Hannah Brencher- Making Big Life Decisions
Description: In this episode Mandy talks with Hannah Brencher about writing letters to strangers building things out of love instead of fear and how to make friends in a new city. Selected Links: Hanna’s Website Hannah’s Instagram More Love Letters Hannah’s latest book “Come Matter Here: Your Invitation to Be Here in a Getting There World” MOPS Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com Show Notes: 1:00 Introduction- Making big decisions by coin flips 2:15 The “happiness” result of 20,000 coin flips 3:02 The coin toss gives us clarity 3:40 How to make a decision based on a coin flip 3:55 Just say “Yes!” 4:05 Introduction of Hannah Brencher 5:00 Moving to New York City and overcoming depression 5:25 Writing letters to strangers 6:19 If you need a love letter, just ask. How it all got started 7:22 You are not the only one facing this 7:55 Did you write all the letters? 8:04 How long did it take you to write all the letters 8:45 What story stands out to you of all the letters you’ve written 10:02 The Big move 10:28 How to make friends in a new city 12:05 Happy hour instead of a speaker fee 12:45 Ikea bringing people together 13:10 The chase for the next best thing 14:01 Don’t miss what’s happening in this moment 14:41 How to be present during a busy day 15:02 Building things out of fear instead of love 16:21 I didn’t have to let fear drive the car to Atlanta 16:56 Dismantling flakiness 17:50 Showing up when you’d rather not 19:05 The Fight Song Journal 20:47 Being Where Your Feet Are and Experiencing Belonging 21:50 Belonging comes with honesty 22:48 Initiating versus waiting for others to initiate 23:40 Sometimes we have to be the invitation 24:00 Come Matter Here 25:10 Waiting on a text saying, “Come matter here” 26:03 Letting people know that they matter 26:15 A simple prayer… “God show up” 27:08 God doesn’t leave me 27:20 What does “show up” mean 27:57 What are you doing to have more fun in your life right now 29:49 What is the best advice you never got 30:49 Just because you can multi-task, doesn’t mean you should 31:15 Get the 1st Chapter of Mandy’s new book for FREE Quotes: “The moment the penny is up in the air, you suddenly know what you’re hoping” Piet Hein If you need a love letter… just ask Be where your feet are It doesn’t matter what you fill it with… it usually doesn’t fill When we spread ourselves too thin we are doing a disservice to people Belonging is like the manual at IKEA You have to be willing to put yourself out there The things that are hard transform us the most Sometimes you have to BE the invitation Most of the prayers that we need to say are simple and they don’t need to be muddied up with a ton of beautiful, eloquent words. I’m slowly learning as I get older that multi tasking, while it’s possible, isn’t actually something that’s most effective.