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This episode is a conversation between Shelby and Rissy. We discuss coping strategies or our drug of choice. We walk through an identity crisis, and the patterns and cycles we observe in our current lives. Most of it revolves around romanticizing our lives and keeping commitments to ourselves. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

In this episode we discuss our recent out of town trips. Rissy went to Vegas, Shelbs went to LA. We catch up and Rissy shares the deets about an old relationship and the vacation that was very helpful in understanding her emotional responses to situation. We discuss love bombing, dating, as well as some pretty vulnerable details. We also quickly talk about finding balance and ebbs and flows. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

Listen up folks, come for a conversation about morning routines, stay for a conversation about neuroscience and shame. We were asked by a listener about our morning routines and we are stoked to share because both of us feel like a consistent morning routine that intentionally connects you to yourself and your body was one of the most impactful tools that is part of our own healing journeys. In this conversation both Shelby and Carissa talk through how to structure a routine, the important elements, and the effect that it has had. We share ideas of what has been helpful and encourage you to create your own if you don't already have one. We also touch on the importance of rest, breath work, and self talk. You'll hear us reference Headspace the meditation app and a super rad and impactful book by Louise Hay called You Can Heal Your Life. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

This week we sat down with Terin, a friend of the pod and Rissy's bestie. We sat down to record a conversation about friendships in hard times. The conversation starts with how Rissy met Terin and Ani. We walk through where we were and and where we are now. Terin and Rissy got divorced within a few months of each other, so the similiarities of their emotional and physical situations is totally relatable! We discuss the importance of friendships, how we have been there for each other, we definitely dish about the dating scene, and we share some insight on how to cultivate relationships like this. It's a beautiful gift. Trust us, you want this too! We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

Disclaimer: We had an audio malfunction during the recording of this episode. The thing about it, is that this conversation is so important and beautiful, we had to release it, regardless. If you can bear with us through this learning experience, we think you will really appreciate the authenticity in this conversation. Carissa opens up the episode with some raw truth about where she is in her experience. We both talk through wishing we had a good syllabus to use in this time of uncertainty in this growing experience. Shelby opens up about her experience within her family dynamics. We both talk through where we would say we are on the map. We share some of our hopes and clarify what we are doing in these conversations. We are not claiming expert, we are just sharing what the messy middle looks like. We are just offering the learnings we collect as we try to do our best and live a life aligned. We promise to bring vulnerability and honesty. Whether we are discussing big heavy topics like previously mentioned or other topics such as toxic positivity or being boy crazy. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

Welcome to season 4, bitches! It's been a long time, and a lot has changed in the interim. This episode we sit down just the two of us to give you an update on what is going on. We have been busy getting our ducks in a row so we could be where we needed to be in order to share this next chapter of our journeys with you. Carissa is officially divorced, and we talk custody schedule and real heavy mom feelings. We talk about how she ended up where she found herself, and how she has learned to help herself. Shelby gives us a quick update on what she has been up to, and we talk about consistency, especially when it comes to meditation and self care routines. You know we can't talk about meditation without sharing our favorite resource Headspace. We had our first fight, and dish about the deets and insight as we navigate new heights of our relationship. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

Have you had a chance to check out our monthly planner? We create a planner each month that includes journal prompts and growth activities. We have learned so much on our own healing journey, and we put all the resources we've gathered into one tangible tool that we mail directly to you each month. The planner includes intentions and reflections, therapy takeaways, meal planning, daily to-do lists, weekly overviews, and 6 new journal prompts that coordinate with the monthly theme. Sign up for the "She Abundant" tier on Patreon, and you can have this beautiful resource sent directly to you! This season we have gone from interview to interview to interview. We haven’t really had the time in between to share some of our favorite insights and learnings from each of our incredible guess. So, we’ve dedicated the last episode of season three to sharing all of our reflections and favorite moments with each interview. We are so excited to share with you some of the most impactful learnings we’ve taken away from these incredible conversations, and you know we’re dying to hear from you! Send us an email or a DM of your favorite episode, or one of the key takeaways for you from season three. We are getting right to the drawing board and getting started on bringing the next level conversations to you for season four! Make sure you are subscribed to the pod, so as soon as season four is ready for you, it will drop right into your feed. It has been an honor spending time together each week, having meaningful conversations and growing together as a community. BRB, babes! We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

We are beyond thrilled to share our interview with Tess, The Enneagram Mom, with you today. Tess was a Social Media Manager for other companies, when during COVID she lost multiple accounts and went from making $10,000/month to $400. During this challenging time of what felt like defeat, she finally purchased and read the Enneagram books, one of which was "The Road Back to You". This reading brought insights that helped her understand herself on a deeper level, including her traumas and her pain. Tess changed her instagram account to @the.enneagram.mom and started sharing what she had learned with other women on instagram. It was the key that unlocked what she desired. Tess has grown tremendously just through helping women understand themselves and the key relationships in their lives. All season long, we have been asking "Who is she?" and this conversation will be critical in helping guide you to a deeper understanding and knowing of yourself. The enneagram is based on how you see the world, your deepest desires and fears. We know you'll love this episode and hearing from Tess. If you would like to hear more from Tess, check out her podcast The Enneagram Mom follow her on the 'gram and get a 1:1 session with her find out your number. You can also check out the enneagram institute website to learn more in depth about each number. In this episode, Tess gives us an overview of each number, she walks us through the stress and growth of each number, and even does a 1:1 with Shelby on the spot. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

*This conversation includes multiple references to sexual assault and suicidal ideation.* We are so happy to share our conversation with Beth, who is a yoga instructor and reiki master. She takes us back to the beginning, when she was 8 years old and remembers suffering from anxiety and depression. She walks us all the way through today, which includes marrying her missionary, and having five children in eight years. Post partum depression was so strong in her experience, that she found herself fantasizing about suicide, and that is when she realized that she needed help. Beth went to therapy, which was the first step of many that led to her spiritual awakening. We love Beth's telling of her experience because she conveys the importance of trusting yourself, and becoming familiar with your intuition. This has been a critical part of our journey and mission of this podcast, and Beth shares her story in a way that highlights this beautifully. Beth has done many remarkable things on her journey including becoming a pre-school teacher, a seminary teacher for students with special needs, and starting a non-profit geared towards mental health solutions for teens. She developed a program to bring yoga and mindfulness to students in underfunded neighborhoods and classrooms. Beth really leans in to her intuition as she started unraveling her doubts about her religion as she was finding peace and hope on her yoga mat. Her curiosity led her to examine the inconsistencies between the teachings and the culture in the LDS church. We hope that this personal story telling helps you find peace in trusting yourself and is a beautiful reminder that you have everything you need to create the life you desire. You can hear more from Beth by checking out the podcast she hosts with fellow yogi friend Beth and Alissa surf the cosmos, or you can give her a follow on instagram. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

We are honored to invite back, friend of the pod, Stephen Nibley. Stephen is a Certified Life Coach and meditation practitioner. He hosts workshops, meditation, and he coaches people one on one. We are really excited to share this conversation with you, Stephen is a well of knowledge and shares it in such a concise and simple manner, we know you are going to get a lot from this episode. We sat down with Stephen to talk all about emotions. Through out the course of this conversation he helps us answer the questions: What are emotions? Where do they come from? And what are we supposed to do with them? In order to answer these questions we dip our toes into how many emotions there are as well as fascinating neuroscience. Stephen has put together his own theory on emotions by studying neuroscientists Candace Pert and Bruce Lipton. He also references some compelling new discoveries by German New Medicine. Stephen walks us through the communication process between our brain and our body. He gives us examples of common and detrimental ways that we, as society, react to our emotions. We talk through the key to healing, processing, and understanding our emotions. We spend a good part of this conversation discussing fear, which is your perception of a threat, different forms of fear, and how to resolve and understand our fear. Stephen gives us 3 important questions to ask when we find ourselves in emotional discomfort, and he also shares five steps on how to process your emotions. Stephen does a phenomenal job simplifying seemingly difficult thoughts and emotions. We know you're going to want to hear more from him, so check out episode 49 from season 2: To change you gotta wanna. Reach out to Stephen through email: stephennibley@gmail.com or call/text him at 801-427-0683. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

We are pleased to introduce you to Aubin Palmer. Aubin is a Certified Life Coach, and she helps women change their thought habits to create the life they desire. Aubin walks us back to when she had attained all the things and titles she thought she wanted: Nurse, wife, Mother, ect. when she realized that even with all these things, she still felt a lack of satisfaction in life. That's when she discovered coaching through podcasts she was listening to, and she was introduced to thought work. She is certified and uses the "Self Coaching Model" from the Life Coach School. Aubin's niche is working with women who are Working Moms. We discuss the unspoken narratives that being a Mom and being a business owner are mutually exclusive, and to be good at one, means the other suffers. So yeah... we dip into mom-guilt quite a bit. If you've ever experienced that feeling, this episode is for you. Because, what Aubin shows us, is that both parts are an important and inspired part of you. You are a MomBoss. You can be your whole self, and in fact, being your whole self is what will lead to your success. We walk through several personal examples on how our thoughts dictate our feelings, and our subconscious thoughts can run our life and belief system with out us even being aware. Aubin uses the CTFAR model, which we discuss in detail. Circumstances are neutral, our Thoughts about our circumstances is what creates our Feelings. Our Feelings dictate our Actions, and that leads to the Results we are getting in life. So, in order to create the life we desire, we must bring awareness and curiosity to our thoughts. If you would like to connect with Aubin and get her free download to help you get your priorities right, follow her on the 'gram. She does one on one coaching, and also offers one free trial session to get you started in the right direction and see if it's a good fit. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

You probably already gathered from the title that this is a conversation meant for mature ears. Yes! We are continuing our conversation about sex and we use anatomically correct language and go into details on how to stimulate the pleasure centers and experience an orgasm. Listen responsibly, folks. Find yourself a comfy seat and buckle up for an absolutely educational conversation that touches on moments of vulnerability, as well as lots of laughs. We sat down behind the mic's to talk with Bekah, a Masters Graduate candidate for Marriage and Family Therapy with a specialization in orthodox systemic sex therapy. She currently has her own coaching practice and she is trauma informed. We kick off the conversation by discussing a few important terms, because the language we use is important. We also chat about how Bekah got to this profession and her path in life. Bekah leads us through historical studies on how boys and girls interact, at what age we have internalized the patriarchy, and who's experience is valued. She shares incredible insight on the inaccurate narratives our cultures and orthodoxy's pass down, and how that impacts our development, including our sexuality. We discuss in great detail how to talk to your kids about masturbation, specifically. We also dig into the important elements needed for healthy sexuality. Spoiler alert... Boundaries are key! She is impeccably intentional around inner child work in relation to sexuality and healing sexual trauma. She even helps walk us through how to start the conversations with our our children. This conversation will not disappoint. We are stoked for you to check it out! You can learn more and connect with Bekah on her instagram. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

We are talking about sex! This is your heads up that we use correct anatomical language and talk about specific sexual acts, so, read the room... listen where appropriate or pop in your headphones, babe! We are sharing our conversation with Tasha Diaz, a Sex Therapist from Covenant Sex Therapy. We are absolutely thrilled to be hosting and sharing this conversation with all of you. Tasha is a licensed marriage and family therapist, she graduated with her masters degree from BYU. She is an approved supervisor in the state of Utah, she works with clients at Covenant Sex Therapy, she has offices through telehealth and Provo Utah. She specializes and has a lot of experience in working with clients who have anxiety and trauma around sexual experiences, as well as sexual addictions. She has also worked with issues surrounding health and eating, body image, and self-esteem, particularly among women. So, Tasha is absolutely the woman that we want to be talking to as we continue to have conversations that help women to step into their own power. We are honored to invite Sex Therapist Tasha Diaz to the pod! We jump right into the aspects of the shame that is involved in our collective and individual sexuality. We briefly touch on the role that the church plays, in that they groom women to be responsible for others experience, and they glorify the sexual experience of the male. We also discuss the historical overviews, the two extremes we tend to take it to, and the fact that women's sexuality gets lost in all this. We talk about how to help our future generations develop a more healthy sexuality individually, we talk about context, masturbation, and how the idea of fun and exciting sex. We know you're going to have important take aways from this conversation, and if you would like to connect with Tasha to grow abundance in your sexual experience, you can reach out to her here. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

We are excited to share our interview with Vanessa with you. Vanessa is a Health Coach and a Dietician, and she helps women heal their relationship with food. After spending some time living in Korea, her curiosity was peaked around food and eating habits, as she was able to identify a big gap in experiencing the two cultures, Korean and American. When she arrived back in America she went to school to become a dietician, and she is currently helping women who feel stuck. More than just diet, Vanessa helps others work through limiting beliefs and change their mindset that blocks from eating and enjoying nutritious meals. In this conversation we talk about the morality of food. One of the most apparent things we do is label food good or bad, and then make judgements on our meals, our decisions, and our bodies. Vanessa works towards helping others reframe their goals away from weight loss and prioritize energy levels instead. We spend some time in this conversation discussing how much we are fixated on the outward appearance and we miss the opportunity to focus on our own experience. If you would like to connect with Vanessa give her a follow on the 'gram or find her online! We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

Welcome back to another episode of I totally relate, this is an interview with Shannon Ricks of Modern Eve. Shannon is an LMFT who focuses on eating disorders and faith transitions. Ever since she was a young girl, Shannon knew she wanted to be a therapist. So after receiving her degree she gained experience working in a lot of different facilities, including with troubled teens and young adults. She needed more clinical hours after grad school and that’s when she began working at the Center for Change. She fell in love with the clientele and ever since has been helping people with eating disorders and body image work. In junior high Shannon realized the difference between her experience and her peers. She has found that it builds and instills confidence to not get appearance based compliments, and to not build your worth around your appearance. Shannon does a fantastic job with helping us understand specific terms and meanings, as well as helping us notice power dynamics at play and power structures. We discuss diet culture and tactics that keep women small within the power structure of the patriarchy, we talk about the messaging in the past that attracted women into the workforce and the messaging that pushed them back into “cute housewives”. We also dig into scarcity mindset and the competition between women. Not only does Shannon do a fantastic job of helping us understand eating disorders empower structures, she also gives us some powerful tools to help walk us back from body hate to body gratitude. In this conversation we also share grief by talking through the love for our body that we miss out on because we experienced so much body discussed. Shannon references the book “The beauty Myth” by Margo Maines. If you’d like to hear more from Shannon, follow her @Modern.Eve or contact her at ModernEve.org We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

This episode is an interview with Delee Cox, the stylist next door. She has a passion for slow fashion. She helps women with their wardrobe, to dress how they like, to dress for themselves, and to be more conscientious about what they bring into their closets.  We jump right into definitions and background information. Slow fashion is a mindset shift. It’s about being aware and intentional on where our clothes come from and where they go when we discard them. Delee drops some mind blowing facts on us about fast fashion and the energy we are working with when we consume clothes and products in this way.  To be more intentional, the best place to start is right where you are. Delee will help you shop your closet. Some of the ways she helps you curate the look you are going for is by identifying what you are currently wearing, what you LIKE to wear, what is your lifestyle, make a need to style pile, and make a shopping list. She talks to us about how shopping with a list makes a big difference, because you know what you are looking for rather than being sold to.  Your personal style really impacts so many facets of your life. We talk about weight fluctuations, our tendency to focus on what we don’t like about ourselves, our desire to fit in and how we can make our clothes fit us, shopping second hand, as well as shopping with our values.  Delee knows her stuff. It was so fun and impactful having a conversation with her. If you would like to connect with Delee (we don’t blame you!) you can get in touch with her through her website: thestylistnextdoor.net or check her out on the ‘gram! @thestylistnextdoor_ut We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

This is an interview with Pualei, the owner of EdynKei in Pleasant Grove. Pualei is an incredible entrepreneur who runs a clothing boutique, facilitates personal styling appointments, hosts local pop-up shops with "Inspiher", facilitates a local women's networking group called "Elevate", and is an overall supporter of female owned businesses. This woman is busy, and on a mission to make this world a better place and it was honor that she took time with us. Pualei shares a little bit about the heartbreak and challenges that she faced as she started her own business here in Pleasant Grove, as well as her purpose and where she is headed in this chapter of her life. The day before the grand opening of her boutique, it became apparent to her that her marriage was over. As she watched a part of her life fall into shambles, she was also building her future and creating the foundation for the life that she desired. She shares how she navigated the difficulties of that first year, and how she discovered "thought work". Her sister in law shared an episode of the podcast "Better than Happy" and Pualei began learning about the neuroplasticity of the brain, and the CTFAR model on how approach challenges in life. Circumstance, Thought, Feeling, Action, and Result helped her to improve her mental health and her relationships, most importantly... the relationship with herself. We also spend some time on what it means to have confidence, how to lean into your personal strengths, how important it is to do your personal self care, and the power of feeling beautiful. Pualei shares monday magic each week on her instagram, and all the info you need to be a part of the events she is hosting. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

This episode is an interview with the Thrifting Queen, Angelique of lique'd. We kick it off by sharing how we met and the significance of the item that exchanged hands between Angelique and Carissa. Angelique is an entrepreneur, she upcycles clothing, makes sick drips, teaches others how to do the process, and hosts incredible GNO events on her sick bus. She takes us back to where her story really gets complicated and nuanced. As a young, married, 20 year old Mormon girl she felt like she was doing what she was "supposed" to be doing according her upbringing and religion. Yet, she was feeling worthless, lost, and suffering from a chronic pain that was misdiagnosed. She began to numb with alcohol, as she really wrestled with her worth as a woman, mother, and human being. She was leading a life for other people, and once she received the correct diagnosis, she started healing in one way and feeding addiction in another. This conversation touches on addiction, religion, faith transitions, recovery, healing, and living a life as one's authentic self. Angelique is very inspirational and encouraging in this conversation, and we know you're going to love her just as much as we do. If you are interested in hearing more from Angelique about living in alignment, sobriety, and authenticity, you can find her at @iconically_angelique We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

Season three has been all about exploring "Who is She?" meaning you! We have poured time into conversations discussing self discovery, we have been intentional with the activities and layout of our planner all leading you closer to yourself. This episode fits snug with this theme. We spent some time behind the mics with Teen Mental Health Coach Missy Allred. Missy spends time one on one with teens who are struggling with anxiety and depression. She works with parents to help define goals, and change the way we "think and feel" about our life circumstances, as a parent and a teen. These are crucial years of self discovery, identity, and these years have a major impact of the rest of our lives. Dipping into "Who is she" as a teenager is crucial and game changing. Missy shares her experience with anxiety and depression as a teen, what helped save her life, and how she is working to give back to the community in need. She shares "The Model" as described by Jody Moore: Circumstance - Thought - Feeling - Action - Result. She walks us through examples of how this impacts us when we aren't aware of it, and how we can change the results we are getting by bringing awareness to our inner thoughts and patterns. We talk about brain development, and how parents can use this understanding to create better connections with their children, and use compassion to help teach them better decision making skills. If you are a parent, you'll love this episode, as we go into the dynamics at play between parents and teens. We discuss the impact of social media on teens mental health, healing generational trauma, and how to help our children and each other navigate a life that will inevitably have pain. To connect with Missy give her a follow on the 'gram. If you are interested in the Women's Networking group we are a part of, check out Elevate. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

It's April and tax season, and we are rolling ahead with our conversations about money and abundance. We are pumped for you to check out this interview with Michelle Bray, the Purposeful Money Mom. Michelle is a financial educator, she coaches clients on how to create and utilize a budget, she teaches financial principles, and she leads courses to help share the knowledge and resources to help her clients achieve financial security and success. Michelle leads us through how she got to where she is today, where she was when she felt stuck and longed for a different financial situation, and some of the lessons she took from her childhood. She shares definitions and basic principles with us. For instance, she lays out the offense, defense, and playing field of money. Michelle gives us quick history lessons, and expresses the importance of loving yourself and being confident with who you are. Michelle offers a lot of value to her clients, and if you are interested in learning more about her and her work, you should definitely follow her on the 'gram. She also discusses the program Financial Fitness. We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com