33 minutes | Jun 12, 2020

Trusting God Through Difficult Situations

Change can be a terrifying thing for numerous reasons. Whether it be the fear of the unknown or the work involved with change, change can be challenging. Today on the podcast, guest Cami shares her story of learning how to trust God in whatever happens. It’s in these moments that she realized God can be trusted and that He often provides in ways we don’t see. Transcript Cami: I can’t control it. Like I have no control over the situation. God has complete control. So whatever happens, I just have to trust whatever God brings with it. Announcer: Your life, your journey, starts now.  Annie: Welcome to the journey podcast, where we care deeply about real and authentic relationships. Today we have with us Cami. We’re going to talk today a little bit about family stressors in the midst of this worldwide pandemic that we have going on. How we’re handling them, how we’re handling them as a family, how we’re navigating through them. We hope that it’s encouraging and uplifting to each one of our listeners.  So I wanted to introduce who I have with me today. I have Cami with me, Terry and then myself, Annie. And so Cami, do you just want to tell us a little bit about yourself?  Cami: Yeah. My name is Cami. I have three kids, 10, seven, and four. I am a stay at home mom and, yeah, that’s kind of our life.  Annie: So what do you like to do for fun?  Cami: Oh, for fun. We enjoy, we really enjoy warm weather, which is kind of hard with where we live. We love being outside when it’s warm. My kids love riding their bikes. We love taking bike rides together. We like even just going to the baseball fields and playing catch with each other and doing a little baseball games as a family. We love swimming. We love vacations together.  Annie: It’s all around American family. So I wanted to ask you a little bit about your initial reaction to this global pandemic.  Like what, how did you initially react and were there changes that you made or, different ways of thinking about it and how did you help your family during this time? Cami: When it first started coming up, I was very leery, of what actually was the truth behind all of it. Just cause it seemed kind of odd and strange and, like, I had some people on my Facebook feed saying, Oh, I’ve been seeing this coming for months and I’ve been prepared and we’ve been stocking up then, then others, it was kind of like a huge shock.  So I was, I was kind of, I guess, in the middle of that and in between the two of those. That was kind of one of those things trying to like figure out like, okay, I don’t want to be silly and like, stock up like crazy, but if that’s what I’m supposed to do then I don’t want to be, you know, on the other side of not being wise and not having what my family needs as well. I definitely would say I played more on the side of, I didn’t really prepare like a huge, huge amount. I didn’t stock up on things immensely. I just kinda took it day by day as the news came out of what things were closing, what was happening. As far as school closures go again, just kind of took it day by day and see. Annie: Did you see an increase in your family’s stress level? Cami: Yeah, the first week when schools were canceled, I remember it was very stressful and it was just trying to get in that routine of like, okay, what does this look like? And the unknown, the fear of the unknown, I think was a lot for me. And trying to navigate that of, okay, like, if this is now our reality for the rest of the year, cause people are already talking about that at that time. What does that look like for a family? How do I do that with teaching the kids cause, I quickly realized I’m not a teacher for a reason. My kids really missed their teacher, as far as being at school, not so much. But they would joke that I wasn’t a very good teacher.  So yeah, just trying to navigate all the time that we’re spending together. Making all the kids get along, and myself get along with everyone. My husband was still working his normal 60 plus hours a week, and so then he would come home and the kids were going crazy. So that made him go a little bit more crazy than normal. And I was like, no, no, no. It’s okay. Like they’re children, like it’s okay. They can be wild and crazy in the house for awhile because we’re all just trying to get through this. Annie: Was there any, I mean, you touched a little bit about having a good routine, but was there anything in particular you did to be, I guess, less stressed or more calmed or having a new normal, was there something that you remember thinking or doing? Cami: I remember one night. Cause we had like, I kind of tried to make a routine of like, okay, let’s still go to bed at a decent time and wake up and do school and do it this way. And that just didn’t really work for our family.  I remember one night I posted a Facebook status or something about, or maybe it was on Instagram, I don’t remember that it was 11 o’clock and my four year old and seven year old were still awake, giggling like crazy with each other. That same morning, earlier, my seven-year-old didn’t wake up til 10 o’clock in the morning that day. And so I was like, you know what? Like for our family, with my husband’s schedule, cause like I said, he was still working normal hours. He doesn’t get home a lot of nights till 8:30pm at the earliest. And so for my kids, they still wanted to see him. Cause typically on school nights they don’t see him. And so I just decided, you know what, we’re just going to kind of make it more of a summer schedule for right now for what it is. And if they go to bed 10 o’clock or 11 o’clock, then that’s okay. And my kids sleep in, so that works for us. So we just definitely, I tried definitely to be more laid back about it.  And if we, in a lot of times we didn’t start school, like “school”, if you want to call it that, until 10 or later every morning, and that’s what worked for us. So I just kind of tried to go with what worked for our family and not try to make such a strict schedule that it made everyone cranky with each other.  Annie: So how did you figure out, like, what works for your family?  Cami: The opposite. I would probably say the opposition that I would get from my kids, of trying to go to bed early and trying to have such a strict schedule and that it just made everyone irritable with each other. So I just decided to go with the flow, I guess, more. The flow of what my kids were needing and wanting during this time. And I kept seeing the, you know, I wanted my kids to remember this time as a funner time and not a stressful time.  Annie: Have you always been like that? Where you’re a go with the flow kind of person. Where it’s like, You take on new challenges or new stressors and you figure out like, well, we’ll just figure out a flow.  Cami: I would probably say so. I enjoy change. So I think maybe that goes with it, too. Like I’m okay with change. And so I kind of, in our family, has always kind of been. Because of my husband’s job, we’ve always kind of stayed up later. We’ve kind of just. He, we never know what time he’s getting off at night. And so we’ve kind of always, because we’ve always had to go with the flow.  And if I don’t, if I have a very strict schedule and like, okay, we’re eating at this time and this is happening at this time, it’s just, it doesn’t work with our family because of his schedule. Annie: Can you remember a time in your life that was particularly super stressful to you?  Cami: Yeah, early in our marriage there was a situation where my husband had not told me the truth about finances  in our life. And so, I found out, and that was, yeah, I would say that was the most stressful thing. And in that time we had had our first son and he had like, huge eating issues as a baby. He wouldn’t eat, he wouldn’t gain weight. The doctors were constantly telling me he wasn’t thriving. So I literally thought as a first time, mom, I was only 22, I was killing my son because every time I took him to the doctor, they would tell me he wasn’t thriving, he wasn’t gaining weight.  And then on top of that, then that’s when I found out about our financial situation. And so I just kind of took it head on, the financial situation. And I fixed it. I guess that’s just kind of how I do it. The same thing with my son. I tried thing after thing, we went to doctor after doctor, until we finally got an answer to the problem.  Annie: So you were able to handle the situation, by when you say, “take it head on”, what do you mean? Cami: I didn’t, I did mope in it, but at the same time, I didn’t. I was like, you know what? This is what it is. This is what’s happening in my life right now. And I’m going to fix it. And I’m going to fix it, honestly, like I fixed it through the word, through being in the word. I mean, it’s not like it was all easy by doing that at all. There were so many times it was really hard. But I just constantly went back to the Bible and same thing with my son. And it doesn’t mean that like I always did it right. There were so many times I would call my husband, when I dealt with my son, I would call my husband at work and I’d just be bawling. And I was like, I’m not fit to be a stay at home mom. Like I need to go to work. This is so hard. Like I just want to get a job. I just want to se
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