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Louise O’Reilly is a Warrwa-Noongar Aboriginal woman based in Boorloo (Perth, Western Australia) on Wadjuk Country. Through her experiences with identity and personal journey of self-discovery, she realized society wasn't always accepting of her identity, community, or culture. Louise provides online courses to stimulate harmonious & inclusive change in the world where every global citizen can say I'm #FreeToBeMe. That’s the big picture goal. For now, she is focused on cultural diversity & inclusion of Aboriginal people and culture. She is a freelance writer for Amnesty International Australia and a radio host for an Aboriginal women's self-empowerment program called Yorgas Yarning (women talking) on 100.9fm Noongar Radio. She is a committee member for the Danjoo Koorliny (Walking Together) Aboriginal-led 10yr visionary reconciliation/conciliation plan for Boorloo (Perth) which is hosted by the University of Western Australia's Social Impact Unit. Louise also runs her own personal business, The Ascension Personal Development Academy  If you will let her, Louise will show you how to use your words to create inclusion and how to make it ripple out into the world. The difference between diversity and inclusivity The importance to create a safe space for all to belong Why the subconscious guilt of white privilege stops us from reaching out in order to dissolve racism. The foundations of inclusive  language Why our intention to learn outweighs the fear of offending Why Acknowledgement of Country should be embraced and honored. And the importance of having privilege. Connect with Louise Here: Email louiseoreilly.shieldandconch@gmail.com Website www.louiseoreilly.com.au Instagram https://www.instagram.com/louise.oreilly.shieldandconch/ Twitter https://twitter.com/LouiseOReilly Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here: Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com  Twitter (Ashleigh) @nerdypioneer Facebook @goodgielsdontpod IG @goodgirlsdontpod   

Hummingbird House is Queensland's only Children's Hospice. We provide a home away from home for children and their families with a life-limiting condition. We care for children from birth to aged 18 and support families with short break stays crisis and symptom management care, end of life and after death care. Andrea is a Paediatric Palliative Care Nurse Practitioner. Andrea is a UK trained children's nurse, Andrea moved to Australia with her young family 13 years ago. She has extensive nursing experience caring for children, working in the Emergency Department, General paediatric wards, oncology and now in paediatric palliative care. Why as a society there's more fear around death than previous generations The financial accessibility of accessing the services of a children's hospice Do other cultures cope with death better than we do? Why we don’t get over grieving but need to learn to grow around grief instead. The importance of community and inclusivity when it comes to death, especially the death of a child. How there is no right or wrong way to grieve the loss of a child The child-friendly language around dying children How do we normalise death, especially in conversation with our kids? Connect with Hummingbird House: Email andrea.coe@hummingbirdhouse.wmq.org.au Website www.hummingbirdhouse.wmq.org.au http://hummingbirdhouse.org.au/home/ Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Instagram/Facebook: @goodgirlsdontpod 

After our own Ashleigh Rae successfully charged a man with sexual violence, she shares with us what happens when it comes to sentencing and what it means for the victim and the offender. Please note that the conversation refers to Victorian legislation around sex offending and the specifics do not represent the legislation and regulations of other states and territories. Here’s what we spoke about; The difference between a plea hearing and a sentencing hearing. Why does the register exist and what does it mean for the perpetrator, the victim & the community? How children can be placed on the sex offenders registry. What’s restorative justice and should it be compulsory? Should the Sex Offenders Registry be made public? The importance of educating ourselves and our children of the criminal implications of innocent ‘sexting’, and how easily young teens can get themselves and their girlfriends/boyfriends and peers into serious trouble.

In Australia, up to one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage. 103,000 Australian families are impacted each year. And yet, for many, it remains a silent trauma. Miscarriage is a taboo topic affecting 282 Aussie women a day that can cause long-lasting grief and mental health problems. Why are we not talking about this? So we want to start a conversation about it and create an episode dedicated to allowing women to share their stories around miscarriage. We want to stop the silence and start sharing. Join us and an array of courageous women as we share our stories around Miscarriage. Join us today as we honor the stories of Verity, Bess, and Sandi. Contact Verity and Ashleigh: goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com FB/IG: @goodgirlsdontpod 

In a  society that dictates a strict definition of what masculinity is and demands rigid expectations upon how men and women should conform to binary gender roles, the struggle to inform others that non-binary people exist is real. Nic Lawrance takes the time to chat to us about their incredible experience of living as non-binary person, growing up without the language to express their identity and journey of acceptance from family and peers, finding that safe space to explore and express gender identity, and some of the present perils fraught in the legal system discriminating against gender diverse people. Nic Lawrance is a brilliant and powerful non-binary burlesque performer. Nic has performed at Fringe Festival and throughout Perth, Western Australia blending ideas of the feminine and masculine, challenging the norms of what is traditionally acceptable or expected of masc presenting humans.  Normalize the idea of asking for pronouns,like you would ask someone's name Reclaiming the word ‘Queer’. What happens when ‘males’ don’t fit into the “mans club”. Medical gate-keeping that prevents people from ever being able to own their identity. The dangers of identifying oneself as non binary to organisations and institutions when you’re filling out forms. The difference between sexuality and gender. Why all humans, even men should be able to feel pretty. The legal implication and limits of identifying as non binary gender And why inter-sectional feminism is crucial to the freedom of all minority groups. We loved Nic’s vulnerability, their wisdom and generosity as Nic shares their heartfelt stories and experience of fighting for one’s true identity. If you’ve ever felt confused about the conversation of gender fluidity, what the hell it all means and why we should even be talking about it, or even how to move forward in your own gender identity this episode is for you.  

Co-host Ashleigh Rae shares her experience of seeking justice after being raped as a child. It's a deep conversation and not for the faint hearted. We discuss her compassion for the offenders family, the obstacles and support through-out the process of seeking justice and the complexity of emotions around obtaining accountability and justice.  We discussed; The reactions and responses from loved ones. The rights of survivors and offenders of sexual violence. The sensitivity and insensitivity of professionals involved. What it feels like to confront the offender with an impact statement. We questioned the appropriateness of current sentencing / legal consequences. And how the justice system needs to change to serve both the survivor and the offender in a holistic manner. Its a conversation that all men and women should listen to, because there is so much we can learn as a society to not only know how to support those affected by sexual violence but to also understand the necessity of educating all men and women in order to prevent sexual violence. Contact Verity and Ashleigh: Facebook/Instagram: @goodgirlsdontpod Email: goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com

Soo...what happens when your sex life is dead? We know how it goes: find the man, get married, have the kids, and that's the end of your sex life. But what if that isn't how it has to be? What if we could have a deeply intimate sex life with our spouse, and toe-curling orgasms to-boot?  We were curious if such a thing was possible, so we sat down with one of Australia's most qualified Sexologists, Isiah McKimmie. But she isn't just a Sexologist. She's also a Couples Therapist, a Sex Therapist, and a Tantra Teacher - so she knows her stuff when it comes to intimacy which means, we put our burning questions to her about how to resuscitate a dead sex life, including:  What happens when your sex life is deader than Tutenkamun? What are the first steps in re-igniting the intimacy and passion in your relationship? Why does sex become transactional? Why sex is the socially acceptable way for men to ask for intimacy Why do we need to reconsider having sex during a pandemic - surely it's the perfect time for more romps?  Yup. Lots of sticky, gritty questions.  Lots of juicy, tantalizing answers.  Connect with Isiah: Email info@isiah-mckimmie.com Website https://www.isiah-mckimmie.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/isiahmckimmie.sexologist/ Connect with Ashleigh and Verity  Facebook/Instagram @goodgirlsdontpod Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com

Mental health care is a crisis in Australia, affecting 1 in 4 Australians at some point in their lives - so what does our mental health care system look like, and what’s it like to experience a mental health condition in Australia?  On this episode of Good Girls Don’t Ashleigh shares her story and experiences of navigating the convoluted system that works to devalue and deny the experiences of people with mental illness, including the dramatic impact of trauma.  We chatted about:  How easily mental health conditions can go undiagnosed, misdiagnosed, or mistreated for a long time. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is the 3rd most commonly diagnosed mental health issue. So why don’t we hear about it? What’s the difference between PTSD and C-PTSD? Why does Trauma get swept under the rug or get ‘forgotten’ about psychologically? What happens when Doctors behave badly? The impact of medication on mental health but also the emotional and physical impacts. The stigmas attached to mental health, especially borderline personality disorder, bipolar, and schizophrenia. Why mental health isn’t always appropriately funded by the government. The hardships of actually being able to access mental health care. Connect with Ashleigh and Verity here: Facebook and Instagram @goodgirlsdontpod Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com  

Sometimes, out in the wild, we find ourselves in front of a microphone on someone elses podcast and they're kind enough to roll with it and see what happens. Today, Verity is interviewed by Margie McCumstie from The Wedding Wombat... In this special Valentine’s Day edition, we meet Verity Mansfield, Relationship Coach and extraordinary woman with a powerful message about love, sex, romance and marriage. We talk about how to make your relationship juicy and your marriage even juicier! 8 years ago Verity found herself collapsed on the bottom of the shower floor, hoping the noise of the thundering water would drown out her gut-wrenching hysterical sobbing, so her kids wouldn’t hear her fall apart. She didn’t feel broken. She felt destroyed. Her marriage was falling apart. The kids were not getting the best of their mother. Her workplace was sucking the life out of her. She felt disappointed, disconnected and dead inside. Something had to give or Verity0 was going to explode. So she hit the ‘red’ button. You know the one they say only to hit in an emergency? Verity walked out of her marriage, out of an international fashion career and without looking back plunged into the darkness of the unknown with two toddlers, a mortgage and $136 cash. In that moment, Verity broke the “good girls rules” and chose a life of integrity and authenticity.  With the wisdom of hindsight and a successful career as a Relationship Coach, Verity shares from a real place to inspire everyone listening in this episode to enjoy juicy relationships- with yourself, with others and whether you choose marriage… or not.

While we take a moment to catch our breath and re-organize the universe, we've partnered with the good folks from the podcast, Gertie's Law to bring you an incredible episode on how the Supreme Court of Victoria changed women's ability to access abortion safely:  Fifty years ago, the Menhennitt Ruling was an example of judge-made law and it determined the legality of abortion in Victoria. In this episode of Gertie's Law, we find out why it was left to the Supreme Court, and not the parliament, to decide on such a controversial social issue. Hear from judges and people directly affected by the 1969 ruling. It's a brilliant piece of audio wizardry that showcases the bravery of the Doctors who put themselves at risk for women to have access to birth control and the fascinating details of how it all went down in the Supreme Court of Victoria.  We hope you love and enjoy it as much as Ashleigh has, and binge their entire series. Listen to the whole series here: Gertie's Law Podcast You can also check out Jennifer Zeven and Jay Crisp Crow's new podcast Untamed Shrews right here!

As women, we’re designed to have babies. Even if we don’t want them our bodies are ensuring they remind us every month, for every year for over a 40yr span that we’re baby-makers. Granted there are women who have ZERO interest in having kids and that's absolutely their right to choose. But what happens and what does it REALLY feel like to know that you do not even have a choice? What happens when we desperately want a child but our body just won’t allow it? Today Marie Louise shares her personal journey with us of her experience of being infertile and navigating marriage, divorce, dating and just the everyday existence of being female and infertile in a patriarchal world. How do you reconcile with your body when you feel it’s betrayed you? Befriending your (un)friendly monthly reminder that your body was meant to be designed to have babies. Why being infertile makes us feel like less of a woman. How do you date knowing you might crush his dreams of having a family? How can the rest of us childbearing women be more sensitive and understanding towards women who can’t bear children? And most importantly how does a woman move on with the acceptance of never being able to do what her body is biologically designed to do, heal from that acceptance and build a life that brings her unlimited joy, love and happiness? Well, tune in because Marie Louise is about to tell us! Who is Marie-Louise, Anyway? Marie-Louise Pawsey knows first-hand the hurt and trauma of being Infertile and Single. Since realizing that she wasn’t living her life as fully as she could be, she made the tough decision to sever ties with hope, and start living a more ‘flirtile’ life. For 3 years she’s mentored women and men in dating, and how to get into and maintain lasting romantic relationships. She’s most active on her Youtube channel where she publishes her tried and tested, unique and controversial views and guidelines to dating. Now, she’s supporting Single, Infertile women who are ready to give up the dream and start living the amazing life they can carve for themselves! When they’re ready to strut into their new life, free of shame, negative and the self-doubt which has caused them to deny themselves happiness, Marie-Louise is here to give them a place where they belong, and help them get the prince! These women are invited to join at facebook.com/groups/FlirtileForLife where they can feel nurtured and understood. Connect with Marie Louise Here facebook.com/LifeStylinDatingCoach Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod Help us Make Good Girls Don't Podcast the Best it Can Be http://bit.ly/ggdpodsurvey

Sometimes it's the small things we deny ourselves that have the biggest ripples throughout our lives. At least, that's what happened for our guest this week, Shilpa Agarwal, when she kept denying herself the permission and freedom to go for a simple jog.  We sat down with Shilpa to talk about what it means to be worthy, to be enough - and the hard, painful things that get in the way of our embodying it. The truths this powerful speaks ripple out across all the parts of our lives from professional to the intimate.  Who is Shilpa, Anyway? Shilpa is a book-writing coach who helps coaches, consultants, and spiritual/wellness practitioners, to write a book so they can share their story, make an impact and create the business of their dreams with ease and confidence. Shilpa used to live a life of people-pleasing, hyper-vigilance, and constantly feeling 'not good enough’. Until one day, she took back her power, decided to own her worth and share her story so she could help many others out there do the same. Thus #Enoughness was born, which is now also a book in the making. Born and brought up in India, she now lives in Adelaide, Australia with her husband and their little Miss 3! When she is not telling stories of Enoughness, you'll find her listening to one, reading, writing or sipping chai - masala chai! Connect with Shilpa here: Email: SHILPA@WANTSOLUTION.COM Website: www.wantsolutionthebook.com Instagram: shilpabookcoach Twitter: shilpaagarwal22 Free Gift for Our Listeners! Snap up a 60 minute 1:1 session with Shilpa FREE to map out your book here: bit.ly/BookBizBlueprint Connect with Ashleigh and Verity here: Email goodgirlsdont@gmail.com Facebook: @goodgirlsdontpod 

Sometimes, we venture onto other people's podcasts and they're kind enough not to kick us off their platform immediately.  This week's bonus episode comes courtesy of Claire Riley from the Recovering Perfectionists Podcast.   On this episode you'll hear Verity being interviewed by Claire about Breaking the Good Girl Rules: - Growing up she was obsessed with her body 'not being perfect' - Body image and conforming to what society refers to as 'beautiful' - What beauty is for us? - Understanding your truths. Knowing your absolute, core, top 5 values - the things that you can't live without or we will lose our sense of self, sense of integrity and sense of who we are. - Knowing your core values will allow you to express yourself without caring about what norm/society will think about you and what you wear, etc. - She wants to be an inspiration to her girls to break good girl rules Join The Recovering Perfectionists BIO Verity Mansfield is a transformational coach, mentor and self-love advocate. She is the founder of A Beautiful Truth, which supports women holistically to acknowledge the true beauty within, through coaching, on-line programs, and workshops.   With 20 years of exploring the concepts of beauty (including the international fashion industry), self-love and self-transformation, her own life experiences have enabled her to teach other women how to embrace their strengths and live life on their own terms. Verity Mansfield works in assisting other women through their own journey of self-love and empowerment as they awaken to their own fulfillment. She firmly believes in working towards creating generations of empowered women, to create real change and real beauty in the world.

Women are told since childhood not to take up too much space. Whether we’re told to ‘don’t be too smart’, or that we talk too much, or that being ‘big’ is bad and we all have to be thin and skinny, women are constantly exposed to these subliminal messages that we shouldn't take up too much space.  So how does this affect us in business, whether we’re entrepreneurs or vying for a position on the board? What stops us from taking up space in the business world and getting more vocal and more visible? What is the ‘imposter complex? Why are we afraid to be labeled ‘bossy bitch’? And is collaboration really the answer to patriarchal competitiveness? If the Universe is constantly expanding shouldn’t we be obliged to expand too? Who is Swapna Thomas, Anyway? Swapna Thomas works with women coaches who want to embrace their inner rebel, do business their way and live 100% on purpose.  Swapna helps develop a firebrand mindset and goes rogue with your marketing so you can confidently own your genius, claim your voice (aka your inner rebellion) and get well paid for your gifts.  When not spouting spiritual wisdom, being a raging feminist or not dropping content gems, you can find her inhaling psychological thrillers, listening to Bollywood songs on a loop and trying to convince her extrovert husband and daughter that she is totally an acceptable form of a social recluse. Connect with Swapna here: Email info@swapnathomas.com Website www.SwapnaThomas.com Instagram @theswapnathomas   Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here: Good Girls Don't Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod Join Breaking the Good Girl Rules FB Group  Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com

Coronavirus got ya bored and a little nutty?  We have you covered with our special bonus episode series from our good mates in the podcasting world, to bring you delicious ear food every Thursday.  Today we're thrilled to share with you former guest, (Episode 11 Good Girls Don't Smash the Glass Ceiling) Jay Crisp Crow's So Crisp Podcast.  Enjoy! 

While Verity grew up in a family that never talked about poops or farts, Ashleigh's family turned these bodily functions into a game that rivaled the Olympics.  With Covid#19 on the loose and the Great Toilet Escapades running havoc in cities across Australia, what better time to bright up your day with an episode about - poo! You know we got down to the nitty-gritty of Poop and Fluffs too, asking the BIG and important questions: Who farts more? Men or women? What’s the “Dead Rat Rating”? What IS poo actually made of, and why is corn the only vegetable that shows up? How do you know if your poop is healthy? Why are most beach models covered in poo but rarely realize it? What the hell is a ‘squatty potty’? And do sloths really dance when they poop? Yes! Verity and Ashleigh answer all those poop questions you’ve been dying to have answered all these years. Whether you think it’s gross or not you’re still going to laugh and find plenty of fun facts about poop you’ll be compelled to share at your next dinner party! Don’t deny it! Join us for one hilarious episode because, apparently, Good Girls’ Don’t Poop!

Rebels and Comrades have we got a treat for you!  If you find yourself in isolation right now - this ought to cheer your feminist heart right up.  This episode is a special bonus from our good mate, comedian Tom Ballard's podcast, Like I'm a Six Year Old recorded with a live audience in December 2019 with special guest, Adam Bandt who was at the time, the Federal Member for Melbourne, of the Greens Party - and is now the Leader of The Greens Party.  Connect with Tom Ballard here: Twitter @TomCBallard https://likeimasixyearold.libsyn.com/

Talking about open relationships feels pretty taboo, gossipy and darkly intriguing and yet Tani Beister creates the most beautiful and honest conversation of what it really takes to consciously create a loving open relationship. Explore the deeper values of intimacy, connection, transparency and freedom. Why having open relationships doesn’t make us sex fiends. The difference between open relationships and infidelity. What the real landscape of open relationships honestly looks like. How open relationships actually open us up to understanding our own true self. How do we deal with jealousy, shame, guilt and fear of judgment when we open our relationships up? The only way to create an open and loving relationship. Why serial monogamy is acceptable yet we believe in committing to one person for life. Can we have our cake and eat it too? Who is Tani Beister, Anyway? Tani is all about chasing pleasure and breaking all the rules. She claims to be a rebel/lover, creator/destroyer, hedonistic/sadistic bad bitch. Contradictory huh? Yep! She’s all about giving herself permission to express ALL the parts of her. She has not always been this unapologetic and radical in herself or her relationships. Due to years of deep, uncomfortable, heart wrenching internal work, she says she is now free from trying to please everyone in her life except herself (husband included). Tani met her husband in high school and they have now been together 17 years, with a 13yr old son. Two years ago after reaching a stalemate in her marriage, despite trying everything to take it to the next level, Tani unexpectedly experienced falling in love with someone else. She had no intention of ending her marriage and instead she managed to open it and pursued two relationships.  As a result, she found herself on a journey that awakened her sexuality, gave her an abundance of freedom, self-expression and also forced her to heal core wounds such as abandonment trauma and codependency. Tani’s marriage is now more fun, pleasurable and supportive than she ever could have imagined. The next level that she was searching for in her committed relationship, she found in opening it up and exploring the world of polyamory.  Tani is a Relationship Coach for women in long term relationships and she guides them towards their own liberation. Connect with Tani Here @tani.beister https://tanibeister.com Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here FB/IG @goodgirlsdontpod Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com

Comrades and Rebels,  Prepare to have your mind blown and heart melted by the wonder that is Hugs.  Hugs is 7, and the son of former guest, Jay Crisp Crow (from episode 11) and his podcast is all about how to be kind.  Share it with your kids and family.  Hugs may be our youngest and fiercest recruit to the cause yet, and we want to give him a massive high-five and snaps for starting his own podcast! Subscribe to How to Be Kind on Spotify  https://open.spotify.com/show/3A6eCAOz2uBbTIquDuyFrY