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Many of us have experienced a male who won’t commit and it’s incredibly frustrating and also a real confidence zapper. A guy may even tell us that he has a “problem with commitment” (and we keep dating him why??). However, guys can and do commit if they come across a woman who dates with self-esteem. It all comes down to the way a woman acts, especially in the early stages of a relationship. Ladies, please spare yourself any more of that man pain and date with self-esteem OK? OK! Register for my free live webinar "Dating with self esteem"  August 2nd, 2017, 12PM EDT Here are 6 things that make a guy commit: 1. You let him initiate the relationship In this day and age where it’s considered OK for women to ask men out, it may seem old fashioned to wait for the guy to do it, but we must, or we will likely end up with a guy who doesn’t want to commit. A man may be flattered if we ask him out. He may even tell us this (so don’t bother asking him). But unless a guy goes into hunter mode when he sees us, stalks us from across the room, comes up to us, asks for our number, and calls us within a day or so to ask us out, it ain’t supposed to happen. This is biology. It has nothing to do with morals, feminism or anything else. Man must pursue woman or it will all go wonky. The same goes for online dating. A man must select our profile; we should not select his profile and reach out to him first. Again, there will be women reading this who think this is ridiculous. “I mean I own my own company or I’m a [insert prestigious job title here], why can’t I ask a man out?” Well you can. But if you want a committed guy rather than one who is on the fence, let him do the asking. If you never get asked out, put your best pic and a short, sensible profile on eHarmony and let the games begin. 2. You give him enough room to pursue you Assuming a guy has asked you out, you then want to let things unfold naturally. There are a strict set of

In today’s episode, I talk about gifts that men buy when they are in love, and conversely, gifts they avoid buying when they are not in love. Some of them may surprise you! Anyway, even if this seems like a trivial topic, it’s really not. The gifts a man buys will show you whether or not he is ever going to propose. If he’s not, and it’s marriage we want, there is nothing to do except move on if he isn’t in love. Today’s freebie is a pdf with links to a few gifts that you can buy yourself. These are designed to make you feel better while you figure out if your guy views you as a just for now girl or if he is really in love. Enjoy! FREE COURSE: Ever wonder what’s the best way to act on a first date? Are you tired of thinking a date with a new guy went really well only to never hear from a him again?  It could be that you are unknowingly doing something to turn him off. Check out my free course, First Date Mastery.  I cover the ins and outs of how to be successful on a first date with a man you like so that he will call you again. If you take this free course, you will feel more confident and you will increase your chances that he’ll ask you out again. UPCOMING RELATIONSHIP MASTERMIND: The next one will start on August 14th, 2017. If you are listening to this episode after that date, please check out katejunwald.com for details. Are you tired of failed relationships? Do you feel as though you will never meet the right guy and get happily married? My application only relationship mastermind, “90 Days to Mr. Right”, is for single women wanting step-by-step guidance and group support to help them meet and effectively date Mr. Right. Please visit my website at katejunwald.com for details.  

Today I am talking about how to know if online guy is for real. One of the biggest complaints I hear from my coaching clients is that online dating is full of weirdos and scammers and is therefore not a good way to meet a guy. I’d like to debunk that myth, because online dating can be a great place to meet men—IF we know how to separate the good from the bad. These telltale signs will help you stay on the right track when it comes to sticking with the good guys. Here are the things to look for: 1. He reaches out respectfully 2. He actually asks us out 3. No more than coffee for the first date 4. Everything he says rings true 5. The second date is a real date Download free pdf check list to keep you out of trouble when you are online dating.

Hi I am dating and relationship coach Kate Junwald. My mission is to help women succeed in relationships and meet and marry their Mr. Right. I do that by helping you date with self esteem and avoid man pain! Here are the steps for dating with self esteem: Download free pdf that summarizes these steps. 1. Be the best you 2. Don't text or call him first 3. Don't see him too much 4. Don't buy him anything 5. Don't have sex before you are exclusive 6. Don't ask where the relationship is going.   Take the quiz: Are you dating with self esteem? Ever wonder what’s the best way to act on a first date? Are you tired of thinking a date with a new guy went really well only to never hear from a him again?  It could be you are unknowingly doing something to turn him off. Check out my free course, First date Mastery.  I cover the ins and outs of how to be successful on a first date with a man you like so that he will call you again. If you take this free course, you will feel more confident and you will increase your chances that he’ll ask you out again. Do you have a question you’d like to be answered on the podcast, please go to https://www.katejunwald.com/podcast/. You can leave a voicemail there and I will answer it on the air. Are you tired of failed relationships? Do you feel as though you will never meet the right guy and get happily married? My online course, “90 Days to Mr. Right” is for single women wanting step-by-step guidance and group coaching support to help them meet and effectively date Mr. Right. Please visit my website at katejunwald.com for details.  

There’s a common misconception that we need time to heal after a relationship goes south. But it doesn’t really help to wait, and we may never really be fully ready. In fact, our need to wait could be just be a fear-based protection mechanism, and we need to bust right through it! Here are 5 reasons to date right away after a breakup: 1. Because we need someone to love If we get laid off from a job, we don’t say to ourselves, "I need some time to recover from that job before I go look for another job." No! if we need a job, we keep searching until we find one. When it comes to a relationship, we may pride ourselves on not “needing a man”, which is fine, but we can all agree that it’s nice to have a companion to go through life with. There’s nothing wrong with wanting that for ourselves. We should get back out there and keep looking for that special person—the RIGHT one this time. 2. Because even if we’re not ready, we need practice If we are coming off a lengthy marriage or a long, horrible relationship, we may in fact need a little time to recover. Still, we can go out on dates, if only to practice our dating skills (check out my new free course “First Date Mastery”, if you need some help with that).  If we’ve been off the market for a while, we may find that dating has changed and we need to get used to it again. Some of us haven’t dated since the pre Internet. We need to get back out there! Practice, practice, practice, so that when Mr. Right comes along we don’t mess it up. 3. We may never be ready in the way we expect If we wait until we feel fully confident, or even until we have reached a certain physical appearance, such as an exact weight, we may never get back out there. We should put our best foot forward and go out on dates as soon as possible. Life really never gets to be problem free anyway; we might as well live it. On dates, we simply stash all our negative thoughts away in a corner of our brain, put on our heels and a short skirt, and smile. We should act as if. 4. So that guy doesn’t mess up our life even more than he already has Ok, nearly everyone who reaches a c

Guys will say many things to a woman to get them into bed, but if we really want to know how a man feels, we should pay less attention to what he says and more attention to what he does! Here are 5 tell tale signs he's into you: There's a warm, open feeling coming from him He Includes us in the future He Never Skips Saturday nights or holidays Complete access to friends and family We actually go out on dates Ever wonder what’s the best way to act on a first date? Are you tired of thinking a date with a new guy went really well only to never hear from a him again?  It could be you are unknowingly doing something to turn him off. Check out my free course, First date Mastery.  I cover the ins and outs of how to be successful on a first date with a man you like so that he will call you again. If you take this free course, you will feel more confident and you will increase your chances that he’ll ask you out again. Do you have a question you’d like to be answered on the podcast, please go to https://www.katejunwald.com/podcast/. You can leave a voicemail there and I will answer it on the air. Are you tired of failed relationships? Do you feel as though you will never meet the right guy and get happily married? My online course, “Meet Mr. Right in 90 Days” is for single women wanting step-by-step guidance to help them meet and effectively date Mr. Right. Please go to my website at katejunwald.com for details.

Hi I am dating and relationship coach Kate Junwald. My mission is to help women succeed in relationships and meet and marry their Mr. Right. I do that by helping you date with self esteem and avoid man pain! Today I am talking about things you can do to AFFAIR PROOF your relationship. Take my short quiz to see if your relationship is affair proofed!   Here are 8 ways to affair proof your relationship. Some are easy, and some are not! 1.     Pick wisely Most men will not cheat on a woman they love, especially if the woman did nothing to force the relationship or “trap” him into commitment. However, a small portion of unsavory men out there will cheat on us no matter what we do. Usually we can detect this type of man in the early stages of dating. If a man shows signs of infidelity while we are dating him, then it’s up to us to rule him out immediately. Buy-bye. If we choose to accept his behavior by marrying him, then we have, ummmm, chosen to accept his behavior. We shouldn’t expect him to change. This is one of the reasons we date—to find out whether we should commit to him. If he strays while we are dating, then he almost certainly will when we marry him. 2.     Avoid worrying about infidelity If we have decided to love a man, and we’ve determined he’s not one of the unsavory cheating types, then we should try to trust him completely. That means not looking at his phone when a text comes in, not going through his stuff, and definitely not logging into any of his online accounts (which is actually illegal). This type of behavior, paradoxically, may even drive him to cheat. Chronic jealousy is a hard thing to live with. It’s like living on eggshells. You are always having to prove your innocence, and that’s no fun. So, don’t be that woman who is always questioning whether he finds another woman attractive or checking up on him. The answer may be “Yes” he does find the woman attractive, and that’s actually OK. Our g

Hi I am dating and relationship coach Kate Junwald. My mission is to help women succeed in relationships and meet and marry their Mr. Right. I do that by helping you date with self esteem and avoid man pain! Download your free list of manly presents you can buy your guy here. Today I am talking about 10 ways to show your guy you love him. Depending on the current state of our marriage or relationship, we may not feel one ounce of obligation to show our husband we love him. We may say “What has he done for us lately?” Even if we feel that way, it never hurts to be kind and loving anyway. We can try the 10 approaches below for a week and see if it doesn’t turn things around. Or if things are already going well, see if it helps things go even better. One important point: these are ways of being that don’t require anything from our husband, so we should not tell him what we are doing. It would be interesting to see the effect without him knowing about it right? 1. Quit nagging him 2. Thank him 3. Smile 4. Look good 5. Agree with him 6. Cook for him 7. Watch the game with him 8. Be positive 9. Ramp up the sex 10. Speak well of him Ever wonder what’s the best way to act on a first date? Are you tired of thinking a date with a new guy went really well only to never hear from a him again?  It could be you are unknowingly doing something to turn him off. Check out my free course, First date Mastery.  I cover the ins and outs of how to be successful on a first date with a man you like so that he will call you again. If you take this free course, you will feel more confident and you

Hi I am dating and relationship coach Kate Junwald. My mission is to help women succeed in relationships and meet and marry their Mr. Right. I do that by helping you date with self esteem and avoid man pain!   access my quiz--do you irritate your guy without knowing? He wishes we wouldn’t talk so much Unfortunate but true. This is not all women and all men, but it’s likely that as a woman we are more verbal than our husband. He probably wouldn’t have married us if we talked w-a-a-a-a-a-a-y more then he could handle. However, have we ever heard of a husband tell his wife that he wishes she’d talk more? No. We haven’t. Try adding in long gaps of silence during car rides or at dinner and see what happens. It may lead to better conversation, or even proclamations of love. Be that demure, mysterious girl he went on a first date with. Definitely keep a smile on your face in your silence, otherwise he may think he’s in trouble with the silent treatment if he’s not used to it! He wishes it were enough that he married us rather than having to romance us too. Any husband who loves his wife genuinely feels inspired to buy her flowers and/or jewelry from time to time. But many of us can’t get enough of that type of thing, and for some of us, it doesn’t happen often enough. We should not tell him we need him to buy us more flowers though. Instead, we need to look the best we can, act like the girl he used to date, be pleasant, and buy ourselves flowers if we have to. In fact, it’s good to do at least one thing we enjoy just for ourselves each day so we don’t look to him all the time to make us happy and to validate his love for us. The less we ask for, the more we will probably get. He wishes we knew that our diet talk bores him ... and that you do NOT look fat in those jeans; OK maybe you do, but obviously he’s not going to say that. Many of us after we get married put on a few pounds. If he loves us so much that he married us, he is probably not even going to notice a few pounds. OK he may notice it, but he loves us, so it’s not a big deal. What is a big deal is our being chronically unhappy about our body and talking negatively about ourselves all the time. Also, we start covering ourselves up in his presence, so he never gets to see his naked wife ever! What’s a

5 rules for texting when you first start dating These rules for texting are based on advice in Not Your Mother's Rules: The New Secrets for Dating (The Rules), especially Rule #3 “Don’t talk to or text a guy first.” If you haven’t read that book, then none of my blog posts will make sense! So please read that first. 1.     Do NOT text first ever! It’s very difficult in the day and age of instant, rapid communication to wait for him to text us. In addition, we ladies can become very creative when it comes to inventing ideas to text him. “Surely I can just text him to tell him I enjoyed dinner?” Nope. We should not even do that. “Won’t he think I am rude?” Nope. If he likes you, he won’t think that at all. He will be worrying about how he can continue to impress you and ask you out again, so you say "yes".  If we are not used to stepping back and letting him text us first, we may feel all kinds of emotions, such as anxiety and emptiness. But creating that chasm between us and our new man will give him the space he needs to pursue us. And trust, me, he will probably say something like, “wow you are the first woman who hasn’t blown up my phone with texts,” and feel incredibly attracted to you, immediately placing you in the “special” category. Try not texting him first ever. If we are in the first 3 months of dating, and we haven’t been doing this until now, then it’s OK to start now. Just try it and see what happens. He may wonder what’s going on. Just say “oh no, nothing’s wrong, I am just so busy with ­­­______ right now :)”. Even if we are married, it’s always better if we wait until our husbands text us. An exception would be if there are scheduling or logistical issues, where we need a quick response. Always better to hold off and not text out of neediness or boredom if we can though. See, this stuff never ends, even after we are married! 2.     Wait 4 hours before texting back the first time and 30 minutes after that Not only do we have to wait for him to text us, we also have to wait before we respond. The recommended wait times are 4 hours when he texts you for the first time. 4 hours??? Yup. And possibly longer if you are over 40 and aren’t typically glued to your phone. Maybe you are busy with a tennis tournament, at a long business meeting, or