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Extroverts in the pandemic. Much like dark matter, our calculations suggest that they must exist, but we've had no hard evidence or firsthand accounts... UNTIL NOW. Our asker wants to know if she should just give up and move on from her less-active friendships. What's a socially starved extrovert to do? This week we also discuss writing exercises, Trin's scalp, and how deeply angry we are about the question we're going to answer next week.CW: Hair loss (3m42s - 6m02s) Meet our Extrovert Friend Jamie! Definitely follow her on Twitter if you can. Here's Jenn's cool professor, Shahnaz Habib! Here's the event we recently filmed with Meetup!

There are few things more frustrating than attempting to take an Internet Cleanse... only to be continuously derailed by memes from your pals. This week, we'll discuss discouraging your friends from sending you links to Instagram drama, and Internet Privilege, and Trin's poor little boogery face.

Tale as old as balls: All of your friends really love doing ONE THING together, and it's the ONE THING that you simply do not want to do. Today's asker is tired of playing the often stressful online game "Among Us." Sounds like it's time again for stating some needs and boundaries!If you're looking for games to play online with your friends, check out Trin's twitter thread here for more suggestions from #TruGamerz.

No matter how cool you may be (and we're pretty sure you're super cool), every human being in history has experienced rejection. This week, our asker wonders if it's worth reaching back out to a group of friends who removed her from their ongoing DnD game, but does not consider that she herself may have done something wrong. Interesting!

Today’s asker brings extremely relatable content: How can I be in touch with my friends, without actually expending the energy to have a conversation? We’ll discuss leaving “love packets” for your pals, the benefits of living underground, and how impressive it is any time you can give even a small amount of time to someone you love. Thanks to Trista Sutter for having us on Better Etc. Also, if you’ve read our book, please leave a review! We would very much appreciate it.

I haven't heard from my friend in a long time. Like: a lonnnng time. Are we still friends? This week, we discuss how equally valid all of the following options are: giving up, giving up for now but then trying again later, or trying now and giving up later.

We're not gonna mince words here. The asker's two best friends became best friends themselves, stopped talking to the asker, and moved in together. Allow us to be the first to say: What the fuck? Today we'll discuss accepting our bad feelings, Minecraft streamer RPF on AO3, and how you shouldn't start physical therapy while you're still in the ICU.

How do I maintain friendships if I have a very, very limited social battery? This week we discuss how to keep yourself charged while still putting in the work and being a supportive, loving friend. Content warnings for discussion of diagnosis, brief mentions of depression, PTSD.

My roommate films the whole damn apartment when he’s on Discord. Is it normal to have Good-Smelling Room Spray in your bathroom? Cohabitation in the Age of COVID is tricky, but we’ve got special guest co-host Billie Bullock to help sort us out!CWs: Poop is all over the first question. Skip to 24m15s if that’s not your thing.  We go real hard on poop at 11m10s Brief death mention at 11m17 Brief dong mention at 34m20ish A special note: Trin would like to acknowledge that there was indeed a time they bought the vegan propaganda of “vegetarian poops smell less bad.” Also, Trin apologizes for her terrible mic etiquette throughout.Learn more about Billie here. Check out their monthly online comedy show Congrats on your Success right here.

We found the only people on Earth who are consistently, meticulously getting ready for Zoom calls, and they are driving this week’s asker a little bonkers. Let us discuss this rare species and how to handle it when your friends look so perfect that it’s starting to give you feelings. Also covered: Chris Evans’ useless muscles, the deep satisfaction of a warm bowl of oatmeal, and how greasy and filthy we are, in detail. CWs: Lots of body issues, grooming, gender presentation, and hot people discussed in this one! Trin talks about her gender presentation a whole bunch at 14m04s until about 15m25s - ish, and we keep talking about makeup and stuff after that until pretty much the end.  Probably don’t google “Foul Bachelor Frog” if you can help it. Only about half of them still hold up.  Masturbation mentions: 22m26s and 23m07s. Light death mention around 23m17s. Mentioned in this episode:  Hyperchicken and Henry Birdeye’s Mostly Pants Tasteful Photos of Nude Olympians on ESPN

Alone time: a precious commodity in these trying times. How can I ask for and receive alone time when I'm stuck inside an apartment with two other adults 24 hours a day? This week, we'll discuss creating conditions that work for you and your housemates, just locking the freakin bedroom door already, and Trin's "two-hour long" Jimmy Eat World Greatest Hits Playlist (which in reality clocks in at 2 hours 57 minutes).

"My neighbors in having parties, not wearing masks in our apartment common spaces, and in no way following pandemic protocol. What can I do?" We've got some ideas to kick around. One involves laminating! Also, Jenn has a realization, and Trin takes a bathroom break. Content warnings for COVID; brief mentions of death and aging.

A listener wants to know how to best support her friends right now, even as she is feeling bad herself. This one's about managing the rage, ADHD coping mechanisms, and what you can do for yourself between therapy sessions.

"I’m quarantining, and my friends are not. What can I do?" This week, everyone we know is staying home and not breathing on anyone, including the wonderful person who asked today’s question. Content warnings: The entire episode is about COVID and isolation 22m12s - Penis mention, poop talk We also have two online events this week, and we'd love to see you there: Quarantine Book Club! on Tuesday, 11/24/20, 7PM CT. Registration is required, so please click the link!  We’re streaming on Thanksgiving! Join us 2PM - 4PM CT at twitch.tv/dofriendship. Our wholesome, feel-good streaming buddy Kate is also online that day. Now you've got holiday plans.  One more thing: Because she's our hero, here’s the article by our hero Captain Awkward. 

My friends are stressed. Can I tell them to take a break from the news cycle? Our answer is yes, no, maybe, and sometimes! Here's an episode about absorbing the world's crap like a Bounty paper towel.

This week: we're here, we're very tired, and we're discussing envy between friends. What if you and your friend want the exact same darn thing, but your friend is coming by it much more easily than you are? Also: Jenn speaks on behalf of the humble apple, and Trin puts their foot down for perhaps the very first time.

We're back, we're online, and we're not entirely sure if we remember how to talk to people. Let's find out! This week, an asker wonders: When should I switch therapists? How do I know if this therapist is The One? We're here to give you our hottest therapy tips, appreciate one another, and read from our upcoming book. Content warnings: The first nine minutes revolve around coping with existential dread, loss, and social distancing.

What is the right thing to do? What should you do when you tried to do the right thing, but ended up doing the wrong thing? We hope you’re in the mood for a good, deep cringe! After Animal Crossing and plants banter, we detail some choice moments when we really screwed the heck up, and how we made amends and recovered in the aftermath. CWs In banter (first 14 min): Humorous/cartoon skeleton, death, fake murder mentions. After banter: Racism, social mistakes discussion. Trump admin mention. 9m20s: Humorous 9/11 mention. 34m50s: Mention of Trump’s history of sexual assault. Dismissal of social injury, pussy hat discussion.

The first asker is caught between two friends going through a sudden divorce, oh no! The second asker isn't freaking out about COVID, and can't understand why everyone else seems to feel differently. Hm!! Most importantly, we want to know: Why do all men go through a phase of hitting each other in the testicles? Aaaa!!! CWs: - Discussion of testicles and kicking them, first ten minutes of the show. - Discussion of divorce, death throughout show. - Big death mention at 27m20s, big climate change mention at 37m00s. - Poop mention, eating poop mention 27m20s

Sometimes, you just need a little more. We’re here to help you figure out how to effectively ask for it. How can I get my friends to talk freely about their guilty pleasures? What can I do to encourage my buds to initiate more conversations and online hangouts? In personal news, Jenn has started Animal Crossing, and Trin waxes poetic about her Wonder Woman emotions. Content Warnings: - Food mentions around 7m00s, 7m50s, and 18m18s. - COVID-heavy second question. - Occasional joking references to porn starting at 14m08s. - Death mention 19m43s.