glow up series | pt. 02 | nurture your inner child
last week we focused on identifying our future self and inventorying (is that a word?) our present selves. in today's episode, our 2nd of the glow up series, we will be focusing on identifying and aligning our present with our past. to do so, we will be visualizing and meeting our inner child!what is your inner child? your inner child is a psychological concept that addresses all the things we learned in our first several years of life - think of her as your survival instinct. blocks for the inner child that manifest in adulthood:by no means a one size fit all block. there may be others you learn to recognize, but here's a starting point for identifying manifestations of our hurt inner child: staying in toxic relationships well past the expiration date due to a false sense of safety inappropriate behaviors and actions we learn to model in childhood gaslighting ourselves as adults because we were not nurtured appropriately in childhood attachment styles - anxious, avoidant, secure relationships acting in a way that is how you are told to act, not how you want to act let's meet your inner child. perform this visualization technique and write out anything after that comes to you: release: breath in (8sec), hold (4 sec), slowly release your breath (8 sec). repeat three times totalnow that we have released the emotional energy priming our thoughts this morning/evening - let’s close our eyes and just take in the moment to visualize.begin to picture a place you had in childhood that was safe for you. maybe it was your room, or a favorite park - just imagine walking into the entrance of whatever this place is. as you take in the scenery - which is composed of all your favorite things from childhood - you notice a small child. you observe her, taking note of what she looks like, what she is wearing, what she is doing, how old she appears. you watch her for some time and then you go to greet her. you say “hello, my name is (your name), what’s yours?”. take note of her response. does she tell you her name? does she share with you the things that bring her joy? or does she cower? look down and not answer the question? this is your inner child.at the appropriate time, say your goodbyes and leave this place. send your inner child energy that she may feel as protected as you once did in this space. nurturing your inner child: develop patience evaluate your relationships - are the 5 people you spend the most time with safe for her? pretend you are talking to her - when you find yourself speaking negatively, envision that you are saying the same things to your inner child. is that how you want to speak to her? how to protect your inner child consider the questions you answered about what was serving you from the first podcast as ways of protecting your inner child take note anytime something “doesn’t feel right” - this is your intuition trying to protect your inner child start to distance yourself from the people who are not safe for your inner child moving forward, i want you to evaluate your actions & experiences through the lens of your inner child. think to yourself - is this (relationship, action, behavior) nurturing my inner child? is it harming her? does it pose a threat to her physical, mental, and emotional safety? how can i bring her back to safety? follow us on IG @inventthegirl