Listen Now

Life is like a game, it’s a game where many curveballs are thrown our way. As with all games, you can’t win all the time. And once we lose, it's often because of abuse or betrayal. Some people turn to drugs or alcohol to cope with these traumatic experiences, while others shut themselves in.    Jason Leenaarts knows this well, his traumatic childhood experiences have led him to make several bad decisions in the past. But his story is far from sad. Instead, it speaks of triumph and is a testament to the fact that there will always be a way out of any dark tunnel. About Guest/Topic You may know Jason Leenaarts as the owner of Revolution Fitness and Therapy in Ohio. Jason is a man who turned trauma into strength. But not many people are aware of the long journey he took towards self-healing and discovery.  During a downward spiral, Jason relied on various prescription drugs to cope with the pain of his past trauma. He realized, in hindsight, that these treated his symptoms but never the root cause, which eventually opened the door to substance abuse.  After years of struggling and countless visits to many psychiatrists, Jason was finally able to regain control over his life and develop a deeper connection with himself.  In this episode, Jason shares his story of trauma and transformation to inspire and help people in the same boat.   If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, please seek help from your nearest medical professional. In This Episode   Understand the different stages of betrayal and trauma Recognize what ‘rock bottom’ is and how to rise above it Learn about the ways that people cope with abuse, betrayal, and trauma Find out why you need to tackle the root cause of your trauma to truly heal Discover the journey towards self-healing and discovery Quotes “Here I was finishing up high school, about to go on to college, was gonna be independent like all college kids very much wish to be when they finally wanna get out of their parents’ home. And it just started this domino effect of bad things that happened and you don’t really know how to stop that downward spiral of ‘I don’t have a lot of self-worth’ and ‘I don’t really like how things are happening in my life’ and ‘I don’t really know how to cope with these things.’” [3:26] “When you’ve got trauma in your life, all of a sudden, you look at things differently in your life.” [7:55] “Life’s not going the way that I want. So, it must be because I’m not worthy of good things. And you tell yourself that story regardless of how untrue it actually is … Once we start that domino effect, it goes nowhere good. And it’s hard to get yourself out of that.” [18:26] “At the time, I was still in so much denial that I actually have a drug problem. The drugs were a daily thing. I didn’t think that drugs were something that were taking over my life.” [20:33] “The bad things that were happening were happening because I was not in control of the things that I should have been in control of.” [22:31] “You know how certain things go in your relationship over time where it’s like ‘wow, some problems don’t go away when you get married.’ And so, you start to grab all of those things in, and they become the things that get swept under the rug. And you know, I think everyone knows what that’s like when you finally lift up the rug, and go ‘oh, there’s that mess I made’” [26:41] “Just because you solve certain problems in your life doesn’t mean that they’re all solved.” [29:42] Resources Mentioned Jason Leenaarts’ website Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute PBT Institute Membership Community

Betrayal can cloud our judgment and make us feel isolated and alone. It feels as though the world is crumbling away beneath our feet.  You may think that there is no way out of this deep hole, but the truth is, there is so much you can do to get past this situation.  How? You need to find a way to break away from multiple betrayals. Otherwise, you end up trapped in a vicious cycle. Wendy Rose Williams, a past life adventure guide, is dedicated to helping people release energy that no longer serves them so they can live happier and healthier lives filled with purpose. About Guest/Topic Wendy Rose Williams experienced multiple betrayals in the past. After discovering her first boyfriend cheating on her with one of her closest relatives, she lost her confidence and self-worth. The double betrayal affected her deeply and left her devastated.  While caught in a web of lies and deception, she made a resolute decision to leave her toxic relationship behind. This empowered her to love and understand herself better, set healthy boundaries, and enjoy life more deeply.  In this episode, Wendy shares her life experiences with us so that we, too, can learn how to overcome multiple betrayals. In This Episode  Understand betrayal and its effects Recognize when to establish healthy boundaries Accept betrayals as lessons meant to be learned Learn the 5 love languages by Gary Chapman Discover why you are the only person who can complete yourself Find out how love and relationships should be Quotes “I just felt very alone. I felt ashamed. I felt embarrassed. I felt not enough. I felt crazy at times because I really knew that the affair was continuing yet they both were at the point of denying it.” [6:19] “The physical symptoms (of betrayal) were just feeling a kick in the gut.” [7:26] “I really feel it was meant to teach me to have much better boundaries and it took me a couple more relationships to learn that fully. But to put me first and to just really love and respect myself because that was not being exhibited by my behaviors staying in those relationships.” [13:31] “I learned I cannot be in a relationship with someone where there is not excellent communication.” [16:58] “If you’re gonna have that perfect storm, it’s the perfect place to get out of that victim or martyr or depressed place that we can get into. And just get out of that ‘why is this happening to me’ and shifting it to ‘why is this happening for me’.” [20:40] “Jerry McGuire had it dead wrong. You do not complete me. There is no one that completes me.” [22:04] “Do not give your heart away. Love yourself first. Take care of yourself first.” [32:28] “I think we need to change our culture to learn that we’re meant to rise in love, not fall in love. Because there’s something about that concept of falling in love implies giving away your power. And I think that’s really the issue.” [36:49] Resources Mentioned Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Language Book Wendy Rose William’s Website Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute PBT Institute Membership Community

Going through menopause can be extremely overwhelming and stressful for women. Aside from marking the end of their fertility, it gives rise to a series of hormonal imbalances that lead to various physical and emotional changes.  What exactly are the common hormones affected in the process? What role do they play in the changes that women experience during menopause?  Finding the answers to these questions is one thing, but it’s important for us women to accept the changes that we are going through. And that is what Dr. Debra Muth does. About Guest/Topic Dr. Debra Muth is a Naturopathic practitioner and the owner of Serenity Health Care Center. As an advocate for women's health, she founded Phoenix Factor—a health optimization program for high-functioning female executives.  Dr. Debra aims to empower more women by providing organic ways of dealing with menopause. She is currently hosting a natural health and wellness podcast called Let's Talk Wellness. In this episode, Dr. Debra Muth discusses how women can navigate menopause and midlife with optimism.  In This Episode  Identify the correlation between menopause and women’s inner triggers Recognize the effects of menopause on a woman’s sex drive Identify the common hormones affected by menopause Identify the symptoms of Perimenopause Achieve the proper outlook for menopause Discover natural ways to balance your hormones Quotes "As I moved into menopause, and my body started changing, and it didn't operate the way it used to ... out come all of these feelings of insecurity and inferiority again." [3:52] "If we thought it was bad as a teenager, menopause is just another enlightened moment for us. And so, we start to have more problems with focus and concentration and sexual desire goes away, energy changes, and our sleep patterns are bad." [7:25] "There's something about menopause that’s a timestamp of ‘here’s a new chapter’, and your body is letting you know." [9:54] "80% of the time, if your diet's really clean, you will not experience as many hot flashes or as many complications as women who have that typical American diet." [15:38] "You want to try to get as many foods as you can organically." [17:43] "Surround yourself with people that lift you up. Get rid of the people that have been bringing you down for the last 50 years that you haven’t got the guts to get rid of. Unfriend them." [19:30] "Your life's not half over––it's just half beginning because now you get to spend the next half of your life." [21:03] "Getting back in tune with who you are and what you want to be is huge. And then, just pay attention to your body. Listen to your body.” [25:36] Resources Mentioned Debra Muth's Phoenix Factor Website Debra Muth's Serenity Health Care Center Website Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute PBT Institute Membership Community

Domestic abuse is traumatic for anyone, especially when the person is unaware that they were being abused. Many people often use the violation of physical safety as the primary measure of domestic abuse. However, Anne Blythe believes that the violation of emotional safety is the most important measure. And being able to identify emotional and psychological abuse is the first step towards healing. About Guest/Topic Anne Blythe is the producer and host of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast and founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery—a daily online support group for women who are the victims of emotional abuse. She sheds light on topics such as gaslighting and other forms of emotional and psychological abuse. Anne’s goal is to help women identify the emotional and psychological abuse situations before a physical event happens. Her organization helps women who are victims of male perpetrators and give them immediate safety. In this episode, Anne Blythe debunks three myths about domestic abuse and shares ways to immediately recover from such trauma. In This Episode Discover why emotional safety should be used to gauge domestic abuse Understand the healing process to recover from emotional and physical abuse Learn how to talk to abuse victims in the right approach Identify when gaslighting occurs Learn how to deal with domestic abuse Debunk 3 domestic abuse myths Quotes “I don’t believe a physical violent episode can just take place in a vacuum unless it’s someone that you don’t know that’s just like randomly in the street. But if it’s someone that you have a relationship with, there have been elements of emotional and psychological abuse that precede that physical event.”  [02:25] “Betrayal can happen on both sides in men and women.” [06:08] “(Gaslighting is) when someone is trying to hide something, decides to alter your reality so that you live in an alternate reality with them and because you’re living in this alternate reality with them, you can’t see the signs of what’s really happening.” [09:57] “(Abuse is) never a communication issue. I have met some of the most amazing women who communicate so well and they’re not able to communicate their way out of abuse.” [17:24] “Why don’t women get out of abusive relationships? I think the number one answer is they don’t know that they’re in one.” [20:37] “You’re not going to be ever emotionally safe with someone who’s lying to you, with someone who’s willing to manipulate you, with someone who is more concerned with their secret behaviors than they are about your feelings. You’re never going to be safe with someone who is willing to violate your sacred trust of things you genuinely care about.” [26:17] “Abuse is something that is bigger than any of us. It is a societal problem, and in many cases, it’s a misogynistic problem. It’s a problem perpetuated by rape culture, pornography, and all types of different societal scripting and religious scripting.”  [30:35]   Resources Mentioned Anne Blythe’s website Anne Blythe’s books Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute PBT Institute Membership Community

Turning self-pity into success means finally recognizing your voice—the voice that has remained hidden and afraid to be heard. Over-internalizing one’s emotions can become destructive. So, to protect your mental health, you need to remove yourself from the negative situation you are in. Janet Autherine is here to show you how.  About Guest / Topic Janet Autherine is the author of Island Mindfulness Path to Transformation and the CEO of Autherine Publishing. She emigrated from Jamaica as a teenager and she now empowers overwhelmed, high-achieving women to create balanced, peaceful, successful, and abundant lives.  In this episode, Janet discusses how we can turn self-pity into success and how to transform into a happier version of ourselves. In This Episode How to become the happy version of yourself Free your mind from negativity Discover your voice The effects of negativity Mindfulness—how to avoid being distracted Quotes “Negativity, in general, becomes negative emotions and negative emotions become hurtful and cancerous to the body and it pours out to everything that you do.” [15:44] “Whenever I’m in pain, I used to spend a lot of time blaming myself.” [22:00] “Most of the time when someone hurts, it’s not really about you. It’s about them projecting what’s going on with them on you.” [23:24] “I don’t ignore the pain. I don’t ignore the hurt. It has a place. I just try to be responsible when it comes to it.” [24:35] “I just try to be present for every part of my journey. I try to make everything simple and clear.” [28:56] Resources Mentioned Janet Autherine’s website  The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Being in a toxic relationship is like swimming in an ocean with an anchor tied to your feet that is slowly pulling you down and drowning you—without you even noticing it. Only when we completely remove ourselves from that situation can we achieve freedom and peace.  But identifying whether a relationship is toxic or not can be tough, especially if you’re being manipulated or gaslighted. Luckily, Denise Kavaliauskas is here to help you go from toxic love to true love. About Guest/Topic Denise Kavaliauskas is an international best-selling author who wrote Empower the Women Within, Stepping Into Total Freedom. She is also a transformational love coach and speaker who inspires women to walk away from destructive partners just as she did. Denise uses the lessons she learned from her own experience to empower women to bounce back from emotional abuse and focus on themselves.  In this episode, Denise shares her take on how to detach yourself from a toxic partner and start your journey to self-care. In This Episode: Recognize a toxic relationship and its signs Understand manipulation and gaslighting Protect yourself from a destructive partner  Discover a path towards self-care Quotes “The best way to know is inside of you, you know something is not right. You’re not happy. Your needs are not being met.” [2:38] “Have ultimate kindness and patience for yourself.” [13:45] “Do the things for yourself that you deserve to have… Self-care is extremely important after you’ve been through [a toxic] relationship.” [15:00] “Pay attention to the conversation that you’re having with yourself. Be more loving, more kind, more patient with yourself. What you’ve been through was a horrible experience and that you deserve this love, you deserve this kindness, you deserve this patience with yourself. Everything begins and ends with you. So if you start there you’ll see how that will come out, you’ll see that in your external world.” [27:59] Resources Mentioned Denise’s Old Website Denise’s New Website The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  

Self-betrayal can take many forms. It can be denying your own needs and desires. It can be allowing a person to do something that harms you just to avoid being abandoned. Regardless of the form that it takes, self-betrayal will severely damage your self-worth.  In this episode, Lisa Latimer takes a deeper look at self-awareness and how it can prevent self-betrayal.  About Guest/Topic Lisa Latimer is a results strategist who managed to self-heal from her crippling insecurities and fear of failure that over a decade of toxic relationships left her with. She now helps women fearlessly create fulfillment in their lives by increasing their self-awareness. Lisa knows how important it is to get in touch with your core in order to become unshakeable in the face of any and all challenges. In This Episode Take a deeper look at self-awareness Understand the connection between betrayal and self-betrayal Recognize how betrayal shows up in your life Discover how self-awareness can help you heal from past trauma Quotes “When I talk about self-awareness, I mean getting to the core of who you really are, and that’s minus all of the background noise, whether it's coming from friends, family, coworkers, social media. When you boil everything down, it comes down to you. Who are you at your core? What drives you? What are your motivations? What are your beliefs?” [01:20] “It's in keeping those promises to yourself that then starts to change the switch in your head and create a new pattern where you're not just so focused on this pattern of self-sabotage and self-betrayal because now you're starting to keep promises to yourself, even if they're just little promises.” [07:30] “Something that I actually find quite empowering is ‘reframing’. You can go back to a situation that perhaps you felt like a victim or you felt betrayed, and you can look at it from a new perspective all this time later and say, ‘You know what? This person hurt me, this person lashed out at me. I was the strong one in this situation.’ If you were cheated on, it was that person's weakness and lack of discipline or self-control, not yours.” [09:42] “A lot of times we expect people or we expect a certain degree of treatment from others that we're not willing to do for ourselves. You have to do it for yourself first.” [12:14] “You always have to go against your need and desire for confirmation bias. You always have to look for the things that can challenge what you think and what you hold as truth.” [15:04] Resources Mentioned Lisa Latimer BPT Institute BPT Institute Membership Community

Childhood betrayal is a very sensitive topic that is rarely touched upon. For this episode, we’ll be taking a deeper look into how children can experience betrayal through family conflicts like divorce and custody battles with the help of Tracy Poizner. Tracy is a parenting coach and the host of the Weekly Essential Stepmom Podcast. Through her personal experience as a parent, she helps families minimize trauma to their children by putting them as far away from the conflict as possible. About Guest/Topic  Tracy Poizner has been through almost all stages of parenthood, including parental alienation, long-distance parenting, legal difficulties, mental health issues, total loss of contact, and full-time physical custody. It is her life’s mission to help stepmoms like her minimize conflict, find peace, and achieve justice in the face of divorce and custody issues. She does this by sharing her experiences with those who are still navigating the rocky path of step-parenthood. This episode is for stepmoms who are finding it hard to overcome parental alienation from their step-children. Tracy shares her expertise and experience to help step-parents put the child’s well-being first. In This Episode    Learn the three different types of betrayal a child goes through during family conflicts—emotional blackmailing, brainwashing, and gaslighting   Discover the two kinds of situations parents can look out for to help avoid parental alienation Learn how children should be kept away from marital conflicts, such as divorce and separation Understand how family conflicts can affect a child Understand how children can feel betrayed at court and how the court is the worst place to settle a family situation The difference between consensus and compromise Learn Tracy’s 5 Cs framework about communicating to children in a non-verbal way—consistency, contact, cooperation, credibility, and consensus Quotes “I’m saddened to say that I think I’ve heard about 80% of kids from divorced households are experiencing some level of parental alienation.” [2:58] “Parents forget that a child is created from half-mother and half-father. That’s a biological reality. There’s no way of getting around that.” [4:26] “When you, even subtly, suggest that a child should reject some of their other parent, you are asking them to reject half of themselves, which they will gladly do because that’s how we’re wired.” [4:47] “A child shouldn’t ever be made to feel responsible for your feelings.” [6:46] “A person can be a terrible spouse and still be a good parent.” [8:45] “Gaslighting is betraying a sacred trust between a parent and a child that the child can only believe that the parent always has their best interests at heart. And where a parent would deliberately manufacture an appearance of reality to manipulate a child’s deeply held belief system—that’s really cruel and horrible.” [13:14] “Courts are possibly the worst place to live out this kind of family situation… I think the whole setup is wrong. The whole setup is a pure adversarial terrain. It’s not set up for any kind of consensus or compromise. It’s just a decision, and usually, nobody is completely happy.” [24:58] Resources Mentioned Tracy Poizner’s email - tracy@tracypoizner.com Tracy Poizner’s website The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

There will come a time in a woman’s life when she will be ready to start dating again after a failed relationship. But it may not come easy. Fortunately, Kate Houston is here to help you develop your confidence and identify the factors you need to address to take your dating life to the next level. Kate is no stranger to dating, having experienced the highs and lows of being in different relationships. She learned from all of her past experiences and now uses this knowledge about dating to help ambitious, career-driven women translate that same level of success into their love lives.   About Guest/Topic Kate Houston usually works with women who are ambitious and successful yet anxious when it comes to love. Most of the women she’s helped are those who have experienced roller-coaster relationships in the past and are finally ready to tap into the power within themselves and have the relationship they’ve always desired. Kate hopes to empower all women to create loving relationships. She does this by helping them develop the self-reassurance and self-confidence they’ll need to attract the men that they deserve. In this episode, Kate shares important dating advice that she believes all women should hear. In This Episode Identify when you’re ready to start dating after a breakup Learn how to develop a self-reassuring attitude Set proper standards and boundaries for yourself while dating Learn how all women should present themselves when trying to attract men   Quotes “Truly, [love is] a journey to better ourselves and to evolve with another human being as our mirror. ” [3:18] “Be careful with your language. Words create our reality.” [5:47] “Ghosting seriously is a validation for ‘I’m not worthy.’” [7:35] “Standards are about what you will and will not accept.” [10:28] “Men fall in love with women by how women treat themselves, not how they treat their men.” [12:21] “When you’re meeting them at their worst or where they perceive as their worst or they’re still in super healing, trying to figure things out, they’re not going to be the right match for you because you’re accepting them at that level. Plus, you don’t know what that healing is going to be to see if it aligns with you yet.” [22:01] Resources Mentioned Kate Houston’s website Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute PBT Institute Membership Community

For a lot of people, the flaws they see in themselves are magnified and much more apparent than the flaws they see in others. These people obsess about all the negatives, no matter how small or big, that they see in themselves. How come? Why is it easier to give love, kindness, respect, and care to other people but incredibly challenging to give it to yourself?  Certified health coach Kirsi Bhasin debunks the myths about self-care and explains what self-care really is and how you can practice it easily. About Guest/Topic Kirsi Bhasin is a former corporate employee who became a certified health coach after collapsing from exhaustion. She describes this experience as a wake-up call that made her realize that what she was doing to herself wasn’t working. From there, she decided to work on taking better care of herself.  Kirsi is the author of ‘Recharge: Find Joy, Boost Your Energy, Take Charge of Your Health’. She is also a health expert and a member of Dr. Oz's Sharecare community of top-ranking health experts. She was invited to become a contributor to HuffPost and Thrive Global by Arianna Huffington herself.  She partners with a variety of organizations, from small startups to Fortune 100 companies like AIG and IBM, teaching their employees about self-care. In this episode, Kirsi shares the story of why she was driven to succeed, what caused it, and what she did to change her life. She also discusses ways to love oneself deeply.  In This Episode Understand how you can show yourself that you matter and you need self-care Discover the true definition of slowing down Learn ways to show yourself love, respect, and kindness Find out the importance of cultivating patience  Acknowledge that self-care is a challenging journey, and everyone's path is different.  Quotes “[Self-care] is not just about pampering yourself and indulging in what you think is good for you.” [03:38] “We try to cram in so much into our day, and just the beauty of it and the satisfaction of doing deep self-care is knowing that you can pull back sometimes and just be.” [07:03] “Even a minute of being and taking that break, taking a pause and taking a nice deep breath and being with yourself. You don't have to validate yourself. You don't have to do anything. You are beautiful and perfect the way you are.” [09:24] “Everyone's journey is going to be different. Mine is still an ongoing journey. This never ends, in my opinion.” [13:10]  Resources Mentioned Kirsi Bhasin’s websiteThe Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz The PBT Institute Membership Community From Betrayal to Breakthrough  

Wallowing in self-loathing is never a good thing. It stifles growth, prevents healing, and fosters negativity. Just ask Wendy Sterling. Wendy Sterling is a divorce recovery specialist, certified theta healing practitioner, podcaster, writer, author, and speaker. She is the founder of The Divorce Rehab™, where she helps women recover from the pain of divorce by finding their true identity and voice to design a life that they choose and love from a place of confidence.   About Guest/Topic In this world, nothing is permanent. This is a fact that Wendy Sterling knows too well. After all, Wendy divorced her husband of 15 years.  Studies show that an estimated 41% of all first marriages end in divorce and Wendy Sterling found herself just another number in this unfortunate statistic. After spending most of her adult life with the same person—her partner and the father of her kids—she realized that she barely recognizes herself without him.  Here’s the silver lining, Wendy eventually found herself during the process of healing. She was also able to realize her true purpose and that is to help other divorcees recover from the pain of separation.  In this episode, we will take a closer look at how Wendy’s experiences enabled her to find her true self and empower others in the process.    In This Episode Understand the intricacies of divorce from someone who’s experienced it Learn how to set proper boundaries in a relationship Identify when it’s time to get a divorce Discover how you can bounce back and recover after a divorce Quotes “I was happily married for about 15 years and it was one of those situations where, you know, the universe kinda gut-punched me into believing that something felt off.” [02:41] “I didn't know who I was without this man in my life. The reason being that it had occurred to me that I literally only saw me through his eyes. So, if he was happy, I was happy. If he was sad, I was sad, you know, and I was always the person, I was, the people please are right. It was what everybody else had wanted.” [06:34] “You felt fear, but you were like, okay. I asked for the divorce. That was scary, but I survived and I'm okay. And now, and now here I am.” [18:50] “We always grow. You know, when we, when we do something out of our comfort zone, you know, life begins out of our comfort. Beyond our comfort zone.” [19:24] “The boundaries are intended to actually improve relationships and communication versus the opposite. Right. And I think that's why people are so afraid.” [28:12] Resources Mentioned Wendy Sterling’s website Wendy Sterling’s Instagram Wendy Sterling’s Pinterest Wendy Sterling’s Facebook The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  The PBT Institute Membership Community

Have you ever asked yourself, “what is the meaning of life?” Everyone has a different answer to this. Professional researcher and advisor Nathanael Garrett Novosel is here to share his own take on this age-old philosophical query. Nathanael used the insights he discovered from his research to help business leaders solve organizational problems, create effective strategies, and succeed in all areas of life. He has made it his mission to help people live their best possible life. About Guest/Topic As a child, Nathanael Garrett Novosel experienced all manner of negative thoughts and emotions—worthlessness, loneliness, hopelessness, emptiness. Nathanael experienced abandonment at the early age of 5 when his father disappeared in the middle of the night. He might not have remembered the night it happened, but he clearly recalls the day his father tried to reach out to him six months after leaving him.  He believed that when his father left, it was just a part of life. But that didn’t stop him from feeling lonely whenever he thought about his father choosing another family over him and finding happiness elsewhere. After finding out that he was on the spectrum, Nathanael regarded himself as having a “robot brain.” Interestingly enough, it was because of his diagnosis of Asperger’s that he decided to try and find the meaning of life. And that was when he started to feed his curiosity through research. In this episode, Nathanael talks about the fundamental concepts he discovered during his search for the meaning of life. These eight concepts are growth, experience, desire, belief, emotion, ethics, support, and choice. In This Episode Discover how abandonment experienced in childhood can shape your decisions throughout life Understand how people with Asperger’s communicate Discover the relationship between science and emotion Learn about the eight concepts that help define the meaning of life Discover how breaking down your emotions then changing one portion of it can help you control how you are feeling Quotes “I felt a hopelessness, an emptiness, a loneliness, a worthlessness, just a void that I would never wish on anyone.” [2:26] “I just couldn’t comprehend the pain and emptiness I was feeling when my father was ripped away from me again.” [5:48] “The number one thing you’ll hear from someone who as Asperger’s is that they feel like an alien because they don’t act in the same way that other people do, they don’t process things the way that other people do, they look at things at a completely different way, and they don’t seem to fit in ever.” [8:17] “Emotions equal three things: desire plus belief plus experience. And that applies to everything.” [21:11] “Now there are things in this world that you can’t control and there are things you can. If you do the best you can to make the right choices and to improve what you can control, then that’s what your destiny is.” [30:22] Resources Mentioned Nathanael Garrett Novosel’s website  Nathanael’s Facebook Page Nathanael’s Twitter Nathanael’s Instagram The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  The PBT Institute Membership Community

Anxiety and panic attacks can sometimes become so all-consuming that they take over your life. These can cause you to have nagging thoughts that stop you from being fully comfortable as yourself. Kim Strobel is a leadership consultant and happiness coach. She helps business owners, leaders, and high achievers prioritize their health and wellbeing so they can reach new heights in their professional and personal lives. Kim’s real-talk approach offers a refreshing take that fosters authenticity and genuine connections. As a result, her clients find it easier to elicit true change. Even as a happiness coach, Kim is no stranger to trauma. Before becoming a happiness coach, she had to overcome a variety of challenges, adversities, and traumas. In fact, there are still days when she would find herself crying on the office floor, thinking that the world will end soon.  How does she deal with these panic attacks? Let’s find out.   About Guest/Topic Even as a child, Kim Strobel was already demonstrating an intense enthusiasm for life. However, the drawback to such intensity was that she was also full of anxiety. When she was in high school, her anxiety peaked. She would suffer episode after episode of panic attacks, which she recounts were absolutely terrifying. This caused Kim to limit herself from the things that she loves just so she could feel safe. She ended up feeling like she couldn’t function as a normal human being. After undergoing therapy to address her anxiety, she still found it hard to live the life she wanted. She was eventually able to come to grips with her reality by finally embracing all aspects of her unique self.  In this episode, Kim shares how a person can embrace all sides of themselves in order to be aligned and at peace. In This Episode  How you can take full responsibility for how you show yourself Learn the drastic effects of anxiety on a person Understand the differences between an anxiety attack and a panic attack Discover helpful literary works that will help you understand why you feel what you feel Learn why accepting that you need help will help you heal Learn how to embrace all sides of yourself Quotes “Anybody who is really joyful... It seems like it’s because they have this deep perspective. Because if we haven’t been through anything dark, how can we appreciate all that goodness?” [3:38] “Because nobody knew what was wrong with me, this was really years and years that I spent feeling completely flawed and completely betrayed by my own brain.” [6:00] “Whatever you’re paying attention to and focused on, it grows. Because I became hypersensitive to every little thing that was going on, it just sent my adrenaline into flight or flee mode easily.” [10:40] “The more I understood what the symptoms were, that they were not dangerous but also why I felt the way I did, that really helped me to do the work that I needed to do for myself.” [23:18] “I didn’t wanna just use the band-aid of antidepressants and not get at the layers under me that were contributing to my issues.” [23:42] “Here I am flying across the country, giving talks to thousands of people. And, I’m also struggling to drive to Walmart, which is 5 minutes away from my house.” [29:02] “Isn’t it amazing when you embrace all sides of you, you completely come into alignment? And that’s when you are looking, feeling, living, and performing at your absolute best. And it becomes easier because you don’t have to try to be anything else than all of the wonderful parts that make you, you. ” [31:07] “Only 10% of your long-term happiness has to do with your external circumstances.” [31:58] Resources Mentioned Kim Strobel’s Podcast: She Finds Joy She Finds Joy Facebook Group The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  

Do you ever hear a voice inside your head that keeps telling you, “you’re not beautiful, not fit, and just not enough?” Negative self-talk is extremely destructive. And it affects you more than you know. This type of internal dialog places you in a self-sabotaging state where everything you do will never be enough for you to feel happy about yourself. Jennifer D'Amato loves to help women overcome and eliminate this negative self-talk and become intuitive leaders who own their self-worth and beauty. It is her goal to help women feel their best and break down old beliefs. About Guest/Topic Jennifer D’Amato is a certified health coach and life coach who likes to combine the two disciplines to help women. She also hosts a weekly podcast for women, where she blends real-life humor and authenticity to empower listeners in all areas of their lives. Jennifer developed a passion for helping women feel more confident about themselves. This passion stems from her own personal experiences, as she was once a prisoner of her own negative thoughts. Earlier in her life, Jennifer was unable to appreciate her body as none of the diets she tried seem to work. Due to her weight, she was called insulting names such as ‘thunder thighs’, causing her to starve herself and jump from one fad diet to another. Jennifer was able to break the cycle of self-sabotage and self-doubt and now she wants to help other women do the same. In this episode, Jennifer shares how to filter the negative voice in your head and listen to the positive, authentic inner voice that says, “yes, you are more than enough.” In This Episode  Discover the negative side effects of self-sabotaging thoughts Find out how negative thinking affects your perception about your body Identify the various kinds of negative self-talk Learn how childhood trauma and social media causes negative self-talk Understand the long process of changing your beliefs and honoring your body Quotes “The thoughts I was having were causing a lot of my health problems.” [4:19] “I didn’t realize that I was actually doing this whole self-sabotage. I was hurting myself by what I believed about my body.” [5:16] “Instead of looking at it as deprivation of ‘oh, I can’t eat that cookie, I can’t have that donut, I can’t drink that glass of wine,’ look at it as ‘by doing that, I’m only depriving myself of feeling good in my own body.’” [8:05] “Every client I’ve met with believes that the voice they hear is their own… They believe that the inner critic is the one who’s saying those things in their head actually is them. Most often, it’s not. Most often, it comes from some rules that were told to them as kids.” [10:07] “We live in a social media age. They’re being bombarded, especially my younger clients, by images of what they think they should look like.” [11:11] “There’s no harm intended in saying, ‘you need to clear your plate before you can get up from the table.’ Except the harm comes when we’re no longer honoring our body.” [11:53] “Affirmations have the best of intentions. But if we’re saying something that we feel is so not true, even though we want it, our mind kicks it out.” [17:30] “Your mind believes whatever you tell it. Your mind gravitates towards that negative and hangs onto it. We can hear a hundred wonderful things, but that one negative—that’s what we hang on.” [22:24] “You are worthy. You are worthy of this work. You are worthy of waking up everyday feeling great about yourself, about the things that you do, about the things you choose not to do. You are absolutely worthy of having new thoughts.” [26:17] Resources Mentioned Free Ebook How to Confront the Bully When the Bully is You: Overcoming Negative Self Talk Jennifer D’Amato’s Facebook Page Jennifer D’Amato’s Instagram Page The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  

Like everyone else in this world, you’ve struggled in life. Some of these struggles may have been traumatic, and these left lasting scars. So how do you use those struggles as motivation? Let the Struggle Guru, Kirsten Beverley-Waters, show you how. About Guest/Topic Our guest for today, Kirsten Beverley-Waters, is a yoga teacher, fitness coach, and motivational speaker. She’s here with us today to inspire us and show us how to use the low points in our lives to propel us to greater heights.  In her book, Struggle Guru, Kirsten explains how our individual struggles help shape our biology and give breath to our individual superpowers.  Learn more about this by listening to Episode 177 of FBTB! In This Episode You’ll Learn About:  Handling life’s struggles Coping with life’s uncertainties Healing ourselves through acceptance Understanding the journeys of the people Kirsten has worked with Quotes “My book helps us find the guru within ourselves to master our struggles.” [2:13] “I’ve always had a very strong faith base.” [5:10] “You are a manifestation of your thoughts.” [10:49] “Often, we’re just blindly moving forward without considering where we’re going.” [21:31] “So many of us live the exact same chapter over and over again.” [23:28] “Ask yourself, ‘what do I need today?’” [27:01] Resources Mentioned Kirsten Beverley-Waters’ Website Kirsten Beverley-Waters’ Instagram  Kirsten Beverley-Waters’ Twitter The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Trauma has many faces and many sources. For some, it may stem from a childhood event. For others, it could have been caused by an unhealthy relationship. But one thing ties all forms of trauma together—healing from them requires a release.  Releasing trauma is different for everyone. One way that has been found to be effective is dance movement therapy. Just ask Orit Krug.  About Guest/Topic Orit Krug is a board-certified dance movement therapist who helps women get past trauma through dance therapy so they can enjoy healthy, lifelong relationships with their partners. No stranger to trauma herself, Orit experienced betrayal on a daily basis due to her tumultuous childhood. This eventually affected her romantic relationships as she grew older.  Orit got into unhealthy, abusive relationships with emotionally-unavailable partners. After one of her partners left her, she understood that it was her negative attitude that pushed him away. She then resolved to deal with her long-standing trauma. And that’s how she found dance movement therapy. Through dance movement therapy, Orit learned how to release her trauma in a healthy and productive way.  Join Orit Krug as she discusses how organic, expressive, and creative movement helped her rewire her nervous system and enabled her to break unhealthy relationship patterns.  In This Episode Learn about how childhood trauma can affect your future relationships Discover the relationship between trauma and movement Learn the power of movement when it comes to stirring up layers of trauma The difference in the approaches used in trauma therapy and dance movement therapy Learn how movement can mirror trauma responses Quotes “By the time I met my husband, I was like, wow. He was like an anomaly because he was the most gentle, sensitive, caring man I’ve been with, which was so different from any other relationship. It was such a shock to my nervous system and everything I knew that I was just sabotaging it day in and day out.” [2:50] “Because all the men I grew up with, my family, were so explosive and unpredictable, I just couldn’t believe that he was so calm and gentle. I just kept waiting until he would explode or until he showed his true colors. I just kept constantly testing that through different approaches. It was like an addiction to me to sabotage.” [5:04] “Every movement that we do represents a different behavior, a different way we cope with the world.” [08:23] “Even if you don’t know, when we go through trauma and extremely stressful events, this thinking, talking higher executive functioning part of our brain goes offline. And the trauma, memories, feelings get stored in our body. They get stored as fragments. And the memories are actually sensations. ” [11:52] “Because trauma is stored in the body, when we start to move our bodies in different ways and new ways, it’s going to inevitably stir up this old trauma that’s been stored there.” [15:56] “Trauma stays trapped until it’s released. And it’s up to us to find the most helpful and healing ways to release it.” [32:33] Resources Mentioned Wired for Love Free Course Orit Krug’s website Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome QuizJoin the PBT Institute Membership Community

Now, more than ever, we need the right tools to help us become our optimal selves. Unfortunately, medication isn’t always able to address the root of our mental health issues. Despite following everything our doctors prescribe, the negative feelings we’re experiencing don’t seem to go away. Either that or they eventually return. This doesn’t mean that medication doesn’t work. It’s just that the inner healer in your body has yet to fully awaken. We all have a natural superpower to address underlying issues in our own bodies and minds, and unlocking this amazing ability sometimes needs a little push. Luckily, Jen Broyles is here to teach us everything we need to know about holistic healing. From practicing breathwork to using essential oils, Jen wants to share her first-hand experience in natural healing and how it has changed her life for the better.   About Guest/Topic  Like most of us, Jen Broyles is no stranger to stress, anxiety, and all manner of mental health issues. Despite having a successful career in pharmaceutical sales, she found the best form of treatment was the natural process of holistic healing. After discovering the amazing benefits of breathwork and essential oils, she made it her life’s mission to help others restore and optimize their health by addressing the root cause of the symptoms. In today’s episode, Jen shares how natural healing helped her address digestive issues, anxiety, and hormonal imbalances, problems that conventional medicine could not solve. She also discusses how combining holistic modalities can be a huge benefit to anyone looking to live a healthier lifestyle.   In This Episode Discover the power of alternative and natural medicine Learn the type of diet that works best for you Why and how stress affects our overall health How breathwork can be healing and life-changing   Quotes “I found myself in the world of natural health, trying to solve the health issues that I was experiencing.” [2:11] “We can see betrayal in a number of different things, whether it’s relationships or sometimes we feel like our bodies betray us. Sometimes, we feel like the health system has betrayed us or doctors have betrayed us.” [5:04] “Trying to follow some of these diets was causing more stress because I wasn’t allowing myself grace. I would get very rigid and very stressed out about it.” [10:07] “Oftentimes, many of us are dealing with chronic stress in some form or another. And until we learn ways to reduce chronic stress, it’s going to be difficult to heal our body.” [11:33] “What deep rhythmic breathing is doing is bringing coherence to the body. It’s creating a state of harmony, homeostasis. It’s calming the nervous system. And it helps realign all the rhythms in your body.” [18:37] “Breathwork isn’t just breathing. It’s a powerful way to create harmony, calm the nervous system, get yourself into a parasympathetic state, the rest and digest state versus the fight or flight state. It can create physical healing, emotional healing, increase creativity, insights, a deeper spiritual connection, and more.” [30:25]   Resources Mentioned Jen’s Free Breathwork Meditation  The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  The PBT Institute Membership Community 

Tanya Marie Dubé is a life coach and motivational speaker with 28 years of experience and a solid background in human behavior psychology. She is a show host, motivational speaker, published author, and online educator with a passion for helping people ever since she was young. She is the founder of Mighty Influence Mastery where she discusses how women entrepreneurs can build their business through deep and influential relationships with their audiences. She has a powerful podcast for women entrepreneurs called “What It Takes”. About Guest/Topic If there was a competition for the most resilient character of this generation, Tanya would make a good contender in that arena. Born into the foster care system, Tanya has been in eight homes before the age of two, homeless for six years starting the age of 12, had a pedophile for a stepdad, and was badly beaten at home before she decided to run away. With $18 in her pocket and all odds against her, Tanya continued to trudge forward and ultimately came out the other end triumphant.  Not without struggle, Tanya eventually came to terms with the people in her past and the betrayals that have transpired throughout her life. But what is truly admirable in her journey is her eagerness and dedication to make it through despite her circumstances and her willingness to help others do the same.  In this episode, she talks about her abusive past, her unrelenting hope for the future, and how she used both to shift her course towards success.  In This Episode How is spirituality helpful in your journey to self-healing? What is EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)? Learn the value of gratitude, forgiveness, and faith  Quotes “Isn't the way to really learn something is by teaching it?” [06:23] “This is the way your life is. You have two choices, you can either understand it and use it and grow from it or you can be slammed by it.” [07:20] “The only way we can grow is if we go through something.” [13:50] “When I would wake up in the morning, my very first thought was: Okay, I get to do this again. I was so grateful to open my eyes and get to do it. So that's something I carried through into my life now. That level of gratitude really puts a microscope (??) on what's good and what’s positive.” [16:05] “When something feels heavy and it feels like it’s starting to implode I have to take a look and see what it is I’m trying to control.” [18:05] “As a soul in this human body going through this very human experience you have to remember that your calling in experience is based on where your perspective lies.” [29:08] Resources Mentioned Tanya Dubé’s Website Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness How Your Biggest Crisis Reveals Your Greatest GiftDo you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz:  Group: Women Hacking Betrayal

Pretty much everybody experiences heartbreak at some point in their lives. Oftentimes, this experience leaves us feeling abandoned, hurt, and betrayed. Because of this trauma, we find it hard to enter into a new relationship without feeling anxious.  Our guest, Monica Parikh, is here to show us that no matter how broken we may feel, we can still attract a positive relationship. She hopes to help women build practical skills that can enable them to de-escalate conflict, set boundaries, break codependency and interdependence, and find their life’s purpose.  About Guest/Topic  Monica Parikh is a lawyer, teacher, writer, healer, and love coach. Despite having an Ivy League education, she discovered the greatest lessons in life from her coaches and psychologists. This led her to begin her mission to build a love revolution through the School of Love NYC. Nowadays, Monica helps women attract all of life’s riches from a place of higher consciousness. Like most of us, Monica experienced a very traumatic heartbreak after her husband of 10 years walked out of her life. She was left alone and in tears without any explanation and closure. This urged her to take her game to the next level, which she admitted was hard work. Through this ordeal, Monica was able to create meaningful conversations about the real worth of a woman. In This Episode  Discover the patterns of the different types of relationships Avoid repeating something that didn’t work for you Determine which characteristics and traits from your family you need to carry with you and which ones you should let go of Have the awareness to know what’s driving your behavior and start the process of change Learn how to create a better relationship with yourself Quotes  “Women who have more anxious attachment styles are put in a field where they are competing with a lot of women.” [6:25] “Attachment is something that we learn to love from our parents.” [9:35] “So many people are running towards food, drugs, alcohol, work, TV, keeping busy—anything to avoid ‘face it, feel it, heal it.’ It’s when we face it and when we feel it, that’s when we’re willing to do the work to move through it.” [15:10] “The things that those kids learn in their families will impact their ability to love for the rest of their lives.” [20:15] “The biggest form of activism is being an exceptionally happy, forgiving, kind, and purpose-driven woman who’s really using her gifts to better the world.” [29:30] Resources Mentioned Monica Parikh’s Website The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz The PBT Institute Membership Community

Life is full of experiences that either make us stronger or render us helpless. We’ve all been there, but accepting the past and leaving it in the past is something that not everyone can do. Luckily, Tash Leath-Hamilton isn’t like most people. Tash uses her God-given gift to help others shift their mindset, change problematic behaviors, and move forward to live their best lives possible. More than that, Tash is the kind of friend who is willing to have an honest conversation with you. About Guest/Topic  Tash Leath-Hamilton is an intuitive guru and life advisor. She loves talking to people about their past, present, and future in a fun, loving, and authentic way. But what most people don’t know is she was obliged to hide her gift when she first found out about it. At the age of six, Tash found out about her gift of intuition. She understood her mother’s protectiveness of her, but her duty to help change other people’s lives soon developed into a lifelong calling. After all, Tash is a person who freely speaks what’s in her heart and on her mind. In this episode, Tash talks about how she uses her gift of intuition to help others achieve peace of mind and bring reassurance to those who are struggling to get by.  In This Episode  Discover how Tash uses her gift of intuition to change people’s lives Learn about the gift of intuition and how it can lead you to the life that you’re supposed to live Embrace the idea of intuition and accept what is truly going on in your life Find and strengthen your gift from God and use it to help others Quotes  “I tell people all the time that I’m not going to tell you what you want to hear, I’m going to tell you what you need to know.” [6:38] “We give up what we think is steady just to pursue our passion. And it is terrifying but is so unbelievably rewarding.” [15:04] “Just because I don’t understand something doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist or it’s not true.” [15:15] “There’s people on the planet that are willing to help you, you just have to be open to it.” [19:29] “I want everyone to really live their best lives. We’re all going to have things that are going on constantly. There’s always going to be revels in the roads, that’s never going to change. But as people are open to trusting the process and understanding that things in life happen for a reason, nothing’s by accident, and move forward with trying to get through whatever it is, then you’re being to where you’re supposed to be a lot faster. I think people hold themselves back—being stuck—and not knowing what’s in front of them because of a particular situation at that time where they just have to move on and move through.” [21:15] “Everyone has a unique strength, gift, talent, and calling … The key is to find and strengthen your gift, then use it to help others.” [26:48] Resources Mentioned  Tash Leath-Hamilton’s Website Tash Leath-Hamilton’s Facebook Page Tash Leath-Hamilton’s Instagram Tash Leath-Hamilton’s Twitter The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  The PBT Institute Membership Community