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We're diving head first (and balls deep) into some listener questions with Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, a magical human who specializes in helping people work through emotional outsourcing (AKA people pleasing, codependency etc.). In this episode we chat about: How to "manage" a partner's insecurities How to navigate boundaries in a relationship and what to do when you don't agree The difference between being "kind" and "nice" Being queer while in a hetero relationship The FOMO trap and how to get out of it How to stop comparing yourself to a partner's ex Why talking about our insecurities makes us COOL How to navigate lack of sexual desire and feeling like an outcast Check out Victoria's FREE meditations HERE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s time for a little gab sesh because we miss ya, we’ve learned some things, and we have some updates. This week, we’re talking about: Techniques for spicing up missionary position The Coital Alignment Technique (AKA the secret to missionary orgasms) Having sex on a yoga ball, in the ocean, and with a pillow (not at the same time) Dating and navigating “the apps” Period pain and endometriosis  A BIG OL’ UPDATE for Honeydew Me Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Our UNCENSORED QUEEN, Dr. Tara, is back and ready to answer all your spicy questions. We cover: Tips and ideas for high quality foreplay What NOT to say during sex How to redirect someone during sex WITHOUT hurting their feelings Mismatched libidos and what to do about it How to CONFIDENTLY initiate sex The 4 types of initiation styles and examples for each How to navigate erectile dysfunction What to do if your partner won't stop "jackhammering" Getting your partner to slow down How to start the pegging conversation Moving from scheduled sex to spontaneous sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When did being NEEDY become a bad thing? We have NEEDS (a lot of 'em) and those needs deserve to be met whether they're in the bedroom or beyond it. That's why we're talking with Mara Glatzel, MSW an intuitive coach and author of the Book "Needy: How To Advocate For Your Needs and Claim Your Sovereignty". We chat about: What it ACTUALLY means to be needy Why we should ditch the "chill girl/person" mentality What happens when we neglect our needs How ignoring our needs impacts our sex lives How to figure out what you need AND how to ask for it Is there such a thing as TOO needy? What to do when your partner doesn't or can't meet your needs Giving up your role as a "mindreader" (aka when you think you always know what other people need) Get Mara's book HERE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The one and only Victoria Albina, NP, MPH is back and we're going DEEP (as always). We chat about: What gets in the way of us being PRESENT during sex Why we deny ourselves pleasure Blocks against receiving love and care Tools for nervous system regulation Mindfulness How to work towards presence after sexual trauma Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We’re talking all things MASTURBATION with one of our favorite sex and pleasure educators, Luna Matatas. We cover: New positions to try How to make your hands feel JUST as good as a toy How to finger yourself What to do if you get nervous while *exploring* How often we should masturbate How to start fantasizing during solo play Dirty chat rooms How long a solo sesh should be Taking masturbation OUTSIDE the bedroom (legally) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're diving (fist first) into FISTING with Dr. Liz Powell and you simply CANNOT miss this one. We chat about: What fisting is WHY it's worth trying out How to ease into fisting Prep... because there's a lot of prep HOW to fist a vagina or butt Fisting yourself Positions What to do once you're in there Pain free removal Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Oh honey... have we got a treat for YOU! We have five of our favorite tips from past episodes that are sure to give you the sexiest, steamiest, most indulgent Valentine's day EVER. So sit back, relax, and get ready to chat about: How to sloooow things down and get sensual from EP. 72 with Ev'Yan Whitney French kissing from EP. 82 with Raquel Savage How to *sexily* take your clothes off and set the scene from EP. 44 with Ari Antwine Bringing food into the bedroom (get your chocolate sauce and frosting ready...) from EP. 86 with Shae Alexander A little surprise to end the day 😉 from EP. 57 with Dr. Evan Goldstein Sponsors: Let's Get Deep | Spice things up this Valentine's day with the game Let's Get Deep from the creators of What Do You Meme? and get 20% off with promo code DEWME at whatdoyoumeme.com/letsgetdeep. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN… and by “this” we mean sex, hookups, dating, ALL OF IT. Cue Myisha Battle, a sex and dating coach who quite literally wrote the book on finding the fun in all of it. We decided to deep dive into hookups (obvs) and chatted about… Deciding what we want from sex Finding your sexual values How to find hookups (both on the apps and off) What’s the deal with “chemistry”? The benefits of hookups How to make hookups as fun as possible “I’m not that into you, but damn I wanna bang…” How to say what you’re into AND what you want in the moment Get Myisha's book HERE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ready to understand what’s happenin hormonally in that beautiful body of yours? What about how to have AMAZING sex your entire life? Well get ready ‘cuz this week we’re talking menopause… HOLD ON DON’T GO ANYWHERE. This is CRITICAL info for anyone with a vagina and if you want to keep smushin’ puss til your six feet deep, you’re gonna want to listen in. So, buckle up and get ready to meet Dr. Shyama Mathews an OB/GYN and Menopause Specialist. We’re chatting about: What menopause actually is and why you need to care NOW What age we tend to go through menopause (think mid 40’s…) Symptoms of menopause and what it actually FEELS like What’s going on with your hormones Sex before, during and after menopause Ways to make your menopausal experience ✨better✨ If there’s anything you can do RIGHT NOW to prepare How we gaslight menopausal people and make the experience 1000x worse (and how to stop) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Victoria Albina, NP, MPH (you know, our favorite human who LITERALLY changes our lives every time she she speaks) is back and this time we’re breaking down ✨ATTACHMENT STYLES✨. We chat about… What attachment styles ARE and how we LEARN them Anxious vs avoidant vs secure attachment How our attachment style impacts our romantic relationships The ways that anxious and avoidant attachments SHOW UP in our lives What secure attachment looks and FEELS like Steps for moving towards secure attachment 💖FREE MEDITATIONS LINKED HERE💖 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hey ya filthy sl*t... let's learn how to talk dirty. Dr. Tara is back on the pod with TONS of examples and expert advice. We chat about... How ANYONE can be good at dirty talk (even if you're awkward) Dynamic dirty talk 8 types of dirty talk and examples for each Directing vs narrating Beginner to intermediate examples Alternatives to "daddy" Our favorite words to refer to a penis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, we’re learning how to breakup with ANYONE (yes, anyone) with Jamye Waxman, a sex therapist and author. We cover: The types of breakups we experience (friends, family, romantic partners) WHY breakups are so damn hard HOW to breakup with someone What to avoid when breaking up with someone What’s a “good enough reason” to breakup with someone How to start feeling better Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're rounding out the year with some of our FAVORITE advice we've gotten in 2022. We've had INCREDIBLE guests, LIFE CHANGING tips, and whole lotta laughs so let's just dive right in and chat about... Blow jobs What to do when you’re working with a small mouth or tired jaw Making things work FOR YOU Why you don’t need to be healed to have sex or be worthy of PLEASURE When the sex is bad Leaving room for things to just BE BAD and not something you need to “work on” Ethereal orgasms Episodes mentioned: EP. 74 Blowjobs 101: How To Give The Best Performance of Your Life with Luna Matatas  EP. 97 Sex & Mental Health: Struggling with Arousal, Getting Your Needs Met, & Worthiness Wounds with Nicoletta Heidegger  EP. 101 What If The Sex Is Bad? With Kate Moyle Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're rounding out the year with some of our FAVORITE advice we've gotten in 2022. We've had INCREDIBLE guests, LIFE CHANGING tips, and whole lotta laughs so let's just dive right in and chat about... The POWER in being single De-centering romantic relationships Confidence and seduction How to feel sexy Thinking your "better" Letting yourself be WRONG Somehow it always comes back to COMMUNICATION Episodes mentioned: EP. 84 The Art of Seduction: How to Walk, Talk, & Touch Like A Bad Bitch with Danica Darling EP. 87 A Shame Free Guide To Living Your Best Single Life with Shani Silver EP. 115 You're Toxic, Now What? with Shrink Chicks Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode we’re SITTING DOWN (lol) with Laydee Vee and Dee Black and getting a crash course in face sitting. We chat about: What face sitting is Who can be the sitter (HINT: it’s not just vulva owners) Four different face sitting positions How to get INTO the positions (and not feel awkward) What to do once you’re up there How to sit with CONFIDENCE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We’re talking with Anne Hodder-Shipp, an award winning sex educator and coach, about MODERN LOVE LANGUAGES and learning all the ways to love and be loved (because there’s like waaaay more than 5). We cover: What a love language is and WHY they matter The classic 5 love languages and their (very shitty) origin What Modern Love Languages are and how they help us EXPAND our understanding of love How to determine YOUR love language(s) Specific examples of how to give and receive love based on your language Why you DO NOT need to be in a romantic relationship to experience love Meeting your own love language needs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We’re feeling CHATTY, so let’s get into it. We’re talking: Labia and labia lumps “Innie vs. outie” labia Labiaplasties Edging during masturbation Letting someone spit in your mouth (and LOVING it) Sexual World Records (including longest masturbation sesh, farthest ejaculation and MORE) Craigslist Missed Connections  Some of our toxic little tendencies (and some of yours) Red Flag or Deal Breaker Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Let's get it on... IN PUBLIC. We're talking PDA with Dr. Tara and breaking through ALL the shame. We we chat about: What Power PDA is Critique and support for PDA What if there's a discrepancy between what you and your partner want? Giving NO f*cks Who decided affection needed to be kept private? Should there be goal with PDA? How far is TOO far in public? How healthy displays of affection are GOOD How to start engaging in PDA if you're new to it Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This interview CHANGED OUR LIVES and our relationships because it turns out… we might be a little toxic (yep, that means you too). So let’s talk about it with Emmalee Bierly, LMFT and Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT of Shrink Chicks. We’re unpacking and working through a whole lot, including: What it actually means to be “toxic” Common ways that we're toxic but might not realize it Anti-relational and dysfunctional behaviors Expecting your partner to KNOW what you need Feeling like your “better” at relationships than your partner What if your partner "shuts down" during fights or discussions Exit language during a fight and what to say instead Taking accountability aka “what part do I play in this?” When you secretly love feeling like the victim Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices