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Sorry for the silence y'all but we've been working on some things behind the scenes that we're really excited to share super soon. Not only that, we've been in a long distance friendship for the past month while Marissa was off on another corporate gallivant in America... but we're back and oh, how we've missed you all. This week, we get a little woo woo and explore what it really means when we say 'protect your energy' and how to tell when you've done it right. We also call out 'unconditional love' as being a pretty dangerous concept when it comes to relationships... do you think it should exist? We don't. We break down why. 

We're all about figuring out the best ways to avoid the drama... but let's be honest. Sometimes, you just gotta stand up and fight. This week, we're reflecting on the ways we deal with conflict with our loved ones, and whether our fighting habits actually serve us. Because as much as our love languages have helped us figure out a lot, knowing how we deal with conflict together is equally as important. We may not have all the answers, but here's what we've figured out so far. 

On this week's vibe check, Marissa and Hanli over-share (as per usual) – from the perils of Plan B to embracing our inner brat and  our inner aunties... so prepare yourselves for our unsolicited advice. We also get deep into trying to work out what it really means to gain a sense of 'clarity' in your life, whether it's in your love life, your personal finances or even just who you want to be when you grow up. 

First of all, happy belated birthday to us. We're three! Second of all, welcome to season five. Can you believe it? We can't. In honour of our GROWTH, we take a hot minute to reflect on what we've learned about ourselves lately... from three-day hangovers to battles with perfectionism. It's finally dawned on Marissa that great things can happen when you get out of your own way, while Hanli talks about whether closure is a little overrated. 

Happy new year babies! Oh how we've missed you. We're wrapping up this season by reflecting on everything life threw at us over the past year – from heartbreaks and new love, to stepping out of our comfort zones and learning how to befriend our fears. We figure out the difference between being vulnerable versus being 'open book', why we might need to make new friends, and what it's going to take to actually love our bodies. Most importantly, dear listeners... we want to take a moment to share how much you mean to us. We're almost 3 years old and none of this would have been possible without your support. We LOVE you. 

This week, we're throwing back to the sheer chaos of Marissa's 31st birthday celebrations before getting deep into this years ~*reflections*~.  From embracing new kinds of chaos, to learning the difference between the kind of love we think we need versus what we actually deserve. We made some mad breakthroughs this episode...  but not before we go down a dirty little Urban Dictionary rabbit hole. Because at the end of the day, let's be real. We'll never truly grow up. 

Hello babies. This week, we want to give you some big sister advice when it comes to building self trust and learning how to bring the full version of yourself to the table. We deconstruct different dating patterns, talk about how to write a forgiveness letter,  and introduce you to some of our many personalities (there are a lot of them). 

It's been a minute guys but we've finally caught up on life admin... but most importantly, we're back on these airwaves with so much to catch you guys up on. Hanli and Marissa have revived a little of their faith in men and spill the tea on their cheeky little holiday flings. We talk about how the kinds of hook ups we look for have changed as we've gotten older, why you should always keep your toys charged, and how we can change the world one orgasm at a time. 

First up – big announcement. Hanli plans to host women's circles in Singapore, where women  are invited to connect, share and build community. It's going to be magic. DM us to take part.This week, we're on a bit of a see-saw. Marissa and Hanli can feel a special energy in the air as the world continues to open up. Hanli is on the verge of entering her villain era and ain't nothing gonna slow her down... except for her new potato allergy. (No, really.) Marissa, on the other hand, is catching herself in a dip and giving herself a moment to reset and come back stronger.  And finally, we spill some hot tea about a certain snake in the grass. You won't believe the nerve. The audacity. The outrage.We also want to make a special shoutout to the men that have started tuning into the podcast. We see you, we love you. Welcome to the show! (Psst, give us 5 stars on Spotify, thx bb.)

This week, we needed to slow down and just give ourselves a little TLC. Marissa deals with the worst of her inner self-critic and what happens when you let that negative voice get too loud. Hanli is processing the next chapter of her heartbreak and the losses you don't anticipate. We also talk about a recent article titled "The Rise of Lonely Single Men" and how our expectations of our partners are changing the way we date – from how we seek out emotional support and whether it's our job to push the men in our lives to do "the work". 

We're coming in hot. This episode, we spill all about Hanli's 30th butterfly disco party in Bali – from a raw-yet-grounding cacao ceremony, to a sound therapy session that unlocked something within Marissa.  Hanli reveals what she's been working through over the past month (brace yourselves for heartache). We also get knee deep in the work we're still doing for ourselves, from practicing the act of "receiving", softening into our feminine energy, and stepping out of our comfort zones in a really big way.

Hanli just turned 30 and it's a pretty big deal. We reflect on how sometimes even a birthday feels like everything is getting shaken up. Some call it Saturn's Return. Some call it just part of growing up. Either way, a lot of reflections are bubbling to the surface, so naturally we wanna talk about it. We talk about whether we believe in 'the one', why self-honesty is harder than it sounds, and entering your villain era.

Surprise! It's us! Sorry for the radio silence, we really didn't mean to ghost you. We were each on a little world tour of our own, bouncing between weddings, catching covid and powering through business trips... and we might have gotten a little carried away. But if there's anything we learned, it's that we MISSED you guys. In this catch-up episode, we share a few little highlights from our adventures abroad, getting back in your groove after having your confidence knocked, and the big difference between self-confidence, self-worth and self-esteem. 

We know, we know. We were MIA again but listen. We were out collecting life experiences to share and guys, we got a lot. This week, we wanna talk about when it's okay to be the bigger bitch. When we can let ourselves be petty. When we see the high road and think, 'nah, too uphill for me'. We've ALL been there... so let's talk about it. We cover why sometimes we need to lean into our anger, what our 'rage rituals' look like, and how we say sorry. 

**Trigger warning: eating disorders.** For the first time, Marissa tells the story of her eating disorder, from its troubling beginnings 11 years ago to the present day.  In this timeline of events, Marissa shares the moment she realised she was in crisis, hitting rock bottom (multiple times), what was truly going through her mind, the challenge of getting help, and the rollercoaster that has been her recovery. We'll be blunt; this episode gets very heavy... but we hope you give it a listen.

Marissa and Hanli reunite after a couple weeks apart with plenty of stories to tell. Marissa's taking her power back by buying an overpriced egg t-shirt. Hanli explains what it means to truly become her own boss. We both reflect on what we might miss about the pandemic, what odd heirlooms we want to pass down to our future spawn and what the opposite of generational trauma is. And guys, did we mention you can finally watch our full videos on Hanli's YouTube channel? For real this time. Watch here.

Happy birthday to us! We're two years old... and we'd like to think we're just a lil bit wiser. On the theme of International Women's Day, we're figuring out what being 'that girl' means to us. You know the type. Health. Career. Social life. Finances. The whole package. The girl who has it all. But is aspiring to be her actually THAT healthy or is it even low-key toxic? We're also talking about the parts of modern womanhood that NO ONE prepared us for... and how we're coming to define being a woman on our own terms. Watch the full episode.

Is anyone else's energy just completely tapped lately? The world feels like it's burning and let's be real – it feels like we can't do much other than sit and watch. This episode, Hanli and Marissa chat about how in the wake of an international crisis, we're a lot more connected to one another than we think. Plus we're talking about the 'comparison trap' between who you are now and who you used to be, and which version of yourself you actually prefer. Watch the full episode.

Happy V-Day! On this week's exclusive episode, Marissa and her very own sister, Caitlin Trew, talk all things online dating – from Hinge and Bumble to the notorious Tinder. They cover how to build a dating profile with the perfect ratio of thirst trap:wife material, and the weird, wonderful and downright awkward encounters they've had, both online and offline. Buckle up guys, this one’s a ride.

Happy new year guys! We know, we know. It's been a long time but thank you for being patient with us. So much has happened and we just needed a moment to live it, process it, reflect on it... you know the drill. This episode, we're going straight in. Marissa shares her struggles with grief over the recent loss of her grandmother and losing the battle to that toxic little voice inside of her head. We also cover triggering family dynamics, changing relationships with your parents, and how we're entering 2022 with a bit of a quieter bang.