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When a teenage girl decides to have sex, it’s only a matter of time before she actually has sex. The desire to have sex is a normal and natural part of growing up. Our job as adults is to make sure she has good information so that she can make wise decisions about her health and safely satisfy her curiosity about sex. It’s also our responsibility to make sure she has access to condoms and contraception so that she can explore sex safely. This episode is dedicated to all the girls who are thinking about having sex for the first time. You’ll find questions to ask both yourself and your partner to help make the experience a positive one, plus practical information on everything from peeing after sex to prevent bladder infections to how to have an orgasm during sex. We explore the nature of youthful relationships and discuss ways to keep yourself safe while exploring your sexuality. If you want to be good at sex, or have great sex, start by educating yourself about it in a responsible way.

Why is pleasure associated with guilt? All too often we are made to feel bad when we’re feeling oh so good. Whether it’s delighting in sexual pleasures, enjoying a delicious meal, or simply having a good time, too much pleasure is often thought of as sinful. What’s particularly fascinating is how difficult it is for us to talk about pleasure. It’s hard for us to talk to our lovers about it and even more uncomfortable to discuss with our children. As a result of our reluctance to speak of pleasure, we limit the depth of our sexual and pleasurable experiences, we hinder our lover’s ability to please us and shortchange our kids on their future pleasure and enjoyment not only of sex but life in general. Pleasure is about more than just sex. We don’t have good role models when it comes to giving, receiving, or discussing pleasure. In this episode, learn easy ways to bring more pleasure into our lives, how to talk to girls and boys about sexual pleasure, and why people suck at sex.

Why is pleasure associated with guilt? All too often we are made to feel bad when we’re feeling oh so good. Whether it’s delighting in sexual pleasures, enjoying a delicious meal, or simply having a good time, too much pleasure is often thought of as sinful. What’s particularly fascinating is how difficult it is for us to talk about pleasure. It’s hard for us to talk to our lovers about it and even more uncomfortable to discuss with our children. As a result of our reluctance to speak of pleasure, we limit the depth of our sexual and pleasurable experiences, we hinder our lover’s ability to please us and shortchange our kids on their future pleasure and enjoyment not only of sex but life in general. Pleasure is about more than just sex. We don’t have good role models when it comes to giving, receiving, or discussing pleasure. In this episode, learn easy ways to bring more pleasure into our lives, how to talk to girls and boys about sexual pleasure, and why people suck at sex.

Do your relationships bring you pleasure? Since covid changed the world, many of us have spent time reflecting on our mortality, how we spend our time and if what we are doing is satisfying and in some cases, satisfying enough to risk our lives on. Who we spend our time with is of particular importance. Our relationships. Work. Family. Friends. Lovers. It’s all about connection. Humans crave connection. We’re being asked to socially distance during the holidays, upending generations of family tradition. How do you stay connected during a time when it’s not safe for us to come together to celebrate? Robin’s guest, Dr. Gary Salyer shares practical suggestions on how to stay connected when it’s not safe to come together like we normally would during the holidays. How to date safely during covid and how couples experiencing too much togetherness can create space and more intimacy at the same time. Plus, how we can find pleasure and delight in the giving of ourselves to others.

Did you know that one out of every ten women has never had an orgasm? Or that for many women there is no sure pathway to achieve orgasm? As a result, many women feel like they are broken and their lovers feel inadequate all because orgasm remains elusive. It’s not surprising when our cultural sexual education lacks information on how to give or receive pleasure. We lack role models, so we are left to figure it out on our own with varying degrees of success. It's the difference between playing Row Your Boat on the piano and Mozart. In this conversation with Sheri Winston, Author of Women’s Anatomy of Arousal, we discover what the anatomy books are missing, why it can be challenging for women to achieve orgasm, and why pleasure can be so uncomfortable to talk about. She invites us into the playpen, a safe place outside of our normal sexy time for us to develop learning games with our partner to help us improve communication, try new things, and fine-tune the things we find pleasurable.

When you hear the word “pleasure” what is your immediate thought or reaction? Your first response is a window into your relationship with pleasure. Did your mind go straight to sexual pleasure? There are actually three types of pleasure and most often pleasure is associated with sex. No surprise, sex feels good. Once someone learns how to achieve orgasm, they often stick to the tried-and-true pathway to orgasm. Surprisingly, by doing this we limit our opportunities for orgasmic experiences. We short-change ourselves on the full range of experiences that we could be having. In this conversation with Gaia Morrissette, we explore what it might look like if orgasm was not the goal of our sexy time. If instead, orgasm was a happy byproduct of pleasure… our new focus. Shifting our mindset can open the door to more exploration and fun! Gaia shares her five aspects of sexual wellness and gives us some easy exercises to build arousal and strengthen your pleasure-seeking muscle. Plus lots more!

When a woman is in her power, when she is feeling good about herself, feels good in her own skin, and confident in who she is, there’s a certain energy that she exudes that can turn every head in the room. Unfortunately, as girls we are encouraged to stay small, to avoid being “too much” and so it can feel uncomfortable to let ourselves fully shine. Robin’s special guest, Nicole Buratti, shares a method she developed for women to reclaim their power, mend their relationships, and fully explore their sexuality. In this fascinating conversation all about sex, you’ll discover aphrodisiac foods to boost libido, mindful masturbation techniques, and how a healthy pelvic floor can increase sexual pleasure. You’ll learn more about the orgasm response, sexual tension, and what it means to relax into an orgasm. Plus Nicole shares three of her favorite oral techniques! Hint: They might not be what you think.

Have you ever asked someone what they wanted or liked only to have them say “I don’t know”? Why is it that we either don’t know what we desire or are too afraid or embarrassed to say it out loud? There’s a lot of stigma around pleasure, especially when it comes to a woman’s pleasure. Our culture encourages us to disconnect from our bodies and to feel shame about things that are pleasurable. In this first of a series of conversations about pleasure, Robin’s special guest, Amanda Testa shares tips on how to discover what is pleasurable to you. You’ll learn how sensual self-care practices can help regulate the nervous system and help you to feel more grounded, resilient, and energized. She shows us how to tune into the body’s wisdom for an energetic yes or no. You’ll learn how to talk to your partner and explore pleasure together even if you feel embarrassed. Amanda shares two simple pleasure practices you can do anywhere. Plus, we cover how to talk to your daughter about pleasure.

When looking for love, are you setting yourself up for failure? You’ve heard the saying, finding your “other half” completes you. Suggesting that if you’re single, there’s something wrong with you. What if you find someone you like? In today’s hook-up culture, there’s a lot of pressure to sleep with someone and if you like that person, it can ruin your chances of creating a relationship with them. How many girls have hooked up with a guy only to be disappointed when he doesn’t text or call. Exploring sexuality in our modern-day and age is challenging in all sorts of new ways. In this interesting conversation, Robin’s guest, Dr. Nancy Lee shares how to navigate the challenges of dating, how to lay the foundation for a healthy relationship, how to recognize when you are being disrespected and what to do about it, and how parents can help their teens avoid some of the bad habits we tend to pick up around dating, relationships and sex when we first start exploring our sexuality.

Imagine the most amazing place you have ever personally experienced. Remember how it made you feel. In your mind’s eye, travel back to that place and drink in the awe and the wonder, the emotions you felt. What made that place special? Most would agree it’s something about the energy or the vibration of the place. Whether it’s a place of beauty or significance, or a church, temple, or other sacred place, we often pause to catch our breath or bow our head upon entering. What if we were to treat our own bodies with such reverence? To acknowledge that our bodies are sacred and a source of divine inspiration and practical information. If only we were to slow down and take the time to understand the messages our body sends, to normalize and honor natural functions such as menstruation. In my conversation with Sophia Wise One, we explore the magic of time and attention, pleasure, and how we can shift our own narrative by verbalizing what feels good and feeding our pleasure responses.

Have great sexual chemistry with your partner? Take it to the next level as a Sexual Alchemist. Research has shown that sex is good for your health, but sexual positions for ailments? Sexual reflexology? Yes. Taoist sexual practices are not just for better sex, they are a way to greater health and deeper connections to self, partner, and the divine. Help for sexual pain, weak erections, hormonal imbalance, and lost libido? Taoist sexual practices can provide a path for healing, healing through pleasure. By tuning in to our own life force energy and learning to move it in our own body, we can use it to clear stagnation, increase circulation, and raise our energetic vibration. When we join with a partner and learn to circulate these energies together, we become Sexual Alchemists, mixing Sex, Love, and the Divine for a physical, emotional, and spiritual connection, unlike anything we’ve experienced before. Robin’s special guest, Lee Holden, shares exactly what to do to get started.

How much sensuality do you have in your life? When is the last time you had a passionate erotic kiss? Most couples fall into routine sex. It’s not exciting or passionate but it gets the job done. It’s common for one or both partners to WISH to do something new or different but cannot muster the courage to bring it up or ask for it. What if your lover says “No” or laughs? Can you feel your cheeks burn with shame? Robin’s special guest, David Essel shares that when couples open up and get honest with each other about what they really want in the bedroom, it is relationship changing. How by adopting a lifestyle that fits with their natural tendencies to be dominant or submissive in the bedroom, couples can ramp up the passion, ecstasy, and intimacy not only during lovemaking but in every aspect of the relationship. Step outside of the vanilla world of bland and boring sex and into the realm of monogamous erotic love. It may change your life!

Since ancient times, women have used plants to regulate menstruation, this information was transmitted from mother to daughter and held by midwives and wise women. There is a rich history surrounding herbs that were used in antiquity to avoid and prevent pregnancy. They found their way into poetry and plays. Their value cannot be denied when their images were stamped onto coins. Their legend and lore endure to today, yet we wonder… Did they really work? Medical historian, John Riddle was confronted by this question when asked by a student many years ago. While a valid question, it was not one usually addressed by historians. John decided the question deserved a response and thus began a lifetime of research. He went back to the ancient texts, some of which had not been touched in centuries to discover what the ancients really knew. John’s work led him to follow the clues back in time to connect the dots. Check out this fascinating conversation all about ancient birth control.

Most people don’t realize that the menstrual cycle is actually controlled by the brain. Puberty. Ovulation. Menstruation. All start in the brain. It’s a hormonal dance that keeps us cycling from menarche to menopause. But what about when the cycle doesn’t flow smoothly? Many women have irregular cycles and may struggle with infertility. It’s said that menstruation is an indicator of health, so what does it mean when a woman isn’t ovulating consistently and menstruation is absent? Robin’s guest, Kela Smith goes deep into the brain chemistry behind menstruation and ovulation. She shares how imbalances in the HPA axis can disrupt the whole fertility cycle. You’ll learn how stress shuts down ovulation and interferes with normal brain chemistry. Once you understand how it all works, it makes perfect sense. Kela shares simple steps anyone can take to help balance hormones and brain chemistry, promote healthy cycling, and restore ovulation in those experiencing anovulatory cycles.

The birth control pill sparked a revolution for women in many ways giving us the freedom to engage sexually without fear of pregnancy and the ability to focus on careers by making it easier to choose if and when to have a baby. The Pill has been liberating in many ways yet there’s also a dark side. When menstruation is troublesome, birth control pills are frequently used to suppress symptoms. It’s important to realize that the pill won’t fix your period and could make things worse in the long term. Robin’s special guest, naturopathic doctor Cassandra Wilder, believes that women should have all the facts before using the pill. Discover why a natural solution may be the answer to underlying hormonal imbalances causing weight gain, PMS, heavy bleeding, acne, and other symptoms. In this important conversation, you’ll learn about the infradian rhythm, the four phases of the cycle, and how to reclaim menstruation as sacred.

What’s your relationship with your period like? As girls, we get a lot of negative messaging around menstruation. It’s this life-changing event that happens suddenly, without warning. There’s an expectation that “The Curse”, will make everything harder or worse. Yet, we’re taught to hide menstruation and pretend that everything is just like any other day. It can be difficult to keep it all bottled up inside. Girls have a lot of anxiety around their period. It can be traumatizing when menstruation starts unexpectedly and instead of female classmates showing compassion and helping out, more often they are a source of shame and ridicule. Why is that? In this important episode, Robin decodes the vulva, teaches listeners how to create a yoni map, and invites you to explore the relationship you have with your period. She shares what a healthy cycle looks like, how to make cycles predictable, her favorite remedy for a late period and plus lots more to help shift attitudes around menstruation.

There’s a certain danger that comes with dismissing a young girl's complaints around menstruation. It’s hurtful to be disbelieved and it’s frustrating when you know something is not normal yet the doctors don’t find anything wrong and tell you it’s all “in your head”. Sweeping the problem under the rug leads to trouble down the road. Years later, some like Robin’s special guest, Eva Vennari are diagnosed with underlying chronic health conditions. It can be very discouraging to be diagnosed with a condition that doctors tell you that you will have to learn to live with for the rest of your life. Diagnosed with infertility at the age of 22, Eva grew frustrated with her doctors and started searching for solutions. After a 16 year journey, she was able to solve her health problems, regain her fertility and have three healthy children. In this episode, Eva shares what parents can do to help identify fertility issues while their girls are still young and help them to balance their hormones.

Are you creating a culture of silence within your household? You may be doing this without realizing it and may miss out on a wealth of information as a result. How you address menstruation with your daughter will set the tone and how open she is with you about sensitive topics. Most don’t realize that menstruation can give you important clues about the health of the female body. In this fascinating conversation with De’Nicea Hilton, you’ll discover how menstruation is a “messenger” that can tell us a great deal about our overall health. She shares how diet plays a role and how educating girls about the connection can lead to healthier eating habits. We know menstruation can be awkward to talk about so De’Nicea shares how to lighten the conversation to make it easier to talk to your son or daughter about this taboo topic. What? Talk to your son about menstruation? You bet! Tune in to this fun and engaging conversation to learn how to reframe the whole conversation around menstruation.

Society values extroverted energy, action, and getting things done. Society teaches women to pretend that menstruation doesn’t exist, that it’s like any other day. When the reality is that a woman’s energy goes in cycles just like her feminine cycle does. During her moon time, it’s normal and natural to want to retreat from the world. How do we give ourselves permission to do this when our culture doesn’t give us the time to pause. In today’s episode, we examine long held beliefs and attitudes around menstruation so that we can “clean house” and get rid of those that no longer serve us. Kids don’t need a lecture or talk about menstruation, they’ll benefit more from seeing how to live a lifestyle that honors your body. When we cherish our own bodies, our girls will pick this up by osmosis. A leader in the Red Tent Movement, DeAnna L’am shares how to heal menstrual wounds, reclaim your Inner Maiden and teach your kids about menstruation in a completely different way.

In ancient times, in certain cultures, women had a sacred place they could go during menstruation. Inside the Moonlodge, women of all ages would come together to support menstruating women. Crones, those who no longer bled, were there to share their wisdom, while the younger girls went out to carry water, gather herbs, and collect firewood. It’s a sacred place where women came together as a community to support each other, tell stories, and retreat from the bustle of the world during menstruation. In a world where menstruation is taboo and hidden from view while we pretend it’s just like any other day. Many women experience discomfort during menstruation. Robin’s special guest, Susun Weed suggests that it’s the body’s way of inviting us to slow down, tune in, and take time out from the world. Susun shares stories of the Moonlodge, White Buffalo Calf Woman, and woven throughout her stories are nuggets of wisdom girls and women can use to ease menstruation and celebrate her moon time.