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60 minutes | Jan 19, 2021
Dads In Lockdown - Paul McIntosh - using ACT psychology to negotiate with kids
Derek had a great chat with Paul on his approach and techniques when dealing with his kids. Paul runs Derek through one example of how the family came to a rational agreement on the best way to handle the screen time issue using an ACT matrix. Armed with a piece of paper, a pen and some post-it notes, Paul managed to come to a calm agreement on sensible screen use. Next episode Paul will be running Derek and his 12 YO son through a similar position, but not something as serious and volatile as screen time. They will probably tackle Derek's desire to teach Tom the skills of his trade and use resources at hand to give him a great head start in the modern world of streaming and content creation. Paul sent some links to info in the topics we discussed...https://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=https%...https://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=https%...
54 minutes | Jan 16, 2021
Dads In Lockdown - Pete Richards - Regional Lockdown and keeping the peace
Genius artist and hair stylist Pete Richards is raising a daughter with his partner Katie in the regional town of Castlemaine. Pete has some great insights into managing the pressure cooker of family life in lockdown, as well as running his business - Cirkas Hair in neighbouring town, Kynetonhttps://www.facebook.com/cirkashair/
63 minutes | Jan 14, 2021
Dads In Lockdown - Brooke Penrose - Staying Creative at home with kids
Derek had a great chat with musician Brooke Penrose about all kinds of things from making a record by yourself to the terrors of NOT helicopter parenting.Brooke is the singer and Guitarist in the Melbourne based rock band Saint Jude, the owner of Captain B studios and does magnificent illustrations.Thanks to Yarra Arts for the Smarty Grants help that allowed us to equip ourselves to send recording gear to remote dads.
39 minutes | Jul 25, 2020
Dads In Lockdown - Hotel Quarantine With Adam White
We had a great chat with Adam White from a Sydney Quarantine Hotel Room.Adam knew what was coming when he applied for special permission to visit his gravely ill mother in the UK. what he did not know was that Victoria would have an outbreak, leaving him locked in a hotel room in Sydney while his family were locked down in a Melbourne suburb.Adam shared what the quarantine process is like, dealing with the loss of his mum in the UK, and what the future looks like for his kids.Thanks mate for sharing and helping us all get a better understanding of what is happening all around us. A3WWnCCVdtpN36IMdkPQ
66 minutes | Dec 18, 2019
And So This IS Christmas - Derek And Dan Reflect On The Year's Guests
Derek and Dan talk about the things they have learnt from their many and varied guests. Home Births, raising children in a truck, Broome Dads, BASE jumping and crocodile hunting, From space Gandalf to Uncle Jack Charles. Fathers with chronic illness, fathers who have lost a child, fathers, Grandfathers, Doctors and psychologists. Skater Dads, Comedians, Cinematographers, and Dads who grew up in the circus. If you missed an episode go back and listen to some more of these amazing Dads and their stories over the holiday season. Hope you have an exhilarating and restful Christmas and New Year! Stay tuned for something a little different next year folks!
84 minutes | Nov 22, 2019
Daniel Donahoo: Author, Speaker And Father Of Four.
Daniel has written several books on raising children, he runs programs in schools and for other professionals, concerned mainly with improving the way we all use technology to support education and learning. He talks with us mainly about the experience of losing a child- grief as well as growth. Topics covered: A brief History of Dan's relationship with Dan.The death of a child: our greatest fear.A culture that doesn't deal with death.Kids can cope with reality better than we can.Tragedy brings us into the moment- thinking with your body not your head.Remembrance.Remember what is really important- holding onto the perspective that comes from loss and grief.Parenthood increases the spectrum range of emotions.It's okay to keep the dead alive inside the family narrative and mythology.When do you tell people about the death of a child- it can be hard for people to know what to do.Learning from the dying.Trauma and grief are different, though they often occur together.The digital legacy we leave.Year nine. Whooah!Giving friends at school the space to deal with the death of a friend.Getting down to a child's level can de-escalate a difficult situation.Forget time quality time- just being around is what matters.You don't need to be present all the time.Swearing- what happens if you're not prepared to stop.Parenting in a digital world.Positive screen time.
72 minutes | Nov 13, 2019
Warwick Field: Cinematographer And Father Of Two Adult Boys.
Warwick is a Cinematographer who has filmed, amongst other things, many of Missy Higgins film clips. His erratic and demanding work life has made it hard for him to see his boys as much as he wanted to while they were growing up. We discuss how he managed to have a successful relationship with them. Topics:Grown up kids.Working in the film industry makes family life almost impossible.Guilt- Missing so much of early life with the kids because of work.There is no such thing as no on a film set.Anecdotes from the set.Making Missy Higgins film clips for "Everyone's waiting" and "Unashamed Desire".Quality time.Teenage disinterest. It's all over before you know it.Are boys and girls different- apart from the obvious?When the kids team up against you.Kids are resilient when they know they are loved.Not the person you were when you had kids: changing ethics.Relationships based on shared values.People don't change unless the pain is bad enough.Climate change and cognitive dissonance. How do you talk to kids about climate change?Fixing the world- there, done!
70 minutes | Nov 2, 2019
Geoff "Ritchie" Baldwin: Motorcycle Journalist, Blogger, Dad.
Geoff returns to tell us all about the birth of his son, in a bath, in the loungeroom. See episode 23 to hear how he felt before the baby arrived. Topics include:A home birth story- Grateful to have a boring birth.The calmness of the midwives.The pros of birthing in water.First contact- watching the baby emerge.Videos of perfect births in jungle streams.A Scottish home birth for Derek!Placenta encapsulation.An unsettling tangent into horror movies.Life will never be the same again.A father's relationship with the baby doesn't really start until the birth.The biological meaning of life is to pass on your genetic information.Jaundice.Ultra sound.The hairy nipple of disappointment.Annoying baby advice.Try to enjoy the chaos.Working at home.Bring on the positive birth stories!Monetize the baby!When your baby looks like Hitler.
69 minutes | Oct 26, 2019
Anthony Breslin: Painter, Performer, Survivor, Father.
Anthony is an extraordinary painter, performer, cancer survivor and father. His work is intense and exciting and his life story is the same. From international artist to Leukemia survivor, Anthony had great success in the art world before he was crippled by GVH disease as a result of a bone marrow transplant. His son moved over-seas to live with his mother while Anthony tried to stay alive. Topics discussed:The physicality of painters.Writing and painting- comparing our process.When Anthony filled the Myers windows with paintings in a week. International success and a high intensity lifestyle and work life.Killing your darlings- process above product.The cancer rollercoaster begins.An unexpected child, brings unwanted vulnerability.The Breslin Gallery.A second chance and facing the fear.Death is as big as life and as important.Transcendence.Being a father when you are fighting cancer.Forced to practice what you believe.The judgemental switch gets turned off.From athlete to invalid.Being ready to go.Finding meaning and relief from self through service and charity work.The individual is an illusion- They're me and I'm them. https://www.readings.com.au/review/brezania-by-anthony-breslin http://www.anthonybreslin.com https://www.jahroc.com.au/gallery-category/artists-wa-fine-art-perth-for-sale-margaret-river/anthony-breslin-artist-paintings-for-sale/
82 minutes | Oct 16, 2019
Terry Lee: Professor Of Leadership Psychology, Father And Grandfather.
This is Terry's second conversation with us. His main areas of interest are leadership and child psychology and he is Dan's Dad. Topics discussed:The importance of group singing- preferably at dinner.A bit of singing from the old country- singing at the kids.Passing on the romantic notion of the old country.Guerrilla greening! Illegal planting with the kids. Taking personal responsibility.Developmental psychology. Nurturing life-long learning.Too much information - not enough band width.Learning without a narrative is tough.How we keep people learning.Curating the increased flow of information.Mine craft.TV- active watching. Promote engaging with TV.Making the alternative more interesting.Make everything into narrative- into story.Teaching kids to delay gratification.Emotional intelligence.The marshmallow test.IQ tests.Tenacity and determination will get you a long way in life.The future of work- meaning, fulfilment and AI.Climate change and human population.Kids and resilience through personal responsibility.The upsides of the apocalypse.Man's search for meaning.No more stuff! Happiness is meaning and connection.
20 minutes | Oct 2, 2019
Grumpy Old Sick Men On The School Holidays
Dan and Derek have a cheeky phone chat. We explain our upcoming 2 week break for the school holidays and the exciting guest planned to see the year out. Dan is flat with the cold and Derek is tripping balls on hayfever medication. We talk about croup, hospital waiting rooms and Clover's bike crash. see our youtube channel[A CASTAWAY STUDIOS PRODUCTION](http://castawaystudios.com.au/) We support Local Artisans: Check out [13 knives - Hand Forged Blades right here in Easey St](https://13knives.com.au/)
66 minutes | Sep 26, 2019
Uncle Jack Charles- National Treasure, Respected Elder, Grandfather Of Aboriginal Theatre, Father To All Who Need Him.
Uncle Jack isn't a Dad in the usual sense but he's certainly the grandfather of Aboriginal theatre and a spiritual father to many indigenous and non-indigenous people alike. Uncle Jack is an Australian icon and a truly beautiful man- look him up, watch his movies and TV (especially the documentary "Bastardy"), read his Autobiography (Born again black Fella) say hello to him in the street. He really is a father to all those who need him. Donate to the Archie Roach Foundation if you'd like to support the incredible and vital work that Uncle Jack and Uncle Archie are doing. http://www.archieroach.com/about-the-foundation https://www.penguin.com.au/books/jack-charles-9780143792222 http://ilbijerri.com.au/event/jack-charles-v-crown/ https://www.smh.com.au/entertainment/theatre/a-bold-exploration-of-the-pursuit-of-sobriety-20181116-h17z3l.html Being a father figure in the community.In Indigenous societies everyone brings up the children-The move to expunge criminal records so that fathers who have payed their dues can have access to their children. Part of the treaty process in Victoria.Reconstituting community hubs so that the young can access elders and vice versa.The men are missing or behaving badly.Jack's time in the Box Hill boy's home.Jack's family origins- the extraordinary, still unfolding epic, that is the life of Jack Charles.A little on theatre History in Australia.The national Black theatre, Bob Maza and Gary Foley.Jack plays Bennelong naked at the Sydney Opera House with David Gulpilil.Initiation late in life can be confronting.Young men going through lore gives them responsibility and accountability.How Jack met his Aboriginal family as a young man.Jack's days as a cat BurglarJack continues to discover family members.The real meaning of Moomba.
69 minutes | Sep 20, 2019
Nick Kirk - Personal Trainer And Father Of Two.
Nick and his wife, are the owner, operators of Team Elwood personal training studio. They have two boys under five and a great approach to fitness and mental wellbeing- while juggling everything else.https://www.teamelwood.com.au Topics discussed:Old dad's have gotta protect they're backs.Dan's double hernia operation from lifting kids that keep growing.The getting off the floor test- how much do you groan?Protect your back!Early starts on no sleep.Dan's hints for story time relaxation- transition from story to dreamland.The who's more tired Olympics.Parental amnesia.How judgmental we are before we have kids of our own.Fitness values for kids.Hiding vegetables.Making sure you enjoy exercise.Discovering mental conditions as a result of the challenges of parenthood.Managing the chaos.Being present and the kids with different interests to you.The importance of community and connection for mental health.
65 minutes | Sep 11, 2019
Jayden Sheridan - Founder Of Yeah Gnar Skate Brand, Father At 17
Since becoming a father at seventeen in a country town troubled by drug addiction and bored teenagers, Jayden's love for his son and strong desire to give him the best possible life have driven him to work hard, start a skate brand, save money and stay sober. This conversation is a wake up call to all the dads and a lesson in goal setting and sacrifice. Jayden lives in a van. That is cool in the skate world and is a decision he has made to help save money for his long term plan - return to Seymour, where Jayden's son lives with his mother and setup a business. He already has a successful skate brand 'Yeah Gnar' and is developing some top secret prototype inventions. Of course, weekend dad time is awesome cos dad already lives in a camper. The fellas adventure and go out bush away from the digital nasties most weekends, giving the lad the analogue time we all dream of giving our kids. Dan didn't make it in person this episode due to a sick kid but we got a phone in with him which was cool. we discussed Dan's home plumbing Throwing away good appliances Jayden's Yeah Gnar Skate brand - https://www.instagram.com/yeah.gnar/ A CASTAWAY STUDIOS PRODUCTION We support Local Artisans: Check out 13 knives - Hand Forged Blades right here in Easey St
59 minutes | Sep 4, 2019
Hugh Van Cuylenburg: Resilience Project Founder And Father.
Hugh is the founder of the Resilience Project and a great bloke. He is dedicated to helping people improve their mental health and resilience. There's simply too much to write here about the resilience project so just google him- he and his team are doing really great work. On this occasion he joins us to talk about being a father to his son and the one that is on the way.https://theresilienceproject.com.auhttps://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-imperfects/id1476501557Topics discussed. Kids can be cruel. A few amusing anecdotes involving poo and farts. Is swearing really that bad?? People tell you it's hard but it's much harder than that! Oh, how we forget the trauma... Let's have another one! Give the first born a present from the new baby: a lesson in Diplomacy. Siblings become friends in the end. New Yorkers are more friendly when you've got a baby. Hugh gets an answer he didn't want- two kids are much harder than one. The origins of the resilience project. Being over worked when you've got a tough child. Exercise as much as you can and find a sport you can't lose. Purpose for mental health. Vulnerability disarms and relieves stress. Men shouldn't be allowed in politics. Hugh, teaching in Indian, witnessed uncommon joy. Resilience on the internet- what's coming next. Kids need to know life isn't always fair. Man up! Derek misunderstood what it meant at the footy. Hugh's podcast: the imperfects. Dan overshares. Notting Hill.
96 minutes | Aug 28, 2019
Greg Quicke: Astronomer, Motorcycle Mystic, Father.
Quickie is a bush astronomer to some, a motorcycle riding mystic, a pearl diver and a father to his daughter as well as being a kind of community father to many others, including my kids. When he's on the telly with Professor Brian Cox he's known as Space Gandalf on account of the big white beard and long white hair. He runs amazing Astro tours out of Broome, Western Australia. Topics discussed A brief history of Quickie- Astronomy in the bush and working with Professor Brian Cox on the tellie. Walking the country with Paddy Roe and the Goolarabooloo- the country knows what's in your heart. Quickie talks about his daughter. Mothers are amazing. The cycles of the planets and the possible effects on our lives- a bit of astrology to think about. Quickie really explains the sky very well- makes astronomy accessible. Literally watching Saturn return. Full moon is a time of high energy. Unbroken connection to a water hole for 40,000 years. Fighting for your right to be a father- Quickie had to let go of his daughter for a while after coming up against the wall of the family court. Kids take you back to your own father. The old discipline and boundary-setting debate. Quickie and I sit in the sand dunes at Cable Beach at 6am talking about breathing. The many fathers it takes to raise a child- community fathers. The Day Quickie and Sammy had a run in and the respect that followed. Kids hear everything- Sammy tells his kinder about blue mushrooms. Quickie talks about Pearl diving in Broome in the 1980's. Breathing water is so easy but it will usually kill you. Embracing the challenges- "Relax- you're not in charge anyway" When someone saves your life in an instant without thinking about it. The kids weren't sent to destroy you. Back to the extended family of our community. Further conversation about Sammy and his many fathers. Risk and reward. Don't hold your breath when you're under pressure. When you get to the end of your tether. Here's some links to Quickie on the tellie! https://iview.abc.net.au/show/stargazers-guide-to-the-cosmos https://iview.abc.net.au/show/stargazing-moon-and-beyond https://iview.abc.net.au/show/stargazing-live https://iview.abc.net.au/show/back-to-earth-stargazing-live
119 minutes | Aug 22, 2019
Mark Jones- Documentarian, Storyteller, Spiritual Adventurer And Father Of Two.
Mark Jones: documentarian, storyteller, spiritual adventurer and father of two. Mark made 17 adventure documentaries with the legendary Malcolm Douglas and subsequently managed his crocodile park. He is a historian, storyteller and an adventurer with a deep fascination and appreciation for Rock art and Aboriginal culture. This is a conversation of epic scope. Topics discussed. Crabbing in the Mangroves and discussing the epic of Gilgamesh. Straight into everything- storytelling and history. Linguistics, Aboriginal story tradition, the Kimberley. Malcom Douglas documentary making. Managing the crocodile park. Falling in love with the camera, the Kimberley and rock art. Fear of the future now that I have children- everything that humans create eventually collapses. More Gilgamesh- the end of human immortality. Mark's fatherhood journey told. Meeting his wife over a fish gutting table. Even the most serine parents will be pushed to their limits some time. Aboriginal people in the Kimberley call their children mother and father. How do we nurture resilience in our children? Being a father is a healing process. When your parents didn't cope very well and the effect that has on you as a parent. Call your son Dad. Kids have Epochs. Without our wives we are doomed. Politics should be dominated by women. Misogyny. Sleep is everything. A meeting with a great white shark- that's not a euphemism. Meaning and connection in order to parent well. "What's it all about?"- A billionaire asks an Aboriginal man sitting on a mat. We are living in an unsatisfying story. Spend time with the dying. Children are better with death than adults. Resilience by facing realities of life. Your soul kept moving and the fear didn't exist. To give birth to the ancients in a new time is creation. Jung. Universal Lore. Decide what you question is? Toddlers are c@$!s. Sometimes. Avoiding the violent upbringing that we may have had. Entitled, thin skinned and narcissistic. Strong fathers as a stand in for the world. Accept that your kids won't like you sometimes. Men and boys- clear measured guidance. Girls need good fathers too. Letting go of the voices in your head. Broome A CASTAWAY STUDIOS PRODUCTION We support Local Artisans: Check out [13 knives - Hand Forged Blades right here in Easey St](https://13knives.com.au/
48 minutes | Aug 19, 2019
Geoff Ritchie Baldwin - Soon To Be A Dad
We interrupt the Broome Series with some pending baby content ---- While dan is dashing about in Broome, Derek had a great chat with moto journalist Geoff Baldwin as he is about to become a father for the first time. Geoff and his wife are not only having a home birth, but they are doing it in a pool in the loungeroom. They chat about the benefits and realities of home birth and Derek reveals that he was, in fact, a deliberate home birth baby from the 60's (man). Some topics covered this episode: There's no turning back Home Birth Forgetting all the trauma Guessing the Gender - everyone has an opinion Being a writer from home with a baby Trying for a baby - ovulation based sex can be a bit unromantic. Mercy Hospital Birthing Centre - sadly not there anymore, but a great mid point between hospital and midwife style birth. Water birth - for comfort and pain management. (ground floor only) extracting a fish bone from your wife's throat with tweezers - Geoff is all set for toddler triage. mother in law in the birth team - this is going to be a bonding experience. A CASTAWAY STUDIOS PRODUCTION We support Local Artisans: Check out 13 knives - Hand Forged Blades right here in Easey St
83 minutes | Aug 14, 2019
James Brown - Pearl Farmer, Biologist And Father Of Four... Almost.
James and his family established the Cygnet Bay Pearl farm on the Dampier Peninsula and through this multigenerational endeavour they have developed strong personal and working relationships with the indigenous Bardi people. It is a unique place to bring up kids where the country itself does much of the teaching. Topics discussed. Straight to the discipline debate We are both children of the 70's Parenting has changed- expectations have changed. Even in the most remote town on earth, phones and social media are a concern. John Marsden and the realities of childhood development. Parenting mentors. The struggle to look after your relationship and mental health. Biology wants us to breed- that's all. Oxytocin addicts. When having kids is hard to do. The bush raises the kids. Growing up with Aboriginal people. Holding back the smart phone Tsunami. Teach resilience Boys will find someone to follow. Find some bush to release your kids into. All non-indigenous people should spend time with Aboriginal people and take the time to listen and learn. White Australia has no idea about what Aboriginal Australia needs. Long term relationships for reconciliation. Bardi kids going through lore- Non-indigenous kids being invited to go through the process too. A brief history of the Brown Family Pearling business on the Dampier Peninsula. Managing the fear for your kid's future- what if they do the things we did? And more!! Trying to appreciate the good things about being a parent. Can we be fearless parents?
69 minutes | Aug 7, 2019
Dave Mann- Travelling Musicians, House-trucks, Veggie Oil And Kids
Dave and his family live in an evolving work of art; a beautiful house-truck that runs on used veggie oil. They travel between Margaret River and Broome depending on the season, playing concerts big and small, while home schooling. It's a complicated but simple life style that proves that anything is possible. Even with kids! Topics discussed in this episode: Dave tells the fascinating origin story of his family and the truck that has been at the very centre of their life and life style. Surprise twins and storage issues. Freedom is a trade-off but it's worth it. Children generate opposing emotions simultaneously. Even a house truck needs a home base for the crazy times. The extraordinary details required to leave an almost non-existent foot print. Family Tetris! As the family grows the truck evolves. Reducing to the absolute basics can actually reduce anxiety. Music residency at cape Levique while home schooling the kids. Recording studio in a shipping container. Making time for your relationship. Making time for yourself. Telling and retelling your relationship narrative. We are a storytelling species. Losing the skill of being a good audience. Transitioning from the road to the water- Trading the truck tray for the Catamaran. Veggie oil to wind power. Anything is possible in Broome- this place is an amplifier. Alcoholics go Geograhicals- changing location but not stopping drinking and expecting things to be different. The healing power of community. Broome is magic. The country listens and knows your intensions. A CASTAWAY STUDIOS PRODUCTION We support Local Artisans: Check out 13 knives - Hand Forged Blades right here in Easey St
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