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Welcome back to our Series on Healthy Romantic Relationships. Today we are chatting with Emmy Hernandez about the “4 Pillars to a Romantic Relationship’.  Emmy shares her FORMULA for engaging in and enjoying an “Epic Relationship.”  We talk about playfulness, sexiness, nurturing and your ‘boss babe’ and what the ideal formula is in bringing these different aspects of yourself into your relationship daily and why.  A great conversation! Emmy Hernandez is an executive-level love and relationship coach, international speaker, workshop facilitator, and author of the Internationally Bestselling Book "Women Who Lead.".  She works with women and couples who are committed to co-create an epic, passionate and fulfilling romantic partnership.  AND she is here today to help us continue the exploration of what it takes to be in a Healthy Romantic Relationship.  THanks for joining us Emmy!!   Free Giveaway: Free Couples Masterclass Video Sessions https://bit.ly/emmycouplesmasterclass Website: emmyhernandez.com Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/lovecoachemmy/ IG:  https://www.instagram.com/lovecoachemmy/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/love-coach-emmy/   Request a Free Jump Start Call at https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/jumpstart   For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

While navigating divorce, fear of the unknown often drives us to replace our uncertainty with a catastrophic worst case scenario about our future. However, our greatest fears rarely come true.  Today’s session is designed to provide you with hope and encouragement as you hear one woman’s journey from fear and overwhelm to a post divorce life that is very different from what she feared.   Tune in as she shares the struggles she faced with her narcissistic ex, and how while he never changed, she changed so much that she rarely feels anxiety around interactions with him.  Elle shares how she is living a peaceful and joyful life in spite of the fact that she has been divorced for 8 years, co-parenting / parallel parenting her school age child with his dad (and has many years left to go before her child is emancipated).  Elle shares specific tools and strategies she received from coaching that you too can use to minimize the stress and tension in your situation.   Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

So much of our suffering is due to the voices in our head...the stories of how we have been wronged, or what is happening is bad or the certainty of why s/he did that thing...the 'why' placing us squarely in the victim seat.   Divorce is painful, when we suffer, it is our own doing as a result of ruminating about our perspective, judgement, unforgiveness, insecurity, fear, etc.   Today's episode shines a spotlight on what happens between your ears and the steps you have to take to Let Go of your story and embrace a perspective that leaves you feeling less charged and more empowered.   Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

The psychological impact of living with a HCP crushes your self esteem often leaving you, the spouse insecure, reactive and bitter.  Dr. Gayle Reed shares how forgiveness is a healing balm for the spouse of the HCP.  She explains the traumatic impact of verbal and emotional abuse and the psychological defenses you use to manage the resulting anger, pain and confusion.     While forgiveness seems to be for the HCP, it is actually for you, the spouse. Forgiveness is not condoning, accepting, excusing or denying the abuse.  Gayle takes us through a 4 phase process that helps you to uncover the impact of unforgiveness, examine the benefits of choosing forgiveness, begin the journey to forgive and the healing that journey invites and ultimately, how forgiveness, healing and growth is the cornerstone for finding meaning in the struggle with the HCP.   Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Welcome to Today’s Episode: Know Your Personal Operating ‘Style’ and That of Your Partner’s.   We have a great conversation for you today with Sandy Weiner who brilliantly highlights how important the little things are.  She shares the value of a ‘Personal Operating Manual’ which she developed for her clients that enables them to share their authentic selves with their new partner. It includes Lifestyle, Worldview and Sex. It covers all the small stuff that drives our perspectives and behaviors and we discuss how knowing yours and his or hers enables you to relate better.   Join us as we discuss the importance of knowing your core values, being vulnerable and curious, making agreements and getting the support you need to make this your best relationship yet! Sandy is the Chief Love Officer at Last First Date. She's an internationally known TEDx speaker, and dating and relationship coach for women over 40. Sandy also authored 'Becoming a Woman of Value, How to Thrive in Life and Love', and she is the host of two podcasts, Last First Date Radio and The Woman of Value Podcast. Sandi is the proud mom of three highly creative adults, and the grandmother of three delicious grandkids. Sandy believes it's never too late to go on your last first date!   Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate/ Website: http://lastfirstdate.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sandyweiner1 YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Lastfirstdate   Dating Podcast: Last First Date Radio https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/last-first-date-radio/id586220219?mt=2 The Woman of Value Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-woman-of-value-podcast/id1470291918?ign-mpt=uo%3D4   FREE GIVEAWAY: 8 Steps For Having a Tough Conversation   Request a Free Jump Start Call at https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/jumpstart For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Molly knew early on in her marriage that things were not good. She experienced emotional abuse and walked on eggshells to 'keep the peace' with her new spouse. When their child arrived, things got worse as she needed to focus more on the baby than on dad. Once she decided to divorce, she began setting boundaries, finding her voice and her authenticity. The biggest challenge and surprise was how their parenting dynamic went from all her responsibility to 50/50 custody with dad getting the help he needed to break generational chains and become a present and healthy dad for their child.   So many hold the belief that if one parent has not been active and present, then they simply can't. Tune in as Molly shares her fear and frustrations, he leap of faith and her spouse's own hard work on himself to become the parent they both hoped he would be for their child.     Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Today’s episode is dedicated to your healing journey. Those of us who marry HCPs have our part in the dysfunction as we discussed in episode 2 - Divorcing A Narcissist: The Personality Disorders and Dysfunctional Dance of High Conflict Marriages.    We are excited to have Ross Rosenberg with us again today to share deeply effective strategies for healing from codependency, a self love deficiency disorder.  Ross speaks passionately about how vital it is to heal trauma from childhood to gain the self love that was ‘robbed’ from your childhood.     As the spouse of the HCP, the promise for your future lies in keeping the focus on your healing and in changing behaviors that have not benefited you.  If you struggle with this, we are here to support you.   Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Divorce offers a plethora of opportunities to get triggered, react and then remain upset. Today's talk is about the difference between the pain of divorce and the suffering so many of us experience. The difference is your ability to take responsibility for your emotional reaction and ultimately let go.    Most of us weren't taught to 'go in' when we get upset, but rather to look outwards and blame other people or circumstances. Karen challenges that approach and shares a powerful practice of noticing your resistance or acceptance of the initial 'event' and then noticing your thoughts and feelings as you continue to focus on that event.   The freedom and peace that is available to us comes when we take agency over our thoughts and actions. This requires us to know the difference between our thoughts and feelings, to notice our thoughts and 'shift' them when they don't benefit us. In doing so, we experience an emotional shift to a lighter more hopeful place. Practice makes for progress. Tune in and begin your practice of letting go today!     Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

As we began discussing in our last episode, communicating with a high conflict personality (HCP) is often frustrating and fruitless, and leaves us feeling angry, exhausted and unheard.   Today’s episode offers a unique and powerful approach to communicating with a narcissist that enables you to protect your interests without conflict or drama! This strategy neutralizes combative and emotionally charged power struggles and inspires the narcissist to cooperate. (Get ready to take notes!)   Special guest Lindsey Ellison, is the author of Magic Words, a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching.  As a result of struggling to communicate with her narcissist ex-spouse and support her clients to do the same with theirs, Lindsey brilliantly applied her experience from her previous marketing career to design a simple yet powerful 5 step strategy to get you what you want from a narcissist.    Need support? Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Welcome to our Healthy Romantic Relationship Series and today’s episode: Entering New Relationships with a Positive Mindset and Self Compassion.  As we dive into this topic, Dr. Jennifer Reid, who is a psychiatrist and award-winning educator with a practice in Philadelphia, shares the importance of realizing how we are wired and therefore how we communicate and react in relationships.  Jennifer invites us to create a safe space to speak to our partner and the critical skill of active listening.  We cover the challenges with expectations, the role of sex and your ability to know and be able to express what you need and the brilliance of gratitude, positivity and the skill of  acknowledging our partner when we feel loved by them.   Dr. Jennifer Reid also writes and podcasts as The Reflective Doc, sharing practical mental health information to those who may not have access to adequate care and support. She trained at Columbia University and UCLA, and is on the clinical faculty at the University of Pennsylvania. She is also a frequent guest on podcasts and a regular contributor to Psychology Today and Doximity.    You can reach Jennifer at  TheReflectiveDoc.com The Reflective Doc Podcast     Request a Free Jump Start Call at https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/jumpstart   For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Today’s powerful episode gives you the strategies and tools needed to communicate more effectively with your spouse’s high conflict personality.  You have been struggling with criticism, deflection, blaming and black and white thinking.  You have doubted your own version of reality, lost your self esteem and tried time and again to reason with your spouse to no end.  What you didn’t know was that communicating with a HCP requires a very different approach. HCPs do not respond to logic.  Their brains are wired differently which is why your reasoning was fuel to the fire of conflict you were trying to put out.  You continually get hooked into his/her reality, react is frustration or discouragement with nothing changing Today’s guests, Megan Hunter and Andrea LaRochelle are experts in high conflict disputes and explain why your reasoning approach has not worked and what you need to do to communicate more effectively with the HCP in your life.  Learn about the EAR and BIFF approaches that will forever change the way you interact and coparent with your HCP.   Request a Free Jump Start Call at https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/jumpstart   For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

When we are faced with divorce, we go through a grief process. The death of our marriage brings the loss of the hopes and dreams we had as a couple, the loss of our normal family life, friends, community, etc. Grief is the normal reaction to loss. And, no two people will grieve their losses in the same way.    You'll learn that there is no "one size fits all" approach to grief recovery, and yet there are experiences we all share when overcome by grief.   There are a range of emotions - often referred to as the stages of grief - that you might experience with the death of your marriage: Denial, Anger, Ambivalence, Depression, and Acceptance.   In this show, Karen and Carrie explore what it means to grieve well and some of the "Rules of Grief" we have learned growing up that need to be consciously examined and set aside in order for you to move into acceptance of your losses.    Karen and Carrie will share practices and tools for assisting you in taking care of yourself while grieving including how to appropriately express and release your emotional energy with a sense of safety and permission to do so. The healing can begin with these simple practices and tools.   Request a Free Rapid Relief Call with Carrie - CLICK HERE For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Ann Margaret shares her struggles around faith and family when deciding whether or not to seek a divorce from her spouse of 19 years. As a devout Catholic, she needed to be 'right with God' and sought to understand if and how her desire to leave her marriage was aligned with her deep faith.   She goes on to share her concerns for the impact the divorce would have on her children, the challenges of living under the same roof during Covid and keeping the 'secret' of the impending divorce from her kids until the school year ended. Finally, Ann Margaret had a huge fear of being alone and shares the unfolding journey of her dating and relationship life after divorce.    Ann Margaret describes her divorce as amicable and post divorce co parenting relationship as respectful. She offers great wisdom and guidance around the power of coaching and the importance of tuning into and listening to the soft voice of intuition that is there to guide you.   Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

You kids have been experiencing conflict throughout the marriage, even if you think you have ‘hidden’ it from them.  Now that a decision has been made to divorce, tensions will only rise. It is all the more important to focus on protecting your children now while navigating a high conflict divorce.     Deciding when, how and what to tell the kids about the divorce is just the beginning.  Figuring out how to parent in the ‘in between’ while still living together is another sensitive topic that needs to be handled carefully.  Then there is the possibility that you or your spouse may blame, criticize or bad mouth the other to the kids. This is always harmful to them and we discuss what you can do to minimize the damage.    Finally, the money earning parent may want to increase his/her time with the children. We discuss the importance of honoring and maintaining as much ‘normalcy’ as possible for your kids and handling any change with caution and clear communication, so they understand what is happening and why.  Parenting post divorce may be equally challenging. Tune in to hear options for decision making and shared parenting time that puts the kids first.

Today’s episode is chuck full of valuable tips and guidance around the vitally important question of when to move from dating into a committed relationship…and when not to.  Alaya is a Sex and Relationship coach who helps men and women get clear on who and what they want and how to use the dating experience to insure that they get it.   Tune in to learn the questions to ask, the key conversations to have, and the red and green flags of both your date AND yourself.  Alaya further shares the importance of chemistry, what it is and isn’t, why it is so essential and how to be certain your have that chemistry connection.   Alaya Hertzel Ms. ED, is a certified sex and relationship coach with a Masters in Education passionate about love, healing and pleasure. She divorced and remarried her husband.  In the process she learned a lot about her part in the marital problems they faced and dated her husband quite differently the second time around.  Alaya offers insights, education and tools that teach how to be free and empowered to design the life, sex, and relationships you have always wished for.     Free Giveaway you are offering our listeners Let's Talk Turn On 50 questions to ask and answer for a deeper hotter discovery of your sexual selves. How can our listeners find you? Website:  alayabcoaching.com https://www.instagram.com/alayabcoaching/ alayahertzel@gmail.com   Request a Free Jump Start Call at https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/jumpstart   For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Entering the legal process of any divorce feels frightening and overwhelming.  For those entering high conflict divorce, the fear and confusion is escalated due to years of living in a dysfunctional marriage and the complexities involved when divorcing a high conflict personality.   There is often a greater need to be in the court system due to the power imbalance in the relationship, the lack of transparency of one spouse, and the intimidation and bullying that repeatedly derails negotiations.  For the high conflict divorce, it can be enormously valuable to take advantage of the court’s ability to control the pace of the legal process, require a net worth statement and other financial documentation and include additional experts to help with custody and spousal support and asset distribution. Today’s episode is filled with vital information on how to hire the right attorney, what to expect throughout the process,  the do’s and don’ts of communicating with your high conflict spouse and the vital importance of setting realistic expectations around custody and finances. Information is power, today’s show will empower you to navigate your divorce with greater clarity and confidence. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Divorcing a spouse when there are "bigger" concerns at play - like mental health issues or addiction can add an additional layer of complexity to an already challenging situation.  In this episode, Karen & Diane talk about the value of compassion in these difficult times, and how to balance concern and compassion with setting effective limits and boundaries. Ultimately this will support you in avoiding codependency, and staying balanced as you consciously move through the process.   Scedule a call with Diane Dempster Email: diane@journeybeyonddivorce.com Calendar: calendly.com/diane-jbd     For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Living with a narcissist is ‘crazy making’.  Understanding your role in the ongoing insanity is vital in order to create lasting change. In order to navigate your divorce effectively and strategically and emerge confident and renewed, it is essential that you keep your focus on that which you have power over...your thoughts, feelings and behavior. Today’s episode invites you into a ‘coaching experience’ where we validate your reality of fear and uncertainty, of your self esteem and confidence having been chiseled away in your dysfunctional marriage.  Tune in to access powerful strategies to begin to feel confident and empowered. Learn how futile many of your efforts of engaging with your spouse have been and how to let go of those behaviors. Receive new ways of thinking and being that lead you through your divorce with greater calm and clarity and invite you into a new and immensely more pleasing life experience. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Today’s expert acknowledges that online dating can seem intimidating and if you don’t follow best practices, it can lead to disappointment.  Alyssa Dineen, is the author of ‘The Art of Online Dating: Style Your Most Authentic Self and Cultivate a Mindful Dating Life’.  She became a dating coach after getting divorced with two children and navigating her own dating experiences.  Alyssa got crystal clear on how to be effective and successful and has gone on to share her approach with scores of singles.     Alyssa discusses the dos and don’ts of online dating and shares a vital practice to finding new love while challenging us to evaluate our dating beliefs that might be limiting our ability to find the partner of our dreams.  Alyssa provides a roadmap for navigating each leg of your online dating journey from swiping and messaging to effective first date practices.  Get ready to feel encouraged and inspired to jump in and begin!   Alyssa Dineen is the founder of Style My Profile as I mentioned, author of ‘The Art of Online Dating: Style Your Most Authentic Self and Cultivate a Mindful Dating Life. Her unique approach toward intentional dating and self-discovery helps online daters transform their destinies by taking charge of their profiles. Whether you’re an old pro at online dating or new to the scene, professional stylist Alyssa Dineen can teach you how to put your best self forward.    You can find Alyssa here: www.stylemyprofilenyc.com alyssadineen@gmail.com    https://stylemyprofilenyc.com/the-art-of-online-dating/ Through sharing her personal experiences and client stories, Alyssa provides readers with a course on the basics of styling an effective online profile as well as what you need to know to protect your emotional and mental health.   jessica@shpny.com https://www.facebook.com/alyssadineenstylist https://www.instagram.com/stylemyprofilenyc https://www.instagram.com/alyssadineen/   FREE Giveaway Profile in an Hour Mindful Dating 101   Request a Free Jump Start Call at https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/jumpstart   For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

If you have lost yourself amidst your marriage with a narcissist, today’s show will reveal and explain much about the insanity you have been living with.  It is vital to understand the traits of the pathological narcissist and your role as a codependent in order to emotionally heal and change behaviors that have kept you stuck in your unhealthy marriage.  Our guest, psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg, coined the name 'Self Love Deficit Disorder' to explain codependency. Ross has invested significant personal and professional attention on understanding codependency, healing himself and helping others heal from codependency or Self Love Deficit Disorder.   In our conversation Ross explains why codependents attract pathological narcissists into their lives, the dysfunctional dance that takes place throughout your relationship and what you need to address in order to heal from your ‘self love deficit’ so that you never attract a narcissist into your life again.  Ross leaves you with a few powerful strategies to break the chains of engagement with the narcissist and encourages you that when you do this powerful work, you are not just recovered, but cured for good! Ross is the founder of www.selfloverecovery.com and author of “The Human Magnet Syndrome”. You can find him on Youtube sharing valuable wisdom around this topic. If you are divorcing a narcissist and need more personal support, this is our specialty and we are here to support you...  Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com