25 minutes | Feb 6, 2018

Healing The Energy Of Disappointment

We’ve all been disappointed at some point or another. Find out how to heal the energy of disappointment through awareness of what is going on below the surface. We have all experienced disappointment at some point in our lives. This is something we’ve all faced at one time or another, but you know sometimes it just seems to come up and we have to deal with it. On today's podcast we look at healing the energy of disappointment through another lens. Disappointment can be used as a teaching tool to bring clarity to what we truly want. 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Okay, so today is going to be a bit shorter of a podcast but I wanted to share something that has been going through my mind this week, and that is about when someone or something disappoints you. Awareness We have all experienced disappointment at some point in our lives. This is something we’ve all faced at one time or another, but you know sometimes it just seems to come up and we have to deal with it. So what I am looking at today is trying to look at disappointment through another lens. Disappointment can be used as a teaching tool to bring clarity to what we truly want. And today I wanted to bring that into your awareness. And that I guess is how I teach, by bringing something into your awareness, especially if it is something I have been going through recently myself. I want you to see it for yourself, through your own lens and not just only through what I say or what others say. To me, awareness is the first step in healing. Awareness and recognition of the roots of what is behind the energy that keeps coming up. Because it is different for everybody, everyone has a slightly different trigger and a different set of circumstances. Overestimating and Falling Short So, let’s first talk about what disappointment is and the energy behind it. And I saw something online that seemed to sum it up pretty well. So, to me, disappointment shows up when we overestimate what someone else will do or not do. We give someone the benefit of the doubt or we have an expectation that does not get realized. Someone falls short of what they said they were going to do or someone doesn’t deliver the goods when they said they were going to. Focus on Feelings So, what kind of feelings come up when you think about being disappointed. For me, the first one is anger. I also think disappointment is made up of quite a few different emotions. Anger being one of them, but what else comes to mind…anxiety, fear, annoyance? If somebody doesn’t follow through and you are disappointed with them, what does that mean for you? It means maybe you are behind schedule, you have to do more than you thought you did. You have to quickly come up with something to finish a project. And all of it leads to you feeling down and perhaps even distrustful of someone else. Naming The Origins And this is something that comes up often during an Akashic record reading with my clients. So, during a reading we actually name the energy, and talk about how it is affecting you. It could be a variety of energies, like disappointment, drama, intimidation, guilt, or something else. The thing is, once you actually name the energy you can start to see where it creeps up in day to day interactions. During a reading we also talk about whether that occurred in a past life or in present life and the story or circumstances surrounding that energy. By naming it and understanding its’ origins, you really do start to look at your interactions with your friends, family, and co-workers in a completely different way. So, why would you ever be disappointed in someone else’s words or actions? Why would you ever be disappointed in yourself? You are a perfect, whole, and complete being and you can never disappoint the Divine. Why do we humans do this to ourselves? It is because at some level you might not be fully trusting yourself. Trusting Yourself Disappointment can come from not trusting yourself to take those actions you wanted to take. But God trusts you. Whether you call it Source or the Divine or Universal energies. She has complete and unsinkable faith in your ability to achieve whatever it is you want to achieve. So, why the doubt? Often, the doubt comes in because you have in one way or another felt like you disappointed yourself in the past and even though you might not have that as a main thought process at the moment, rather it is running in your subconscious mind, it infiltrates your current thoughts and plans and plants those seeds of doubt. Other seeds that go along with it are seeds of low self-esteem, low self-worth and having a low opinion of yourself. Broken Promises Another way we experience disappointment is because of broken promises, either perceived or real. So, think about all the types of promises being made to you and also the types of promises you make to yourself and others. If someone says they are going to do something or email you something, you most likely take them at their word, right? It is in our human nature to take someone at their word especially if we have built some level of trust with them. On the other side of things, think about all of the real or perceived promises you make each day to yourself or someone else. This could be anything from promising to take the garbage out in the morning to promising to write that blog post. And what I mean by a real or perceived promise is this: A real promise is when you actually say you are going to do something - as in you give your word. A perceived promise can show up as an agreement to do something, but is usually pre-qualified somehow. The Energy of "Trying" Here is a good one - if someone says they will “try”, which is a word I think needs to be stricken from our vocabulary. Think about the energy of the word “try. It is like a get out of jail free card. When you use that word you are energetically not giving your full commitment. So, if you take anything away from this podcast, start keeping a tally of how many times you use that word in the next week. If it is more than a few take a look at how that is playing out in your life. Do you need to stop overcommitting or do you need to say no more often? Usually the “I’ll try” phrase is used because we don’t want to disappoint. This can show up as needing to set better boundaries or also show up as people pleasing. Sneaky Self-Sabotage Disappointment also shows up as the discrepancy between what we really want and how clear we are about communicating our value to the world. It is a sneaky form of self-sabotage. When we want something so badly, we can easily get stuck in the "how" of getting what we want. We focus on how our desires will come to us, and when they don't come in the form we expect, we experience disappointment. So, basically we are trying to control everything to our own agenda and timing. I am sure that is not the first time you have heard this, but I want you to pause right now and think about something you want that hasn’t come to you yet. Are there any areas where you are trying to control the outcome or where you have put your own time frame into the mix? Just food for thought. Now, I know you have all heard about letting go and letting the Universe run its’ course, but have you really let the expectations go? How Bad Do You Want Something? Alternatively, have you thought you didn't really want something, and then when you didn't get it felt more disappointed than ever? It is a sign that you really wanted it more than you consciously thought. A lot of times we don’t want to get our hopes up and we tell ourselves we don’t want that. An example would be thinking you really didn't want that job promotion being offered in your company and then not even being considered as a candidate. All of a sudden your thinking changes to "Why was I not even considered for the job? Doesn't anyone see my value to the company? I can't believe they didn't even consider me for the position. They should know I wanted that. They should know I was qualified for that.” Also, you may consciously tell yourself that you don't need recognition from being mentioned publicly with your business. But then when no one even thinks to nominate you as a potential candidate for an award, you feel incredibly disappointed and perhaps ignored. That is where the sting comes in. It helps you to understand that you really did want the recognition, and that is perfectly okay for you to feel that way. Clarity Comes From Disappointment Overcoming disappointment can often bring clarity to what you really wanted. Many times we tell ourselves that something doesn't really matter to us and we say we don't want that, such as in a promotion or publicity for your business. It makes you wonder if what you are putting out to the Universe is heard in the way you intended. How do you know if it is something you really wanted? It is the sting that comes when you don't get it, or don't even get mentioned as a possible candidate. Although the feeling is no fun to sit through, it often
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