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Matthew and Paul are discussing the gay-themed stage performances that inspired, awakened, and terrified them at pivotal moments in their childhoods. Matthew describes seeing male ballet dancers for the first time, while Paul talks about attending a play featuring a same-sex kiss. On the extended episode Matthew and Paul discuss a recent gay theater experience that left them both in tears. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/77642014

Matthew and Paul discuss their foster care journey which began one year ago. Matthew describes a recent conversation with a friend who grew up in the foster care system, while Paul explains what it was like to have dinner with a foster family over the Christmas break. Finally, Matthew reveals how his career as a music teacher has given him insights into the world of kids and parenting.  Listen to the full bonus episode here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/77293175

In this, Part 2 of The Paul Castle Project, Paul describes the “8 awkward years” between the first signs of blindness at age 8 and his final diagnosis at age 16. From failing at sports, to random embarrassing moments (like jumping into a strangers car), Paul explains why he began to identify as “clumsy” without realizing that he saw the world differently than his peers. On the extended episode, Matthew and Paul dive deeper into those 8 awakes years. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/76983850

Matthew and Paul are talking about their lives as an interabled couples. Paul explains how his visual impairment affected his dating experience, while Matthew explains his initial thoughts and concerns upon meeting Paul. Matthew and Paul also describe ways in which being disabled both hinders and helps their relationship in unique ways. On the extended episode, Matthew and Paul reflect on some of the more humor moments born out of being interabled. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/76660903

Matthew and Paul are wishing you a Happy New Year, as well as taking a look back to answer the question: What did 2022 teach us?  Unlock extended episodes: Patreon.com/hisandhis

In Part 2 of their conversation, Matthew and Paul continue using the virtual deck of cards created by the Gottman Institute in order to deepen connection and improve intimacy.  On the extended episode, Matthew and Paul open the Sex Questions cards. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/76084295

Matthew and Paul use a special deck of cards created by the Gottman Institute in order to deepen their connection and increase intimacy.  On the extended episode Matthew and Paul answer questions from the “spicy” salsa cards. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/75811110

As Matthew and Paul celebrate 3 years of marriage (and a total of 6 years together) they answer the question, “Has marriage changed our relationship?”  On the extended episode Matthew and Paul reveal the regrets they have about their wedding day. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/75539403

Matthew and Paul reflect on the day they became husbands. Matthew reveals the one thing that stressed him our the most, while Paul recounts a moment that left everyone in tears. At the end of the episode, Matthew and Paul offer an updated reflection, 3 years later!  Unlock extended episodes here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/75236822

Matthew and Paul are discussing the gay-themed books that inspired them during important life moments. Matthew talks about discovering the book “Call Me By Your Name” by Andre Aciman, while Paul explains why he fell in love with “A Home at the End of the World” by Michael Cunningham.  On the extended episode, Matthew and Paul discuss the movie adaptations of their chosen books. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/74836201

Matthew and Paul celebrate one year with Paul’s guide dog, Mr. Maple. Matthew describes his relationship with Paul’s service animal, while Paul discusses the many positive changes Maple has made in his life.  On the extended episode, Matthew and Paul reveal the results of Paul’s latest gene therapy clinical trial. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/74622273

Matthew and Paul discuss relationship age gaps. Matthew reflects on his first LTR with an older man, which prompted him to start dating younger guys exclusively. Paul admits he’s never been in a relationship with a younger guy, and once dated a man twice his age.  Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/posts/74323394

Introducing a new brand new series chronically Paul’s unique experience with a rare form of blindness. In this first episode Paul describes the very moment he knew something was wrong with his vision, and the reason he kept it a secret.  On the extended episode Matthew joins Paul for a conversation about overcome fears. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/73945844

Matthew and Paul reflect on their trip to San Diego where Paul participated in the second stage of a gene therapy trial that may offer a treatment for Retinitis Pigmentosa. Paul describes the Human Maze and Matthew describes the experience from his perspective.  Listen to the full episode here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/73690599

In honor of National Coming Out Day, Matthew and Paul share the stages of coming out as gay. From being called “gay”, to accepting their sexuality, to coming out and being outed — Matthew and Paul cover the many steps (and missteps) of the coming out journey.  On the extended episode Matthew and Paul offer advice to listeners who are considering coming out. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/73393002

Matthew and Paul discuss the 8th and final episode of the gay Netflix series Heartstopper. Matthew describes the feeling of “disappearing” as a gay man in certain settings, while Paul relates to the experience of making up with a close friend (after a fight). Matthew and Paul get excited about the final scene with Olivia Coleman (as Nick’s Mom). On the extended episode, Paul describes a coming out story that mirrors Nick’s. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/73101233

Matthew and Paul discuss the penultimate episode of Heartstopper, the gay coming of age series currently streaming on Netflix. Paul shares details about his own bullying experiences in public school, while Matthew shares stories inspired by the movie theater setting of this episode.  On the extended episode Matthew describes a bonus story about sex in a movie theater. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/72806814

Matthew and Paul discuss the history of changing surnames after marriage. Paul talks about different customs around the world, while Matthew describes what modern gay couples choose to do. Finally, Matthew and Paul reveal what they decided to do about their own last names. On the extended episode Matthew and Paul describe specific situations that made them want to share the same last name. Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/72497836

Matthew and Paul are taking the week off as they travel to San Diego for the next stage of Paul’s gene therapy clinical trial. Paul will be walking through a human maze in order to assess his pre-surgery mobility. Stay tuned for more updates! Support this podcast on Patreon.com/hisandhis

“Are you criticized for meeting on Grindr?”, “How do you plan to have kids?”, and “Do you pull pranks on each other?” Matthew and Paul answer these and other listener-submitted questions on this episode of His and His.  On the extended episode, Paul opens up about the ways in which his vision loss affects his marriage. Paul also shares a few of the things he wishes he could do (but can’t). Listen here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/71845115