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#019  For highly sensitive people, who can tend towards perfectionism and getting overwhelmed easily, the idea of doing the work to improve your marriage can feel daunting and like just too much. Especially if you are recognizing that you have some work on your end of things and feel you’re not doing things “right”, or you're feeling a bit discouraged that things aren't changing as fast as you'd like, even with all the efforts you've been putting in.Thinking this way will always slow us down or even stop us from making changes. Ultimately it keeps us from the happiness we want in love.Luckily, the truth is actually very different. Making huge improvements in your marriage does NOT need to be an overwhelming undertaking. It’s not nearly so hard as you may have thought.Listen in as I tell you how it’s actually done and the way to think about it that will make it feel EASY and totally doable to start making difference right now in your marriage.In this episode, I offer you some words of big encouragement and leave you feeling hopeful and ready to start ( or keep!) putting one foot in front of the other --the only way to actually change things and bring the love you want into your marriage.NOTES:Contact Hannah at hannah@lifeisworthloving.com or schedule a consult here

# 018   When my client Lauren first came to me, she felt anxious about her relationship and all the hard emotions and conflict that was coming up. She was waiting for “the other shoe to drop”, and in need of lots of reassurance from her partner that she was loved and things were going to be alright. It was not a dynamic that led to security and feeling close to the man she loved.These days things couldn’t be better. She’s done a total 180-degree shift in how she handles conflict--one she didn’t even think was possible. Her relationship feels not only safe and deeply loving but like an arena in which both she and her partner are supported to follow their big dreams and passions in the world. Listen to Lauren share:How she’s come to be able to calmly deal with her big feelings and feel safe with all of them.What she’s learned to be able to handle conflict in a way that leads to solving problems and feeling MORE love and connection than ever.Specific things she’s done and perspective shifts she’s made--and you can too- that have changed everything. How she is “harnessing” the power of her sensitivity to benefit her life and relationship (instead of letting it make it more challenging as she used to)How she learned to experience the validation and love she was looking for and has come to feel cherished.How her efforts have rippled out and up-leveled other prime aspects of her life, and how she now feels she--and all HSPs-- can make a powerful impact on the world around us.Lauren truly embodies the best of an HSP when we learn to honor our sensitivity and grow our relationship skills.Listen in to see the immense power one woman has when she decides to change her relationship to make it deeply loving, safe, fun and connected. Come laugh, cry, and feel how much is possible for you in your marriage, too.

#017   What we sensitive people believe about our marriages, partner, and the things that go on between us deeply impact our relationship. In this episode, I share 10 beliefs that will truly improve your marriage in the best of ways (and what things will be like if you don't believe them--you may be able to identify yourself here). These beliefs have made all the difference in my own marriage and my clients, too. I selected them knowing specifically which key beliefs we highly sensitive women tend to be weak in, and which ways of thinking help us and our relationships most. Once you adopt these beliefs --even a little bit more ---you will:have a much easier time with conflictfeel so much more secure and stable in your relationshipfree yourself up to enjoy your partner so much moregive yourself permission to do more of what you want to do in your life make a bigger difference in the worldand feel better about your marriage --and yourself--than you ever have.You’ll also begin to learn how to intentionally develop beliefs that really serve your marriage and bring you way more happiness in love and life.

016    If you feel any form of emotional suffering in your relationship--like discouragement, resentment, disappointment, hurt, annoyance, anger you don’t have to just live with it.Making your marriage a place that feels like a nourishing, joyful, safe space to come home to, instead of a cluttered, stressful, constricting place, starts with being willing to look at what’s REALLY going on under the surface inside of your own self. Without peering into the dark recesses of our minds, cluttered, as they are, with a bunch of assumptions, expectations, biases, fears, and unquestioned ideas about how a relationship should be ( we ALL got ‘em!), we won’t ever be able to make real lasting improvements in our marriages. But, you may never have been taught how to SEE what’s really there. No more! Join me in this episode to:Explore a few basics of self-coaching to start experiencing the huge influence you have over your feelings and your marriage.Learn a 4 step process to discover the source of your hard feelings and unfulfilling and difficult interactions with your partner. Begin clearing these internal obstacles to love out of your life and marriage, and own the power you have to feel like you and your man are a loving team facing the world together.Notes: This episode builds on Episode 6, 13,  and 14. If you have not listened to them yet, I highly recommend doing so first. Contact Hannah via her website or email Hannah@lifeisworthloving.com 

015   Today I bring you a fresh perspective on love --one that will allow you to feel so much more love in your marriage.We love love. Unless we have some misconceptions about it, which many people do. I know I used to, and it actually made it so I experienced LESS love than I was able to. A whole lot less.I used to think if my husband did things I didn’t like, and I still felt lots of love for him, he’d get away with things he shouldn’t.But this way of thinking made me miss out on feeling love. And on getting more of it in return.If you don’t understand love as it is and where it comes from, you may very well be depriving yourself of a huge amount of it. Listen in to this episode to understand what I mean. Because love is an essential nutrient. I want you to have lots of it! Having tons of love in your relationship and life is your birthright. This episode will open the doorway to it.Show Notes:Get in touch with Hannah at hannah@lifeisworthloving.com

014   You may have caught on already, but let’s bring this into sharp focus: You shape your emotional experiences SO deeply. This is the best news EVER. Because it means you have so much more power over how you feel in your relationship--and how the relationship goes-- than you've ever known. It’s time to learn to access this power--what I call Emotional Agency.In this episode, you’ll delve deeper into what you’ve learned in earlier episodes and hear many concrete examples that will help you see exactly where your feelings come from (likely not where you’ve always assumed they come from) so you can:develop a whole new, way more empowered relationship with your emotions. start to soften, influence, and guide your emotions, regardless of outside circumstancesStart to feel way less disappointment, resentment, frustration and upset, and WAY MORE ease, love, lightness, and closeness, so you can naturally make your marriage how you want it to be.It all starts by being truly open to understanding the real source of your feelings, so dig in.   Show notesContact Hannah at hannah@lifeisworthloving.com

013  Today I have a powerful tool for you that you can start applying right away to limit a lot of the unnecessary pain and negative emotion that may be going on for you, so you can and start to have so much more influence over your experience in your relationship. It’s a go-to tool I use regularly in my own marriage.Your brain is a meaning-making-machine. It creates meaning automatically. This means you are already influencing your own emotions majorly...although likely unconsciously and in a way that makes your relationship harder and more painful. Why not, instead, learn how to do it on purpose and in a way that brings you more connection, understanding and depth? How? Become the steward of that meaning-making brain of yours.Once you become adept with this tool, it will also be very powerful in actual conversation with your partner, as a way to share what’s upsetting or not working for you in your relationship really effectively. It helps avoid getting a defensive reaction and creating unnecessary conflict and, instead, makes it way easier for your partner to really hear you.  It even lets him “in” more, so he can really know you more deeply, leading to more understanding, respect, and closeness between you. Curious about this tool yet? Dig in to learn.SHOW NOTES:THE 7 MOST POWERFUL PHRASES TO DEEPEN CONNECTION IN YOUR MARRIAGEwebsite: lifeisworthloving.com

012  Because you live in our world, HSP or not, you are making this mistake--at least to some degree some of the time, unless you’ve done deep work around it already. Though it seems all innocent and well-intentioned on the surface, it’s a mistake that leads to way more heartache and strife than necessary...that’s why it’s so sneaky. Listen in to this episode to hear personal stories and tips to help you to stop this dangerous cultural conditioning mistake from making your marriage harder. Learn the 3 powerful replacement perspectives I offer that are KEY, once you really adopt them, to actually having the fulfilling, loving, supportive marriage you want with your husband. And a way better life overall.This foundational episode will also set you up with the big picture perspective you need to make best use of the next wave of love and relationship improving tools I’ll be offering in upcoming episodes, so dig in!Please leave a review! 

#011 If you’re cranky, snappy, frazzled or overwhelmed a lot…Or you’re feeling numb, down, or aren't able to connect to love or warmth or affection...If you don’t have much interest in being around or touching your partner…...You may be in what I call a Mind-Body-Heart-Slump (MBHS).Clearly, having a thriving marriage (or life) is out of reach when we are in a MBHS. Unfortunately, many of us HSPs are in one chronically! Being prone to MBHS’s is at the very heart of relationship problems for HSPs, so understanding why this happens and how to address it is essential if you want a connected, secure, joyful marriage.In this episode, I share where Mind Body Heart Slumps come from (some of this may surprise you) and why getting out of one may be easier than you think--BECAUSE you are Highly Sensitive!I offer 10 + things you can do to get and stay out of the clutches of an MBHS and back to feeling calm and centered. Which will gain you access to the most deeply wonderful, deeply powerful parts of the HSP trait--along with more laughter, more lightness, more pleasurable sex, so you can feel so much better IN your self and ABOUT yourself-- and your relationship. Apply what I share here to lay the ESSENTIAL foundation for the ease, love,  and connection you want.SHOW NOTES: Uplift Breath And Heart Guided Audio GiftEmail: hannah@lifeisworthloving.com

If you are a normal HSP, you feel irritated and annoyed at your significant other sometimes. Maybe a lot of sometimes…And likely more so in these times, love in the time of corona….with perhaps your only social outlet being your partner!Even in normal times….there are many reasons for this. Especially for the sensitive soul. But feeling annoyed a lot is an all too common struggle and makes a pretty negative impact on your relationship. Because who wants to feel annoyed at the person you ultimately want to be experiencing the most LOVE with, right? Though we may not be able to fully escape an occasional bout of irritation, we can make it a lot easier on ourselves, and on our relationship! In this episode, I dive into some reasons why we HSPs often feel annoyed and irritated and give you some solutions you can apply right away to make it less of an issue and to prevent it all together at times. Helpful Links:https://www.facebook.com/lifeisworthlovingEmail at Hannah@lifeisworthloving.com

My highly sensitive client, Jade, was having a very rough time with her man, taking things personally, feeling angry at him much of the time along with a lot of blame and resentment. And he was not being very proactive about improving things. She wasn’t sure the relationship could work. Luckily, she listened to her inkling that maybe she could shift the tides by making some changes herself. After coming to me and diving into taking responsibility for what she could, things are SO much better. Their relationship is light and laughter-filled, he surprises her with romantic gestures she had always craved,  they feel so much closeness and love, and when hard things do come up, tension melts away so easily. She’s feeling so proud of herself for having transformed things in such big ways and confident that their relationship is just getting better every day. In this interview, she shares what the biggest keys for her were to create such amazing shifts. Don’t miss this real life success story that will bring you hope and inspiration, along with some concrete take-aways, so you, too, can sway the tides of your marriage for the incredibly better.SHOW NOTES:7 Phrases To Deepen Connection In Your Marriage GuidebookHannah's Website

#008   You didn’t get married to just tolerate your relationship. You signed up for something way better than that. You want to truly enjoy your marriage.But sometimes “working” on your marriage can feel like another tiring chore--one that you’re all alone in. If you’ve ever felt that way, or asked yourself,  “Why do I have to be the one to put effort into this relationship?”, you likely aren't seeing much success or positive change from your efforts. If that’s the case, it’s because you’re using the wrong emotional fuel (or you may have just run out of gas entirely!). Trying to create brighter love from a sense of burden and resentment will never work. Motivation? Tenacity? Applying what you’ve been told could work? Not gonna happen --at least not effectively.You CAN have the deeply loving relationship you want. But you need access to the right fuel to be truly powerful and effective .In this episode, I share the key to gaining access to the emotional fuel you need to position yourself optimally to make your marriage what you want it to be. I share how I provide myself the essential fuel to continually  improve my marriage every single day--- with joy, passion, and feeling like it’s a sacred honor that I GET to do. Like my clients and me, you, too, can fall in love with doing the sometimes uncomfortable yet deeply joyful rewarding work of creating real change in your marriage. It can even be FUN.Get inspired and set yourself up for the biggest best change in your marriage this upcoming year by listening in and applying what I offer here.Email Hannah at  hannah@lifeisworthloving.com or find her at lifeisworthloving.com Show notes

#007   If you’ve ever felt like your man doesn’t love you enough, or you long for a kind of connection with him that feels ever-elusive, this episode will help you really understand that it is not because of who you are. It’s not that he doesn’t love you. Actually, it’s not even about you.Not understanding your partner’s inner world is no surprise--he’s likely quiet or mum about it. But once you do begin to understand what’s really going on for him, and you see it’s not personal, it will open the doorway for you to experience way more connection and love between you.Join men’s coach, Casey Desharnais, and I in this extra special episode as we take a deep dive into:what’s really going on for menwhat most men are not articulating to us, or even to themselves.  why it is so often that we women don’t feel our husband’s are able to go deep in connectionwhy open honest communication can be hardwhy men get aloof or shut down, or can be so quick to get defensivewhy making them feel they need to be different or get things “right” completely backfires and takes you further from the true closeness you want.And what we can do about all this to help bring more of a deep sense of safety and closeness into your relationship together.This episode offers you some serious gems of insight and will be a huge “AHA!” for so many of you.You’ll walk away with a tender heart, a sense of being on the same team, and significant insight into how to help the healing take place between and within both of you that will not just make your marriage a deeply loving connected one, but will help our whole human species begin to heal into more loving respectful, compassionate beings.  Hear Casey’s book recommendations and get in touch with him  at links in the SHOW NOTES.Hop on my email list here. 

#006 If you often --or even just occasionally-- feel feelings of frustration, anger, resentment, or hurt in your relationship,  or conflict is common, this episode is key for you.In it, you will develop an essential understanding of where so much of the upset, hardship, and pain comes from in your marriage,  and how to start loosening its grip. As humans, whether highly sensitive or not,  we all come into this world having inherited a “set of equipment”--which can feel like a wild creature living inside of us. Though not a problem in and of itself, it can make things really hard --if we don’t understand it. We can use this genetic inheritance--our "two brains"-- for or against us in love. How we relate to and work with them makes ALL the difference in our marriages. To understand this in a basic way is to not only have more compassion for the way you are "wired",  but to start stepping into your capacity to steer your marriage where you want it to go, instead of feeling like you are at the mercy of your own, and your significant others, negative feelings and behaviors. Your capacity for having ever-deepening love in your life begins with understanding this. What I share in this foundational episode is often the starting point for the deep work my clients do. Now you can get a start on it yourself!So listen to this episode and really take in these teachings to start to harness the power you have to make your marriage the easier and loving one you want it to be.How To Get in Touch:  Email: Hannah@lifeisworthloving.com   Facebook On Instagram @hannahbrookslovecoachShow Notes                                              

#005   If you want to start having more positive interactions, more love, closeness, laughter, and joy in your marriage, this is a must-listen episode. It lays the foundation for improving your marriage and introduces  4 main ways you can initiate the change process, along with specific examples and ideas to shift the tides of your marriage towards more love, ease, and understanding. Whether you are aware of it or not, you are leading your relationship in one direction or another. It’s time to lead it towards the love you want. And you, as a Highly Sensitive Person, are the perfect person to do so. This episode gives you the fuel you need to start what I call a “Positive Snowball effect” in your marriage. Because the best news is that you naturally have the power right NOW to set it in motion make your marriage what you want it to be--yes, even without your significant other's direct participation. Don’t worry, it doesn’t mean you will be all alone in this! Listen in to hear what I mean and to start seeing way more of the love you want begin to emerge in your marriage. It can truly feel so fun, empowering, and like a bit of magic --but it's just what happens when you get intentional in love!Helpful Links: ~Free ebook: THE 7 MOST POWERFUL PHRASES TO DEEPEN CONNECTION IN YOUR MARRIAGE~Hop on my email list here.~ WebsiteShow Notes

 #004  The power is in YOU to shift the course of your marriage. It starts with developing agency over your feelings.Because how YOU feel has the power to bring you closer with your significant other or push you further apart. You want to feel connected and supported. But instead, maybe you are experiencing lots of heavy emotions. You:feel alone or not fully cared for, feel annoyed or uninterested in being around him a lot of the time, feel resentful because you are pulling more weight, or even feel guilty for some way you are acting.This is the kind of thing I hear all the time. . It’s normal----AND painful. Not what you were hoping for in love. And NOT what you need to settle for.Much of this comes from looking solely towards your significant other for happiness and care. If the only way you know how to get the sensitivity you want (care, understanding, affection) is from your husband doing things in a certain way, power struggles and dissatisfaction will become the norm.The good news is YOU have a powerful influence over your own feelings! It starts with being sensitive to your own self.In this episode, I go into depth on this and share a practical method to help you be more empowered around your own feelings (a personal go-to favorite), so you can get more of the sensitivity you are longing for, and start shifting the dynamic in your marriage to an easier more loving one.Resource Links: Facebook PageContact: hannah@lifeisworthloving.comShow Notes here. 

#003   To have thriving relationships we need to deeply accept and value ourselves.Too many of us Highly Sensitive People don’t value our sensitivity, and instead, feel like something’s wrong with us because of it. This hurts our love lives and marriages unnecessarily. Because, actually, so much is RIGHT with us. Especially when it comes to love and relationships. Because sensitivity is exactly what we need MORE of in our relationships. And you, HSP,  were born with a huge dose of it. You are cut out to have the best marriage possible.When we sensitives aren't at the effect of the more challenging aspects of sensitivity, the love-enhancing aspects of our trait come out naturally.So we can use our sensitivity to improve our marriage in big ways.It all starts with valuing our sensitivity more--ourselves.  This means we need to understand the GREAT parts of sensitivity. Listen in to this episode to hear 10 of the ways your sensitivity is an ASSET when it comes to long term love relationships! You will naturally start appreciating yourself more as you do. And that will have a ripple effect that will begin to change your marriage in amazing ways.LINKS TO RESOURCES:The 7 Most Powerful Phrases To Deepen Connection In Your MarriageHannah's WebsiteENJOYING THE SHOW?Don’t miss an episode, listen on Spotify and subscribe via Apple Podcasts, or Stitcher.Leave me a review in Apple Podcasts.

#002   Understanding your sensitivity changes everything for the better.So, are you a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)? Do you understand sensitivity and how it affects your love life? This episode will clarify all that for you!If you’re anything less than truly happy in your marriage, it’s likely in part due to simply not understanding if and how your sensitivity is affecting things. Many of us sensitive people may not even know we are HSP’s until things get tough in our marriages!! Because the most challenging parts of the trait tend to become most apparent in our long-term love relationships.I’ve seen personally how ignoring or not knowing fully understanding sensitivity leads directly to marriages failing. I don’t want this to happen to you. And you don’t have to let it. The key to not only keeping your marriage from slowly crumbling, but to making it amazing, lies in understanding how your sensitivity affects you in your marriage. Because understanding it is the first step to be able to address it. In this episode, I share a bit of my own story, including the challenges it brought and how understanding the unique challenges of sensitivity completely revolutionized my love life… Listen in as dive into 10+ of the specific ways it may be negatively impacting your marriage-- so you can get your sensitivity to start working FOR you and bring more love, ease, and connection into your marriage and all your relationships! Link to check out:Does This Sound Like You? 31 Ways Being Sensitive Can Affect Your Love Life    Find me at hannah@lifeisoworthloving.com or on instagram @hannahbrookslovecoachENJOYING THE SHOW?Don’t miss an episode, listen on Spotify and subscribe via Apple Podcasts, or Stitcher.Leave me a review in Apple Podcasts.

#001   In this inaugural episode, learn how you are not alone as a sensitive person if it feels like things are harder than they should be in your marriage.Why? Love doesn’t always come as naturally as we were taught it would--to ALL of us. On top of that, we Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) have unique challenges (and strengths) that tend to affect our relationships. But this never means you should resign you to settling for a less-than-happy marriage. In fact, you have it in you to have an amazing marriage, where love, connection,  and joy deepens, instead of fades, over time.  Even if:You’ve been called too sensitive, You’ve failed many times before, You think you just aren't cut out love, Your partner is falling short in so many ways,You spouse feels he needs to walk on eggshells around you, You’re considering separation, You’re irritable, resentful, easily hurt, Or you just aren't able to access much love these days......You can still feel deeply good about yourself and so secure in the love in your marriage. It starts with UNLEARNING a few major myths we've all learned that keep us in unhealthy patterns of interacting with our significant other.  And LEARNING a few key things about sensitivity and love.Dive into this here to get set up for making the changes you want in your marriage. This episode will leave you feeling relieved, understood, and truly encouraged about the future of your marriage.Find me at lifeisworthloving.com or on Instagram @hannahbrookslovecoachENJOYING THE SHOW?Don’t miss an episode, listen on Spotify and subscribe via Apple Podcasts, or Stitcher.Leave me a review in Apple Podcasts.