006. 5 reasons to date right away after a breakup
There’s a common misconception that we need time to heal after a relationship goes south. But it doesn’t really help to wait, and we may never really be fully ready. In fact, our need to wait could be just be a fear-based protection mechanism, and we need to bust right through it! Here are 5 reasons to date right away after a breakup: 1. Because we need someone to love If we get laid off from a job, we don’t say to ourselves, "I need some time to recover from that job before I go look for another job." No! if we need a job, we keep searching until we find one. When it comes to a relationship, we may pride ourselves on not “needing a man”, which is fine, but we can all agree that it’s nice to have a companion to go through life with. There’s nothing wrong with wanting that for ourselves. We should get back out there and keep looking for that special person—the RIGHT one this time. 2. Because even if we’re not ready, we need practice If we are coming off a lengthy marriage or a long, horrible relationship, we may in fact need a little time to recover. Still, we can go out on dates, if only to practice our dating skills (check out my new free course “First Date Mastery”, if you need some help with that). If we’ve been off the market for a while, we may find that dating has changed and we need to get used to it again. Some of us haven’t dated since the pre Internet. We need to get back out there! Practice, practice, practice, so that when Mr. Right comes along we don’t mess it up. 3. We may never be ready in the way we expect If we wait until we feel fully confident, or even until we have reached a certain physical appearance, such as an exact weight, we may never get back out there. We should put our best foot forward and go out on dates as soon as possible. Life really never gets to be problem free anyway; we might as well live it. On dates, we simply stash all our negative thoughts away in a corner of our brain, put on our heels and a short skirt, and smile. We should act as if. 4. So that guy doesn’t mess up our life even more than he already has Ok, nearly everyone who reaches a c