going on (per usual :)), so as they say, HEY ITS OKAY! My husband, Emile, admitted that he hasn’t even written his passion test yet, so that got us thinking that you all might be a little behind as well, and that another week to get out of your own way, think about what you might like to do, and start examining your good and bag habits wouldn’t be so bad – so do that! We will see you next Monday for a deep dive on habits, and for this week, this is Becca saying, “what are you gonna do this week?”

Your Personal Panty Kickers are back with a Karate chop and a high kick to your BOOTY! Season Three of Kick in the Panties is all about GOALS: setting them, achieving them and moving you to improve your daily life and ignite your self love. In episode 3 we talked about REAL and IMAGINED obstacles that get in the way of achieving our goals, and how to kick them in the panties. We review those obstacles this week and then move on to figuring out who we need to bring in to help us achieve our big goals. Friends, Mentors, Groups, or books can be powerful tools to propel us toward success. Nothin’ happens in a vacuum, so let’s link up to others to energize and optimize our goals! Carolyn says: If you get off track try to do something small every day in the service of your goal.Doing something will give you so much more clarity than sitting around thinking about it. There are only so many unique ideas for you to have with out input from others.Ask for something specific if you need help, NOT “could you watch my son sometime”, YES “Could you watch Chase for 90 minutes on Tuesdays at 6:00pm for the next 6 weeks”. Becca says: Keep the bigger goal top of mind (with intention) and keep your ears and eyes open for ways to move toward your goal. Linking up with others who have like interests always produces more ideas and vision for the future. Opportunities and energy come from interactions with others. Always follow up with people when they say they will help, otherwise you don’t seem appreciative and they won’t be willing to help next time. CAROL’S GOAL: Complete (THE RESEARCH) for a course for C the Girl’s Girl called “Dating to Exclusive”. Obstacles: Procrastination, Limiting beliefs, and Distractions. Support: Meetup groups, family to commit to watching Chase a couple times a week, Books about how to research effectively. BECCA’S GOAL: Learn to play the piano. Obstacles: Time and Money. Support: Piano teacher! HOMEWORK:  This week we want you to identify 1 person who could help you reach your goal and reach out to that person with a clear request for help, ie: Could you meet me on Tuesdays at 10am for 1 hour for the next 6 weeks to hash out my thoughts?  or watch my kid? or take a video of me doing my thing, etc. We are available on ITUNES, STITCHER, OVERCAST AND SPOTIFY!  Please rate, review, and share a favorite episode with a friend! See you next week for episode 5 of Season Three, Examining Your Habits

Your Personal Panty Kickers are back with a Karate chop and a high kick to your BOOTY! Season Three of Kick in the Panties is all about GOALS: setting them, achieving them and moving you to improve your daily life and ignite your self love. In episode 2 we talked about what to do once you’ve decided what to do and how you chunk big goals into smaller, manageable pieces and then go about the first step to checking off that to-do list. Today we talk about REAL and IMAGINED obstacles that get in the way of achieving our goals, and how to kick them in the panties! Listen up to find out how to remove those pesky obstacles. Carolyn says: Sometimes, when you chunk out your goals you find that you have to create a new goal!Don’t be afraid to get out of your own way. Anytime you push out of your comfort zone you’re going to have attacking thoughts, if you expect them then you can conquer them.Put barriers in place to limit distractions like putting the TV remote in a very hard to reach place. Becca says: If you think you need money or time, use journaling to see where you can eek out some extra hours or $$$.Don’t worry about being good, just focus on what you enjoy!Battling against your limiting beliefs is a life long adventure, keep at it and you’ll continue to improve your self confidence. CAROL’S GOAL: Complete (THE RESEARCH) for a course for C the Girl’s Girl called “Dating to Exclusive”. Obstacles: Procrastination, Limiting beliefs, and Distractions BECCA’S GOAL: Learn to play the piano. Obstacles: Time and Money SOURCES: MINT or YNAB for budgeting Limitless by Jim Quick168 Hours by Laura VanderkamThe Power of Habit by Charles DuhiggA resource on time journaling: https://zapier.com/blog/productivity-journal/Morning Pages (The Artists Way by Julia Cameron) HOMEWORK: Last week you took your big goal and on the left side of a piece of paper you wrote down every thing that would need to happen for you to achieve that goal. This week, you will order those steps and choose the place where you are going to start. Once you’ve selected the first step, on the right side of the paper you will write down every obstacle to getting that done. If the obstacle is REAL, then circle it and employ one the strategies mentioned today to jump over this hurdle (perhaps you need to make this your new goal, in which case get a new piece of paper and start over!). If the obstacle is IMAGINED then strike through it and write the opposite. Example: “I’m too dumb to go to pharmacy school” becomes, “I am smart enough to go to Pharmacy school”. We are available on ITUNES, STITCHER, OVERCAST AND SPOTIFY!  Please rate, review, and share a favorite episode with a friend! See you next week for episode 4 of Season Three, Supporting Characters

Your Personal Panty Kickers are back with a Karate chop and a high kick to your BOOTY! Season Three of Kick in the Panties is all about GOALS: setting them, achieving them and moving you to improve your daily life and ignite your self love. In episode 1 we talked about how to survey your life to see where something could be added to improve your life and add a little more happiness to your day to day. In today’s episode we talk about what to do once you’ve decided what to do! How do you chunk big goals into smaller, manageable pieces and then go about the first step to checking off that to-do list? Listen up to find out. Carolyn says: Any goal will do, don’t obsess about Be sure to use SMART goals: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time Bound. Don’t be too general!Big goals feel scary, but small goals should feel exciting! Becca says: Just having the balls (or ovaries!) just to SAY you are going to do something is the first step.Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good, move on to the next thing when it’s good enough! It’s more important to begin and learn than to be the best on day 1. If your goal is work related, Get 1 person to pay you for your services (or let you use them for free :)). After that the ball will roll for you. CAROL’S GOAL: Complete a course for C the Girl’s Girl called “Dating to Exclusive” BECCA’S GOAL: Learn to play the piano SOURCES: SMART GoalsThe Passion Test – Chris Attwood & Janet Bray Attwood HOMEWORK: Take your big goal and on the left side of a piece of paper write down every thing that would need to happen for you to achieve that goal. The smaller and more specific the steps are the better. We are available on ITUNES, STITCHER, OVERCAST AND SPOTIFY!  Please rate, review, and share a favorite episode with a friend! See you next week for episode 3 of Season Three, Removing Obstacles

Your Personal Panty Kickers are back with a Karate chop and a high kick to your BOOTY! Season Three of Kick in the Panties is all about GOALS: setting them, achieving them and moving you to improve your daily life and ignite your self love. We will be working alongside you this season to achieve some BIG things. But how do I start, you might say? What kind of goal should I begin with? Start today, by getting clarity and trying to figure out, hence the name of this first episode! Carolyn says: Start by getting quiet and introspective about what you’d like to do.Your purpose is being happy! Think about what makes you feel alive.If you feel a void in your life, you may be tempted to fill it with TV, junk food, toxic friends, booze, and drugs. Becca says: Use the Myers Briggs test to find out more about your personality and what activities, jobs, and hobbies are going to appeal to your personality.Sit quietly, unplug, turn off the TV – and listen to what you are saying to yourself. Imagine an ideal day in your life and create a goal to get you closer to that this year. SOURCES: Do What You Are – Tieger & BarronThe Passion Test – Chris Attwood & Janet Bray AttwoodHead Space (app), Calm (app)Myers Briggs – 16personalities.com, myersbriggs.org HOMEWORK: Do the Passion Test. Use the prompt, “I am happiest when I’m…” to create 15 observations about your life. When that’s done order your results by comparing 1 to 2, then 2 to 3, using the prompt, “Am I happier when I #1, or am I happier when I #2?” Move the one that makes you happier up on the list and compare it to the next one. Work your whole list this way. When you have your top 5, decide which of them you’re going to orient your big goal towards and bring that to the next episode. We are available on ITUNES, STITCHER, OVERCAST AND SPOTIFY!  Please rate, review, and share a favorite episode with a friend! See you next week for episode 2 of Season Three, Ready, Set, Goal!

There is a WHOLE NEW SEASON of Kick in the Panties coming out on March 8th, 2021. While we’re waiting for that life changing material, let’s take a detour into your personal Panty Kicker Carol’s life. Time to meet her wonderful son, Courtland. He’s triple the trouble and three times the fun. We’re starting him off with these softballs, tune in to hear his answers! How does it feel to be the son of an international podcast star? What’s one thing that’s on your bucket list? What’s the scariest thing you ever did?What’s one thing you found out about yourself during COVID? What was/is your biggest dealbreaker when it comes to datingWhat advice would you give to yourself 2 years ago  We are so excited to share the new season with you all, please stay tuned. We are available on ITUNES, STITCHER, OVERCAST AND SPOTIFY!  Please rate, review, and share a favorite episode with a friend. See you in March for Season Three of Kick in the Panties! XO Panty Kickers

There is a WHOLE NEW SEASON of Kick in the Panties coming out on March 8th, 2021. While we’re waiting for that life changing material, let’s take a detour into your personal Panty Kicker Becca’s life. Time to meet her wonderful husband, Emile. He’s double the trouble and two times the fun. We’re starting him off with these softballs, tune in to hear his answers! How does it feel to be married to an international podcast star? What’s one thing that’s on your bucket list? What’s one thing you found out about yourself during COVID? What was/is your biggest dealbreaker when it comes to datingWhat advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago  We are so excited to share the new season with you all, please stay tuned. We are available on ITUNES, STITCHER, OVERCAST AND SPOTIFY!  Please rate, review, and share a favorite episode with a friend. See you next week for an intimate interview of KITP kiddo, Cortland! XO Panty Kickers

There is a WHOLE NEW SEASON of Kick in the Panties coming out on March 8th, 2021! Listen in to see what is to come in the new season and to hear what’s happening with your favorite Panty Kickers. There’s no time like the present to start kicking your life’s ass! Here’s what you can look forward to in the new season, an 8 week program to start achieving your goals one step at a time. This year is the year to make THAT change! Get some clarity on what you want to doRemove obstaclesMake a solid and attainable goalMeet your supporting castExamine your habitsAct as ifGet back on the horseRe-cap your success! We are so excited to share this with you all, please stay tuned! We are available on ITUNES, STITCHER, OVERCAST AND SPOTIFY!  Please rate, review, and share a favorite episode with a friend! See you next week for an intimate interview of KITP husband, Emile! XO Panty Kickers

It’s been a loooong time panty people! Catch up with your panty kickers who have been in Covid toilet swirl for the last 9 months. We have missed being here for you (& for each other too!). Stay tuned for some catch up episodes and for a WHOLE NEW SEASON coming out on March 8th, 2021! There’s no time like the present to start kicking your life’s ass. “Real change, enduring change, happens one step at a time.” -RBG Coping Mechanisms by Carol: Be present: enjoy your feet on the floor, feel how your hands are placed, notice your surroundings.DoodlingDrinking and smoking weed – Psych! NOT drinking and smoking weed, oh yeah- that’s the one! Coping Mechanisms by Becca: Give to those you care about, or to causes you care about.Spend time with your family, enjoy them!Run! We are available on ITUNES, STITCHER, OVERCAST AND SPOTIFY!  Please rate, review, and share a favorite episode with a friend! See you next week for a preview of the upcoming season of KITP XO Panty Kickers

So many singles are currently asking themselves the question, “how do I bring a relationship from something casual to that life long commitment?” The Panty Kickers have some hot tips on how to get serious with no bologna! Carolyn says: Give yourself around 6 months to get to exclusive. 3 months for causal dating and 3 months of exclusive dating. At the end of 6 months be real about moving forward or not!Casual should be about connecting and initial chemistry. Exclusive should be like a “temp” period where you are really trying the relationship on for size. Becca says: The Carlton:  If you have something that you feel is a pressing part of who you are don’t wait too long to disclose.The Marc:  Never, ever accept someone’s disrespect because  you like them.  If they aren’t giving you back 100% of what you’re giving them do not fight for that imbalance.The Cameron: Check in! Don’t be annoying about it, but don’t be afraid to ask how the person you are dating is feeling about where the relationship is going. HOMEWORK: Interview your favorite couple, who you most admire, and ask them how they got from casual to exclusive to real.  You may be surprised by what you find! We are available on ITUNES, STITCHER, OVERCAST AND SPOTIFY!  Please rate, review, and share a favorite episode with a friend! See you next week for Shayla’s Q&A: “I’ve been dating this guy for a year, he’s met my family and even come over for thanksgiving.  I’ve yet to meet his family and he says it’s because his mother is really judgmental and he wants to spare my feelings. What the hell is that supposed to mean??” and for our next full-length episode: Empathy for Your Partner XO Panty Kickers

SHOW NOTES – Q&A 24, Season 2 Brit writes: “Hi B+C, I’m learning that traditional relationships (monogamous single partner relationships) are not going to work for me. Unfortunately, years of being raised in a society that pushes this type of relationship on us all keeps popping it’s head up when I try to explore new styles of relationships. Do you have any suggestions on ways I can unlearn and break down some of the expectations that come along with these learned traditional relationship behaviors?”  Carolyn + Becca say: Do what makes YOU happy and don’t worry about anyone else!Find like minded people to share your thoughts with and pump them for information on how to make it all work.Find someone whose freak flag flies in tandem with yours, or do a little soul searching to find what you are comfortable paying to get your own slice of freedom.Always be upfront and honest with your partners about what the “ideal” scenario for you would be.Go toward your joy!Emphasis to friends and family how happy and sane you are, if you are! We would LOVE to answer your questions!  Please DM us on Instagram @kickinthepanties or be like Melissa and use the “write to us” button on our website, kickinthepanties.com See you next week for a full length episode: Casual, Exclusive, Real xoxo Carolyn and Becca

Psychology today says: Boundaries can be defined as the limits we set with other people, which indicate what we find acceptable and unacceptable in their behavior towards us. Join the Panty Kickers for an important discussion about how setting boundaries can make you a whole and healthy person. Carolyn says: Get some self awareness: What are your dealbreakers? What are you willing to accept?Remember that you are them most important person in your life and your opinion of yourself is what really matters.Teach people how to treat you. Becca says: The first step in understanding and setting boundaries that matter is to do an audit.  Really think about times in your life where others actions made you feel uncomfortable and examine what the stem cause of that is.Expect some people to walk away (or force you to push them away) when you boundary check – not everyone will be comfortable with you asserting yourself in a clear way. Follow your gut.  Your body always lets you know when a boundary is being crossed in your life.  HOMEWORK: Are you someone who always prioritizes other’s needs above your own?  Do you struggle with saying no and setting personal boundaries?  This week, say no to something you don’t want to do and don’t make an excuse.  Just say simply “No, thank you”,  or “No, I can’t help with that this week.” and see how liberating it is to set 1 simply boundary around time.  If someone asks you to take their shift at work, say, “no”.  If someone asks you for a dollar on the street, say, “no”.  If someone asks you for your number, say, “no”.  Practicing the all powerful, “no” can be a great way to begin asserting your boundaries. We are available on ITUNES, STITCHER, OVERCAST AND SPOTIFY!  Please rate, review, and share a favorite episode with a friend! See you next week for Brit Q&A: “Dear B+C, I’m learning that traditional relationships (monogamous single partner relationships) are not going to work for me. Unfortunately years of being raised in a society that pushes this type of relationship on us all keeps popping it’s head up when I try to explore new styles of relationships. Do you have any suggestions on ways I can unlearn and break down some of the expectations that come along with these learned traditional relationship behaviors?” and for our next full-length episode: How to get from casual dating, to exclusive, to real relationship XO Panty Kickers

This week Carol is in California and Becca is buried under the weight of 100 projects to finish up (& Mardi Gras!). We will be back next week with a full length episode on Boundaries but in the meantime, enjoy this old classic: Limiting Beliefs

SHOW NOTES – Q&A 23, Season 2 Devon writes: “Dear panty kickers I’ve been dating this guy for a few months but I don’t think it’s going anywhere. I want to break it off with him, but since we’ve only spent a short amount of time together do I owe him an explanation? I want to just ghost him but I hate when that happens to me! How do I end something that didn’t even begin? Help!!”  Carolyn says: Don’t do it!There is a difference between the “slow fade” and straight up ghosting.Consider how many intimate moments you have shared with each other before you decide how to end the relationship. Becca says: Don’t do it, it’s rude!Be part of a new community of people who will hold others accountable for crappy online dating behavior.You never know when this person may pop up in your future, be wise. Follow the golden rule, do unto others… We would LOVE to answer your questions!  Please DM us on Instagram @kickinthepanties or be like Melissa and use the “write to us” button on our website, kickinthepanties.com See you next week for a full length episode: Boundaries xoxo Carolyn and Becca

What is “real” life? We are so attached to our computers, phones, tablets, and TVs – are we living “real” life? Are we being present with our partners? And if not, are we allowing romance into our lives? The Panty Kickers help you find real life romance this week on Kick on the Panties, enjoy! Carolyn says: Remember it’s all bullshit. Likes and comments on a pic you posted should not be your validation that somebody cares about you. It matters way more how they treat you in real life.Does this really matter to you or are you showing off for other people? Examining your own motivations is a really great first step to unplugging.Don’t over complicate something that can already be complicated, relationships are hard enough with out a layer of tech. Becca says: The number one key to finding real life romance is to totally UNPLUG a few times a week and at least once a day. Notice your surroundings, are you letting life pass you by with you nose in your phone?  If you’re single, are you missing possible connections in the world simply because you aren’t leaving yourself open to seeing them?In a marriage, keep the romance going by A) sharing your feelings, B) making sex happen, C) show your partner you care. HOMEWORK: PUT YOUR PHONE DOWN! …after you listen to this We are available on ITUNES, STITCHER, OVERCAST AND SPOTIFY!  Please rate, review, and share a favorite episode with a friend! See you next week for Devon’s Q&A: “Dear panty kickers I’ve been dating this guy for a few months but I don’t think it’s going anywhere. I want to break it off with him, but since we’ve only spent a short amount of time together do I owe him an explanation? I want to just ghost him but I hate when that happens to me! How do I end something that didn’t even begin? Help!! “, and for our next full-length episode: Boundaries XO Panty Kickers

SHOW NOTES – Q&A 22, Season 2 Melissa writes: “Dear Panty Kickers, I want to see my ex one more time for closure, is that a bad idea?” Carolyn says: Don’t do it!You cannot ask the person who did the damage to feel the damage.What would the perfect scenario be if you could sit down and get closure – it’s not going to happen!You broke up for a reason, let time heal your wounds. Becca says: You need a lot of space and time before seeking closure of any kind.Try to see that the person CANNOT give you what you need, instead of thinking that they are holding it back.You’ll never be able to force the person to say what you want them to say, and even if you can, you’ll know they don’t mean it!If you are seeking forgiveness of yourself or someone else, give it time and then be open and honest about why you’re reaching out- now that’s the kind of closure we could all benefit from! We would LOVE to answer your questions!  Please DM us on Instagram @kickinthepanties or be like Melissa and use the “write to us” button on our website, kickinthepanties.com See you next week for a full length episode: Real Life Romance xoxo Carolyn and Becca