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From Paradox To M.A.G.I.C
22 minutes | Jan 6, 2021
The Neither Here Nor There Paradox - Are you lost or in the midst of incredible transformation?
There's a middle phase of transformation that gets very little attention and gives rise to the Neither Here Nor There Paradox. Navigating this phase is disorienting, overwhelming, and scary. It's easy to feel like you are failing and totally lost, when in actuality you are right in the midst of powerful transformation. This episode highlights my own traumatic experience navigating this paradox in 2012.
17 minutes | Dec 14, 2020
The Sickness Paradox - Is getting sick something to avoid as much as we do?
We spend so much of our lives trying to be safe, healthy, and not get sick, yet when we get really sick it brings people together, forces us to shift our perspective, and often transforms how we function once we get better. In this episode I examine my own experience facing the Sickness Paradox through a Covid scare. I talk about getting the cough from hell, getting to the point of praying to spirit for help, and the four words spirit shared with me to get through it. These four words helped me connect more with my depleted body, become more present, and ultimately bridge this paradox.
17 minutes | Oct 15, 2020
The Authenticity Paradox - Is it ever possible to know who you truly are?
Who am I? What is my authentic self? Figure out who you are and live your purpose! Such messages are common these days. But so are messages that imply life is a journey of getting to know yourself. This episode examines the Authenticity Paradox and helps bridge the question how do you be authentic when your sense of self is unfolding and constantly changing as a result?
23 minutes | Oct 2, 2020
The Responsible Paradox - Is living life the way others recommend responsible or irresponsible?
What does it mean to be responsible? School, family, and culture all teach us certain ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving is responsible. Depending on where you grow up, what seems responsible to one group of people seems irresponsible to other groups. Yet, over time, we all shift in where we draw the lines of what is and isn't responsible. This episode bridges the Responsible Paradox and provides a consistent way to responsibly step through each day.
26 minutes | Sep 11, 2020
The Weird Paradox - Where do you draw the line on being different?
What makes something weird? At times we are drawn to people who stand out, who do things differently and dare to listen to sources of knowing we cannot see or touch. Other times, we feel it’s irresponsible, reckless, or strange to go off on such an uncommon or intangible path. This episode examines and bridges the Weird Paradox so you can gauge how "different" is right for you.
26 minutes | Sep 4, 2020
The Luxury Paradox - The cost of assuming others have it worse
Is having a job, health, money, or love a luxury? Is having life more aligned a luxury? Is rock bottom a luxury if it leads many to powerful transformation? The way we define luxury is incredibly inconsistent, yet the very use of the word results in all kinds of guilt, anxiety and resistance to waking up to the incredible misalignment in our own lives. This episode examines and bridges the Luxury Paradox and shows how assuming others have it worse actually creates more harm than good for you and others.
27 minutes | Aug 28, 2020
The Silence Paradox - Do you struggle to find silence?
We all want more silence in life. We pencil in self-care time. We shut off cell phones, go on vacation. We meditate, try to be mindful or present. The paradox of silence is that when you try to be silent, you aren't fully silent. Yet, silence is all around us, constantly there, staring us in the face. I’ve been trying for years to be more still and silent. But the more I wrestle with silence, the more I realize all my trying seems to get in the way of experiencing it on a far more powerful level.
29 minutes | Aug 21, 2020
The Arbitrary Lines Paradox - Are you really headed where you think you're headed?
Most lines we draw to describe things, whether they are measurements, evaluations, judgments, or words, to some extent are completely arbitrary and inaccurate. Yet we rely on those same lines to navigate life on a day-to-day basis. Each one of us also puts arbitrary amounts of truth, weight, or significance on the lines we draw around what it means to love, be responsible, and to keep loved ones safe. The Arbitrary Lines Paradox may sound philosophical, but understanding how to navigate it can transform every aspect of your life in the most tangible and practical ways.
15 minutes | Aug 14, 2020
The Disruption Paradox - Why is this happening now!?!
Disruptions arise all around us, every minute of every day. If we push through the disruption, it can feel like an unpleasant grind. But it’s also unpleasant allowing some untimely circumstance to disrupt your schedule or plans. And sometimes disruptions arise and we roll with them without even thinking about it. This episode examines the nuances of the Disruption Paradox.
26 minutes | Aug 7, 2020
The Change Paradox - Are you really wired to resist change?
Do we really hate change? Does the body truly resist change? This episode will challenge both old and new conventional wisdom about several things including resisting change, immediate gratification, changing habits, and strategies like fake it until you make it.
12 minutes | Jul 17, 2020
The Detox Paradox - Is Feeling Bad A Good Sign?
Whether changing your diet or making other life changes, there's a paradoxical phase you have to go through where moving toward alignment can temporarily result in feeling worse off. In these moments, it's easy to question if you've made the right decision. This episode dives into and bridges the Detox Paradox.
31 minutes | Jun 26, 2020
The Release Paradox - Are you flowing with life or just being passive?
Release can change the trajectory of your day and life, but it can be maddening to understand because it’s often misunderstood. This episode bridges the Release Paradox by helping you wake up to several misunderstandings. Release is an active, not passive way of navigating your day, offering energy without strain in incredibly nourishing ways. It’s the most effective path through volatility, uncertainty, complexity, and ambiguity. And it’s a basic law of nature and the universe. By the end of this episode, you’ll look very differently at the daily struggle to stay afloat.
34 minutes | Jun 5, 2020
The Being With Paradox - Are you doing enough? Or might “doing” and “not doing” be getting in the way of something else?
With all the pain, suffering, turmoil, and uncertainty in the world, there are a lot of difficult experiences to connect to. This episode examines the Being With Paradox and the 4 ways of engaging in relationship, as described by Sam Wells in "The Nazareth Manifesto." Being With is the most powerful of the 4 ways of engaging in relationship, but it’s often the most overlooked. I speak about my own struggles with the George Floyd atrocity and how the last week forced me to be with my own ignorance, defensiveness, shame, unease, and privilege, along with the helpful and not so helpful ways I responded to my growing self-awareness.
36 minutes | May 29, 2020
The Rock Bottom Paradox - Staying clear of the worst? Or interfering with what you may really want?
Most of us grind away each day to try to stay clear of rock bottom, yet many of those who actually hit rock bottom describe the experience as a catalyst for so much good and a source of reassurance. In this episode I share my own story slamming into rock bottom in December 2015, when my tank hit empty and life was marked by awful health, a marriage on the rocks, career failure, and something no father wishes to experience. I end by clarifying the key distinction that bridges the Rock Bottom Paradox. Warning! You may end up no longer afraid of hitting rock bottom.
31 minutes | May 22, 2020
The Blind Faith Paradox - Inspired By What Can't Be Seen, Reassured By What Can
We are inspired by the notion of having faith in something beyond what we can see. But we also want tangible evidence of reality. How do we navigate all the unknowns of life, including the pandemic, when a big part of us wants to know truth we can see definitively? This episode bridges the Blind Faith Paradox and examines notions of faith in different forms: religion, love, and even going through daily life. The episode ends with a helpful way of finding reassurance in moments when our faith seems to be weakening.
24 minutes | May 15, 2020
The Mystery Paradox - Are you Scared of the Unknown, or Excited?
Mystery and adventure versus uncertainty and the unknown. Sometimes we want mystery, other times it feels incredibly alarming. In this episode I examine the patterns around engaging the mystery and uncertainty of life. I examine 3 interesting patterns that support the notion that we are wired to embrace mystery even when life seems most turbulent. I provide a bridge to the mystery paradox and a way of responding to the moments of our day when life feels like an overwhelming grind, when we tell ourselves, “I have to do this or else!”
33 minutes | May 8, 2020
The Resistance Paradox - Are you growing stronger or burning out?
Why does resistance sometimes help you grow stronger, but other times leads to burning out? Why do most lifestyle change strategies all seem to imply a grinding dynamic, such as fighting against yourself and squeezing something in just 5-minutes a day? This episode examines these dynamics and what gives rise to the grind of everyday life. Grinding is not about how hard you are working, it’s a reflection of misalignment across your expectations, intentions, actions, and outcomes. Unfortunately, most of the strategies we’ve been taught to navigate life perpetuate this misalignment. This episode provides a simple way to overcome this confusion and how to navigate both forms of resistance.
39 minutes | May 1, 2020
The Abundance Paradox: Damned With Abundance, Damned Without
This episode examines the Abundance Paradox, how we often find ourselves damned with abundance and damned without it. I talk about the many mixed messages around abundance, how the word itself is often used inconsistently, and even how a common way of practicing gratitude actually reinforces scarcity, which interferes with sensing abundance. I end with three simple ways of approaching abundance that are practical and easy to consistently embrace.
34 minutes | Apr 24, 2020
The Happiness Paradox - Stop Feeling So Bad In Your Efforts To Feel Good
Happiness is weird. There are tons of contradictory messages around happiness, such as we choose to feel happy, yet all feelings are valid. The contradictions that make up the Happiness Paradox stem from misunderstanding how there are 3 levels or stages of felt experience, the 1st of which is often completely overlooked. I also talk about the power of having a tantrum, the difference between emotions and feelings, and ultimately the critical distinction between Happiness with a capital "H" and happiness with a lowercase "h."
32 minutes | Apr 17, 2020
A New Day-to-Day -- with Dave Lederman
How is Coronavirus impacting your day-to-day? I feel inspired to interview people about the user experience of life during this unprecedented period. No matter your age, background, or life circumstances, no matter what part of the globe you even live on, we’re all living a day-to-day that is very different than just a few months ago. The daily grind has shifted, in some ways for the better and some ways for the worse. I ask everyone the same set of questions (see below) about how they are navigating this period, what they’ve learned, how they look at things differently, and even how has life improved amidst all the challenges. These episodes allow us all the chance to listen, relate, and learn. I am the guinea pig in this episode and answer about my own experiences. Some of the questions I ask are: What is one thing you look at differently compared to back before the pandemic? What are you most stressed or worried about these days? What do you struggle with the most? What are 3 ways life is better during this pandemic? What is one thing you’ve found helpful in navigating these times, staying sane, feeling normal in unprecedented times? A tip, a daily activity, a lesson, a perspective, a way of doing something... whatever it is that has helped you (and possibly your family) get through these days?
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