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Lawyers, solopreneurs, coaches, and all other professional service providers, listen up! I've been getting clients for 12 years in my solo law practice with an ad budget of $0 most years. It keeps my overhead low, is distraction-free, and enables me to focus on the parts of the work I truly love. How do I do it? It's definitely not effortless, but it is simple, elegant, and preserves my integrity. Before you can march to the beat of a different drummer like me, the most important first question to ask yourself is... ...what does an Oscar-winning Jessica Chastain movie have to do with you and your approach to marketing? The answer to this question could save you a ton of money, icky feelings, and time. For more information, go to https://lawyergoddess.com/23-how-to-get-clients-without-marketing

Leslie McWilliam Duffy, RN is a Functional Medicine Health Coach.   Functional medicine aims to treat the whole person, and in this interview, Leslie and I get very personal about our own women's health challenges.   Leslie's thyroid issues led her out of mainstream nursing and into Functional Medicine and Health Coaching, where she found her own answers and now helps others find theirs too.   My own female hormone issues led me to everything alternative medicine and deeper into personal development -- to create a career that allows me to maintain my health instead of draining it.   Mainstream healthcare does some awesome things, but...   ...it can't force the lifestyle changes that are necessary to stop burnout.   And, it doesn't  address the whole person in ways that are necessary to really heal from chronic health issues and create genuine work-life balance.   Listen now, and discover: The deeper reasons why women's chronic health and hormone issues are tied to work burnout. The steps you can take to get yourself back in balance. For more resources from the show, go to https://lawyergoddess.com/22-womens-health-hormonal-balance/

Soul contracts are akin to a verbal, unwritten contract.   They’re promises we make to other people to do or not do certain things, or behave in certain ways.   Such promises that are often not in our best interest.   They can set us up for a lifetime of unfulfillment in our personal lives while we exhaust ourselves trying to people-please in our careers.   Reclaiming your Feminine Sovereignty is key to breaking soul contracts that aren't good for you.   A sovereign woman is one who has agency over her body, mind and spirit.   What other people think of her or what they might do is simply not the number one variable in her decisions.   If you’re wondering why you’re afraid to say no, or can’t get what you want, listen to this episode and learn:   How to recognize if you have soul contracts that should be broken. Why breaking soul contracts is essential to being the boss of you. Why feminine sovereignty is key to having the confidence to say no to people-pleasing, and yes to yourself. Why all this matters to smart, successful women. How to reclaim your feminine sovereignty. The three steps to break unhelpful soul contracts so you can get what you actually want in your life, and not just what others want you to have, do or be.   For more information and resources from the show, go to: https://lawyergoddess.com/21-soul-contracts-and-feminine-sovereignty

Do you want real intimacy in your relationship -- and authentic feminine power? Then it's time to listen to this wonderful and juicy interview with Sophia Le Page. Sophia Le Page is a Feminine Embodiment and Leadership coach, originally from Australia and now living in Bali. Sophia let go of the false "good girl" mask and traded up for a spiritually real, authentically powerful rebel queen life. Sophia, like her goddess namesake, is a veritable fountain of wisdom about the feminine experience, what real feminine power is, and how to tap into your embodied feminine now, even if you have a stuffy, patriarchal day job! The embodied feminine is the key to having an authentically powerful life, and real intimacy in your relationships. No matter what your current situation is, trust in your body, and let your desire lead the way. This interview with Sophia Le Page contains SO many gems to help you start or continue on the path to fully embodying your divine feminine power. Listen now and let the juiciness sink in! To get the resources from the show, go to https://lawyergoddess.com/20-relationships-feminine-embodiment-with-sophia-le-page/ I'm going to be giving away a reMarkable tablet to 1 lucky listener who follows, rates, and reviews the show. The raffle has been extended to March 31, 2022. I want your honest feedback so I can create an awesome show that provides tons of value. Click here to learn more about the contest and how to enter.

Flower Essences are a form of energy healing. They are powerful tool to help you heal emotional and spiritual issues.   They can be especially effective when you are dealing with a lot of uncomfortable thoughts and emotions about your career choice or the job you are in. They can even support us when we are troubled by challenging personal or world circumstances. Flower essences are an excellent complement to any thought work or coaching you might be doing to deal with stress, because they support you in understanding and moving through difficult emotions. Listen to this episode to learn what all this flower power is about, and meet about a dozen specific individual flower remedies that address work-related and stress-related issues. To learn more, go to Episode 19

Are you using the famous quote "we can do hard things" to be hard on yourself for not working hard all the time? That's not what it really means. In the spirit of everyone deserving a vacation, this Podcast will be on break and return March 17, 2022. In the meantime, I have a free class called the Manifestation Atelier, which starts March 15, 2022. For more information, go to lawyergoddess.com/manifestation-atelier

Why are so many professional women so unhappy? There are four not-so-obvious reasons why. When you understand how western culture really lets women down when it comes to career and mental health, you're well on your way to reclaiming your happiness. And the antidote to these problems is available to you right now, wherever you are. Listen now, and reclaim the happiness that's rightfully yours.  

Geraldine Carter teaches you how to work less and earn more. Geraldine Carter is an environmental engineer who took a world tour, literally (you have to listen to the podcast!) and turned her knack for reading a profit & loss statement into a successful coaching and consulting business helping CPAs get off of the tax hamster wheel. Work less and make more money; what's not to love? I had a blast doing this interview with Geraldine. Any woman who can help anyone work less so they can ski more is a kindred spirit. I am also excited to have my first science and math badass on the show. Even if you're not a CPA or not self-employed, Geraldine shares pure gold for how anyone working at a firm (of any kind....) can summon their own entrepreneurial spirit so they can put more of the control of their career back into their own hands. And that's something we all need, no matter where we work or what stage of our career we're in! What You Will Discover: Why being very specific with your niche helps you make more money in less time and with less chaos. Why you should get out of "time for money" thinking about your services and focus on value. Why high-achieving women are more prone to self-doubt, and how to reframe that. Why it's not your fault if all your years of education didn't prepare you for whatever challenge you're facing in your career or business! Why it's often better to throw away the "script" for a "conventionally successful" life -- and forge your own path instead. Are you ready to throw away the b.s. script that others handed you, so you can think bigger about your own life and career/business? Listen now! For resources from the show, go to: https://lawyergoddess.com/16-thinking-big-with-geraldine-carter/

Tired of being unable to control your own time? Wish you could see your family more often? Want to have the ultimate say on which clients you take on? You might be a great candidate for self-employment. But you might also be scared about how to pull it off, when you have a family and/or student loans. Join me for this inspiring interview with Gina Occhipinti Borasi, a personal injury attorney in Santa Cruz. Gina and I discuss our different paths to self-employment, and even though some of our circumstances were different in the beginning, the emotions, fears, hopes, dreams and ultimately the improved lifestyle are so similar. No matter what your circumstances are, if you have a calling in your heart and soul to work for yourself, and long for all the joys and advantages that can bring, you have it in you to do it. Listen to this episode and fan the flames of your inspiration -- and your resolve! For more resources from the show, go to https://lawyergoddess.com/15-the-joys-of-self-employment/

Sara Williams, Esq. is a wise and powerful woman trial lawyer on a mission to uplift other women You absolutely have to drop what you're doing right now and listen to this interview I did with Sara Williams, Esq. Sara Williams is a trial lawyer representing our fellow humans injured by careless trucking companies. On top of that, she is a wife, mom, feminist, professor, coach, and mentor for other lawyers. In one word, Sara Williams is a badass. Sara and I met on Instagram. I was looking for some other women lawyers out there with inspiring stuff to say, and I am so glad I found her, because I know that what she shares here will inspire you too, whether or not you're an attorney! In this candid conversation about life as a woman trial lawyer, Sara shares a wealth of wisdom from her 16 years of practicing law. Highlights include: What to do if you're unhappy at your current job, but dream of more or different How to better manage your difficult emotions when people are disrespectful How to show up as your authentic self even when others might not like it Her inspiring vision for what "a seat at the table" for women REALLY should be (this is SO GOOD) Seriously, folks. Listen to this and take notes! This episode contains adult language....But this isn't my worst. LOL.

The Enneagram isn't just a personality test. It's actually a powerful personal development tool! Join me for this powerful interview with Life and Enneagram Coach Dominique Vandal, and learn: The right way to learn your Enneagram type Why you might mis-type yourself during a period of stress What your perfectionist tendencies might really indicate If you have ever wondered how to reconcile your basic personality with those aspects of you that are movable -- you know, your thoughts and feelings -- this episode is a must-listen!

Some rules are common sense. But many "rules" in society are just cultural nonsense designed to keep women "seen and not heard." Such "rules" -- or as Brooke Castillo would term, "manuals" that society has for our behavior -- drive smart women to second-guess themselves and worry about making people mad or disappointed if said rules are broken. Why is it important to sometimes break certain rules? The cost of remaining silent can be greater than just our own integrity. In today's episode, come with me as we break some rules and have a few laughs about it. This episode contains adult language.

Are you shoulding yourself? Telling yourself all the time that you should do XYZ or shouldn't do XYZ? When we "should ourselves," part of us has very noble intentions. We have goals, areas we want to improve or grow, or personal standards or a protocol (like with food). But when we find ourselves feeling bad and continuing to engage in unwanted behavior, or create undesirable circumstances in our personal or professional lives, "shoulding" could be the culprit. In this episode, learn how to recognize "shoulding,"  understand why we do it, and learn my somewhat unconventional alternative approach to personal improvement. It's time to chuck the "I should..." strategy in favor of something much kinder and more efficient.  

You are ready to think about all of your relationships in a wholly different way -- personal and professional. This week's episode is an excerpt of a class I taught going into depth on several key concepts I live by and use when working with my coaching and mentoring clients: Feminine and masculine energy Brooke Castillo's Self-Coaching Model Brooke Castillo's concept of the "manual," which is what it sounds like -- our personal list of rules for how we wish other people (and ourselves...) would behave. And the coolest part of this episode is that we apply these concepts to a very important topic -- relationships. I cover a lot of advanced material in this episode, but I wouldn't be publishing it if I didn't intuit that you are ready for and thirsting for these concepts. For more information and resources from the episode, go to https://lawyergoddess.com/10

Burnout. It might manifest as waking up at 3am worrying about work, and then dragging oneself through the work day, feeling overwhelmed and overworked while not getting anything actually done. Burnout is actually something we often bring on ourselves, through how we are thinking and feeling about our work. And it can take a physical toll. When we are burned out, it usually takes a well-rounded approach utilizing body, mind and spirit strategies, to bring us back. Listen to this episode to gain critical insight into the origins of burnout, plus a wealth of ideas on how to recover from burnout.

Many of us struggle to make decisions. We might take hours to pick out what to wear, months to decide what color to paint the house, and years to decide whether to leave a job and hang out our own shingle. (For the record, it took me five YEARS to decide to go solo!) All this indecision can be exhausting. We've all heard of decision fatigue. But why do we put ourselves through such drama? There are a lot of systems and practical advice about how to make better decisions. You know, writing out a list of pros and cons. Putting a deadline on a calendar and just doing it. Etc. Common-sense crap we already know. But if you already KNOW that stuff, and it still feels bad and you're avoiding a big decision, or saying yes to too many different things and not deciding that anything is a "no," some insight into why it's hard to make decisions is in order. FOMO -- the fear of missing out -- is one version of placing excessive importance on the outcome. It's one major reason why otherwise smart and capable women struggle so much with making decisions. Inside, we are afraid we will be mad at ourselves for the "wrong" decision, or fear we will be sad about the thing we passed up. And people-pleasing is another reason. Many of us actually have decided on what we really, really want in our heart of hearts, but don't do it because we are afraid someone else will be mad or sad. And sometimes we go years without even telling our own selves the truth about what we really, really want. This stems from our "good little student" syndrome again -- we want people to be happy with us and this strategy has been largely effective. Sometimes the smarter and more capable we are, the more seems to be at stake, which brings us back to the first point -- placing too much importance on the consequences. It's human to want to grow and expand, try all the things, taste everything that life has to offer. I'm not here to suppress that impulse. But there is something incredibly sweet about really savoring just a few select things. In this Episode, I give you permission to say no and embrace constraint to strengthen your decisionmaking muscle, so that each successive decision you make is easier and faster and with less drama. And I recommend an awesome article (linked in the show notes) that will have you re-thinking whether a multitude of options is a net positive for your happiness. Learn more and get episode resources at https://lawyergoddess.com/8

Should women "lean in" to have it all? The title of a 2013 book by Sheryl Sandberg, "lean in" has become synonymous with women being fiercely independent and working hard to get ahead. Criticisms of the "lean in" concept have flagged the differences in the life circumstances women have starting out, and widespread inequities in our culture that can make it more difficult for some women to realize all of their ambitions just from working hard and showing up as their best. Proponents of leaning in would counter that what works for men should work for women, and that they are working to level the playing field by demonstrating that a woman can be as dedicated as a man despite other priorities in life or at home that compete for her attention. What about "leaning back?" The linguistic opposite of leaning in (at least on the surface), "lean back" is widely-disseminated advice to women who want a man to take the lead in their relationship, or no longer want the stress of having to go out and do everything for themselves. After all that hard work and leaning in, it's nice to lean back and let the world come to you. And in work or business, there is some kind of relief in thinking about just letting things happen and show up in synchronistic ways. Critics of the lean back concept believe that this behavior (in relationships) takes us back to the 1950s, or is un-feminist. And in career and business, they explain that this is a form of magical thinking. Proponents of leaning back would counter that they really just encourage you to be your real feminine self, aligned with the Universe, and not have to act like a man to get what you want. Maybe it's both: The proponents of "lean in" and "lean back" have a lot of valuable things to add to the discourse about how women can further their interests. Maybe it's neither: With all the advice to "lean in" at work, and "lean back" in your personal life, you might feel quite off-center, never quite getting it "right" anywhere. That's because with all this leaning to and fro, you might not be taking the best advice there is, which is your own wisdom. Listen to this episode to learn how you may be obscuring the real voice of what you "should" do in any given situation. This episode also shares two very simple but powerful exercises to re-center you amidst all the "shoulds" and polarizing advice. If you want more information or resources from the show, go to https://lawyergoddess.com/podcast/

Are you conflict-averse? Do you go for days, weeks, or years avoiding difficult conversations you know you need to have? Many smart, educated women struggle with difficult conversations, simply because they are in the habit of discounting their emotions and are afraid what the other person will do, think or say. Here is an exercise adapted from bits and pieces of the work of Chris Voss, author of Never Split the Difference, Kasia Urbaniak, author of Unbound, a Woman's Guide to Power, and Master Coach Brooke Castillo of the Life Coach School. (If you want to go deeper with tools and teachings on negotiation and power dynamics, I encourage you to read the excellent source material from those three authors/teachers or sign up for my Power Bootcamp that starts in mid-January 2022.) I massaged those fine teachers' methods into something that would work for my clients. I came up with this, designed specifically for conflict-avoidant feminine energy women. Learn more at lawyergoddess.com

By now, you probably have heard quite a bit about manifestation, law of attraction, visualization and meditation. Some of you aren't meditating as consistently as you'd like, and when you work on your manifestations doing this or that mindset tool or technique, you're not sure you see a benefit. Or for some of you, meditation is already a daily habit and you think of yourself as a good manifester, but certain areas of life still seem blocked, like a last frontier. If you're an otherwise high-achieving, successful woman puzzled by this, take heart. Today's episode demystifies how to manifest, by breaking down what actually happens in our brains and in our lives when we are manifesting, according to The Model -- and lightly touching on science.  I'll also explain why high-achieving women often have a really hard time figuring out how to manifest. And finally, today's episode also will convince you that meditation is key, and thought work or mindset work alone is not enough for you to manifest your desires. Don't miss this one, because I share a powerful and personal manifestation story from my own life that I have never before widely shared, and the exciting knowledge that makes my manifestations even more powerful now.

Are you tired of hearing that "women are too emotional?" Yet on the other hand, do you secretly wish that you could manage your own, powerful emotions better so that you can keep your cool? This is understandable. For eons, women have been hearing that they are too emotional. And not too long ago, our foremothers fought hard to gain respect in historically male-dominated jobs like law, medicine, engineering, business, and executive leadership when few thought they could keep up. The problem occurs when we suppress our emotions, and put enormous energy into pretending like things don't make us angry or sad, when in fact they do. Aren't you tired of hearing that "women are too emotional?" But then so many of us chide ourselves for not being levelheaded enough, and we judge our strong feelings. When we mansplain and gaslight ourselves that we shouldn't be so emotional, we often unintentionally create the very impressions that we do not want to create. The truth is, our emotions are important, valuable, and wholly for us. When we believe this, and we have the tools to take better care of ourselves in the heat of the moment of an uncomfortable emotion, they become our powerful allies. In this Episode, I invite you to stop internalizing these destructive messages that "women are too emotional," and I give you three powerful steps to manage difficult emotions so that you can show up the way you want without being fake.