Listen Now

Today’s big idea is that because habits are so unconscious and so well-worn, it can take a really big dose of motivation to get you to take action and then to sustain that action. The good news is that I’m going to share a great motivator with you. The bad news is that it is not all that pleasant. This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Habits are like icebergs--you can perceive just the tip of them, when actually most of them exist underneath the surface of your awareness. You can’t just throw some dirt and some grass seed on the tip of an iceberg and turn it into a meadow--it’s still gonna be a mountain of ice that runs deep. You need to see what's under the surface to truly change it. This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Knowing what’s on your “don’t list” will help shore up your boundaries, and that helps you walk a little taller and keeps any bad behavior from taking away from your well-being. This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Drawing boundaries might feel limiting, but corralling your energy is, paradoxically, SUPER freeing. Then you don’t have to expend time or energy wrapped up in drama that isn’t yours, or deciding when you should get involved, or figuring out how to scale back.  This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[I’m replaying some of my best stuff while I take the summer off to decompress. This week’s episodes on boundaries are something we all need reminders of because unfortunately, boundaries are not ‘set it and forget it’!] There are two types of boundaries, and we tend to only think about one of them, which means you could be neglecting an important way of keeping yourself in a good place. Which one are you better at? And which type would serve you best at this moment?  This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here it is–my third-least listened to episode ever. It’s about how to stay open to constructive feedback, and why you want to. I mean, this is a true strength–but perhaps not something that’s typically top of mind for most of us (hence, it’s position way down at the bottom of the downloads).  This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week I’m replaying the three episodes that have gotten the fewest listens since they first launched. These are some really early episodes, and frankly, they’re kinda preachy! I think I had some stuff to get off my chest! Here’s the original episode description: “Surely there are some places in this world where you don’t need an omnipotent GPS voice to get you there. I mean, what happens when the grid goes down and we’ve all lost the ability to navigate by ourselves? What then?” This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As I was browsing for old episodes to re-play while I take a hiatus for the rest of the summer, I figured it was only fair that I play the least popular episodes, and not just the big winners. So this week I’m replaying the three episodes that have gotten the fewest listens since they first launched. Do they deserve their spot at the bottom of the list? Give ‘em a listen and decide for yourself! Here’s the original episode info: “Today I am encouraging you—imploring you, even!--to take an honest-to-gosh lunch break. And by that I mean, move away from your computer, and keep your hands and your eyes off your phone. Why?” This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week during the great hiatus of 2023 (for this podcast, anyway, although if there’s something you can take a break from, I support you!), I’m replaying the three episodes with the most listens. Today’s is about something that may seem trivial that actually has the potential to have a very big impact on your community at large. And that is to have more conversations with the people you know about the laws, policies, bodies, and people that govern where you live.  Yep, chatting with friends is something that might have gotten you labeled a 'bad student' when you were in school, but now it's something that helps you be a good citizen. This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week during the great hiatus of 2023 (for this podcast, anyway, although if there’s something you can take a break from, I support you!), I’m replaying the three episodes with the most listens. Today’s is a very close second in terms of overall listens to the Stop Being Nice episode I re-ran on Monday.  You've heard the advice to put on your own oxygen mask first, and that you can't give from an empty cup (I've said this myself many times, including on this podcast). But I've been re-thinking this. Because, first of all, you don't have to have your shit together in order to help someone else. And second, being of service raises your own energy. So how do you balance self-care with helping others? It's kind of like making a smoothie. This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week during the great hiatus of 2023 (for this podcast, anyway, although if there’s something you can take a break from, I support you!), I’m replaying the three episodes with the most listens. Today’s is from the last week of 2021, when my friend Terri Trespicio, author of the book Unfollow Your Passion, was my co-host for the week and shared several anti-resolutions for the year ahead.  This was far and away the most popular anti-resolution–and was, in fact, the most popular episode I’ve ever released.  It is: Stop Being Nice.  Despite the fact that women have been socialized to be nice above all else, it's not actually a very noble goal. Does that mean you should go out and let your a-hole flag fly? Or become outright mean? Goodness, no. It just means you set your sights on something different--something that takes a lot less energy than being nice AND that gives you more energy, because it's gratifying. This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Although the bills take up a big part of our financial thinking, your highest money priority is NOT to make sure that your bills are paid. It’s to make sure that YOU are paid–so that you have money for more than just your bills. You have it for goals, your dreams, and your freedom. And how you do that is today’s money mantra. This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most women limit their earning potential by aiming merely to be able to pay their bills–which is a wonderful thing to be able to do, but it stops short of assuming full responsibility for ourselves, and leaves out the potential for things like saving, investing, and building true financial freedom (meaning, not being beholden to the next paycheck). Today’s guest, Jennifer Barrett, is on a mission to change that thinking! She’s the author of Think Like a Breadwinner, and she’s been on the journey of correcting her own thinking and assuming more responsibility for the financial health of herself and her family. I asked Jennifer: This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With the “is it here yet?” recession and definitely here inflation, conversations about how much things cost and how much money you have or don’t have are even more pressing. Venting and talking out options is great, but if you tell yourself--or someone else–”I can’t afford that” or “I’m so broke” you’re basically putting energy in to this idea that you don’t have enough money. Come find out how to frame this in your mind and in your words for better financial mojo.  This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some people are more empathetic and/or sensitive and so they get an intuitive read on other people’s energy without a lot of conscious effort. But everyone can get better at reading other people’s energy with a little practice. In this episode, I share four things to assess--because you deserve to be around people who make you feel good! This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your energy isn't set it and forget it. There are simple things you can do to raise it up. Here are my favorite 8 ways--which one will you try so you can conduct your own energy experiment? This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Just like your favorite streaming shows, I am taking a hiatus. In the meantime, I’m replaying some of my best stuff. Up this week–all about your energy. As in, your vibe.  Figuring out what raises your energy and what squashes it is a crucial part of being able to take care of yourself and your overall energy. I call it doing an energy audit, which sounds very official, doesn’t it? Like someone’s going to come to your house wearing a hard hat and carrying a clipboard? Don’t worry, it’s not like that. This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As I get ready to take the summer off from producing new episodes (although until I’m back I’ll be replaying some of my best stuff–not going to go totally dark on your like your favorite streaming show does!), I’m recognizing the things that this long-term project has taught me about productivity, creating a body of work, staying inspired, and consistency. Hey, maybe listening to this episode can help you absorb those lessons without having to crank out the content!  This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Honeylove–Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your entire order of shapewear designed to work with your body Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when you devote yourself to exploring all the many ways to be a better person? After producing over 900 episodes and writing a book with 401 ways to bring your best, I’ve got some takeaways to share.  After this episode, I’m replaying some of my best stuff while I take the summer off. I’ll be back in the fall with new episodes. Thanks for being here, for sticking around, and for any and every little thing you do to make a difference in yourself and the world.  This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Honeylove–Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your entire order of shapewear designed to work with your body Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week I’m talking about taking a break, which is what I am doing with the podcast–after this week of episodes, I’m taking the summer off from producing new episodes. (But don’t worry, I will be replaying some of my best stuff while I’m away!) Think of this podcast like Ted Lasso or Game of Thrones–sometimes you just have to wait for it to come back. :) It’s sort of a funny story, how I decided to take a break. And it has everything to do with my signing up for a Reiki class in March. Listen to hear the story. This episode sponsored by:  NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Honeylove–Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your entire order of shapewear designed to work with your body Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices