Being Resilient is Hard . . . and that's OK!
Why Is It SO Hard To Be Resilient?It IS hard to be resilient, and it’s hard to develop resilience.But, it’s not hard in an impossible bad way. It’s hard in a good empowering way.Asking why it’s hard to develop resilience is like asking why it’s hard to bench press or lift weights. The answer is because it has to be hard. Lifting weights is supposed to be hard. If it wasn’t hard, you wouldn’t get stronger. As you get better, you intentionally make it harder by adding more and more weight. You are literally making it heavier and harder.So, why is it so hard to develop resilience?Because that is how it has to be. Struggle, hardship, discomfort, these are simply the price of becoming resilient. Think of resilience like bravery or courage. We all think that being brave and courageous is a good skill to have, right?Well, is it possible to be brave without first being afraid? The answer is NO. There is no bravery without fear.Similarly, there is no resilience without struggle. This is why it’s so hard to build resilience.How To Help Your Teen.It sounds harsh, but let them struggle. I’m not saying to pile it on and go out of your way to make their life miserable, just allow them to struggle, and let them know that they have your support.It’s easy for parents to “catastrophize” things. Our teen gets an “F” in math, and as parents, we act like it’s the end of the world. Instead, we need to reassure them that, though we want them to get better grades, it's not the end of the world. Let them know that it’s okay to struggle.Help your teen realize that it is the very act of struggling that makes us stronger. Help them realize that it’s no more than an opportunity to develop their resilience.Mindset of ResilienceYour mindset makes all the difference. Whether you see your struggles as the end of the world or as an opportunity for growth depends on your mindset. You can make the decision to look for the growth, rather than focusing on all of the negative.This means, when you get knocked down, not only do you get back up, but you find the positives of getting knocked down. You learn from it and you grow from it.Even before you get knocked down, if you have a mindset of resilience, you know that getting knocked down is a possibility, you plan on it, and you plan on getting right back up.Help your teens understand that we all know that we are going to struggle, so just plan on it. That way, when they get dumped or don’t get invited to the party, or they struggle with anxiety or depression, rather than being surprised and shocked by their struggle, they realize, “Okay, this is a struggle. This is part of the plan.”Call to ACTION!The Doors Are Open! Become a Member of Firmly Founded Parents!Do you want to become confident in your parenting?Are you ready to stop power struggling with your teenager?Do you just want help and support from other parents just like you?Are you ready to build a rock-solid relationship with your teen?You can achieve all of this and more by becoming a member of Firmly Founded Parents!As a member, you'll get:🔥 Exclusive trainings for parenting teens in 2021📅2 LIVE Zoom Calls throughout the month with or certified coaches🧑🤝🧑 Unlimited access to our community of like-minded parents🏆 2 coaching sessions/month with our expert coaches🎯 Learn ways to have a powerful impact on your teen's life😎 Build unshakable confidence in yourself as a parent🏗️ Build a rock-solid relationship with your teen📚 Access to our growing library of resources🤯 ONLY $97 A MONTH! 🤯Become a Member TODAY!