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Trauma has many faces and many sources. For some, it may stem from a childhood event. For others, it could have been caused by an unhealthy relationship. But one thing ties all forms of trauma together—healing from them requires a release.  Releasing trauma is different for everyone. One way that has been found to be effective is dance movement therapy. Just ask Orit Krug.  About Guest/Topic Orit Krug is a board-certified dance movement therapist who helps women get past trauma through dance therapy so they can enjoy healthy, lifelong relationships with their partners. No stranger to trauma herself, Orit experienced betrayal on a daily basis due to her tumultuous childhood. This eventually affected her romantic relationships as she grew older.  Orit got into unhealthy, abusive relationships with emotionally-unavailable partners. After one of her partners left her, she understood that it was her negative attitude that pushed him away. She then resolved to deal with her long-standing trauma. And that’s how she found dance movement therapy. Through dance movement therapy, Orit learned how to release her trauma in a healthy and productive way.  Join Orit Krug as she discusses how organic, expressive, and creative movement helped her rewire her nervous system and enabled her to break unhealthy relationship patterns.  In This Episode Learn about how childhood trauma can affect your future relationships Discover the relationship between trauma and movement Learn the power of movement when it comes to stirring up layers of trauma The difference in the approaches used in trauma therapy and dance movement therapy Learn how movement can mirror trauma responses Quotes “By the time I met my husband, I was like, wow. He was like an anomaly because he was the most gentle, sensitive, caring man I’ve been with, which was so different from any other relationship. It was such a shock to my nervous system and everything I knew that I was just sabotaging it day in and day out.” [2:50] “Because all the men I grew up with, my family, were so explosive and unpredictable, I just couldn’t believe that he was so calm and gentle. I just kept waiting until he would explode or until he showed his true colors. I just kept constantly testing that through different approaches. It was like an addiction to me to sabotage.” [5:04] “Every movement that we do represents a different behavior, a different way we cope with the world.” [08:23] “Even if you don’t know, when we go through trauma and extremely stressful events, this thinking, talking higher executive functioning part of our brain goes offline. And the trauma, memories, feelings get stored in our body. They get stored as fragments. And the memories are actually sensations. ” [11:52] “Because trauma is stored in the body, when we start to move our bodies in different ways and new ways, it’s going to inevitably stir up this old trauma that’s been stored there.” [15:56] “Trauma stays trapped until it’s released. And it’s up to us to find the most helpful and healing ways to release it.” [32:33] Resources Mentioned Wired for Love Free Course Orit Krug’s website Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome QuizJoin the PBT Institute Membership Community

Now, more than ever, we need the right tools to help us become our optimal selves. Unfortunately, medication isn’t always able to address the root of our mental health issues. Despite following everything our doctors prescribe, the negative feelings we’re experiencing don’t seem to go away. Either that or they eventually return. This doesn’t mean that medication doesn’t work. It’s just that the inner healer in your body has yet to fully awaken. We all have a natural superpower to address underlying issues in our own bodies and minds, and unlocking this amazing ability sometimes needs a little push. Luckily, Jen Broyles is here to teach us everything we need to know about holistic healing. From practicing breathwork to using essential oils, Jen wants to share her first-hand experience in natural healing and how it has changed her life for the better.   About Guest/Topic  Like most of us, Jen Broyles is no stranger to stress, anxiety, and all manner of mental health issues. Despite having a successful career in pharmaceutical sales, she found the best form of treatment was the natural process of holistic healing. After discovering the amazing benefits of breathwork and essential oils, she made it her life’s mission to help others restore and optimize their health by addressing the root cause of the symptoms. In today’s episode, Jen shares how natural healing helped her address digestive issues, anxiety, and hormonal imbalances, problems that conventional medicine could not solve. She also discusses how combining holistic modalities can be a huge benefit to anyone looking to live a healthier lifestyle.   In This Episode Discover the power of alternative and natural medicine Learn the type of diet that works best for you Why and how stress affects our overall health How breathwork can be healing and life-changing   Quotes “I found myself in the world of natural health, trying to solve the health issues that I was experiencing.” [2:11] “We can see betrayal in a number of different things, whether it’s relationships or sometimes we feel like our bodies betray us. Sometimes, we feel like the health system has betrayed us or doctors have betrayed us.” [5:04] “Trying to follow some of these diets was causing more stress because I wasn’t allowing myself grace. I would get very rigid and very stressed out about it.” [10:07] “Oftentimes, many of us are dealing with chronic stress in some form or another. And until we learn ways to reduce chronic stress, it’s going to be difficult to heal our body.” [11:33] “What deep rhythmic breathing is doing is bringing coherence to the body. It’s creating a state of harmony, homeostasis. It’s calming the nervous system. And it helps realign all the rhythms in your body.” [18:37] “Breathwork isn’t just breathing. It’s a powerful way to create harmony, calm the nervous system, get yourself into a parasympathetic state, the rest and digest state versus the fight or flight state. It can create physical healing, emotional healing, increase creativity, insights, a deeper spiritual connection, and more.” [30:25]   Resources Mentioned Jen’s Free Breathwork Meditation  The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  The PBT Institute Membership Community 

Tanya Marie Dubé is a life coach and motivational speaker with 28 years of experience and a solid background in human behavior psychology. She is a show host, motivational speaker, published author, and online educator with a passion for helping people ever since she was young. She is the founder of Mighty Influence Mastery where she discusses how women entrepreneurs can build their business through deep and influential relationships with their audiences. She has a powerful podcast for women entrepreneurs called “What It Takes”. About Guest/Topic If there was a competition for the most resilient character of this generation, Tanya would make a good contender in that arena. Born into the foster care system, Tanya has been in eight homes before the age of two, homeless for six years starting the age of 12, had a pedophile for a stepdad, and was badly beaten at home before she decided to run away. With $18 in her pocket and all odds against her, Tanya continued to trudge forward and ultimately came out the other end triumphant.  Not without struggle, Tanya eventually came to terms with the people in her past and the betrayals that have transpired throughout her life. But what is truly admirable in her journey is her eagerness and dedication to make it through despite her circumstances and her willingness to help others do the same.  In this episode, she talks about her abusive past, her unrelenting hope for the future, and how she used both to shift her course towards success.  In This Episode How is spirituality helpful in your journey to self-healing? What is EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)? Learn the value of gratitude, forgiveness, and faith  Quotes “Isn't the way to really learn something is by teaching it?” [06:23] “This is the way your life is. You have two choices, you can either understand it and use it and grow from it or you can be slammed by it.” [07:20] “The only way we can grow is if we go through something.” [13:50] “When I would wake up in the morning, my very first thought was: Okay, I get to do this again. I was so grateful to open my eyes and get to do it. So that's something I carried through into my life now. That level of gratitude really puts a microscope (??) on what's good and what’s positive.” [16:05] “When something feels heavy and it feels like it’s starting to implode I have to take a look and see what it is I’m trying to control.” [18:05] “As a soul in this human body going through this very human experience you have to remember that your calling in experience is based on where your perspective lies.” [29:08] Resources Mentioned Tanya Dubé’s Website Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness How Your Biggest Crisis Reveals Your Greatest GiftDo you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz:  Group: Women Hacking Betrayal

Pretty much everybody experiences heartbreak at some point in their lives. Oftentimes, this experience leaves us feeling abandoned, hurt, and betrayed. Because of this trauma, we find it hard to enter into a new relationship without feeling anxious.  Our guest, Monica Parikh, is here to show us that no matter how broken we may feel, we can still attract a positive relationship. She hopes to help women build practical skills that can enable them to de-escalate conflict, set boundaries, break codependency and interdependence, and find their life’s purpose.  About Guest/Topic  Monica Parikh is a lawyer, teacher, writer, healer, and love coach. Despite having an Ivy League education, she discovered the greatest lessons in life from her coaches and psychologists. This led her to begin her mission to build a love revolution through the School of Love NYC. Nowadays, Monica helps women attract all of life’s riches from a place of higher consciousness. Like most of us, Monica experienced a very traumatic heartbreak after her husband of 10 years walked out of her life. She was left alone and in tears without any explanation and closure. This urged her to take her game to the next level, which she admitted was hard work. Through this ordeal, Monica was able to create meaningful conversations about the real worth of a woman. In This Episode  Discover the patterns of the different types of relationships Avoid repeating something that didn’t work for you Determine which characteristics and traits from your family you need to carry with you and which ones you should let go of Have the awareness to know what’s driving your behavior and start the process of change Learn how to create a better relationship with yourself Quotes  “Women who have more anxious attachment styles are put in a field where they are competing with a lot of women.” [6:25] “Attachment is something that we learn to love from our parents.” [9:35] “So many people are running towards food, drugs, alcohol, work, TV, keeping busy—anything to avoid ‘face it, feel it, heal it.’ It’s when we face it and when we feel it, that’s when we’re willing to do the work to move through it.” [15:10] “The things that those kids learn in their families will impact their ability to love for the rest of their lives.” [20:15] “The biggest form of activism is being an exceptionally happy, forgiving, kind, and purpose-driven woman who’s really using her gifts to better the world.” [29:30] Resources Mentioned Monica Parikh’s Website The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz The PBT Institute Membership Community

Life is full of experiences that either make us stronger or render us helpless. We’ve all been there, but accepting the past and leaving it in the past is something that not everyone can do. Luckily, Tash Leath-Hamilton isn’t like most people. Tash uses her God-given gift to help others shift their mindset, change problematic behaviors, and move forward to live their best lives possible. More than that, Tash is the kind of friend who is willing to have an honest conversation with you. About Guest/Topic  Tash Leath-Hamilton is an intuitive guru and life advisor. She loves talking to people about their past, present, and future in a fun, loving, and authentic way. But what most people don’t know is she was obliged to hide her gift when she first found out about it. At the age of six, Tash found out about her gift of intuition. She understood her mother’s protectiveness of her, but her duty to help change other people’s lives soon developed into a lifelong calling. After all, Tash is a person who freely speaks what’s in her heart and on her mind. In this episode, Tash talks about how she uses her gift of intuition to help others achieve peace of mind and bring reassurance to those who are struggling to get by.  In This Episode  Discover how Tash uses her gift of intuition to change people’s lives Learn about the gift of intuition and how it can lead you to the life that you’re supposed to live Embrace the idea of intuition and accept what is truly going on in your life Find and strengthen your gift from God and use it to help others Quotes  “I tell people all the time that I’m not going to tell you what you want to hear, I’m going to tell you what you need to know.” [6:38] “We give up what we think is steady just to pursue our passion. And it is terrifying but is so unbelievably rewarding.” [15:04] “Just because I don’t understand something doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist or it’s not true.” [15:15] “There’s people on the planet that are willing to help you, you just have to be open to it.” [19:29] “I want everyone to really live their best lives. We’re all going to have things that are going on constantly. There’s always going to be revels in the roads, that’s never going to change. But as people are open to trusting the process and understanding that things in life happen for a reason, nothing’s by accident, and move forward with trying to get through whatever it is, then you’re being to where you’re supposed to be a lot faster. I think people hold themselves back—being stuck—and not knowing what’s in front of them because of a particular situation at that time where they just have to move on and move through.” [21:15] “Everyone has a unique strength, gift, talent, and calling … The key is to find and strengthen your gift, then use it to help others.” [26:48] Resources Mentioned  Tash Leath-Hamilton’s Website Tash Leath-Hamilton’s Facebook Page Tash Leath-Hamilton’s Instagram Tash Leath-Hamilton’s Twitter The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  The PBT Institute Membership Community  

Cynthia Thurlow is a globally recognized expert in nutrition and intermittent fasting. She’s a highly sought-after CEO and the founder of the Everyday Wellness Project. In addition, Cynthia has been a practicing nurse for over 20 years and a two-time TedX speaker. Her second talk on intermittent fasting has been viewed nearly 6 million times.  You can catch her by tuning into her Everyday Wellness Podcast, which Entrepreneur Magazine listed as one of the 25 Podcasts That Will Help You Grow in 2020. About Guest/Topic Cynthia’s parents separated when she was in second grade. This made her childhood quite difficult. Most people would carry that pain with them well into adulthood, but Cynthia Thurlow is not most people. Instead of wallowing in despair, she was motivated to do better. Today, she is a thought leader in her field, as well as an expert on how to get out from under limiting beliefs and unhealthy coping mechanisms.    In this episode, learn how Cynthia overcame her childhood and became the successful entrepreneur that she is today. In This Episode Learn how to identify the mindset you need to change in order to turn your life around Discover the most important mindset strategy  Listen to how you can use your situation to your advantage Quotes “Sometimes it’s easy for us to fall into patterns because it’s less effort.” [6:30] “By pausing, it was advantageous because it led me to consider other options.” [7:00] “We have to give ourselves the freedom to make decisions that perhaps don’t seem that they are a hundred percent right.” [7:35] “I’m not a perfectionist, thank goodness, but when I reflect back, I think it was the faith that I had in myself.” [11:28] “It’s clear to me more than ever, that desire to learn, that desire to persevere, that desire to challenge myself, all those resiliency skills, they all stem from the way that I grew up.” [12:40] “I wanted to be the parent I didn’t have and I got to see mirroring both in men and women of what not to do as a parent and so that’s a gift.” [13:37] “How do I get from point A to B and how do I do that in a respectful, loving way? And do it with integrity?” [14:40] “You gotta invest in yourself, it is so critical. “ [21:30] “It’s always about helping others, it’s always about being of service.” [23:10] “It’s amazing how when you have a major crisis in your life, you can sink or swim. I’d rather swim.” [26:48] “I think reflection and I think brutal honesty with yourself. I have an ability to look objectively at myself and sometimes it’s not pretty.” [27:30]  “All of us go through things, whether it’s emotional pain, psychological pain, and so it’s that mindset shift for me that has made all the difference.” [28:51] “I think part of being a woman is that we are these incredibly intuitive beings, and I think it’s absolutely critical that we are honest and forthright about what type of life we want to create for ourselves.” [30:12] Resources Mentioned Cynthia Thurlow’s Website  Intermittent Fasting Lifestyle/Cynthia Thurlow Cynthia Thurlow’s Facebook Page Cynthia Thurlow’s Instagram Cynthia Thurlow’s Twitter  Cynthia Thurlow’s LinkedIn The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Annette Comer is a savvy businesswoman who knows how to play the game—and win. She is a bestselling author, international speaker, 7-figure entrepreneur, and the founder of the World’s Greatest Women Academy. Anette started her career as a mechanical engineer, a profession dominated mostly by men. She dove into the corporate arena and came out on top with her excellent performance in project engineering and research management at a Fortune 500.    About Guest/Topic As one of the few women in her company and the industry as a whole, Annette was used to being around men. In fact, she even led a team made up mostly of men. This didn’t sit well with one of her employees, who one day, brought a loaded gun to work to use against her.  Interestingly, it wasn’t this incident that pushed her to quit her job. It was the fact that her male bosses chose to put the blame on her. The shocking betrayal forced her to learn the hard way that there are people in this life who just aren’t worth your time and energy, even if you’ve spent the past 19 years working with them.  In this episode, we will take a closer look at how Annette’s experiences shaped her to be the strong, successful woman that she is today.  In This Episode Learn the different approaches to dealing with men and women in business Find out how you can improve your communication skills Learn how to prevent being blindsided in the cutthroat world of business Discover the most important aspects of a business Quotes “I heard a voice in my head: you have just experienced that ultimate intimidation and betrayal.” [03:36] “I keep looking for the answer connected with me, and in the end, after many years, I came to realize it wasn’t me.” [04:25] “Clarity is great when it’s hindsight.” [09:45] “Women form leadership in business in a completely different way than men do. They take it into this personal mission that they get so much of themselves wrapped up into and so that sets them up for being exposed to a betrayal that men don’t experience.” [09:54] “For a woman, she views business as something that is pulling together a group of people for the betterment of something, to accomplish a goal so she’s very much attuned of where people’s skills are, how they’re interacting, what’s their productivity….” [11:58] “When you lose yourself in the other, you just run up against brick walls.” [14:35] “What were the main rules of the game? What skills did men have to play that game well that women did not have?” [15:15] “Women take it all internally, they whirl it inside and they get sick and they quit and they get exhausted. [22:45] “As you move along your leadership journey, know that there’s going to be things that happen that you don’t understand and situations you find yourself in and when that happens, resist the urge to immediately turn into yourself.” [24:56] “Let’s look on the outside first, let’s not go inside first because when you get inside, it’s a losing battle” [25:42] “Do training. Invest in yourself.” [26:06] Resources Mentioned Annette Comer’s Website Dr. Debi’s new book: Trust Again The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

So often we play the role of victim, in most cases, unintentionally. This is a mindset that limits growth. Our guest for today is Kimberly Milouses. At an early age, Kimberly possessed a ‘poverty mindset’ caused by her household environment. She experienced hardships that no child should. Find out how Kimberly handled her situation and how she overcame being a victim to become the victor that she is today. About Guest/Topic Kimberly Milousis is a CPA-tax-specialist-turned-natural-health-entrepreneur and an abundance coach. In her coaching work, she focuses on empowering people to create abundance in their mind, body, and finances. She recently launched her course for that very purpose. On today’s episode, Kimberley Milousis will share her experience of how she started as a victim and ended up being a victor. Listen and learn how this strong woman was able to reconcile her unfortunate past with her boundless potential. On This Episode Learn the steps to transform from victim to victor Discover how having a ‘poverty mindset’ can ruin the choices you make in life Explore the healing process that Kimberly took to move past her experience Quotes “The greatest thing [in my marriage] is that 1) I learned how to forgive and 2) I learned to take responsibility” [12:08] “I didn’t wait until I felt forgiving. I recognize that forgiveness was a choice because if you wait until you feel, maybe that’s not going to happen.” [16:14] “If the belief is, ‘I’m the victim’, people will always take advantage of me.” [20:50] Resources Mentioned Life More Abundantly 10-Week Course - use the coupon code DEBI to get 20% off from the course Empowered Living with Kimberly Milousis Dr. Debi’s new book: Trust Again The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Lynne Ryan is a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner, Health Coach, and PBT Coach who has made it her life’s purpose to help others recover from the same path of self-betrayal she was in.  Lynne suffered from clinical depression, weight gain, and a medical condition that led her to completely abandon herself at a certain point in her life. Luckily, she woke up one day deciding it was time to stop and get better. After achieving success on her journey to finding self-love and recovery, she now works to guide and support other women who wish to do the same.    About Guest/Topic Lynne Ryan always had a sweet tooth growing up, but this has never posed a problem for her because of her active lifestyle. Unfortunately, things started going south when she discovered that she was suffering from hypothyroidism, a condition that affects the body’s metabolism. This affected her health and ultimately slowed down her metabolism.  After getting married and having kids, Lynne found herself giving in to a lot of external stressors. Slowly, her weight started to sneak up on her. She was 70lbs overweight before she finally decided it was time to stop and look at the betrayer in the mirror.  In this episode, find out how Lynne was able to overcome her struggles by learning to love herself and understanding how gratefulness leads to healing.   In This Episode Learn how to keep yourself from falling into a spiral of negativity Discover how losing weight can start from loving yourself Listen to how Lynne was able to turn her life around through the love and support of her family Quotes “Before you know you’re an empath, you think you’re crazy. Why am I so sensitive? What’s wrong with me?” [04:35]  “But I think I had chosen to abandon myself. I was trying to cope. It was all I could do. I needed to play small. I needed to kind of be invisible. I needed to not rock the boat with my marriage. I needed to just survive.” [08:48] “Staying in the exact moment, I could not think further. All I’m going to do is make the next best choice.” [14:52] “I started running a gratitude list. I started playing a game with my kids too about ‘What are the 10 things you love about yourself?’” [16:18] “What a bridge is is nothing more than a believable statement that you can say until you start believing that.” [18:23] “I’m grateful for my learnings.” [19:36] “You can always start easy. I’m grateful for my children. I’m grateful for the opportunity to love them. I’m grateful to be loved.” [19:48] “Everything I did, I did with the intention of caring for myself.” [20:25] “When we abandon ourselves, in some way, we’ll always betray ourselves.” [27:16] “Willingness is the word. If we are unwilling, we go nowhere. And if we have that willingness, it's as if we’re ungluing ourselves to everything we believe, to everything we thought we had to be stuck to and we’re able to move forward a little bit.” [29:25] Resources Mentioned Lynne Ryan’s Website  The PBT Institute Dr. Debi’s new book: Trust Again The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  

Dr. Nima Rahmany is a chiropractor and an educator who specializes in helping individuals and professionals get to the root cause of their physical and emotional challenges. His goal is to help patients get from stressed, depressed, and anxious to living powerfully aligned and on purpose. Dr. Nima sold his clinic in June of 2016 to pursue his passion for teaching and coaching professionals, who are stressed, depressed and anxious, helping them transform and have their best year ever in both the private and corporate setting. About Guest/Topic Dr. Nima has integrated all the mind-body tools in his quest to heal stress-related disorders into one simple-to-follow method called The Overview Method™. He teaches this method in one-on-one and group settings all over the world. On today’s episode, Dr. Nima will share his insights on what we experience after betrayal, why we get stuck and talk about what we can do to heal. He will teach us how to be trigger-proofed and so much more. On This Episode Discover how stress-related symptoms can be rooted in betrayal Find out how a doctor went from a chiropractor to an educator Learn why we get stuck and how we can move on Quotes “If we don’t heal that [wound] properly with the right tools and with the right guidance...move it through the body, neutralize it. Then what happens is that it starts to fester and impact, that emotional wound starts to impact us physically.” [3:45] “Here’s the thing, you either want healing or you want to identify with your story. You cannot have both.” [8:42] “I call it a portal. It’s like, your trigger is not something to avoid.” [16.43] “It’s time for you to step up and get ambitious.” [30:30] Resources Mentioned The Overview Experience™ Dr. Nima’s Website The “Becoming Trigger-Proof” Virtual Workshop Dr. Debi’s new book: Trust Again The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Mindy Gorman-Plutzer is a Functional Nutrition and Eating Psychology coach who has dedicated her life to discovering the right approach and the right tools for treating eating behaviors that range from simple to complex. She authored The Freedom Promise: 7 Steps to Stop Fearing What Food Will Do to You and Start Embracing What It Can Do for You, a book that strategically curates the steps you need to take to free yourself from addiction and compulsive eating disorders.  About Guest/Topic Far too often, eating disorders are misunderstood to be a short-term phase teenagers go through and grow out of. In truth, this psychological disorder comes from a deep-seated trauma that requires support and rehabilitation. It can stick with you for decades if you simply allow it to consume you. Mindy has dedicated her life to helping men and women rediscover a part of themselves that is willing to forgive a betrayal caused by others or by their own subconscious mind, leading them to a road of recovery and self-empowerment. In this episode, Mindy talks about overcoming the fear that is stopping you from growing into the person you will be.    In This Episode Discover how eating disorders become a projection of unresolved betrayal  Understand how misinformation can lead to unhealthy resolutions  Learn how sustainable recovery begins  Unearth the power of self-empowerment   Learn the biology and genetics of eating disorders Quotes "The betrayal is about how we disavow ourselves from our universally given right to thrive, to be and feel nurtured and nourished." (05:57) "Disorder eating basically comes from misinformation." (11:10) "We feel betrayal when the expectations that we're holding as a result of that attachment are not met." (14:15) “It starts off as a means of self-soothing, then at some point it becomes destructive where the intention is to soothe.” (14:27) "It morphs and, truth be told, it’s easier to think about how much you weigh and what you're going to eat than it is to think about the pain you're in." (20:04) “The process is the desire. The desire has to be bigger than the fear—the fear of who I will be when I let go of this behavior” (21:34) Resources Mentioned Mindy Gorman-Plutzer Site Post-Betrayal Syndrome QuizThe PBT Institute Group: Women Hacking Betrayal

David Wood is the Founder of Focus.ceo, a coaching business that helps high-performing business owners double their business by focusing on less. He is also an extremely successful life coach who was ranked #1 on Google with students across 12 countries. About Guest/Topic David has gone through a lot of challenges himself, having overcome a full collapse of his paraglider that led to a fractured spine. He experienced unimaginable loss when he witnessed the death of his sister at age seven, causing him to suffer from severe anxiety and depression.  All these experiences have led David to believe that the tough conversations we avoid are our doorways to confidence, success, and love. In today’s episode, he will discuss the different concepts of betrayal and how to navigate difficult conversations. In This Episode Learn how to overcome tough conversations Understand betrayal in a universal context Get an overview of David Wood’s Tough Conversations CARE Model Quotes “There is no betrayal because there is no contract in the Universe.” [2:01] “A tough conversation is any conversation that feels awkward or we’re afraid of having and I think we sweep too many of these under the carpet.” [4:00] “If there’s a major betrayal in your life from your point of view, then I think there should be a conversation that has to be had.” [5:28] “I feel better about myself. I feel more connected to myself because I spoke up about something that matters to me.” [10:21] “It’s one thing that you share your feelings; “I feel upset”, but what’s one thing that you would do to move things forward?” [20:37] “I want people to know that the niverse is a lot friendlier than most of us give it credit. The ego tries to defend you and the ego will present that tough conversation in the worst possible way.” [30:22] Resources Mentioned David Wood Website Tough Conversations CARE™ Model Tough Conversations with David Wood Podcast Dr. Debi’s new book: Trust Again The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Gabrielle Hartley is a strong, compassionate advocate coach who, for 25 years, has helped couples reach amicable resolutions during separation or divorce, even leading them to realize that, maybe, the relationship is worth a second try.  She authored Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate, a book endorsed by Gwyneth Paltrow herself, and was named “The Conscious Uncoupling How To Book” by People Magazine. About Guest/Topic Gabrielle has counseled countless couples over the years and has kept 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and back on the road of second chances and new beginnings. She may not be able to conclude on first glance the fate that awaits a relationship, but by sharing her carefully curated methods of working through the self and the emotions a person has experienced, her clients are able to reach a peaceful resolution, whether it’s by letting go or hanging on.  In this episode, Gabrielle talks about the positive ways to go through separation, letting go of the pain and resentment and finally finding peace within yourself.   In This Episode Learn how the things that are happening to you may not typically be about you Figure out how you can have a positive experience amidst separation and betrayal  Explore the five elements that will help you navigate the roadmap of your relationship Learn the ways you can forgive someone who has betrayed you and find peace within yourself  Learn why the wrong type of support can do more harm than good Quotes “The possibilities are really endless. The possibilities come from within the person who's coming to see me.” (02:20) “Easy now, hard later. Hard now, easy later. Take your pick, it's going to be one of those two.” (11:10) “Patience is about slowing down, giving yourself tools to respond rather than react.” (08:30) “What respect is all about, of course, it’s about you. It’s about building up yourself especially when you feel like garbage after you've just been betrayed.” (12:20) “It's this concept of death and rebirth and there really is the death of the old relationships, the death of the old you, the death of the expectations and the grieving process that goes along with it.” (20:37)  "The thing about forgiveness is it's truly all about you. It is an exercise in being compassionate with yourself.” (23:45) Resources Mentioned Gabriel Hartley Website Post-Betrayal Syndrome QuizThe PBT Institute Group: Women Hacking Betrayal

Sandra Cooze, like many other women, was a victim of child molestation and sexual assault. For many years, she suffered the emotional, psychological, and social turmoil of growing up as a victim without the right support that she needed from her family. After finally finding a way to completely heal from her old wounds, Sandra made it her mission to help others rise above their own trauma and live their lives free of anger, fear, and distress. Drawing from her personal experiences and her expertise as a holistic trauma coach, TIR facilitator, and spiritual development coach, Sandra discusses how it’s possible for others to let go and start living a happy, carefree life. About Guest/Topic Sandra was only 12 when she was molested by a stable master who worked for her family. She was sexually assaulted again when she was 14, and then again when she was 18. When she was 22, the unthinkable happened--Sandra was raped.   Throughout all that pain and misery, Sandra never got the support she truly needed. It pushed her to the brink, and she allowed her depression to swallow her whole.  It took one person to tell her “Get a quartz crystal” for her to start her journey of spirituality.  In this episode, Sandra talks about how she was able to rise above her own difficult trauma. She teaches the way not just to cope, but to truly let go. In This Episode Explore the causes and effects of sexual trauma Discover how spirituality can create positive energy in you Answer doubts and explore the search for the right spiritual path  Learn somatic practices that you can do to release your own trauma An introduction to the benefits of reiki energy healing  Quotes "An experience without the pain is wisdom." (4:06) “I felt like men can do whatever they wanted without consequence.” (9:07)  “If you're willing to just explore some ideas, to explore spirituality which has such a huge place in healing and if you’re open, you really will be guided.” (14:09) “The more I learn, the more I understood what it really is. Because it's more than just a healing modality, it's the beginning of a spiritual journey.” (14:59) "When a trigger comes out, embrace it because the trigger is basically a nudge from your whole system saying that this is something that needs to be addressed" (18:10) "I'm not allowing it to take me over but I'm analyzing it. I'm dissociating from it.” (19:30) Resources Mentioned Raising the Bottom (Book) Raising the Bottom (Facebook group) Post-Betrayal Syndrome QuizThe PBT Institute Group: Women Hacking Betrayal

Lisa Boucher’s career is anything but predictable. After a few short stints training polo horses and working as a flight attendant, a hairdresser, and a bartender, she decided to become a nurse—a profession she’s spent the past 29 years in, helping hundreds of people overcome alcoholism. Her fifth book, Raising the Bottom, is her response to traditional healthcare’s inability to offer genuine help to most people struggling with addiction. About Guest/Topic The first time Lisa encountered betrayal, it took the form of a mother too deep in the bottle to provide guidance or support. Over the course of her life, she would struggle with betrayals as well as the unhealthy things she did to cope: drinking, drugs, and keeping the painfully familiar company of other addicts. Yet another harsh betrayal—this time from her husband—finally got Lisa to stop sleepwalking through life. In this episode, Lisa talks about how betrayal and addiction beget each other and, more importantly, the principles and methods that helped her break that cycle. In This Episode How betrayal and addiction are linked to each other Rethinking what self-care means Understanding and avoiding patterns that lead to betrayal and addiction Revisiting the twelve principles for overcoming addiction Quotes “We feel good about ourselves by doing the next right thing for us. And that is self-care. I kind of get annoyed with the self-care of soaking in a bathtub—that never worked for me. I need to do something.” 13:03 “That is the worst thing you can do… To stay in your head. Get out of your head. Get out of yourself. They say depression is anger turned inward.”14:34 “Maladjusted emotions are why most people self-medicate… So in order to recover or find other healthier coping skills, you’ve got to dig deep and find some willingness to learn other coping skills.”16:30 “That is what drives behavior: pride, ego, fear. You get rid of those three things and people find a new life.” 21:51 Resources Mentioned Raising the Bottom (Book) Raising the Bottom (Facebook group) Post-Betrayal Syndrome QuizThe PBT Institute Group: Women Hacking Betrayal

Julie Michelson is an autoimmunity wellness expert who helps her clients achieve amazing transformations. She works internationally with clients through her remote coaching business, Julie Michelson Coaching. About Guest/Topic Julie has gone through her own health struggles and she's excited to help her clients skip the hardship of figuring it out on their own so they can start living joyful lives of true wellness. To that end, she created the Inspired Living with Autoimmunity Framework to guide clients in making the necessary changes to reduce inflammation and optimize healing. In today’s episode, Julie will share how to turn your autoimmune condition around and discuss the link between autoimmune conditions and betrayal. In This Episode Learn how to make simple lifestyle changes to improve your autoimmune condition Discover four strategies to heal your autoimmune condition and improve your quality of life Understand how and why the environment plays a big role in the rise of autoimmune conditions Quotes “What I have found through working with people with autoimmunity is it's a really common issue, you know, that there's such a direct link between betrayal and how our body responds.” [2:57] “It doesn't matter what kind [of meditation], it doesn't matter what your routine looks like. It's experimenting to find what works for you and being really regular with it.” [11:51] “Our environment is not supporting our health, this is what's happening and toxicity plays a really big part of autoimmunity and triggering symptoms. There's an expression in functional medicine that genetics load the gun, but environment pulls the trigger.” [18:51] “No matter what your diagnosis or how you feel when you wake up in the morning, you can turn it around. You can heal your body. There are things that you can do to take your power back. You're not helpless. You're not stuck. You don't need to be stuck.” [28:38] Resources Mentioned Julie Michelson Coaching The PBT Institute  Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Judith M. Costa teaches people how to love unconditionally. She holds an MBA and a master’s degree in psychology and psychotherapy and is certified in a wide range of therapeutic methods. She has hosted workshops, retreats, and talks all over the world to help people overcome their inner obstacles to loving. About Guest/Topic With experience in techniques ranging from astrology to Akashic records to the Hawaiian approach to reconciliation called Ho’oponopono, Judith is no stranger to the many factors that keep people from forgiving others and, more importantly, themselves. In today’s episode, she talks about the importance of looking inward and freeing ourselves from the idea that we are complicit in our own suffering or worse--that we need to suffer to earn someone’s love. In This Episode What happens during a consultation of the Akashic records?  How does Ho’oponopono work? How does introspection lead to self-love? How do self-love and relationships affect one another? Quotes “We think that we need the other person in order to forgive, that we need an apology or that the person has to change their behavior. Everything starts within us. We are the only ones that need to do our part of the job.” [18:49] “A lot of us are unaware of the way we treat ourselves. We are not even conscious of this inner dialog where we constantly criticize ourselves, judge ourselves, put ourselves down, beat ourselves up for any mistake.”  [22:37] “For a lot of us, the opinions that everyone else has about our lives are more important than our own opinion. And this is because we have been afraid of looking inside, not knowing what we are going to discover. And what you need to love someone is to know that person.” [23:59] “I believe that a relationship is when two mature individuals share the love that they already have from themselves.” [26:26] Resources Mentioned Judith M. Costa website Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness How Your Biggest Crisis Reveals Your Greatest GiftDo you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz:  Group: Women Hacking Betrayal

Lola Scarborough is a 500-hour certified yoga teacher and a co-owner of Yoga Lola Studios. She's also a certified life coach, an herbalist, a level three Reiki master, a novice astrologer, an ayurvedic consultant, and a certified ayurvedic practitioner. About Guest/Topic Lola has witnessed what yoga, energy bodywork, and nutrition can do to maximize and restore health, allowing people to live their lives fully and richly. She's currently pursuing her Ph.D. in comparative religion. In today’s episode, Lola talks about using your trauma to find meaning in life and finding strategies to help you heal. In This Episode Discover why it’s important to decide not to become a victim Know how spirituality can be a big piece in your healing Learn what you can use from your trauma to serve and help other people Quotes  “You always have the breakdown before you have the breakthrough.” [15:41] “I was blessed with experiences that were very painful and had a huge impact on my psyche and in the formation of who I was because that's what I came here to do. And without it, I couldn't possibly do the things that I do now. I would not be as rich. I would not have the depth of character that I have. My big humanitarian instincts are shaped by the deprivation that we went through.” [23:11] “If life is always lived in a comfort zone, if you don't get out and play in the playing field and get knocked around a little bit, I honestly believe you are only one-fourth alive and you're one-tenth of your potential. You have to take those challenges. You have to go to your knees. You have to feel your heart being broken and ripped out. You have to be open to having the experience of being fully human in order to be fully human.” [29:14] “Living life to its fullest requires risk.” [29:51] Resources Mentioned Yoga Lola Studios Lola Scarborough Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz:  The PBT Institute  Women Hacking Betrayal

Catherine Clinton is a licensed naturopathic physician with a focus on gut health, autoimmunity, and psycho-neuroimmunology. An author, speaker, and pediatric health advocate, Dr. Clinton practices in Eugene, Oregon. She has been published in multiple peer-reviewed medical journals and has contributed to several publications as a guest writer. About Guest/Topic While she was in medical school, Catherine was diagnosed with and healed from an autoimmune disease that affects the gastrointestinal tract. This experience left her with a passion to promote gut health and psycho-neuroimmune balance in children everywhere. In today’s episode, Catherine will share how self-betrayal manifests its physical symptoms and why it is so crucial to pay attention to what your body is saying. In This Episode Know what self-betrayal and medical betrayal looks like Learn why the body responds to your mind in a specific manner Discover ways to respond to your body’s messages Quotes “Listen to the body, listen to the signs. It's always telling us something. It's always on our side.” [4:06] “We talk so much about trauma, these days, and how it can increase inflammation and increase our chances for autoimmune diseases and chronic inflammation and chronic disease. It doesn't have to be those big Ts, it can be something like I'm describing, you know, it doesn't have to be these huge losses or these big, big T Traumas, right? It can be the little t traumas that go unresolved.” [9:37] “Are you okay physically? And if so, let's look at what else might be happening, and sometimes it's a great reminder, you know? It was that protective mom on my shoulder giving me some anxious feelings because I hadn't gotten enough sleep, I hadn't attended to my physical body.” [12:04] “A huge part of healing is to have a trusted practitioner that you feel safe with. That's where the healing begins.” [22:26] Resources Mentioned Facebook WellFuture HeartMath The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Transformation starts when you tell yourself the truth. When you know yourself and your limitations, the path to healthy weight loss becomes much easier. If you're feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, overweight, or unhappy, you're going to really appreciate Dr. Debi’s guest for today’s episode, Jennifer Powter. About Guest/Topic Jennifer Powter is a Diet Disruptor who coaches successful women to finally understand their relationship with food so they can break free of emotional eating, lose weight for good, and stop feeling held back by their weight.  Jennifer holds a Master’s Degree and is a qualified clinical exercise physiologist, a double certified health and life coach, and an emotional intelligence practitioner with decades of success helping women all over the world.  Jennifer’s revolutionary metabolic profile index assessment gives clients an easy-to-understand breakdown of the science behind their physiological transformation, helping them achieve this in simple, actionable steps. On This Episode Discover how Jennifer Powter tapped into her inner strength to gain true transformation  Be inspired to create the change necessary to live a happier life and to make personal choices that align with your values Learn simple strategies that yield big results when it comes to looking, feeling, and being better Quotes “The body doesn't lie. You're always getting messages from your body.” [6:57] “If I wanted anything to change, it was up to me. And that's, you know, when you take responsibility, of course, that's when you're taking your power back. And that's, that's where change happens.”  [13:23] “I had to radically redesign my expectations about what change looked like for me, and to recognize what women expect to occur in a month versus being patient to the kind of change that you can create in a year with consistency and persistence.” [14:56] “When life is not adding up, it's time to start subtracting.” [21:49] “Whatever you're resisting, you can mask it, hide it, whatever, but it will persist until you face it, deal with it. Come to terms with it, get honest about it. ” [24:52] “Comparing hurt me. Comparing myself to others hurt me. So I really developed a skill set of not allowing myself to think thoughts or engage in that trap because it took all of my positive feelings away. So often with my clients, I say in less, don't let anything into your feed, you know, your social media feed or into your mindset feed that lets you feel like crap about yourself because that's just, it's a way to halt all progress.” [29:43] Resources Mentioned Diet Disruption Book www.jenniferpowter.com Dr. Debi’s new book: Trust Again The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz