30 minutes | Nov 12, 2020


Boundaries In this episode, Erica & Merisa discuss boundaries, the set of rules or expectations we place on ourselves to avoid compromising who we are. A boundary can look like not allowing certain people to know private matters, determining who can physically touch you, and simply saying “no.” Not to be confused with standards—qualities that must be present before a certain level of engagement—boundaries are very important when practicing self–love and shift depending on who we’re interacting with at any given moment.    0:49: Introducing the book that sparked the conversation, Boundaries by Cloud & Townsend   1:32: Merisa and Erica discuss their Boundaries Quiz scores and some of the questions   3:02 Merisa explains her boundaries, or standards rather, regarding the topic of weight   5:15 Defining boundaries as rules created to avoid being used manipulated, used, or violated. Whereas. standards are requirements prior to connecting with someone.   6:51 Merisa and Erica discuss relationship boundaries, specifically concerning passwords and phones   08:34 Discussing whether people truly know if they are crossing a boundary with you and how to solve issues once crossed.   10:18 Erica discusses her struggles with unsolicited relationship advice from friends.   13:08 Merisa discusses people taking her kindness for weakness   14:15 Discussing how our boundaries says a lot about our life goals and aspirations.      18:02 The different ways we can tell if our boundaries are healthy,  and how to  avoid reactionary boundaries   21:35 Parental boundaries and how your role in people’s lives determine your boundaries for them and yourself   24:00 Personality shapes our boundaries and not feeling the need to make friends therapists   27: Stepparent boundaries & Outro     Follow Us! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_ithitsdifferent/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ithitsdifferen1   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ithitsdifferent/ E. Lew: https://www.instagram.com/__ericalewis/ Merisa: https://www.instagram.com/mer.lew/  Music by: Dystinkbeats.com      
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