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You asked and we answered! In this episode, we're answering some of the juiciest questions from our community such as… How to let go of the past? Why can’t gay men find love? How to get unstuck and move forward? Join us as we cover topics such as shame, gay dating, self-confidence, and trust in this Q & A style discussion. Today's episode is sponsored by Manscaped: Get 20% OFF on all items + Free Shipping with promo code GMGD at MANSCAPED.com! Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

In this very special 💯 100th episode 💯, we are taking you behind the scenes of the idea that started it all, The Gay Men's Brotherhood. Today, we represent a group of thousands of men who share a vision to create a community where people feel more authentically connected to one another and feel comfortable showing up vulnerably so deeper intimacy can be established within our community. We have invited our moderators to the podcast to join us as we share our personal experiences as a leadership team. In this episode we talk about: ► The origin story of the Gay Men's Brotherhood ► How this community has impacted our lives ► What it's like to be a leader in the group ► The challenges that come with being part of a community ► Our fondest memories Today's episode is sponsored by Manscaped: Get 20% OFF on all items + Free Shipping with promo code GMGD at MANSCAPED.com! Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

From the outside looking in, the queer community is seen as an inclusive space that celebrates diversity. Yet for many people, it feels quite exclusive and lonely.  In this episode, we are sharing our vision for the gay community and the different ways we are implementing this vision.  We’re talking about... What exactly is our vision? What are the different parts of our community? Why is building this community important to each of us? How we’ve changed from the beginning to today? What is one thing we’re excited about co-creating for our community in the future? Today's episode is sponsored by Manscaped: Get 20% OFF on all items + Free Shipping with promo code GMGD at MANSCAPED.com! Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

Dark periods are an inevitable part of life that can happen at any moment and in any number of ways: The death of a loved one A terminal diagnosis Job loss Relationship breakdown But what is the spiritual and psychological significance of this pain? In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael is joined by LGBTQ+ affirmative psychotherapist Justin Oberste to discuss the concept of the Dark Night of the Soul, including: The 4 phases of a dark night of the soul Sharing personal, real-life examples The spiritual significance of dark periods Tips for finding hope within the darkness The 4 Phases of a Dark Night of the Soul - blog post referenced in today's episode Connect with Justin Website: www.justinoberste.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/justinoberste Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Website: https://www.wellismo.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/wellismo_coach/ Watch this ep on YouTube Take the Attachment Style Quiz! - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

Your mind is a powerful tool that you can use to create a life that you love. Your mindset is your overall outlook on life and it will determine whether you remain stuck spinning your wheels or moving towards your goals and dreams.  In this episode, we’re looking specifically at the difference between the Fixed and Growth Mindsets. We will be discussing questions such as….  What type of mindset were you raised with (growth of fixed)? And what mindset do you have today? How do you cultivate more of a growth mindset for yourself? What did you have to transform to become a more growth mindset-oriented? What is your internal dialogue in a fixed mindset say to you vs. when you’re in a growth mindset? What has helped you on your growth journey that may help our listeners? By the end of this episode, you’ll feel motivated and inspired to leave behind the fixed mindset and shift into a growth mindset. Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Andre-Lee Wills unpack the hot topic of pretty privilege. Pretty privilege works on the principle that people who are deemed more attractive—based on accepted societal beauty standards—have an upper hand in the world and are afforded many opportunities that less “attractive” people don't have. Yet, it's not often that people are willing to admit it—or even talk about it—especially if they’re on the receiving end of its benefits. Here is what Matt and Andre-Lee explored in this episode: What is pretty privilege? What is your personal experience with pretty privilege? Why is this topic important for gay men to discuss? What does it mean to be attractive? Why does our culture place so much emphasis on attractiveness? How does pretty privilege relate to ageism, racism or sexism? How can we start to deconstruct the system that is conditioning us to be so limited in our definition of attractive? Connect with Andre-Lee: Andre-Lee Wills is an Empowerment Coach. He uses his unique gifts and talents to offer guidance, support, and assistance to others in being an expression of their truest and highest self. He is adept in career coaching, life and relationship coaching, communication, team building, and organizational management. mrandreleewills@gmail.com Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take the "Healing Your Shame" course Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community!

As more people are choosing to explore non-monogamous relationships, the discussion about open and closed relationships can be divisive and unhelpful.  In today's episode, we are having an open conversation about open and closed relationships that will enrich your understanding of the many different types of relationships out there and help you figure out what's right for you. We will cover questions such as: What is the ideal relationship structure for you? How do you handle jealousy in your relationships? Which of your needs do you expect your primary partner to meet and which needs can be met outside the relationship? What tips will help someone decide which relationship structure works for them? Listen to this episode to get some fresh and insightful perspectives on this hot topic. Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

Recognizing and understanding privilege can be a hard pill to swallow for some. It means admitting you’re not perfect and possibly “looking bad,” which we were all taught growing up not to do. In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon unpacks some of the hard questions around community inclusion with guest Raymond Jordan Johnson-Brown and the work they do as an indigenous wellness leader. Raymond, who uses they/them pronouns, is passionate about creating connections for marginalized groups and having courageous conversations around these sometimes hard topics. Together they explore questions like... How do you think people are “missing the mark” when it comes to inclusivity for racialized folks? How has your lived experience inspired your work? What is intersectionality? What are some of the ways the queer community has contributed/participated in systems of harm? What could a path forward look like to create an equitable world? By the end of this episode, you’ll have a better understanding of how you can be more courageous about getting uncomfortable and having those sometimes difficult conversations around inclusivity. Follow Raymond on Instagram: @TheOnlyRJJB Foundry BC Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

Sex is a natural part of the human experience yet many people sense a lot of shame and insecurity around the topic. In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we want to help you become more sexually empowered. We will be discussing things like…   What does sexual empowerment mean to you? What makes you feel sexually empowered? What makes you feel sexually disempowered? What is one tip you can share with the audience to feel more sexually empowered? By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to improve your own unique relationship with sex and sexuality so that you can enjoy the sex you want on your terms. Watch this ep on YouTube VOTE FOR US FOR THE PODCAST AWARDS! - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

Shiny Object Syndrome (SOS) is the tendency chase after things that are new and exciting, keeping you in a state of perpetually looking for “the next best thing”.  In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael invites psychiatrist Dr. Hector Rodriguez to discuss how Shiny Object Syndrome affects gay men in life and in relationships. They’ll cover topics such as: SOS in dating apps The link between perfectionism and SOS The role of social media  The fear of genuine intimacy  The impact on mental health How you can overcome SOS By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to recognize where SOS is showing up in your life and how you can overcome it. Connect with Dr. Hector Website: https://www.doctorhector.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drhector511/ Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Website: https://www.wellismo.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/wellismo_coach/ "The Rise of the A-Gay" - GQ Magazine article referenced in today's episode Watch this ep on YouTube VOTE FOR US FOR THE PODCAST AWARDS! - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

One of the most common forms of sexual shaming we see in the gay community is towards bottoming. The closed-minded narratives that are perpetuated around receptive anal sex reflect a patriarchal belief system that inhibits our growth as a community. In this episode, we're tackling the topic of bottom shaming and exploring questions like... Where do you think bottom shaming stems from? Why do you think bottom shaming keeps being perpetuated in the community? How do you think we as a community can start moving away from bottom shaming and start empowering ourselves? Join us as we unpack the causes and effects of sexual shaming and understand how we all play a role in elevating the dialogue around sex and sexuality.  Watch this ep on YouTube VOTE FOR US FOR THE PODCAST AWARDS! - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel speaks with certified SOMA Breath breathwork instructor Jason Samadhi. Jason takes us on a journey into the power of breathwork and how consciously connecting with your breath can be one of the most potent tools for healing. By sharing the science of breathwork, Jason teaches us about the health benefits of working with your breath and how it can be used to improve performance both in and out of the bedroom. Jason then takes us on an hour long breathwork journey that will leave you feeling expansive and blissful. You do not want to miss this episode!  What is explored in this episode: BREATHWORK DISCLAIMER Breathwork is NOT advised if you have a known cardiac arrhythmia (including very slow heart rate), a history of heart block, or are taking certain antipsychotic medications. Please review and acknowledge the Breathwork Liability Waiver Recommended Book: “Multi-Orgasmic Man” by Mantak Chia Connect with Jason: @samadhibreath & www.samadhibreath.com 3-Day Gay Men’s Tantra Breathwork Journey: Promo Code: GMB10 Gay Men's Brotherhood 10% Off Discount on the 3-Day Gay Men's Tantra Breathwork Journey (Valid Jul 1, 2022 - Aug 28, 2022) Watch this ep on YouTube VOTE FOR US FOR THE PODCAST AWARDS! - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take the "Healing Your Shame" course Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -—

One of the greatest obstacles along the spiritual path is an overactive ego - that fear-based part of you that needs to control outcomes and win at all costs.  But having an ego is necessary to the human experience, so how can we reconcile both the ego self and spiritual self?  In this episode, we’re explaining how understanding your ego can actually benefit your spiritual practice. We’re answering questions such as: How do you distinguish between your ego self and spiritual self? How do you regulate your ego? How can you develop a greater connection to the Spiritual Self? Join us for this thought-provoking episode as we go deeper into the concepts of spirit and ego. Watch this ep on YouTube VOTE FOR US FOR THE PODCAST AWARDS! - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

Change can be scary. And in today’s world of ever-evolving language around gender and identity, it can make it hard for someone to ask questions without feeling judged or misunderstood. In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon opens up the conversation around navigating non-binary with genderqueer author Jason June and what his journey was like and how it now informs his work as a writer. Together they explore questions like… What is Non-Binary and what does it mean to be non-binary? What’s the most important thing people need to know about Non-binary and genderqueer people? Why do you think we’re experiencing more of a conversation around gender and gender identities in recent years? and much more! After this episode, you'll have a better understanding of the term Non-Binary and how you can navigate this ever-evolving and growing landscape around gender and identity. Watch this ep on YouTube About today’s Guest: Jason June (it's a two-name first name, like Mary-Kate without the hyphen or the Olsen twin) is a genderqueer writer mermaid who loves to create picture books that mix the flamboyantly whacky with the slightly dark, and young adult contemporary rom-coms full of love and lust and hijinks. When not writing, JJ zips about Austin, Texas. He loves dinosaurs, unicorns, Pomeranians, and anything magical that takes you to a different world or time. JJ is a tried and true Laura Dern stan, and he is actively looking for an Andalite friend. Connect with Jason June: Website: https://www.heyjasonjune.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heyjasonjune/ Books: https://www.heyjasonjune.com/books.html - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -—

Spirituality is an umbrella term that means many different things to many people. In this episode, we’re revealing our own experience with spirituality and spiritual practices by exploring these questions:  What does spirituality mean to you? What in your life brought you to spirituality? What does your spiritual practice involve? Where can someone start if they want to develop a spiritual practice? Whether you’re spiritual or religious or neither, this episode will give you much to think about when it comes to nurturing that deeper connection to something greater. Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Toronto PRIDE EVENT Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

Guilt and shame are two of the most challenging emotions we encounter. For those who grew up with a religious or spiritual belief system, guilt and shame can have a uniquely traumatic impact on your sense of self and in your relationships. In this episode, host Michael DiIorio speaks with inter-faith community leader, Jeremy Russo, who has used his experience with spiritual abuse to become a leader in the queer community helping others overcoming their own spiritual and religious trauma. In this episode we cover: The similarities and differences between guilt and shame What is spiritual abuse and religious trauma The unique impact this has on queer people Resources and tips to help along your healing journey Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, this episode will help you better understand and navigate your way through guilt and shame. TODAY'S GUEST: Jeremy Russo of Emerge, an inter-faith and ecumenical space for the “nones and dones,” LGBTQIA+ people, women, people of color, individuals with different abilities, ex-vangelicals, and anyone who feels like their voice and spiritual journey was discouraged or silenced by institutional churches. Connect with Emerge on Facebook or Instagram Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Toronto PRIDE EVENT Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

Toxic positivity is the belief that people should maintain a positive mindset, no matter how challenging a situation may be.  This belief invalidates your authentic emotions and is a form of avoidance.  In this episode, we're sharing our own experiences and understanding of toxic positivity and we'll answer the questions: What are your thoughts on toxic positivity and the effects it has on silencing negative emotions and experiences? What’s been your experience with pushing away negative emotions and how did it affect your mental health? How have you learned to embrace all of your emotions and honour them in healthy ways? What tips or practices can someone try if they’re just learning to engage with their negative emotions? By the end of this episode, you'll have a deeper understanding of how toxic positivity may be showing up in your own life, and what you can do about it. Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Toronto PRIDE EVENT Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

Have you ever found yourself conflicted about being top, bottom or vers? Or maybe you find yourself torn between whether or not you want monogamy or non-monogamy... Sometimes we can see pros and cons on both sides of our inner conflicts and it paralyzes us from making decisions. Being conflicted about your desires is completely normal. In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Miguel Ezra Ramirez talk about polarity in life and how to navigate contradictions, preferences and the duality of the human experience. As human beings, we can’t have sadness without knowing happiness, and we can’t understand clarity without first knowing confusion - this is polarity. We are all navigating ourselves and this world through our minds and our souls, and the polarity of this experience can be overwhelming for some people. We created this episode to guide you towards embracing more of who you are and what this universe has to offer you through learning to let go of preferences or attachments and embrace opposites. Come on this ride with us and you might learn something new about yourself.  Together they explore concepts like: What is dualism and polarity? Matt and Miguel's personal experiences with dualism and polarity How holding on too tightly to preferences might be inhibiting your growth How fear prevents us from being able to embrace opposites How can someone begin to embrace opposites? Connect with Miguel: @miguelramirezintuitive & www.miguelramirezintuitive.com Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take the "Healing Your Shame" course Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community!

While emotional health falls under the overall umbrella of mental health, it deserves its own conversation because your emotions have a profound impact on how you show up in the world and your overall quality of life. This episode will answer questions such as: What does it mean to be emotionally healthy? How can you tell when your emotional health may be suffering? How do you handle challenging emotions? What are some simple things you can do to support your emotional health? By the end of this episode, you'll be equipped with loads of useful tips and skills that will support your emotional health. Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Toronto PRIDE EVENT Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

Depression is one of the most common mental health conditions in the United States that affects an estimated 17.3 million adults and 3.2 million adolescents according to the National Institute of Mental Health. Research shows that gay and bisexual men are at a higher risk for: Major depression, Bipolar disorder, and, Generalized anxiety disorder, and are more likely than heterosexual men to attempt suicide. In today's episode, host Calan Breckon unpacks the heaviness around depression with guest and therapist, Jacob Monkarsh (LMFT & CGP). Together they explore questions like: What is depression and how does it affect a person? Is it possible for someone to be depressed without knowing it? What are the signs and symptoms someone should be aware of? What are the biggest triggers for gay men struggling with depression? How can someone currently struggling with depression work to get out of the cycle? How can people best support someone struggling with depression? During the episode, Jacob asked a very important question concerning gay men and our childhood experiences: "What happens when someone can't connect with themself?" and as children, we often can't connect with ourselves fully once we realize something is "different" about us and we begin hiding who we truly are, but is that creating disassociation within us and our community? Listen to his answer and more in today's episode. Guest: Jacob Monkarsh www.jacobmonkarsh.com LGBTQ Therapy Space Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community! -— - Therapy Options - Inkblot Therapy - Canada Based Mind Beacon - Free Therapy for